ᐉ If after a quarrel a man does not call for a month. I had a fight with my boyfriend and he hasn’t called for two weeks

Why is he silent?

Reason 1. Thinks about his own things.
Reason 2. You talk all the time.
Reason 3. Laziness.
Reason 4. He doesn't know what to say.
Reason 5. He is hiding something.
Reason 6. He is unhappy.

Now let's take a closer look at each of these reasons.

Reason 1. Thinks about his own things.

Remember the joke about the boy who was silent for 18 years, and then suddenly announced during lunch: “The soup is too salty.” When they asked him why he was silent before, he replied: “Before everything was fine.”

It's the same here. He is silent because he has nothing to say. Your topics are not interesting to him. All this (from his point of view) is vanity. This does not mean he is indifferent to you. It's just that there are different topics in his mind now.

Men think about everything carefully and globally, but it is difficult for them to think carefully and globally in several streams at once. They cannot, like women, decide several issues at once: which school to send their child to, and create a menu for the week, and calculate the amount of the bonus for the completed project. Just one thing.

Therefore, if your husband is now somewhere far away in his thoughts, he cannot switch. Physically. That is, in fact, he simply does not hear you. He needs to make an effort to hear. It is likely that he does not want to make this effort. Because I haven’t thought of my own idea yet.

Reason 2. You talk all the time.

No offense. How can he say anything if you don't give him the chance?

They say that this is a purely female folk game: she came up with it herself, she was offended, she came to her senses, she herself - well done.

That is, you talk, talk, talk.

Maybe, of course, you sometimes insert questions into your speech to him. And he makes an effort on himself that was not there in point one. Now his consciousness begins to process your request. Input data. Formulation of the problem. Now the task will be processed...

And then - bam! You are already continuing the conversation. Moreover, you continue with the words: “Well, you’re silent again!”

No, men are not slow-witted. They are thorough. And this, by the way, is good! You yourself want the man not to be frivolous. Men “fire up” more slowly. They need more time to “engage” in the dialogue.

Reason 3. Laziness.

Honestly. This is a completely normal reason for a man not to participate in the conversation. Because he is used to the fact that you will now talk, talk, talk, and come up with something yourself.

Remember the joke:
“Darling, why are you so late? Stayed late at work, huh? Why drunk? It's a colleague's birthday, right? Why is he covered in lipstick? - “Darling, you’re smart, come up with something yourself!”

It's a matter of habit. Consider this a sign of extreme trust in you.

Reason 4. He doesn't know what to say.

Before this, I described to you fairly simple situations. But it happens that you start a serious conversation and behave attentively. You take long pauses for him to think about it. But he is still silent.

Do you know what “male pride” is? There are beautiful terms about “male selfhood,” but we won’t talk about complicated things.

Let's keep it simple. The man doesn't ask for directions. The man is looking for it himself. Similarly: A man does not say: “I don’t know.” The man is silent.

He may search for the answer and not find it. But he won’t tell you about it out loud.

You shouldn't play on someone else's pride.

Reason 5. He is hiding something.

Yes, this also happens.

From the experience of my observations, sometimes in such a situation it is better to let him be silent, and you wait. Something is “cooking” in his soul. Processes are underway. Sometimes it is not necessary to know the “truth” until the husband is ready to speak out.

EXAMPLE:
A husband and wife couple have been married for a long time. Things haven't been going smoothly in the family lately. The husband became silent. The wife provoked and provoked him into revelation. In the end, she achieved her goal. The husband said that he had been thinking about divorce for a long time. But I feel sorry for the children and hoped that everything would work out. Now she has shown herself at her worst. He wants nothing more than to run away. Got it.
And running. Taking everything. Until now, the woman extracts alimony by force.

Yes, of course, my husband is not a great guy at all. But, wife, restrain yourself, at least they parted on human terms, if not as friends, but at least not as enemies. She understands this now.

By the way, your husband cannot always hide insidious plans against you. He has his own “cockroaches” in his head. Sometimes you need to give him the opportunity to form “cockroaches” in ranks. So that they would leave his head in friendly ranks.

Reason 6. He is unhappy.

I'll explain now.

A man also has a soul, this has been verified. And in his soul there are also sufferings, doubts, experiences. Only if a woman most often wants to immediately share her experiences with her Beloved, then her Beloved is more likely to keep everything to herself. Until he thinks it over and thinks it over again.

While he is thinking, there is no need to touch him.

Conclusion.

If a man is silent, it is probably not because he is stupid and lacking initiative. Think for yourself, could you marry someone stupid and lacking initiative? Hardly. Then just try to make him want to talk to you.

What does it mean if a guy (man) doesn’t call or write to a girl?

After a quarrel, both a man and a woman may not call.
It all depends on who initiated the conflict. At the same time, the woman is interested in the question, should she call first? Next, we’ll take a closer look at why a man doesn’t call after a quarrel? A man can be very vulnerable and simply take offense at a woman. It all depends on what the reason for the quarrel was and who is to blame. If the woman is to blame for the conflict, then you should still call first and apologize for your behavior. In this case, each side can consider itself right. Then you will have to wait a long time for a call from a man.

In addition, a man may have serious principles and his own strict views on life, which do not allow him to call first after a quarrel. Such men are quite stubborn and self-confident, and also have a difficult character. In this case, you need to think about how much you need such a man and whether it is worth continuing the relationship with him. Therefore, it is better not to call and wait for a call from him. If he needs a woman, he will definitely call sooner or later.

In addition, a man can also be indifferent to a woman. He doesn't care who calls first. Also, he may not need this relationship. In this case, it is better not to call at all. You shouldn’t humiliate yourself in front of a person who doesn’t care about your feelings. If he feels something for you, he will definitely call. Otherwise, it is better to look for a worthy replacement.

Also, a man may suddenly have serious problems that require immediate solutions. He simply doesn't have time for his personal life. In addition to work, problems may arise with his family and friends. This could be any life situation. Sooner or later, after all the problems have been resolved, the man will definitely call and explain the whole situation if he needs this relationship.

It would seem that the question of why a man doesn’t call after a quarrel is very stupid, but is it so? If you think from a woman’s point of view, you can always understand the desire to see an incoming call from a man with whom you recently quarreled.

What can be learned from all of the above?

There are situations when a man is not to blame, but proud women are still waiting for someone to call them. This will not happen, since most often male representatives have a sense of self-esteem. Know how to admit mistakes, men simply won’t do this for you. There is no point in waiting for a call if you played the main role in the quarrel and were its initiator.

Here the answer to the question arises: how long can a man not call after a quarrel? You won’t wait for a call for two months, or maybe even six months, if you really offended your loved one. It is unlikely that anyone will crawl to you on their knees, knowing that in reality he and no one else is right.

A man who has feelings for a girl is unlikely to be able to go a whole week without her communication. Perhaps he has already replaced it with something, a girl, rest, work, or just some kind of hobby. You don't need to immediately think that he is cheating on you, but there are chances that he does not have sincere feelings for you.

Maybe he's at work. He works and is dependent on work, he has no way to communicate with you through a cell phone call, and he uses text messaging through the phone. Usually, as soon as a guy gets rid of clients or bosses, he will definitely let you know about it with a call to his mobile phone. So don't be nervous, just wait for the call.
Maybe he has a regular girlfriend or wife. If he continues to communicate with you via SMS, and comes up with various reasons not to call, and even if he asks you not to call him, then you should think about whether you need one. He may also just be shy and afraid to say the wrong thing in a conversation; he feels awkward while talking with a girl. But in all this, there is a considerable possibility that he has another girlfriend, or even a wife, and he is simply afraid that he will be caught communicating with you by his girlfriend or wife.

Guys rarely call or text their girlfriend every day. Of course, if you have just started a relationship, or he has strong feelings for you. In other cases, men behave quite restrained, since most men show their love through actions, rather than simple words. Or the guy doesn’t want to bore you with his meaningless conversation. If your chosen one doesn’t call you all day, then you shouldn’t overthink it and worry.

The easiest option is to “randomly” dial his number and hang up after a couple of rings. There is a 90% chance that he will call you back, maybe not right away, but he will call you back. Firstly, he will be tormented by curiosity about what you wanted to tell him, and secondly, if he simply did not dare to call first, then now this problem has disappeared.

"Yes? I probably pressed it accidentally when I wanted to call someone else, sorry... But you know, I’m still pleased to hear from you.”

The second way is, again, supposedly “accidentally” bump into him somewhere on the street (in a store, in a cafe, near the gym, near his place of work, etc.) When you meet him, express sincere surprise and add that you are here supposedly “on business.” You don’t have to go through with the meeting, but simply walk past somewhere a little far away, but so that he notices you.

Seeing you so “fragrant”, the guy will probably call you within the next couple of days. After all, firstly, his expectations will be completely destroyed, because he thought that you were quietly suffering and tormented by the fact that he was not around and were waiting for him, his beloved. Secondly, he may begin to fear that you have already found a replacement for him, since you look so happy, and thirdly, he will simply see how beautiful you are and he will understand what he is missing.

Here's how to get a guy to call. If none of the methods worked and the guy stubbornly does not contact you, then maybe it’s time to think about whether you need him at all or not. He's probably not interested in you and doesn't want to communicate, so maybe instead of wasting time, you should look around and find a more worthy candidate.

If you are at fault and want to make peace, here are some tips on how to make peace after a fight:

Wait, maybe your husband won't be the first to bear it
Do not get personal, but discuss the problem calmly. For example, purely hypothetically, if I...
Wait until your husband is in a good mood and try to calmly discuss the issue that is bothering you.
Safe word. Take the example of sadomasochism, they have a safe word that is said when an activity needs to stop because the person is in pain. So come up with the same word for your couple, this will help not lead quarrels to scandals.

What are they afraid of? you need to be able to take the first step, be wiser and taller)) and if you are also at fault, then definitely call first. If you don’t want to say nasty things, learn to restrain yourself, not say them, and let him scream and yell, then your martyr will move away from his anger. There is no need to delay, so call first!

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He may not call me for weeks... and when we are already making up... he says he gave me time to think, comprehend, weigh, draw conclusions for both me and myself.... I miss you terribly... but you can’t call me before, he’s a difficult person, if he hasn’t moved on from a quarrel, he can talk very coldly and disgustingly EVEN if it’s his own fault, the resentment needs to burn out and the “I’m bored, I can’t” period begins) BUT such quarrels won’t happen again, We learn from our own mistakes - this is a plus.

And 2 weeks ago they had a fight and went their separate ways. I know from my friends that he doesn’t call because he’s again waiting for my call, but now I don’t call either, although I love him very much... But on the other hand, I’m so tired of all this that thoughts come to me that God is doing everything for the better. I’m very tired of his behavior. And the most important thing is that we are already adults.

Girls, do not call first if you feel that you are not to blame. It doesn't lead to anything. When I was young, I did this too. I sat there waiting for 2 days, and then I was the first to arrive. But as it turned out, all this was not necessary. You call once because you value the relationship, you call twice, and then it becomes a habit. And you look like a doormat that people wipe their feet on.

Why does a man remain silent after quarrels and insults?

Men have a much less pronounced need to talk than women. This is their normal state. The guy is silent when he is tired, feels pain, thinks, when he is too lazy to talk.

If two friends are silent, it means they are thinking or have already discussed everything.
If 2 friends fell silent, most likely they were offended, and something went wrong.

Men are silent after a conflict, because they need to restore strength, nerves, and comprehend the scandal. They perceive women’s emotions very hard; the more screams and tears there are in a quarrel, the longer it will take to move away.

Important! If there is a need to convey something to a man, you need to speak calmly and clearly, preferably in advance, before so much resentment and pain has accumulated in your soul that it is difficult to voice this lump without emotion.

It is quite possible that a man does not get angry after a quarrel, but thinks. Or he recovers, because he understands that resuming the conversation now will lead to a continuation of the scandal. Often a man is silent when he is unable to communicate.

Analyzing a quarrel is a more feminine habit. A man's way of reacting to a scandal is to simply forget about it.

If a man remains silent after a conflict or quarrel, psychology explains this for a number of reasons:

Recovering from a storm of emotions;
Offended. Although this applies more to infantile and selfish individuals. A mature man will begin to think about how to change the situation;
The desire to manipulate or take revenge. In this way he punishes a woman, forces her to submit;
I am ashamed of my behavior in a quarrel. If a man is emotional, it is difficult for him to think rationally. As a result, when he calms down and begins to comprehend the behavior, he himself is shocked at how he could act or respond this way. It is difficult for a man to ask for forgiveness, although he understands that he is wrong. Then he will be grateful if the woman takes the first step towards reconciliation.
Indifference. The guy doesn’t really care about the girl, considers quarrels to be commonplace and forgets almost immediately. He is simply silent, not demonstratively and without strategy, but because this is normal for him.

Tips on how to make peace after a quarrel

If you are at fault and want to make peace, here are some tips on how to make peace after a fight:

Wait, maybe your husband won't be the first to bear it
Do not get personal, but discuss the problem calmly. For example, purely hypothetically, if I...
Wait until your husband is in a good mood and try to calmly discuss the issue that is bothering you.
Safe word. Take the example of sadomasochism, they have a safe word that is said when an activity needs to stop because the person is in pain. So come up with the same word for your couple, this will help not lead quarrels to scandals.

Reasons for ignoring in men

Does not love. For a woman, relationships and family come first. When they are not there, a girl is able to imagine love for herself where in reality there was only politeness and courtesy. The man tries to distance himself and ignores the girl when he realizes that his gallantry has been misinterpreted.
Afraid that he is unworthy. The guy is shy from birth or is so in love that he thinks he is not rich or handsome enough. Sometimes past negative experiences influence - fear (of being rejected again) prevents you from expressing your feelings.
Doesn't want a serious relationship. He considers himself a Don Juan, in love with freedom. As soon as the topic of responsibility comes up, the gentle admirer disappears or ignores him.
The girl no longer likes her, and the man wants to break off the connection. Maybe he feels unnecessary next to an overly proactive and independent woman.
Strategic move. To win a girl with normal self-esteem, you need to try: listen, help, give gifts. If you sometimes disappear and ignore, a woman's self-esteem will fall and soon you can take over her without much effort.
The man is offended and therefore ignores.
Past relationships are not fully experienced. The guy is afraid of a new feeling because he knows how it could turn out.
The man is married, has children, and despite falling in love, intends to stay in the family. He will try to hide his feelings. The best way to do this is to ignore it. Or a young man loves a married woman, but is afraid of his husband’s reaction.
At the initial stage of a relationship, a man may distance himself if he is not sure of his feelings , and he needs time to understand himself.
The young man, due to his upbringing and accumulated experience, expects initiative from the girl .
Something in the behavior of his beloved repels him . For example, a woman smokes, but he is sure that he wants healthy children.
A man is in love, but low self-esteem and inability to communicate with the opposite sex force him to choose this strategy of behavior.
A colleague ignores, despite love, out of fear of gossip , or because of a company ban on personal relationships between employees.
If a man constantly ignores a woman, it is possible that he clearly hinted at his feelings, but the girl did not realize it or pretended that she did not understand. In this case, he will avoid her, struck by callousness.

Important! Guys are greatly affected by discussions of intimate life with girlfriends, quarrels with his mother and relatives, lack of affection and care, condemnation of a man’s friends or hobbies.

Why does my husband ignore me?

Indifference on the part of a marriage partner brings a woman particular concern and pain. A loved one can behave this way if a serious problem has arisen and he is trying to solve it, when he has found a mistress, is offended, or the relationship has become so familiar that he has ceased to value it.

A woman’s incorrect behavior can lead to a man no longer noticing her: she has forgotten herself so much and dissolved in her husband that she has become uninteresting; does not respect the spouse, does not trust, interferes all the time and gives advice, or is used to tolerating unworthy actions and forgives everything.

Important! Demonstrative prolonged ignoring is an attempt to manipulate a woman, break her self-esteem, and instill in her a feeling of guilt. He likes to watch how she worries, torment her for “wiping out her brains” (or simply because he feels bad himself). For a woman, living in complete silence is torture. Most likely, the partner wants to break off the relationship or provoke a divorce.

Can a man love and ignore

This actually happens simultaneously in the following cases:

If a man has psychological problems that prevent him from speaking out (timidity, inability to communicate with women, trauma received in past relationships);
Fear (of being rejected, gossip or dismissal at work, taking initiative);
Resentment;
At the initial stage, when he takes a closer look at the girl, he comprehends his feelings ;
He is in love , but something in the woman’s behavior contradicts his views on the world;
Cools down and recovers after a quarrel . Usually in this case the man will not ignore for long. After 3 hours, maximum a day, he is again ready to communicate, ask for forgiveness or wait for an apology, depending on who was wrong.

On a note. The one who loves often apologizes, because for him maintaining the relationship is more important than his own rightness.

Why doesn't he call, but texts?

Maybe he's at work. He works and is dependent on work, he has no way to communicate with you through a cell phone call, and he uses text messaging through the phone. Usually, as soon as a guy gets rid of clients or bosses, he will definitely let you know about it with a call to his mobile phone. So don't be nervous, just wait for the call.
Maybe he has a regular girlfriend or wife. If he continues to communicate with you via SMS, and comes up with various reasons not to call, and even if he asks you not to call him, then you should think about whether you need one. He may also just be shy and afraid to say the wrong thing in a conversation; he feels awkward while talking with a girl. But in all this, there is a considerable possibility that he has another girlfriend, or even a wife, and he is simply afraid that he will be caught communicating with you by his girlfriend or wife.

The man doesn't call, but he writes every day

Guys rarely call or text their girlfriend every day. Of course, if you have just started a relationship, or he has strong feelings for you. In other cases, men behave quite restrained, since most men show their love through actions, rather than simple words. Or the guy doesn’t want to bore you with his meaningless conversation. If your chosen one doesn’t call you all day, then you shouldn’t overthink it and worry.

How to understand that a man is offended by you

Now about the mechanisms of the emergence of negativity in emotions and how a man expresses them.

How a man gets offended by a woman

Common signs are silence and withdrawal from the woman. Don’t try to fix everything right away, give yourself and him time and personal space to think and cool down.

If the resentment is given time to brew, it can worsen the situation.

Anyone who does not play with offended feelings will appreciate this act and take the first step towards reconciliation.

The man is offended and ignores

The beloved may ignore you so as not to inflame the offense into an even greater conflict. Use this situation to your advantage and only make contact when he wants it. During this time, you will be able to sort out your feelings and formulate what you want to discuss.

Pay attention to the nature of your relationship, are they serious and long-lasting enough? Perhaps your chosen one has found a reason to be offended and is ignoring you because he no longer wants to be in touch with you, but doesn’t know how to say it?

Try to overcome the desire to find out everything at once, take a break and then ask him for a heart-to-heart talk.

The man is offended and remains silent from a distance

Silence after a quarrel does not always mean a reluctance to talk to a partner; males often have less experience than women in expressing feelings and are afraid to share them.

Often, a man’s facial expressions weakly express the entire range of his emotions.

Everything becomes more complicated if you are far from each other: he is already not ready to share his feelings, and at a distance he has no way to make sure that the conversation is safe and his words will be correctly understood.

Try to gently apologize if you know that they are to blame, offer to postpone making a decision until the meeting, or tell him that you can talk about what happened as soon as he is ready.

How to get a guy to call after a fight?

1. Stop thinking about him and “break” the energy threads. When people communicate for a long time, they become attached to each other on an energetic level. Then, if one person suddenly drops out of this connection (stops thinking about the partner, switches his attention, that is, temporarily breaks the connection), then the second will certainly feel it. That's why situations so often happen when exes suddenly show up for no reason at the very moment when you have already met a new love.

Therefore, if you want a guy to remember you, then try to at least temporarily get him out of your head, let go of this whole situation and switch to something else. Do what you love, throw yourself into work, meet with friends, in general, forget about it. If he really loves you and is attached to you, then he will definitely feel these changes and will soon show up.

2. The second method is more complicated and may not always work. We need to try to dream about him. To do this, before going to bed, when you are completely relaxed, imagine a guy in all his colors, as if in reality. Literally feel the warmth of his body, smell, feel the joy of meeting him, look into his eyes, touch.

You can imagine as if he is in a large luminous cloud or ball and you seem to be entering there towards him. The more real the picture, the stronger the effect. This technique is called visualization. It is advisable to do all this at night, and it is better that the guy is already asleep at this time. This method is not harmful or dangerous, but we do not recommend using it too often and persistently.

Depends on the guy's character. My husband can’t stand it for more than an hour. there was one guy, he could remain silent for 2 weeks at most. and 1 guy...well, they could have been silent about this for half a year.

The more time, the more pride. A man shouldn't be a doormat, right? therefore, he has self-esteem. if he is offended, then silence for him is one of the options not to bring a scandal or quarrel to the limit.

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I once had a fight with my girlfriend and didn’t call each other for three days, but the relationship was not long yet, 2-3 months. But still, I went to the meeting and called, she spoke to me coldly for the sake of importance. But then after some time she admitted that she also thought that I wouldn’t call and that I didn’t need her. And when she saw an incoming call from me, she jumped around the audience.

Everything is possible. Or it just hasn't cooled down. Maybe he’s thinking about how to make up for his mistake. Wait, time is on your side. If he doesn’t show up, it means it’s not fate. Those who value their happiness do everything so as not to lose it. Of course, it is difficult to admit mistakes. But no one is safe from them.

He, just like you, sits and waits for you to write or call. Of course, if you both wait, then a miracle will not happen. Be smarter and forget about stereotypes - take it and call first. If only to make him feel ashamed that it was you, and not he, the guy, who took this step. And if he doesn’t really need you, then he’s worthless as a man... I don't have the courage to say it directly.

Why does a man get offended by a woman?

What most often underlies anger at partners?

The negativity of one of the partners does not mean that one is to blame.

Justified grievance

You can offend your loved one if you are indifferent or negative towards their hobbies, friends and family, neglect their feelings, criticize sex or choice of gifts.

Any concerns in this area? This is a reason for discussion, not a reason to say unpleasant things. Before you talk, think about your feelings for your loved one, why has your attitude towards him or his environment changed?

Look at the problem from the other side: how do they treat your parents, girlfriends, hobbies? Is what you do accepted with interest and understanding? If yes, then try to do the same. If not, perhaps you are attacking in retaliation?

Vulnerable guy

What if vulnerability is a character trait of a boyfriend or husband? Any thoughtless step or harsh word can become a cause for grief. Try to be softer towards him, but you need to know that vulnerability has been formed since childhood and you will not be able to completely get rid of it.

Not sure about reciprocal feelings

A young man, unsure of reciprocal feelings, may feign a pout in order to get a declaration of love or push him into a romantic act.

Prove your serious intentions, without coercion, arrange a date where it will be comfortable to share your plans and experiences about your future together.

Unreasonable resentment, resentment over trifles

What is a trifle for one person is very important for another. First, figure out whether your lover is truly offended. By putting yourself in his place, you can quickly find a way out of the situation.

Don't focus on this and choose a favorable time to talk and establish rules of communication.

The man was jealous

The reason for disagreement can be not only open harassment of you by another.

You can also feel jealous for discussing your relationships with people of the opposite sex, especially in his presence, as well as touches and hints from friends and acquaintances.

Put on the crown

When a man “puts on a crown,” he may pretend to be offended and cultivate a feeling of guilt in you. This is how he tries to force you to do what he wants, and in return you will still love and respect him.

Put him in his place, show him that you will break up with him if his attitude towards you does not change.

How long does it take for a guy not to call you after a fight?

You had a big fight. You quarreled over an issue that is very important to you - your right to freedom. Lately he has started to control you too much - where you were, with whom, what they did, what they talked about. And now: “You shouldn’t smoke!” Why on earth are you obligated to do what he likes and not do what you like? Having said a bunch of hurtful words to each other, you both ran away, loudly slamming the doors.

All day you sulked at him, remembering all the past grievances. Then you imagined what you would say to him when he called, how you would make him apologize for his words and actions. But time passed, and still there was no call. "Ah well! Offended? How dare you! It’s me who should be offended, not you!” - anger begins to boil in your soul again. But not for long. By evening, a painful anxiety fills my soul. Why doesn't he call?

Putting your phone next to your pillow, you can’t fall asleep for a long time, and when you do fall asleep, you dream that you are together. The alarm clock sobers you up from sleep, returning you to lonely reality. You walk around in sadness all day. Maybe you were abandoned? You look at the phone, trying to determine by its appearance when it will ring. Calling. Not him. I want to cry all the time.

Three days of torture by quarrel completely exhaust you. Why, why, why doesn't he call?!

Well, how do you find out? Surely every woman in her life has more than once experienced this terrible feeling after a quarrel: “What if I was abandoned?” But your loved one still doesn’t call and doesn’t call, but time goes on and on. Stop! This is how you can lose your loved one. If he doesn’t call, there’s no need to, we’ll call ourselves.

First of all, keep in mind that the sooner you call after a quarrel, the easier it is to resolve the conflict. Within half an hour after the altercation, the person cools down and is quite capable of talking about a sensitive and conflicting topic. So don’t delay calling, call right away and apologize.

Even if he is wrong. Apologize for your incontinence, for the words you hurled at him. It would be enough. Under no circumstances start making excuses. Say that you are sorry that everything turned out this way and that you did not want this quarrel. Don't whine, save your face, be on top.

Men appreciate it when women admit their guilt. This will be the bone you throw to your offender to satisfy his hunger for revenge. Now, no matter what you say, you will be treated with condescension. If the apology is accepted, then you can say goodbye. Say that's all you wanted to say now.

But now it's up to him. Sit quietly and wait for someone to call you (and now they will definitely call, men also have a conscience, and they have great difficulty enduring feelings of guilt). When the long-awaited call rings, do not jump with delight, but rejoice rather restrainedly. Be very kind, but a little sad and thoughtful.

- if your loved one has caused you a strong insult that humiliates your dignity;

- if he hit you;

- if you firmly decided that you don’t need it for nothing.

Yulia Gurevich, psychologist

2 days ago I had a fight with my loved one. He doesn't call. I’m afraid to call myself, in case he’s still angry, we’ll say more nasty things to each other. But I can't anymore. I miss you. How long does it take for your loved one to call you after a quarrel? and what are you doing?

do not call each other until the quarrel is forgotten. Then everything will return to its place. It's probably a couple of weeks.

pfft, I’m calling myself, what kind of kindergarten

If you don’t want to say nasty things, don’t say them. what's the problem

Call yourself, even if it makes noise, it will still thaw.

There is no point in dragging out a quarrel for more than a week, then it will be more difficult to get out

What are they afraid of? You need to be able to take the first step, be wiser and taller)) and if you are also at fault, then definitely call first. If you don’t want to say nasty things, know how to restrain yourself, don’t say them, and let him scream and yell, then your martyr will move away from his anger. I agree with Miki, there’s no point in delaying it, so call first!

This is the smartest and most effective thing I’ve read about conflicts and quarrels

Yes, I’ve never even had such situations in my life. If there was a conflict, we resolved it on the spot. Or they ended the relationship altogether. But this - quarreling and not communicating, who will call who first, everything is at the kindergarten level.

Most likely he completely forgot about you and the conflict. And if there is a desire to call, he feels proud and does not consider it necessary to call first. So wait, both of you, in a week you will become complete strangers to each other.

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Usually he calls back within 5-10 minutes. He hangs up on himself)) It’s funny, though. That's how sensitive he is. I didn't call for a maximum of 2 days. More precisely, he started calling 5 minutes after the quarrel, called 9 times and remembered about pride. Then she called him and offered to break up. He immediately got scared and started asking me to forgive him.

Don't be afraid and call.

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He may not call me for weeks. and when we make peace. He says he gave me time to think, comprehend, weigh, and draw conclusions for both me and myself. I miss you terribly. but you can’t call yourself before, he’s a difficult person, if he hasn’t moved on from a quarrel, he can talk very coldly and disgustingly EVEN if it’s his own fault, the resentment needs to burn out and the “I’m bored, I can’t” period begins) BUT such quarrels will not happen again, we learn from our own but mistakes are a plus

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He called me before, even if it was my fault. I quarreled for the last time, I was emotional, I hung up. I haven’t called for days. I dialed. He says: I was waiting for you to calm down.

For a man, 2 weeks is the best... What a woman needs is Here and Now, but for them it’s taking longer

nu jdite poka obida otoydyot, sam pozvonit. ya toje v sore shyas, segodnya tolko perviy den' chto ne razgovarivaem, zvanit xochu no ne budu, nadeyus zavtra pozvonit

Don’t call first, control your emotions, I often had this with a guy - we’ll quarrel, he doesn’t call for a long time, I lose my temper and call first, we make peace, he got used to it, and over time his attitude towards me changed for the worse (((you should have pride, if you were offended, never be the first to make contact, if you want to be loved and respected. If the guy still doesn’t call, don’t be humiliated, nothing good will come of it, forget him)))

I’ve never encountered this in a previous relationship, but now my man, after any small conflict, never calls first, it’s always me. Once there was a week of silence just like that without a quarrel, when I couldn’t stand it and called me and they said: “I was waiting for you to call me!” Now I’m already afraid to say a word, lest it start again.

And 2 weeks ago they had a fight and went their separate ways. I know from friends that he doesn’t call because he’s again waiting for my call, but now I don’t call either, although I love him very much. But on the other hand, I’m so tired of all this that thoughts come that God is doing everything for the better. I’m very tired of his behavior. And the most important thing is that we are already adults

I agree with Tina’s answer to point 18. I had everything the same way. And nothing good came out of this relationship. After 9 years I heard that you need to have pride. I was also always the first to put up with it.

And I accidentally saw on his phone that he called his ex-love and they talked for an hour on the phone, we had a fight and now he hasn’t called for 5 days, although he swore love and fidelity and he doesn’t even miss him

I made peace with my ex, but unfortunately I didn’t love you :(

I had a fight with a guy over something stupid. I freaked out, he freaked out. In the last war, we quarrel every week over nonsense, and I worry about every quarrel very much. The first day he doesn’t call or write at all. I called him, he didn’t answer, I wrote an SMS: we’re breaking up?! - no answer, no hello. The second day is not announced anywhere (on social networks), does not call or write. I don't know what's going on.

As you know, mine does this too. or it happens the other way around, he always hangs out on VK and communicates with someone via WhatsApp. oh, these are his girlfriends. Previously, the quarrel lasted a maximum of an hour or two. now for several days. Today is the 4th day that we haven’t communicated, although on the second day I tried to make peace, but, roughly speaking, they “sent me away.”

There were often quarrels, for a maximum of six months, then he returned me, but I ruined everything myself again, then it was 3 months and 2 months. If I just left, he returned me, if I was rude and humiliated, then I asked for forgiveness. I have a terrible character, I can’t live without quarrels panic begins even though I love my martyr.

We quarreled yesterday, he called me yesterday 15 times, wrote all sorts of sms, but today there’s no point, I can’t understand what to do.

We also had a fight over nonsense. He was used to me calling first. It’s so insulting, even if it’s not my fault. call the next day nothing so calmly as a stranger... I said something, I quit and burst into tears. If I don’t think about it within 2 weeks, then I think that’s it, even though we’ve been together for the 3rd year. Don't know.

I had a fight with a guy and I don’t even know if we’ll make up or not, I told him such vulgar things. We haven't spoken for almost 2 days. I really want you to call. I’ll even try to tame my temper just to be with him again

My situation is this: we are at a distance. We see each other three times a year. Every day on the phone. I know his parents. He wants a wedding in the summer. But he often walks with friends. Until the morning. He’s always completely drunk when he walks. It happens until 6 am He doesn’t call, even though he promises. He says that you control me, that’s why you call him.

he himself will never call first. very rarely. I love him very much. sometimes he talks rudely. he’s nervous. His work is hard, I understand. He doesn’t value me. he knows that I’ll always call first, even if it’s his fault. when I call him every few days He answers me saying he’s had enough, now call me. What should I do? Now I want not to call at all. I’m tired. If he loves and appreciates him, he’ll call anyway. If not, I don’t know what to do. I can’t live without him!

What to write to a guy so that he stops being offended

How to correctly describe feelings if it is difficult to express them live? If you feel guilty, write why you did what you did, what conclusions you drew for yourself and sincerely ask for forgiveness.

If the object of your love does not react or is silent, do not pester him with calls and messages, perhaps he wants to take a break.

How to apologize

Apologize when meeting in private. Before you do this, acknowledge and accept the guilt. Express your regret about what happened, without trying to blame him or the circumstances.

The main thing is not to allow problems to be solved with gifts. This definitely doesn't bode well for the relationship.

Try to make amends - give a gift or do something nice to your loved one. If an apology is not accepted, leave the person alone and wait for him to make the first move.

How to get a man to talk?

If the husband is silent after a quarrel, the advice of a psychologist gives one good direction. You will need to use the same methods in response. Be silent and do not talk to your loved one, sometimes even make a sad face. This technique will provide you with a talkative man in the very near future.

Are there any ways to wean your husband from remaining silent after a quarrel? You probably need to communicate with him more often so that he doesn’t feel lonely. Then he will be more sociable, and all quarrels will go much easier.

One good piece of advice for keeping a man from being silent is just don't argue.

If your loved one has already developed such a reaction, most likely you quarrel very often. This is a reason to think about rethinking everything wisely and starting a new life, where there will be much less disagreement between you.

Among the reasons why a man does not want to talk is simply the desire to be alone. At the time of the quarrel, you may have raised some specific topics that negatively affected your loved one. That’s why you shouldn’t be surprised if he needs at least a few days to recover. You shouldn’t put pressure on your loved one; you’ve already done something wrong in the quarrel.

Therefore, be lenient and reap the benefits without resorting to any special measures. If he is silent, it means that you simply offended him, you need to understand this. Treat the man with understanding, because then he himself will want to take a step towards you, and his silence may simply disappear and never cross your path again.

What to do if ignored

If a man ignores, it is important to understand the reason. Maybe there was no sympathy, or his feelings have cooled down, then all that remains is to come to terms with it.

When a guy is not ready for a serious relationship, then you need to step back, wait a while, then continue unobtrusive communication without mentioning plans for the future.
If you want confidence in the future, you should look for a more mature and responsible partner.
If a man is very angry and ignores him because he is disappointed or has lost interest, then you cannot ignore him in response or sort things out. It's better to continue communicating as friends, but don't forget to flirt from time to time.

A man can become psychologically stuck in reliving past relationships. Then time and frank conversation will help. Sometimes it happens that fear prevents a guy from opening up. In this case, you can hint that the feelings are mutual. Provoke a conversation by sitting next to him at a table in a cafe, or flirt in front of his eyes with another man, so that the fear of losing the girl forces him to do something.

Important! If the ignore is special and associated with a strategy of conquest, then it is better to avoid communication. As a last resort, it’s worth getting down to business and not giving in to manipulation, explaining once and for all that “you can’t do this to me.” Most likely, the strategist will look for another victim or return and behave like a human being.

When your husband ignores you

Saving a marriage can be very difficult, especially when work requires a lot of time and nerves, and the house and children cannot be neglected without attention and care. If another quarrel has led to the husband falling silent for a long time and stopping noticing his wife, it is necessary:

Let it cool and think. At the peak of a quarrel, “silence is golden”;
Learn to ask for forgiveness;
Psychology considers ignoring a beloved man by a woman to be a dangerous activity; accumulated resentment and anger kill love;
There is no need to withstand indifference, it is better to try to start communicating with notes on the refrigerator, messages on the phone, via email;
Learn to hear each other.

Tips from netizens

Redhead

What are they afraid of? you need to be able to take the first step, be wiser and taller)) and if you are also at fault, then definitely call first. If you don’t want to say nasty things, learn to restrain yourself, not say them, and let him scream and yell, then your martyr will move away from his anger. There is no need to delay, so call first!

Sunshine

Usually he calls back within 5-10 minutes. He hangs up on himself)) It’s funny, though. That's how sensitive he is. I didn't call for a maximum of 2 days. More precisely, he started calling 5 minutes after the quarrel, called 9 times and remembered about pride. Then she called him and offered to break up. He immediately got scared and started asking me to forgive him. Since then I decided that I would not let it come to this. Now I stop him myself, rather than adding fuel to the fire, I ask him to calm down, and then meet and discuss everything.

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Alexander

This is how they lose Love. He will call, I will wait... In fact, you shouldn't neglect your feelings. Each situation is of course individual - this is a fact, BUT!!! In general, I will say this - you need to let your significant other cool down and not drive the horses. It’s bad and difficult - I agree, but you should always try to take at least a short break in the relationship when quarrels occur! And after, say, a week of being ignored - be sure to, if you have feelings and, of course, a great desire to fix everything - be sure to call and don’t take care of your pride - it’s not worth it - that’s why people break up. The fact is that even if they refuse you and you find yourself in a very awkward situation - you will be sure that you did everything you could - this is very good, even if they tell you how bad you are and how vile you acted - not react to this emotionally - be adults and independent people. At least you won't be ashamed of your actions. In general, I advise you to take a step after some time (a week for example) and be SURELY prepared for negative developments in circumstances, since this is also possible. The reaction should be calm and thoughtful, and not immediately start playing football... Good luck!

Lara

I’ve never encountered this in a previous relationship, but now my man, after any small conflict, never calls first, it’s always me. Once there was a week of silence just like that without a quarrel, when I couldn’t stand it and called me and they said: “I was waiting for you to call me!” Now I’m already afraid to say a word, lest it start again. And 2 weeks ago they had a fight and went their separate ways. I know from my friends that he doesn’t call because he’s again waiting for my call, but now I don’t call either, although I love him very much... But on the other hand, I’m so tired of all this that thoughts come to me that God is doing everything for the better. I’m very tired of his behavior. And the most important thing is that we are already adults.

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Maria

I don’t call the guy first, even when we had a fight, three months have passed, but I still don’t call, although somehow we exchanged phrases and realized that he was still angry, so let him be angry, maybe in half a year he will cool down.

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Everything is possible. Or it just hasn't cooled down. Maybe he’s thinking about how to make up for his mistake. Wait, time is on your side. If he doesn’t show up, it means it’s not fate. Those who value their happiness do everything so as not to lose it. Of course, it is difficult to admit mistakes. But no one is safe from them.

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Psychologist's advice

Give the man more personal space.
Let him get bored, don’t bother him if he doesn’t come back in 2 days, have a serious conversation.
Before the conversation, get yourself in order.
Present information without emotion, honestly, listen carefully, with respect.
You can write a message 1 time. Then wait patiently for an answer.
A man loves his condition next to a woman. If he feels like a hero, a provider and a protector, he will hold on to her strongly. It is necessary to allow the guy to help and give sincere compliments.

Why does a man alternately show interest and then ignore? This is an attempt at manipulation and a bad joke on a girl’s self-esteem.

Important! A woman should value herself, feel confident, and have adequate self-esteem. True love for the world and others begins with yourself.

A man in some cases can love and ignore. However, demonstrative and prolonged ignoring is not love, but indifference to the feelings of a partner.