Only for the good!..
Women often think that “I want what’s best.” In reality, what happens? The husband decided to relax on the sofa on the weekend, and the wife wants to do the cleaning so that the house is clean and comfortable, so that everyone is happy!.. You can always compromise: devote a few hours to rest, and a few to cleaning. But some wives constantly bother their resting husband - I’m trying for you, that’s why I get you off the couch!..
Or maybe the woman is just unhappy?
Not enough money. Not enough attention. Not enough respect. But I don’t want to leave my husband. What to do? For example, stop humiliating him, because in this case he will only remember curses and tone, and not the essence of your requests. You should only talk to your husband about what you’re missing when it’s really relevant, and not just because you have nothing to do. And you don’t need to “finish off” the desired reaction - you can say something and simply let your husband think, and then discuss what and how!
Why do women blow their minds?
People who understand gender relations identify at least 5 reasons why a woman blows her man away.
- From childhood, girls were told that they must listen to others and obey social guidelines. Women no longer feel the pressure of society simply because they are used to it. And therefore, they don’t see anything wrong with reproaching their man, complaining daily and constantly demanding.
- Most women believe that the same phrase repeated 20 times will reach their other half faster and instantly set him in motion. However, this is more likely to bore you than to force you to do what you need to do.
- He blows his mind for the good of their relationship. It's amazing how she doesn't understand, which makes the situation even worse.
- During quarrels, when they realize they are wrong, girls go into attack mode, the main goal of which is to prove that the woman is always right and the man is wrong. During the altercation, the man quickly becomes guilty, his moral strength runs out, but the woman splashes out all the accumulated negative emotions. And this is not the last time such a surge occurs.
- Dissatisfaction with life, lack of everything you need is a familiar situation to everyone. But blowing your boyfriend's brains out won't help matters. If you feel unhappy in a relationship, end it, or change yourself, learn to appreciate what you have, including your love.
Psychologist's opinion
It's really not just a matter of women and men - it's a lack of agreement. It turns out very difficult and sad when two people simply cannot have a heart-to-heart talk or find a compromise. In fact, nagging husbands are also not uncommon, although wives nagging more often: in our society, it is still more common for a man to work outside the home than a woman. But can you guess how male remote employees suffer when they begin to take their brains out for an insufficiently cleaned apartment, for example (while he also worked all day?!)…
Journalist JoeInfoMedia Diana Lynn reminds how to save a family, what experts advise.
Why is she nagging you? And how to deal with this? Situation No. 1
And anyone who has not been deprived of their company is well acquainted with the truth “women can sometimes be exceptional bores.” The most wonderful girl, at least occasionally, turns into an amazing resemblance to a “Friendship” chainsaw and begins to saw you for a long time, with gusto, at good speed. Moreover, what is especially offensive is that this happens mainly for the most trivial reasons. When you don't feel so guilty that you can't even choose a defense strategy. Why am I saying all this? Besides, there is such a strategy. Yes, yes, you really have the opportunity to cope with female tediousness.
Of course, we’re not talking about how to brilliantly get out of trouble after you’ve been caught in bed with a strange blonde - here you yourself have to somehow brilliantly get out of it. But, for example, eliminating regular whining from your life about the fact that you haven’t thrown out the trash again - we can help you with this. And don’t think that this is all nonsense and trifles. Little things tend to grow into global problems. Which, in general, is not surprising: blondes come and go, but the trash can remains in the same place.
And if you think that most divorces occur after infidelity, fires, earthquakes and other major disasters, you are mistaken. Most divorces happen because of these very little things: she can't talk about them anymore, and you can't listen to them anymore. Although everything could have been settled a long time ago. Using well-tested methods (honest and not so honest), which are now offered to your attention.
[A girl’s behavior largely depends on the man who is next to her. If a girl is afraid of losing her man, then she will not allow herself such weaknesses as whining and tediousness. Therefore, the best method for eliminating such behavior in your relationship is to be the man of her dreams, which you will actually learn in the practical pickup training of the Dating Academy.]
All the topics of women's offended monologues can be briefly reduced to six main complaints.
“You never tell me anything!”
She asks about what you had at work today. You answer honestly that it’s nothing. Of course, she immediately perceives this as your reluctance to share your thoughts and innermost experiences with her. You can’t answer: “Is it me who never tells you anything? How can I even tell you anything if you yourself are chattering non-stop?!” The fact is that men view communication as a way of transmitting information from person to person. Your statement that nothing happened at work means “nothing that could matter to her personally.” Women have a different view of the communication process. She wants to know the details, nuances, who said what, who thought what, and what color shoes this customer had. “Nothing” from her point of view cannot exist at all - even in a vacuum pump you can very nicely communicate with a couple of disparate molecules.
Dishonest method. So introduce her to one of your employees. If a friendly relationship develops between them, then very soon she will be able to tell you in the evenings about what happened at your work. It is even possible that she will have more information than you, unless your office has strict restrictions on private telephone conversations. Here, however, it is important to choose the right female colleague: ideally, if she is twenty years older than you and has completely unimpressive legs. Honest method. In principle, you don't mind talking about your work. Especially after you eat well and take a half-hour nap in front of the TV. Therefore, instead of offensive muttering “everything is fine”, “nothing happened” and “nothing to talk about”, it is better to make an effort and come up with a clear sentence: “You know, I’m terribly exhausted now, and before I tell you anything, I need a drop of peace, quiet and beer." And everything will be fine - she will not feel offended, and you will not feel sawn apart. “When - you - finally - take out - the - trash - load - laundry - into - the - car - go - for - a - loaf - of - white - and - a loaf of - black...”
There may be millions of variations, but the essence is always the same - you are not helping her turn your home into the most comfortable nest in the world. As if it doesn't concern you. You can’t answer: “If you want it so bad, do it yourself” (by the way, she can return these words to you tonight in bed).” The fact is that her head is already spinning: the side dish is already boiling, but the meat is not yet fried, there is a mountain of dishes in the sink, she needs to put the sled on the balcony, and she will iron the laundry immediately after she has washed the floor in the hallway. And finally, it is necessary to prune the tradescantia.
Dishonest method. Put your hands on her waist (even if you don’t want that now even after her hurtful words), look into her eyes and kiss where necessary. And tell her she has to stop. That even the beauty and cleanliness that always reign in your impeccable household are not at all worth it for such a luxurious woman to overwork her skillful and magical hands. And in general, you are now going to have dinner at the best restaurant that money can buy. Although she, of course, cooks better... The essence of the method is based on a deep understanding of female psychology. What infuriates women most is not your laziness and sloppiness, but your reluctance to notice and appreciate everything that she does in your name. Show her that you see and appreciate it, and you may never have to put your own socks in the dirty laundry basket again in your life. Honest method. Do you want to be honest? OK, try. Come on, take a pen and a piece of paper, sit down next to her and make a list in writing: who is obliged to do what around the house. It is not necessary that after this your apartment will begin to sparkle with cleanliness, but peace will definitely be established in it. Your friend will relieve herself of the burden of responsibility for everything at once and will no longer have to palm off and hand you separate combat missions every time. And if there is too little bread and too many dirty socks in the house, then at least she will not feel guilty about it. “You spend all your time with your buddies!”
She wanted to have dinner with you and watch the new tape together. But you said you have more important things to do. That Mitya and Vitya are already waiting for you at the billiard club, and Petya promised to row there later. Of course, she immediately tells you that you are never together. (Although, by the way, she lives with you in the same apartment, sleeps in the same bed with you, and even tries food from your plate every now and then.) You cannot answer: “But, dear, I see you every single day.” . The fact is that every woman needs to be the Most Important Person in the World to her man. If she begins to feel like she is on the sidelines, keep in mind that these will be the roles of negative characters. In addition, she suspects that you and your friends are spending time in some particularly exciting and intriguing way, while in her company you mostly go grocery shopping or visit boring relatives.
Dishonest method. Try to ensure that she also has her own events, to which she will not invite you with her. For example, aerobics classes several times a week. And when she asks you to talk about what you and the guys did the day before, answer truthfully: “We spent four hours and forty minutes discussing the suspension of rear-wheel drive cars.” Next time she won't want you to invite her to sit with you. Honest method. Follow a simple equation: 1 evening with friends = 1 evening with her. But only outside the house. If you could stay at home simply because you had nowhere to go today, then joint forays into the street (no matter - to the theater, on a visit or to a cafe) will prove to her that you still value her company. "You don't listen to what I say!"
As soon as the call signs of the news program were heard, she began an endless monologue, telling you all the smallest details of the last conversation with her aunt Maria Nikolaevna. You try to pretend to be engrossed in the story, but she quickly catches you staring at the screen and even moving your lips after the political commentator. You cannot answer: “Sorry, did you say something?” The point is that you are not initially programmed to hear everything she says. It is easier for a man to follow a speech built on the principle of logical sequence, while women are more likely to get distracted, jump from thought to thought, return to the same place several times and make unexpected, intuitive conclusions. It’s also worth considering that the average man speaks about three times less than the average woman.
Dishonest method. Study your own facial expressions, especially those expressions that most often appear on your face at the moment when you are interested in something. Now next time you just need to tense the right facial muscles correctly. Don’t look her straight in the eye when talking (otherwise she’ll easily notice the sideways glance you make towards the screen every now and then). Nod occasionally. If you hear a pause in speech, you can insert interjections “uh-uh”, “uh-huh” or “that’s how” there. Honest method. If you don’t want to listen to the retelling of this long, extremely boring and absolutely devoid of logic dialogue, start talking yourself. Even if it’s on a completely unrelated topic, the main thing is that it’s quite passionate, verbose and energetic (by the way, this method has also proven itself very well when communicating with overly talkative taxi drivers). “You’re leaving a creepy pigsty behind in the bathroom!”
In any case, you never clean it up after yourself... You can’t answer: “You were there yourself 10 minutes ago.” The fact is that in the vast majority of cultures (from civilized society to primitive tribes), women have the responsibility to maintain order at home. (Men don’t have anything like that.) Convincing her that hair in the sink and dirty rims on the bathtub are trifles and an everyday matter means entering into a war with her ancient natural instincts.
Dishonest method. Take a shower as early as possible in the morning. Having entered the bathroom after you, she, like any normal person, will first put herself in order herself, and only then will she discover some dissonance in the environment. Honest method. Admit she's right. Tell me that you really have such a weakness: you always leave the bathroom dirty. But you will fight it. With your own money, you will hire a woman from the service department who will come every day and clean everything. Needless to say, she will not tolerate any woman. “I'm tired of all your sports programs and newspapers!”
This is just another variation of the complaint “You never listen to what I say!” You can’t answer: “Listen, could you refrain from commenting until the break?” The thing is, sports never end. Even the love and secrets in Sunset Beach will someday end, even the Ambulance will finally heal all the sick and suffering, but the calendar of sporting events will be renewed every year.
Dishonest method. Boast to her in company that, unlike other women, she never bothers you to watch sports. Praise her for this. Give her examples of other selfish and narrow-minded persons who completely terrorized their husbands, not allowing them to indulge in this highly intellectual and spiritually enriching activity. Honest method. Turn down the volume on the TV and try to explain to her what offside is, who a midfielder is and why their complex relationship is filled with such excitement. Women also make passionate fans - if someone is serious about achieving this.
