How to attract the right person from a distance with the power of thought

We all dream of understanding how thoughts influence our mortal existence. It’s not for nothing that psychologists and psychics say that you need to think positively, otherwise negativity will flow like a river in life. It has long been proven that lucky and rich people use some techniques that help them to be on top. The secret of these techniques is not known to many people, otherwise everyone would get stars from the sky without much effort or attract the people they like. Is it really possible to attract a specific person with the power of thought? After all, you can’t order your heart, and we don’t always like those who reciprocate, and this is very annoying. Today we’ll talk about how you can attract a potential partner to yourself with the power of thought. Discover with us the world of subtle matters and the psychological tricks of winners in life.

Give up obsession

To solve the problem of how to make a man bored, a young lady must remember an important rule: never force yourself on men! Distance is an important condition between a man and a woman, which it is she, the representative of the weaker sex, who must establish. Unfortunately, most girls completely break this rule.

They make fun of guys day and night, shower them with love words, and invite them on a date. It is worth wisely separating your own and personal life. In addition to her loved one, a woman should have hobbies, responsibilities and other important things to do. A versatile personality looks much more interesting and desirable for men than a “faithful little dog” waiting day and night for the mercy of the “master”.

Live your life2

You yearn with all your soul for the object of your adoration to imbue you with great love and desire to be together. You want his longing and longing for your unique personality. In order for a man to experience the feeling of “lack” of his beloved next to him, he must strive every day for the following: to live his own life. Both partners should have their own social circle.

Friends, buddies, girlfriends, hanging out with acquaintances - all this is wonderful both when spending time together and separately. You shouldn’t force yourself on a man when going fishing, or prohibit him from drinking beer with friends. You should respond to his invitations in a nice and friendly manner, but at the same time think about whether his plans run counter to your plans for the evening.

If you drive more quietly, you will continue 3

To make a man miss you, you need to carefully monitor the development of the romance. A very fast start leads to a fast ending. If a guy is truly dear, you shouldn’t rush things. Let the young man seek the affection of the lady of his heart. You shouldn’t immediately run into bed with him and show all the tricks that you are capable of. Men are hunters. When they immediately get what they really want, their interest gradually wanes.

They stop appreciating and cherishing a woman whom they can quickly subjugate. Their feelings will go out without having time to really flare up. The same cannot be said about the young lady, in whom the inaccessibility of the Snow Queen and the sweet warmth of Gerda are intelligently intertwined. Any Kai would want and appreciate such a girl. He will think about her day and night, cherishing in his soul those moments when he will throw his beloved woman onto his love bed.

Scattered attention: how to collect it in a heap

Another problem that interferes with your performance is decreased concentration. There could be two reasons for this. The first is the lack of self-organization, which we have already discussed. Follow the recommendations listed above, and your attention will be restored by itself.

The second reason is the structural features of the nervous system. There is a category of people who have the so-called “childish attention”. Their time of maximum concentration does not exceed half an hour, and then their consciousness begins to wander through the vastness of space. Violence against oneself in this case does not bring results, but only tires and generates aversion to work.

How to be? The first thing you need to do is accept your peculiarity and find certain advantages in it. People suffering from attention deficit disorder are usually active, energetic, easy-going and not vindictive. It is unlikely that you will want to part with these wonderful qualities. This means that you need to try to organize the work process so as not to irritate your body.

Set time limits for work

There are two ways to organize the workflow.

1. Set a plan for the amount of work completed. For example, I can plan to finish this article by the end of the working day, no matter how long it takes. In conditions of tight deadlines, this is the only possible way.
2. Standardize the time allotted for work. In this case, I can set aside 8 hours for work with breaks for smoke and lunch and work “from bell to bell.” If I don’t finish the article by this time, I’ll finish it tomorrow.

Of course, a person does not always have a choice about how to organize the process; sometimes it depends on the specifics of the activity and the characteristics of the organization. But if you have a certain professional freedom, I advise you to use the second method. For someone with a short attention span, it is much more productive.

Calculate your duty cycle

Observe yourself - how long you can hold your attention on something specific without being distracted. Add 10 minutes to this value - this will be the unit of your working time.

Now let's calculate the time for rest. The number obtained above must be divided by 5.

Let's look at an example. You can easily keep your attention on one task for 40 minutes. 40+10=50, which means you will need to work concentratedly for 50 minutes without distractions. 50/5=10, which means every 50 minutes you will take a break for 10 minutes. The full cycle will take exactly an hour.

To find out when to take a long break of an hour, count how many cycles fit into your work day and divide by two. This is how many cycles you must complete before the break.

Do the “Echo Magnet” exercise

I borrowed this interesting method from the book of the Russian psychologist Vladimir Levi, “The Cure for Laziness.” Here is what the author writes in the preface to it:

“The work should be treated like a charming girl whom you intend to seduce. You first need to please her and tease her a little. Don't rape! Don’t work right away – no, no! – just play at work...”

The essence of the method is to remove any “need” from the work process and leave only “want”. To do this, you need to slightly deceive the consciousness, shift the emphasis. Remember Tom Sawyer's trick of painting the fence? I'll tell you in a nutshell.

One day, Tom was forced to paint a long fence as punishment for his prank. At first he wilted, estimating that he would spend the whole weekend on this, and then a brilliant idea came to his mind. He decided to portray that painting the fence is not a punishment, but a privilege available only to a select few.

At first, the boys passing by tried to tease Tom, but when they saw how gladly he did his job, they began to ask his permission to try too. Tom agreed, but in exchange for some trinket. Thus, he not only got rid of his job without any problems, but also acquired an apple, a kite and a dead rat on a string.

Did you notice how in a matter of minutes the boys’ attitude towards work changed from disgust to burning interest? So we have to do the same.

1. Sit at your desk, relax, and collect your thoughts. Turn on your computer or make other necessary preparations for work.
2. Tell yourself with a smart look: “I’m not going to work at all, not at all, I’m just going to play at work a little, pretend to be. I’ll pretend that I’m working like an animal, but I won’t do it myself.” Well, start portraying.
3. Stay in this state for a couple of minutes, and then abruptly come out of it: ufff, now you can rest. For the next few minutes, relax, walk or lie down.
4. Repeat the last 2 points 4-5 more times.

After this, according to the author, you simply cannot help but get involved in the work - it will captivate you. Works great - tested on myself!

Immerse your attention in a vacuum

When there is still a lot of work, and attention jumps back and forth, not allowing you to concentrate, send him to the isolation ward. Take a break from the task and try to do nothing for at least 5 minutes. Nothing at all - just sit and look at one point. This will seem like real torture to your ever-hungry attention, and it will wisely decide to return to work.

Enticing messages4

When a love affair breaks out between you, you can change your strategy a little. The touch-me-not should smoothly turn into a seductive cat. When a man is at work, the temptress sends her lover hot and enticing messages, mentioning what surprise awaits him in the evening when he comes home from work.

It is worth mentioning the factor that there is nothing else on your naked body except the robe. One or two such SMS can drive a man crazy, looking forward to the end of the working day. He will fly home on the wings of love and passion, and languidly yearn for his soul mate all day.

Friendship with his friends5

How to make a man miss you? To solve such a problem, it is worth making friends with his friends. When you are nice and friendly with his friends, this moment will not go unnoticed. Friends of your loved one will appreciate the woman’s friendliness and friendliness.

They will enthusiastically praise the young lady both in her presence and in her absence. Someone will certainly emphasize to the man they love how incredibly lucky he is with his passion. Such words from friends and your sweet behavior will make the guy think that he has come across an “unearthly treasure.” A reminder from friends about his other half will make him miss his girlfriend.

Seventh – tune in to the positive

Take a notebook and throughout the day write down all the thoughts about yourself that come to your mind. Once you do this exercise, you will probably be very surprised. Most likely, in your charming head you will find: doubts that the relationship can be revived; critical thoughts about yourself and others; fear that you will never have a great relationship again and the like. Continuous replaying of these images, no less than resentment, slows down your progress.

The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like. When you are afraid of something and think about something bad, this is exactly what you attract into your life. Terrible, isn't it? But you have the power to fix everything. To do this, you need to do painstaking work and replace all negative attitudes - about yourself, about him, about the world - with positive ones. Getting rid of negative thoughts is no more difficult than giving up sweets. If you really need it, everything will work out! Yes, the temptation to break will be great. But if you manage to cope with this, then life will more than thank you - you will gain superpower that will help you achieve what you want. After all, healthy thinking is the key to healthy relationships.

Sassy tongue6

No matter how good a woman is, if she is too comfortable and flexible, she will no longer be appreciated and respected. Don't forget about your personality and character. Many men are excited and worried by the behavior of a beauty who can hurt his pride, respond with an original barb and sometimes be a daring and “witty” interlocutor. It is important not to go too far, and not to humiliate a man’s dignity during quarrels.

You cannot stoop to low and disgusting insults. Especially in the presence of other people. Never joke about intimate topics. It is strictly forbidden to touch upon the size of the penis and sexual abilities of the partner during a conversation. Such topics can cause a deep wound to the soul of a lover. No hot sex with a truce will erase the burning offensive words addressed to him from memory.

How to make a married man think about you?

As they say, you can’t order your heart. And many girls fall in love with men who are already married. These young ladies are ready to do anything if only the object of their passion reciprocates. The technique for making a married person think about you is slightly different from the one used for a bachelor:

• attract attention with your appearance . Dress brightly and sexy so that the man involuntarily follows you with his eyes. You can ask if he likes your dress
• intrigue. If, when you met every day in the office, you said hello, stop doing it. The man will definitely be tormented by guesses as to why this happened. Carry with you an unusual item (pendant, office tool, clutch) that attracts attention with its appearance and raises a lot of questions.
• show interest. Smile flirtatiously as you pass by. When talking, be keenly interested in his opinion, ask questions. Show how interested you are in communicating with him, even if it’s a little boring at first.
• ask him for help. A man always feels like a hero if a lady asks to do something that she “would never be able to do”
• don't impose . Do not bombard a married man with SMS messages, gifts. Limit the number of calls, do not send greetings through friends, do not make dates. A man should want to do all this himself in relation to you.
• show skill in sex . Remember that you must be better than your wife in everything, and in sex first of all. Often a “married man” plunges into love affairs precisely for the sake of intimate variety
• cause jealousy. A man should know that he is not the center of the universe, and you may have admirers. Try to have him “accidentally” see you with a bouquet of flowers or hear how affectionately you talk to someone on the phone. Of course, you shouldn’t go too far; know how to determine the line beyond which it’s dangerous to go
• appreciate his attention - always demonstrate how valuable and important his gifts or simply the attention he bestows on you are
• be ideal, try to find out from a man what kind of woman he has always dreamed of, and become that for him

Make a man jealous
But before you use these tips, think about whether you need this man? After all, the destruction of someone else’s family, especially if there are small children, does not always lead to the desired result.

Be yourself7

To be an ideal partner for the guy you love, a girl must first of all remain herself. This applies to both external and internal qualities. You should not lighten your raven-colored curls if a man likes blondes. There is no need to get eyelash extensions or change eye color using contact lenses if your loved one prefers “blue-eyed dolls.”

You don’t need to go on exhausting diets to lose weight for the sake of a man who criticizes a woman’s curvaceous parameters. Losing weight is possible and beneficial only if you want it yourself. The same applies to character traits. A girl with increased emotionality and activity should not lock herself within four walls or make an effort to control her raging emotions.

Lovers of dancing and motorcycle racing should not take up boring knitting and embroidery. And vice versa. If your soul prefers parties to the comfort of home and reading books, you don’t need to make an effort on yourself and “change” for the sake of your partner. You must always remain yourself. This is exactly the kind of young lady that the one destined for by Fate itself will appreciate and receive.

Problems with self-organization: how to cope

A disorganized person is immediately visible - he is constantly late, always forgets something, puts things off until the last minute and generally gives the impression of a person who is always in the clouds. Do you recognize yourself?

I hasten to please you - disorganization is not a character trait that is firmly ingrained into your personality, it is rather a lack of habit of order. You are used to living in chaos and have even begun to receive some hidden benefits from it.

Let's look at ways you can develop self-organization and optimize your workflow.

Start planning

I like the planning system that Stephen Covey offers in his book “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People”, let's use it. The first step is to make a list of tasks and rank them according to importance and urgency.

Urgent	Non-urgent
Important	Critical situations. Projects with deadlines. Problems requiring immediate solutions.	Preventive actions. Search for new perspectives. Restoration of strength. Planning. Analysis of the work done.
Unimportant	Some conversations, correspondence and meetings. Upcoming urgent matters. Common activities. Solving everyday problems.	Social correspondence and meetings. Watching TV series. Surfing the Internet. An idle pastime.

We'll take one week as a planning unit, so get a weekly planner. Write down the most important and urgent things first, then the important and non-urgent, the unimportant and urgent, and finally the unimportant and non-urgent, if there is time for them. Half the battle is done, you can reward yourself with some candy!

Now all that remains is to follow the plan. At first it will be difficult and unusual, but the result will not be long in coming - already on the 2-3rd day you will feel stronger and freer.

Organize your workplace

The environment has a great influence on well-being, mood and even cognitive functions. Everyone has probably noticed that working in a mess is much more difficult. So don’t be lazy to get your workspace in order.

Stick to minimalism - the fewer distracting objects in your field of vision, the better.

If you are a freelancer and work from home, pay special attention to this point. You should not work in bed, at the kitchen table, or while sitting on the toilet. You should have a full-fledged workplace, like in an office, which will serve as a trigger that launches the work mood.

Distribute tasks correctly

Psychologists advise tackling the most difficult and important tasks first, while you have a lot of strength and attention is not dulled. Leave minor routine tasks at the end of the working day or during breaks while working on the main task.

For example, today you need to write a report and send out invitations to your partners for a presentation. Start writing a report, and in those moments when your brain begins to resist and slow down your work, be distracted by invitations. After resting, return to the report, and so on in a new circle.

Get rid of distractions

Large companies limit their employees' access to social networks for a reason. These are real time wasters - I went to like my friend’s cat, and woke up an hour later reading an article about the Higgs boson.

So if your self-discipline is poor, you will have to take drastic measures. Install the RescueTime time tracker on your computer and phone to track where the bulk of your time is flowing, and then cut off this channel by setting a ban on your provider. Cruel, but effective.

Have a productive rest

While working, we must not forget about rest. From prolonged stress, the brain gets tired and begins to work intermittently. Every 1.5-2 hours you need to give him a break.

As you know, the best rest is a change of activity. If you are a knowledge worker, do some physical activity during your breaks - do exercises, dance, take a walk in the fresh air.

Mental attraction8

How to make a man miss you from a distance is not a difficult task. Psychologists recommend using the power of thought to make your other half think about the girl. There are several interesting techniques that help create an energy channel between partners. With the first method, you need to lie on your back.

Imagine in your mind that there are invisible threads stretching between the guy and you. Along these threads, your thoughts about your loved one extend far into space, and, having made a circle, “float” in waves to the object of passion. The energy flows of the two of you unite in a lovely love dance. You need to imagine that the guy remembered you at that second. The resulting feeling of warmth and goosebumps indicates that a channel of “attraction” has formed between you. At this moment, the guy will feel an unexpected attraction to his “beloved” and your image will pop up in his head.

Psychology of the issue: thoughts as motivation for action

The law of attraction of the Universe has been proven only in theory, and whether you believe in it or not is your choice. One thing can be said: if we lie down on the sofa right now and start thinking about untold riches or a dream partner, then our desires will not materialize in the blink of an eye. A million will not fall on you from the ceiling, and your desired companion or life partner will not fall madly in love simply because you wanted it that way. For the Universe to start working for you, you need to make some efforts, and most often quite serious ones.

Psychologists strongly encourage clients to think positively. Why do these cunning specialists need positive thoughts from their charges? Do they really want to lose their income and reduce the percentage of people suffering from depression and laziness? In fact, psychologists work for results. Pleasant thoughts and dreams of a bright future are considered in psychology as motivation for achievement. For example, the desire to find a loved one and imagine him in all his colors pushes a woman to positive changes in herself. If she believes that the handsome prince is already practically in her pocket, then she herself transforms: she dresses beautifully, takes care of herself, smiles welcomingly. As a result, such changes really attract free men, one of whom becomes a life partner for a woman.

Try to connect the power of positive thoughts into your everyday life. Follow the recommendations of psychologists, but don’t sit idly by. You won’t be able to fulfill your desires or attract a person with just the power of thought, as if by magic. To do this, you need to work in all areas of self-development, including dreaming and setting yourself up for the best. Then the law of attraction of the Universe will work, and you will get what you have long dreamed of. Let's take a closer look at how to attract a handsome man or woman to you with the power of thought.

Candid photos in moderation10

There are several options on how to make a man miss you from a distance. First of all, do not bombard your lover with primitive messages in the style of: “Good morning”, “Did you eat?”, “What, did you do?”, “How are you?” Sooner or later, such communication will become entangled in a web of routine and boredom. It is better to write rarely, but accurately, so that the young man feels great longing for his beloved girl.

Candid pictures and sexy phrases are good in moderation. It will be superfluous if you get very carried away with an intimate photo shoot and start bombarding your chosen one with your nudes every day. Soon they will cease to please and surprise him. From time to time you can call each other and do some virtual work if the atmosphere is right. But you shouldn’t increase the frequency of virtual meetings and phone calls. For a man to miss a woman, he needs to feel how much he misses her!

Motivation

Willpower is, of course, good and effective, but it contradicts the person himself. Well, your inner self doesn’t want to do anything, it needs to have fun, relax, communicate with family and friends like in childhood!

If there was a “power of motivation” when you push, push, and are now charged into action, it would be just wonderful. Unfortunately, it is not. Motivation is something that comes, and even the most effective techniques sometimes don’t work.

However, here are some things you can do to motivate yourself to take action:

• Think about your friends and understand that if you do something, you will beat them and increase your chances of success. And they will remain standing in place
• Find a competitor among friends or colleagues in order to arouse the desire to defeat him
• Listen to your favorite music, watch a motivating film or video - there is a huge amount of this on the Internet.
• Finally, take responsibility for your entire life. Understand that everything that happens to you is the result of your actions in the past and present
• Stop blaming others for your failures and inaction, take an oar and start rowing yourself
• Realize that daily behavior becomes a habit. If you get into the habit of choosing work over laziness, it will be easier next time. Just as a huge country is formed by individual people, life is created by certain actions. Therefore, with every choice to work, you strengthen your strength and motivation for further achievements.
• At the beginning of work, tell yourself: I will do this as long as necessary. If it's day, then day. If it's a year, then a year. This will immediately set you up for long-term work without unnecessary disappointments.
• And finally, remember (even though it’s difficult) about the time allotted to us. Ask yourself: “What will I remember on my deathbed? How was I lying on the sofa? How did I give up? How afraid I was to take risks and show emotions? No, this is not about me!”

Open gradually11

How to make the man you love very much miss? First of all, a woman should not be an “open book” for her partner. You shouldn't tell your loved one about everything that's going on in your head. With each event, you can surprise and delight your partner with unexpected talents: sing a song in a karaoke bar with rehearsed vocals; recite a love poem written as a teenager during a romantic dinner.

Let the man understand that in front of him is an amazing woman who impresses him more and more every time. Try to improve and reveal your inner talents. This way you will make yourself happy too

Sincerity and understanding12

There is no need to be cunning with a man, to deceive his hopes. Whatever happens, always be sincere and honest with your partner. Listen to his stories with interest and enthusiasm, provide support and patience in any situation. When a man finds understanding and sincere interest in his partner, he will understand that in her person he has acquired a kindred spirit, which he is afraid of losing and “missing.” He will cherish and appreciate more strongly the woman in whom his soul resonates.

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A man likes to see how the girl he loves is jealous of him, but only until her cute little hands grab his Adam’s apple. A self-confident young lady will not descend to hysterical clarifications: “Who is that goat you said hello to?!” Value and respect yourself. Analyze the situation, feelings and behavior of the chosen one. Excessive jealousy kills relationships and feminine charm.

Especially disgusting are female actions, during which a young lady fumbles through her man’s phone and tracks his likes on social networks. Even if your beloved has gone too far in communicating with the opposite sex, you should not rush at the “victim in a skirt” with the Indian shouting: “He’s mine!” A woman with wild manners does not inspire the approval of those around her and her man. Your intense jealousy will torment the guy and bring a sad end to the relationship.

How to make a man miss you?

Hello my readers.
I see how you change and I rejoice with you.

I see how you merge and I compress my lips in righteous anger.

There are many of you, you are divided into those who have everything great, those who have cool problems. And to those who are still dumb.

But despite this, I still adore you all. So I look at this damn world, at the girls who scurry around the streets, to whom the word “development” is alien, and I think. My readers are still cool against the backdrop of this “normal” world.

Although you still have to work on yourself, I will write another article, which I think will be interesting to you.

I’ll give you and myself some work to do. Have a nice job that will give us all great, mmmmmmm, pleasure...

I remember how, unexpectedly for myself, I lied to one girl. This moment is ingrained in my brain, I can’t help but remember it.

She called when I was wildly late for something. And she asked, “Did you miss me?”

I said as I walked: “Yes, of course!”

But I thought differently. More precisely, I thought about it. “Hmm, I really don’t miss her, even though we haven’t seen her for a week, does that mean I don’t care about her?”

Can you guess what answer you gave yourself?

For reference. We never met again. I met her a couple of months later by chance, and with a casual “Hello!”, I rushed past her. Past the one with whom I fell asleep in an embrace. Past the one I carried in my arms. Past the one to whom I gave flowers, and to whom I prepared breakfast. Past the one I loved to kiss so much...

Boredom kills love.

Boredom is such a bitch. Boredom, or rather, still that bitch in love!

If in ordinary, everyday life, in some ordinary affairs, boredom can be present, then in a relationship it’s fucked up. I'm telling you right away!

I am intentionally driving this system into your thinking so that you now begin to think beautifully, doing and living, seducing and loving in such a way that you will still be missed.

And then you won’t need to call your boyfriend and pester him with rotten questions that only cause contempt: “Did you miss me? Well, tell me, did you miss me? I missed you, and you?”

I am setting myself a task right now, my goal is to write such an article that you will be missed. So that you are a bright spot in a man’s memory, and not an ordinary gray temporary addition to his life. Thus, I push myself into writing a useful article. Let it be my responsibility.

As you and I already know, relationships themselves carry the danger of separation due to the fact that everything in a relationship should be serious, so the game is important. And if there is a place for boredom in a game, then it is no longer a game. It's finished... Sign it. Get it.

What am I leading you to?

Male boredom

Besides, all the shitty things begin when a man starts to get bored with you. MISSING YOU IS THE ULTIMATE EQUALITY OF NOT MISSING YOU. Take a piece of paper and write this axiom so that it becomes more tangible and at least means something to you.

Or the original rotten thing will ruin your future relationship. And it’s only a matter of time before they get fucked.

A man learns from his youth with his father, then develops in games with friends, playing hierarchy. Then he seduces girls, then he seduces the girl for a long time. Then she nurses the children, gets food, protects the female from other males, animals and from external dangers. He sets up a cave, maintains his status in the pack, and hones his skills in his craft. And then he dies in battle or from hunger. Or from illness.

This has been the case for several tens of thousands of years.

A man should always be in the process of conquest, subjugation, ascension, extraction. Then he's interested. Until he understands the world, until he has revealed its essence, he is interested.

But in the modern world everything is done very quickly and simply. There is a lot of free time. The world has really changed, everything has not gone the way it should have gone.

We live in a concrete jungle. Everything is under our noses, so we are simply bored with life.

And let’s take an ordinary, average god, whose eggs you pray to every day.

He does truly great things. He sits at the computer all day, goes to his job every day, and goes out somewhere on the weekends.

This superman, this unique creature lives the same way as most guys like him. It’s just that his great pestle touched your petal, and now he is clearly in a different position... with the title of the strongest, the greatest.

And so he lives an ordinary life.

And he gets bored. Yes, my dear! The gods sometimes get bored and crush pimples.

And you want him to be bored and associate his boredom with you. To think about you. He remembered your lips and eyelashes, and a stingy male tear flowed down his callous male face...

How to do it?

Losing a loved one instantly13

There is no need to create unnecessary illusions when you are in a relationship with a man. Girls often make the mistake of thinking that a man has fallen for her like a snotty boy and won’t go anywhere now. If a woman changes her attitude towards a man, towards herself and begins to stoop to low actions, the wonderful state of a guy’s love will disappear without a trace.

He will stop building relationships with someone who, instead of delight, will begin to cause irritation and annoyance. Little by little his affection and passion will weaken, and the man will begin to avoid her. To avoid such a tragedy, learn to behave with dignity.

Just the thought that it is time to go to work causes a sea of ​​negativity in the vast majority. After all, you need to get up early and often travel a long way to find yourself at a boring job. Then there are endless hours of routine actions that you simply don’t have the strength to do. What if the boss is also crazy? Then work becomes completely hateful. Every day is hard labor, when you just wait for the needle to reach the cherished number and you can run away home.

But living in such constant tension is impossible. By forcing ourselves to go to work every day, we only expose our body to prolonged stress, and this leads to illness, poor health and problems in our personal lives. And no career growth. Who will promote a person who goes to work in agony and looks like a boiled vegetable because of it?

Of course, the best solution to this problem would be to change your job to your favorite one. Then you will definitely fly there like inspired. But what if you have already found your dream job, but have no desire to go there? I want to pamper myself in bed, or something has gone wrong in my relationships with colleagues. There are some tricks with which you can not only force yourself to go to work, but perhaps also fall in love.

How to force yourself to go to work? The most common reason why we don’t want to go to work is physical fatigue. To avoid it, follow a daily routine.

Healthy sleep So that the alarm clock does not irritate you, but easily wakes you up, you need to get enough sleep. Go to bed and get up at the same time. Get enough sleep. Typically, an adult needs about 6 hours a day. For some this is not enough, but for others it is a lot, so choose the amount of sleep that does not leave you feeling groggy.

Experiencing chronic sleep deprivation, it is difficult to force yourself to do something. Moreover, go to work.

Getting up on schedule It's unpleasant to go to work when you're getting ready in a hurry. You haven’t really woken up yet, you get dressed, eat a sandwich on the go (if you’re lucky) and run headlong to work. And then you also get a reprimand. The picture is not pleasant, and will bring nothing but anger. Train yourself to get up at the same time an hour before leaving home (not an hour before work!). Then the body will have time to wake up, and you will have time to complete all the morning procedures. And go to work in a good mood.

Contrast shower A contrast shower is a great way to chase away sleep and tone the body. Take it for at least 5 minutes, alternating hot water with cool (but not ice-cold) water. In addition, it has a wonderful effect on the skin, making it elastic and firm.

Good nutrition Any activity, be it mental or physical, requires a certain amount of energy. Where can the body get it if not in food? Therefore, it must have sufficient calorie content and high saturation with essential elements. Don't take it easy when it comes to eating. Think over your diet, because your well-being and vitality depend on it. • Include fresh fruits that are rich in vitamins and fiber. • Breakfast is a must. • Never skip your lunch break. • Don't eat fast food. It is difficult to work with a heavy stomach.

Rest You can go to work with ease only when you have a full rest. This provides a change of activity and gets rid of a depressing routine. Therefore, always rest, no matter how much work you have to do. • Always take your lunch break. • Try not to stay late at work.

Rest can be both active and passive. Both types provide a change of activity and relax after a hard day.

Active and creative: • playing sports (both independently and in fitness centers); • clubs (dance, theater etc.); • hobby (when you create something, for example, write stories or pictures).

Passive (relaxing): • short sleep after work; • aromatherapy; • relaxing bath; • watching a movie or listening to music

It is advisable to use both active and passive types of recreation, alternating them. Then the question will not arise: “Where can I get the strength to go to work?”

Also, do not forget to take vacation, it is necessary after a long working period. Don't try to show that you are a super-worker who may not even rest. As the saying goes: “You can’t earn all the money.”

Work schedule For one person it is easier to work two days for twelve hours and two to rest, for another it is a week. Some people get up early in the morning, while others are active at night. It is difficult for a “lark” to work night shifts. They have to sleep during the day, which is very difficult for them. There appears to be a certain imbalance: they are unusually active while working at night, but spend weekends as usual. Such fluctuations lead to mental stress and have a bad effect on health. The same situation is with the “owls”. Therefore, work according to your biorhythms, then you will not experience difficulties. Nowadays, in almost all areas of activity you can choose a suitable schedule.

Reluctance to go to work can be caused by other reasons not related to loss of strength.

Boredom Any activity should carry at least a drop of positivity, even the most serious work. Who would want to go to a place where boredom hovers and gloomy colleagues sit? Unless it's an evil bore. Try to make the work environment as fun as possible. • Make jokes when appropriate. Even if the work involves visitors, do it in their absence. • Make it a rule to celebrate birthdays. Hang up posters and give small gifts. This will bring you closer to your colleagues. It’s more pleasant to go to work knowing that there are pleasant people there to talk to. • Informal communication. Organize corporate parties, sometimes go to the movies after work. For example, my colleagues and I visited a cafe, or we were visiting someone.

Weak willpower If a person has weak willpower, then it is difficult for him to start any business, be it washing dishes or cooking. It's even harder to force yourself to go to work. Therefore, if this is your case, develop willpower (you can read about how to develop it in the corresponding blog article).

The realization that work is useful You don’t want to go to work that seems useless and meaningless. But in any work you can find a purpose. For example, even by posting advertisements, you present people with information that someone may have been looking for for a long time.

Once upon a time, after my first incomplete education, I got a job in a bakery. Every day was difficult, I did not see the point in the same everyday actions. You could say I practically hated her. Until a friend asked what I was doing and replied, “Wow, great! You bake bread for people!” Only then did I think about it and realized that this was really not a bad job at all. I became friends with my colleagues and worked there for quite a long time.

Motivation Setting a goal for most is the best way to force yourself to work. Come up with your motivation: gain experience, earn money for a trip or a new thing. It's easy to go to work when you know why you're going.

Relationships with colleagues Sometimes work can become a “wolf’s den” when relationships with colleagues do not work out. Try to create a welcoming atmosphere by using a few tips. • Be polite and friendly. Always say hello and goodbye to everyone, take an interest in business. • Do not distinguish between “good” and “bad,” especially based on first impressions. • If you have free time, do not refuse help. Then at the right moment they will help you too. • Be neutral and do not take sides in disputes. • If a conflict happens to you, try with all your might to resolve it. Declare your intention to your colleague, say that you do not want to spoil the relationship.

Arrange your workplace If your job requires a desk, arrange it. Place original souvenirs, photographs of loved ones or a compact flower in a bowl. This will defuse the work environment and will always remind you of something pleasant.

Change your attitude towards work Think maybe work isn't so bad after all? Maybe your salary is far from small, but you’re just wasting money? The boss may not be evil and heartless, but the nagging may be significant and to the point. Look at it differently, then the desire to go to work will appear.

Every job has its advantages, you just need to find them. Do what you like, maintain a daily routine, build relationships with colleagues, and then the search for strength and the desire to go to work will become unnecessary.

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Rules of the ideal woman14

So, how to make a man miss a woman? It is important to remember a few main points:

• Don't be intrusive.
• Separate your own and personal life.
• Do not bother with annoying calls and messages.
• Be welcoming and friendly with the man's friends.
• Radiate sincerity, good nature, warmth and understanding. Listen to your loved one with interest.
• Don't be a convenient simpleton.
• Show a "brash disposition" from time to time
• From a distance, entice your lover with passionate messages, but do not go too far.

To conquer a man, a woman must love and appreciate herself. Then representatives of the opposite sex will also appreciate an interesting, worthy girl.

How to mentally force: proven techniques

There are several alternative methods for interacting subconscious minds at a distance. Basic:

1. Punching. This method is aimed at suppressing the individual’s own priorities and instilling his own. It's better to note it right away. Controlling the brain remotely is difficult and unsafe.
2. Manipulation. An impeccable option for mastering the consciousness of another person. The point is a temporary transformation into a counterpart. People are weak to outside attention. They feel this intuitively. The guy/girl will feel mental waves. Therefore, against his will, he will reach out and want to connect.

To force means to subordinate to one's will. You can use a whip (push). But it’s more profitable to use carrots to lure, outwit, and disarm with mental affection. We will analyze the second option in detail.

You need to mentally call those you know. Attempts to influence media figures are fraught. Remember that popular personalities always put up magical protection. It will fly in such a way that it won’t seem small.

Basic conditions:

1. Personal acquaintance. If you have never communicated, then postpone the idea until more favorable times. The exception is the desire to make a guy fall in love with you, who is difficult to get close to. Observe it carefully, take a photo, shoot a video.
2. The object has your contact details (phone number, email, social networks). Otherwise, where will you call or send a message?
3. Being alone. Even turn off your mobile phone for the duration of exposure. You can't be distracted by irritants. Even remove your cat or dog to another room.