How to make peace with your husband: after a strong quarrel, if it’s your fault, if your husband is wrong, if your husband wants a divorce.

The relationship between husband and wife may not always be ideal. Sooner or later the first conflict situation occurs.

An intelligent woman knows how to approach a man and understands how to behave with her husband after a quarrel so that the conflict does not drag on.

You just need to understand the reason and develop behavioral tactics that correspond to the characteristics of male psychology.

How to make peace with your husband: advice from a psychologist

Each family and their relationships are individual. Methods of reconciliation that work 100% in one family may not work at all in another.

But how to find a recipe for reconciliation for your family? Read the tips below, try them on yourself and add the most effective ones to your collection of family secrets. Many tips will concern how to behave during a quarrel, because the possibility of reconciliation will directly depend on your behavior:

Get to the bottom of it . A quarrel often arises over a trifle. But often this trifle is just another notch on a more global problem. If you only solve these trifles, then the main problem will not disappear anywhere and you will return to it every now and then. Think and find the true reason for the quarrel, although it is possible that this is really a trifle.
Don't insult . If you value your relationship and understand that your quarrel is only a temporary phenomenon, then do not resort to insults. You will make peace and begin to move on with your life, but the insulting words will remain in your memory and will not disappear. And there may come a time when you and your spouse accumulate these words in your memory and one of you says that you no longer intend to live with this.

How to make peace with your husband?

Go straight ahead . The psychology of men and women is different. If you want to reconcile, then say so directly. Of course, you can make indirect attempts at reconciliation, such as a delicious dinner, a request to unbutton your dress. But watch the man's reaction. If he still behaves the same way, then tell him right over that delicious dinner that you want to make peace.
Know how to apologize if you are at fault. Even if during a quarrel you are sure that you are right, your decision may change after some time. When the emotions subside, analyze the situation again. Do you see your guilt? So it's worth apologizing. Even if a man is very angry or offended, take a moment to apologize.

Apologize to your husband

Apologize wisely . During your apology, you can try to justify yourself by explaining the reason for your behavior. If you think your husband provoked your actions, then do not say “I’m sorry for my behavior, but it’s your own fault.” Say: “Forgive me for this behavior, I just felt sad that we don’t spend enough time together.”
Let the man cool down . Even after your apology, the man may continue to be angry and silent. Don't push. Just make sure that you were heard and leave him alone, but not for long. One day or night should be enough for him to calm down. It is common for a woman to quarrel, and after 5 minutes she calms down and moves towards reconciliation. A man perceives everything more deeply, so he needs more time to calm down.

How to make peace with a man

Do something nice for your man . A tasty and original dinner and a small gift will only increase your chances of being forgiven. A man will see that you are really trying to make amends. This only works when you have already apologized, and your husband has already calmed down a little and is ready to make contact. If he still does not want to communicate with you, then this method will be very inappropriate.
Women's tricks . When the man has already cooled down and has already listened to your apology with understanding, then after a heart-to-heart talk and a delicious dinner, give him some kind of sexy gift: wear a beautiful outfit or caress your husband the way he loves. But this is also done only when you are almost forgiven, and your husband has already calmed down after the quarrel.

Granny also said: -

Swear, but make peace! And go to bed together... Whether sideways or backwards, But always together and close.

Sex reconciliation

IMPORTANT : The main thing is that after a quarrel, do not make hasty movements. Cool down. Only then decide how to proceed.

We quarreled and haven’t communicated with my husband for three days, what should I do?

Surely, during this period, the most negative emotions have already subsided, and each of you is ready for dialogue.

Since the husband does not want to initiate it, then take this fate upon yourself:

Invite your husband to discuss the current situation and find a way out of it. Try to be delicate and calm. Don’t escalate the situation, and let your husband simply express everything that has accumulated in him. Give your arguments and propose a solution that suits both of you.
Do everything to make him understand that you want to make peace. Cook delicious dishes, wear seductive clothes at home, show that you are in the mood for dialogue by asking him in a friendly tone about everyday little things: “Have you seen my key?”, “Did you pick up the mail?” etc. Even if he just nods indifferently, the main thing is that he understands your mood.
Ask close friends or relatives to organize a get-together in a cafe, a trip to the cinema or to some establishment, explaining why this is all being done. The main thing is that this company is pleasant to your life partner. If the husband nevertheless decides to go to the meeting, then he is clearly committed to a truce. Of course, first you will have to agree that “in public” you will not show each other your grievances. And it’s not far from real reconciliation.
Sometimes the reason for a quarrel can be completely trivial, but each of the spouses is so stubborn that they do not want to be the first to reconcile. This often happens especially among young couples. If you realize that your conflict is not really worth attention at all, take a moment and simply hug your husband and tell him that you love him. Surely, he has long been ready to make peace, and will be happy that this happened.

How to make peace after a strong quarrel?

A strong quarrel will not necessarily be associated with someone's very strong offense. Sometimes a small everyday trifle, coinciding with a bad mood or failure at work, can cause thunder in your quiet life.

Of course, advice on reconciliation will directly depend on who is to blame and what is the reason for what is happening.

The man's fault.

Undoubtedly, you want to be heard when you are offended. But men are such that they can often perfectly understand that they are wrong, but never admit it or apologize. It's not because the man doesn't love you. He is who he is. He is proud and afraid to show his pliability.
It is often difficult for a man to take the first step. And it usually takes a long time to mature. He can quarrel with you for a week, but understand his guilt. And only when he really can’t see you so depressed will he take the first step.

A man asks a woman for forgiveness

How to deal with this? No way. When emotions subside a little, tell him about your feelings and grievances. Even if he sits proudly and does not react to your revelations.
Don't worry, he's listening. Listens and understands.
Of course, you should not run to such a man with any apologies on your part.
If the quarrel was strong, and you were greatly offended or humiliated, then wait. Watch. After a couple of days, you will notice that he no longer slams doors. Wait, a conversation will follow soon.

The man is to blame for the quarrel

IMPORTANT : After a strong quarrel, the main thing is not to rush. Don't mess things up in the face of emotions.

about the woman's guilt below.

Reasons for divorce

There is no denying the obvious: not everything can be fixed . A lot depends on the reasons for the divorce. Alcoholism, infidelity, regular parties with friends, pathological lies - unfortunately, not every woman wants to return to this again after a divorce and gaining freedom. And let's be honest: not every man is ready to change himself and his lifestyle enough to get his ex-wife back. If it comes to divorce, then promises “this was the last time” no longer work.

The most difficult case is betrayal . Probably, a woman can, if not forget completely, then smooth out any grievances in her memory. But betrayal... For a man, this may mean nothing or almost nothing, but for a woman, betrayal is always the most striking example of betrayal. The subsequent disappointment in a man can completely push the warmest feelings and affections out of the heart and brain.

Divorce due to infidelity is often an irreversible event

But for a man who is confident in himself and his actions, nothing is impossible. He knows his woman better than anyone, her character, temperament and weaknesses. And if he also felt her doubts about the need for a divorce, then all was not lost. With a woman who is tough and decisive, who goes through life without fear, you will definitely have to tinker, and the result is not at all guaranteed, but a woman who is feminine, soft and not so drastic will most likely be able to be returned quite quickly.

Men's trump cards for any reconciliation with a woman - family, children, love

It’s definitely not worth describing yourself (“here’s how wonderful I am now, how I’ve improved and how wonderfully we’ll live a new life”). People don’t change , and an adult woman cannot believe that a voluptuous man will become an exemplary family man, will stop hanging around any short skirt and will watch his wife’s favorite TV series in the evenings. She weighs all the pros and cons of the reunion and makes the appropriate decision. But those very tender strings of a woman’s soul : family values, raising children, appealing to past feelings and romance - this is what a man should “press” on in order to make peace with his ex-wife after a divorce .

Attempts at reconciliation after divorce

How to make peace if it’s your own fault?

Making peace with your husband when you are to blame is much more difficult.
Men perceive quarrels with your fault more acutely. He may sulk for a week or even pack up his things and go live with his mother. And this is even despite the fact that when a man is guilty, you are usually quite lenient.
If you are truly at fault, then you have no choice but to apologize. Get ready that you will have to apologize a lot and often the man will not even want to hear your apologies.
Don't push at first. Let him calm down, otherwise you risk hearing something unflattering addressed to you.
When you feel less tension, apologize. Speak sincerely. Talk often. Convince him that you are sincerely sorry for what happened.

The man doesn't want to put up

IMPORTANT : If you are sure that you should continue to live in love and harmony, then help your family. Be wiser. Take the first step.

How to avoid a quarrel

It is very important not only to be able to resolve conflicts correctly, but also to try to prevent them.

Let's look at what behavior will help establish peace in the family and prevent possible quarrels.

Talk to your significant other every day, ask about his experiences, worries, and problems at work.
Don’t forget to once again compliment your loved one and praise him for his achievements.
Try to spend at least a little time together every day. For example, watch a movie together or go for a walk with your dog if you have one.
It is important to respect your husband's freedom. He should have time to meet with friends and do what he loves. The same applies to you.
Control your emotions. Very often, the outbreak of a conflict is caused by a woman’s unstable emotional state, her hysteria.
It is important to trust each other. Try not to hide anything. At least you can still have little secrets.
Try to find a compromise. A quarrel can arise due to the fact that spouses have very different views on something. Instead of unquestioningly insisting that you are right and demanding the understanding of your other half, it is better to reach an amicable agreement, partially sacrificing your opinion and also your husband’s own.
In addition to daily communication, once a week or two you can go outside the home together, for example, go to the movies or bowling, or play billiards.

How to make peace with your husband after a fight?

Is reconciliation necessary? Answer this question clearly first. If a man raised his hand to you, evaluate the circumstances in which this happened.
If the fight was a result of his unreasonable aggression (including while intoxicated), then you must understand that the matter is serious.
If you yourself provoked your husband’s aggression with your inexplicable behavior, then not only him, but also you will have to apologize.
Male tyrants usually believe that their behavior is normal. And the blame for such men always lies with the woman. You must understand that life with such a man will sooner or later lead you to an irreversible situation of separation. It's better to do this if you don't have children yet. And if there is, then don’t delay. There is no point in putting up with such a despot.
If your husband has never shown aggression before, then think about it. Perhaps he has many problems that you have not noticed. Perhaps you also sawed it. And by coincidence, what happened happened. Such a man usually feels a layer of guilt and will not mind a frank conversation. After you both have cooled down a little, talk. If you believe his words, you can forgive and make peace.

How to make peace after a fight

IMPORTANT : After fights, the first question is whether reconciliation is needed. If so, start with an open conversation and simply forgive. No tricks will be out of place here.

How to calm down after a quarrel with your loved one?

Psychologists recommend in such cases to leave the “place of battle” and the “enemy” himself. If the area allows, then retire to an area where you can calm down. If this is not possible, then go out into the fresh air. Walk to the store.

You can even enter a shopping center and pretend that you are going to do some shopping and look at the goods. It's calming! Or go to the nearest park, walk among the trees, and take a deep breath of oxygen. You can use the breathing practice of Ujjayi pranayama. To do this, you don’t have to be a “guru” in yoga.

Let's take a closer look at this exercise. You can do it both at home and on the street (secluded from people). Taking a deep breath through your nose, you lightly compress your glottis. This produces a slightly hissing sound. Exhale air, also straining the larynx.

Then you can relax all the muscles of your face. Repeat this exercise up to 10 times. This breathing method has a warming and calming effect. You can also get on a bike and ride for a while, feeling a pleasant load in your legs.

Or go to the sports complex: play basketball, work out on the exercise machine. Experts recommend this even if you are not an athletic person. The main thing is to relieve nervous tension.

How to calm down after a quarrel? Take a bath with rose petals

A good effect after physical activity is provided by relaxing baths with the addition of aero-oils: fir, lemon, anise.

Once you have managed to calm down, switch to your normal daily activities. Whether it is worth sorting out the conflict with a partner or not - it all depends on the situation.

In any case, “heart-to-heart conversations” have an effect after both partners have achieved a balanced state.

How to make peace with my husband after my betrayal?

If there really is love in the family, then both partners will feel terrible after betrayal.

IMPORTANT : Psychologists assure that both are always to blame for betrayal. And female infidelity is most often associated with a lack of attention from her husband.

Cut your lover out of your life. This person cannot appear in your life either as a friend or as a partner. If you really want your husband back, take this step.
Men have a harder time dealing with their wife's infidelity than wives have with their husband's infidelity. You are a woman who gives herself to another person and allows him to control her.
Be prepared that it will be difficult to achieve forgiveness. And some men never forgive this at all.
A heart-to-heart conversation must take place! Let it happen not immediately, but when the man is ready for it. But he must be.

How to make peace with your husband after cheating

You must explain what it was: a casual relationship or an attempt to find understanding and attention on the side. Don’t even think about shifting the blame onto your husband, even if he deprived you of attention. Still, the main culprit is the woman.
If you think that your husband’s behavior is to blame, then say so. But don’t blame, but say with regret what you wanted from your husband, what he didn’t give you. And explain that you don’t need this from another man. You want this attention and love only from him.
Let the man know that you are sincerely sorry and are absolutely convinced that this will never happen again.
Convince that you will try your best to restore the relationship.
Ask to start with a clean slate: he shows you attention and care as before. And you will be the keeper of the family hearth, as before.
If your husband has forgiven, then never remember it. As soon as one of you remembers what happened, you will have to start restoring the relationship almost from the beginning.

Relationships after cheating

IMPORTANT : Do not expect the same relationship from your husband the very next day, even after forgiveness. The recovery process will be long and will require a lot of effort and patience on both sides.

Conflicts and their consequences

Are quarrels that occur at 20 years old and those that occur at 40 different from each other? Yes, sure. When you are young, stressful situations are easier to overcome. A partner with his own “cockroaches” in his head is perceived more tolerantly. But years pass.

Due to habit and the accumulation of the burden of everyday worries, stormy showdowns can turn into further cold silence. Some couples admit that they can live in this mode for weeks and months.

As a rule, this behavior does not lead to anything good. Sooner or later the couple breaks up. Even if both partners unanimously made such a decision, this is a serious trauma for them.

How to make peace with your husband after divorce?

You need to see each other at least sometimes, otherwise when will you be able to act?
If you have children together, arrange meetings with your father more often. When you meet, invite them to come in for coffee.
If your husband had complaints against you that became one of the reasons for the breakup, then when you meet, show the changes in you. If your husband is offended that you are not interested in his hobby, then be sure to ask how things are going with it. If your husband has decided that you have become too serious a housewife who still doesn’t take care of yourself, then prove the opposite. No talk about everyday life. Tell us where you went and what you did besides home.

How to make peace after divorce

You should always look 100%
Don't start conversations about the reasons for a failed marriage.
Just silently eradicate the causes that depend on you
If your relationship moves to the intimate level, then this is your chance
Be sexy and bold. Seduce your ex-husband

Reconciliation with ex-husband

IMPORTANT : You will be able to make peace with your husband only by establishing friendly relations.

What causes scandals?

When newlyweds begin family life, their relationship is at the level of passion, love, tenderness. Then everyday situations begin to take up time, and any little thing can provoke a conflict. But this is just a clue; the reason itself is much deeper.

Scandals can arise for the following reasons:

The man pays little attention. The girl thinks that the guy has stopped talking and paying due attention: he doesn’t notice the new manicure, hairstyle, or a couple of kilograms lost. This style of behavior occurs in most young people; there is no need to be offended. Males have a different mindset: they can notice a small detail in a car, but ignore a changed female image.
Lack of help with household chores. If the wife manages the housework on her own, and the husband does not participate in this, resentment arises, which at some point will come out. This point also includes the husband’s dissatisfaction with the way his wife cooks, cleans the house or raises children.
Different views on life. Often lovers get married before they know each other well. When feelings subside, it can sometimes be difficult to regain them. Spouses begin to notice that the other half has completely different interests and needs. Quarrels and misunderstandings often occur on this basis.
Financial difficulties. The woman is dissatisfied with her husband and reproaches him for his low earnings. She complains that she doesn’t receive flowers or new decorations for the holidays. But if the husband gives a gift, he expresses why he spent a lot of money, what to live on now. The man cannot come to terms with this and begins to react with a surge of emotions.
Blind jealousy. An insufficient amount of attention, love, and affection makes spouses want to have fun on the side. This position will not suit the other half, and emerging jealousy will lead to a serious quarrel.

You need to be able to stop a scandal in the family in the first minutes. Otherwise, the situation may go so far that accusations, humiliation, and assault will be used, in which it is unlikely to be possible to make peace with the husband.

How to make peace with your husband via SMS? What should I write to my husband to make peace?

Often men like to take a time out after a quarrel and not talk to you, thinking about everything that happened. This position of his deprives you of the opportunity to apologize either at home or on the phone.

Then all you have to do is send an SMS to be heard .

What to write for reconciliation

IMPORTANT : Be prepared for the fact that your husband may not accept your SMS with an apology, especially in the event of a serious quarrel.

The SMS should contain the most important thing - your apology if you are to blame, or words about your readiness to forgive your husband if he is to blame.
This isn't the first time you've quarreled. If from your experience of troubles with your husband you know any effective words, then write them.
The SMS must be sincere.
There should be no reproaches or conditions in the SMS.
Be prepared to send several text messages. If after several attempts there is silence, write the following text: “Darling, are you ready to forgive me?”

How to make peace with your husband via SMS?

IMPORTANT : Your sincere words are the best text for SMS. If you're not sure how to get started, check out the following sections (prose or poetry) for ideas.

Don't share your quarrel

This is a very important point. The fewer dedicated people, the better. When you quarrel, and this is just between you, you decide for yourself when, how and where you will make peace with your husband.

But everything becomes much more complicated if other people take part (even if not actually) in the quarrel. The fact that you had a quarrel became known to your friends, or your husband shared his family problem with his friends. And everything immediately became more complicated. Everyone advises something, asks, and is interested in details.

Of course, you will make peace, but this will also cost your nerves. To a greater or lesser extent, you now depend on others, and they even influence your behavior. Therefore, the Russian wisdom “Don’t wash your dirty linen in public” comes in handy.

And one more small nuance. It is not yours to dedicate to your parents. Otherwise, you will only provoke outright negativity directed towards your man. And your parents will no longer treat him as favorably as before the quarrel. There may even be a conversation about how it would be better if you broke up. And all this will happen at the moment when your quarrel is over.

Therefore, if your goal is to achieve a truce as quickly as possible, then do not involve your parents in your conflict.

Reconciliation with your husband in verse

Options for those who want to apologize to their husband in verse

How I want to bring back the minutes, To avoid all the stupid mistakes... Let's take a new route - You can write another fairy tale! I'm sorry for what happened in the past, I regret everything very much! Let's think about the good, And let's start with a clean slate!

Forgive me for the fact that I am wrong. Sometimes I can be very impudent. Forgive me for the bitter words, That for no reason I can be harsh.

Whatever grudges you hold, let them go. It’s so easy, it’s not difficult at all. Darling, forgive me for everything. It’s simply impossible for me to live without you.

Poems for reconciliation

And this option is for those women who want to say that they have forgiven, in verse.

not offended at all anymore, believe me , the understanding comes not all at once, That our door was closed by a draft And there is no personal influence in that.

I forgive you all the hours of our separation, I forgive all my night pains and torments, After all, you are my beloved person, and it is a terrible sin for me not to forgive you.

Think about your actions4

Next, you should think about what you could change in solving the problem that has currently unsettled you. Maybe you could make concessions to your partner to make it easier for him? Or choose the most optimal and safe way to eliminate an unpleasant situation?

In fact, many psychologists believe that the most dangerous and unpleasant person for society is the one who considers himself constantly right. In his opinion, all decisions are lined up perfectly. And those people who do not fit into his concept of the world should be punished and simply crossed out of his life.

In fact, such people are insanely limited by their fantasies and ideas about the world. They are extremely selfish and it is very difficult to do any business with them. Therefore, they are most likely to suffer from small failures, because they do not have people who would share their “correct” views.

It is after you have seen your person in this text that you think about what is more important to you. Constantly feel right in all situations, or lose friendships and family because of your “correct” but failed judgments. That is why the main audience of people who are wondering how to behave after a quarrel are women.

Because they tend to constantly blame themselves and feel like the main villains. But in fact, both partners are to blame because they did not want to put up with the characteristics of their loved one. Think how much easier life would be if, when meeting future partners, we found out what “stupid” characteristics a person suffers from?

It would be easy for everyone, but in that case, everyone would walk around oppressed and alone. Because ideal people simply do not exist by nature. This is why you should accept your soul mate for who she is. And work together to correct many mistakes in yourself.

Think about it, maybe it’s just not your values regarding relationships, but the fact that you have built your pride as competently and strictly as possible, which is preventing you from developing now? Or maybe the reason lies precisely in the fact that your partner has inflated self-esteem?

In this case, you will have to put a lot of effort into correcting this behavior. The work should come not only from your desire, but also from your loved one’s inclination to correct mistakes. Most likely, he doesn’t even notice that he’s treating you wrong.

In this case, you just need to come to terms with the fact that you have two different points of view and begin to realize that each of you interprets the truth differently. In addition, you should not be offended if a person goes against your wishes; perhaps he does not even think about the fact that he is causing you any pain.

In addition, in this way he can simply express his negative emotions, which accumulate from constant stress. Stress can be associated not only with you, but also with your situation in your social circle, at work, or other factors. And in this case, you need to work on the person’s calmness and emotionality. Of course, we will never understand what another person feels. But we are able to turn any offense and any negativity into a positive direction, so that later it will be easier to continue working on our relationships.

Of course, we will never understand what another person feels. But we are able to turn any offense and any negativity into a positive direction, so that later it will be easier to continue working on our relationships.

Words of reconciliation in prose

The good thing about prose is that you can say whatever you feel in your soul without trying to make the lines rhyme.

Therefore, in prose you can write whatever you want to say.
Tell him how much you love your husband, how you regret him, how you can’t imagine your life without him.
Be sincere and your husband will feel it in your message.

My beloved husband, I acted stupidly and thoughtlessly. I shouldn't have said those words to you. You are the best, beloved and closest man in my life. Please don't ignore me. It's very difficult for me. I love you and I'm very sorry.

Words of reconciliation

It's my own fault

It happens that you had a fight, your husband left, and you realize that the conflict is not his fault. What to do in such a situation?

It is not recommended to immediately ask for forgiveness. It's better to wait a little. Let your husband come to his senses.
There is no need to humiliate yourself, fall to your knees, or beg for forgiveness. It is better if you simply initiate reconciliation.
Worry about a romantic evening. Prepare a surprise or buy a long-awaited gift for your loved one.

I'll tell you from personal experience. It happens that I quarrel with my husband, we don’t talk, but after 10 minutes I want to make peace. SMS or Skype messages can help. And it doesn’t matter whether he left for work after the quarrel or is in the next room. It's easier to start making peace this way.

Prayer of Reconciliation

When all attempts to reconcile with your husband have failed, and you are sure that the quarrel was not yours and was not worth the breakup, you can turn to God.

Come to church, buy a candle, place it near the icon of the Most Holy Theotokos and read the “Our Father” three times.

Afterwards, read the prayer for reconciliation three times:

“Lord Jesus Christ, son of God. Descend to us who ask, and forgive all sinful acts. Have mercy and defeat the enmity between your servants (name one by one the names of those whom you want to reconcile). Cleanse their souls from filth and the power of the devil, protect them from evil people and envious eyes. Like a quarrel over an evil act, return it to the unclean adversaries. May Your will be done now, and forever, and forever and ever. Amen."

Prayer for reconciliation

We are the same

In any group of people, more than one in number, the emergence of conflict situations is quite natural. Even in special groups of the FSB and SSO, specially trained fighters, where selection and recruitment for intercompatibility are carried out by “luminaries” of domestic psychology, nervous breakdowns and short-term showdowns are possible. What can we say about a couple, a man and a woman, whom no one chooses for each other except themselves. Here, whatever one may say, being together for 8-12 hours a day on the heel of 100 m2 for a year or more, conflict situations cannot be avoided.

And let’s add here different upbringings, dissimilar psychotypes, stress in professional activities, lack of social experience in relationships for one of the partners or both at the same time, mistaking falling in love for love in a precocious marriage, and as a result we get an explosive mixture to which only bring a match-conflict.

Conspiracy for reconciliation

If you believe in all kinds of conspiracies, then you can try this option when the situation seems completely hopeless.
Before reading the plot, relax and calm down. A conspiracy will help you make peace faster.
Read it in private and before bed. After reading, do not talk to anyone or give anything to anyone. Just go to bed.

“The sun and the moon do not go to war with each other! Stone and water always live in friendship! The spirit of heaven and earth must be in harmony! So the Servant of God (husband’s name) and the Servant of God (name yourself) can be reconciled in affection and love, not sulking, not swearing, but joking and laughing! Amen". Read it three times.

Conspiracy for reconciliation
Reconciliation with your husband is sometimes a difficult task. But if you are sure that you should be together, then act and let your family collapse.

Take the initiative

For some men, a showdown is not just a quarrel, but a real war. Such a man will not be able to come to reconciliation on his own, since he does not even realize that for a woman a quarrel is a completely normal thing.

In such a situation, again, if you are interested in this man, ask him for forgiveness, even if he is completely wrong. Of course, you shouldn’t run after him with tears in your eyes and beg for forgiveness. The phrase “I’m sorry, I wasn’t quite right” or send him an SMS to his phone is quite enough. The main thing is to do this as quickly as possible.

And when he starts to prove to you again that he was right, just agree (again, if you are really interested in this man) and the scandal will be over. But don't spend weeks apologizing.

Recommendations

If you had a fight with your husband, what to do interests you most of all, then, first of all, you need to look for ways out of the current situation. It is important to sort things out and prevent the conflict from getting worse and not giving reasons for divorce. In addition, you need to know how to react correctly. Let's look at what experts advise on this matter.

Identify the original source of the argument. It is possible that the cause of the current conflict is the consequence of some deep resentment.
During a quarrel, try to restrain yourself and control your emotions. In a fit of anger, you may say too much, which you will regret after reconciliation. After all, the husband will definitely remember all this.
There is no need to rush to tell your relatives and friends about the scandal. You will find ways of reconciliation, and all your loved ones will know about your dirty laundry.
If you have had a big fight, you should not threaten divorce in a fit of anger. You must understand that at first this “trick” may work, but then your husband will get tired of it, and your threats will turn into reality.
It’s better not to escalate the conflict and wait a little so that your significant other has time to move away from the scandal a little. Only then try to reach reconciliation.
You should not swear in the presence of relatives or while in the company of friends.
You shouldn’t be offended by your husband for too long. You must learn to forgive him. Even if his offense seems too serious for you, it deeply hurts your soul. But do not forget about the need to talk about your feelings and experiences about this.
If you have a child, then a quarrel between parents can negatively affect the child’s psyche. Therefore, it is unacceptable, especially in front of the baby.
During a quarrel, there must be dialogue. It is unacceptable for only one family member to speak out. It is important to let both you and your husband talk.
A girl should be wiser, she is the keeper of the hearth. Accept that in most cases you will have to make the first concession.
If you are interested in the question of how to make peace after a quarrel, ask for forgiveness:

tell him how dear he is to you;
do not skimp on kisses and gentle touches;
have a romantic dinner;
Prepare a surprise for your loved one - a long-awaited gift.

Now you know tips on the correct behavior in the event of a brewing or impending quarrel. Family comfort, mutual understanding, trust in each other will make your relationship ideal. Of course, you can’t do without quarrels, because all people have different characters. It can take more than one year to get used to each other. However, you need to try to prevent a quarrel from breaking out or do everything in order to minimize the frequency of scandals in the family.

Had a fight with my husband: reaction to a quarrel

We will not discuss the causes of quarrels that arise in the family. There are many of them, and they occur due to the imperfection of human nature.

So, there was a quarrel with my husband. Can you tell who started it first? Well, of course, he is your husband. Or maybe it was you who provoked him into a quarrel with your careless word? What to do? What should I say to my husband to make peace?

First , analyze your feelings. Assess how real they are. We always tend to exaggerate them. What are you experiencing? Of course, these are constant companions of quarrels - resentment, anger, indignation and possibly aggression. But they are not helpers in reconciliation with your husband. If you follow emotions, you can inflate what a conflict in the family. Therefore, you should stop and give yourself and your husband time to calm down. After all, not only you, but also your husband are experiencing a quarrel. How long does it take? It all depends on you and the character of your husband. For some, an hour is enough, while others will remain silent and sulk for a day, or even two.

Secondly , analyze what feelings you have for your husband? Do you perceive him as a bad person? But you loved him and love him now. He has not only disadvantages, but also advantages.

Thirdly , decide what you want to get as a result of reconciliation with your husband? Punishment of the husband and restoration of truth and justice? Finding out the reasons for the quarrel and defending your interests? Identifying the culprit of the quarrel? Or maintain a good relationship with your husband? Restore a warm atmosphere in the family? Understand your desires. Otherwise, it will not be possible to achieve constructive reconciliation with your husband.