How to stop being just a friend for the girl you love?

For many years, people have been trying to come to a common agreement on whether people of different sexes can be friends. Disputes arise on this topic at every opportunity. Some argue that the girl may well be a friend in a relationship, others disagree. Often society opposes friendship between a man and a woman.

Pros of being friends with a girl

At an early age, when children do not yet understand gender differences, they make excellent friends with a whole group of boys and girls. As they age, they realize who is a friend and who is a lover. For guys, being friends with a girl is important for several reasons.

• Help. If these are student years, a female friend helps with notes, exam preparation and homework. Girls take the learning process and work in general more seriously. They can help with career advancement and give practical advice.
• Fun. The beauties dilute the male team well, introducing variety and laughter into it. Many girls have a wonderful sense of humor and know a lot of jokes and funny stories from life.

• Secrets. Young ladies love to gossip and tell secrets. This allows guys to learn about female psychology and the peculiarities of their characteristics. A girl friend will clearly explain why the guy’s chosen one behaves incomprehensibly in a given situation, and will tell him which lady suits him in character and in life.
• Support. Representatives of the fair sex are naturally given empathy. If a guy has problems in work, study, health or in life, a female friend will definitely come to the rescue. Just empty chatter will distract you from difficult thoughts, comfort you and advise you on how to do the right thing.
• Adviсe. As you know, girls are well versed in appearance and have exquisite taste. If a guy has met a beauty and is going on a date with her, a female friend will help with the choice of clothes and eau de toilette.

There are other reasons why friendship between people of different sexes is possible. The main thing here is to make it clear to her that things will not go beyond friendly relations. Namely, communicate with her in the same way as with friends of the same sex, write SMS, walk in a group, consult, discuss men's topics.

A girl friend in a relationship will constantly introduce the guy to her friends, among whom you can find the very betrothed. If not a life partner, then you can definitely choose a girlfriend for sex.

Why is your girlfriend talking to other guys?

There are many reasons why your girlfriend can communicate with other guys without breaking up with you. Let's look at the most basic ones:

1. She continues to look for her loved one, so you are not the prince of her heart.
2. She just talks to guys and makes friends.
3. She is looking for a lover. Of course she will deny it. In fact, the girl is missing something in her relationship with you, so she is trying to find a second partner who will give her what she needs.

In the latter case, it is not always about sex. A girl may feel good in bed with a guy, but, for example, he earns little or does not pay much attention to her. Perhaps, guys also cheat not with the goal of replacing girls, but in order to supplement what is missing. Unfortunately, people are not perfect, so you, the reader, may not give a girl something, which is why she will compensate for it when communicating with other guys.

Virtual friendship2

Nowadays there are a lot of forums on the Internet where people get to know each other, communicate, and then quietly become friends. Although virtual friendship is considered a surrogate for real relationships, nevertheless, boys and girls can be friends for years by communicating on social networks.

Over time, they exchange contacts and call each other by phone or Skype, share their experiences and joys, send each other postcards with congratulations, discuss their everyday life, and so on. Although there is an opinion that without meeting in real life, such friendships disintegrate over time, statistics on the Internet show the opposite.

At a younger age, friends of different sexes communicate in interest groups, look for something new for themselves, and enter into discussions on forums. Some even start a mutual money business online and develop it for several years. After all, true comrades do not betray, do not plot behind their backs, and do not lie to each other. True friendship involves trust and mutual assistance.

How to start a conversation with a girl on the Internet: TOP 30 phrases____30

Here everything is much simpler and not so scary. It seems... Although sometimes the stronger sex has difficulty coping with this task. It would seem that choose the girl you like and just write to her first. But the fear of seeing a written refusal, internal complexes, or something else prevents this.

Below is a list of phrases that make it easy to start a conversation online.

1. Everyone likes silently, but I decided to write!
2. Hello! Only you can save me! I urgently need a recipe for an amazing cake.
3. I have been interested in astrology for a long time, and it seems that we have something to talk about.

1. Hello! I lost an argument with my best friend and now I have to talk about any topic with an unfamiliar girl. Help out!
2. Hello! I really need your advice!
3. Don't you think it should be a criminal offense to drive all the guys crazy?
4. I have a lot of free time. Recommend some interesting book or movie.
5. Hello! Can you tell me about the secret features of this site?
6. Is it really you in the photo? Or is it a reproduction of a famous artist?
7. I'm looking and looking for you everywhere, and here you are, it turns out!
8. I'm going to switch to proper nutrition. A girl with such a graceful figure should definitely become my consultant!
9. What should you do if your phone refuses to open anyone’s page other than yours?
10. What would you do if you were in my place?
11. How about I make you happy?
12. Why do you prefer to surf the Internet at such a late hour?
13. Hello! I’m conducting a social survey, and you simply must take part in it.
14. Can I ask you a couple of interesting questions?
15. What are you thinking about right this minute?
16. How do you manage to look so dazzling?
17. What action do you regret most?

1. Do you think communication in virtual space can have a happy continuation?
2. What can you ask a girl and not be ignored?
3. Today is my birthday! Will you congratulate?
4. Smart and beautiful girl - myth or reality?
5. What music do you prefer to listen to when you're sad?
6. What a coincidence! I'm also into athletics!
7. What topic could you talk about endlessly?
8. Nowadays it’s quite difficult to meet your soul mate. Especially on the Internet. Do you agree with me?
9. I know the secret to lifting your mood in a matter of seconds. Shall I share with you?
10. Do you love animals? What is the name of your wonderful pet?

Friendship since childhood3

It is a common occurrence when two friends have children: one is a son, the other is a daughter. At first, from the cradle, children are forced to be together because their mothers are best friends. They grow up together, develop, perhaps attend the same kindergarten, then sit at the same desk at school. Frequent joint holidays, walks, and meetings bring a boy and a girl together. They develop common interests and conversations, and a friendship develops between a guy and a girl.

As teenagers, they begin to fall in love with other people, but their friendship remains unshakable. Growing up together from the very cradle, friends of different sexes develop a habit of each other, they become like brother and sister.

In rare cases, one can observe that such friendship from childhood leads to falling in love and marriage. Not only are Hollywood films made about this, but it also happens in real life.

Friendship after relationship4

It so happens that sometimes after a long love relationship people are forced to break up for various reasons. When the separation is painless, without quarrels or scandals, but common interests and affairs remain, the guy and girl remain friends. They continue to meet together with common comrades, celebrate holidays together, without thinking about reunification.

Society is skeptical about this kind of friendship with a girl. Somewhere you can still hear reprimands and reproachful looks. And someone can tell to your face that the love relationship continues. In this case, it is better not to pay attention to conversations behind your back, because the main thing in a relationship is trust and friendship.

Often spouses remain good friends after a divorce. It does not matter whether they have children and joint property or not. Friendship after a long love relationship speaks of the wisdom of people. This means that they are able to forgive each other’s grievances, let go of negativity and continue to be friends, no matter what.

Which constellations are incompatible?

If women who sympathize with each other are incompatible according to their friendly horoscope, then they most likely will not be able to establish friendly relations.

The following are considered incompatible for friendship:

• Aries is incompatible with Cancer and Libra.
• Aquarius is not suitable for Taurus.
• Gemini will not be friends with Cancer.
• Cancer will not be able to make friends with Aries and Gemini.
• Leo is incompatible with Taurus and Capricorn.
• Virgo will not be friends with Libra and Leo.
• Libra is not friends with Pisces and Scorpio.
• Scorpios are not comfortable in friendly relations with Libra and Aquarius.
• Sagittarius avoids friendship with Pisces and Scorpio.
• Capricorn is incompatible with Gemini and Leo.
• Virgo and Scorpio are not suitable for Aquarius.
• Representatives of Leo and Aries are not suitable for Pisces.

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Friendly sex5

No matter how strange it may sound, there are people who are united by friendly sex. Such relationships are not obligatory to anything and do not require round-the-clock attention and care. Although they say that there is no place for love and sex in friendship, it is better to trust a friend you know well than a stranger.

When friends of different sexes enter into intimate relationships of their own free will, they realize that there can be no complaints. They don't send each other love SMS, don't kiss when they meet, don't act like lovers. The main advantage here is the absence of lies and omissions.

Marriage and love relationships involve certain obligations. While with friendly sex it is not. People do not have to account for every penny they spend, stand at the stove all day to please their husband, a woman does not have to wash and iron a man’s clothes. In such relationships there is complete freedom.

Friendly sex, by and large, is a road to nowhere. It lasts exactly until friends of opposite sexes find a mate. Although such relationships can last for years without tying people into obligations. Many couples do not consider it necessary to end friendly intimate relationships, since they become attached to each other precisely in bed. They know the preferences and desires of their partner, and this is easier than studying the habits of the other partner. Moreover, a long-term relationship is more difficult to break.

There are also situations when old friends of different sexes have not seen each other for a long time, but when they met they were happy, started talking, and intimacy occurred. After that, they each went their separate ways again, and the emotions from the memories give a positive charge. Often in the future they begin to meet only for sex.

Undoubtedly, a girl friend in a relationship has more advantages than disadvantages. You can trust her with secrets, ask for advice, and just have fun in the company.

Some statistics and sex

What kind of “smart” article can there be without statistics and all kinds of research by psychologists? But I won’t load it with numbers and scientific data. I just want to cite the results of an interesting study by psychologist Justin Lechmiller, who spent a whole year observing 191 couples where the man and woman were friends and had at least one sexual encounter.

What can I say, this is who I had to go to study for - the work is completely dusty. Well, a year later he received the following statistics for these pairs:

• 31% – ended any relationship and were no longer “friends”;
• 15% - evolved from friends to lovers or spouses;
• 28% - maintained their previous relationship, but no longer allow themselves intimacy with a “friend”;
• 26% continued to be friends at the same level with rare and not burdensome sexual contacts.

What do these statistics mean? And absolutely nothing except the old truth: “friendship between a man and a woman is possible, only from this friendship children are born.” Translating into modern language - sooner or later, but sexual attraction will still appear.

And it seemed like: okay, we live in the 21st century, contraception has long been invented. Accordingly, if there is no risk of pregnancy, and people are free, what prevents them from having “friendly sex”? The answer is simple: different attitudes of women and men towards sex.

For men, this is a simpler, more understandable and necessary aspect of life. For women, everything is much more complicated. Nature did not invent contraception, and therefore, at the genetic level, it put into consciousness a lot of different “buts” regarding sex.

In order not to delve into demagoguery, I’ll simply say: for men, sex is a process of life. And for women it is a process of survival. Therefore, a girl will not go to bed with someone “just like that.” This must be a person who... and then everyone has their own problems.

Author: Patrick Curtet

No, of course, there are still gentlemen “for one or two times”, with whom there should then be no relationship at all. But that is another topic. The point is that friendship involves a more open relationship than, for example, between work colleagues. And here is the rub: if the relationship is deeper, then there may be sex. But if this is not “the one,” then why this relationship? Or, conversely, if sex does happen, then it doesn’t matter what it turns into, the friendship most often ends there.

The conclusion is this: friendship between a man and a woman is possible, but if there is sex, it will end very quickly. By the way, psychologists have come up with another theory - that men are more likely to try to make friends of the opposite sex than women. Precisely because the stronger sex is not so “fussy” about intimacy.