Possible reasons
A wife who is more successful than her husband can be annoying.
Surely, each of you has at least once come across the idea that your wife is annoying. But for some people this feeling haunts them every day and does not allow them to live normally. In such a situation, it is very important to understand what exactly provokes irritation directed at the spouse, what is to blame. After all, sometimes it is caused just by a new scent of your wife’s perfume, and solving this problem is as easy as shelling pears by changing her perfume.
Next, we will look at why and for what reasons a woman can infuriate her man.
- The wife is overly sociable. She constantly strives to have a heart-to-heart talk and needs a responsive interlocutor. She needs this in order to feel loved and needed. Men are much less likely to feel the need to communicate. And if during the working day he has to communicate with clients or colleagues, then by the evening he no longer has any energy left to talk with his wife; he needs rest, silence and calm.
- Zealous attitude towards the child. The case is when, after the birth of the baby, the wife devotes all her free time to the toddler, paying absolutely no attention to her husband. The situation is especially acute in families where a couple has been unable to conceive a child for a long period of time. The natural behavior of a new mother can infuriate a man; it can really bother him, as he will feel unnecessary.
- Excessive cleanliness. If a woman is obsessed with cleanliness, constantly cleans everything, reproaches her husband for scattered socks, sooner or later the man loses his nerve, and his overly economical wife begins to infuriate him.
- Having bad habits. So, for example, when a guy and a girl meet, the young lady drinks a cigarette or alcohol, the young man doesn’t pay much attention to it. When she becomes his wife, the view of the situation changes somewhat. Now the husband is thinking that the woman next to him will not be able to give birth to healthy offspring because she drinks or smokes.
- Reluctance to work. The situation when a woman lives at the expense of a man, at best, monitors the comfort of home. At one point, the husband begins to be enraged by the fact that he alone has to strain and work to earn money and provide for his family. He is annoyed that his wife sits at home and does nothing when he works so hard.
- The wife is a careerist. At the initial stage of a relationship, a man may even like the fact that his wife is successful, earns enough money, perhaps even more than him. At some point it starts to get to him. He begins to feel inferior when he is around such a woman. A conflict may also arise if the husband wants a child, and the wife pursues her career, denying her husband this desire.
- Disrespectful attitude towards a man's inner circle. A woman will sooner or later begin to irritate her husband if she has a negative attitude towards his relatives and friends, speaks poorly of them, does not want to meet, or spend time together.
- A girl who doesn't take care of her appearance can also be annoying. When the relationship was just beginning, she always tried to look “at her best,” used makeup, wore beautiful clothes, and did her hair. Now she is bogged down in everyday life (especially if there are small children), she has stopped dressing normally, she walks around in stretched clothes, with tangled hair, and no makeup. The man’s world begins to gradually collapse, since before there was a princess with him, but now it’s unclear who.
- The cause of irritability may be the appearance of another woman in the husband's life. When all thoughts are about his mistress, the wife will definitely cause a feeling of irritation.
- The wife's pregnancy, accompanied by all sorts of whims and whims, can also lead to the fact that she begins to enrage a man.
- Disappearance of feelings. The wife no longer seems to be the same, the only and beloved one.
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A PARABLE ABOUT HOW TO PRESERVE FAMILY HAPPINESS Once a young man asked a wise man: - How do you manage to maintain family happiness? You and your wife never quarrel, everyone respects you and comes to you for advice. What's the secret? The sage smiled and called out to his wife. A smiling and beautiful woman entered the room. She seemed to radiate happiness with her entire appearance: “Yes, dear!” - Honey, please prepare the dough for the pie. - Fine! She went out and 20 minutes later came to say that the dough was ready. - Add to it the best ghee from our reserves. And all those nuts we saved for our son's birthday cake. - Fine. And again she came 10 minutes later, and her husband said: “Add our yard clay there too.” And then bake it. “Okay,” said the wife. And half an hour later this strange pie was already in her hands. - Of course we won’t eat it! - said the husband. - Give this to the pigs on the street. “Okay,” said the wife. The guest was shocked. Is this really possible? Not a single word against, I did everything my husband said. Even when he suggested an absurd thing. And the man decided to repeat the experiment at home. When he entered there, he immediately heard his wife’s laughter. My wife and her friends were playing a board game. - Wife! - the man turned to her. - I'm busy! — my wife shouted irritably from the bedroom. - Wife! After 10 minutes she appeared: “What do you need?” - Put the dough on! - Are you crazy! The house is full of food and I have something to do! - Put the dough on, I said! Half an hour later, the wife irritably announced that the dough was ready. “Add the best nuts and all the ghee there.” - Are you crazy! The day after tomorrow is my sister's wedding, and these nuts are needed for the pie! - Do as I say! The wife put only part of the nuts into the dough, and then went out to her husband again. - Now add clay to the dough! -Are you out of your mind? Did you transfer so many products in vain? - Add clay, I say! And then bake it. An hour later, my wife brought this pie and threw it on the table: “I really want to see how you eat it!” - But I won’t eat it - take the pie to the pigs! “You know what,” the wife was indignant, “then go and feed your pigs yourself!” She slammed the door and went to her room. For several more days she laughed at her husband in front of everyone, telling this story. And then the guest decided to return to the sage: - Why? Why did everything work out for you, and your wife did everything as you said, but mine threw a scandal and is still laughing at me? - he asked from the threshold. - It's simple. I don't argue with her and don't give orders. I protect her and that makes her calm. My wife is the guarantee of my family well-being. - So what should I do now, look for another wife? - This is the simplest method that will lead you to the saddest result. You and your wife need to learn to respect each other. And you, as a man, must be the first to do everything to make her happy. - Yes, I do everything for her anyway! - Is she happy? Are you happy? After all, you created a family in order to love each other, take care and rejoice together. But instead you quarrel, share dominance and discuss each other... The man wandered home in thought. On the way, he saw a beautiful rose bush. It was with these roses that he once sought her hand. Every day he gave one sprig of roses. At any time of the year... When was the last time he gave her such flowers? He couldn't remember anymore. He picked a twig and took it home. Everyone at home was already asleep. He didn’t want to disturb his wife and simply placed flowers at her head. In the morning, for the first time in recent years, breakfast awaited him. And a beautiful wife with shining eyes. He hugged her and kissed her tenderly, just like he had done many years ago. He stopped doing unimportant things, began to devote more time to his wife and tried to make her happier. His attention and care, tenderness and love returned to him multiplied many times over. His wife stopped going around the house “haphazardly”, began cooking his favorite dishes again for him, they stopped arguing, and everything got better... Several years passed, and one day a young man knocked on the door of his house. — I heard that your relationship with your wife is a model for others. But I can’t do anything. My wife and I quarrel all the time, she spends all the money, we argue constantly... What's the secret? I have already read so many books, but not a single one has helped me... The owner smiled and said: “Come in, dear guest.” My wife is just about to bake a pie...
Adviсe
When increased irritability arises, the question arises of what to do, how to behave in such a situation, so as not to mess things up, but also to improve the quality of your life.
- It is necessary to recognize the occurrence of excessive irritability in yourself. Sometimes a woman has nothing to do with it at all, she just gets into the man’s mood. You can get rid of this feeling by resorting to Eastern practices, in particular meditation and yoga. Do relaxation and breathing exercises in order to improve your nervous system.
- If something specific about your spouse irritates you, for example, the new scent of her perfume, it is better to calmly talk about it and ask to change the perfume.
- If a woman is too much in your day, she constantly says something, does not allow you to be calmly alone with your thoughts, then you should not take it out on her, it is best to simply discuss the current situation, ask for time and space for personal space.
- If the constant whims of a pregnant lady are annoying, then you need to be patient and realize that the woman is not behaving this way on purpose, she is now under the control of hormones and, by the way, is carrying your common baby, it is much harder for her in this position than for you in your place.
- If your spouse’s excessive cleanliness irritates you, then perhaps it’s worth distributing household responsibilities so that some of the tasks fall on your shoulders, and some on hers. Cleaning together will only bring your relationship closer together.
- If you realize that you no longer have feelings for the young lady who lives nearby, perhaps love has really passed or you are simply tormented by everyday problems. Therefore, you shouldn’t rush off the handle and immediately think about divorce. It is better if you live separately from each other for some time to check your feelings, are they really there?
- If your wife is a careerist or, on the contrary, sits at home and does not want to work, then it is necessary to discuss in a normal environment what does not suit you, you can express your complaints. Sometimes it is worth accepting a woman’s position, her choice. If you cannot come to terms with this, then it is better to end the relationship.
- If a jealous attitude towards a child is to blame, then you need to realize that for a woman, motherhood is a special feeling that a man can never comprehend. It is unacceptable to be jealous of your own flesh and blood. If you lack communication with your spouse, then it is better to take care of a family vacation, go somewhere with your children. This will only strengthen your union.
- If a woman has bad habits and you are not happy with this, then you should talk to your wife about this problem and ask her to change for the sake of your relationship. But it is worth understanding that it will be very difficult for a woman to get rid of smoking or alcohol abuse.
- If your spouse treats your inner circle with disrespect, then you should tell her that this upsets you, that such an attitude is unpleasant for you. You can also ask her to put herself in your place. She would be pleased if you treated her relatives in a similar way.
- If a woman has stopped taking care of herself, you need to carefully hint to her that you would like to see her neat, with her hair styled, that it upsets you that your spouse treats herself so carelessly, because this also indicates a lack of self-love.
It is important to understand that when a wife is annoying, it is not necessarily her fault. Remember that, first of all, you need to understand yourself, your feelings, which is why your spouse suddenly began to enrage you, what preceded this. It is worth trying to save your family. If it’s all because of disappeared feelings, then it’s better to talk about it with your spouse and not torment either yourself or her.
