The age of a schoolchild is always a difficult period. At the age of 7, school causes difficulties because it is something new in the child’s life, the change of team is confusing and the unknown is frightening. In secondary school, after 10 years, the child has already become accustomed to the teacher and classmates, but new subjects are introduced, the workload increases, and learning problems arise again. In high school, teenagers consider themselves adults; a difficult period of puberty begins between 15 and 17 years. Hormonal changes in the body prevent you from concentrating on your studies.
Confused first grader
Parents are in an even more difficult situation: they need to work at work, not to miss their child, and to notice in time the beginning problems with their studies. The main goal of any parent is to force them to study. They introduce all sorts of restrictions for educational purposes when a teenager does not want to study. What is best to do will be helped by the advice of a psychologist, aimed primarily at the behavior of parents, and not at students.
One of the most difficult and at the same time simple tips is not to turn acquiring knowledge into punishment. A teenager will perceive learning as a natural process, an integral and interesting part of his life, if he was raised in a family where:
- often one of the adults read a bedtime story, instilling a love of books;
- a couple of times a week the whole family solved puzzles or crosswords;
- it was allowed to explore the world not through TV, but in practice, by trial and error;
- elementary everyday tasks were presented to the child as a practical lesson in a chemical laboratory: dissolving salt in water, darkening the cut of an apple, lightening tea after adding a slice of lemon.
Important! The most important and difficult task for every parent should not be to force them to study, but to educate them in such a way that the learning process satisfies the child’s curiosity and desire to expand his horizons.
Mom is reading a book
Problems with self-motivation
Bad habits and laziness are frequent winners in everyday life, destroying personality. It is always easy to blame external factors and difficult to resolve the issue of self-discipline. The results are often one sleepless night in preparation for the exam and a low grade, because forcing yourself to study earlier than a day before the fateful hour is very difficult.
Almost every student understands perfectly well that it is much easier to study a little every day than to try to master a month’s course in one day. But willpower and self-motivation are not always strong character traits. The vast majority of people are accustomed to the fact that motivation to study comes from someone else, limited by the obligations accepted by society. Rarely anyone can independently decide to pick up a textbook and broaden their horizons. The whole point is that it is much easier for a person to do what brings him pleasure. It’s not for nothing that a situation is called happiness when a person manages to turn his hobby into a job.
Interesting. You can solve the problem of self-motivation to learn by convincing yourself that the field of study is of interest.
So, how to start regularly devoting yourself to studying:
1. Determine the amount of time per lesson and the weekly or monthly training schedule that you will spend on training. You need to spend at least 30 minutes per lesson, or preferably about an hour; less time is not productive and makes no sense.
If you can study for at least 30 minutes every day, then that’s very good, but usually personal matters do not allow this. Make short-term plans for the week, in accordance with your activities, but at least 3 classes per week.
2. Read in detail the curriculum and class schedule (if any). Now make yourself a calendar plan linked to the disciplines you will study. And most importantly, stick to the plan and studying will become a habit, and you will also understand the benefits of planning and discipline in any area of your life.
3. Take notes. Even mandatory if you are studying in a distance learning system. Write down extracts from the lecture, briefly the main concepts and definitions, as well as your conclusions from the material. You'll see, this can become a habit and allows you to remember information for a long time.
4. Find professionals or fellow students. Communicate, exchange opinions, and you can significantly speed up your learning. Now the main thing is not to quit this business halfway.
If the child does not want to study
One of the tasks of every parent is to understand the reasons for the lack of desire to learn. Most often, protest is associated with the difficulty of overcoming laziness in front of an unknown task. A reasonable question when a child does not want to study is what to do; advice from a psychologist will help you understand the tactics.
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At the very beginning of the first grade, the child must understand everything new that the teacher presents to him. If some little thing does not fit into his head, later this gap will be overgrown with negative emotions and will lead to a total lack of perception of the material associated with the missed detail.
Attention! At home, after each school day, you need to ask the child about what he learned over the past day and what remains a mystery to him. Most often, children are embarrassed to ask the teacher again when questions arise in class.
Dad helps with homework
All adults were once children and have their own gaps in knowledge, but when it comes to elementary school, every parent is able to repeat any lesson instead of a teacher. This cannot be neglected, because we are talking about laying the foundation for future sciences, it is important to help the student understand all the nuances, so that in the next lesson he feels confident and boldly expands his knowledge base. By devoting just one hour in the evening to discussing difficult aspects of the previous lesson, parents are able to maintain engagement in learning.
