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Good day to everyone who stopped by to visit. Friends, today we are waiting for a real spring cleaning. And we will clean up not just anywhere, but in our heads! Wondering how to clear your head of unnecessary thoughts? How to determine what is needed and what is not needed? What to throw away? And what should we cherish and “put in a place of honor”? And can you imagine how much space will be freed up for something good, bright and useful? Well, I'm kidding! I'm sure all my friends are kind and wise enough. Therefore, I’m waiting for your advice on how you deal with unnecessary thoughts.
Negative thoughts
Bad thoughts in a person’s head are one of the signs of an unstable mental state. This includes events that happened recently, or unfounded fears that haunt and disturb the soul. Unnecessary thoughts have one difference - they are intrusive. People try to think positive thoughts, but they fail.
Scientists have proven that thoughts are material. What a person fixes his attention on is what he is attracted to. This is the main reason why it is necessary not to take bad thoughts into your head. But, unfortunately, not everyone adheres to this rule.
Wording on paper
Psychologists also recommend putting all your bad thoughts on paper. They need to be written down in detail, in all colors and details. The more often we formulate experiences, the less often we return to them. This means they will bother you less and less. Bad thoughts written down on paper should be considered a completed stage, so the piece of paper can be torn or burned.
Sometimes it is more effective not to destroy records. In some situations, it is better to fill out two columns on the sheet - negative and positive thoughts, so that you can compare them later. The first records negative experiences. And in the second - pleasant. It could also be some positive attitudes. For example, “I am smart”, “I do a good job”, “I am a wonderful wife” and so on.
You can write down only your good qualities on paper and place it in a visible place (on your desk or in the bathroom). As soon as bad thoughts appear, immediately look at this list to remind yourself of the good.
The influence of negative thoughts
In a depressed state, a person refuses the future, while creating events that turn into reality. Thoughts about bad things make him suspicious and unsure of himself. Constant stress and fears prevent you from developing.
Negative thoughts have a negative impact not only on your mental state, but also on your health. Constant tension has a bad effect on the condition of the body as a whole. After a certain period, such thoughts turn a person into a depressed, nervous, irritable person. This does not happen without consequences. Because very soon such a condition can turn into a pathology, which will be very difficult to combat. Due to worries, headaches appear, a hypertensive crisis, and a stomach ulcer develop. Scientists have determined that obsessive thoughts lead to the formation of cancer cells. Therefore, experts strongly recommend that everyone not take the bad into their heads.
A person is considered abnormal if he or she is depressed for more than two weeks. Then life loses its meaning, gray days begin. Monotony and daily routine affect your mood.
Adoption
Not all problems can be solved; sometimes nothing depends on the person. For example, a relative or friend is hospitalized and is fighting for his life. In such a situation, it is quite normal to worry. The solution is to accept negative thoughts. You need to realize what you are actually experiencing, and there is nothing unusual about it.
Are bad thoughts creeping into your head? Accept them and live with them. But you don’t need to give them free rein, otherwise they will take over the behavior. It is better to observe negative messages from the outside, without subsequent reaction to them. The essence of this technique is action, not savoring thoughts. So do everything you can and leave the rest to chance.
Causes of negative thoughts
So how to get unnecessary thoughts out of your head? You need to start by analyzing situations and determining the reasons for their occurrence.
The most well-known reasons may be:
- Character traits. Many people have had this mood since childhood. This remains a habit in the future. Such people are called complainers. They engage in soul-searching and become pessimists, looking at the world in gray. Sensitive people take everything to heart because of their nature. They constantly replay the events that happened in their heads.
- Low self-esteem. Flaws in appearance, psychological reasons or other deviations are the cause of insecurity. People focus on their shortcomings, and it seems to them that everyone around them sees their defects, and they cannot relax. Low self-esteem also occurs in people with an attractive appearance; the reason for this development is reproaches and condemnation from others.
- Negative experience. Unpleasant situations (eg violence) can also affect the psyche and thinking. People have a fear that this could happen again in the future.
- Suspiciousness. This type of character manifests itself in constant vigilance and fear. The basis for such behavior is a book, a movie, or a news story read. Such people have a delusion of persecution.
- Inability to make a decision. It manifests itself in people who cannot decide what they want. That is, they doubt their choice.
- Environment. The people around us very often convince us that everything is very bad, they impose their opinions, while criticizing everything around us. In such cases, people develop complexes and fear of the future.
- Loneliness. Many people in our society are very lonely, they need care, love, attention. Elderly people most often find themselves in this situation and have nowhere to look for support.
- A difficult situation during which certain events occurred (quarrel, divorce, accident with a loved one). In such cases, you should not become depressed and withdraw into yourself. In such a case, you need to think about the good.
Positive social circle
Pay attention to what kind of people surround you. Think about whether among your acquaintances and friends there are those who evoke negative thoughts. If you count even a few such people, then you shouldn’t blame yourself and upset yourself even more. Whatever the true reason for the behavior, relationships with these people are harmful to mental health. Experts recommend temporarily avoiding these individuals. If during this period your mood and well-being have improved, then it will be better to end the relationship with them.
You should not stick with people who constantly insult, ridicule, or disrespect your hobbies and time. It’s better that you have one friend, but a positive one, and you don’t have to think about how to remove bad thoughts. Cheerful people always bring back good memories, lift your spirits and charge you with positive energy.
There are also universal methods that perfectly help cope with bad thoughts. Psychologists also recommend actively using them. They bring feelings into balance in cases of mild anxiety, and in more complex cases they only enhance the effect of the above techniques. Their main mechanism is distraction. Perhaps these methods will be familiar to many from personal practice.
Look fear in the eyes
Certain anxiety has a source. It should be found in order to understand what needs to be done next. Especially often, negative situations from the past prevent us from living. At the same time, a person experiences guilt, constantly worrying.
How to get rid of unnecessary thoughts from your head? A person needs to look at things rationally and comprehend: can this happen in reality or is it just a wild imagination? In order to assess the situation, you need to write down all the negative thoughts on a piece of paper. This method will help you look your fears in the eye. Then you should begin to get rid of bad thoughts.
Reduction to the Absurd
You can try the completely opposite technique. On the contrary, you need to completely immerse yourself in bad thoughts and consider what bad things could happen as a result. It is most effective to imagine the most ridiculous, absurd situations. Use your imagination, use exaggeration, make your thoughts vivid.
For example, you need to pass an important interview. It is clear that many people have bad thoughts at such moments. Imagine in vivid colors what kind of failure might await you. The head of the HR department, as soon as he sees your resume, starts screaming loudly and throwing tomatoes. You decide to escape such shame and run out of the office. But then the cleaning lady throws a wet rag at you because you trampled the entire floor. Out of surprise, you fall, get up and run again. And then you are kidnapped by aliens and taken to another planet.
Absurd, isn't it? But it is precisely this kind of exaggeration that takes away the power of negative thoughts. You just have to try it to be convinced of the effectiveness of the technique.
Sports and hobbies
If you are thinking about how to get rid of unnecessary thoughts from your head, then know that playing sports will help you in this matter. After all, sports exercises produce the hormone of joy - endorphin. In addition, they also have a great effect on the physical and psychological state. And exercise in the morning is a step towards recovery.
If there are unnecessary thoughts, a person needs to develop - find a new hobby. This will give you cheerfulness and help add good emotions. This includes painting, embroidery, beadwork, macrame, swimming, diving and other hobbies.
Positive music
Scientific research has proven that you can drown out bad thoughts with the help of a pleasant melody. Therefore, determine for yourself the best music channel or wave on the radio, and also create a playlist of positive songs in your gadget. As soon as you feel that disturbing thoughts are penetrating your consciousness, turn on loud music and cheer yourself up.
Make pauses in conversation with an ill-wisher
You should also hesitate during a conversation with a person who annoys you in order to cool down a little and look at everything said differently. The less said, the less you will have to regret. After all, after some time, the anger will pass. Very often we do a lot of stupid things that we later regret. In this case, there is no need to rush. Finding someone to blame or blaming oneself in rare cases leads to constructive solutions. In such cases, you should resign yourself and look for a way out of this situation.
No matter what happened, you need to remember that anger is the biggest problem. In this case, you need to do some calming activity - meditation, walk, physical exercise.
Proper nutrition
It is drinking and food that give us the resources and strength to exist. An unbalanced diet, hunger or lack of fluid depletes the body and leads to fatigue. It is she who creates the conditions for worry even about a minor matter. Therefore, it is important to eat healthy food and drink healthy drinks (fresh drinks, freshly squeezed juices, compotes, green tea and clean water). In moments of sadness, you should treat yourself to food antidepressants: chocolate, raisins, bananas, hazelnuts and whatever you like. Psychologists say that delicious food also drives away bad thoughts.
Adviсe
Some more recommendations for those struggling with negativity:
- You need to understand that thoughts are not reality. They must be perceived separately from reality.
- Remembering the past, very often we relive those events and emotions in which something could have been changed. But this is unrealistic. What is done is done.
- It is also worth meeting other people - this will help take your mind off unnecessary thoughts.
- You need to listen to positive music.
- Religious people should also turn to God using prayers. Because sincere appeal will become a defense in the fight against the negativity living in us.
Physical exercise
Sport is an excellent way to get rid of bad thoughts. Physical activity relieves adrenaline, unloads the nervous system, and therefore relieves stress well. In addition, with regular exercise, a beautiful, toned body will be a pleasant bonus. Such psychological relief, combined with awareness of one’s attractiveness, increases self-confidence and reduces the number of reasons for concern. Just don't overload yourself. We must not forget about moderation and proper rest, so as not to leave room for negative experiences.
