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- The relationship between freedom and fear of self-expression
- Self-expression in the profession
- Self-expression in creativity
- Self-expression in appearance
- Self-expression through tastes
- The place of art in people's lives: finding oneself
- What benefits does art have?
- Self-expression in emotions
Every person strives for self-expression. Nowadays, we have to play some role in society, because working and educational moments dictate our own needs. People have to do what is expected in a particular situation. This trend cannot be interpreted from a single perspective, because it is advisable to accept the demands of life. The need for self-expression persists, regardless of the circumstances, so it deserves correct, adequate manifestation.
Self-expression is a source of positive emotions, good mood, inspiration, the desire to improve oneself and achieve goals, a way to discharge and get rid of negative energy.
Self-expression occurs under the influence of life circumstances, in various directions, but in each case a person finds a chance to find himself, understand the true “I”, and decide on further development. Psychologists understand the need to provide help to people, as a result of which they offer art therapy and dance movement therapy to provide psychological assistance. Self-expression and psychological techniques help to increase self-esteem, understand development prospects, and correct patterns of interaction with the team.
Each person is individual, so you need to focus on areas of self-expression, taking into account their character traits. It is not necessary to choose only one method, since exploring the possibilities will lead to decent results.
The relationship between freedom and fear of self-expression
Self-expression, which is free, is the basis of a happy life, eliminating doubts and problems. Why is it desirable to show character and inherent potential?
Self-expression leads to joy and happiness despite adverse circumstances. Self-expression is a source of inspiration that provides relief from negative emotions and unwanted fatigue. Self-expression promotes understanding of potential and desires, self-knowledge. If desired, character traits develop. Self-expression raises self-esteem, gives confidence in strength and the presence of a basis for development. Self-expression is the basis of finding like-minded people. A social circle that matches your interests and worldview makes interaction with other people complete.
Circumstances that lead to the concealment of potential and inclinations, real character, make a person tense, shy, and complex. The development of the situation in this direction leads to concerns about a decrease in self-esteem. The person does not feel free and happy. For this reason, self-expression plays an important role for an individual. What opportunities for self-expression are there?
Why does the need for self-expression arise?
We live in a very difficult world. Life imposes a lot of restrictions on a person: moral, religious, social, etc. If this had not happened, humanity would most likely have ceased to exist long ago. But people cannot turn into an inert gray mass, concerned only with the problems of their own survival. Fortunately, we are endowed with individuality, which makes everyone unique, one of a kind. Is it any wonder that many people want to demonstrate to others their originality.
There is a point of view that self-expression is one of the most accessible and powerful ways to feel happy and free, to declare your existence to the world, to somehow stand out from the huge crowd of your own kind, and to reveal your inherent creative potential. Self-expression can provide relief from fatigue and negative emotions, raise self-esteem, strengthen faith in one’s own strengths, strengthen character and develop independence from other people’s opinions.
Self-expression in the profession
A job that has a connection with a hobby and brings a decent salary is a secret dream. If you express yourself in a profession, happiness becomes an integral part of life. Work should not only bring a salary and serve as a source of food and livelihood. In most cases, such self-expression is achieved by creative people, born leaders. Focus on hobbies and potential, wanting to achieve realization and open prospects for moving forward.
Creative expression
Expressing yourself through creativity is a powerful tool for realizing talents and abilities. Painting reflects the artist’s worldview, his way of thinking. Acquaintance with art begins in childhood. Illustrations and pictures with images of favorite characters develop children’s imagination and increase their erudition. Develop a love of drawing by creating shapes with chalk on the asphalt, pencils on a sheet of paper, or paints in a sketchbook. If you like to play music or dance, do it as often as possible. Capture interesting moments on your mobile phone. Photography will become not only a hobby, but also a main profession. Documentation of breathtaking scenes, beautiful landscapes, happy moments. From childhood, strive to unleash your inherent creative potential. The desire to share thoughts and make videos is a chance to become a blogger, create a popular page on social networks, and become famous in the Internet space. Interest in travel and travel develops curiosity and love of nature. If you get pleasure in the process, then you have chosen an activity to your liking, reflecting your inner world.
Self-expression in creativity
Self-expression in a creative direction has a high level of effectiveness, since a person devotes time to what he likes, realizes creative inclinations and skills, while simultaneously receiving recognition. If you wish, enjoy the results of creative work alone, as this will also be beneficial.
Knowing your inclinations and chances for realizing your potential, proceed to the creative embodiment of your inclinations. Creativity includes composing music and writing unique texts, prose and poetry, photography, and dancing. Do a hobby as often as you can, it will give you happiness.
If you haven't discovered your creativity, experiment and find direction. Try to draw, create creative images in airbrushing, write poetry and prose, take photographs, dance. Any direction will give freedom to the heart and soul, promote self-expression and the search for “I”. Once you find the right direction, develop open-ended skills. There are no barriers to advancement, as modern offers delight in diversity. Visit dance clubs, maintain a blog or website, participate in discussions, write prose and poetry, publish literary works on the Internet, present people with crafts, knitted toys, painted pictures and comics. Having made the right choice, pleasure will appear in your life, give you a piece of happiness, and help increase your self-esteem. Do not succumb to other people's opinions and fashion, as self-expression is useful, and suppressing potential will lead to harm.
Self-expression
The purpose of life is self-expression. Reveal in full
our essence - that's what we live for.
Oscar Wilde. The Picture of Dorian Grey
Self-expression as a personality quality is the ability to reveal one’s soul to the outside world;
following the voice of conscience, manifest, show your attitude to the world not only in the form of individual feelings, actions, words, facial expressions and gestures, but also in the presentation of your personality with a greater or lesser degree of individuality, originality, originality and expressiveness.
The poet turned to a doctor for help. He told him: “I have a whole series of terrible symptoms.” I’m unhappy and I can’t find a place for myself; my arms and legs, and even my hair, ache. The doctor asked: “Perhaps you haven’t published your latest work yet?” “Yes, that’s true,” said the poet. “Great,” said the doctor. - Be so kind as to read it. The poet began to read and, at the doctor’s request, repeated his lines over and over again. Then the doctor said: “Get up, you are cured.” What was inside of you affected your external organs. Now that it is released, you are healthy again.
Self-expression is a striptease of the soul. To be happy, the soul needs to open up completely, to be naked before the Absolute Truth. But the soul can be naked only in a relationship with God. There is no shame in a relationship with Him. In all other cases, we can only talk about partial self-expression.
True self-expression is when a person always, everywhere and in everything follows the voice of conscience. Conscience, as an internal moral law within a person, as the representation of God in him, becomes the main motivator of all his actions. When the inner judge demands behavior accordingly, this is reflected in the self-expression of the individual - a mirror image of the spark of God - conscience. People who have lost their conscience are incapable of true self-expression. Those around them see in their attitude to the world a pathetic counterfeit of self-expression in the form of hypocrisy, pride, selfishness, ignorance, capriciousness, in a word, a long gallery of vices ending in personal degradation and madness.
In the context of these thoughts, the American writer Donald Walsh writes: “The formula for life in a hundred words. Hope
- the door to faith,
Faith
- the door to knowledge,
Cognition
- the door to creativity,
Creativity
- the door to experience.
Experience
is the door to self-expression,
Self-expression is
the door to becoming, Becoming
the active force of all Life and the only function of God. What you hope for, sooner or later you will believe; what you believe, sooner or later you will know; what you know, you will do sooner or later; what you create, sooner or later you will learn from experience; What you learn from experience, you will sooner or later express; What you express, sooner or later you will become. This is the Formula of All Life. It's that simple."
Self-expression as a personality quality is a natural need of the soul, inherent in everyone. However, not everyone can fulfill this need. There is a claim to self-expression, but there are no opportunities. Society forces us to wear social masks. Sometimes a person puts on so many masks in a day that it’s not his turn to express himself. You need to always follow some line of behavior - a democratic boss, a principled deputy, an honest politician, a wonderful family man. There are masks, but there is no self-expression and sincerity.
Poet Sergei Ostrovoy writes:
Of all the examples of self-expression, I prefer sincerity of movement. Movement of the heart. And the movement of thought. Everything moves in the world. Up or down.
Everything is moving. From birth. To the good. And to evil. And this is the essence of the movement... And the essence of actions. Free and involuntary. And a hundred straight roads. And a hundred roundabout ones.
That's why self-expression has such different conjugations.
Consciously or unconsciously identifying oneself with someone is a perverted form of self-expression. Social masks in and of themselves are not bad. The fact is that because of them, a person loses the opportunity to express himself. He is always concerned about how best to play a role. The problem of “to be or to seem” becomes especially relevant for him.
What does a person ultimately lose? A powerful source of positive emotions, inspiration and an excellent way to discharge, providing an outlet for accumulated negative energy. It’s not for nothing that they say that for an artist a painting is a sewer into which he drains negative emotions. Irving Stone writes in his novel Lust for Life: “Rembrandt could not help but write. Whether he wrote well or poorly is not important, but only Painting made him human. What makes art so precious, Vincent, is that it gives the artist the opportunity to express himself. Rembrandt did what he considered the purpose of his life, and this is his justification. Even if his art were worth nothing, even then he would have lived his life a thousand times more fruitfully than if he had suppressed his impulse and become the richest merchant in Amsterdam.”
In addition, a person deprived of the possibility of self-expression cannot find, self-explore and realize himself. Without understanding yourself, it is difficult to improve and develop personally. Those who robbed themselves of the opportunity to express themselves also robbed themselves of a great way to increase their self-esteem.
Without the ability to express oneself, a person becomes invisible. Those around them see a social mask of an insolvent personality and nothing more. Christopher Priest wrote: “Invisibility is a lack of self-confidence, a kind of failure of personality.” Maxim Kulizhnikov says in this regard: “Movie or music stars, say, often express themselves in accordance with how the public will react, sacrificing their true nature to the tastes of their audience. Artists who are true to themselves (and their work) are very different from people who make pop music. Often the former did not receive recognition during their lifetime. Little to no recognition or due recognition. But something inspired them to be themselves and express their essence.”
Self-expression is impossible without respect and love for people. In one Tajik, or Uzbek, or maybe even in an Indian city, there lived a carpet maker. All his life he was engaged in weaving carpets. He received his skill from his father, and he from his, and so on. In each of his carpet creations, the master expressed his own vision of the world. Each of his works was like a letter - a message to the world. At the very end of his days, the master created a carpet in which he talked about everything he had learned in his long life. His carpets decorated the homes of both poor and rich people for a long time. Each of our creations: be it a carpet, a planted tree, or even a driven nail, is our creation, a message to the world and other people, it brings them a piece of our heart and soul.
Petr Kovalev 2014 Other articles by the author: https://www.podskazki.info/karta-statej/
Self-expression in appearance
This way of expression is typical for girls and women. Psychologists note that external attributes create a unique image, because they contribute to the manifestation of character and potential. Focusing on your inner feelings, create a wardrobe, do haircuts and hairstyles, select accessories, apply makeup and manicure. Do not chase fashion, which suppresses personality and does not allow you to find a source for expressing your inner world.
By creating a suitable image that matches your inner feelings, you will become a person. Stand out from the crowd, remembering that no two people are the same. Individuality is manifested in the image.
Tattoos and piercings are popular among young people, but they allow you to deviate from the standards and express yourself. For this reason, the option is suitable for self-expression.
Hello, our dear readers! We have prepared a new article for you. Agree that we all often hear about the need to engage in self-development, but in most cases we don’t even imagine what this means. Self-expression of a person sometimes becomes a whole problem, because sometimes we don’t even know where to start.
Finding yourself, the meaning of your existence are the most important tasks for every person. Sometimes this search takes a lifetime. The lucky ones who were able to choose the right path at the beginning of their journey live their lives to the fullest.
Unfortunately, there are not many such people. Finding your purpose: where to start and why it is so difficult to find yourself in this world worries people of any age, social and financial status. We can say that everyone is equal in this problem.
Nowadays you can often hear on TV screens that self-development is the solution to many human psychological problems. How to overcome a phobia? Engage in self-development! How to earn more? Engage in self-development! How to become an example for your children? Engage in self-development!
So what is self-development? Today in our article we will look at where to start with personal development and the search for your purpose.
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Difficulties in finding purpose
Young people are finishing school. They have the responsibility to choose the next path to take. Some will go to work, others to study. Which profession should I choose? Often this choice is made together with parents. Sometimes, parents take on the job of choosing their children's destination.
A person’s needs for self-expression at this stage are often pushed aside in favor of fashion trends. At this stage, mistakes are often made, and the young person begins to move through life along the wrong path. Who is to blame for this? Nobody.
Finding purpose is a complex and deep process. The whole world opens up before yesterday's schoolboy. My eyes widen. There's so much I want to try. Or, on the contrary, from an overabundance of information and offers, the child enters a stupor and ceases to understand what he wants at all and begins to want nothing. Then the parents guide him at their own discretion, thereby making a choice for him.
The fundamental human need for self-expression is the need for self-realization. That is why it is important to understand what a person’s soul is about.
Abilities of young children
Everyone from birth has a predisposition to do something better than others. Can these abilities be called our destiny? Partly yes. If you feel successful in something, it gives you more strength and incentive to continue.
Examples of a person's self-expression can be very different. From infancy, parents try to find out what the child shows abilities in. Sometimes a child becomes overloaded with different circles and sections. Parents can be understood; they are afraid of missing out on something, missing out on important talents that would later make the child successful, rich and happy.
However, you need to maintain moderation in everything. A small person usually has abilities in many areas.
Forms of human self-expression can be different. A child with mathematical ability will also perform well in many things that require an analytical eye. If he is creative, then this can be expressed simultaneously in drawing, acting, dancing, music, etc.
The way a person expresses himself can change from day to day. Don't sign him up for all the creative clubs. For a harmoniously developing personality, and for the development of abilities, a child must sleep well, have personal time, and rest.
In pre-revolutionary Russia, it was believed that for the proper development of a child and his abilities, it was necessary to take music and foreign language lessons from childhood. This is suitable for children of humanities and children with a mathematical mind. Because in these disciplines there is both creativity and clear logic.
Difficult life choices
It’s good for those who, while still at school, decided what to do in the future. It is important when parents support the child in this desire. In the process of life, he understands that he made the right choice and is happy in this choice.
But as already mentioned, there are few such people. Most live in search of themselves for half their life, and some live their entire lives. An unloved job or task is painful. A third of our time is devoted to them every day. We do not feel happiness and satisfaction, except for a short period of time.
A person goes through many stages during his life. He grows up and becomes wise. There is no statute of limitations on finding your purpose. You can find yourself at 20, or at 50. The main thing is to look and not give in to negative thoughts.
At different stages of life, thoughts arise related to the fact that you want changes, that work does not suit you, that it is stressful, exhausting, and more. At this moment you become close to understanding that something needs to change.
In the process of working, communicating with people, an understanding is gradually formed of what you like to do more, which is easy to do. Try to concentrate on these thoughts, finding out your desires in more detail.
For example, if you realized that you prefer working at a computer or communicating with people in the fresh air. Try to develop this topic. Think about what kind of work will combine communication and walking. Maybe it will be a job as a tour guide?
Factors hindering the path to finding purpose
If everything were simple, then there would probably be no unhappy people or people who devoted their lives to searching for themselves. Unfortunately, even when you have figured out and established what you want to do, many barriers arise.
Some will have to relearn at a conscious age. This is a difficult decision to make. Someone will think that there is no free money and time. And this will not be an excuse.
For example, a family man no longer belongs completely to himself. He must feed his family and fulfill established duties. It is extremely difficult to find time, energy and money in such conditions. You may also encounter misunderstandings from loved ones.
Having come to our favorite business, we are often faced with the need to start everything from scratch, with a minimum salary or no salary. You will need a strong desire to change your life and necessarily support from loved ones, including financial support.
Some people lack self-confidence to achieve their goals. The fear of making mistakes, the fear of taking on something new, constrains and can force a person to give up his dream. Try to overcome fear. Try again and again to change your life.
Self-development
A person's self-expression does not end with finding his purpose. Having found our path, each of us wants to be the best in it. The fundamental human need for maximum self-expression is not only self-realization, but also to develop even more in what you love.
Abraham Lincoln once said:
Whoever you are, be better!
This, in a simplified form, is the very essence of self-development, its main goal is to become better than you are now.
This may manifest itself in improving existing skills or acquiring new ones. It may concern your physical or intellectual state, and maybe even social or psychological.
But the goal of this process is always the same - “to be better!” But where should you start your self-development? Let's look at 7 simple steps that anyone can take.
Awareness
Self-development contains the prefix “self” for a reason! Because you need to approach this process yourself. You should realize the need for all subsequent changes, your confidence that you need this, that it is you who want to succeed.
Self-development is a purely individual process, and therefore you cannot start it because your wife or relatives want it, you must want self-development yourself. Awareness of the need to “be better!” is already making you better than you were before!
Determining your resources
The second step will be an analysis of current resources. This stage is very important for determining what you have and what you are missing. Try to evaluate your qualities from the outside in order to achieve objectivity. You can even imagine that you are hiring yourself and need to conduct a detailed interview.
For convenience, you can divide a sheet of paper into several parts and fill out each part separately:
- Physical part. Determine whether you are satisfied with your health, your current physical shape, the presence of bad habits, the state of your current nutrition, and so on
- Spiritual part. Think about how often you are irritable or aggressive, how often you feel angry, and whether these feelings are always justified by the current situation
- Material part. Here it is worth answering the question: “Are you satisfied with your financial situation?” If not, then what is the financial disadvantage? You don’t have enough for the bare minimum, or you don’t have enough for a trip or a new car. Or perhaps the dissatisfaction is due to the fact that you do not want to work “for someone”, but only want to work “for yourself”
- Social part. Determine whether you are satisfied with your relationships in your family, with friends, with colleagues at work
- The intellectual part. Determine whether you are satisfied with the level of your knowledge and skills, the state of your memory, attention, creativity, ability to achieve your goals
Determining needs
Once you have identified the resources available, you also become aware of the “gaps” you would like to fill.
Now you should collect all the existing “gaps” and choose one main one that is most important to you now. It's also worth thinking about why you need it. It should be based on your personal desire, otherwise your motivation may not be enough to complete the task.
For example, the goal “I want to earn more money because my wife wants a new car” will be less motivationally effective than “I want to quit smoking because I want to be an example for my children.”
Don’t leave all the remaining “gaps” too far, because you can build another goal out of them as soon as you achieve this one.
Planning
Don't be afraid of the word "planning", especially since we did most of this planning in the previous two steps.
You have defined who you are now and who you want to be. And this, roughly speaking, is point “A” from which you start and point “B” to which you must get. Now you just need to decide on the actions that will take you to this point “B”. And to do this, you should learn to divide your goal into tasks that are worth completing every day.
Setting goals and completing them will take time, but eventually you will be able to harness it. For more effective time management, you can use one of the following video courses, which, among other things, will help you effectively plan movement towards your goal:
— “The Master of Time – highly productive time management according to the system of Evgeniy Popov”
— “Time management, or how to increase your efficiency”
— “Setting and achieving goals. How to achieve results in any business? Free online video course
The "good mood" rule
Thought is the beginning of everything. And thoughts can be controlled. And therefore, the main thing to improve is to work on thoughts - words of L.N. Tolstoy.
Exactly! If pessimistic thoughts that nothing will work out and “I’ll never be able” dominate your mood, then so be it – you won’t succeed. That is why you should approach any task with a good mood, optimism and self-confidence.
Education
Study, study and study again!
New knowledge never hurts. They can take different forms - these can be trainings, courses, seminars, full-fledged training in special educational institutions, and so on.
Don’t be afraid to invest in your education, you will return these expenses with interest, because new knowledge is priceless.
For example, to learn more about tools for developing your personality and a more effective development path, you can independently study the book “The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R. Covey. Powerful tools for personal development ."
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One of the most important lessons I have learned in my life is this: If you want to achieve your highest goals and accomplish your most difficult tasks, formulate a principle, or natural law, that determines the results you strive for, and follow it - Stephen Covey
What is this book about
Firstly, this book sets out a systematic approach to determining a person’s life goals and priorities. These goals are different for everyone, but the book helps you understand yourself and clearly formulate your life goals. Secondly, the book shows how to achieve these goals. And thirdly, the book shows how every person can become a better person. Moreover, we are not talking about changing the image, but about real changes and self-improvement. The book does not give simple solutions and does not promise instant miracles. Any positive change takes time, work and perseverance. But for people seeking to maximize the potential inherent in them by nature, this book is a road map.
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Don’t forget about the “gift” to yourself for achieving your goal!
Yes, you don’t need to be shy about rewarding yourself and praising yourself for the work you’ve done, because this is what serves as the greatest motivator in your future successes.
We have already said that there is no statute of limitations in finding yourself. A person comes into this world to be happy and make others happy. Don’t be afraid to change, change your life if it’s necessary for your purpose.
Do you devote your time to your self-development? In what direction are your efforts currently directed? What helped you overcome the path you have already traveled?
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Self-expression through tastes
Hobbies, tastes in the literary, musical and cinematic world are the basis of self-expression.
Create a collection of songs, books, films, taking into account your preferences, opinions about works that are classic and modern. The passion for collecting gives pleasure from watching films and listening to music, contributes to the formation of the right circle of friends, recognition of taste by interlocutors.
Taste preferences are the basis for the manifestation of a worldview, an opinion about different life situations.
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Usually they write and talk about either emotional freedom or self-expression. Why did I combine these concepts? Moreover, this happened completely spontaneously. Because I believe that the holistic realization of an individual’s potential is impossible separately.
Let me explain. Let’s assume that you are emotionally free (or so it seems to you), but you don’t understand what is truly interesting to you in life, what activity or business can completely captivate you, captivate you, in which you can realize your abilities to the maximum extent. And then you will inevitably, to one degree or another, periodically experience mental discomfort, tormented by the search for meaning in life, and as a result, the life sphere of self-expression and self-realization will be a failure.
Let's go from the other side. Let's say that you are doing what you love, but your mental and emotional mood leaves much to be desired, you get irritated, offended, depressed, despondent, and naturally, being in such a state, it is difficult to talk about peace and harmony in the soul. Obviously, this leaves a negative imprint on other areas of your life - relationships with close and distant people, financial success, and so on.
The conclusion suggests itself. If you feel like a hostage to your own negative emotional states, if you cannot budge both literally and figuratively, or if moving through life is given to you with great effort, that you literally have to force yourself, then what about self-expression and creativity? Can we talk about implementation?
Let's take a closer look at this problem.
Since we are all social creatures, we are, to one degree or another, guided by other people. The style of interaction with people is learned in childhood until the age of 5-7 in the parental family, and then - in kindergarten, at school - communication skills are practiced and honed.
We will not delve too deeply into this topic, here it is important for us to understand this: in childhood we copy the behavior of our parents and as we grow older, our behavior becomes AUTOMATIC. We behave with other people the way our parents did, and we react to other people the way we reacted to our mom and dad. Scientifically this is called projection and transfer.
And the most unpleasant thing in this story is that a person often DOESN’T EVEN REALIZE that this is exactly the case. As a result, he is dissatisfied with himself and/or other people to varying degrees.
Simple examples.
If in your family:
it was customary to judge other people,
or fear that other people may deceive or cause harm,
or you often heard the claims and demands of your parents towards each other, towards you or other people,
or did you grow up in an atmosphere of indifference and coldness,
or there have been loud scandals in your family and there has been aggression and physical violence,
or both, and the third, and so on...
Then take a close look at yourself and at your main line of behavior in relation to different people, including in relation to yourself. What is your usual reaction? Are you offended, angry, afraid, shy, embarrassed, indignant, angry, ashamed, annoyed? Something else?
What does all this have to do with emotional freedom of expression? And the most direct thing.
Let's look at the example of a simple everyday situation, let's say you feel like you're thirsty. You calmly walk, pour water into a glass and drink. All. Your emotional state is a calm confidence that you will fulfill the need that has arisen.
Another version of the situation is when you need to interact with another person to quench your thirst, for example, with a salesperson in a store. Again, you calmly go to the store, choose a drink to your taste and ask the seller to serve you the goods, pay and drink calmly. Your emotional state is one of calm confidence.
Imagine if, in order to quench your thirst,
you will begin to be angry with yourself for being thirsty and for the fact that no one is around to bring you a glass of water,
or that the glass and water are not at arm's length,
or you will doubt which glass to pour water into - blue or red,
or you will begin to fear that the seller will not give you change,
or you will be offended by the seller because he is serving another buyer at this moment,
or you will start to worry that the seller will think something bad about your ears,
or make a scandal because the label on the bottle of drink is the wrong color.
And so on. And when will you finally quench your thirst? Absurd, isn't it?
Isn't that what happens to your dreams?
When you stop yourself with your own habitual emotional reactions and do nothing or give up halfway, masterfully explaining to yourself why it didn’t work out for you, or even worse, blaming other people for giving you something wrong or in general not provided...
Or something else - continue the list yourself.
Thus, emotional freedom of self-expression is a state when you have a desire or need and IMMEDIATELY take certain actions to realize your desire or need in a calm, confident, balanced emotional state.
It's just that big dreams will require more time and more contacts with other people who will help you realize your desire if your own resources are not enough. That's all.
Sincerely,
Elena Sigaeva is a practical psychologist, an expert on issues of emotional freedom of expression and creative self-realization.
https://lifeplus10.ru
PS What habitual emotional reactions have you tracked in yourself?
The place of art in people's lives: finding oneself
Self-expression in art is a task that faces many creative people who are thinking about expressing their individuality. What explains this?
The inner world is filled with images and associations that cannot leave a person without emotions, the desire to show emotions. The exchange of elements of the inner world promotes emotional communication between people, the manifestation of the unconscious and the finding of inner harmony. Creative works serve as a manifestation of opinions about the world around us, current circumstances, and a direct manifestation of the inner world resonates in the soul of the audience. For this reason, self-expression in art is the task of creative people who develop their inherent potential.
A rational person moves away from self-expression, adapts to thinking stereotypes, the rules of the metropolis, and the needs of an active and successful life. This situation does not bring real happiness and leads to disappointment in life.
Creative works perform a utilitarian, adaptive function and regulate life. To manifest the “I”, it is necessary to restore contact between feelings and mind, create a holistic and harmonious personality, and understand personal meanings. For this reason, psychologists recommend the manifestation of character not only in appearance, taste preferences, profession, which are external attributes, but also in art, in which art therapy helps.
This is an impossibly difficult Self-Expression...
And again on our website there is an article from Olga Grzhibovskaya about her own experience in correcting a difficult Ba-Zi map that is overloaded with Resources.
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What am I talking about? A person has the gift of speech, two arms, two legs, and thinking abilities. He can sing, draw, make furniture and spaceships, take care of flowers and raise children. It would seem that our whole life is self-expression!
However, approximately a quarter of the population will perfectly understand what will be discussed in this article, since they, like me, are typical “resource seekers”, belonging to a special type of personality prone to accumulating energy and very reluctant to spend it. It seems that there is nothing wrong with this: well, a person saves, because the supply does not last his pocket. And in terms of property, knowledge and information - it couldn’t be better!
But the fact is that excessive resources are almost always UNUSEFUL, and the problems associated with it are quite serious. This includes self-doubt, excessive self-examination, a tendency to suppress one’s emotions and desires, increased suspiciousness, and sometimes phobias and even diseases caused by an overload of the immune system (for example, problems with the thyroid gland). And how we deal with them depends entirely on our ability to activate our Self-Expression.
Let me remind you that the element of Resources in Ba-Tzu is the element that generates (supports) the element of personality. For example, for a person the element of Wood is Water. And Self-expression, in turn, is an element generated by the element of personality. That is, for the same person, the element of Wood is Fire.
If you haven’t built your map yet and don’t know your personality element, you can do it right now, using the information from my free course at this link (opens in a new window).
The “resource person” does not automatically become a loser by the fact of birth, only because he has a lot of elements of Resources “collected” in his bazi chart. And nothing can be done about it. But because the accumulated energy does not find a sufficient outlet, and, stagnating, turns into an internal source of negative energy (Sha). And you just need to learn how to bring it out correctly, or rather, make it bring benefit to others, and, accordingly, money to you.
What is Self-Expression, and why do you need to understand it?
For those who have everything in order with self-realization, the problem may seem far-fetched. It’s also difficult for the sparrow to understand why we don’t fly - it’s so elementary! But oddly enough, it is often difficult for a person with insufficient or absent element of Self-Expression in the chart to even grasp what it is - I know from my own experience.
The question is not that a typical resource worker does nothing (under capitalism, each of us deeply felt the principle “He who doesn’t work, doesn’t eat”), but HOW he does something!
A simple example: you need to write an article. You can go in two ways: the first is to scour the Internet, and from fragments of other people’s texts and thoughts, compose a logical opus on a given topic; the second is to delve into your own head, remember what you saw, heard from people, compare theory with reality, and write exactly about it. The first is again the accumulation of resources (drawing other people’s ideas), and the second is the active processing of existing reserves and the release of the product of one’s own production. Unique, and therefore much more in demand.
Resources are when I “use someone else’s”, and self-expression is when I “create my own”. Fundamental difference, right? By the way, the content of Dmitry Vladimirovich’s website, which I highly respect, is unique, creative content, despite its popular orientation.
Of course, people with dominant Self-Expression also have something to struggle with. Such people can grab onto everything new with fervor and self-forgetfulness, but also quickly cool down without receiving an immediate result. They can safely take on 10 unfamiliar tasks at once, especially if they feel their material interest. Often such a person simultaneously calls, runs, makes an appointment, and calculates how much money he will have to spend on. And, in general, he achieves his goals. If, of course, you have enough strength to implement at least half of your plans.
A typical resource specialist in the same situation will spend a long time scattering his brains, thinking about the topic from all sides. He will change the paradigm a couple of times and... without doing anything, he will move on to thinking about a new, even more amazing idea.
If there is a lot of Self-Expression, but there are no Resources, a person easily gets down to business, thinking only 1-2 steps ahead, and, having stumbled upon obstacles, cools down. The resource manager, in the absence of Self-Expression, on the contrary, will spare no time in thinking through the concept as a whole. But he hesitates to move on to active concrete actions where he already needs to call, meet, agree, and declare himself. And he fails his good endeavors for exactly the opposite reasons. In addition, he is reluctant to work on several projects in parallel, preferring to devote himself entirely to what he has “thought out.” Therefore, if a project is a success, it is a complete success. And if it fails, then there is no alternative.
Usually resource workers are intellectuals, but in the extreme case of a strong element of resources in the absence of self-expression, they cannot even complete their education. And since in class we often have our heads in the clouds, they often ask questions, the answers to which have already been voiced many times. This is what earns them the reputation of being slow-witted.
Why bother understanding what self-expression is? Then, to know how to help yourself. If we want a happy, harmonious life, we will have to find a way to regularly release the accumulated energy, otherwise we will become a repository of failure and depression.
As a rule, a “resource manager” does not have isolated problems. They pile on him en masse: lack of work, husband, housing and excess weight (or anorexia) - a typical bouquet. I once breathed it all deeply. But the good news is that these problems are usually solved all at once, at the same time. If you choose the right “key”.
After hanging in the described state for a year and a half and reaching the end of my rope, I finally entered graduate school and found four jobs. And since I was an economics teacher by training, lectures for students at universities, teaching business planning to aspiring entrepreneurs and trips to exhibitions and fairs as a marketing manager provided me with a whole ocean of self-expression. I fluttered with happiness like a butterfly.
The husband was found as a logical consequence of the crazy pace of life and many new meetings. Of course, at that time I still had no idea about bazi; Perestroika simply forced me to change my mind.
How to consciously launch self-expression
First of all, take a fresh look at everything you do. Assess this from the outside - is your activity visible to others, or are you rather building crystal castles in your imagination. Self-expression is taking initiative, turning your attention to the outside world rather than inside yourself, transferring knowledge, offering your ideas to other people and, of course, implementing them.
For young people with excess useless resources and insufficient self-expression, it is necessary to start an independent life as quickly as possible, which will force them to look for a rented apartment, work, pay bills and solve all everyday problems. If you are the mother of such a child, just purposefully help him develop practical skills and theorize less. And cultivate in him the desire for independent life, self-sufficiency and freedom.
For those resource workers who find themselves in a difficult situation, feel problems in many areas at once and cannot break out of the vicious circle, I seriously advise you to start with what each of us can do - with daily exercises. After all, physical effort and exercise is a pure form of self-expression. For people suffering from severe depression and some mental illnesses, doctors even “prescribe” physical activity.
For example, at school I tried my best to avoid physical education lessons, took certificates, and I must say, I was constantly sick. My personal record is sore throat 7 times a year. But when I entered the university, I came across the draconian rules of the physical education department.
And I also ended up in a group of outdoor skiers. The sore throat disappeared. Then I couldn’t understand why at all? I'm so sick! Just 8 hours of physical exercise a week completely balanced my enormous wasteful resources and provided a healthy mind in a healthy body.
And I’ve been doing exercises – well, let’s be honest, due to some health problems – for 14 years now, and as a “side effect” I’ve gained an ideal weight and a much more optimistic outlook on life!
The other extreme
Everything that is excessive gives rise to its opposite. This is what happened with my reckless desire to “express myself.” It seems that it is simply impossible to deplete a person with four elements of resources in his chart. It turned out that it was possible, and very quickly. After a year and a half of working without days off or vacations, I felt completely empty. I could no longer look at the inveterate poor students from private universities, or at the incorrigible excellent students from state universities, or at faxes, or at price lists.
At the same time, my main self-expression turned out to be hopelessly neglected. With a drooping pigtail, it sat on the windowsill, from where the path to the entrance was visible, and waited for the “prodigal mother” to return from her next business trip. And I myself walked around orphaned and tattered, not because there was no money for clothes, but because there was no time to take care of my wardrobe and appearance.
Harmony
And, finally, how to get rid of the main problem of “resource people”, the so-called perfectionism, the desire for an ideal ideal or the syndrome of “excellent students”? The desire to thoroughly understand everything, and only then begin to act?
In Bazi we accept as a fact that Harmony is an elusive thing. But when we strive for it by performing real actions, our life becomes better, more interesting, more comfortable. A perfect balance of elements is impossible. And if the world turned out to be balanced, it would stop developing. Therefore, it is enough for the balance point to serve as a guide for you.
And then, at every turn of fate, there will be, albeit not always expected, but quite significant “carrots” waiting for you. This is harmony :)
What benefits does art have?
Art therapy is beneficial for every person. Creative inclinations manifest themselves in different ways, but in each case, art realizes the inherent potential, attitude towards current events, helping to find the right direction of development and find inner harmony.
Self-expression. Art promotes the expression of experiences in words and actions. The deep layers of a person’s unconscious state find a place in the conscious world. Self-expression allows you to acquire harmony and integrity. For this reason, art connects a person with other people. In difficult situations, for example, after experiencing stress or shock, art therapy becomes a way to establish contact between the patient, psychologist or psychotherapist. Art and creativity. A person develops and implements certain associations through experiences and attitudes towards ongoing events. Creativity and creativity are important life principles. A creative approach contributes to the successful search for a solution in any situation, as it strengthens contact with the unconscious component of the personality and internal forces. Creativity brings pleasure, relaxes in crisis situations, and eliminates pain. Experiences are manifested in art, testifying to the transitory nature of feeling. Any physical, moral, mental pain remains in the past after a person goes through self-expression, talks about sensations, emotions. Art conveys individual experience, human knowledge, accumulated feelings. Transmission through creative works resonates with listeners who tune in to the appropriate wavelength and become receptive. A person expresses himself, after which he gets a chance to overcome the stage of life and further development. Art cannot claim objectivity and correctness, truth, since all people differ in their worldview and character, but the experience of each person is useful for others. Modern life and the demands of society destroy the individual, therefore there is a need to search for true feelings and return to the inner world. Many adults perceive creativity as a game, which guarantees benefits.
The meaning of the word self-expression
In the sense that, not finding external self-expression, without which Fisa is simply going through withdrawal (10 years of ballroom dancing!), she subconsciously continues to look for this self-expression, but in a completely different way: any escapades from me to another, completely different from me, are perceived by her as a kind of act of self-affirmation, giving the right to put herself above.
The mainstream, as it seems at first glance, is opposed to genres: it does not care about the reader (does not make it easier for him to perceive the text), constantly goes into various intellectual and formal experiments, is not interested in either the plot or the hero, but serves the self-expression of the author, who is sometimes likened to a girl , making faces in front of the mirror: it will turn this way, and it will turn out that way... Genre works, on the contrary, must take care of the reader, be understandable, have a plot and a hero, and the author’s self-expression should be minimal.
That is why the categories of “self-expression” or “sincerity” exist in Grishkovets’ theater not as a given, but as problems: if self-expression, then who, what kind of Self?
So, general psychology, first year: The topic caught his eye: “self-expression of a person in communication” and the following “psychology of loneliness and its influence on the individual as a subject of social relations.”
You write and think that literature is the self-consciousness of humanity, the self-expression of humanity in your face.
And one should not dispute this point of view of the artist, for whom self-expression should be, as the word itself suggests, the main goal, if only not the only meaning of existence.
“So it’s not you who drink,” Vasily Agenobarbovich reasonably noted, “but the momentary self-expression of non-existence according to Krioshkolsky in a given quantum of space-time.
Thanks to her, millions of women found their true self-expression in the perfume “Paris” by Yves Saint Laurent, “Eternity” by Calvin Kleine or “Tresor” by Lancome, which have long become living classics, along with Chanel No. 5.
In general, rock music gives an indescribable spirit of freedom, even in our post-Soviet Russia, where all bans on self-expression seem to have been lifted, only it allows you to fully open up in the circle of fellow believers, and does not create illusions of a bright future.
In Russian culture there is also the phenomenon of Chaadaev, whose self-expression for many years after the disaster caused by the publication of one of the “Philosophical Letters” took place precisely in the form of public conversation.
