If you're wondering, “ Why don't I have a girlfriend? “, then you are already going in the right direction. To achieve something in life, you need to be able to analyze the current situation and set goals correctly. When you understand why you have not yet developed a relationship with a beautiful lady, the road to your goal will be shorter.
A lot of guys lie to themselves about what's going on in their lives. For example, shyness and complexes prevent a person from approaching girls and making acquaintances. Because of his powerlessness, he comes up with another excuse for himself. That, they say, now the girls are somehow wrong, they think too much of themselves, they are too arrogant, they only need money, and so on. In such a situation, resolving the issue turns out to be even more difficult.
Therefore, don't fool yourself. Don't blame other people or circumstances. This is the position of a weak person. The position of the strong is this: I am the master of my life. And I bear my own responsibility for what happens in it. I create the circumstances myself.
So there are several reasons for this
Reason 7. You get lost in the crowd_7
If you constantly communicate with more popular guys, being in the shadow of their fame, don’t blame me: you’ll have to come to terms with your position as number two. If your friends are much hotter and sexier, your super-cute personality will always be perceived as much less valuable. Therefore, you should not try to score extra points at the expense of your friends. Otherwise, you will have to spend millions of years to get a girl.
And if you are far from a leading position in your group, you may even have to change your social circle. Find new friends who don't know that you've always played second fiddle. And become one of the key decision makers in your group. After all, women are always attracted to status leaders - so become one of them, and you will easily find a girlfriend.
What to do?
Psychologists advise meeting a girl’s friends in order to become a little closer to her. While communicating with friends, you can talk about your feelings and ask girls about the person you like. Perhaps they will tell you something about her that will be important for the young man to know, for example, her favorite flowers, dish, perfume, movies, restaurants, etc. This way, it will be much easier to please a girl you have feelings for.
In order to build strong and serious relationships, you must be able to wait and endure. If a girl doesn’t want a relationship now, don’t immediately give up and throw offensive insults at the person. Maybe she just needed time to get to know her partner better. Many girls become attached to those with whom they most often communicate and see each other in person, so it is necessary to go towards your goal to the end and not stop communicating with her. But you shouldn’t impose yourself 24 hours a day either. As two people spend more and more time with each other, they will definitely fall in love with each other.
Reason 8. You are an introvert _8
Do you sit at home for days without going anywhere beyond the grocery store? Then the question is: where are you going to look for the lady of your heart - under the sofa, behind the trash can? Or perhaps on the grocery shelf between the cans of pickled beans?
To get acquainted, you need to go out and visit crowded places and events. Where, in principle, you can meet someone. So if you suffer from excessive introversion, we recommend that you properly work on this quality - otherwise you will have to while away your life alone until you grow gray.
Mistakes you can make if you want a relationship, but it doesn’t work out 3
Under no circumstances is it necessary:
- stalk, text, ask for a meeting;
- talk about your feelings, especially at the very beginning;
- to impose, to strive to be close;
- put pressure on her;
- don't touch her. We are talking about innocent touches - taking your hand, supporting you on the steps, hugging, guiding. Tactile sensations are an important component; their absence makes relationships bland;
- ignore her interests. This way you can repel, but not attract;
- don't help. Girls subconsciously always wait for help. Without waiting, they lose interest;
- wishful thinking. If a girl thanks you for gifts and goes to the movies with you, she may treat you as a friend. If you see it in a rosy light - like, I’m already conquering her, and she soon leaves, then you can only be offended at yourself.
If you do at least something from the list, be sure that you are already seen at the baseboard level. Do you need it? Dignity inspires respect, and only it is attractive.
Yes, perhaps there are cases when there are objective reasons why a girl does not want a relationship. But most often the reason is you. There is no point in worrying and moping. Draw conclusions and move on. If you are an interesting man, there will definitely be a girl worthy of you next to you.
Reason 11. You're out of shape_11
This does not mean that for the sake of a relationship you need to turn your nose into a jock. It just means it's time to get rid of the hanging fat and beer belly. And in order to pump up your muscles a little and shed those extra pounds, you will have to make an effort.
You don't have to become perfect; but it’s definitely worth adjusting your appearance a little. Because if you are in good shape, this cannot but attract girls. Remember, friend: sport truly works wonders.
Too soft
There is nothing wrong if a man enjoys a sunny day or loves to cuddle pets. The girls surveyed even agreed that they were not put off by displays of sensitivity, such as tears or sadness. But the inability to make decisions , the habit of always adapting to others and the reluctance to defend one’s point of view – this is already serious.
It is also worth considering that female nature is based on visual and auditory perception of the world. Women are embarrassed by external “softness” and the lack of visual qualities of courage - a strong-willed chin, sharp cheekbones, broad shoulders, tall stature.
Reason 13. You think girls don't like you_13
“I’d rather not talk to her, she doesn’t like me anyway”, “She and I are from different social strata, so we can forget about hope”, “It looks like she already has a boyfriend”... How many times have you repeated these to yourself? excuses? But you just have to step away from your usual ideas for a minute - and you will see that the real situation is completely opposite to the fables that you compose in your mind.
For example, you may find out that this or that female person is madly in love with you, while no signals from her indicate this. Moreover, this lady may think like this: since you do not take any action, then you have no interest in her. So the truth will not be known until we can talk frankly.
Or consider another situation. You see the girl you like in a bar talking to another guy. And naturally, the thought comes to your mind that she is in love with him, and your train has left. But what if this person is actually her creepy boss who she can't stand? And she was actually hoping that you would interrupt this conversation and save her from an unpleasant conversation?
Conclusions - why the guy doesn’t have a girlfriend
In order for you to have a girlfriend, clearly understand the reason for her absence. Then think about what kind of lady you would like to meet. Describe in detail her appearance, character, behavior. What form of relationship would suit you with her? It's better to write it all down on paper. Then you will be convinced of the effectiveness of this method.
Then it’s time for action. If you do nothing in this direction, then there will be no result. Do everything to have the opportunity to get acquainted. You don't need a car or money for this. It's all in your head. Moreover, this has a huge advantage. The girl you start talking to will love you not for your Mercedes, but for the fact that you are just you. Take action! Good luck!
Reason 14. You are dressed haphazardly_14
Unfortunately for women, millions of men don't care about their appearance. But you do realize that attracting the opposite sex is the whole point of the fashion industry, right? It is the poem that women spend hours and days on makeup, hair and clothes. And they will never come to a party twice in the same dress. The reason is simple - they want to be noticeable to potential suitors.
This also applies to us. Clothes two sizes too big that you pulled out of your grandfather's trunk will always make you Mr. Invisible. Did you know that one of the first things that interested women look at is shoes? So the next time you walk down the street, pay attention to how many passing girls first looked into your eyes and then at your shoes.
Hiding your true intentions after making contact
Let's say you met a girl and continue to communicate. However, the fear of rejection makes many guys hide the real reason why they started dating in the first place. Young people can spend weeks with the beauty they like exclusively in a friendly manner, so as not to accidentally ruin everything.
The fact is that while you are waiting for the right moment and telling very interesting stories from your childhood, and then giving a lecture on modern cinema, your more determined rival may invite her on a romantic date. The likelihood of falling into the notorious “friend zone” increases every hour in anticipation of the “right moment,” or do you even think that the girl herself will suddenly begin to show ambiguous interest?
Don’t be tormented, and admit your sympathy if you feel that the format of your communication does not suit you . If a cold reaction follows, it will immediately become clear that time is not worth wasting.
Reason 15. You have an inflated Ego_15
Do you remember about ChSV - the same one that Castaneda spoke about? So, if you consider yourself the navel of the earth, and women as miserable slaves who should serve you, then you will definitely have problems finding a girl. Try taking the crown off your head for a while. Or maybe even clean it completely and put it away for a month or two. With such helpers as modesty and sincere interest in another person, communication with girls will go much faster.
So, if you're going to find a girlfriend, then you need to seriously think about how you live your life. Analyze the facts and draw appropriate conclusions. Accept the fact that finding a girl can only be done through trial and error. But when all the obstacles are overcome, you will definitely get the woman you deserve.
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Why don't I have a girlfriend
If you want to know the reason why you don’t have a girlfriend, then you shouldn’t read articles written by romantic women in which they give 101 reasons: starting from your zodiac sign and ending with your fate line. In fact, everything is much simpler, but also tougher for you, my friend.
Every time you had the opportunity to get yourself a normal girl, you missed it. Perhaps you don’t yet understand the essence of relationships, or perhaps you are a narcissistic asshole, the essence does not change. You missed your girlfriend and now you're alone. Now let's talk about the reasons.
The same girl is not there
On TV we are fed nonsense and stupid stereotypes, showing guys meeting “that girl” who changes everything in their lives. And do you know what the trick is? But that same girl is not there! Until you meet a girl and feel her out, you will not be able to say: “Is she right for you or not.” A colossal amount of time is spent on all these probes, a gigantic number of girls are passed through until the right person is found. This is work! Therefore, waiting for a girl to appear who will fall from the sky and win your heart is stupid, stupid and useless!
I need a better girl
Do you know a way to stay single forever? Choose the most beautiful girl for yourself, and then moan on the windowsill that she doesn’t reciprocate your feelings. After all, she is such a bitch and does not understand your sincere and pure feelings for her, but continues to date a guy who has a Lexus, connections and a pompous grin. What a piece of trash she is!
Remember: all people choose a mate of their level and their interests. If a girl “understands” guys with opportunities and connections, then she will date such guys, and she will not need a poor romantic with a sausage for lunch. For the same reason, a normal guy won't meet a drunk girl at a trash can: that's not his level.
Therefore, put away your dreams of possessing a cool girl who is not of your level and find yourself a normal girl who will understand you, support your interests and make you happier. And together with her you will rise higher. Conquering Everest begins with the first step at the foot of the mountain!
Nevertheless. There is a whole set of tricks that can raise your level in a girl’s eyes. In other words, you will “cost” more, which means that more beautiful and spectacular girls will pay attention to you. I repeat: “More beautiful and spectacular,” since it is impossible to say “this girl is better than that one, since this one is more beautiful.” This is not the most important thing in girls, but this is for your future, my friend.
Why there is no girlfriend: laziness
Don't you want to be alone? Yes Easy. You open a regular dating site, choose a couple of girls you like, and start communicating with them. After hundreds of girls who refuse you and are rude, you will find one who will reciprocate your feelings. It's simple!
But what are you talking about, you have to find girls, write to them, listen to all their nonsense and work out different tricks and moments. It's so long and difficult. I’d rather continue to lie on the couch and “suffer” from my loneliness. Oh yes. I will write everywhere that now the girls have gone wrong and in general, they are all corrupt egoists who are only driven by money! Yes, this is much better! If you don't understand, it's sarcasm!
We have had cases where “hopeless” guys found a girl in 2-3 weeks. To do this, you only needed three things: basic dating theory, desire (you really should want to find a girl), and a willingness to spend time and energy on it. And voila, the guy and the girl are happy, and she is happy to be with him.
I don't have money for girls
Only a worthless guy will try to “buy” a girl with his money, as this is the greatest stupidity. Girls understand perfectly well that a guy must have masculinity and his own “moral strength” in order to feel protected next to him. When a guy doesn’t have this in him, he tries to compensate for it all with money. But no matter how much money you spend, you won’t become more courageous.
Therefore, girls cheat such losers out of money, occasionally stroking their egos, and they themselves date guys who can deal with them decently even without money. And this is a simple truth.
You can go on a date with a girl without a ruble in your pocket and make an amazing impression on her, or you can spend a lot of money and screw it up. Keep this in mind.
Girls don't want to talk to me
Why do you suddenly think that someone cares about your problems and experiences? Girls absolutely don’t care about you with your cockroaches in your head. If you don’t want to be alone, use your brain and do what smart guys do: start listening to the girl. Just listen to the girl, support her topics, and she herself will tell you:
- How to please her
- How to do it
- How to get her into bed
- And so on
Your job is to listen, my friend, and after everything you have heard, you will need to act. There is no place to communicate with a girl. There is a simple task and a way in which this very problem can be solved.
Don't you want to be alone? Great! Above you will find instructions on the basic theory of dating girls. Get to know her, and tomorrow you will no longer be a lonely guy.
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The respondents came to an almost unanimous conclusion: the worst date is spoiled not by external conditions, but by emotional closeness . Girls, like society as a whole, are repulsed by sociopaths. Women in relationships are traditionally accustomed to being led, so the role of “locomotive” does not give them any pleasure. Some are able to “pull out” communication on themselves for quite a long time - write and call first, come and show concern. But, in the absence of retaliatory steps, this whole undertaking will be doomed to failure.
If the guy is 13, 14 or already 15 years old, but there is no girlfriend
Precedents may arise due to the individual nature of the individual. But their appearance can also be dictated by outside influence, from the society in which the young man is located.
The reasons may be the following
- Interests have not yet matured
By nature, perhaps you are not yet mature for a serious relationship. Therefore, you don’t need a friend for long meetings yet. Yes, you can feel it yourself. Therefore, you should not focus on other guys.
- Inferiority complexes
This is typical for an age when a person is going through the period of his formation in society. You just need to learn to be confident in yourself and not leave this distance.
- Life in a fantasy world
It is important to take into account all the realities of life, meet girls, take their phone numbers, communicate. Just fantasizing is not yet achieving the goal.
- Timidity, shyness, inexperience
All this will gradually be eliminated, with time and experience communicating with friends and girls.
- Flaws in appearance
Hormonal surges at this age can often spoil your appearance a little. This could be acne, rapid weight gain, sharpening of facial features, and more. But you need to understand that this is all just as quickly and will go away as the body develops.
The age between 14 and 15 years is called puberty. At this time, there is often an imbalance in the hormonal background, which greatly affects mood. During periods of frequent mood swings, you should not make serious conclusions about yourself or others.
