Why do women do this?i
Before you start attracting the attention of the young man you like, you should find out how to flirt with a man correctly. There is a very fine line between nice communication and vulgarity. Some girls are natural coquettes, but there is another type who, having played too much, only pushes the gentleman away from them.
Since by nature the main goal of a woman is to attract and retain a man in order to create a family and give birth to offspring, flirting is in the blood of women, but not everyone can use this tool of seduction.
Firstly, it is very important to understand that a man for a serious relationship and a man for temporary entertainment are completely different things, which means flirting should be conducted in different ways. In the first case, all you need to do is remain yourself - this will attract the attention of a reliable man. girls sometimes overdo it in flirting and only discourage interest and excitement. The same applies to the case when a man is not a hunter by nature. Excessive flirting and coquetry only scares and repels him.
Unmarried girls flirt very naturally - for them it is a way to find a permanent partner. However, an adult married woman can also “play around” in the presence of the opposite sex, wanting to attract attention to herself, and sometimes even in the hope of finding a lover.
Despite the fact that some moral advocates often condemn women for excessively vulgar and provocative behavior, flirting is inherent in women, and sometimes occurs completely unconsciously when communicating with a man they like. Sometimes girls are so active and hypersexual that flirting is a normal state for them; they are always in search of a sexual partner and strive with all their might to attract attention to themselves.
One way or another, the purpose of flirting is always only one - to attract attention to a person, to express clarity of intentions, to demonstrate a desire to get to know a man better.
How to flirt correctly so as not to push away2
Every girl should learn how to flirt with a man correctly in order to avoid making gross and funny mistakes. Most often, women flirt with men by sending them messages. However, you also need to be able to do this. To interest a man, you should write messages with the following content:
“Think about work, not about me!” If a man answers that he is already thinking about work, depending on the situation, he can further add: “It’s strange, but he should have been worrying about me, because the meeting is coming soon.”
Make jokes at the right time and laugh at his jokes
Of course, you shouldn’t deliberately “squeeze” jokes out of yourself, but it wouldn’t hurt to show yourself as a cheerful person.
Guys, for the most part, like girls with a sense of humor. Don’t be afraid to tease your interlocutor a little, or insert witty humor into your messages. Try not to make your dialogue boring and monotonous. Add emoticons to your correspondence to show that you are really funny.
Examples of messages3
“Oh, how I want...” and after a few seconds the second part “to rest” is sent.
“I’m thinking about what to do tonight. I recently bought such a beautiful outfit, I definitely need to take it out for a walk, it looks so cool on me.”
In order for correspondence to be captivating and not repulsive, you need to follow several rules: do not overdo it, it is only important to maintain a dialogue and not send dozens of messages, you should also sometimes stop and do business, putting your phone aside. At the same time, the interlocutor can collect his thoughts and write a good response to the received SMS.
If flirting occurs in reality, for example, at a corporate party, then you should take advantage of the situation, capture subtle moments and flirt with the man. The simplest example is a guy asking a colleague to choose an alcoholic drink at a bar. A girl who doesn’t know how to flirt will order herself some Papa John’s. Flirting is a very subtle matter, and a madam who wants to make a man think about herself will say “I want...” and quietly add “Sex on the beach” in his ear. This cocktail is actually on the menu of many bars, which means you can use the situation to your advantage.
Flirting is an understatement and a promise. A man, having heard a playful phrase, will not be able to forget it. She will be spinning in his head before bed, at work, while watching TV. The man will try to understand whether the girl really meant what she said.
Tips for timid girls
Women are prone to reflection. Everyone wants to be ideal. A successful career, a wonderful husband, a lot of money - everyone thinks about it. Unfortunately, things don't always work out perfectly. Fate puts a spoke in the wheels.
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Life's difficulties lead to self-flagellation. Internal timidity appears. I don't want to solve problems. There is one desire - to lie on the sofa and look at the ceiling.
Internal contradictions are a turn off on the first date. It seems to the partner that the problem is with him. It is best to get rid of your own complexes. This will help both in your personal life and in building a career.
To stop being afraid of people, you need to communicate more. For starters, enough talking on the Internet. It’s enough to study examples of intriguing SMS and start long conversations.
Over time, an inner core will appear. Problems will fade into the background. The brain will begin to come up with creative solutions at work. It's worth doing sports. Fitness helps maintain an ideal figure and makes neurons move in the right direction.
What is better to forget when flirting4
By flirting, you can not only attract attention to yourself, but also push you away, especially if you don’t know how to flirt with a man correctly. The most common mistake that almost all ladies make is excessive intrusiveness. The man immediately understands what the interlocutor really wants. It’s written on her forehead that she wants sex! A lady who does not know how to truly flirt will agree to everything and devour a man with the look of a “beggar.” If you can’t flirt subtly, it’s better not to do it at all, but only occasionally glance at the man, quickly looking away.
Another mistake is blindly accepting advice from popular women’s magazines, for example, “Stroke the stem of the glass while looking languidly at the man.” This is not flirting, but a very unveiled “thick” hint. A true lady will stroke her glass, thinking and deeply withdrawn into herself, and then, as if coming out of a daze, she puts the glass aside and looks languidly at the man. All gestures should be done casually.
Another common mistake is too obvious “shooting” with your eyes, throwing one leg over the other in an attempt to repeat the trick from the famous film, lowering the straps of your dress and directly looking into the man’s eyes. All this leads to the fact that only freeloaders and those who want to sleep with a woman “peck” at her, and the one who could really pay attention will only be afraid of excessive persistence and run away.
A self-sufficient and confident lady will always make sure that the man takes the initiative in dating. She won’t make the mistake of bombarding a man with questions like “Where are you from,” “let’s get to know each other,” or “how long have you been here?” There are many ways to set up an acquaintance - you can suddenly become slightly intoxicated and bump into him when leaving the ladies' room, pour a glass of champagne on him and start wiping him off, apologizing, you can slip right in front of his nose or “confuse” the women's and men's toilets. If none of this works, there is even another option - to throw yourself into his arms “confused” and say, “Dear brother, you have finally come!”
Another mistake is flirting with a man in the company of friends or colleagues. You should always try to seize the moment and wait until there is no one nearby, or there are complete strangers.
When flirting, you shouldn't be too pushy and intrusive. Just one “chip” is enough. Only once in an evening can you either pour champagne on a man or “mix up” the toilet. Too obvious and frequent flashing before the eyes can reduce all efforts to nothing.
Examples of successful phrases
You can flirt with a guy by correspondence using the following phrases:
Feminine:
“I'm not very good at dancing. It seems to me that you will be able to correct this situation.”
“I look at you and understand that real men still exist.”
“I’m very lucky to have met such an interesting guy here.”
"I'd like to know a little more about you."
Boldly:
“You are under criminal charges for stealing my heart!”
“Have a conscience, leave my thoughts at least for a while and let me work a little.”
“Hi, I decided to give you... that wonderful book to read.”
“It’s already very late, I really want intimacy... with my pillow.”
Playfully:
“Today I dressed very modestly, but for some reason everyone around me is looking at me.”
“The subscriber is tired of working and wants something sweet to grab.”
“The doctor advised me to take vitamins for a good mood. But I have my own recipe."
“It’s high time you were banned, you’re addictive.”
Extraordinary:
“Today I went fishing and caught perch and crucian carp. But only then I realized that the fish of my dreams is you!”
“I don’t know how to tell you this... I took a test and it showed that we are perfect for each other.”
“Don’t be surprised if Santa Claus kidnaps you on New Year’s Eve and takes you to me. Wishes must come true!”
“As it turns out, I know how to look for treasures. I found you and I won’t share you with anyone!”
How they flirted in ancient times5
Modern flirting in Russia, when a girl flirts with a guy while smiling slightly, may seem like a mere trifle compared to the types of flirting accepted in the old days. The aroma of perfume and a languid look? This is all nonsense. Our ancestors knew how to have fun and flirted by locking the girl they liked in a closet or throwing her into a pond.
The ancient Greeks, wanting to show a girl how serious their intentions were, could start throwing apples at the lady. In response, the girl could bite the apple, and then the man would guess that she liked courtship. It was forbidden to come closer and give gifts; all that was left was to throw apples Newtonian style.
Apples are generally a popular element of flirting - in ancient Europe, German girls gave apples to the man they liked, tempting him, like Adam’s Eve. The guys really liked it, there were even rumors that this was one of the methods of a love spell.
In Central Asia, a man could ask a girl for a drink of water, knowing that she had no right to refuse. At the same time, one could absorb the water in small sips, looking at the girl, and if she blushed in response and smiled, then the sympathy was mutual.
In the 18th and 19th centuries, a fan was used for flirting, with the help of which the girl gave signs to the gentlemen. There were even certain gestures that conveyed sympathy.
Before the adoption of Christianity in Scandinavia, marriageable girls wore an empty sheath on their belt. A man who liked one of these could take his knife and sheath it. Then everything depended on the lady’s reaction - if she didn’t throw away the knife, then you can get acquainted, but if she did, the offer was rejected.
In the Russian village, everything happened the other way around - girls attracted the attention of boys by treating them to apples or vodka, or presenting them with handkerchiefs embroidered with their own hands. If a guy liked a girl, he could start walking around in beautiful clothes under her windows, or show signs of attention, trying to hug or even pinch.
During Russian dances, a guy who liked a girl could take her place while changing positions. When the lady returned, she could kiss the guy, or push him away.
Flirting at work 6
Flirting in the workplace needs to be very subtle and unobtrusive, so as not to interfere with the work process or distract colleagues, and also so as not to cause general disapproval and sidelong glances. Both men and women can initiate flirting.
Languid glances, smiles, light touches near the copier or coffee machine - everything that can be allowed within the framework of business etiquette.
When planning to flirt with the man you like, you need to make sure that there is no strict boss nearby who will deprive both employees of a bonus for inappropriate behavior. If a man really likes him, a girl can give herself free rein at a corporate party and use all her charm to attract attention. A man who is not too reserved will quickly understand what is happening and will either show reciprocal attention or make it clear that there is no point in continuing.
Purpose of correspondence
Before you start correspondence, think about what your goal is.
- If you want to give the impression of a woman who needs to be chased, then do not give a man many compliments. You need to structure the conversation in such a way that the man understands that he has a chance to talk with a unique and unusual woman. Men will definitely win such a lady.
- If you want to play and joke, then you can throw out frank flirty phrases that will awaken a storm of emotions in a man. Just be careful! A man may think that you are serious when you say this. In this case, there may be trouble.
- If you are looking for a serious relationship, then just be yourself. Men love sincere women.
