The relationship between a man and a woman has been and will be one of the most important topics in this life. It is so arranged by nature that men cannot live without women, and women cannot live without men. But despite the importance of these relationships, for some reason we are not taught how to build them correctly. This topic is not seriously considered either at school or in other educational institutions. It seems to be of secondary importance for most people. However, because of this lack of seriousness towards this topic, it is sometimes very difficult for both men and women to build good, long-term, mutually beneficial relationships with each other. What can I say, about eighty percent of all problems with which people turn to me for help are related specifically to the relationship between a man and a woman. This is not little, you will agree. Therefore, let's thoroughly understand this topic.
To begin with, let's think about it - where, how and from whom do we learn to build relationships with the opposite sex and with people in general? We learn this from the people around us, mainly from our parents, or from those who replace them. It is these people, by their example, who teach us how to treat other people, how to behave correctly with them, how to solve problems that arise in relationships with them. Roughly speaking, if your parents set a bad example for you - they constantly quarrel with each other, engage in assault against each other, then most likely you will not have to expect good manners from you. It is also clear that we, again, learn about men and women from the people around us, both from their words and from their own example. If from childhood we are surrounded by alcoholic men, as well as women of easy virtue, without self-esteem, then it will seem to us that all men are drunks, and all women are easily accessible and can be treated like a thing. Bad examples are generally contagious, and when they still have no alternative, in the form of other, more correct and worthy examples, then a person begins to consider these bad examples as exemplary and the only true ones.
In connection with the above, we conclude that without a correct understanding of people, it is impossible to build at least some competent relationships with them. Men are different and women are different, and when it comes to relationships between them, we must understand that there is no single correct model of behavior with different people. Each person needs his own approach, no matter whether we are talking about a man or a woman. All people have their own characteristics that must be taken into account when building relationships with them. Let's say you are a woman, and you know about men only what you were able to learn about them through communication with some of them, that is, thanks to your experience of communicating with those men who surrounded and are surrounding you. And suppose that you were surrounded by not the best men - liars, tyrants, degenerates. How will you build your relationships with future men? You will see in every man a liar, a tyrant, a degenerate, that is, someone you have an idea about. This means that you will treat all men as liars, tyrants and degenerates. With a high degree of probability this will be exactly the case. That is, your past experience of communicating with men will make itself felt. How will men react to this? It's clear that it's not very good. And normal men will completely bypass you, because they have absolutely no use for such an attitude towards themselves, they do not want their beloved woman to see them as a liar, a tyrant and a degenerate, and treat them accordingly. This is why many men prefer to build serious relationships with decent women from good families; they do not want to have problems with inadequate women who have mental disorders due to a negative past. And women are often drawn to men whom they know about and whom they understand, even if they are not the best men. Let's say, if a woman's father was an alcoholic, then there is a high probability that her husband will also be an alcoholic. With men, who know about women exactly as much as they know about them thanks to their life experience, things are the same. They are also drawn to those they understand.
So, from the above it follows that if you want to have the best relationships with the opposite sex, rethink your life experience. If you are a woman, find out what men are like in this life, what their characteristics are, what their behavior is, how certain men treat women and what kind of attitude they expect towards themselves. If you are a man, find out the same about women. You must know what kind of people there are in this world, not only through your life experience, which is not rich enough to teach you everything you need to know about people, but also through knowledge about them. And if you treat all men or all women with the same brush, then your relationships with them will be monotonous. Know how to distinguish people from each other and learn to adapt to the best of them if you are interested in normal relationships with normal people.
In general, of course, the psychology of relationships between a man and a woman is not a simple thing, so its analysis can be reduced to a few simple rules of behavior with the opposite sex, which should be followed when building these relationships. People who are too different in character and temperament can get along with each other, or try to get along, so that all the subtleties of their relationship can be foreseen and they can be given universal advice for all occasions. But it is always necessary to take into account the most important points in such relationships. Let's see what these moments are.
The needs of a man and a woman in a relationship
Both men and women need to understand each other’s needs and strive to satisfy them. A woman should understand what a man needs and try to give it to him, and a man should try to satisfy the woman’s needs. In some cases this is not easy to do, but it is necessary to strive for it. That is, this should not happen when everyone owes each other and no one owes anything to anyone, when everyone lives for themselves and does not think about their partner. And even more so, it shouldn’t happen when a man and a woman try to impose a lot of obligations on each other and insist on fulfilling them. If a man and a woman decide to parasitize each other, they will not be able to have any normal relationship. But there will be plenty of scandals, quarrels and mutual accusations. So you shouldn’t even try to build something with this approach to relationships. You either change and stop being selfish, selfish, or be content with those relationships in which you simply cannot live comfortably. So, take a close look at your partner's goals and desires to understand what he or she wants from you and what you should expect from him or her. It is quite possible that in addition to basic needs, your man or your woman needs a lot more from you. And think carefully about your goals and desires so as not to demand too much from your partner, but try to get from him only what you really need. Now I’m not talking about the desires and dreams of a man and a woman, which we need to try to satisfy, because people have an infinite number of desires, and it is impossible to satisfy them all. But be sure to think about each other’s normal, natural needs - think about how to satisfy them. Let not all your expectations from the relationship be met, but if you are a smart person - a smart woman or a smart man, you will not make excessive demands on your partner. But I repeat once again - the minimum needs of people must be satisfied! Otherwise, there is little point in having a serious relationship. A serious relationship is a responsibility, and not everyone is ready to take on it. And if people do not want to take responsibility for each other and do not plan to do something for each other, then their relationships will be fragile, unstable, and generally meaningless. Why build a relationship with a person if you are not going to do anything for him, and if you expect from him what he or she cannot give you? In this case, you can do without a serious relationship. To satisfy the same need for sex, a relationship is, in principle, optional. Well, as for other needs, to satisfy which men and women build relationships with each other, they will be discussed below.
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The love between two people inevitably pushes them to want to move in with each other. A man and a woman seal the contract with a joyful kiss and, sitting in an embrace, are carried away into dreams of the idyll that awaits them. They have no idea what kind of problems they actually have to face. Moreover, the apartment “To you or to me?” - the most harmless of them. Entire
article “Honest mother, how many things!”
- exclaims the receiving party, who is not at all easy to come to terms with the idea that the one who previously occupied only half a glass for a toothbrush in the apartment, turns out to have some other things. So while one is carrying everything and carrying it, without a break, dragging it into the front box and dragging it in, the other one is saying: “My God, what a lot of property! No, look how much property there is! I had no idea you had so much property.” And only Allah knows whether he only notices the fact, resists it, or slowly goes crazy. At this moment, it would be nice to pause and try to establish reciprocal contact with this madman. Talk to him. Like: “What are you doing, huh?” He, of course, will immediately feel ashamed for his selfishness: “I’m just telling you this. I’m curious what’s in your boxes.” But just start sorting through what’s in your boxes, and the curious barbarian will again react to the next item like Jacob’s magpie: “What do you need it for?” or: “Do you really need it?” Well, that’s why competent citizens, before moving in together, make a list of everything that one or the other of them will take with them to a common apartment. Here is the most vital thing, which is not even worth mentioning: his laptop is her laptop; his collection of beer caps is her collection of cosmetics; his car parts (including the bridge from a broken Zhiguli car) - her collection of cosmetics; his long-standing barbell, which he lifted only once in 1990, is her collection of cosmetics. Organizational
In matters of organizing an apartment, a woman must certainly make concessions to her new resident.
He wants to bring and install his favorite sofa with shabby upholstery in the middle of the living room - please. “That’s an interesting idea, honey. We will definitely think about it. In the meantime, this glass table on a wheel will stand here, okay?” If a man begins to resist: “There’s nothing of mine here!” I want a sofa! Here! Sofa! Mine!" - the woman will have to, slowly pulling off her peignoir, gently ask: “What is more important to you: the sofa or our love?” Blanket-bed
Next up is the fight for the bed.
You're lucky if the man and woman have slept on it before. What if not? Many couples have learned through bitter experience that there is simply no compromise between a soft and a hard mattress, and most moves falter at this step. Ultimate phrases “This part of the bed is mine!” They also don’t lead to anything good. What can we say about such an important trophy as a blanket... The battle for the blanket is a war at the very forefront of the front, it is a struggle for power in all respects that are based on a common bed. To gain the upper hand over a strong man, you have to be cunning. One of the most insidious operations of grabbing a blanket can be done when it is smaller than the duvet cover. In this case, part of the duvet cover is a worthless rag without a blanket. “And it’s not a sin to use this trick. Cover your beloved man with it, and wrap yourself in the plump and dense part of the duvet cover,” instinct suggests. However... If a woman, God forbid, leaves her bed to go to the restroom, then a sad thing awaits her upon her return. Or rather, an empty, crumpled duvet cover. While all the warm blanket that she so patiently heated had already managed to crawl away to the man. So a woman who has decided to live with the stronger sex will have to get a personal blanket. Otherwise, even with tricks, the female half of humanity remains without a blanket. Sound
It’s very difficult to live in the same territory with a man who enjoys the super new hit of Scorpions day and night, especially if the woman is also a long-time fan of Didyulya.
Headphones save many people, so it’s worth taking care of 2 rounds of ammunition in advance. The picture is similar with computer games - not every woman can stand the roar of dying monsters and machine-gun fire at 100 decibels. Therefore, let the brave shooter always wear headphones so that his beloved can savor the silence. Bathroom
Oh, he once took a romantic bath there with a woman, lining the shelves with scented candles and showering the surface of the water with rose petals.
Now the romantic Kolya sits for hours under siege in the bathroom and thoughtfully trims his nails, and when there is an inviting knock: “How many can you, well, Christmas trees?” — he responds nervously: “Darling, do you know why my razor has dulled again? What did you shave with there?” In general, you need to come to an agreement, agree on a bath time and allocate shelves. About everything else
Women spend kilometers of toilet paper. Men still don’t understand that it’s inappropriate to relieve themselves right next to the toilet. The “warm-blooded” ones have an open window. The freezing people have not a room, but a Finnish sauna. Pedants strictly sort discs alphabetically. The rascals shove “Aguzarova” between Bi-2 and Bilan Dima, and when you look sideways at them, they also exclaim: “It’s not me!” Daredevils demand to have a bulldog (or at least heels of guinea pigs), fearful ones insist on fish and a night lamp lit at night. You look at all this and think: is it really worth it? After all, it’s much more pleasant to single-handedly rule the bathroom, in which your own fingernail stubs are scattered all around on the floor. It’s much more comforting to think that a frying pan soaking in a clogged sink during the fifth week is just the wretched consequences of a grandiose pudding experiment. And much sweeter is the embrace of Morpheus, when you are wrapped in a blanket, as if in a cocoon... BUT TRUE HAPPINESS STILL IS WHEN A MAN AND A WOMAN ARE TOGETHER.
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Communication
One of the basic human needs is the need for communication. Therefore, be sure to pay attention to communication with each other when you build a relationship with the opposite sex. Without communication, a person is not a person. Communication between a man and a woman should be frequent and deep, and it should exist at all. Very often, people simply do not notice each other from the moment they begin to live together, not to mention any intense communication with the help of which a man and a woman maintain interest in each other. Understand the main thing - communication is necessary for a person. And it’s better if your woman or your man communicates with you and not with other people. Communication will bring you closer, and its absence will distance you from each other. Even if you have different interests and different views on life in some ways, it’s okay, you should still find something in common that is interesting for both of you, and communicate on this topic. I recommend that women yield to a man in this matter, find something interesting for themselves in his interests, and communicate with him on this topic as often as possible. So communication is like sex - if it is there, and it is normal, then everything will be fine with the relationship, but if it is not there, expect problems.
Emotional background4
Do hysterical men exist? Of course they are. And women with unstable emotional backgrounds also occur. But we can all remember many more cases of female emotions. Why is this happening? What is the difference?
The fact is that women and men have completely different sets of hormones in their bodies. Girls suffer from mood swings. These changes are not always due to capriciousness and the desire to receive additional attention. Very often, hormonal changes occur within it.
Men rarely experience such problems. They may have a bad mood, but it is more often associated with external factors. For example, a bad day at work or a car accident. A woman is very dependent on cycles.
It is probably very difficult for men to understand and accept that Mother Nature has a huge influence on a woman’s mood and behavior. For them, the word PMS is more of a humorous term than a depressing reality. Guys often say that a woman tries to justify her indecent behavior by premenstrual syndrome, but it really exists.
Not every woman has had the opportunity to experience this nightmare. If you don’t understand what we’re talking about, you’re a happy person. A week before “these days,” girls may begin to experience wild hunger and dissatisfaction with everything. Even on the way to work, she is likely to cry on the subway. Just like that, due to unstable hormonal levels.
Partnership between a man and a woman
This is a very important point that not all people pay attention to. And to you, dear readers, I recommend that you pay attention to it. We are talking about partnerships between a man and a woman. Whatever relationship you build with the opposite sex, if you want it to be serious, strong and long-lasting, it must include a partnership between you and your man or woman. Many people, I repeat, do not attach importance to this relationship, but I believe, based on my experience, that a man and a woman, especially if they are husband and wife, must be partners, in addition to everything else. They are one team that must have common goals and agreed upon ways to achieve those goals. Therefore, a man and a woman should be a support for each other, they should be at the same time, they should support each other and help each other in difficult situations. So there must be a common cause, there must be common goals, so that people - men and women - have the most in common, so that they are interested in each other and are useful to each other on many issues. A man and a woman must understand that together they are strong, and they need to use this strength as a bonding agent in the foundation of their relationship. In general, a man and a woman should have a common life, and not so that one lives his life and achieves his goals, and the other, the other, his own. Common interests, common goals, common views on many things, maybe not all, but many - this is what makes relationships strong and lasting.
Sex
Well, what can I say - sex is sex, without it it is difficult to imagine a full-fledged relationship between a man and a woman, unless we are talking about friendly relationships that do not involve developing into a more serious relationship. But friendship between a man and a woman, you know, is a rare phenomenon in life, and not because this friendship itself is somehow wrong, but because people of different sexes are not always perfect for such friendship. So whatever you say, sex is our everything! Therefore, there should not be a shortage of sex; one of the basic human needs must be satisfied constantly. And this need must be satisfied beautifully, efficiently, and interestingly. But I don’t recommend doing any stupid things. There are women who blackmail their husbands with sex. These, friends, are very stupid women who themselves do not understand what they are doing. With these rash actions they destroy the foundation of family relationships - undermining self-confidence, showing disrespect for a man for whom a woman’s refusal to have sex is a great insult, and sowing hostility in their own home. No blackmail, be it sex or divorce, is acceptable for a normal relationship! If you don't want to live in a constant state of war with your partner, eliminate all blackmail from your life. Otherwise, do not rely on an unhappy fate when you find yourself at the “broken trough” to which you will lead yourself. Normal, regular sexual relations between a man and a woman are a prerequisite for a normal and lasting relationship between them. There is no need to idealize sex, as people with sexual disorders do; sex is not the main thing, it is one of the main conditions for normal relationships. Therefore, take into account each other’s desires to the extent you can, and try to satisfy them in a timely manner. No matter what anyone says, in most cases, problems with sex inevitably turn into problems in the relationship between a man and a woman, no matter how developed and advanced people they are. Consider this fact in your life.
Scandals
Scandals must be avoided at all costs! And to do this, you need to stop enjoying them. What, you want to say that you don’t get any pleasure from scandals, that they happen on their own, due to various objective reasons? Don't deceive yourself, and especially not me. I am an experienced person, I know that a scandal requires not a reason, but a reason. It’s just that some people do not always realize that they themselves provoke quarrels and scandals in relationships because they want them to happen, because thanks to these scandals and quarrels, people feed on negative energy and throw out the aggression that overwhelms them on their partner, instead of pacifying it . People who are not burdened with moral and cultural education, as well as intellectual development, need to express aggression. Man is an aggressive creature, so if he is, let’s say, not entirely reasonable, not intelligent enough, he needs to vent his aggression somewhere, somehow. Let's assume that you are one of these people and it is difficult for you to catch up, it is difficult for you to become less aggressive and more patient with other people. So be it, it’s not a problem, to hell with this upbringing and intelligence - at least try not to throw out your aggression on those people who are truly dear to you. And as I understand it, your beloved man or your beloved woman is still a person dear to you, who clearly does not deserve to be growled at him or her. Close people should become saints for you! There is no need to make scandals with those with whom you are in the same boat. There are such absurd situations in which people argue with each other for no reason, and having understood these situations a little, you understand that the problem is not worth a damn, and there is so much anger, so much hatred, so many negative emotions and aggression around it, as if it were about the opposition of the worst enemies to each other, and not about people who should actually love each other. In general, dear readers, please note that it is not problems in relationships that provoke scandals, but scandals that create problems in relationships between a man and a woman. As soon as you begin to approach the issue of scandals from this position, and not from the position of who is right and who is wrong, you will reduce their number in your life many times over. But don’t forget that scandals cannot be completely avoided, so don’t strive for a non-existent ideal. A pinch of pepper should be present in any relationship - it gives them flavor.
Male dominance
Perhaps for some, my opinion, gained through years of working with people, will seem old-fashioned, but I believe that the leadership of a man in the family should not be disputed, it should be welcomed and supported in every possible way. A man should be the main one in any serious relationship with a woman, and the woman will only get better from this male dominance! But provided that we are talking about a normal man who wants and is ready to take responsibility for his decisions, who is not so selfish as to think only about himself and for whom a relationship with a woman is a value, and not just an opportunity to satisfy some of his needs and desires.
Equality is equality, but in relationships between a man and a woman, someone must be more important in order to be responsible for the direction of these relationships, not allowing them to develop spontaneously. In my opinion, a man is better suited for this role because he is more practical and his brain is sharpened to constantly solve problems. Of course, under the same condition that the man is normal, smart, and not some kind of idiot. And a woman already adapts to such a man’s dominance and acts more like an adviser, whose wise instructions and attention to detail allow a man to better analyze his decisions in certain situations. So the point is not that a woman should submit to a man in everything and not have the right to vote, and generally be a thing for him. No way. You can’t build anything serious on someone’s oppression of someone else. It’s just that a man is most often better suited to the role of head of the family! There are exceptions, including forced ones, but they are exceptions. And not because a man should be in charge because I want it that way or because all men want it to be that way, but because nature also intended it that way. In it, every man from birth is a leader, warrior, hunter. Education, of course, can seriously distort these natural inclinations, but the main thing is that they exist and they can and should be cultivated in a person, in this case in a man. And if a woman wants to have a normal man next to her, with whom it is beneficial to maintain a close relationship, on whom you can rely, she should help him be who he is according to his destiny, and not turn him into a weakling with her aggression and dominion. Even without this, most men have been deformed since childhood and have always been deformed, mainly at work, when they are forced to meekly submit to their superiors, who are always right in everything. Hierarchical laws break the psyche of many people who are forced to suppress their leadership qualities, love of freedom, and self-esteem in order to adapt to society and the team. Parents also often harm their children when their attitude towards them turns them into people completely unadapted to life. Often, improperly raised men are not able to build a relationship with a woman at all, and for them this is a big problem, because of which they suffer. Such people, of course, cannot be trusted with power in the family, and even in not very serious relationships they cannot be leaders because they are too morally weak. But I think it’s necessary to give a man a chance to be a man. A mentally broken man in the house is like furniture, there seems to be some benefit, but no independence.
So, if it so happens that a man is not a “lion” in the big world, then let him at least be one in his own family. But no frills. If he cannot cope with this role, then, of course, there is no point in idolizing him. But then the relationship takes on a very unsightly form when a woman has to become the man in the relationship, taking on leadership responsibilities. Therefore, addressing women, I want to say that there is no need to push a man under your thumb if he has leadership potential. Don't make it into something that will make you sick. If a man adapts to a woman, if he is afraid of losing her, if he tries to please her in everything, not paying attention to her attitude towards himself, then he will cease to be a man and most likely will lose his woman over time. Well, what a woman will get from such a relationship in which she, and not her man, will dominate can be understood from numerous examples from life when relationships between people do not develop in the best way and the man in such a family often causes severe irritation in the woman. A man must feel like a leader, or even better be one, in order to function normally, so to speak. Otherwise, it is of little use. So, taking out the trash and replacing the faucet in the kitchen will do.
How to start living together
Moving things from one house to another is a matter of one day, but understanding the psychology of such relationships and the ability to manage them correctly will not come soon. It is quite natural that in the first days the couple will simply enjoy the finally fulfilled desire to “wake up together in the morning,” but then both he and she will have to come down to earth and remember that they need to clean the house, cook, wash and so on.
Although first let’s say a few words about where to live
. This is a very, very important question, because it affects relationships in many ways. Perhaps the best option is when you have the opportunity to live independently. In this case, no one except you two will influence your relationship.
If you plan to move in with him, then get ready for the fact that you will have to get used to new routines and rules. Of course, a woman can always correct them in her direction, but not immediately and not dramatically.
Taking care of each other
When a person truly values something or someone, he cares about it. We take care of what is dear to us! And we don’t feel sorry for losing only what we don’t need or what we have a lot of in our lives. Therefore, if we need a person for a serious relationship, we cannot help but take care of him. When a man forces a woman to work from morning to night, when he doesn’t take care of her at all, he doesn’t care about her! He doesn't appreciate her! With such an attitude towards a person, it is simply impossible to talk about any kind of serious relationship, even if he gives her flowers from time to time and buys her expensive trinkets. And the situation is exactly the same with a woman who forces her husband to work more and more, not paying attention to his health, as long as he brings home a lot of money, which she spends mainly on herself. Such a woman doesn’t care about her man, she doesn’t value him! Often, women don’t even care that their man is an alcoholic, as long as he works. Well, is this a normal relationship? Yes, this is not a relationship at all - this is parasitism. If you don’t care about your woman or your man, don’t count on any kind of normal relationship with this woman or man. Such a house of cards will definitely collapse.
Love
And finally, Her Majesty love! You know, dear readers, I could tell you a lot more about the relationship between a man and a woman, but let’s finish the discussion of this topic within the framework of this article, after all, with the most important thing - love. If she is love, there is, then all of the above and much more, on which the relationship between a man and a woman depends, will be in perfect order. If you love a person, you will try to do everything for him! And if not, then no advice will help you. No psychologist can help, much less make you fall in love with a person; love starts in your heart and then reaches your mind. Therefore, you must not only feel, but also understand whether you love a person or not. If you love, then this is good, it means that you will do everything for your relationship with him, the best that you are capable of. As for him or her, let them decide for themselves how and with what to respond to your love. You won’t be nice by force, so don’t demand that people love you in return. And in general, listen to the advice of one wise man who once told me that the main thing is not that you love, but that you are loved! If they love you, then you will love someone who sincerely loves you - with bright and pure love, provided that you love not only with your heart, but also with your mind. And also provided that you are generally capable of loving someone other than yourself. For true love, friends, you need to grow up. After all, an immature, essentially childish mind is selfish, while a mature and developed mind is capable of thinking not only about itself, but also about others. We are too selfish beings, so when we are not developed enough intellectually, it is unusual for us to think about other people, we think only about ourselves. Relationships based on this selfishness will not be strong, they will lack true love - sacrificial love. But when you appreciate with your heart and mind the feelings of another person for you and are able to love him because he loves you, then you will have real, great love, which will allow you to create strong and lasting relationships. Isn't this happiness, friends?
I sincerely wish you just such a relationship, based on pure and bright love, but not without natural flaws! I understand that these relationships will never be perfect, because both men and women, as was already said at the very beginning of this article, are different. Each person has his own shortcomings, which will inevitably determine his attitude towards other people. And in each specific case, the relationship between a man and a woman will have its own characteristics. However, by adhering to the advice I have given you in this article, you, dear readers, will be able to avoid many unnecessary mistakes, neither for you nor for your relationship, because of which these relationships may suffer. A man and a woman are different parts of a single whole. And when they live together, they should complement each other, not fight each other for dominance, for the opportunity to ride on the other’s neck, but rather complement each other, when one puts one thing into the relationship, and the other another. Then such relationships will be strong and durable.
What is the secret to long-term relationships?
To create strong and long-term relationships, a man and a woman must work hard on themselves. First of all, it is necessary to understand each other. You should not conform to any standards; you must initially accept your other half for who she really is.
Develop positive qualities in yourself, show mutual care. In any case, try to understand your person, learn to feel him, and leave accusations without grounds for later.
If you constantly accuse each other of something, suspect each other of non-existent acts, you can quite quickly destroy everything that has been built for so long.
Here are just a few principles to follow:
- Whatever happens, talk to each other. There should be no omissions;
- In order not to doubt something, it is better to immediately ask an exciting question;
- Lying is not the answer. The truth is better, whatever it may be;
- Don't try to change him or her by force. Better change yourself;
- It is necessary to extinguish the conflict immediately;
- And if there is a quarrel, then try to end everything on a positive note. Namely: there is no need to be rude, make hasty decisions, and, if possible, turn an unpleasant conversation into a humorous statement.
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I would also like to say the following about long-term and harmonious relationships. For this to happen, it is necessary that at the first meetings, people have a feeling of “their” person, with whom it is at least interesting, there is something to talk about and something to do together. Then you can develop the relationship further. If there is no initial feeling, the soul or heart does not respond to this, then it will be problematic to do this. The relationship will most likely end in the early stages.
