You're just a friend. 5 signs that you will never be a couple
He is the man of your dreams , you see each other all the time, talk on the phone for hours and text all day. It seems to you that an ideal relationship is just around the corner, but there is not a hint from him. "What's happening?" – you ask yourself. It's simple: you are only a friend for him. PEOPLETALK will tell you how to understand that you are in the friend zone.
Does he complain to you about his life and talk about ex-girlfriends with whom he suffered a lot? No, he is not trying to prepare you for a relationship with himself , he simply perceives you as a friend who will probably have good advice.
There is no need to find excuses. No, it's most likely not that he's just an indecisive person. If in the evenings he discusses the football match “ Spartak ” - “ Dynamo ” with you, suggests that you run into a nearby pub (it doesn’t matter that you drink cherry, it doesn’t make you more feminine), then no romance will appear in your relationship.
You agreed to meet, you dream of a date, and he comes to it in the company of his friend. Most likely, this is not an attempt to arrange a “browse”, but just another sign of falling into the friend zone. “My friends should know each other, and it’s even better if they’re in good company,” the object of your adoration probably thinks exactly this way. But this situation is not hopeless, and if one day this happens to you, say directly: “I wanted to see you and spend the evening alone with you.” If you do this carefully and not in the form of a complaint from a girl offended by life, then there is a chance that the guy will look at you with different eyes.
Ignoring is a clear indicator of a frivolous attitude. Yes, he may be busy, but if he is really interested in you, he will definitely make time to call, write SMS or come. Take it as a fact: if a man is in love, then he moves mountains.
If he addresses you only as “dude”, “bro”, “hammer”, pats you on the shoulder, ruffles your hair like an older brother and gives you a scale for your birthday with the words “I think you wanted it” - accept it. Nothing will change. Leave the magical stories of friendship that grows into love for Hollywood rom-coms, but understand: a good friend is also a gift of fate, sometimes even better than a romance.
Here are a few rules for getting out of the friend zone that may work:
1. Create the appearance of competition. Let him try, not you. Let him know that you do not suffer from a lack of male attention.
2. Disappear for a while. Stop writing, calling and answering messages. Let him worry a little and feel that he misses you.
3. Improve yourself. The easiest way to show someone what you've lost is to become the best version of yourself. Believe me, it works!
4. Believe in his success and praise him for every little thing. He tells you: “I signed the contract,” and you answer him: “Handsome!”? No " beauties "! Just “what a great fellow you are!”
5. Flirt! Don't forget about him! It is most important.
Let your chosen one know that you have plans for him.
How to turn from a girl's friend into her boyfriend?
Many guys have a girlfriend like this. They have been together for years, spend a lot of time together, talk about different topics... But in fact, you want more: to make her your girlfriend. But this topic is taboo for such a guy friend. He drives away any thoughts in this vein, because he is afraid to destroy the connection with the girl that has already been established. And there is a reason for this. But there is also a limitation.
So, this article is for the guy friend who wants to get even closer to the girl. Our goal: to pull back the curtain of fears and uncertainty. Get out of this double position, discard the role of a person who seems close, but too accessible. Do you recognize yourself in the description? Accept this fact: despite all your communication, among other candidates for the role of this girl’s boyfriend, you are the furthest from the goal.
The first and most important thing is to get out of the image of a friend. A person who constantly hides his emotions becomes pinched. Who holds his face tensely: like, the current communication with his girlfriend is enough for him. This is a false mask that prevents you from expressing desires and acting. The girl gets used to this mask and becomes more and more attached to you... only as a friend.
There is no need to abruptly confess your feelings and go after the girl with kisses. We need to rebrand, in short, change our image. You must become more serious and courageous. So that she feels: you are not just a guy with whom you can chat about nothing and laugh until you drop, but a man who attracts girls.
Your behavior should say: you have a masculine element, that very core. If you just rode a skateboard, take up sports specifically. You will improve both your appearance and your well-being. A fit, physically developed man is attractive to a girl on a subconscious level. Did you go to the cinema? Switch to exhibitions and museums. This is also you, but more serious and interesting. Girls are attracted to what they don’t know, that other world where a guy can lead them. But in friendly, easy relationships, guys often don’t show this world to the girl. They are shy, and in response to questions they give the girl only information that, as they think, will not scare her away.
But now everything is different. A girl calls and invites you to drink beer on a bench. You refuse, but not dryly, but in an enthusiastic voice. Today you are more interested in going to an exhibition, learning something, and not wasting time.
If you previously provided services to her, did favors, carefully stop this charity under the right pretext. Let's say you picked up her nephew from kindergarten on Wednesdays, but you can't do that anymore. You have a swimming pool and a gym according to your plan. (According to the real plan, you actually took up sports!). A woman often exploits a male friend on his own initiative. Because he can't offer anything better. But now you will have an alternative on how to please a girl. And in order to understand what exactly and how to offer her, you will have to study books on psychology, undergo training, hone your skills in communicating with other girls - you can’t do without this.
Make more friends and girlfriends - bright, interesting ones, so that you can boast about these acquaintances, among other things. This way, the girl you want will appreciate you more. It is useful to have a couple of truly beautiful girlfriends, even if you are not very attracted to them, but the men around you like them. With them, if it doesn’t work out any other way, you can establish a mutually beneficial friendship, according to the principle “you - to me, I - to you.” Having caused a slight jealousy of your girlfriend (because of whom you started all this), you will instill in her the very feeling of love that you wanted to achieve.
After all this, the girl will be drawn to you like a magnet: it turns out that you are new and interesting. And she thought she knew everything about you! Your image will sparkle with new colors and will fit much better into the scenario of a love relationship.
Once again: there is no need to abruptly break off past communication, forgetting all joint jokes, gags, hobbies. Avoid extremes. Smoothly and beautifully present yourself in your new role, the role of her future boyfriend.
The results will surprise you. The girl will not be able to communicate with you so easily, but she will only be attracted to you more. Moreover, the quality of your communication will improve, because now you will open to her an unfamiliar, interesting and exciting world. When you notice changes, don’t miss the moment. And to do this, learn our recommendations on other topics and deepen your knowledge. And don't be shy about making your future girlfriend happy.
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- Why did the girl send you to the friend zone?
- There are only two solutions
Greetings to all the guys who have heard the phrase at least once in their lives: honey, let's remain friends! Today I want to talk about why girls do this and what the main problems of young people are. After all, it often happens that you love, you blow away specks of dust from her, you always come to the rescue, but in the end she gives up. In addition, we will find out how to behave if a girl wants to remain friends.
For girlfriends - red light5
A girl who dreams of taking a place in her friend's heart will not introduce him to her friends. At the very least, he will resist their communication in every possible way. Every passion that surrounds the “beloved” guy will face a wave of criticism and condemnation. Any of them will be full of all sorts of shortcomings, both physical and moral, which a female friend will definitely point out and emphasize.
In turn, the girl will either forget about her personal life, become a kind of shadow and gray mouse, not wanting to build a relationship with anyone (since her heart is occupied with him alone), or will demonstrate it excessively. Frank stories about numerous suitors will carry a double meaning: to show one’s own attractiveness and relevance, to arouse the jealousy of a man who does not notice feminine charms in her, in addition to friendly communication.
Why being friends with your ex is bad
The reasons are few, but they are obvious, and they will really make you understand that if you want this girl back, you need to radically change your behavior. So…
This makes it easier for her to get over your breakup and forget you.
Yes, it is through communication with you that she will survive the breakup with minimal worries. But if your goal is to get her back, then you need to make her miss you and run after you.
And if you are always there for her when she wants it, it will help her slowly “move on” from the breakup and will not contribute to her renewed attraction to you. So if you're still friends with your ex, consider ending that friendship now to begin the process of restoring her passion for you.
Ideally, you need to start a “non-contact period”, which will help you recover, both physically and psychologically, think about yourself, but on the contrary, it will make her interested in you. You can read more about this method here. Believe me, it really works if you don’t want to miss your ex and get her back sooner.
It will be more difficult for you to get over a breakup
Being friends with your ex won't help you get over a breakup. Because if you are still crazy about her, this blindness will not go away with constant contact with her. And she, in turn, will not want to return you if you fawn on her.
On the contrary, you need to use cunning reversal psychological tactics to change the balance of power in your favor. All these subtle schemes are described in the “Ex Factor” course, which is aimed precisely at getting your ex back and doing it right, in the shortest possible time. Don't be lazy and take advantage of useful tips.
But if you need a quick answer, here are some signs that your ex sees you as more than just a friend and is ready to start over with you.
What does "Let's remain friends" mean?
Perhaps you yourself realize that women’s “yes” or “no” are not always spoken sincerely. If a girl has offered to communicate, it seems that this is some kind of borderline position between “yes” and “no”. But here lies danger. Even the firmest “no” is only a test, but “let’s remain friends” most often means indifference to you as a man. She, of course, could tell you rudely, but this happens extremely rarely. The cynicism is that any man is much more useful as a friend than as an enemy or acquaintance. However, most likely you will be the friend, and she will be the one to use.
The situation is a little different if you have already met before : you had a serious relationship, sex. The girl offers to remain friends because, in essence, she wants to break up. There may be various reasons for this: she became bored with you, you stopped exciting her - you are no longer perceived as a man. We'll talk about how to deal with this at the very end. But much of what will be written below is useful for everyone to know.
Why you shouldn't try to convince her
Despite the seemingly illogical behavior, chaotic actions and frivolity in views, girls are extremely specific when it comes to choosing a man. They make their verdict very quickly: you either hooked her as a man - a possible sexual partner - or not. The worst thing you can do is try to convince her verbally. It never works.
Second, but no less bad, is trying to impress her. Even if you decide to look after her beautifully, all your actions will most likely be perceived as the actions of a weak person. Of course, only a stupid lady would refuse beautiful courtship, where the girl is showered with flowers and given expensive gifts. But she will always emphasize that you are just friends. Thus, she will be simply happy: her friends will be jealous of having a new boyfriend, while she will be roughly but efficiently fucked by someone who treats her much cooler than you.
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The girl will forgive the man for any mistakes, or, on the contrary, will be offended by non-existent facts. She will be sensitive to every word and bad joke made to her. If a whole group of friends relax in nature or in a cafe, she will constantly hang around the object of her adoration, flaunting her talents and virtues. She pursues two goals: to impress a dear man and to keep potential (or real) rivals away from him.
A girl who is friends with a guy with similar behavior clearly has loving feelings for him. A man should take a closer look at how she behaves and what she is like. It is possible that such a familiar “vest for tears” will be transformed into a tender, faithful lady of the heart. Best friends make strong and reliable marriages.
