I don’t want to live: why is everything so difficult in life?
In every person's life, there are moments when it seems that darkness has set in. For everyone, life prepares its own lessons... And they must be solved.
There are moments when thoughts occur to me that perhaps this is why we come into this world. Life is our teacher, and we are its students. You learn a lesson, you move on, you run away, you don’t solve the problem, you get an even more difficult task. You still have to learn it.
Maybe that’s why I love the parable about the donkey so much, which teaches us to move only forward under any circumstances. Even if today is “not your day” again, she teaches you not to despair and find the strength to look at life with a smile.
If the day was not yours, apologize and bring it back. © Roman Nadiryan
Why you don’t want to live - possible reasons
There are different reasons when you really don’t want to live. It can be:
- Difficulties at work
- Troubles in the family
- Disagreements in relationships
- Health problems
- Problems with children, etc., you can’t list them all at once.
My recommendation is, don't run away from problems. Solve them right away, believe me, in the future it will only save your health and nerves.
Sometimes, as in the case of our heroine, life gives us a series of lessons, and at such moments it can really be difficult to “get up,” especially if you are alone and have no support. At such moments, prolonged depression may occur, leading to the destruction of emotional balance; a specialist is required to restore it.
A specialist will support and help solve problems that are difficult to solve on your own, relieve pain and help you find inner comfort.
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If this is not possible, then follow a few recommendations that I will tell you about...
Why people don’t want to live - common reasons
To want to live again, you need to find out the reasons for the desire to die as soon as possible.
There can be many of them; psychologists classify the nature of the origin of such thoughts based on certain aspects of an individual’s life:
- A life stage at which a person would like to have a certain status or baggage of benefits. Usually, by the age of 30, women who have not yet had time to start a family begin to think about the “biological clock”; if their experiences are supported by the condemnation of others, it can lead to prolonged depression. Men at this age are expected to have a successful career and constant wealth. If this is absent in his life, the condemnation of society and internal experiences can contribute to the emergence of negative thoughts.
- There is nothing more to wish for. The opposite situation is in which people achieve their goals in all areas of life, but their nature as conquerors and leaders requires constant work and self-improvement. There is nowhere to move further, thoughts arise about the futility of life. Such internal problems most often worry wealthy people and pensioners who have retired and are no longer burdened with work, children and grandchildren.
- Vicious circle. The phrase “I don’t want to live” can be heard from a person whose everyday life has turned into a gray, monotonous series of the same things. In such a cycle of monotony, the question may arise: why am I living? It can all start with the usual routine at work and at home, which later develops into a life that a person does not want to live.
- Another reason why some people want to die is events that left an indelible mark. The death of a loved one, your own illness, a serious incident in the family or at work - all of this can contribute to the emergence of suicidal thoughts in some people. Such thoughts can also occur to people who have the ability to overreact to various events and dramatize.
Finding out the reasons is the first step towards a healthy life without negative destructive thoughts.
Depression: I don’t want to live, what should I do, help?
Let's look at several ways to get out of depression that will help you at critical moments in life.
The old grandfather's method of getting out of depression
If you don’t want to live, what should you do?
The first thing you need to do is exercise. Because sport makes you a tough nut to crack and strengthens your spirit.
Playing sports will not only help you overcome depression and stress, but will also have a positive effect on your physical fitness, develop your stamina and help you cope with life's challenges.
Life story (click on the picture to read)
When you play sports, doing strength exercises, you are focused directly on this task, hence, negative thoughts leave your head, you have no time to feel sorry for yourself, you are focused on the task.
Would you like me to share with you an old, magical grandfather’s method of getting out of depression, which will improve your internal state within an hour?
Then listen...
When playing sports, for example, running on a treadmill, your task, when placing your right foot on the treadmill, is to say the magic phrase: “Happiness.”
It turns out that, while running along the track, you constantly say: “Happiness - happiness - happiness.”
Within an hour, you will feel how your mood has improved, peace has come to your soul, and most importantly, you will notice how after some time positive events will begin to enter your life.
Try it and share your impressions of this exercise in the comments. Perhaps this will be useful for readers of this site. Let's help each other together.
How to live on if you have no strength and nothing works out
There are periods when you work so hard that you no longer have the strength, but there is no result, and you get the deceptive feeling that you need to try even harder. It is necessary to slow down and do everything calmly and slowly, reducing the priority of what is being done. Shift your attention to your own condition and, above all, take care of rest, emotional relief and breaks, and only in your free time do what you so zealously strived for earlier. The secret is quite simple - the more you care about yourself, the more resourceful state you are in and then new ideas can be born to optimize the process of introducing new ways of achieving, instead of punching a wall with your forehead when there is an open door a meter away from you.
In developing a strategy for how to live further if there is no strength and money, many begin to diligently save and force themselves to work more - the system is a failure, since it leads to a deterioration in physical condition, emotional well-being, and to the cessation of any progress in business. If you are tired, then you are going the wrong way - you are wasting a lot of energy, working in the wrong places where you can be useful, and not using optimization. If you notice that it’s not working out, then it makes sense to change the strategy for achieving it or the goal itself (well, you don’t teach a parrot to swim, or you teach a dog or a parrot to talk).
Exceeding expectations and impatience can lead to such conditions, so before setting deadlines and hoping for stunning results, monitor the situation regarding what you have in mind. Even a round-the-clock effort may not be enough due to the specifics of the activity being performed; perhaps it would be more important to relax and wait in inaction (remember that you cannot pull grass out of the ground). It is better to do something constantly and in small doses than to try to complete what you have planned in one moment, because both quality and your sense of self suffer from such an approach.
Another point that leads to the draining of internal resources and a destructive result is control. The more processes you try to control, the more nervous you become about the inconsistency of small details, and you lose energy. At the same time, control over everything does not allow you to navigate the situation and change the concept of action in time; it does not allow you to rely on the opinions of others, which takes up your time for constant checks; as a result, you do not respond to changes adequately.
How to overcome the reluctance to live
The feeling of unwillingness to live usually arises when a person does not receive from life what he, in his opinion, “should” receive; Life doesn't turn out the way we would like. He has some understanding, pictures of life, but something went wrong...
Obsessive thoughts appear that you are a “Loser”, “There is no point in living anymore”, “Nobody needs you”, your task is to learn to drive these thoughts out of your head.
We all know that thought is material, so by all means learn to remove negative thoughts. For they can not only lead to disorders of the nervous system, but also to disruption of the functioning of individual organs and even body systems.
Therefore, on my part, it will be useful to introduce you to several techniques for dealing with obsessive thoughts.
I don’t want to live: How to remove obsessive thoughts
There are several ways to remove obsessive thoughts from your head. Let's get to know them:
1. In order not to keep negativity to yourself, you can try swearing loudly, screaming, or at least slamming the table.
2. You can make intense hand gestures - as if you are driving away what happened.
3. A very effective way is to try to make fun of this situation, try to turn it into a joke. A good laugh has a positive effect on our psyche and drives bad thoughts out of our heads.
4. Relax, take a few deep breaths and exhalations, try to relieve tension, remember the happiest moments in your life, where you looked decent and from which you were able to emerge victorious, and thereby reduce the intensity of your experiences.
5. Then you need, if possible, try to calmly comprehend the event that happened, and then forget about everything.
6. Sometimes people cannot immediately clear their heads of anxiety and bad thoughts, then we remember the ancient wisdom: “nature does not tolerate emptiness” (including in the head) - and fill the empty space.
How? Yes, positive thoughts, pleasant fantasies, which should NOT even come close to real experiences. For example, if your head was filled with thoughts about parting with your loved one, you cannot forget him and stop thinking about him, and you constantly fantasize about meeting a nice young man at work or that an oligarch will unexpectedly pick you up - this, unfortunately, is unlikely will it help?
The Power of Habit: How to Think Positively
A man is a product of his thinking, what he thinks is what he becomes Mahatma Gandhi
Did you know that a positive attitude has a positive effect on life? Perhaps many of you will say: “Well, what a stupid question, of course we know?”
Then I’ll ask you: “Is it working out?” - “How often do you think positively?” Can you find the good in any situation?
A lot of people, in moments of despair, stop believing not only in the future, but also in themselves.
Therefore, I want to remind you of some rules that allow you to develop a wonderful quality like self-confidence.
Five basic rules
1. Develop the best in yourself, what has always helped and supported you in difficult moments of life.
2. Learn to think positively! On my website, take exercises to work on, such as: “Scooping out the positives”, Practice admiring “WOW, YOU!”, they will help you think positively and maintain a positive attitude.
If you are interested in learning more techniques and exercises to positively change your life, then I invite you to the Workshop of Useful Habits course.
A workshop of useful habits is a program that helps people in a short period of time make their lives more effective and happier, their relationships with others more harmonious, and their families stronger.
3. Love yourself. When you begin to love, respect, and approve of your actions and deeds, then you create a high-quality mood that allows for more friendly and joyful interactions with others. And this is the main key to positive emotions and positive changes in life!
4. Make jokes more often (even if your humor and jokes sometimes turn out to be bitter) - all this will prevent you from plunging into the abyss of pessimism!
5. Enjoy life! The very fact that you appeared in this world is already your great achievement, this is your exceptional and amazing luck!
Try to be optimistic - it will brighten your life!
And so that these rules are followed willingly, joyfully and positively, you can download the “Success Diary”, completely free of charge, let your life sparkle with new colors as quickly as possible.
Resentment Mania: How to Forgive and Let Go of Resentment
People can die from lack of desire to live
As unscientific as it may sound, give-up-itis is a real term used to describe a medically documented and as yet poorly understood phenomenon. It refers to a condition in which a person who has lost the will to live dies, despite the absence of a clear physiological cause. The phenomenon was first noted in American and South Korean soldiers who died in captivity in prisoner of war camps, and subsequently occurred in prisoner of war camps in Vietnam, as well as in shipwreck survivors. In hindsight, based on the recollections of survivors, it was determined that this was a common occurrence in Nazi concentration camps.
A common feature of “those-who-refused” cases is that they occur in a psychologically traumatic situation that feels overwhelming. The human psyche can respond to a seemingly hopeless situation with increasing apathy. Detachment from the surrounding life occurs to such an extent that, in the end, such people finally leave this world.
However, observations show that the death of “those who refused” can be avoided. People have recovered from similar pre-death states in others after finding causes that convinced them to reconnect with reality.
After examining a wealth of historical and contemporary evidence, University of Portsmouth researcher John Leach concluded that cases of "those who refused" are more common than thought. In fact, for the first time something similar was recorded in the 17th century. The latest recorded cases are the deaths of elderly people and some patients in hospital, characterized by the hallmarks of this phenomenon. To better understand this condition and, therefore, ways to avoid it, Dr. Leach decided to describe the clinical markers of the phenomenon. In a paper published in Medical Hypotheses
, it defines a five-phase pattern that the “he-who-has-refused” state follows. The author hypothesizes that it is based on brain activity.
“Psychogenic death is a reality. It's not suicide, it's not associated with depression, but it works like giving up on life. Death occurs within a few days. This is a real phenomenon, often associated with serious trauma,” says Leach in a paper in which he describes the expectation of death in “those who have refused” as a possible mechanism for adaptation to the intolerable pressure of the situation.
The first phase, social withdrawal, is common in people who suffer significant trauma. For those who have already given up, this unrecognized isolation progresses into the next phase: apathy. Leach drew information from survivors' testimonies to describe this type of apathy. This demoralizing melancholy, different from anger, sadness or frustration, feels like being “caught in deep inertia.” At this point the individual often stops caring for himself. In the third stage of lack of will, apathy increases so much that the person does not show the desire to perform daily tasks, people often stop speaking and eating.
“The interesting thing about lack of will is that consciousness was empty, devoid of content. Survivors described this stage as if the consciousness was devoid of any thoughts or interference. With lack of will, the mind was on pause, and the person lost the desire for goal-directed behavior,” says Leach.
The fourth stage, physical immobility, is characterized by loss of response to physical stimuli, even severe pain. As a result, if there is no intervention, “those who refused” find themselves on the verge of moving to the next, fifth, stage - death.
“At this point,” Leach says, “they can lie in their excrement and do nothing—not pay any attention to it. No beatings, no persuasion can bring them back to life.”
Leach believes that changes occurring in certain areas of the brain called the anterior cingulate cortex (ACC) may be responsible for the pathology of the “rejected.” The ACC is responsible for motivating and initiating goal-directed behavior. Interruption of dopamine signaling in this area is the cause of apathetic behavior.
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“Silent epidemic” of male suicides.
If you don't know what you want, you'll die in a pile of things you didn't want. Fight club
Why is it important to have a purpose in life? I wonder, what do you think, if the captain does not know where to sail, does not have a specific goal, where will he sail on his ship? How long will he hang out at sea?
And if he knows exactly his destination, how quickly will he reach his goal?
Perhaps some of you will say that there is a storm at sea and the captain can be thrown ashore, and I agree with you, this is really possible.
However, he will wait out the storm, repair the ship and still arrive at his destination because he knows his goal.
Your task is to write down and set your goals, because achieving goals helps strengthen self-confidence and increases self-esteem. Your sense of self-worth increases significantly.
You will feel true happiness and satisfaction in life. As a result, you will understand that your life does not consist only of problems and failures, but it is filled with various opportunities and interesting events.
On the road to happiness and satisfaction, it is very important to be able to think positively, because positive thinking teaches us to see problems in terms of opportunities, not obstacles. Read below to learn how to do this:
