How to understand whether a man needs you or is indifferent? A test to find out if the guy you're talking to is interested in you, or if you just need a bed, and also about long-distance love

How can you understand on the first date that all he wants from you is sex? This is quite easy if you “monitor” the young man according to our list of signs.

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“Men only want one thing,” says the famous cliché. And yes, yes, of course, we know that not all men only want sex, and we agree that men even have a soul, a desire to love and build a nest. However, in this article we’ll talk about those men who start relationships just to get screwed.

Have you noticed that half of these signs are about your boyfriend? Well, you shouldn't make big plans for him.

Indifference or deep feelings?

The man you are communicating with can say anything. Many people can do this very beautifully and convincingly. And if you just ask, the answer may be the most promising if the man benefits from a relationship with you. Therefore, you need to take a close look at your partner’s behavior and actions.

Everyone can show their attitude in different ways, and women are not all the same - each relationship story is unique in its own way. But there are some signs by which you can understand a man’s real desires.

Here are a few features of a guy’s behavior that indicate the seriousness of his intentions:

Showing good manners towards you. Cultural behavior characterizes a man as a well-mannered person, and an invariably respectful attitude towards you, like a real lady, indicates a serious attitude. A person in love is very attentive, inclined to notice the slightest changes in your appearance, and give sincere compliments on time.
An affectionate attitude and a lot of tenderness also indicate the presence of reverent feelings. This is how a man behaves when he truly values a woman.
Often gives gifts. This is a sign that your partner is trying to win you over. This means that in his eyes you are worth it.
He takes your point of view seriously. Yes, he may not agree with you. But at the same time he does it your way.
A man becomes better in his relationship with you. He found a better paying job or began to smoke less, began to dress stylishly, etc. These are all signs that you have become his muse. He wants to be better for you.

If a man gives expensive gifts, most likely he is not indifferent to you.
If your current partner does not value you or the relationship with you, then you will encounter the following actions:

Makes appointments only when and where it is convenient for him, your interests are not taken into account;
May not show up for a date, forget about it, or cancel at the last minute. And these are not isolated cases;
Doesn't introduce you to friends or relatives. Usually you only meet in private. Joint trips with his friends to the skating rink or to the cinema are from the realm of fantasy. He is not interested in your friends and relatives either;
He gives compliments, but they are insincere, for show. Profanity and rudeness in your presence are quite normal for him. This can be ignored unless your speech also sounds like a lady's.
He often doesn't like your behavior or outfit. There are many things that irritate him about you, which leads to frequent quarrels;
How much attention a man pays to you is also an important indicator. If your meetings are only for sex, then it’s clear what he needs. The consumer attitude is evident.

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Several ways to check his feelings

You need to take into account the bias of your own perception and analyze the situation critically. It is better to trust not so much the words and small charming gestures of your loved one, but rather his actions. To make sure your partner cares:

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they ask you to change your plans a little (regular whims, demands only make them more distant);
ask for help (an indifferent partner is too lazy to help his chosen one, he cannot hide his annoyance);
dress comfortably, do not try to look perfect (if a man likes the natural appearance of his companion, it means he loves);
reveal a secret, “strangeness” (if the chosen one reacts calmly, then this will bring them closer and make the relationship more comfortable);
unexpectedly show tenderness (if his reaction is positive, he will take the initiative, which means he is enjoying the relationship).

Signs that a guy just wants bed

As we have already understood, a man can be with a woman only because his needs are satisfied. An important place here, of course, is given to sex.

Let's look at a number of signs in a man's behavior that indicate this:

When meeting friends and acquaintances by chance, your partner introduces you as “acquaintance” or “girlfriend.” If he had serious plans for you, things would be different.
If after a night out a man tries to get you out of the house quickly, tries to hide the traces of you being with him, it’s not just like that.
After sex, your partner turns from an ardent lover into an icicle, then he is deeply indifferent to you. If there is love, then there will be time for conversation, hugs.
He even gives compliments in one direction: about your breasts, legs and the rest of your “appetites”.
You know nothing about his family, friends, work. He speaks to himself only on intimate topics. Your troubles and problems, feelings and emotions are not interesting to him at all.

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Psychology of relationships between men and women

Man's love is a more complex feeling than a woman's love for her loved one. A woman is able to devote all of herself, all her affairs, worries and work just to be close to her loved one and feel his love. Naturally, any woman expects just such love in return from her boyfriend. But it is necessary to understand and know that men are a completely different type of personality with a sharply different psychology from women’s. Men's love is fundamentally different from women's.

So, how do you understand what a man cares about?

that his plans and desires for your relationship are not limited to a couple of meetings? Often, male love is expressed not only in passionate kisses, surprises, gifts and public statements about his feelings.

Men, in turn, most often try to show their love through the desire to provide for their beloved woman and the desire to protect the lady of their heart. A loving young man will always worry about you and try to protect you from all troubles; will meet you if you return from somewhere at a late time. A man who clearly cares about you always tries to help in some matter; in a difficult situation, he always lends his shoulder and becomes a good support. In addition, the young man will definitely introduce his passion to his close people. But you shouldn’t take the usual invitation to visit a guy’s parents too literally - it’s quite possible that a loving mother simply insisted on finally seeing the one her son was dating. Don't expect a marriage proposal right after an evening spent with your parents. It’s a completely different matter when a young man expresses a desire to introduce you to his best and closest friends. This step on the part of the guy is quite significant - it means that he is proud of you, considers himself very lucky to have you and wants to show you off among people he trusts and values their opinion.

Also, if you notice that when talking about your future, a young man often uses “we” much more often than “I,” then this means that he is planning a lot and wants to spend his whole life with you. If a guy is very eager to discuss what kind of house you would like to live in, or starts a conversation about how many children you would like to raise, he definitely considers you the best find of his life. You can safely force a guy to marry you if he shows this type of interest. But if a young man constantly avoids talking about children or home, answering in monosyllables - “I don’t know”, “I haven’t thought about it”, “We’ll talk about it another time”, then he is clearly not planning your future together. In this case, give him time to sort out his feelings and after the allotted time has passed, try to talk about these topics again.

How to understand that a guy likes you? This question torments many. But the answer is quite simple - a truly loving man always shows care, a desire to provide and makes plans for a happy life together.

Is there love at a distance?

Relationships can exist at a distance. Or so it seems. For example, you met at a resort or on a business trip, you maintain contact by phone or on social networks. Sometimes with such communication it is difficult to understand whether a man needs you.

Or he had to move to another city for work, study or service. It's hard to maintain the same vibrant relationships as before.

Try to understand who initiates the contact: he calls first or you, what you talk about, how often you correspond and call each other.

Your relationship has no future if:

he is not interested in sharing the events of his life;
he is in no hurry to use any free minute to talk with you;
you initiate contacts;
he often doesn’t pick up the phone or respond to messages, justifying this behavior by being busy.

How to properly explain to a man that you need him

If it is difficult to simply voice feelings and thoughts in their raw form, you can express them through affection, support, and praise. The chosen one will appreciate this and confirm his guesses when he looks closely at the looks and listens to the intonations. In love, body language is more important than speech. For a guy to understand a girl’s feelings, she should:

Be affectionate: listen carefully, smile gently, hug.
If you notice his bad mood, support him. Your loved one will see that he is needed.
Offer help.
Be interested in hobbies. You can further study a topic that the guy cares about and surprise him with your awareness.
Constantly providing help may seem like a hint of weakness in a guy. It is advisable to ask him for feasible services. He will be proud to show his skills, it will flatter him.
To compliment.
Make a surprise, a small but important gift. You can choose a book, comic book, or paraphernalia that matches his interests.
Ask his opinion about something.
Avoid drama. In this phase there are no obligations yet, so it is better to refrain from any negativity and not overload with difficult experiences.
Be grateful even for the little things.
Be spontaneous. It captivates and brings unpredictability into communication. It is necessary to offer unexpected funny ideas for walks and entertainment (but not shock).
Send a message. There is no need to doubt. It is in correspondence that it is easier to take the first steps.

To understand a man’s feelings and intentions, you should listen to the voice of intuition. Most of the advice is already in your head and heart. Information from various resources will remind you of what is known and will help you approach the issue rationally.

How important is sex for women?

In the fairer sex, sexual desire is determined by hormonal fluctuations, age, and emotional state. Thanks to this, women can, to a certain extent, do without sex. However, sexuality and sex are an integral part of the human psyche and interpersonal relationships. Full intimacy is important for women's health, as it is the prevention of gynecological and oncological diseases.

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In addition, sex has a beneficial effect on the overall well-being of the female body thanks to oxytocin - the love hormone, which is not only responsible for emotional attachment, but also helps to better cope with stressful situations. Also, regular sex helps increase the level of immunoglobulin A. These antibodies protect against the penetration of respiratory viruses into the body.

The main causes of male sexual desire

Don't think that all men only want sex. Intimate relationships play a big role, but far from the main one. But sometimes on the path of life you may meet representatives of the stronger sex who are interested exclusively in an intimate relationship. These guys have only one desire: to get you into bed. Why is this happening?

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Sex without courtship

If you initially jumped into bed with a man, although he did nothing for this, then this fact will be deposited in his subconscious. For example, a serious relationship will not work if, after meeting you for the first time at a party, you go to a guy’s place to have sex. You are an easy target. Why do anything when you can get you into bed just by buying a couple of martinis at a nightclub? Being in such a relationship, you may not even dream of flowers, surprises, dates, going to the cinema or restaurant, or gifts. They will call you only for sex.

Sex without commitment

Some men only have sex with girls and do not enter into serious relationships because they do not want to start a family. For them, a wife is a burden, problems, everyday life, worries. The guy does not want to lose his freedom, since he is completely satisfied with the life of a bachelor. Such a partner can give flowers, take you to a cafe or spend a weekend together. But he won’t allow you to leave even a toothbrush in his apartment, if he even lets you in there.

Meetings will take place at your place or in a hotel, and even spending the night in the same bed with him will be rare.

Sex is like lust

Another option is that the guy wants you, he likes you, but only as a sexual partner. For example, he is not satisfied with your domineering character, your manner of housekeeping, or your attitude towards him. He expects different behavior from his wife - complaisance, neatness, thriftiness, tenderness, but you don’t want to change. But sex suits him, so he will call you again and again, dreaming of spending another magical night in your arms.

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Behavior of married men

Coldness can be intentional and used for conspiracy: postponing meetings or relationships due to difficulties in the family or children. In this case, it is more difficult to determine the seriousness of intentions.

Even if a man is married, he will devote time to communication and will look for opportunities to take part in your life. If he is not able to open relationships to others - go to restaurants and movies, then at least he can send flowers or arrange a romantic date outside the city. He will not refuse to discuss a future together if he decides to get a divorce. Conversations about home, car, children, business are positive signs.

He will not hide the date of the divorce. A man will not talk about a more suitable time for a relationship: when the children grow up, when the mother gets sick, or when the loan is paid off. And it's okay if you think together about how to break the news to his wife.