While I was working for days, my husband was spending my money on his mistress
In their family, Nastya was the breadwinner. She ran her business while her husband waited for offers from employers. And then it turned out that he had fun with his wife’s money.
By the time they got married, Andrei had managed to get it into Nastya’s head that he was a genius. And he can’t work anywhere. He needs worthy offers. Therefore, Nastya did not rush him to find a job, working hard alone.
Her parents gave her money to start her own business, and the girl opened her own small beauty salon. She commanded, and served clients herself. It opened at eight in the morning and ended at ten in the evening.
Andrey continued to wait by the sea for weather. But he calmly spent the money his wife earned. After all, Nastya didn’t mind. On the contrary, she said it herself: we have everything in common. She continued to believe that her genius husband would one day find his luck, and then show it to everyone.
The only thing that worried Nastya was that they began to quarrel often. But this is understandable. She comes at night, collapses, and her husband, instead of preparing something himself, demands dinner from her. And in bed, not everything always worked out smoothly.
Nastya would be glad to work less so that she can be with her husband more often. But it was just starting to unwind. Only normal income went. I didn’t want to let it all go. I had to spin around on my own all day. So there wasn’t enough time for personal happiness.
But one day Nastya heard a word accidentally dropped by her husband on the phone, and she understood everything. He was talking to someone in a low voice in the room while she was busy in the kitchen. “Okay, darling, I’ll call you tomorrow,” said the husband. This means he has another woman.
Nastya could not resist causing a scandal. And during the debriefing I learned a lot of interesting things. It turned out that he had a mistress more than a year ago. And he spent the money his wife earned on her. Moreover, last fall he went to Bulgaria for a week to relax. But it turned out that he was not resting there alone.
Of course, when the truth was revealed, the husband begged for forgiveness. However, our heroine has already seen the light. And I decided to start life from scratch. So now the traitor and ex-husband is desperately working as a security guard in a store. I had to put aside my pride, because you have to live on something. There is no more money from his wife; his mistress, with empty pockets, also doesn’t need him.
But Nastya still works hard, and hopes that she will still meet a real man who will carry her in his arms, and not waste her money with his girlfriends.
Why do you need a mistress?i
The most important thing is, of course, the satisfaction of sexual needs. And there is no need to talk about men being sexists or anything like that, since such relationships are based precisely on the fact that the pleasure is mutual. Having sex in such couples (if you can call them couples at all) is something that both people enjoy, something that people want to do with each other, and something where they can experiment.
With his mistress, a man can allow himself to realize his sexual fantasies, since he considers such relationships to be as free as possible in every sense.
And, by the way, about freedom - a woman with whom he simply sleeps is also a rest for a man, since with her a zone without responsibility is formed in his life. Considering that the modern world treats representatives of the stronger sex simply incredibly harshly, this is something that is absolutely necessary for men.
They need to know that somewhere there is a pink nest, where no one will saw their brains, from where something pink and snotty will come from time to time, and where their legs will always be spread apart in front of them. This is indeed a real dream, which many senior office employees strive for - and for which, by the way, they are willing to pay well, because the pink nest and seductive lingerie are bought with their money, this is a rule without exceptions.
The third factor that causes men to take a lover without commitment is status. Over time, the priorities of the stronger sex have shifted: if once a beautiful wife was a status accessory, today her place is taken by a beautiful mistress, since getting married before forty has become something out of the ordinary, but a man who makes a career cannot remain completely alone. maybe it’s not prestigious at all. The solution is a mistress - a girl who looks great and is always ready for sexual pleasures.
How to behave so that your husband gives gifts
- Seize the right moment!
The best moment to make a request is when a man is free from business and not burdened with problems. This method exists in the psychology of influence and is confirmed by numerous studies. Ask your husband how he feels, what his mood is. If everything is great with him, you can make a request. If a husband feels confident in himself, he will not be able to refuse his wife and not give a gift. Just don’t forget about the correct sequence of your actions, and the result will not be long in coming.
- Be like children!
If you suddenly really want something so much that it even interferes with a restful sleep, then ask for it sincerely, with all your heart, casting aside all doubts. And even if right now the husband cannot give such a gift, it means he can for the New Year, in a week or in a month! Your task is to inspire a man to achieve a feat, and he will certainly accomplish it for you!
- Believe in yourself and in your man!
“If you give me such a gift, I will be very happy. You need to wait? Okay, I’ll wait, but I’ll also be sad... Yes, I’m waiting and I’ll be sad...” Be sad for a day, a week, a month... And continue to remind your husband that he is strong, smart and will definitely be able to fulfill your request. This way you will certainly get what you want.
- Visualize!
Tell your husband about how wonderful the future will be, in which he gives you a long-awaited gift - a fur coat, a ring, a car... And the point is not at all what you dream of getting, but how beautiful and charming you are in this future next to to your lovers. “Just imagine, I’m walking in a fur coat next to you, and everyone around me understands what a wonderful and successful husband I have.” Draw him a future in which he is the envy of men and the admiration of women. Tell him how smart, capable and worthy he is. And your husband will be capable of much!
- Sufferers are not given gifts!
There is no need to ask with a suffering look, whining and wailing that you have to do everything yourself without his help. This method is completely ineffective, since it only makes men want to justify themselves and defend themselves, without taking any action.
- “Your gifts make me the happiest in the world!”
Praise your husband for every gift he gives. If a positive result is reinforced by your praise, the man will want to please you on an ongoing basis. Don’t forget: if you don’t consolidate the effect, your husband won’t have the desire to give gifts again. So express your joy with enthusiasm, because this behavior is literally an investment in your new gifts.
- Playing lawyer
The principle of “Adult-Adult” communication is one of the most effective techniques. Give an argument why you need this gift. If your argument becomes logical and understandable to your husband, then you will get what you want. If not, then you need to calm down and not be offended. There is no need to whine and lament, because adults are not offended. Instead, they are looking for new compelling arguments in their favor. And over time they are sure to be found!
Reconnaissance in force
There are men with whom relationships are simple and joyful. It is easy to ask such partners for help, because there is confidence that there will be no refusal. And there are men with whom everything is complicated and unclear. Suspecting that this is a guy who does not plan to “increase the cost of the project” through investments, a woman often does not dare to ask her partner for money.
Kuznetsova notes that this behavior of the lady is not entirely correct. She can think whatever she wants to herself and her partner, but she will never know how true her guesses are until she starts talking about money. If a man really values a woman, he will meet her halfway. And then it will be clear that their relationship is “not just sex.” But if the gentleman says something like: “Isn’t it too much for you, dear?”, we can say that the man is not too interested in the woman.
“Ask for money is a litmus test of a man’s relationship with a woman. Many of my wealthy clients, when asked whether they were ready to support a partner, always answered the same thing: “I am ready to invest in a woman if she deserves it.” At the same time, the man himself determines whether the young lady is worthy of subsidies or not,” says the psychologist.
How to ask your lover for money, 4 rules
There are at least 4 rules according to which you will be able to beg money even from a stingy lover. A mega expert and ladies' man will answer the question.
My name is Maxim Pavlovich. I have been living in the capital for almost 55 years.
Let’s agree right away: you read the article to the end.
And I will try to reduce it to the maximum possible limits.
* The main rule: You ask your lover for money not for your own needs, but for his needs.
This is a kind of trick, deception.
For clarity, here are some examples.
- Maxim, it will become much sweeter for us if we buy an aphrodisiac cream. It's a little expensive, 3,000 rubles, but a friend says it's worth it - approach your lover ingratiatingly.
By giving you money, he must have a direct benefit from it. Otherwise, he will find someone who will bare her hair for a couple of coppers, and who will also feed him hearty cabbage soup.
* To regularly ask your lover for money, write another important rule on your forehead.
He should be tied to you not only in bed, but also spiritually, morally, psychologically.
The mistake of many lies in the boredom that your languid meetings bring.
You intertwined, enjoyed, and rolled over onto your back. And then comes emptiness.
Become not only a lover, but also a devoted woman, a second wife.
Having achieved this, you will not have to ask for money. The man himself will want to provide for you.
Trust the old man, for I myself act as a lover. At 55 years old.
* Never ask for money for medicine. We don't like this.
The idea of exchanging you is immediately born in your brain. Unfortunately, the lover does not want to pay for expensive treatment.
Let your legal husband or children do this.
* Below I will give some more appeals. Take them as a model.
- Andrey, you want me to always look great. The two of us need this. I've got my eye on the perfume. The aroma will drive you crazy. So I decided to ask you for money. The husband is greedy, he will refuse one hundred percent - speak confidently, belittling his opponent.
— Gleb, I decided to go to the pool and gym. A woman should keep herself in shape. So that you can still admire me. Subscriptions cost 12,000 rubles. This is a monthly payment - present your lover with a fact, and do not beg for alms.
We love confident and well-groomed women who won’t mind spending money on.
- Marat, when I ask you for money, I know for sure that you are not a stingy person. Of course, I can get by, but if you have the opportunity to do this for free, as a sign of respect for me, I will remember this all my life. Every woman has dreams and desires. It’s a pity that you have to pay for them - repeat proudly, elevating your lover in his own eyes.
Maxim Pavlovich, a man in the prime of his life.
The material was prepared by me, Edwin Vostryakovsky.
Who do men give gifts to?
There is a pattern that men give gifts to some women, but not to others. And there are several explanations for this.
First: a woman to whom her husband gives gifts, already at the stage of acquaintance, on a subconscious level, chooses a man who is capable of giving.
Second: her behavior is structured in such a way that it is basically impossible not to give her a gift. Such a woman can dreamily look into store windows where jewelry or clothes are displayed. She will admire a chic bouquet of flowers that a girl or young man is carrying along the street. And even if her husband does not understand the hints and this method does not work, she will directly make it clear to her partner that she wants to receive a gift and that she does not need a husband who does not give gifts. At the same time, such a woman will under no circumstances demand or ask. She will simply calmly say that she can buy herself a bouquet, a handbag, and earrings, but she would like to know if her husband really doesn’t want to please her?
If a woman is, in principle, not accustomed to a man giving gifts, she will act differently, making two huge mistakes. The first is that the girl buys gifts for herself in front of her partner. She doesn't do this literally. For example, a man, coming to her home and seeing a bouquet on the table, will hear that the woman bought it herself because she wanted flowers and liked them. Declaration “I don’t need anything, I basically pay for everything myself!” - a rougher option. Since men are simple creatures, they take everything literally. If you tell your husband “I do it myself,” he will internalize this and adhere to a similar line of behavior.
The second mistake is to start nagging your husband, using phrases such as “I’ll never get a gift from you,” “everyone gives bouquets, but you’ll never bring me even one rose,” etc. From this moment on, the husband will come to the realization of two things. Firstly, that this woman is inherently a victim. Secondly, she will not get away from him, since he no longer gives her gifts, and she is still with him. He will perceive his wife’s whining as background, without listening to the words.
There is another reason for this girl’s behavior. The resentment that accumulates inside her is the only way she can express love. She is accustomed to suffering and to such a model when relationships are difficulties and deprivations.
The difference between those women whose husband gives gifts and those who are left without them is the following. A girl who will subsequently find herself without a gift will allow herself to express her desire to receive it only once. If a man does not understand that gifts are important to a particular woman, she will simply leave. She will not waste her time on such a partner, she will not beg, whine, deserve. Such a woman will not stoop to words like “and Tanka’s husband bought a fur coat”, “and they gave it to Svetka”, because this is so humiliating. She will openly make it clear what she needs. And if this particular man cannot give it to her, she will find another partner.
