How to return the feelings of your beloved girl to yourself: simple methods and advice from psychologists

Frankness check

When a girl asks my opinion about her, this question is regarded as nothing more than a test of sincerity.
It would seem that in this case you need to flatter and overwhelm her with compliments, but not everything is so simple. In fact, there is a big catch here: if you start blurting out that she is beautiful, smart, loved and blah blah blah, then the lady will feel insincerity.

At the same time, if you start to be stupid and cannot string together at least one sentence, she is offended by this. Of these two options, it is difficult to select the most correct one, since both of them will not satisfy the woman’s question. If she asks: “What good do you think about me?”, then here you can get by with compliments, listing all her true and slightly exaggerated advantages. It is better to do this in combination with stroking and kisses - so that she forgets and melts with happiness.

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We answer

So, an opinion about the girl and what to answer her. First, for couples who are already dating: remind her why you love her, listing the main points;

• say a little about the shortcomings, but smooth out the words by saying that you love her for who she is;
• forbidden technique: say that she is smart, because she puts up with you, such a goat, full of shortcomings. She will really like this and will create the feeling that she is really very strong;
• add to all this kisses and other tenderness. In general, such a conversation can be quite useful when problems arise in a relationship. If you sincerely discuss all the points that you don’t like about a girl’s behavior, then in the future there is a chance to improve the quality of life together.
  Unfortunately, this doesn’t work for everyone, so be careful with your words. If it's normal for you to talk honestly and openly about everything, then this advice is suitable. Now let’s look at the answer options for those who are just starting to hit on a girl: it wouldn’t hurt to remind you that you haven’t known each other for long and don’t yet know each other enough to fully answer this question;
• list all the good things that you already know about the girl and tell me which features are most pleasant for you;
• name a couple of little things that you don’t like about a girl. They should be insignificant so as not to make the lady consider them barriers to your communication;
• After that, apologize just in case you offended her in some way. Tell her that you just want to be honest and open with her. This is what the girl wants to know most. Naturally, there is not always some strong catch hidden in the question “what do you think about me.” A girl can blurt out something like that without thinking, just because.


Only you and no one else can recognize how serious she is. But if you are sure that a serious answer is not so important to her, then you can laugh it off in a form that she will understand and will not be offended by. A completely common joke from an alpha male: “There are a lot of beautiful women on Earth, but you stand out just a little with your ears. That’s why I like you—I think you’re special.” Use such humor at your own peril and risk, because all girls are different and only you can understand what will be on topic and what will not.

Why did her feelings go away

It is worth understanding that such a serious decision as breaking up with a partner is not made overnight. Your beloved thought a lot before finally making a choice, which means you will have to prove to your significant other for a long time that you are ready to analyze your behavior and eliminate shortcomings, just to be close to her again.

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First, you need to figure out why the girl lost her feelings. The main reasons are:

• Excessive jealousy. There is nothing wrong with the fact that you are jealous of your beloved for a handsome guy who shows obvious signs of attention. But if jealousy reaches the point of absurdity, then it only pushes away. Nobody likes total control: reading SMS, requiring passwords from all social networks, listening to telephone conversations, regular video calls to check location, surveillance, constant interrogations.
• Lack of common interests. Relationships cannot be sustained by sex alone. If you have nothing to talk about, nothing to discuss and nowhere to go together, then such love is doomed.
• Poor financial situation or reluctance to spend money on entertainment. Not a single lady would agree to sit at home all the time, watch movies only on the Internet, walk in the rain or snow, or drive around in the car every evening. From time to time I want to go to the theater, to a concert of my favorite band, to a restaurant, karaoke.
• Various companies. If during the entire time of communication you did not introduce your beloved to your friends and did not want to spend time with her company, then it is no wonder that she left. The conclusion that suggests itself: you did not consider her for a serious relationship.
• Differences in outlook on life. You are for an open relationship, and your woman hoped for a future together, dreamed of a family and children. When her dreams were shattered, she packed her things and left for a more reliable guy.
• Lack of attention. It’s hard to live with a man who doesn’t give compliments, doesn’t say nice words, or gives flowers.

• Rudeness, rudeness . If you treated your beloved like a “doormat”, humiliated and insulted her, it is not surprising that she decided to break up with such a person.
• Sexual incompatibility, harassment. If there was no intimacy between you yet, but you strongly insisted, this scared him away. When intimacy had already taken place, she might not have been satisfied with your sexual preferences, methods of contraception, lack of foreplay, or behavior in bed.

When the reason for leaving was something from this list, correct your behavior and attitude towards your beloved - and it will be possible to return her. But if the matter is a matter of betrayal or the woman simply fell out of love and found a more worthy person, then it is unlikely that actions on your part will correct the situation.

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Hidden meanings

In addition to a banal test of frankness, the girl wants to know what your intentions are regarding her. What do you plan and what do you expect from communication? You can determine what a woman wants to hear only in a specific situation, but if you think broadly, then you should tell the lady the following:

A curious girl can also ask: “tell me what you think about me” with the goal of not just listening to your opinion, but also then sharing her own.
Perhaps the lady is interested in something about you, but she doesn’t know how to approach this topic correctly. That's why she starts with herself and ends with a discussion of you. How can you answer the question about me? But this is another extensive topic for thought. You can try to talk about your interests and life priorities, but most likely the girl wants to know her personal qualities. Will you be able to protect her, for example. Hi, friend! Especially for you, I have prepared the course “Student. Natural seduction" for only 1490 rubles! Follow the link and order ->

Therefore,
do not let yourself doubt yourself and do not admit to your weaknesses and fears
. If she suddenly asks what you are afraid of, then come up with some little things that will not affect your relationship, such as fear of the dark, spiders, etc. little things that many people are afraid of. Are you afraid of gopniks on the street? She doesn't need to know about this.

Changing behavior in relationships

Unfortunately, a heart-to-heart conversation will not return your lost paradise. But you will understand how to act to win back the girl’s favor. Possible tactics:

1. "Penalty". Surrender to the mercy of your beloved. Let her come up with a punishment commensurate with the crime. After all, you deserve it! Mentally prepare for the worst: restricting access to the body for an indefinite period, a demonstration cultural tour with a fake gentleman, being assigned to the kitchen out of turn, organizing a picnic in the nearest pine forest. Take it for granted and don't resist. Perform forced labor with enthusiasm, show leniency towards the gentleman, perform romantic feats with the fervor of Hercules.
2. "Red card" Demonstratively deleted contacts, photos and all correspondence with other girls. Real and virtual. Try to explain your momentary weakness as a hormonal imbalance, a midlife crisis - maybe it will work. Compliment your one and only in front of other ladies more often: you will raise her self-esteem to pre-crisis levels. Make an offer (if it hasn’t already come to that) so that the disappointed beauty will again believe in the seriousness of your intentions. Interesting fact. Australian scientists have refuted the myth of the legendary swan fidelity. According to recent observations, loving birds, having chosen a life partner, still sometimes leave the nest for amorous adventures.
3. "Away game" Move the meeting place to a neighboring city, since returning the feelings of a tired girl if you still invite her to your place is not the best option. A change of boring scenery associated with bad memories will do her good. The refreshed young lady will also look at you completely differently. Surprise her with the scope of changes for the better and prove that you can capture the imagination:
   give a luxurious dress instead of three boring roses,
4. take her to a fancy beauty salon instead of a supermarket for a change,
5. Swap your work jeans for a decent suit.
6. "Support Group". Saving a relationship is a unique case when you need the help of her mother or best friend. Your “crocodile tears” and a big chocolate bar are incompatible with female solidarity. Enlist the support of your allies and promise them some worthwhile present if you win. The court retinue knows the secret approaches to the heart of your queen and will instill in her the right thoughts about you.
7. "Player Injury" It's time to undergo an in-depth medical examination. It is unlikely that you are among the small ranks of absolutely healthy people. A prescription stamped by a medical institution has the power of indulgence. Give in to pity if you have nothing else. The young lady, under the influence of a flash of maternal instinct, will selflessly take care of you. Compassion is more valuable than indifference. You'll gain time to get closer. The girl will have no time for trifles: she will switch to your precious health.

What not to do?

Any man should understand which questions are worth asking and which are not. As they say: “If you yourself are not ready to answer such a question, then do not ask it to someone else.” This way you can fall into a trap. I never ask women for their opinion about me, because the answers may not be worth it at all if you get the same question back. Then you certainly won’t be able to get away with it and will have to respond at least at the same level as the girl.