The opportunity to be yourself
Are you tired of pretending that you like heavy music? Are you annoyed by romantic movies that you have to watch every weekend? You can refuse this. How to become easier in relationships? Try to be yourself. Many people are afraid that their significant other will not appreciate their true personality. After all, it’s much easier to demonstrate a perfectly invented persona. Such a person has no flaws and is considered invulnerable. But by living someone else’s life, you risk not having time to live your own. You don't have to do what you don't like. Tell your partner that you don't like romantic comedies and want to go see a horror movie. Or announce that you do not intend to go to the concert of the next visiting group. If your significant other insists, do not give in to provocation. Start defending your opinion. Yes, relationships involve concessions, but they must be made at your own request and from time to time. A person who is always inferior to his partner is playing with one goal. It is impossible to enjoy a relationship if you are the only one contributing to it. Reciprocity is essential.
How to improve relationships
There are several effective ways that you can use to improve your relationship with the man you love.
Talk less about problems in the bedroom!
The bedroom is a place to relax, in this room it is better to talk to a man about how great he is and how much you want him.
Don't rush your partner.
When meeting a man from work, you should not start everyday conversations right away. Give the man time. Half an hour will be enough for your chosen one to come to his senses and stop playing the role of a tough businessman.
Be unpredictable.
There is no need to make scenes of jealousy, especially without reason. Don’t pester a man with questions about why he hasn’t called all day and why he doesn’t write gentle SMS. Try to behave a little “strangely” and when he notices this, believe me, he will make every effort to regain your attention.
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Believe in your man. Praise your partner for any reason!
Screwed in the light bulb - well done! Hammered a nail into the wall - a real master! A man always waits for a woman’s approval, but it is important not to overdo it, after all, this is not a small child, but an adult and fully accomplished person. It is important for a man to hear from you how much you value him, how strong he is and how capable he is of coping with any difficulties.
Learn to listen and hear.
If your partner tells you something, listen to him and don't interrupt. But you should not ask a man about anything when he is clearly not in the mood for conversation.
Let your partner know that you need him.
The best moments for him are when you gently press him to the shoulder, timidly hug, kiss and are sincerely glad that he is nearby. Tell him more often how much you need him.
Focus on your partner's strengths.
Every man has something special that deserves respect. And for any man, words of respect mean a lot.
Don't give advice.
You are not your boyfriend's mother, you are his ally. Show feminine flexibility, do not command your partner and do not give him advice when he does not ask for it.
Give your partner freedom and become free yourself.
Restriction of freedom is the worst punishment for any person. Relationships shouldn't be a prison cell. We need to treat each other with respect and understanding. If your man wants to be in male company, give him this opportunity. Taking a break from each other is also useful, it will allow both you and him to get bored.
Surprise your man.
You can invite a young man to a cafe for absolutely no reason and order his favorite dish. Rest assured, he will appreciate such an act.
Create suspense.
Show your imagination and tell your chosen one how you imagine a future together with him, where he is the main character. Just don’t demand a response from your loved one.
Take care of yourself.
To interest a man you need to be interesting to yourself. Do what you like - draw, sing, dance, meet your friends. If a woman is passionate about something, she is always interesting to a man; for him, this is a kind of alluring space that he wants to constantly unravel.
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Smile more often.
When a woman smiles sincerely, a man has a feeling of calm that he is at home and everything is fine. If there is a happy woman next to him, then he is a real hero!
Don't skimp on compliments.
This is not at all trivial; it is important for men to hear that their achievements are noticed and approved. Pay attention to details. He put on a new shirt, tell him that it suits him very well.
Eternal love
An easy relationship with a man assumes that both partners will be near each other of their own free will. And the only people nearby are those who love each other. A man and a woman are not in a serious relationship, but they still find time to go on a date? What can you call it if not falling in love? Before each meeting, the girl will preen herself, stand in front of the mirror for a long time and select an outfit. And the guy, in turn, will not wear torn socks on a date. Partners will try to present each other in the best light all the time. An open relationship is like a lover's relationship, only without the risk of being caught. The benefit of this eternal love is indescribable. Every time one of the partners gets bored, he can call the other and simply ask for a date, knowing that he will receive a positive response.
What you should never do - 3 forbidden tricks in relationships
Most of us grew up in Soviet times, and our parents and grandparents, who grew up in Soviet times, passed on their way of thinking and beliefs to us. In the post-war period, people got married because it was impossible to survive alone, and many families were created on the basis of the proverb “if you endure it, you fall in love.” There was no trace of any psychology of relationships back then, and therefore their relationships are for us rather an indicator of how not to do things, how not to communicate and how not to live. But unknowingly, we nevertheless adopted their model of behavior, which successfully earned ≈80% of divorces. So, what did they do that we should never repeat?
Technique #1: “Losers”
The first thing that was almost customary was to insult each other and inadvertently say that “you’re a simpleton and a fool, and you won’t succeed,” “no one needs you but me,” “you’ve always been a loser.” and stuff like that. In other words, there was a lack of support and protection in the relationship, and mutual jokes that humiliated dignity and lowered self-esteem became more rude and painful every year.
You must understand that popular psychology did not exist back then, and the foundation of relationships was in most cases forced or forced. Many people did not know what a resourceful and healthy relationship was. But now you are reading this article, and it is your duty to pass on to your children and grandchildren a new, psychologically healthy model of relationships. After all, no matter how many smart books your children read about this, unconsciously they will still internalize the model of their parents’ relationships, that is, yours.
Mutual reproaches and insults, lack of faith in your partner are a great force. A woman who does not believe in her man’s success, does not respect him and allows herself insulting words towards him, can turn a charismatic and successful man into a typical “couch character” with a low standard of living and a complete lack of self-confidence. A man who doesn’t value his woman at all can also easily, in a few years or even months, turn a beautiful, blossoming woman into a worthless, hunched over little thing who really becomes “nobody needs anyone else but him.”
Why is this happening? Because anyone, even the most self-confident person with a core of steel, hearing the same words addressed to him, sooner or later begins to believe in them. Call your partner a loser every day, and after some time he will start thinking about himself too, and the time is not far off when he will actually turn into a complete loser. As they say, whatever you name the ship, that’s how it will sail.
Sometimes it seems that many people take pleasure in showing their partner that he did everything wrong, he did not succeed, and he is nothing. Perhaps this is the biggest mistake in a relationship, as well as the most traumatic thing for a person - immersing him in a feeling of failure and unfulfilled expectations. If you act this way, you will never see a successful partner next to you. In this unhealthy atmosphere, your partner will fade away day by day, and will cease to be desired and loved for you and for himself.
Technique #2: “We ourselves”
Another big mistake of that time, which we successfully adopted from our grandparents, is that we should not rely on anyone, we should not ask anyone for help, and we should solve all our problems ourselves.
Human psychology is such that he can and sometimes wants to solve the problems of his partner; deep down, every person enjoys helping. But only in those cases when they ask him for help and easily accept it from him. If, for example, a woman makes it clear to a man that she refuses his help, he will most likely stop offering it over time. Because refusal of help is perceived by a person as uselessness and lack of demand.
What do we end up with? Cheating, separation, divorce. And all because the spouses, proudly announcing to each other that they do not need anyone’s help, eventually begin to feel unclaimed and not needing each other. Women came to me for consultations who never asked their husbands for anything, did everything themselves and believed that he should be grateful to them for this. And then, one fine day, the husband left for another. Because he did not feel his strength and irreplaceability, being next to a woman who did not need anything from him. And the other one probably needed his help, which means, in his opinion, he needed him too. Any person is happy when he is asked to help, because it means that he is valued and valued.
In the modern world, both a man and a woman can exist without a relationship, both can support themselves and, if necessary, call a “husband for an hour.” And, doing everything on their own and not feeling their own relevance in relationships, people cease to understand why they need relationships at all.
In the case when a man does not ask for help and believes that he must do everything himself, the situation is also deplorable. When such a man finds himself in a psychologist’s office, it turns out that he shares practically nothing with either his friends or his wife. It’s somehow “not accepted” among friends, “I’ll look like a weakling,” “they’ll make fun of me.” And the wife - “Who will she rely on, who will be her support and protection, if I myself need her help? She will stop perceiving me as a protector, she will stop respecting me.”
As a rule, after several consultations we find out that all these thoughts are delusions generated by the ancient negative attitudes of the father or grandmother. Having dispelled these misconceptions, we come to the conclusion that sharing problems and asking for help is one of the things that preserves and fills relationships with pleasant joy, binds people to each other even closer and gives both partners an important reason to love each other.
Technique #3: “Strong and independent”
This mistake is similar to the previous one, but differs in that the person not only does not accept help from his partner, but also tries to compete with him.
We live in a world where long-term relationships are only possible for two opposite roles. Even among same-sex couples, roles are often distributed in two different directions and both partners complement each other in everything. If one is better at cooking, then let the other fix the plumbing. And if two people in a couple try to be equally strong and perform the same roles, such relationships are usually doomed to failure.
Nature will strive to make opposites out of them. So, if a woman takes on male roles, her level of the male hormone testosterone may well increase. Such a testosterone-rich couple will have excellent, stormy sex for the first time. Then the man’s testosterone level will begin to fall, it will become weaker, and he will begin to have problems with erection. Over time, he will lose interest in his strong woman. And it will be better for him if this happens as soon as possible. Otherwise, he may lose his job, self-confidence, and besides, his body will weaken, he will become more fragile and feminine. So, it is completely unprofitable for a man to be in a relationship with a strong woman, otherwise nature, striving for eternal balance, will make him a weak man.
And this is not about the fact that a woman should be weak and a man should be strong. This means that in a couple no one should compete with each other. If you find yourself wanting to earn not just a lot, but more than your partner; on the desire to be brighter, better, more beautiful, more interesting than him. On the desire to stand out against its background. Or the fact that you are insulted and humiliated by his successes, while you fail. All this may mean that you unconsciously have a burning desire to be better than him, to defeat him.
So, these were the three most common mistakes in relationships. Of course, there are many more such mistakes in life. And in those couples where partners make these mistakes, discord in the relationship occurs quite quickly. Avoid them if you want to create harmony and comfort in your family.
the freedom of action
Why are easy relationships gaining unprecedented popularity lately? The reason for this is simple. People don't want to be tied down. Young boys and girls who are not yet ready for marriage and want to take a walk, want to take everything from this life. They are attracted to parties, night walks, building a career and interesting leisure activities. There is no room for normal relationships in such a busy schedule. But free love fits well into the format of life. A couple who practices easy relationships does not think about the future, they live in the present. People feel good together - they can move in together. If something goes wrong, you can always separate and live separately. No one will blame anyone for anything if one of the partners plunges headlong into a new romance. When the influx of emotions subsides, the partner will return to the person with whom he was in an open relationship and calmly resume it.
Psychologist's comment:
Our reader very accurately noted one important point: any good relationship with a partner is work that is important to do every day so that it strengthens. But if you start rolling up your sleeves and working hard on the relationship before you are sure that your partner is really the right one for you, all that work will go down the drain.
Therefore, before implementing all the above tips, make sure that you and your chosen one are compatible with each other.
How can this be understood? To answer this question, you will need to write not an article, but a whole book, or even more than one. Therefore, here I will only describe some very obvious signs that can suggest the presence of problems in a couple - at the moment or in the near future.
What kind of relationship will nothing good come from?
- You enter into a relationship not because of interest and sympathy for your partner, but because you don’t want to be alone or out of fear of not getting married (a very bad motivation from the point of view of family psychology; with a very high probability nothing good will come of it) .
- One of the partners practices physical or psychological (verbal bullying, very harsh and constant criticism) violence; here there is a high probability that one of this couple will end up in a hospital bed, and if the patience of the victim of this violence is exhausted, then the other will also end up in a medical institution, or even in the grave. If you repeatedly enter into relationships in which you find yourself as a victim of physical or psychological violence, I strongly recommend that you consult a psychologist - such situations can end badly.
- You or your partner are trying to “change” the other through criticism; in other words, you don’t see him as he is. Unfortunately or fortunately, it is impossible to change another person without his conscious desire. Remember: he will never become what you want him to be, and if he does, you will be the first to run away from him. Accept your boyfriend for who he is, or look for someone else: constant caustic criticism and dissatisfaction have not helped any relationship between a guy and a girl.
- Your partner doesn't hear you and ignores your needs. Alas, as a rule, people do not change very much as adults, unless they undergo psychotherapy or other things that are very significant to them happen to them. Therefore, if your partner is “deaf and dumb” towards you and you value this relationship enough, then perhaps it makes sense for the two of you to visit a family (couple) psychologist or psychotherapist. Such work can help to find a “second wind” in relationships between partners, making these relationships brighter and richer.
Lack of responsibility
Relationships should be easy, otherwise they will quickly fall apart. People who practice open relationships know this well. Psychologists say that individuals who do not want to create classic couples and choose something free are not ready for responsibility. But this is precisely what people call the main advantage of their novel. There is no need to worry about whether your other half is hungry or not. There is no need to go help the guy's parents with house changes and there is no need to help the girl with renovations. Each person lives on his own. Other people's problems may not be taken seriously. Yes, it is desirable to provide all possible assistance, but it is not at all necessary.
People who prefer easy relationships to ordinary ones do not want to burden themselves with family. Persons are not ready for marriage and do not want to think about children at all. The taste of freedom is too sweet, and you don’t want to change it for something else.
Be romantic
How to develop a relationship with a girl with a child after meeting? A lady who has children needs romantic actions just as much as a girl who is not burdened with anything. Any representative of the fair sex wants to feel desired and special. Give the lady the opportunity to feel your sympathy. Arrange romantic dinners for your beloved. You can spend time with a pretty person while walking along the embankment in the evening. Don't forget to give flowers and mark all significant dates on your calendar. The girl will be pleased that you remember the day you met. At first, you don’t need to spend a lot of money to satisfy all the lady’s desires. Performing romantic acts does not mean showering your chosen one with expensive gifts. You can sing a lyrical serenade while standing under the window, or write something nice with chalk on the asphalt in front of the girl’s windows. Be creative. It will bring you good dividends in the future.
The opportunity to leave without scandal
Have you heard a friend say: “I want an easy relationship.” Why do guys prefer romance without commitment? Relationships that are not serious are very easy to break up. Some people are afraid of affection because they have had the bitter experience of non-reciprocal love. Therefore, people do not want to repeat their mistakes. They choose the easy path of open relationships. After all, if your partner gets bored or wants new experiences, you can leave without a scandal. If there is nothing to destroy, then it is completely harmless to part. And most importantly, the partner will not be offended and make a scene.
No household problems
Is the relationship easy when neither partner is attached to the other? Yes. The absence of everyday problems does not ruin the romance. Why do many couples break up? Due to domestic conflicts. When people are in an open relationship, they do not live together. And even if your partner has annoying habits, you can tolerate them several times a week. And more often than not, the small weaknesses of a loved one even seem cute. Until you have to deal with them on an ongoing basis. By agreeing to an open relationship, people agree that they will not play an important role in each other's lives. This means they won’t have to make decisions about purchasing shared equipment or who to take out a mortgage for. There will be no conflicts about who will wash the car and who will refuel the car. Dividing things into yours and mine draws boundaries that people secretly do not cross.
How to build a relationship with a girl?
Wisely.
Any relationship with a girl is built on the model of a theatrical production. We all get one role or another. Choose a role based on your talents to start a relationship with a girl. To do this, it is enough to visit the beauty and meet her parents. Whatever model of relationships is a priority in her home, this will most likely be the same for you. If “dad rules,” then you are lucky. You don’t have to worry too much about how to behave in a relationship with a girl. A little mutual sympathy is enough to blow away the dust from you. An alternative option is also possible: the future mother-in-law keeps the whole family, including her husband’s nephews, in fear. In this situation, the question of how to care for a girl in a relationship ceases to be rhetorical. The scenario of exact reproduction of the parental family model is likely. Be carefull!
At the start of a relationship, it is important to understand how the female candidate under consideration fits into your ideas of happiness. More information means more chances to avoid making an annoying mistake.
What are the components of building a relationship with a girl? What do we have to do?
Find out her interests
Unobtrusively. There is no place for direct questions in this matter. Use any clue to sneak into the world of girls' dreams. The goal is to achieve the effect of being on the same wavelength. Did she buy a magazine at the kiosk in front of you? Remember the cover, come back and buy one for yourself. Let it become your reference book for the evening. Don’t bore your interlocutor with your thoughts about the fate of Bitcoin. It’s useless if her mind is busy with how to invent the 1001st recipe for charlotte or get to the casting for “Dom-2”. Stock up on mental cheat sheets. Let him make sure that you are in the know, since starting a relationship with anyone (especially a girl) from scratch is an extremely difficult task.
A common interest can work as bait when there is a need to meet an interesting girl for a serious and long-term relationship. Discover new hobbies. A fashionable hobby will not leave anyone without a partner. Business English and graphic design courses are viable options on how to quickly and surely start a relationship with a decent girl.
Take an interest in her affairs
Sincerely. As if the news of a broken nail worries you more than anything else in the world at the moment. Curious Varvara should nervously smoke on the sidelines, looking at how meticulously you ask your Juliet about the details of the past day. Listen especially carefully to complaints. Don’t miss the opportunity to give good advice, or better yet, lend a strong man’s shoulder in a difficult situation.
Tell us about yourself
With fire! Not everything, of course. Favorites. What your mother praised you for as a child. Try not to blind your chosen one. Unless you are faced with the task of how to put a girl in her place and become the undisputed leader in a couple. Strictly follow the rule of eating the elephant piece by piece. For example: tell a feat a day - no more. Don't forget which one of you is the prom queen.
It’s easier to move from revelations about your beloved self to discussing your common history. Choose the right moment to talk to your girl about your relationship. A timely, sincere confession will give your union the status of a full-fledged couple. Keep in mind that in a relationship with a guy, a feature of a girl’s psychology is her focus on creating a nest. Talk to her more often about your plans together.
Show you care
Constantly. The image of a gentleman is made up of details. They gave a hand at the exit of the transport - well done! They held her by the scarf so that the beauty would not be blown away - just a hero. We paid off an overdue loan - a superhero and “mom liked you too.”
How to build a relationship with a girl on a budget? Create situations of success for yourself. Invite a lady on a mushroom picking trip. At the first inevitable attack of female topographic cretinism, generously reassure your companion. Be tactful and patient. The imaginary loser should have a strong impression that everything is under control, the forest is not endless and the car is nearby.
Girls are taught from kindergarten that they are representatives of the weaker sex. Diagnose all the Achilles heels of your chosen one. A large piece of plaster on each callus is just what the doctor ordered. Learn how to manipulate correctly in relationships with girls. Let the lady feel that she will definitely be lost without you. Rush to her aid without waiting until you are asked to do so. You've done a good deed - edit the 25th frame. Remind her delicately at every opportunity about how a week (month) ago everything suddenly went wrong, and here you are on a white horse, with a ready-made solution.
Even if you are a seasoned “Despicable Me” at heart, you will have to make an effort. Good in relationships also returns like a boomerang. Buy her cakes more often now, then later you will be pampered with homemade cakes and homemade cutlets. The law of conservation of positive emotional energy works.
Your new hobby may require you to make sacrifices that are difficult to decide on. Typical situation: a girl with a child – is it worth starting a relationship? Worth it if you have a big heart and it has extra seating for two. A baby who is favorable towards you will add hope for a long future together. But forget about the role of the mustachioed nanny if the child's mother attracts you nothing more than a funny piece of the Don Juan collection. Children's love is definitely not something to joke about.
Be romantic
In my own way. Doing everything differently, being on the rise, seeing the Eiffel Tower in every lamppost - that’s what it’s like to flirt with a beautiful girl in an original way. Romance is a state of mind, not a state of wallet. But building castles in the air, as well as building a relationship with a girl, is a task for creative builders. Look for sources of inspiration. A bouquet of sweets and an armful of multi-colored balloons will no longer captivate a sophisticated young lady.
Learn to surprise. Do you usually meet after school (work)? The wind of romantic change will take your date to the early morning. You will feel energized and much more energetic than on Friday evening. Let the date be shorter, but brighter! A routine trip to the cinema can be replaced by filming a joint video for Instagram. Yes, not a blockbuster, but definitely memorable.
But romance does not imply an excess of idle tinsel in gray everyday life. To a greater extent, this is the embodiment of some bright plans. Create conditions in which your companion can catch her star by the tail. As a rule, the maternal instinct bursts out in any woman. Its manifestations in a work (school) environment are inappropriate and therefore carefully suppressed. Take care, look after, wipe away snot - this is how girls should behave in any relationship. Loves dogs, but has never petted a real Labrador with a wet nose? Spend the weekend at a homeless animal shelter. Volunteers are always welcome there. Or ask us to revive one of your stunted indoor plants. A joint good deed will add value and romantic flair to your relationship.
The ability to find understanding and consolation if necessary
Do you want to find a best friend in the person of the opposite sex? An easy relationship between two people helps not only to find a loved one who is close in spirit, but also a best friend who will help, advise and always give the most practical advice. When a person feels bad, he will go to someone who is good. The person will always listen and help you understand the situation. Why does such support help better than the help of close friends? A person who is not directly the main character in the conflict and does not know all the participants in the scene can judge unbiasedly. You can rely on your partner’s opinion, because he wishes only the best for his soulmate. There is nothing wrong with showing not only your strengths to your partner from time to time, but also showing him your vulnerable soul.
Don't shout "me too" at every opportunity.
The first time you met a lady is a thing of the past and you are now at a stage where people start to learn more about each other. How to develop a relationship with a girl? You must become an attentive listener. Don't interrupt your chosen one. Episodes often happen when a girl starts telling you about something, and the phrase literally comes out of her mouth: great, me too. For example, if a lady started talking about how she went to a concert of her favorite band last weekend, and you were there too, your task is to let the girl finish her thought and share her impressions. If you interrupt her story with an exclamation: I was there too, the lady will not be able to finish her story. The girl may be embarrassed and ask you to tell her impressions of the concert. So take your time. Listen to the impressions of your chosen one, and then tell her that you are also delighted with the musical group and can now go to concerts together.
Lack of jealousy
What are the benefits of easy relationships? People prefer open relationships for the reason that they are not burdened with jealousy. People immediately agree that they do not belong only to each other. It is difficult for owners to understand this logic, but for some it is the basis of a normal life. Free people who do not want to limit their relationships to just one partner understand that jealousy can destroy a bright feeling. Well, how can you be jealous of a person who, while hanging out with many people, still comes back? This fact confirms that the partners are ideal for each other. They are free to walk anywhere and with anyone, but they still spend most of their time with the person who evokes a response in their heart.
Don't be afraid to ask
How to properly develop a relationship with a girl? She must become interested in you. This will be easy to achieve if you ask questions about topics that interest you. Are you afraid that you will offend your chosen one with a question? Nothing bad will happen. A smart girl will be able to joke about a sensitive topic and will not be offended by your curiosity. You have nothing to lose by asking what interests you. If a girl is willing to share personal information with you, she will do it. It is conversations on frank topics that bring people closer. But don't go too far. Frankness can be achieved over time. You should not demand from a girl that she open her soul to you on the second date.
When asking questions, be polite. If the girl changed the topic or did not directly answer the question asked, you should not repeat it. The lady understood what you meant, but did not want to share the information with you. Have respect for a person's privacy and do not interfere in personal space if you are not allowed there.
There's no need to prove your feelings
Psychologists say that only insecure individuals need constant confirmation of love. Other people do not require constant confirmation of feelings. Couples who are in a classic relationship must surprise and amaze their partner every day. Those people who choose easy relationships meet only a couple of times a week. In such a situation, there is no need to talk about love all the time. People can discuss any topic because they always have something to talk about. You don’t have to invent or compose something. You can only confess your love from time to time. Presenting gifts and flowers does not become a routine, because a person makes beautiful gestures only when he wants to please his partner.
Every date is like a surprise
Easy relationships are a holiday. People are preparing for dates and want to look perfect in the eyes of their partner. Girls do beautiful hairstyles and try to surprise the young man with their looks. Guys present girls with gorgeous bouquets and do not demand anything in return. Romance doesn't become a chore. People give gifts to each other quite often. But these are not some valuable things, but rather pleasure and impressions. Walks under the moon, boat trips and romantic dinners. All this can ignite feelings and not let them fade away. Fantasy in an open relationship is welcome. Partners can try themselves in different roles, which means they can get to know themselves better.
How to behave on a first date
If a girl agrees to go on a date with you, it is important to consider five basic rules of behavior so as not to disappoint her.
- Find a comfortable place. The meeting should take place without obstacles, calmly and naturally. You can ask the girl’s preferences, but also take into account your own characteristics. For example, if you don't like going on extreme rides, then you won't be able to relax and perform your best at a meeting.
- Help your companion get rid of anxiety and embarrassment. You can compliment her on her appearance and add a sense of humor to the conversation. It is important to choose topics for conversation that are interesting to the girl, and in which she understands no worse than you.
- Act confidently without showing inner anxiety. You can prepare for the date in advance and think through topics that will be interesting to both of you.
- If suddenly the conversation reaches a dead end, it is important to quickly find your bearings and switch to another topic. You can ask about the girl’s occupation, what she is interested in, how she spends her leisure time. It is important not to bring up deeply personal topics on the first date, such as family matters or past relationships.
- Show the girl your interest, be courteous, tactful and gallant, do not use rude words or ridicule in the conversation. The interlocutor will like the kindness, politeness and smiling nature of the gentleman.
You can follow these rules of conduct if you want to transform your relationship with a girl from friendly to romantic. When you meet, surprise your chosen one with a small gift so that she appreciates the generosity of your soul and the seriousness of your intentions.
A bouquet of flowers, a box of chocolates or a small souvenir is enough. The main thing is that the gift is inexpensive and non-committal, otherwise the girl may feel awkward.
A chance to be with your friends
Open relationships do not bind people to each other. You don’t have to ask anyone for time off and don’t have to make excuses to anyone. Partners can spend their time with friends and not expect to be reprimanded for it. A person can come home whenever he wants, and if he wants, he can’t even spend the night at home. Freedom of action helps an individual feel better. After all, when there are no restrictions, a person is free to act as he wants, and not as he is obliged by some imposed framework and prejudices. People who prefer open relationships have no disagreements with friends. After all, there is always an opportunity to meet loved ones. So friends don’t fade into the background, as happens in classic couples. Even if your significant other doesn't really like their friends, it doesn't really matter. You can spend your free time with a nice person and not be burdened by the company of unpleasant people.
Find out more about the girl's interests
When meeting a lady, be sure to ask her about her interests. How will this help in the future? You will find out whether you have common ground, and you will also have the opportunity to learn a little more about the hobbies of your chosen one. How to develop a relationship with a girl? For example, a lady said that she is interested in skiing. You have never skated and do not have friends with similar interests. Then consult Google what types of skis exist, find out the names of the athletes and the places closest to the city where you can ski. On your next date, casually mention the topic of alpine skiing and tell the lady that you have always wanted to learn how to ski downhill and even watch competitions in this sport from time to time. You can mention the names of athletes you have recently met. The girl will be pleased that her chosen one shares interests, and the lady can offer you her instructor services. Your next date will be guaranteed.
