My husband is busy all the time and has no time for us.
Film "What Women Want"
Sometimes a man can and should be reminded that there are relatives and loved ones next to him.
What men are not into! Sometimes they are passionate about work. Sometimes work is really very important. But the fact is that if a man has a wife and children, they also have a right to his attention. They need him, and if there is less and less of him in the family, this is wrong. It does not consider situations when a man has completely lost interest in a woman, when he has another woman, or when there are protracted conflicts in the family and the man simply runs away from the family. No, it happens that a man is simply distracted from his family. How to talk to him then? Alternatively, there could be a conversation like this or a letter like this:
Hi, my dear!
It’s surprisingly unusual and romantic to write you a letter. I write and imagine how you will pick it up and read it. The paper will gently rustle, as if it were me whispering in your ear: “I love you.”
Every evening, returning home, I want to say this to you and feel that you are happy to hear it again and again.
Darling! Now we rarely talk about everything like before. I understand that our active rhythm of life requires a lot of time and effort from us, and there is almost no “energy charge” left for conversations. Sometimes you want to hide from everyone: for me - in the foam and bath, for you - in the computer.
You know, I realized that this is not a solution. Foam and a bath give rest to the body, but they are very little for joy. At the same time, even minutes of your attention give me a huge charge of happiness, allowing me to glow like the sun. Your care and love are very dear to me, and I want to feel them all my life.
Let's give ourselves back to each other? A smile in the morning, a short text in the middle of the day and a long, long hour in the evening to share what happened during the day. I am sure that children will be happy with such changes and will support them with pleasure.
Let's start a new family tradition: “evening gatherings”?
I take upon myself the organization of comfort and delicious tea.
Turn off your computer! I've already put the kettle on. I invite you to chat with your family.
With love, your wife.
If soft and only warm conversations do not help, the letter should become tougher, no longer only a request, but also a demand. Relatives have the right to close relationships, and in this situation the husband must decide whether he needs a family or not. Naturally, such a letter makes sense only in a situation where the wife herself behaves with dignity, when the husband has no complaints against her. So:
Hi, my dear!
It’s surprisingly unusual and romantic to write you a letter. I write and imagine how you will pick it up and read it. The paper will gently rustle, as if it were me whispering in your ear: “I love you.”
Every evening, returning home, I want to say this to you and feel that you are happy to hear it again and again.
Darling! I write and almost cry because I have practically lost hope of making this dream come true. I know that when I come you will be very busy. And your affairs are so complex and important that I do not dare to tear you away from them.
At the same time, a warm relationship between husband and wife is the basis of family happiness. It is so?
I'm scared that our warmth is becoming a thing of the past. I am afraid one day, instead of my own face, I will see next to a completely alien and distant person. Because this will mean a complete and final break in the relationship. But I don't want that! I want to live happily ever after with you!
My husband! I really miss our conversations, your gentle look and confident voice. Your care and love are very dear to me, and I want to feel them all my life.
Please, find time to communicate with your family.
The hour that you spend with me and the children, discussing everything that happened during the day, will give you the opportunity to feel how much we appreciate what you do for us, and it will give us the opportunity to feel your care, attention and love.
I need one hour of your 100% attention every day and one day off a week completely. Consider this an official statement. I love you very much, but if your tasks are so important that it is completely impossible to find time for me, then I will build my life myself and have no illusions about our future together.
I ask you to think it over and decide. I am your wife and I will accept any of your decisions.
The children are spending the night with their grandmother today, it’s time to discuss our family happiness. I'm waiting for you in the kitchen this evening. From me - dinner, delicious tea and me. It's you and the cake.
With love, your wife.
If a man doesn't give you time
“Help with advice, women's site sympaty.net. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 years and have been living together for a year! He is always busy with business, he has no time for me at all!!! I ask him to spend time with me, at least in the evening, just for a walk, but he either needs to work on his car or go somewhere with a friend. I see him in the evening (from 22:00) and in the morning when he sleeps! Today he brought me to tears and did me a favor: okay, let's go! He sees that I’m standing there crying, and he smiles, almost laughs! What to do about it? Tatiana".
Tatyana, your situation is very unpleasant (and, unfortunately, common), especially considering that you have been together with him for 6 years. And therefore I will speak to you frankly, like a surgeon
