People are designed this way that even the most wonderful sex with the most beloved and suitable partner becomes boring over time. What to do if you have lived with your loved one for many years, you value him immensely and in no case want to risk your relationship, but at the same time you perceive him in bed as a loved one, but memorized by heart, and therefore not such an interesting book? Is it possible to maintain a relationship without getting bored in bed?
Our answer is that variety in sex is possible! You just need to be aware of the obvious fact: even the brightest fire gradually fades away if you don’t constantly add firewood to it. So let's think about what kind of firewood needs to be added to the fire of sexual relationships so that its warmth will last us for a long time.
I want variety in sex: From theory to practice
No matter how banal this advice may sound at first glance, if you feel that not everything is going well with your loved one in the intimate sphere, you should not arrogantly reject the invaluable experience that has been accumulated over thousands of years by civilizations that have specialized in the pleasure of the flesh. Therefore, if you sincerely love your partner, are faithful to him, but at the same time you feel that your bed holidays are turning into bed everyday life, do not be lazy: go to a bookstore. Books such as the Kama Sutra, Peach Branches, or manuals on the study of Tantra and Tao can be a great help.
It is not necessary to delve into the wilds of Tantric and Taoist philosophy to add variety to sex, although they are incredibly interesting. Take from these books the main recipe: both ancient Indian Tantra and its ancient Chinese modification of Tao, with very specific and quite simply stated advice on managing your body, will help transform a purely physiological orgasm into a sensation on a completely different level - that is, into an ecstatic state of body, mind and soul, merging together. This is true harmony - and what, if not harmony, do we strive for in a relationship with a loved one, both in bed and outside of it? If you can put this greatest theory into practice, then it is impossible to get bored with such fantastic sex. Moreover, you get used to it, like a powerful drug, and you and your partner no longer have questions about the loss of novelty, excessive predictability, inevitable betrayals and other intimate problems. Don't believe me? Check it out!
For a birthday
A birthday gift should be useful, necessary and definitely memorable.
Try to find out her hobbies, interests, tastes and preferences: what music she listens to, where she dresses, what she likes to eat, and most importantly, what she dreams about. If you are able to make her dream come true, go for it!
Reference! If suddenly a girl’s dream is a puppy or kitten, do not forget to discuss the issue of a gift with her parents in advance.
For a girl who is distinguished by her eccentricity, frequent mood swings and changing desires, it is better to give a purchase certificate so as not to make a mistake with the gift.
If you managed to choose a gift yourself, and it is something small (a box with decorations, perfume), order a special cake made in which to place the gift. The main thing is not to forget to wrap it with cling film several times so that the gift is not damaged when the girl cuts the cake.
What an unforgettable gift to give a girl on her birthday is described in the video:
What can be used in bed for new vivid sensations:
Voice your wishes
Yes, we brought this point to the first place. Oddly enough, husband and wife who have lived with each other for many years are often afraid to talk about their fantasies. The problem here is mistrust, self-doubt and fear of being misunderstood. In fact, it sounds a little funny, given the fact that people got together, implying that they completely accepted each other. If, in response to your proposal, you see uncertainty in your partner’s eyes, then begin to approach this carefully, prepare the ground for this: a relaxing environment, the right words and touching erogenous zones. Typically, men are more willing to experiment than women. Therefore, if you want to try something new with your girlfriend or wife, your task is to show her that anything is possible with you, even the hottest experiments, for which no one will ever judge.
Role-playing games
The top preferences for role-playing games among men are nurse, flight attendant, teacher. For women - mistress and slave, kidnapping, prisoner. Everything is simple here - confidence, the right outfit and mood. And perhaps a little acting. To make the process even more fun. Perhaps you and your partner have a favorite image from a movie or TV series - bring it to life in bed! It's like you're having sex with other characters, but you're staying true to each other, making the sex more interesting.
Swingers
The solution, of course, is not for everyone, but you can try. Swingers are established couples who are looking for variety by inviting another couple into their sex with the same goals. It is believed that this option is better than cheating, since partners do not undermine trust between each other and take better care of their appearance and physical shape. The husband and wife make sexual decisions together, which distinguishes it from the concept of an open marriage. There are three types of swing: light, closed and open. Easy involves having sex in close proximity to each other, or with the involvement of a third person. In closed swing, couples exchange partners while having sex separately. However, they do not see each other. In open swinging, couples exchange partners and see each other during sex.
Lubricants
Lubricants today have become an almost integral part of sexual life. But few people know that lubricants are created not only to compensate for natural lubrication. There are three types of them: oil-based, silicone and water-based.
Oily ones should be left for massage and intimate caresses. They are incompatible with condoms and can stain clothing and bedding. Silicone ones also do not wash well from fabrics and are not always suitable for use with condoms. However, they do not dry out for a long time and are not washed off with water. Water-based lubricants are the most common. This lubricant dries out quite quickly, but remains the most versatile option. Lubricants can also come in different flavors to make oral sex sweeter and more enjoyable.
Toys
Sex toys are not limited to a set of vibrators of different colors and lengths. For men, you can buy special silicone penis attachments that will enhance the sensation of oral sex. Or, vibrating cock rings. There are many options, you just need to show interest in it. If you want to surprise a girl, buy a special vibrator that can be controlled from a distance. Just imagine, you went to some event, and you have a remote control in your hands and a girl who is about to go crazy from barely restrained pleasure.
Masturbation
Women have one unusual fantasy - they are turned on by male masturbation. Try this process next to each other. At first there may be embarrassment, but then you will relax and the process will end with enchanting sex. You can also try mutual masturbation. Girls are encouraged to guide a man. This way you will show easy dominance in bed and give yourself pleasure with his hands. Let the teacher show the student which buttons to press.
Sexual practices
The first thing that is usually meant by this term is “Taoist sexual practices”, which are considered pseudoscientific teachings of alternative medicine. In sex, you need to achieve control and harmony without allowing ejaculation. This is the key to longevity and increases the joy you get from sex. This is achieved through a variety of exercises and methods of working on the state of mind and erogenous zones. If you are not yet ready for Taoist practices, then look at what other countries practice in sex. For example, the Arabic sexual practice involves immersing the penis in hot liquid, which increases blood flow in both partners and makes sex more intense. In Spanish practice, the woman squeezes the penis tightly with her breasts. Due to this friction, the man gets an orgasm. A similar practice is “Mongolian”, only here the friction occurs between the partner’s buttocks.
True passion always remains between partners, it’s just that over time it is overshadowed by life’s problems and everyday life. The main thing is to understand this and both strive to rekindle the familiar fire with renewed vigor. Spend more time with each other, open up and talk about what's inside you. Mutual trust and the desire to nourish your love will be the first steps towards variety in sex, and this, in turn, will maintain interest in each other for many years of life together.
At least three poses...
must be mastered. The usual options “with a cigarette in hand”, “looking through the press” and “squeezing a hundred and twenty” are not taken into account. If your friend is already quite convinced that there is nothing interesting on the ceiling, first try turning her over on her stomach.
Massage
A little cool cream on the palm and a smile that inspires trust is enough to make any mimosa unbutton her blouse. Very little work and maximum tactile pleasure. It does not count if you paid for the work of a professional massage therapist.
Make your partner turn pink
This is the only way to make sure that your sex really gives her pleasure. Moans and thrashing in the dark don’t mean anything, but redness of the skin on the chest is a fairly reliable indicator that you have done your job and brought her to orgasm. Although, maybe it’s her allergies or she’s shy.
Condom with relief
You simply had to try this! Of course, it will make you neither cold nor hot, but she will be very interested in the new sensation, besides, the rubber ribs delay the sweet process for some time.
Will you be third?
It was high time you told her friend or your boyfriend this by inviting her to join you in bed. At this point, it is not necessary to be particularly persistent and forcefully implement your plans - friends may resist. But it's worth a try, isn't it?
Clean up your bedroom
The first step is to throw her flannel nightie and collection of stuffed animals out of the bed. Something is wrong with a woman who sleeps with stuffed elephants. Unless you're playing teacher and schoolgirl with her.
Mutual masturbation
Sex experts assure that this greatly contributes to better knowledge of each other, establishment of psychological contact and improvement of relationships. Indeed, by observing each other, you have the opportunity to consider everything in detail and improve your skills.
Afternoon sex
Women love this: when a man, no longer sleepy and not yet tired, slightly alien and incredibly businesslike, drops in for five minutes just to have sex. Yes, and it’s good for you to shake yourself up in the middle of the day.
Sex toys
require that they be used. If you've never choked on edible panties, tried out an "artificial vagina", felt the joy of flavored condoms or envied the unbreakable erection of a dildo, then where have you been all this time? Good sex should be fun.
Free oral sex
This thing requires dedication and selflessness. But isn’t it worth trying to give her oral sex without demanding the same in return at least once in order to forever remain a sweet and caring guy in her eyes? Perhaps she will tell her friends about this, and they will also want to take advantage of your generosity.
Photoshoot
Another important event in a man’s life: a camera is in your hands, and before your eyes is a girlfriend stretched out in boundless nakedness. Polaroid is extremely convenient in this version (you don’t have to blush in the darkroom). You can film anything, even the most unimaginable shamelessness. But it is not at all necessary to show indecent photos to your friends or her mother.
Pillow
Haven't you thought of putting it under your partner's buttocks yet? This helps increase the pressure on the clitoris, which enhances her pleasure. It also gives you the opportunity for deeper penetration. In addition, the pillows will heat up, and it will be pleasant to fall asleep on them.
Synchronized orgasm
Views on the problem differ. Not everyone considers a synchronous orgasm to be the height of pleasure, since it does not bring any additional pleasure. But it’s still nice when this happens. Trying is not torture.
Maso
It is not necessary to use handcuffs, dog collars or a police baton. Just let her tie you up so you can feel what it's like to be helpless in the hands of a wayward woman.
Porn
Be careful: your collection of hardcore movies may dampen her arousal rather than enhance it. Experts say that women are not particularly concerned with visual images and prefer to use their own imagination. To play it safe, invite her to choose what to watch, but don’t be alarmed when she suddenly settles on something like gang rape—it’s still better than a snotty erotic melodrama.
Quick sex
Have feminists already convinced you that bed exists only for sex marathons, where the main prize is her orgasm? Forget it. Quick sex can be very stimulating for a woman, especially spontaneous sex.
Bathe!
By replacing the plug-in hairdryer, soaked sliders and wooden clothespins with candles, wine and aromatic foam, you can have a wonderful relaxation with your girlfriend in the bath. The ancient Chinese said that water has the ability to transfer thoughts and energy of people to each other. And as for deepening contact...
All day in bed
The highest point of hedonism. The only problem is that one of you two (well, not you!) will still have to get up to warm dinner and drag it to bed.
Entrance, elevator, roof...
...A car, a bench, a toilet on an airplane, a Ferris wheel... Well? Have you already tried at least anything from the list as a sexy hippodrome or are you boringly jealous of those who lie flowerily about it?
Her underwear
This is a liberation task. She wears your boxers, so you try on her lace panties. Stockings are also a good idea. Women claim that they like the elastic and smooth nylon to hug their legs. Isn't it interesting?
Swear dirty
during sex is very fashionable: America and Europe are already swearing with might and main in their bedrooms. It's never too late to start, but it's quite difficult to express yourself rudely in your native language, while avoiding intonations that are offensive to the lady.
Sado
Somewhere inside you sleeps a macho, a rapist and a villain. Let him out on leave. It’s not necessary to hit a girl, but if she doesn’t mind, let her pretend that she completely refuses to enter into an intimate relationship with you. A couple of circles around the apartment and a stormy finale are guaranteed.
Jam and honey
When there are no bees or dentists worrying about your tooth decay, sticky, sweet liquids are great for licking off your hands, feet, and belly. It’s better, of course, if these legs and belly belong to the woman you love, and not to a random passerby.
Breast
Breasts, which are not squeezed like an expander and are not chewed like a hungry hamster, are a very important component of female sexuality. This may be news to you, but skillful stimulation of the nipples can bring a woman to orgasm. Just don’t talk about how you’ve already gotten rid of your mother complex!
Petting secretion
Brightens up dreary times spent in public places such as cinemas, theaters or restaurants. Everything that is within reach of the partner’s intimate parts of the body is used - legs, arms, tongue. The goal is an orgasm invisible to others, which is also a bonus.
Confess your love
At the same time, without “scurrying”, without “mocking” and without choking with self-disgust - a task that only a real man can cope with. If, when you open your mouth to say the main words to someone, you feel like you are being attacked by tetanus, try practicing in front of a mirror. Unless, of course, you are not frightened by the prospect of admiring your own physiognomy at this pathetic moment.
We write an SMS or a message on a social network to a girl to make her smile
What to write to a girl to make her melt and smile
A message that makes her smile must be consistent with the situation in which the girl is. If her beloved cat died yesterday, then it would be stupid to write poems about love.
What can make a pen pal smile?
- Is she going through a difficult period in her life? Words of care, participation, friendly support, and encouragement are suitable.
- Is the girl creative, sings, draws, cooks well, plays sports? You definitely need to praise her talents.
- A poem of your own composition or blank verse is suitable as a small surprise. If the guy does not have the ability to write, then you can send a poem by your favorite poet.
- Are they both in a cheerful mood? Tell the girl a couple of jokes, but you should put a taboo on banal jokes. You can send her a joke from a public page, you can reward her with a funny nickname, or you can remember some funny situation that happened to both of you and laugh heartily together.
- An invitation somewhere (club, concert, restaurant, cinema, theater) will bring a smile on a girl’s face. You need to write that tickets/tables have already been booked and there is an opportunity to have a great time.
Be sure to read:
Questions for girls: TOP-20 vulgar and provocative questions to get to know a girl better
How to spice up your sex life
Method 1.
Wear a white t-shirt over your naked body and join your man in the shower. As soon as you get wet, he will immediately become a participant in the wet T-shirt competition so beloved by men. You took the first place!
Method 2
When you watch TV together, while sitting, raise your hands and place them behind your head. At the same time, your back will arch and your chest will rise so seductively that all your man’s attention will be focused on it.
Method 3
Take your man to a lingerie store. Wear different sexy outfits and show him yourself in them. The fact that he won't be able to touch you will make him very horny.
Method 4
At a party with a lot of people, whisper in your man’s ear: “I think I forgot to put on my panties...” and walk among the guests with an innocent look.
In this situation, you will understand what a woman magnet is. Your man will always try to be near you and touch you.
Method 5
When you go to some formal event, stand behind your man while making a speech.
Press yourself against him from behind and, lifting your dress (the dress should be above your knees), press his hand to the bottom of your stomach (you guessed it, you're without panties again!).
I hope he doesn’t have a heart attack this evening....)))))
Method 6
When you go to a team, at some solemn moment of making a speech, stand right in front of your man.
And with your hand from behind, start stroking his pants in the fly area. The method is very hooligan, because when a man gets excited, it will not be easy to hide.
Method 7
When you get ready to go to work in the morning, walk around your apartment in your bra, panties and heels. But if you can’t be late, don’t risk it! Because when your man sees you like this, his common sense will completely turn off.
Method 8
When you drink a cappuccino, “accidentally” leave a little foam at the corners of your lips. Then, slowly lick this foam with your tongue.
Method 9
When you eat ice cream, slowly lick it off with your tongue, lick your lips and repeat: “Mm, how delicious...”. And at the same time, slyly look into the man’s eyes.
Method 10
If you and a man are in company and he is far from you, look at him with a long, meaningful look, smile slyly and stick out your tongue a little.
Licking your lips sexually may be inappropriate, but simply playing with your tongue so that your man can see it will be exciting.
Method 11
Send your man an SMS with a text that says: “I have prepared a surprise for you tonight...)))”
Method 12
Send your man an SMS with a text that says: “When I get home, wait for me completely naked!”
Method 13
Send your man an SMS with a text that says: “I’m thinking about you now and masturbating.”
But make sure that on this day the man has no important things to do, because in any case he will drop everything and find you to join you.
Method 14
Call your man at work and start moaning while pretending to have phone sex. Imagine as much as possible.
But I can’t vouch for your man’s nervous system - how will he survive to meet you?!
Method 15
When your man is at work, send him photos of your charms (your breasts, or your ass, or your bare legs in stilettos).
Look on the Internet to learn how to properly photograph certain parts of the body to make them look more attractive.
Method 16
When your man comes home, you have already prepared dinner for him, and you meet him in an apron, dressed on his naked body. Moreover, walk around with an innocent look - take out forks, plates, etc.
Method 17
You start cleaning the apartment in the same apron, dressed on your naked body.
When your man enters the room, at this time you are recommended to take something out from under the sofa, gracefully arching your back.
The view that will open up to him will simply blow him away.
Method 18
If your man is a little busy with something, and you feel bored, do the following trick.
You “remember” that you urgently need something at the very top of the closet, climb onto the stepladder and ask your man to hold it.
Then you draw his attention to something above, he raises his head and... he sees that you forgot to put on your panties again!
Think for yourself what you can wear so that it flutters and shows all your charms. Remember, you need to do this with a completely innocent face.
Method 19
You go with a man to a restaurant. You are wearing a jacket and something underneath. In a restaurant you say it's hot and take off your jacket. There is a slightly transparent blouse, worn over a naked body.
You are guaranteed the attention of all men, including waiters. And if your man can take his eyes off your breasts and eat even a piece of food, I will be very surprised.
Method 20
When your man is busy in another room, turn off the light in your bedroom and light a candle. Call your man. He comes in and in front of him you are naked, in a beautiful erotic pose, in high-heeled shoes in the light of a flickering candle.
Amazing sight!
Method 21
How to surprise a girl on a date
You can surprise a girl every day, and a date is an especially good time
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- Surprise with the choice of date format
. A familiar cafe or cinema will not amaze you, but an unexpected format – yes. Example: stock up on thermoses, food, and invite the girl to go to the forest. Such outings are appropriate at any time of the year. - Please your beloved with delicious food
. It could be homemade mac and cheese or oysters at a restaurant. Many girls love to eat delicious food - find out her preferences and please her. Find out about the most cozy and atmospheric establishments in the city, and invite your beloved for dinner. - Meet her from work or training at the gym
, and offer to go on a spontaneous date. Keep in mind that the girl is probably hungry - invite her to a cozy place and feed her delicious food. - A soft toy, sweets, earrings, a beautiful bouquet
- all these gifts can be called classics, but they are always relevant. When trying to surprise a girl, many guys start looking for incredibly original methods, but sometimes this is not necessary. For example, dates that look classic in the movies may never have happened in your date's life. Don't shy away from the good old methods. At the same time, do not buy gifts at random - choose something that will exactly suit her taste. For example, some girls are cool about soft toys - such a gift will not suit her. - When you invite her on a date, prepare a personalized gift
, taking into account her interests. If she is a lover of reading, then the book will be a wonderful gift. Loves the theater - tickets to a grand production would be a great solution. Personalized gifts are nice - they make it clear that the person was thinking about you and your hobbies. - Plan a date based on her interests
, even if they are not close to you. Example: she loves shopping - it bothers you. Go shopping with her. Another example: she loves opera, you don’t. Buy tickets to the opera. During the date, maintain a friendly appearance - you will ruin everything with your dissatisfied face. - Do something that has been discussed many times, but has not come to fruition
. Example: you've been saying for a long time that it would be nice to visit the local city park - take her there. Second example: she wanted to go to a certain film, but there was no chance - the rental was about to end - make her wish come true. - Throw a party
. The date is not suitable for all girls - only those who like to party. A surprise party may disappoint her - offer to choose a theme together. It would be nice to coincide the holiday with a significant event - her birthday, graduation, promotion at work, and so on. We repeat: organizing a date may not appeal to an introverted girl. Then arrange an evening for two, do not make her feel uncomfortable. - Organize an interesting trip
. Have you two been wanting to visit a certain place for a long time, and is it possible to fit into your budget? Take the opportunity, but first study this direction with special care. Pick up a few brochures from a travel agency and research the information on the Internet. Calculate the cost of travel, think about entertainment that you will like and fit into your budget. It is advisable that the conversation is about a place that is interesting to both of you.
Intimacy after the birth of a child
Problems often arise in the sexual life of a couple while expecting a baby and after its birth. This can happen due to physical fatigue, a large number of new responsibilities and an unwillingness to direct energy in an intimate direction.
While taking care of the child, the wife may forget that she is a woman and needs to pay attention to her husband. He, too, may not strive to correct the situation and does not think about improving his sex life with his wife. He grows cold towards his woman and may go for new experiences with another.
To correct the situation, the mother needs to learn to ask for help and support from her husband and relatives. If she gets more rest, she will soon remember her sexual needs and desires. For example, while the spouse remains at home with the children, his significant other can visit a massage parlor or meet friends in a cafe.
It is also important for women to take care of their appearance. Spend 15-20 minutes of physical exercise every day if 2 months have already passed after giving birth. Wear nice, sexy loungewear and regularly use anti-cellulite and stretch mark creams. If you are not yet ready to diversify your intimate life with your husband and make it more turbulent, do not rush. It is important to maintain love, trust and understanding in a couple, then over time everything will work out.
How nice it is to surprise a girl every day
Do you want to surprise your beloved? This does not always involve very complex decisions. Sometimes banal but important actions are enough. And sometimes they are more appropriate. Example: a girl needs to go to work early, she often does not have time to prepare breakfast for herself, and is upset about it. What kind of surprise do you think will be more pleasant for her after waking up: a cup of coffee and an omelette or your drawing on frozen glass? This is a case where a more “down-to-earth” gift is much more appropriate and desirable than a romantic one.
Give your beloved compliments more often - do not skimp on generous and affectionate words. It is important for girls to hear that they are valued, loved, and admired.
Small signs of attention are very important. Example: a girl often forgets to charge her phone - do it yourself. Convenient for those who live together. Leave a note with nice words in an unexpected place - on a kitchen cabinet shelf, on a windowsill, etc.
If you have the desire and imagination, it is not at all difficult to surprise and delight your chosen one every day.
Compatibility of sexual temperaments
Sexual compatibility in a couple is a very important element. It affects not only the feeling of satisfaction from sex, but also the feeling of happiness from relationships. If you don’t think about how to diversify family life in bed with your husband or wife, and also don’t work on problems in the sexual sphere, the relationship may collapse. That's why it's important to talk openly about your desires in a way that works best for both of you:
- Write flirty letters to your loved one, in which you voice your fantasies. Ask him to share his desires too.
- Show your partner a video or movie clip that fulfills your sexual fantasies.
- Tell your lover what you would like right in the middle of sexual intimacy and ask him to immediately fulfill this desire.
- Take a sexual compatibility test together. You and your partner can choose a number of things you would like in sex and show your lists to each other. This is a good way to diversify your sex life with your wife or husband. He will help you find out about your spouse’s desires without unnecessary embarrassment.
When the results of your research show incompatibility with your loved one, do not despair. If you work on the relationship and make concessions, the problem can be quickly resolved.
If you have no money, but really want to impress a girl - 15 ideas
Many men wonder what to give a girl if they don’t have enough money - there are options that can be done both at a distance and upon returning from a trip:
- Create a photo album or collage of memorable photographs and present it to your loved one.
- Invite a girl on a romantic date and show her a beautiful view of the city from the roof of the house.
- Write a poem addressed to your beloved and read it out. If you have no talent for writing poetry, you can ask your acquaintances or friends to help with this.
- Help around the house or fix something if the girl needs such help.
- Perform a serenade under the window or sing a song with a declaration of love. You can do this alone or ask familiar musicians to play a melody.
- Watch a beautiful sunset together on the river bank.
- Fulfill a girl's long-standing desire.
- Give her a bouquet of wildflowers.
- Demonstrate beautiful gestures, perform actions, give compliments.
- Help her solve any problem. To do this, you can involve outsiders, if there is such a need.
- Make a postcard-confession of feelings.
- Play a prank on the girl and then declare your love to her. In this way you can surprise from a distance.
- Find an interesting game for two and play it.
- Make a wish map and monitor progress.
- Arrange to watch her favorite films together.
Advice from sexologists
For a fulfilling sexual relationship, you need to take care of each other's needs. At the same time, it is important to realize that intimacy is a key area in marriage, but it cannot be placed above other needs. If nothing else excites you in a relationship other than sex, the union will not last long.
Don't be afraid to ask honest questions, as this is the best way to learn about your loved one's wishes. Perhaps he does not need acrobatic tricks from you in bed and copying the behavior of heroines of porn films. Making sex better and brighter is much easier than it seems.
The best way to maintain fidelity and love in a marriage and add variety to sex is to take care not only of your own desires, but also of your partner’s interests. You can give your partner piquant surprises. Do not neglect such elements of your sexual life as erotic lingerie, sex toys, romantic dates. It is also important to take care of each other not only in the intimate sphere, but also in everyday life. Then the relationship will become warmer and more open.
A classic of the genre - you take off your shoe and stroke his leg with your foot. You can put your foot above the sock, or you can, if the tablecloth is long, stroke it between his legs.
Tantra advises:
- While experiencing orgasm, look into each other's eyes.
The look of your partner in these seconds can tell you more than volumes of love letters, armfuls of roses and other traditional attributes of love confessions. - Breathe deeply.
Feeling the imminent onset of orgasm, many reflexively hold their breath and tense all the muscles of the body. And you try to relax completely, breathe deeply and slowly, do not rush the onset of orgasm - and it will turn out to be much more intense. - Kiss your partner on the lips not as foreplay or after sex, but directly during intercourse.
Physiologists say that a huge number of nerve endings are concentrated in the lips, and Tantra adds that the lips are one large erogenous zone. - Make love... with your clothes on.
Sometimes small areas of the naked body, revealed to the eye only for a moment, excite much more than absolute nudity.
The Kama Sutra advises:
- Add maximum variety to your intimate life.
Literally one or two poses may suit you perfectly, but this is not a reason to refuse all the others! It is important to try, search, experiment with poses and movements, and you yourself will determine those that give you maximum pleasant sensations with a minimum of discomfort. - Train your pelvic floor muscles, and most importantly, your vagina.
With the help of rhythmic contractions of these muscles, you can not only literally drive your partner crazy, but also provide yourself with a whole palette of new sensations. - In addition to the vaginal muscles, do not forget about the other muscles.
For sex to be unforgettable, both partners must be in good physical shape. Otherwise, they may simply not be able to survive the night without sleep... - Erotic play does not have to develop into sex - at least in the traditional European sense of the word.
Everything may well be limited to kisses - but such that you will remember them many hours later.
Courier delivery
Courier services today can offer almost any delivery. This could be a bouquet of flowers and a gift, which, in general, will surprise few people today. It can also be a basket with gifts, filled to order: from sweets and champagne, to sausage sticks and an assortment of cheeses.
It is not always worth surprising with romantic gifts. Much more unexpected may be the delivery of, for example, ordinary food or medicine. This will be relevant if the girl does not have time to go to the store or if she is sick. Such care will be much more pleasant than a bouquet of flowers.
This is done simply; any courier service is easily found on the Internet. This could be a company delivering its own product. Or maybe a courier service that delivers what they ask for. Of course, it will be more expensive, but it's definitely worth it.
Oh horror: let's go to a sex shop
It would be a mistake to think that everything we need for sex is a priori given to us by nature itself. The main thing is, of course, but this basic thing also sometimes needs help, prevention or even repair. It is then that additional “materials and tools” come into play, for which you can go, don’t be alarmed, to a store with the shocking name “sex shop.” But psychologists have already convinced us: the clients of “shops for lovers,” as they should be called, are not perverts or maniacs at all, but normal modern people who do not suffer from complexes and strive to bring maximum joy to themselves and their loved ones. Yes, we don’t argue, you can buy more than outrageous things there that are not suitable for everyone, but in addition to those, the sex shop has a lot of goods that will be useful to any normal couple – even the most traditional and conservative one.
Tips for visitors to a sex shop for variety in their intimate life
- To begin with, pay attention to relatively innocent products
- such as flavored lubricants and specially textured condoms that enhance sensations. Aphrodisiacs - drugs that increase sexual desire - deserve special attention. Oddly enough, there is nothing particularly magical about them - just as there is nothing harmful or addictive. They are based simply on vitamins, mainly A and E, which promote the production of sex hormones. They also contain adaptogens that relieve fatigue - for example, ginseng or eleutherococcus, succinic acid, mild stimulants such as caffeine, as well as extracts of tropical plants - muira puama, damiana, guarana, yohimbe or exotic insects such as the famous Spanish fly. - Among stimulants, there are drugs intended only for women, only for men, and also for general action
. Try it - the result will not be long in coming, and it is absolutely not necessary to do this when sexual function begins to fade. Even at the peak of sexual potential, a properly selected aphrosideiac will simply add new impressions - especially when taken with a loved one in a romantic, exciting environment. - Shyly looking away from different-sized dildos, some absolutely cosmic vibrators, intricate pumps of unknown purpose and other outright things, you will soon realize that there is nothing scary or shameful about them either.
Take, for example, dildos that are so shocking in their naturalism. The sales assistant serving you, without any vulgarity or overly playful hints, will explain to you that this device is just a godsend for a man prone to premature ejaculation, as well as for a woman suffering from uterine prolapse. But even if you don't have these kinds of problems, a dildo can be a cool toy in the right hands, bringing freshness and novelty to sexual play. - In today's advanced times, even teenagers know that clitoral stimulation is one of the most important elements of love play
, and the sex shop will offer you another wonderful and very useful toy: the clitoral stimulator. By the way, it is very good as a kind of test simulator, manipulation of which will allow you to study the sexual reactions of your partner and adds amazing impressions during even the most traditional intimacy. - Once you have persuaded yourself to go to a sex shop, do not hesitate to consult with the seller.
Believe me, there is nothing shocking or vulgar in this conversation. You ask the advice of a salesperson in a hardware, grocery or shoe store? A store for lovers is essentially no different from any other, and the staff is there not only to lighten your wallet, but also to help you choose the right purchase. And most importantly, when going to a sex shop, remember: nothing is prohibited between two loving people if it is a joy for both partners.
The bed is the last thing
Have you gained some theoretical skills and tried them out in practice? We advise you to experiment with the geography of love. Don’t be alarmed, we are not talking about going to the North Pole to love each other on the permafrost, risking frostbite of the members and organs actively involved in sex. To begin with, you can simply go on an erotic journey through your own apartment.
You shouldn't focus on the bedroom - although it will come to that. Start with kisses somewhere in the hallway, then move to the kitchen and allow yourself to be undressed, then slip out of the impatient hands of your lover and lure him into the bath. You never know how many good, secluded and, most importantly, unexpected places there are in the apartment! A dining table or a wide window sill, a carpet on the floor in the living room or an old piano, and at least a loggia - if it is properly glazed, because ardent love on an ordinary balcony can gather too large an audience of interested passersby. Sexologists say that the effect of the old place provokes cravings, but the effect of the new place, on the contrary, brings fresh sensations.
Topographer tips:
- Have you mastered the entire apartment?
Well, that means it’s time to start romantic forays into the world around us. For starters, you can just go visit. Ardent teenagers, even at a party, would find a place where they could bring the merger to the final result, but since we are now talking about respectable adults, it is absolutely not necessary to secretly make love with friends in the toilet. But secret, inconspicuous petting under the cover of a long tablecloth - why not. You will come home in an excited state, and no one will bother you there. - Petting is also very good in restaurants with separate rooms.
Between the waiter's arrivals, you will have enough time for each other - if not for the process itself, then at least for mutual excitement. Believe me, the walls of such restaurants have seen everything, so the staff there is well-trained and will not disturb you at the most crucial moment. Again, no one encourages an adult couple to secretly excite each other in an opera house, but in the darkness of a cinema hall - why not. - If you have the opportunity to spend a weekend in a forest tent or in a banal holiday home, this will also greatly diversify your established sexual relationships
, and a joint vacation somewhere in warm regions is the best dope for dormant passion. So expand the geography of your love, and this old proven method will certainly refresh your sexual relationship.
We also suggest expanding your boundaries even further by reading our next article about autoerotic asphyxia, where we reveal all the advantages and dangers of this hobby.
Surprising your beloved
Suddenly meeting a friend after work with a bouquet of flowers is a good idea, but this is not enough for her to always bloom and smell. What other ways can you please the girl you like?
In bed, in sex
It seems that in this area men have no equal in fantasy. In sex, it is the man who is able to liberate his beloved, inspire her and turn her on properly.
To surprise a girl in bed, try changing your foreplay tactics:
- Start the game, for example, not with a gentle kiss, but with subtle back stroking, head massage, and touching the thighs.
- Act slowly, listen to your partner's reaction, move in a new direction for the two of you.
Reference! Take your time and don’t get straight to the point: tease the girl, do everything so that she takes the initiative into her own hands, getting pretty excited.
Another way to surprise a girl in an intimate way is to move to a new place for you . A window sill, a shower room, a kitchen table and anything else that comes into your head (within reason!) will help to impress the lady of your heart.
The video tells how to surprise a girl in bed:
On distance
Surprising a girl with whom you are separated by kilometers is no more difficult than surprising your neighbor.
Surprises depend on many factors:
- for what reason is she (or you) away,
- How long did it take to be separated?
- what is the “age” of the relationship,
- the guy's financial situation and so on.
One of the easiest ways to please your loved one is delivery . If you have a strong relationship, most likely you know the address where she is located.
Choose a gift that she will definitely like (flowers, a plush toy, or maybe sushi or pizza), pay for it using a bank card or e-wallet and wait for enthusiastic SMS or screams into the phone.
Reference! When preparing to surprise in this way, do not forget to check the girl’s address (if, for example, she lives in a hotel during a business trip) and make sure that she will be at home at the appointed time.
If you are away and before your trip you want to please your girlfriend, take care of the gift in advance:
- you can buy a beautiful bag or dress that she dreamed of,
- make an interesting gift with your own hands,
- spend money on decoration.
During the farewell meeting, discreetly hide the gift under the pillow or near the girl’s dressing table, put it in her pocket or purse. Such a find will be a pleasant surprise.
How to keep love at a distance and what surprises to give a girl is explained in the video:
VKontakte messages
Nowadays, you can surprise a girl without having either money or the opportunity to be nearby - with the help of social networks. This option is especially suitable for guys who have difficulties with their financial situation or the girl is an avid lover of surfing the Internet.
You can choose one of the following ways to impress a VKontakte girl by correspondence.
Option 1.
- Wait until your lover goes to bed. If she goes to bed late, you can set the alarm for 2 or 3 am, just to be sure.
- Prepare the text of your messages in advance, which can be 30, 50, or 200 - at your discretion. They should all be concise and contain a compliment or a small sentence (for example, “I love your laugh”).
- Send each completed phrase as a separate message.
- You can start with this: “You are sleeping now, but I can’t sleep and I’m thinking about you, because you...”, and then messages with compliments (kind, beautiful, affectionate, gentle, etc.).
Option 2.
You need to prepare for this surprise in advance.
- You will need to find 1 person from different cities of the country on the social network in advance (you can try to go beyond its borders) and ask them to write the same message to the girl at the same time.
- The text for it needs to be prepared in advance, for example, “Lena, Dima loves you very much! All of Moscow knows this!”, then the person will only need to insert the name of his city.
- Be sure to notify everyone of the time so that you can adjust to your desired time zone.
Examples of messages to a girl for flirting
No matter how touchy a girl may seem, she wants a strong, confident, courageous and reliable guy nearby.
When a man feels that a girl likes him, then sympathy should be warmed up with messages of this kind:
- “Now I understand why I registered on a dating site.”
- “You look like a princess. By chance, were there any representatives of royal blood in your family?”
- "Do you have a dream? I dream of spending all my free time with you.”
- “I saw you in a dream today. Let's make this dream come true!"
- “More than anything in the world, I want to make you happy.”
- “You floored me with just your look.”
- “How do you always manage to look so amazing?”
- “Could you please wake me up tomorrow morning? I want to start the day with the sound of your voice.”
- “Tell me which way should I go to your heart?”
- “I was looking for synonyms for the word “ideal” in the dictionary. Your name was there too.”
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