Why you're unlucky in love and how to fix itUnlucky in love and how to deal with it

Good day, my dear readers, Oksana Manoilo is with you and the topic is why you have no luck in your personal life with men? In this article we will talk about exactly this. It’s spring outside, the birds are chirping, and more and more people began to turn to me for help regarding their personal lives. So I decided to tell you something about this today. Provide practices for solving relationship problems.

Unlucky in your personal life?

In this article you will learn:

What are the reasons for such bad luck? I will try to present esoteric knowledge and the wisdom of our ancestors in a very simple form. And of course, I will offer methods for solving problems. So that you can easily start using it today. So that in the next month or two, you really see changes in yourself and in your personal life with men. To finally find your soul mate and be happy to your toes.

I have been deeply involved in esotericism for the last 10 years, but before that I, like everyone else, was rushing around, looking for myself and stuffing my bumps. Therefore, I understand you perfectly. Everything—everything that happens to you—is familiar to me. Today I am a happy mother of three amazing girls, a beloved wife and successful in my business, my calling. So, let's start understanding today's topic.

Why are you unlucky in your personal life with men - the opinion of psychics?

Have you noticed that we are surrounded by a huge number of people, most of whom have problems in their personal lives? And he doesn’t know what to do to solve them. Note that the “other part” does not even know about the existence of such problems. Why? No, not at all because they have no personal life. Simply, they know the secrets of how to improve their personal life. Those. they possess special knowledge and apply it in their lives. Be careful here! Stop for a moment. Again.

There is certain knowledge that allows you to build your personal life and harmonious relationships. These “lucky people” know how to manage the space around them in such a way that bad luck doesn’t even knock on their doors. And those who do not know the intricacies of the universe, do not know how the laws of the universe work, have problems in their personal lives and bad luck after bad luck.

Laws? Secrets? Someone will say: “What nonsense?”, “What are these laws?”

Of course, how could it be otherwise? Everything in the world is subject to some laws. Who knows, he's covered in chocolate! Those who are not, bear their own cross - this is the truth of life. I will list several reasons for bad luck in your personal life with the men you most often date.

What to do to be lucky in love

Here are some recommendations:

If you broke up with your loved one, don't try to get him back. Don't be sad about parting with him. On the contrary, let him worry that he missed his happiness, underestimated you;
You must clearly understand who you need, with whom you would like to build a serious relationship and stay for life;
Do not open your soul to another immediately, when you first meet. Do it gradually. Share, look at his reaction. If there is no reaction or it is negative, then this is not the person you need;
Don't rush to jump into his bed. We must first understand what kind of person he is;
Don't feel sorry for yourself. Everyone has failures, and pity deprives you of strength. Complaining and feeling sorry for yourself will not help you become happy and loved;
Love yourself simply for being you and respect yourself for everything you have achieved in life. If you don't love yourself, then no one else will love you.
Very often, women idealize the image of their future partner. They want to see in him something that is not and will not be. In real life, dreams are broken. You must look at your chosen one wisely;
Analyze your past mistakes and try to avoid them in a new relationship.

It happens that a woman says to herself “I will never get married,” “I will always be lonely.” This is the case when it is necessary to solve psychological problems and this requires the help of a psychologist.

It depends only on you whether the relationship with a worthy person will be strong and mutual. And remember that all accidents in life are not accidental. They are predetermined by your attitude towards yourself, emotions and behavior.

Reason #1 for bad luck - bitter experience of the past and fears

Do you remember the saying: “I get burned on milk, but it blows on water”? Who among us did not fall in love in our youth? Who among us has not suffered from unrequited love? It was then that this stupid confidence took root that “they are all the same.” This is a kind of program written into the subconscious to protect us in the future. Nature takes care of us in this way, protects us. But sometimes this defense mechanism plays a cruel joke.

And every time fate gave us another chance, we, without realizing it, refused it. It would be more correct to say that our fears did this for us.

But they fell in love again! But the weight of previous mistakes hung like a stone around my neck. Not allowing you to forget about the past pain for a second and therefore the failures are repeated.

Reason #2 - incorrect settings, like dead ballast

Why is it difficult to build relationships? Have you paid attention to who is asking this question? As a rule, these are people over 30, who certainly live with their parents. Or people who have achieved much greater heights than perhaps they themselves planned. These people have one thing in common - in addition to problems in their personal lives - these are their attitudes.

“You should only communicate with people in your circle!” “It’s not appropriate for people in our society to communicate with people like that...” “People like him are no match for you!” “Don’t you dare even think about...” Sounds familiar? And try “disobey”!

The law of opposites attracting rarely fails. It was “thanks to him” that kings fell in love with beggar women, intellectuals with representatives of the middle class, there are a lot of similar examples.

Wrong attitudes imposed by our parents, environment, and sometimes we impose them on ourselves, are one of the reasons why we have no luck in our personal lives with men.

Tips on how to become loved

A woman needs to feel needed, and this is the main thing for which she lives. And she feels needed only when a loved one appears in her life.

As a rule, the one who loves and appreciates herself becomes happy. This is what makes it unique and special. She is not looking for a relationship just so as not to be left alone. She knows her own worth, does not try to change people to suit her interests, but perceives them as they really are.

Such a woman knows that any man will be happy next to her. And she has her own point of view on relationships with the opposite sex: will she be happy with her chosen one, will he not suppress her personality, will she still have the opportunity for personal growth.

She has her own interests and passions in life. She knows what she wants and will be able to fight for her happiness. If a relationship with a man causes only negative emotions, she will break off this relationship without an ounce of doubt.

She understands that strong, stable relationships can only exist between people who have similar views on life, goals, aspirations and life values. She is sure that she will definitely be lucky in love.

Reason #3 - your thoughts

All our thoughts have an addressee. Space, the universe reads all our thoughts and answers us. Think about how many positive thoughts are born in your head every day? “Where can I get money”, “Credit...”, “She’s sick again...”, “Yes, this job...”, etc., etc.

And only in the evening, after a shower, until sleep finds you, lonely and broken, in a chair in front of the TV with a glass of something... for some reason one single thought gets stuck in your throat: “Why am I so unlucky in my personal life with men?!”

Yes, because you are not doing it seriously and systematically! We were taught to look for work. They taught me how to get a job, but they didn’t teach me how to look for or manage my personal life. It is believed that it should somehow grow together by itself. Well, isn't it funny?

Causes of problems in personal life

Childhood fears

Why am I unlucky in my personal life? Millions of women ask this question. I am sure that many of you have heard the phrase that “all fears come from childhood.” This is one of the common reasons.

What should your betrothed look like? How was he supposed to confess his love to you? What kind of character should he have? How were you supposed to live?

This is due to the imposition of stereotypes.

Each of these beliefs has been formed in our heads for a long time since childhood. Growing up, we gained intelligence and negative experiences.

But the lover never appeared and did not give the woman his heart.

A huge number of girls live according to guidelines from childhood. When they meet guys who don’t fit their expectations, girls ignore or even despise them. Due to an illusory image and failure to accept reality, ladies are constantly unhappy with guys, which is why relationships do not last long.

Failed past relationships

This is one of the most common reasons for failure in real relationships if we have negative experiences in our personal lives. We begin to fear all men, so as not to offend us again. You project onto new acquaintances all the negativity that you felt from your past partner. Let me give you an example: My ex-partner cheated on you. Now you think that the current boyfriend will not be faithful in a joint relationship. You groundlessly suspect him of cheating out of fear that he will leave you too. If you have experienced physical violence against yourself, then you are afraid of similar behavior from any new man. It may be that you personally hurt your partner, and then at the moment of separation he reminded you of it. You have a fear of taking responsibility for the feelings of your loved one. You will avoid men, keep your distance, just so as not to find yourself guilty again. There are different moments. You can gain negativity from any situation, but this perception of new acquaintances with men must be fought. You can do this if you want.

Diffidence

This concept includes not only the fact of low self-esteem, but also a lack of understanding of one’s own personality. When a girl does not realize who she is in character, in relation to life. How to find a partner?

Conflicts often arise when your real image does not correspond to the created image that you are trying to maintain. This usually happens when a person has been exposed to society’s attitudes: “be like her. Do like that girl and stuff like that.” Basically, this trauma is laid down by the parents themselves from childhood. Without giving the child the opportunity to be himself. Because of this, as a girl, you always had to be like someone, to measure up to something, in order to be loved. That’s why, as an adult, you begin to think that you seem to be doing everything correctly, as you were taught, but there is no happiness in your personal life.

Self-dislike

This reason negatively affects the situation on the love front. This is usually due to lack of self-acceptance. For the most part, girls think that they do not have such a problem. They think they know everything about love. How it manifests itself and that girls themselves are the best examples of how to show feelings for a partner. Unfortunately, this opinion is erroneous when you have at least a drop of negativity towards yourself. This circumstance does not make it possible to fully give love. It may also be that a girl accepts love for herself, but cannot reciprocate. You need to be honest with your emotions. What does love mean to you? What is it connected with? With a bright feeling or pain and disappointment? If suddenly you think that love without suffering is not possible, then you will not be able to find a long-term relationship. Until you heal your mental wounds.

Unconscious reluctance to be in a relationship

The entire society constantly insists everywhere that we must start a family. Continue the family line, wait for retirement and raise grandchildren. They believe that this is the meaning of life for every person. A woman's main task is to become a mother. Whether we wish for such a fate or not, society will put pressure on us with this attitude. Parents will constantly push questions - when will there be grandchildren? Classmates and friends, when will you get married? When are you going to get a man? But you look at your life completely differently. Maybe you want a no-strings-attached relationship. Maybe you feel comfortable when your opinion is respected and taken into account, and so on. When you know what you want from life, you won't worry about possible loneliness. You are just looking for a person who will look in the same direction in life as you. But, if society constantly puts pressure on you and your confidence has been shaken, then you should pull yourself together and go your own way, regardless of other people’s opinions. It is your life and your happiness that is at stake, not society's. You shouldn’t stop at the first option you come across, to please others.

Reason #4 - life is unfair!

“Why am I having no luck in my personal life with men, help!” - What is this - a cry for help, or banal self-deception? Many complain that “life is unfair to them” and “that there are no “normal” men on their way.” For some reason, women in this area are more likely to complain. Men also have enough problems, but somehow they carry more and more of them within themselves.

Why isn't life fair? It is not always so. Often, we ourselves are not ready to let strangers into our lives, even those chosen by our hearts. Because by this moment life for 99% of those “complaining” had already somehow developed and settled down.

There is a crazy fear of losing freedom. The need to wash and cook (not only for yourself, your loved one!). Understanding that you will have to give up: carefree bachelor get-togethers with friends. From watching football matches in favor of the series and vice versa. From ingrained habits, etc. “It is much more profitable and convenient to love at a distance,” your subconscious, or your “ego” dictates to you...

Reason #5 - sacrifice, low self-esteem

One of the good reasons for breaking up a relationship, if one suddenly appears, is excessive sacrifice! “I am everything to him... and he?...” Or “What was he missing? I left my friends for him, and...” - sound familiar? Have you already heard it somewhere?

Or maybe it wasn’t worth sacrificing yourself on the sacrificial altar of love at all? Maybe you shouldn’t “do everything for him) and nothing for yourself?

One of the reasons that “there is no change on the personal front” is that as soon as people begin to develop more or less normal relationships and everything gets better for them, one of the partners will definitely begin to try on the mask of a sacrificial doe. For what??? You are loved for who you are! And this happiness must be cherished like the apple of your eye. Remember - low self-esteem is the enemy of a happy personal life.

Loneliness, lack of personal life, depression, feeling trapped - all these are links in the same chain. Agree, it is unlikely that if a person has a full personal life, he will feel lonely. Often depression is a consequence of a breakup.

Destructive thoughts

Surely you yourself understand that the phrase “I’m unlucky in love” is very dangerous, like any other negative thoughts. Esotericists will say: “They themselves attract misfortune.”

Psychologists will say that you tune in to the negative, focus your attention on it and subconsciously perceive any event and your life in general as something bad and inappropriate.

You meet a person and don't let them get too close. There is no complete understanding. You subconsciously look for shortcomings in your partner, and he notices a lack of trust in himself and responds in kind. Just one thought can destroy more and more new novels.

Do you think that by entering into a new relationship, you become happier and forget about bad luck? This is wrong. Such attitudes are here to stay. You can easily verify this.

From time to time in a relationship you have the thought: “This good thing cannot last long. Something will definitely happen soon.” After arguments, you may feel sad with some satisfaction: “I knew it. That's how it should have been. Conflicts began. Well, where would we be without them?

In general, the idea that you are unlucky in love, no matter how you look at it, is destructive, and therefore you need to get rid of it. Whether you are a girl or a guy is completely irrelevant. You can't think like that.

Methods for dealing with bad luck in your personal life

Now I want to give advice that is a dime a dozen on the Internet. The most interesting thing is that they are distributed right and left by those who themselves do not have a family, who do not have children, but they “understand a lot” about why they have no luck in their personal lives with men)))

When I read their recommendations, I clutch my head because someone will read this. Will take and follow these tips. Do you know what will happen?

You will be like a squirrel in a wheel spinning from one partner to another! From one relationship to another. And at this time the cats will scratch your soul. And there will still be no light in life.

This is what “smart” and “advanced egoists” without a family advise.

Why are you unlucky in your personal life with men and what to do?

The answer is on the surface - trust fate, do not limit yourself to communicating with people exclusively from your circle. Open up to the world and it will open up to you.

Acknowledge the fact that there is a problem. Allow yourself to be weak and accept outside help... You need to make a choice, leave one comfort zone in order to enter another...

Start taking care of yourself. Learn to listen and hear your body - start pampering yourself with all kinds of salons. Visiting the fitness center should become an integral part of your life. A well-groomed woman cannot help but attract the attention of men!

Going to the theater, restaurant or visiting an exhibition once a week is not a luxury. But rather, it is a necessity for you. Love yourself, value yourself and soon you will feel how your life is changing.

What can I tell you, in modern realities there are quite a lot of well-groomed, beautiful, attractive, earning, but VERY LONELY women. Who cry into their pillow at night and turn to me for help.

It’s not all about the external, whatever one may say. The most important thing is what is inside a person. I am now talking about the spiritual component, the spiritual component. Nowadays consumption has become the norm. And many, without noticing, in relationships only demand, demand and demand. But with the sensual line, with truly feminine energies, there is a problem.

Tell me honestly, do you know women around who are “ugly”, plump, seemingly unsightly, but they have a family, a full cup in the house and comfort?

Unfortunately, now they don’t teach us to be gentle, they don’t teach us to be open. And this is precisely what a modern woman lacks. I believe that when there are problems in your personal life, you need to work on yourself, start with yourself.

Signs for good luck in love

In mythology, there were androgynes - the first people who combined the characteristics of a man and a woman.

Androgynes are people endowed with external characteristics of both sexes.
Source Wikipedia

Like the Titans, they were very strong and encroached on the power of the gods. Zeus decided to cut them in half to halve their strength and scatter them throughout the world. Since then, people are doomed to search for their soulmate.

Every person dreams of finding his partner, with whom he will find spiritual and physical harmony, with whom he will feel comfortable and to whom he can entrust his innermost dreams.

Many people pass by their love or have simply lost faith that they can find their soul mate.

To prevent this from happening, you should pay attention to folk signs, belief in which will help attract love:

Unlucky in little things, lucky in love;
If a woman has changed her image, then she subconsciously prepares for a meeting with her betrothed;
A precious piece of jewelry lost by a woman at home is interpreted by occultists as an offering to the god of love. A lost ring means that a loved one is on the threshold, an earring means a wedding is coming;
The appearance of a dove on the windowsill means an imminent marriage.

Signs for luck can be used by romantic and impressionable people for decisive action.

Methods from Oksana Manoilo on how to get rid of the reasons why you have no luck in your personal life with men

We need to restore inner peace.

Get your nerves in order.

To restore and pump up the sensual line - these are the chakras Zarod, Percy, Lada, Lelya.
Clear the corridor of the past.
Break energetic ties with former partners, because this is how energy flows out of you.
Increase feminine energies so that men sense a Woman in you, with a capital W - as a mother, as a successor of the Family, as a keeper of the family hearth. Those. so that you don’t have to build relationships with one person today, and with another tomorrow. And to build alone, but harmonious, durable, loving.

Yes, you may not have been taught this anywhere, but it’s never too late. In the “Online Esotericism Education” course we learn and do all this. And students change right before our eyes.

Here's what my client recently wrote:

Reasons for bad luck

Low self-esteem. If a girl underestimates her self-esteem, then she chooses a mate that is far from the best options;
Inflated self-esteem will also not lead to anything good. In this case, the chances of having a strong relationship are minimal;
Fear of loneliness. Many people, after breaking up one unsuccessful relationship, immediately try to create new ones and again make the same mistakes. New relationships also turn out to be unsuccessful. There is no need to rush to make new acquaintances just because you are afraid of being lonely. Take a break from your relationship and enjoy your solitude. You will have time to think about which half you need;
Wrong choice of partner. You can't change an adult. And if you like a certain type of personality, but the relationship with him is not going well, then you need to think and change your preferences. It's time to stop stepping on the same rake, i.e. meet a person whose relationship will lead to another separation;
Wrong behavior in relationships. Quarrels occur when both people do not know how to behave correctly. Men act like women or weaklings, and women act like bitches. Until the couple stops sorting things out and proving which of them should dominate, nothing good will come of it.

And now specific actions and practices

You need to learn to think positively and be filled with the energy of happiness. When you have happiness inside, you will be able to radiate it and give it to others. As you know, everyone is drawn to positive people, but why? Remember, someone comes, the life of the party, and a crowd immediately surrounds him - he radiates energy that everyone wants to partake of. It doesn’t matter who it is, a man or a woman, everyone wants to communicate with him at least a little. Because how you can profit from this very energy. Become such a person, a Sunshine person.

I am a practical person in life, I don’t like to talk a lot, I like to take things and do them. Therefore, from words to deeds. Below is a short video practice. Do it right now, it's easy.

Now, imagine that in front of you is a deep abyss, an abyss. And now you need to take together everything, everything that you have just been turning around in yourself, in your head. All this needs to be put in a bag. Perhaps the bag will be huge, it doesn’t matter. Everyone was shoved in there, including the partner, his image. And the bag was thrown into the abyss. Huh!

My soul felt a little better, but that’s not all. You need to do the practice several times. To such a state that when you even want to imagine your relationship, you want to get angry, but that’s it! Nothing seems to be happening anymore. No images. No emotions.

This is an incredibly effective practice. She works wonders.

It would seem that only 5-7 minutes need to be spent on doing it in order to get rid of the pain of the past. And sometimes we can’t get out of problems for years. In the course “Teaching Esoterics Online” we do similar practices using my videos, it’s much simpler, more effective and clearer. Watch the course introductory video for FREE. And after it you will notice the first results, changes in your life.

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Content

Destructive thoughts
How to get rid of oppressive attitudes
How to live on

Hello, dear readers! As a rule, immediately after breaking up with a loved one or if a new romance is in no hurry to flare up, people begin to doubt themselves. They look for various shortcomings, and sometimes curses. Self-esteem is falling lower and lower, the idea is growing that some kind of problem “sits” in them, in general, not the best state.

Today the topic of our conversation will be - if you are unlucky in love, what to do. No mysticism. Pure psychology. I’ll tell you what the problem might be, why you constantly get burned, when it will all end, and whether it’s even worth trying to build a relationship in this state.