Relations between people in Russia... ~ Poetry and prose (Publicism)

November 12, 2019
Psychology of relationships
Yanika Ivanova

Every year we have more and more acquaintances. We find them on the street, at work, in new companies or on the Internet. With some we develop warm friendships, with others we develop ordinary friendships, and with others we even develop love. Connections between people come in different forms, and they all often refer to interpersonal relationships.

Psychological connection

Often this includes relationships about which one can say: “Husband and wife are one Satan.” But psychological connections between people may not apply to marriage unions. However, such people often copy each other's behavior because they live together.

For example, a young couple who have been living together for a couple of years begins to think alike and do things the same way. This is often due to habits that have been developed through living together. They can assemble the bed in the same way, use a special “technique” to fold dishes, or cook identical dishes.

Psychological connection between rivals

There is also the opinion of psychologists that such a connection appears between rivals or competitors. Such people, when communicating with each other, can show the same gestures, repeat filler words one after another and think in the same direction.

Interestingly, an experiment was once even conducted in which 25 male and 18 female couples took part. Each of them is used to playing a multiplayer computer game. At the same time, the rivals began to strive to win, and therefore expressed extremely strong emotions, but at the same time, a strong psychological connection arose between them.

Scientists believe that such a connection between people arose because each wanted to get into the other’s head, read his thoughts and predict his decisions. By the way, such an experiment prompted psychologists to believe that such a relationship strengthens friendships.

Once done

There is a good chance that this situation could go along with the plot: “one and done.” There are two types of such development: first, after intimacy you will not want to talk to each other again, second, everything will not go exactly as you expected, but your relationship will remain the same. Obviously, the latter outcome is what most people hope for. And this could be your result too. Don't let the feeling of awkwardness become more awkward.

Emotional connection

The next type of connection is emotional. Some believe that this is the most powerful relationship, although not always successful. However, if you and the person have a strong emotional connection, your union will be strong.

It is difficult to overestimate this type of relationship. But many do not understand its power, because they do not know how emotions can help build a strong union. Men are insecure about this type because they do not like to show joy, happiness, sadness, despair, etc. Women, on the other hand, can overact and upset the balance with their hypersensitivity.

How to start a relationship with your best friend

Today we will talk about a topic that is close to my heart. We will talk about feelings for loved ones, and how to start a relationship with your best friend. Our society has some pretty lax relationships, and I would like to help improve them. I believe that we should respect and value our friends and loved ones, show them kindness and respect. In some areas of our society, we can see great progress. But unfortunately, given the divorce rate, the same cannot be said about relationships between men and women.

Real love

I truly believe it exists because it is one of the greatest human experiences. But we need to understand that the world is filled with negative people and various situations that affect us negatively. You should not communicate or date a person if he treats you badly. And you don’t need to be with your partner if he doesn’t suit you in some way.

After all, relationships are an important factor in life. And having a person nearby who will love and support you in difficult moments is really important. Going through tough times in any relationship is like climbing a steep hill. It’s easy at first, but the further you go, the more difficult it becomes. And when you reach the top together, you will feel joy and happiness.

Love must be sincere

Love can come unexpectedly and we need to be prepared. Healthy relationships take time and hard work. Studies have shown that long-term courtship and communication with a partner are an indicator that they will be successful and happy. So feelings for an old friend can develop into a serious and happy relationship.

Some people say that they don't know how to start a relationship with their best friend, because love is illogical. But this is a serious misconception. It is a biological and predictable feeling that makes our lives wonderful, and not just a surge of emotions. For many, it is the meaning of their whole life. Our world consists of formulas, numbers and certain patterns. So love is a completely logical feeling.

Let's get back to how to start a relationship with our best friend. After all, you have been together with this person for a long time, and you know him well enough to correctly express your feelings. I know many people whose friendship turned into love, this is quite normal. But this is more a matter of trust than love.

How to detect an emotional connection?

Emotional connections between people are important. How can you spot them? Take a closer look at how your partner reacts to your emotions. If he understands and interprets them correctly, then you have that same connection.

It is also always easy for such people to discuss the most sensitive topics, which in other cases can cause terrible discomfort. If controversial issues occur, then everyone is ready to listen to the other, and also calmly express their point of view.

Emotional connection helps you admire your partner's intelligence, be attracted to his personality, and communicate easily. It is very important to listen and hear each other, as well as to find understanding of your problems in the person’s eyes.

In general, developing an emotional connection is very useful, especially when it comes to relationships between a man and a woman. It is unlikely that you will need this when communicating with colleagues or competitors; this is where cold calculation is needed. But everyone wants to have someone with whom you can show emotions.

If you make this connection, you stop noticing a person's appearance and appreciate his inner beauty. Speak easily on important topics and understand completely different thinking. It becomes much easier to solve problems, and communication only grows. In a well-developed emotional relationship, you feel like you are part of something huge, bright and real.

They already love you

You don't have to fight or compete for their love and attention because you already have it. Years of friendship have built you up well, and it will be a strong bond that won't break if things don't go as planned. You can always feel comfortable knowing that your best friend loves you on a completely different level than anyone else. So, even if this love is not romantic, it is certainly unconditional.

Energy connection

This type of relationship usually receives a lot of criticism, since not everyone is ready to delve into the study of some energy channels and connections. However, it is becoming increasingly difficult to deny that an energetic connection exists between people. How to determine it?

You may have at least once heard a person talk about his strong attachment to another. Experts in this field insist that such a connection is established through thin energy tubes that connect people’s chakras. Information usually begins to flow through such channels and communication is established.

It is also worth remembering the expression “a warm-hearted person.” But for some it may not be so. The thing is that the tubes come from the heart chakra. Therefore, when you find your loved one, an energetic connection is established.

How to strengthen friendship

How often can you hear: “He is my friend!” Friend. Sometimes there is no such person closer. A relationship with him is a friendship. She, like friends, can be different. Friendships start by chance, but can last a lifetime if you know how to strengthen the friendship.

Friendship does not tolerate insincerity. Be sincere with those you are friends with. Try never to say something you don't mean. And if you have already said or promised, then keep your word. If you can't do something, say so honestly and directly.

Make time for friends. Take a moment to strengthen your friendship: call and ask how you are doing, ask about your health. Write a letter if someone is far away. Be interested in their lives, the lives of their loved ones. Don't forget to wish happy holidays. Make it clear that they and their friendship are important to you.

Don't betray! If they trust you, then let all information remain confidential. If they tell you about their problems, it means they trust you and value your opinion. Once you lose trust, it is impossible to get it back.

Be careful! Know how to support and encourage your friends. Be there for them in difficult times. This is the only way to strengthen friendship. Remember, a friend is a friend in need. And if not you, then who?

Know how to respect the choice of those people you call friends. Even if in some situations you do not agree with them, you can give advice, but the choice, alas, is not yours. You may not understand, but you must accept.

Don't forget to praise and not envy! A friend is known not only in trouble!

Learn to admit your guilt and ask for forgiveness. There are different situations. A bad mood, an incomprehensible look, a misunderstood joke... There is no shame in admitting your mistakes. But you can strengthen your friendship and get the support of your friends at the right time.

Learn to forgive! Offended, touched, hurt? But if words of apology were spoken, then it is worth forgiving. Just forgive and continue being friends. After all, a friendship can be interrupted because of a trifle.

Tips on how to strengthen friendship are very simple, but at the same time complex. But the quality of friendship, in essence, depends on the person himself, his essence. What a man is, such is his love and friendship! How to strengthen friendship? Just be friends!

A person simply needs a person in life who would understand and support in difficult times. There are no ideal people, no invulnerable ones. We are all vulnerable and weak to one degree or another. Therefore, care and attention are so necessary. Treasure those who value you. There can never be too many friends!

Types of Energy Communication

It is usually divided into energy channels and bindings. Esotericists study this area, which is why they explain this phenomenon. Experts usually talk about the existence of seven chakras, thanks to which energy, well-being and even the environment can change.

Energy channels are usually a one-time occurrence. In this case, people meet, “connect” to each other, exchange information and energy, and then “disconnect” and each continue to do their own thing. In this case there is no constant connection, so there is no constant exchange.

Energy bindings work on an ongoing basis. In this case, people do not “disconnect” from each other, but continue to interact. In this case, a joint dependence arises between them. Esotericists believe that such interaction harms the person’s personality, which came to this earth free. They even believe that such a connection can cause illness and psychological disorders.

The energetic binding begins to control the person. Such a connection between two people destroys both. Both show aggression, feel sadness and may even face suicide. Sometimes such relationships can lead to degradation, the reasons for which will be invisible at first glance.

Energy of man and woman

But the energy connection doesn't end there. There is another side of the coin, which talks about the interaction in this case between a man and a woman. Tantric teaching deals with a similar area. It is known from it that a man is charged with energy from above, and a woman from below. Accordingly, he is responsible for the ideological component, and it is occupied by the energy of force.

Esotericists believe that the more actively partners show their interest in each other, the stronger and more diverse the connection between them. Serious relationships lead to close connections across all energy centers. This is why lovers begin to feel each other at a distance, because they are tied by channels.

If a couple has a healthy relationship, then the energetic connection will only fuel the partners. Everyone will receive only bright and pulsating energy. If the relationship is unhealthy, then one becomes dependent on the other, and the connection turns dull and difficult. This is how aggression, anger, resentment, etc. arise.

A match made in heaven: TOP 12 zodiac couples with perfect compatibility

Many people, entering into a new relationship, rush to find out what their zodiac sign compatibility is with their partner. Astrologers assure that being guided by this is the right decision. The stars will easily tell you which union will be most successful for the couple.

Taurus and Cancer

Compatibility: 100%

Representatives of these zodiac signs are destined to be together. A calm, reasonable and stubborn Taurus will be able to effectively suppress the temper and emotionality of Cancer. At the same time, the union turns out to be interesting and passionate.

Aries and Aquarius

Compatibility: 93%

These zodiac signs are never bored together and truly enjoy each other's company every day. It is due to the passion of the partners that a couple can exist for many years, almost avoiding quarrels and misunderstandings.

Gemini and Capricorn

Compatibility: 97%

Geminis feel Capricorns on a mental level; they do not need to explain themselves in words to understand each other. Literally from the first meeting, it seems to them that they have known each other for an eternity and will spend no less time next to each other.

Leo and Sagittarius

Compatibility: 100%

An ideal union: both signs breathe deeply, live to the fullest, this is what holds their union together. They find understanding and trust, which is difficult to achieve with other signs, when paired with each other.

Cancer and Pisces

Compatibility: 90%

Cancer and Pisces are one of the most romantic zodiac couples. In this union, they know how to feel the mood of the other, and in time give the partner time alone with himself. Cancer is as quick-tempered as he is easy-going, and it is the peaceful Pisces who are able to accept this character trait of theirs.

Virgo and Taurus

Compatibility: 92%

In the house of Taurus and Virgo you will never hear scandals. They live in harmony with each other and with the world. Passionate relationships with breaking dishes are alien to everyone; they prefer to return after a hard day to a quiet family nest.

Libra and Gemini

Compatibility: 94%

The relationship between Libra and Gemini grew out of a strong friendship. They found in each other interesting interlocutors and reliable comrades. One partner is always ready to help, support and listen to the other.

Sagittarius and Aries

Compatibility: 91%

Dreaminess, sublimity, a craving for the unknown - this is what unites Sagittarius and Aries. They are ideal travel and travel companions. Lovers are not afraid to climb to the top of a mountain together and go down to the bottom of the ocean, let alone repair and choose new furniture.

Scorpio and Cancer

Compatibility: 89%

It is important for these zodiac signs to learn how to handle each other’s mood swings, only then the relationship will not end in a loud scandal and things flying out of the window. Those around you will envy how partners manage, after many years of marriage, to look at each other with the same sparkle in their eyes as when they first met.

Capricorn and Taurus

Compatibility: 90%

Passionate Capricorn and Taurus find ideal lovers in each other. They build relationships and everyday life around the family bed, but unlike other couples, this is precisely what is the guarantor of well-being for loving hearts.

Aquarius and Gemini

Compatibility: 96%

It seems that this couple has learned to read thoughts and guess intentions from subtle facial expressions. The partners know each other like crazy, but do not lose interest. This is due to the fact that both Volodya and Gemini devote a lot of time to hobbies and self-development, and then share the knowledge they have gained.

Previously, 5-tv.ru published the TOP 5 zodiac signs who will be lucky in love and money in October 2020.

Spiritual connection

This is another type of connection between people that can be viewed with skepticism. Nevertheless, it exists and can be explained in words. A spiritual connection is very similar to an energetic connection. It is also installed as invisible, helping to make partners harmonious and happy. The only difference is that no harm should be expected from a spiritual connection.

This type of relationship requires a lot of work and patience. But when a spiritual connection arises between people, words are no longer needed for this couple. By the way, it can arise not only between a man and a woman, but also between same-sex representatives. You can consider some people to be close in spirit, which means that such a connection has already arisen between you.

Reasons for lesbianism3

Whatever happens to a person is the result of events that happened in childhood. When parents love a friend, a girl sees their hugs, kisses and happy faces, her inclinations towards lesbian inclinations are zero. But if there are constant scandals in the family, where dad acts as a monster, beats mom, shouts at her, the first foundations of future female homosexuality are laid.

Lack of maternal care and love causes attraction and passion for girls in the future. During puberty, the mother should be next to her daughter and answer her questions, guide her in life, and advise. If this does not happen, the girl looks for a friend with whom she can discuss sexual issues. As they grow older, they will both certainly want to experience their first intimate experience.

We invite you to read the material “how I became a lesbian”, in our article further on the link.

Non-standard orientation can be innate. So, a seemingly pretty, feminine young lady avoids communicating with guys, but is drawn to her own kind. But still, nature is stronger than man, and such inclinations in a girl can go away when she sincerely loves a man.

Banal curiosity also becomes the cause of lesbianism. Having become disillusioned with the opposite sex, the sexual need does not disappear. Then the woman finds solace in someone like her.

Often physical disabilities give rise to complexes and self-doubt. Ugly girls are rejected by society and attacked, so they automatically develop masculine qualities of self-defense. Sometimes this can also affect the body. The shoulders become more muscular, the facial features become more masculine. She develops potential lesbian tendencies.

Challenge to society. Constant criticism from school teachers and parents leads to internal rebellion in the young person. Growing up, she wants to stand out and prove to society that no one has the right to boss her around. According to statistics, the girl succeeds in this, and responds to any despicable views with a negative reaction.

Men do not consider female sexual intercourse as cheating. Secretly, they even dream of seeing or participating in orgies with two young ladies. Many husbands themselves push their wives to have intimacy with a friend, thereby provoking the development of lesbian tendencies in her.

According to statistics, 80% of the stronger sex like to watch women having sex. It's both beautiful and exciting. Many men admit that they watch porn films with lesbians only for warming up, but would not like to participate.

A girl with an innate rank of leader often becomes a lesbian in the future. They are uncontrollable and disobedient from childhood, show leadership qualities early, and develop sexually earlier than their peers. Already in childhood, she begins to masturbate, which shocks her parents.

It is impossible to stop them from doing something. Such girls naturally have altruism in their blood. Their consciousness is directed towards the care of the weaker. Therefore, having met someone similar to herself in adulthood, she takes the position of an active lesbian.

Excessive pressure and strict upbringing “the old fashioned way” encourages the girl to do the opposite process. When a mother puts pressure on a girl to put on beautiful clothes, change earrings, do beautiful hair, etc., she thus infringes on her daughter and does not give her the opportunity to find herself in life, to recognize her tastes and preferences.

Then the effect of surprise begins and the realization that it is better to be like a boy. Occupying a male position in the future, the girl is looking for a mate in the form of a friend.

Overprotective fathers are harmful to children. All dads want their beloved daughter to be happy in life, but they often go too far in raising her. Seeing that a six-year-old girl does not let her hands out of her swimming trunks, he punishes her with blows to her hands and soft spots.

Such actions cause psychological trauma and disrupt libido. And if dad hits, that means all men hit. Therefore, girls abstract themselves from guys and start love relationships with their own kind.

Characteristics of Spiritual Connection

How to understand that your relationship has already grown into something more, and an invisible thread connects your souls and spirit? You can take a closer look at the main parameters of such relationships.

Often such people live in the present. No, of course, they are planning their future, thinking about improvement, but they always try to enjoy the moment. They appreciate what they already have, don’t look back, but don’t build castles in the air either.

Patience is key in a relationship. If you know how to restrain yourself, patiently wait for your partner to express his point of view, and also easily relate to his individuality, then a spiritual connection has already been established. Usually such people do not pay attention to domestic quarrels. Even if some contradictions arise, they are not afraid to discuss them and work on them in the future.

Support is extremely important in such relationships. At some point, you begin to understand that whatever you undertake causes positive emotions in your partner. You wanted to play the guitar, he is just glad that he will listen to music in the evenings. You've decided to take a cooking class, it's always a useful skill. And even if something doesn’t work out for you, he will always find words of support or just be silent in a hug.

This kind of connection between people helps you understand that you are not perfect. At the same time, you do not rush in search of perfection, but help each other fight your shortcomings.

Finally, a spiritual connection makes you forget about selfishness. You feel what your partner needs, which means you can easily close your eyes to your desires and help him at this very moment. You lose the spirit of competition and gain the strength to “fight” together for a common cause.

Relationships with People: A Guide

We humans crave friendship and positive relationships just as much as we crave food and water. The higher our social skills, the happier and more productive we become. This is important in any area: personal, professional and social. For example, if we have excellent relationships with colleagues at work, then we go to the office with great desire, and take on the project with renewed energy.

In addition, good relationships give us freedom: instead of spending time and energy on overcoming the problems associated with negative relationships and conflicts, we can focus on opportunities.

How to develop relationships with others? Where to start and what rules to follow? The answers are below.

5 principles of good relationships

Combined with the ability to understand people, these principles will be enough to learn how to build strong friendships and relationships.

Confidence . This is the basis of all good relationships. When you trust a colleague, acquaintance, or client, you create a powerful connection that will help you work and communicate more effectively. If you trust the people you interact with, you can be open and honest in your thoughts and actions.
Mutual respect . When you respect people, you value their contributions and ideas, and they value yours. By working together or simply communicating, you can find solutions based on collective understanding, wisdom and creativity.
Attentiveness . This means taking responsibility for your words and actions. Those who are attentive, careful and watch what they say do not allow their negative emotions to affect the people around them.
Ability to accept another point of view . Those who follow this principle not only accept different people and their opinions as equals, but also welcome them. This means that when your loved ones, friends or colleagues suggest something, you do not blindly reject, but always take the time to analyze their point of view and understand it at a deep level.
Openness . We communicate with people all day long: whether we send emails, chat, or meet face to face. The better and more effectively we communicate with others, the richer the relationships will be. All good relationships depend on open, honest communication.

You may ask: “What if a person does not want to communicate with me on these principles? Do I really have to behave respectfully and openly with him, and at the same time he will snap and conflict with me? Yes, this is exactly what you will have to do, although not in all cases. There is no point in building a relationship with an outright boor. But good relationships with others always require patience and energy.

If a person doesn't trust you, it's okay. Trust him, be open and show respect. After some time, the ice will melt and you will find a friend. The guarantees are not 100%, but very high.

It is very easy to build a healthy relationship with someone who is committed to it. This will not require any effort - everything will be harmonious. Your skills will only grow if you have to establish good relationships with difficult people - this is true skill.

How to learn to build relationships

Here are some tips to help you develop more positive and healthy relationships in all areas of your life.

Respect a person's time

It's amazing how many people these days don't even think about this rule. Remember that every time you text, call or start a conversation with a person, they may be busy. Even if he seems to be idle, he can think about important issues.

You yourself don’t always want to devote your time to others. You ignore SMS and messages on social networks, because you know that this will be followed by a full-fledged conversation, and maybe some kind of proposal.

Therefore, first of all, ask whether the interlocutor has time for a conversation. And even if he answers in the affirmative, watch his signals during the dialogue: you may notice that he nervously glances towards the exit or is tense. So ask this question again.

Remember the golden rule

It is unlikely that humanity will come up with anything more valuable regarding building positive relationships than the old golden rule: “Treat people the way you want to be treated.”

Would you be surprised that a selfish, greedy and irritable person, if he has friends, they are of about the same moral level? Like attracts like.

Listen carefully

Listening deeply is the ability to boost another person's self-esteem, a quiet form of flattery that makes people feel supported and valued. Successful relationships are born precisely at the moment when you understand the other person on a deep level. The volume behind the words.

You must be genuinely interested in what the person has to say, feels or wants. Make it a rule to paraphrase the other person's messages and return them to him for verification. This is the best form of feedback.

Take your time

In a world where time is of the essence, it is a precious gift to those you deal with.

Develop your communication skills

Communication happens when someone understands you, not just when you speak. One of the biggest dangers here is that you assume that the person has understood the message.

Anyone who feels misunderstood is easily stressed and nervous. To do this, you need to develop communication skills with which a person learns to correctly convey his thoughts using words, body language and emotions.

Develop empathy

Empathy and understanding create connections between people. This is a state of perceiving and relating to the feelings and needs of another person, without blaming or giving orders. Empathy also means "reading" another person's internal state and interpreting it in a way that offers support and develops mutual trust.

Develop assertiveness

Assertiveness is the ability to set boundaries. You won't be able to give everyone the same amount of time, so learn how to refuse correctly without hurting the other person's feelings.

Ask questions

This is the best way to show concern and respect. Even if a person talks incessantly, with the right questions you can force him to change the topic or start talking about something that is interesting to both.

To avoid changing the topic from seeming rude, ask about something sweet and personal at the same time: about the dog or the children.

Accept people as they are

We all want to change someone, make them smarter, more rational, more fun. This is a completely understandable desire, but if you want to help a person, show it by your example. Until then, accept him as he is.

Do you want your boyfriend or girlfriend to become smarter? Then don’t talk about it out loud, do something: take you to intellectual films, give books, put puzzles together. If you are not that close, then just work on yourself. Be a role model.

Constantly involve people

People want to be part of something bigger than themselves. Many people look for opportunities to meet others who share their interests, but shyness causes them to stand apart and become bored. They will be honored if you invite them to join.

Enjoy communication

All relationship advice is meaningless if you hate people or find them boring. It may take some effort at first, but after a while you will become genuinely interested in others.

This also works in the opposite direction: when you are interested in people, they become interested in you in return. This is the law. Who wouldn't want to spend time with someone who is interested in them?

Develop as a person

Do you want to build good and strong relationships? Become a better person, be interesting, support any topic.

This means reading a lot, watching educational videos, working on yourself, increasing the level of creative and logical thinking. Do something interesting:

Write a novel.
Write poetry.
Draw.
Learn foreign languages.

Don't change your principles

This means being completely honest. The truth is not always pleasant. Yes, there is no need to enter into conflicts, but in many cases it is better to say that you don’t like something. Are you trying to improve your relationship with a person, but you see that he treats others unfairly? Calmly tell him about it, and do not remain silent, so as not to anger him.

Surprisingly, such directness can make relationships stronger. People don't like sycophants, but they value honesty and decency, even if they themselves are not like that. They know one thing: if you are fair and reprimand them, it means you will treat them fairly in the future. Show courage and you will be rewarded.

We discussed how to build relationships with those who also want this. But what about difficult people? This can be so painful that it is easier to push such a person away than to try to establish contact. Unfortunately, this is not always possible. Let's see what ways there are to build relationships with not very pleasant people.

How to learn to communicate with difficult people

Not all people operate on the principle advocated by Stephen Covey: “Think win-win.” This means not only getting what you want, but also helping your interlocutor achieve his goals.

Difficult people may well decide to step on the throat of their own desires in order to harm you. They act irrationally and lose their temper easily. How to communicate with them and build good relationships? There are several recommendations on this topic.

Stay calm

Self-control destroys conflict at its very beginning and helps relieve tension. Therefore, the first rule in dealing with a difficult person is to maintain calm; The less you react to attacks and criticism, the more you think with a cool head, and not with the help of unpredictable emotions.

Best advice: never be offended. If we are determined to do this, we will not react impulsively. The interlocutor may try to swing the pendulum, and if you do not indulge him, then his energy will not find an outlet.

Change your thinking from reactive to proactive

A person who does not participate in conflicts and squabbles becomes successful. He concentrates his energy on solving the problem.

When you are offended by someone's words or actions, come up with several ways to look at the situation. For example, before you get annoyed by someone else's negative reaction, think about what made him say it. In most cases, unpleasant words are a projection of internal pain. The person may have nothing against you, but he needs somewhere to put the tension.

Understanding means responding proactively. After all, the essence of communication is not to find enemies, but to achieve some goal.

Separate the person from the problem

In every communication situation there are two elements: the relationship you have with that person and the issue you are discussing. An effective communicator knows how to separate the person from the problem, be gentle about the situation, and be honest about the issue. For example:

“I want to talk about what's on your mind, but I can't do that when you're screaming. Let's either sit down and talk more calmly, or spend some time apart and come back to this issue later."
“You are often late. Unfortunately, if this happens again, we will start the event without you.”

It is very important to be extremely gentle in your criticism, but at the same time honest. Once you lose your temper and start blaming, you can forget about resolving the conflict.

Let the person talk

Difficult people want attention. Sometimes you can turn around and walk away, but if you're dealing with a client, you can't do that.

You may have to listen for a very long time. But if it's worth it, do it. No objections or criticism in response. Be humble and don't escalate the situation. This is difficult because the interlocutor focuses not on solving the problem, but on what happened. Then resort to the first tip: stay calm. And remember that if you succeed, it will increase your skills in building relationships with people several times.

Use appropriate humor

In conflict, everything is always serious. When used correctly, humor is disarming. It demonstrates that you have an iron calm and are in complete control of the situation. But, of course, it should not be mocking.

Become the leader in the dialogue

Whenever two people communicate, one usually leads the topic and the other follows. In healthy communication, two people will alternate between these roles.

People who are difficult to communicate like to completely seize the initiative, set a negative tone, and find out again and again who is to blame. You can interrupt this behavior simply by changing the subject. Use questions to redirect the conversation. Plus, you can always say “By the way...” and introduce a new topic.

Books

To learn how to build good relationships with people, you only need two things: patience and desire. They will appear if you become interested enough in the topic and start delving into it. The following books are excellent for this purpose.

“How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie.
"Games People Play" Eric Berne.
"Forms of Human Relations" Eric Berne.
"Sign Language" by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease.
"The Language of Conversation" by Alan Pease and Barbara Pease.
"Men are from Mars, women are from Venus" John Gray.
“There is a leader in everyone. Tribes in the Age of Social Media by Seth Godin.
“The Psychology of Influence” Robert Cialdini.
“Five traumas that prevent you from being yourself” by Liz Burbo.

No one achieves success alone. We all depend on others to one degree or another. Therefore, the kind of relationship you build with them affects your quality of life.

Relationships with people is an area that is worth improving your abilities and skills in. With practice, you will learn to read people, intuitively understand what and how to tell them, they will begin to listen to you and ask for advice. And this is enormous power and influence.

We wish you good luck!

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It is closely related to telepathy. There is such a thing as “mental telepathy” - this is a person’s ability to capture and read the thoughts of others, using the “sixth sense”. All this does not yet have reliable scientific evidence, so it can also be perceived with skepticism. But this is precisely what helped us understand what the connection between people at a distance is called.

Neuroscientists from Princeton University conducted an experiment in which they decided to analyze the brains of two participants. One of them was telling something, and the second was listening attentively. To obtain scientific results, they used functional magnetic resonance imaging. The experiment was successful and showed that during such a dialogue, active areas of the listener’s brain completely copied the narrator.

Some turned out to be more “synchronized”, so sometimes the story itself was a little different. Interestingly, the experiment failed with a foreign narrator. In this case, no neural activity was observed in the listener.

How does a connection between people arise? Are there any mechanisms for its occurrence? Scientists have not been able to understand the reasons for the emergence of a mental connection. They were able to explain that such dialogue usually connects two people like a cable. Some experts explained this phenomenon by the fact that people in everyday conversations stopped communicating information that was already understandable. For example, instead of: “Should I make you some tea?” - many people simply say: “Tea?” At the same time, anyone will understand what the interlocutor wants from him.

Of course, the question here is that, most likely, such a connection can manifest itself if the interlocutors are face to face, and, accordingly, they capture not only speech, but also words and gestures.

— Could Russia have influenced Azerbaijan more quickly?

“In this conflict, Russia is trying to play an indicative role, trying to calm it down. I understand that “Belarus”, “Khabarovsk”, the pandemic, the general economic situation, all this is a big burden and the leadership of our country understands that if they get involved in Armenian-Azerbaijani affairs “in an adult way”, taking into account the Turkish factor, this will be too much and will require additional financial and human resources. I will add that (Vladimir) Putin has already communicated with (Nikol) Pashinyan, but he has not yet had a conversation with (Ilham) Aliyev.

— You mentioned Erdogan. Why does he need this? And is it only Ankara inciting Baku, or is there someone behind the Turkish leader too?

- No, it’s not worth it. The world community - both the United States and the European Union - have already declared, they say, “let’s live together.” And Azerbaijan is Turkey’s old partner, and Erdogan really had an opportunity to show his importance and try to establish Turkish super-influence in the Caucasus. I believe that the Turkish leader tried, as they say, to take advantage of the moment, taking into account the balance of power and Russia’s not very active desire to get fully involved in all this. I don’t know how justified this attempt will be, because Russia is unlikely to turn a blind eye to such antics. Moscow will probably intervene after all, taking into account the fact that we have our own contingent on the territory of Armenia and we are partners in the CSTO. I don’t think Erdogan will be able to emerge victoriously from the current situation.

— It turns out that the conflict is not beneficial for either Russia, the United States, or many other countries, so, most likely, it will not become “long-lasting”?

- Well, I hope so. This is definitely not beneficial for Russia. The European Union, in general, is the most peaceful political player on the world stage. And in the United States there is an election campaign, they have no time for this: it is unlikely that this conflict will be able to add any points to (Joseph) Biden or (Donald) Trump. China, too, will obviously stand aside. The main players are not interested in incitement. Everyone except... Erdogan. In Turkey, too, the situation is not clear: the economy is not in a great position, coronavirus, although the Turks show one and a half thousand patients per day, but in fact there are clearly more of them there. But with all this, if Erdogan feels that no one is doing anything against it, then maybe he and Aliyev will go all the way. But I think that there will be attempts to return them to the legal mainstream.

— It is known that Iran has very good connections with both Baku and Yerevan. Which side will Tehran take in this situation?

— Iran, like Turkey, claims to be a leader in the Middle East region. Therefore, Tehran really does not like Erdogan’s attempt to become the “king of the hill”. In any case, Iran will restrain Turkey, which means it will act on the side of Armenia. Tehran will probably try, without aggravating the situation, to make every effort to prevent Erdogan from strengthening and to dampen excessive Turkish activity. By the way, the Iranian factor is very important for Russia.

— In “enforcing peace,” will Russian diplomacy, in your opinion, be able to show its best sides?

“Our diplomats, of course, will try, but I must say that the leader of Turkey is a very difficult person who does not accept diplomatic approaches well. It’s strange to me why President Aliyev of Azerbaijan took the path of the forceful method, because he was never distinguished by “bloodthirstiness”, he always understood that many problems could at least be tried to be solved peacefully... There is information that he seems to be planning to leave politics due to... for health problems, and now, before transferring power to his successor, he is trying to do something “sort of.” It is an alarming sign that Putin did not speak to him on the phone. At the same time, there are leaks that Putin has contacted Erdogan, and, most likely, some kind of big conversation will take place between them. I think that Russia, in order to resolve this conflict, will use diplomatic levers to the last.

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How does a mental connection work? Some attribute it to magic, while others associate it with psychology. For many, telepathy is quackery, since no solid evidence of its existence has yet been found.

One thing we all know: such a connection most often occurs between close people. Most often this is a mother and child, then a brother and sister, as well as a husband and wife.

How do we feel during a mental connection? At some point, we may suddenly become aware of what someone close to us is doing or feeling. Sometimes we may suddenly remember a friend when suddenly we receive a call from him. It happens that close people say the same words or finish a sentence at the same time. Most often, a mental connection manifests itself when words are not needed to understand a person.

Vladimir Putin discussed the most pressing topics with the government, including the fight against COVID-19

Coronavirus is an extremely dangerous enemy. We are all tired of restrictions, but special responsibility towards ourselves and loved ones is still necessary. Vladimir Putin announced this at a meeting with the government and proposed extending payments to doctors who fight the infection for another month. The ministers reported to the president about the current situation and the vaccine. However, it’s not just about COVID-19. School meals, unemployment problems and support for the poor.

The president’s first question at the meeting with the Cabinet of Ministers, of course, was about the situation with coronavirus infection and measures to combat it. Deputy Prime Minister Tatyana Golikova prepared for this meeting for several days - she held a series of meetings with medical workers.

“Until October 1, we have a procedure for additional payments to medical workers who work with patients with coronavirus infection. I know that the government was dealing with this issue, moreover, Tatyana Alekseevna also met with representatives of the medical community, I would like to hear your proposals,” the president began the conversation.

“It was suggested that we nevertheless return to the discussion of the issue and offer you a more equitable remuneration system, which is based on the actual time worked, that is, the time worked for the corresponding shift. This means that if during a month a doctor, for example, received 80 thousand, the number of shifts is approximately 21, then the average shift payment is 3880 rubles. And based on this, excuse me, the cost of a shift and the shifts actually worked, payment should be made. Together with our colleagues, we propose to extend this approach to the period until January 1, 2021,” explained Tatyana Golikova.

“If people really think that the government's proposed option is even more socially fair, then please, I have nothing against it. But payments within the framework of the rules that were established and which are still in effect today end the day after tomorrow. Therefore, we certainly need to prepare for this both locally and in the center, in Moscow. Therefore, I propose to maintain the current order for the next month, for October, without any changes, and then organize the work as you agreed with representatives of the professional community,” said Vladimir Putin.

There is an increase in the incidence of coronavirus infection throughout the country. Children are becoming infected with COVID-19 more often than in the summer - by more than 18%. At the same time, according to Golikova, most cases - from 55% to 95% - are asymptomatic. The number of sick people over 65 also increased, by almost 22%. Moreover, according to surveys, the majority of infected people did not comply with the mask and glove regime or participated in public events.

“Of course, masks, social distancing, the like, especially isolation, certain well-known restrictions on places of study and work, of course, people are tired of all this. And I understand them perfectly. Strangely enough, people still do not always feel, understand, and therefore do not always believe that we - the whole world and we in Russia too - are faced with a very dangerous enemy. Infections, infectious diseases in general and not least COVID-19 is such a quiet, unnoticeable, but very dangerous adversary, a dangerous enemy. I repeat, often people do not feel this, but you and I know this. Therefore, it is our sacred duty—the professional community, leaders of all levels of government and management—to very carefully, tactfully, but patiently and persistently explain to people the realities of the current situation and offer unburdensome, but absolutely necessary measures and means of protection,” the president emphasized.

Of course, in the fight against coronavirus, the main weapon is a vaccine; in Russia, for the first time in the world, the necessary drug was registered, which is now undergoing the third phase of testing.

“How are the regions of the Russian Federation provided with a vaccine against COVID-19 and what are the prospects for increasing these efforts?” - asked the head of state.

“We sent the first batches of the vaccine to the regions. They arrived in all 85 regions. These are test deliveries. Vaccination against coronavirus infection is currently in the post-registration observation phase; more than 5.5 thousand people have been vaccinated in Moscow clinics as part of post-registration observations. Everything is going normally. Moreover, I want to say that for the first time in the world we have created a unique system for tracking the condition of patients after vaccination. Regarding the registration of other medicines and vaccines for the prevention of coronavirus infection: one vaccine produced by Vector is completing its clinical trials, the documents have already been submitted for examination. And additionally, permission was issued to our well-known Chumakov Institute to conduct clinical trials,” said Mikhail Murashko.

“Then it will be necessary to organize an information campaign, explain to people the difference, explain to whom what is indicated, which vaccines are for which age group, which ones are for people with some underlying health problems, and so on. This must be done, but after, of course, registration,” the head of state said.

Another important topic that Vladimir Putin spoke about during his address to the Federal Assembly this year was the introduction of payments to teachers for classroom management in the amount of five thousand rubles per month.

“How is the work going on paying teachers for class management? We have allocated 24.5 billion this year, and 75 billion rubles in 2021-22 for these purposes. How is this work organized? - Vladimir Putin asked.

“Your order for payments for class management from September 1 is being implemented without failures, the necessary funds have already been accrued. All class teachers, which is over 800 thousand people, will receive money for September before Teacher’s Day, which is traditionally celebrated on October 5,” said Sergei Kravtsov.

Also in January of this year, during his address to the Federal Assembly, Vladimir Putin ordered that all elementary school students be provided with free hot meals.

“All organizational decisions have been made to date, agreements have been concluded with the region, and funds have been distributed to schools. Let me emphasize that today all students in first and fourth grades receive hot meals, that is, over seven million schoolchildren. Vladimir Vladimirovich, we have no signals that someone is not provided with hot meals,” the Minister of Education clarified.

“I once again appeal to the leadership of Rospotrebnadzor. The issue of the quality of free baby food in schools needs to be kept under constant control. And if something has not been checked somewhere else, these checks need to be completed, and not to leave this topic in the future, to be constantly under control,” Vladimir Putin ordered.

Another important topic that was discussed at the meeting was the work of the “Social Contract” pilot project. This is an agreement concluded between a low-income family and social security authorities. The experiment is being carried out in 21 regions, where those in need receive assistance in finding work, training and running a farm.

“You cannot approach these issues formally. And it is no coincidence that I asked you today to talk and discuss this particular topic, because this is one of the aspects of overcoming the difficulties that we have faced, and the country’s economy has faced due to the pandemic, since the number of unemployed in our country has increased by 1.7%, you know this well. I am sure that we will cope with this next year, and this year we will start working, and we are already working, and I am sure that this will bring results. I know that the government has appropriate plans in this regard to overcome these temporary difficulties, but we need to work hard on each segment of this overall large program to ensure employment,” said Vladimir Putin.

It will be easy to assess the effectiveness of the government on this issue - there should be fewer unemployed in our country.