Flirting is an action that cannot be mastered from birth. But this art is quite possible to learn. And even if your jokes seem flat to your interlocutors, and when the ladies see you, they rush to run around the corner - don’t be sad. All in our hands. The main thing is to be persistent... oh, sorry, persistent. And persistent. And then the person you like will definitely be yours sooner or later.
Why is flirting necessary?
Then, seduction is a game.
It's a game. A game. Once again. A game!!! I repeat, seduction is not straightforwardness. Alya: I want you - come on right now - I want you. No. That's not how it works. It's boring. It's corny. It is not interesting.
Absolutely every girl/woman wants to be seduced.
But! Only pumped up worthy men can do this truly beautifully.
Flirting is exactly what will help you stand out from the crowd of illiterate men.
Logically convincing a girl that you like her will not work.
She must feel it. Inside yourself. Because all women are emotional creatures!
For women, everything is through feelings, emotions, intuition. Logic doesn't work with them. Forget about her.
Seduction is a game, and flirting is one of the chic elements in this game, which allows you to achieve the ultimate goal - what is this goal? - conquest - victory - success - sex - further relationships, etc.
Voice.
Did you hear the lion roar?! Men who have a beautiful voice have increased success with women. And it is true. Namely, you need to be able to speak in a chesty (velvety) voice. Fortunately for all of us, you can add a voice very quickly.
You can practice growling, look for exercises on the Internet, or sign up for public speaking courses. And since you are reading this article, it means that you already have the motivation to do this. And women are programmed to respond to men with loud voices. Feel free to speak loudly, but don't yell.
Instead of being cool and pretentious, be relaxed and friendly. Always be ready to communicate with women . Be playful. When you enter any room or vehicle, smile. When you're relaxed, it's easy to start a conversation. Playfulness will direct communication in the right direction.
Types of flirting...
Flirting can be verbal (speech) and non-verbal (gestures, facial expressions, etc.).
Nonverbal is without speech, this is when, for example, you:
- Smiling at a girl
- Waving your hand, hello
- Look him in the eye and wink
- well that's all in short...
This is all flirting, this is all an element of seduction (game).
Verbal is already words, speech, sentences, this is already in the process of conversation, well, for example...
Boring, banal, etc. normal dialog for example:
- J:
What did you do yesterday? - M:
I was walking in the park. - J:
And how? - M
OK. Liked. What did you do?
Here is an example of SMS flirting:
- J:
What did you do yesterday?) - M:
Hunted for ladybugs) (intrigue, joke, joke, mystery) - J:
Whaaah, haah) - M: yes, I’m kidding) go to the park for a walk - I’ll tell you (well, I would do that, I don’t like correspondence, I like live communication, so it’s faster right away)
Here's another example:
- M:
How is your pussy? (that’s what girls call a cat) (flirting: playfulness, provocation, ambiguity) - J:
Almost ate me this morning - M:
All in the hostess) (flirt: teased, joked, teased her) - the conversation went on
And here is an example of a woman flirting with a man (an example for women, so that you too can develop):
- J:
Do you have a cat? - M:
No. - Zh:
It’s a pity, otherwise my pussy is bored.. (see here it is flirting: playfulness, provocation, ambiguity) - M:
What are you talking about? (a bad mark for the boy - it’s immediately obvious that he’s not pumped up)
In short, examples can be given for a long time, this is not the point, the point is that flirting is a game, playfulness, positivity, it is wit, a sense of humor, lightness, ambiguity, hints, etc. and not banality, boredom, melancholy, predictability, ordinary dialogue, etc. and so on.
Ps one more thing, guys, girls. You don't need to behave like this all the time. This will get boring. Alternate your behavior patterns. And you need to communicate seriously, and in a fun, relaxed, easy way, in short, in different ways.
And so, okay, to flirt with a girl correctly you should be:
- Confident in yourself, be pumped up like a man;
- Be completely uninhibited and as relaxed as possible
- Have wit and a sense of humor
- Be positive, playful, cheerful
- Don’t be: boring, serious, banal, always logical, humorless (not funny), angry, depressed, negative, gloomy, straightforward, predictable, etc. and so on.
How to behave
Correct behavior will allow you to playfully melt away the wariness of the most strict girl and give a sexual impulse to communication.
Smile
To get a girl to like you, you need to smile more often . A natural, sincere smile is the basis of good flirting.
When smiling at a girl, control:
- Does the girl smile back?
- How natural is her smile?
A natural smile does not appear at lightning speed in response to yours, but only after some time, as if after “receiving” your emotions. And the sincerity of a smile emphasizes the asymmetry of the wrinkles it causes around the eyes.
Sight
Proper eye contact is one of the main elements of successful flirting.
Only when you look at the girl with interest do you demonstrate your readiness to extend the conversation.
The so-called official look - the one that is addressed directly to the eyes and nowhere else - will not cause reciprocal emotions. Success will be attentive, intriguing and appreciative, as if you like not only the girl’s eyes, but the whole of her.
Touch
The mistake most guys make is that they don't dare touch the girl they like .
Touching can evoke strong sexual desires not only in boys, but also in girls. This is a kind of natural signal demonstrating that you are the one who is allowed access to the body. You should gradually increase the intensity of socially appropriate touches - for example, holding your hand when crossing the road or holding your waist when entering a cafe.
When greeting, you should hold your hand a little longer than usual , touch your shoulder with the inside of your palm to attract attention to yourself, hug when meeting, parting, or simply in happy moments.
Naturally, at the beginning of a relationship, touching should be careful and appropriate, so as not to send the wrong signal to an unfamiliar girl.
You should make sure that the girl has mutual sympathy - she will strive to be closer, look into your eyes and show that she enjoys your company.
Friendly and open girls don't tend to get upset when a guy touches them.
If a girl is shy and closed, then you need to be sure that she really likes you.
Touches should be unobtrusive and timely . If you start touching a girl too early, she may regard it as an invasion of her personal space.
Body position
When flirting, it is important to monitor your body position - it should be natural.
You should not try to appear taller or bigger, stick your chest out, spread your legs or elbows wide, and put your hands in your pockets.
Attentiveness and respect for the girl will be emphasized by the willingness to give her a seat by moving on the bench, or tilting your head towards her during loud music in a club.
Some postures eloquently indicate a lack of interest on the part of the interlocutor - scratching some part of the body, crossed legs or arms turned towards the toes of shoes - all this speaks of hostility.
You can understand that a girl is flirting with you by the following signs :
- If she tilts her head towards you or to the side, this indicates her interest.
- If she mirrors your pose, then you can be congratulated - she really likes you.
At the beginning of dating, you should not too quickly invade the personal zone of an unfamiliar girl with a radius of less than a meter. She may regard this as rudeness and haste on your part. It is better when, if your behavior is correct, the girl herself will give a signal for “violating boundaries.”
No. 1. Body language (complete relaxation)
Flirting is, first of all, liberation.
When girls start talking to you = it’s so easy with you, you’re so endearing, I feel like we’ve known each other for a year, not an hour, I feel so much fun, easy, good with you = so to achieve all this = you have to to be as liberated and relaxed as possible, and in order for this to happen = you must be pumped up like a man, confident in yourself, you must have a strong inner state of a man.
That's why, in the beginning, I told you that you should be confident in yourself - work on yourself!
If you are constrained there, nervous, worried, worried, afraid, uncomfortable, etc. and so on. = all this will be transferred to the girl, she will see / feel it, in short, there will be no ease between you, there will be no complete liberation between you = as a consequence = on our topic, flirting too.
Because flirting implies ease and freedom.
Without lightness and emancipation there will be no flirting; it is impossible in tense situations, etc. conditions...
Flirting is possible when it is easy, between you, flirting is when it is fun, interesting, witty, etc.
Chat cheek to cheek
The closer you are to a girl, the more she feels you and your condition. The closer you are, the stronger your presence is for her.
Communicate at a minimum distance from her face . To literally feel her breath. Communicate so that your cheek touches her cheek.
If during communication a girl comes close to your head, speaks in your ear, lightly touches your cheek, then do the same! Keep this closeness between you !
Kiss on the cheek. Smell her neck. Whisper words in your ear . These are very subtle and pleasant secrets of flirting.
No. 2. Smile/positive
If you are angry, negative, depressed, etc. and so on. = what kind of flirting is there anyway?
Flirting - I repeat - is lightness, it is fun, it is playfulness, etc. this is a special mood.
So be positive. Anger, gloominess, depression, seriousness, etc. = will not bring you closer to the desired result, on the contrary, they will push you further away. Believe me, girls adore positive men, and not those who are always whining, whining, whining, everything is wrong for him, life is bad, the country is not the same, there is no money, crises, all girls are whores, etc.
What should we not forget?
Flirting in correspondence with a girl saves a young man from many of the hassles that courtship requires in everyday life. For example, he does not have to spend money on bouquets of flowers, cinema tickets, or visits to cafes.
However, the lack of real communication does not mean that you should forget about gallantry. You need to start your daily correspondence with a girl you already know in absentia not with the banal expression “Hello, how are you?”, but with a wish for good morning, a bouquet of flowers and a cup of coffee. Of course, the bouquet and coffee are emoticons or pictures found on the Internet. After this message, there is no need to immerse yourself in correspondence; you should mind your own business. A girl whose morning begins with flowers and a cup of coffee “in bed,” even if it’s fake, will look forward to the evening and will happily begin to communicate with a young man on any topic.
No. 3. Wit and sense of humor...
Wit shows your erudition and education.
And girls adore witty, educated, intelligent, etc. men, of course, along with adequacy and a sense of humor (more on this later). Therefore, communicate with her on a wide variety of topics; you should have your own special view on many, even the most banal topics.
But! Even being smart, educated, etc. = a man without a sense of humor (for girls) is a boring, banal, well, not interesting guy. Why? Read on!
With such guys/men = girls don’t even really want to communicate, let alone anything more..
And all because all girls are emotional. They care about emotions emotions emotions.
The rule that works with girls is that there can never be too much emotion.
If the girl with you really laughs, smiles, hey, fun, etc. = you're handsome.
Believe me, it has already been half conquered by you as a conqueror =)
But! What is important. You don't have to be a clown all the time. Make jokes, say some bullshit, well, in short, everything should be in moderation. Girls are not interested in clowns. So she may think that you are not a serious guy, ala-ulu, and you won’t make porridge with him.
Alternate your behavior patterns. Well, for example. Now you are serious (and the girl sees it = feels it = an adequate worthy man) = switch and bam = cheerful, playful, foolish, wet, etc.
This way your conversation will be varied, in terms of peak, emotions/adequacy/seriousness, etc.
If you are constantly serious = there will be no emotions. There will be no emotions = you will be uninteresting, boring, banal, etc. There must be emotions = it must be fun, cool, interesting, amusing, etc.
At the same time = you cannot be a constant fool = a clown. Understand?
Learn to combine flirting with regular cute communication, etc.
Show him also that you are smart, educated, interesting, etc. and so on. worthy man.
Tell us a little about yourself, talk about abstract topics, reveal yourself as a person, etc.
In general, there should be a golden mean, everything should be in moderation. Understand?
Jokes, in addition to being witty, must also be appropriate.
Remember this. Otherwise you will look ridiculous/stupid, etc.
There’s no point in trying too hard to do anything, being funny, trying to show yourself off as such, no, it all has to be natural - otherwise it will be visible, she will feel it, so there’s no need for that, be natural, yourself, don’t push yourself, relax, and generally just try to enjoy yourself.
And also, be able to laugh at yourself, because this also shows that many complexes are alien to you, and positive thinking is inherent, and girls, as I already said, adore such men =)
Pickup phrases from songs6
- I fell in love with you, and I don’t even know your name.
- Grab your coat and say goodbye to your friends. I want to take you to a place where the night never ends.
- You can tell me anything. Anyway, we will never see each other again (you should not use this phrase if you are planning a serious relationship with this girl).
- I need you today, I can't sleep. There's something about you that drives me crazy.
- I can turn your world around.
- I will become whatever you want, as long as you are with me today.
- There are so many beautiful girls in the world and I could chase any of them. But I don't want to waste time on them. After all, none of them can compare with you.
- I know you've heard a lot about love at first sight. I didn't believe in all this. Until tonight.
- I love everything about you. I love everything that's not in you.
- I won't promise you the moon and stars. But I can give you a ride in the car.
- Life isn't always wonderful. Unlike you.
- Yes, I judge by the cover. But this is the kind of book I would like to read.
- Anything you say can be used against you. So don't say anything other than my name.
- Hello, I just met you. This might be crazy, but maybe you can give me your number?
- I know we just met, but let's pretend that this is love?
- I fall in love with your eyes, and they don't even know me yet.
- Love can heal, love can mend your soul.
- Your love was made for someone like me.
- Give me the love that you have never given to anyone before.
- I saw a shooting star and thought about you.
- Who would have thought that you were the one who was waiting for me.
- I would spend my whole life falling in love with you.
- I have seen so many women in this city. But you come from my dreams. When will you become reality?
- The police should arrest you - or whoever picked these clothes for you. You are murderous.
- I'm your number one fan. Give me your autograph. Sign my heart.
- Sweatpants, tangled hair and a face without makeup. That's when you're the most beautiful, don't get me wrong.
- Today is the night when I fall in love with you again.
- Take me to your bed and we'll cause a stir.
- When you smile, I melt inside. I'm not worth a minute of your time.
- You're too good to go home so early.
- If the ideal is what you strive for, then just remain yourself.
- I can't take my eyes off you. I only see you.
- With you, I feel like I could fly into space. Do you want the moon? You will receive it.
- If I were your boyfriend, I would never let you leave. I would show you places you've never been before.
- If it weren't so cold, we could light it together.
- I would walk a thousand miles for you.
- I don't know your name, but I like your smile.
- In my head we are already inseparable.
- You are beautiful and you know it. It's time to show it.
- Today is the perfect day. And I'm glad to spend it with you.
- Hey girl, it's now or never.
- No one in the whole world has ever looked as good in a dress as you do.
- Every rose has thorns. Let me be one of them.
- You are the perfect rhyme for my verse.
OK. What does flirting have to do with wit and a sense of humor?
Well, with wit, I think everything is clear/understandable. Flirting is an art - not given to every man.
If you are as dumb as a plug = and can’t put two words together = not developed intellectually, not educated, not erudite, or “mu-mu”, etc. = then there’s hardly any cool flirting here.
In order to flirt really well, a man must be of a certain level. Have many qualities (self-confidence, sense of humor, intelligence, erudition, intelligence, ability to make jokes, see these moments, feel a girl, experience also plays a role, and a lot of things).
As for the sense of humor = flirting without it = does not exist. At least I don't know that. Flirting is when it is easy, fun, funny, amusing, interesting, etc. and so on.
How can you flirt with a girl while being serious? E-may)) this is a game... you need to be in this mood, it should be simple, easy, fun, not forced, etc.
Bottom line
Male flirting is an art. Learn to maintain a balance of persistence, expand your range of interests and work on charisma. Your additional bonuses will be a beautiful appearance, a well-trained voice, developed facial expressions and a confident look.
And most importantly - practice!
After reading the articles, you will not become a conqueror of women's hearts. 100 unsuccessful attempts that will bring experience are better than 100 books read, the knowledge from which was not implemented in real life. Team Growth Phase, Growth Phase
No. 4. Sincere compliments
It’s not for nothing that the expression “girls love with their ears” was invented =)
Compliments act as an element of flirting, and for more experienced men they also act as suggestions (for example, I don’t just give compliments to anyone).
So don’t be shy to say hey, what cool little thighs she has)), or a beautiful nose, or gorgeous breasts, or a mole, or she’s very feminine, or something else (depending on the girl).
The main thing is that it is sincere. Young ladies feel it immediately. Sincerity.
If you sing to everyone in a row just to make it = no, it won’t work.
No. 5. Tease her / make fun of her / make fun of her, etc.
When there is already comfortable communication between you = easy = established rapport = be alive.
Don't be afraid to tease her, you can twist her, make fun of her, tease her, etc. and so on.
But! Within reasonable limits, of course. There must be a line, a golden mean, a measure in everything.
This will also show the girl’s level, whether she has a sense of humor, whether she can laugh at herself, whether she has complexes, whether she has positive thinking, etc. and so on.
Is she there immediately in hysterics, A, HA? WHAT? WHAT YOU SAID? NOT TRUE, NO, SHUT YOUR MOUTH and so on, then it’s immediately clear / understandable, at least for me - it’s time to move on.
So. Why is this even necessary, teasing her, making fun of her, making fun of her, etc.?
Besides the fact that it will tell a little about the girl (her sense of humor, playfulness, etc.), it will also demonstrate your good sense of humor (if you do everything right), it will also evoke emotions, and emotions are always good - the more emotional connection she has with you = the better for you (and vice versa, by the way, for a girl with a man).
This will also make your element of the game (your flirting) more original, it will attract her, she will be interested in you, she will join the game and try to tease you back, etc.
No. 6. Don't be straightforward (boring, banal, etc.)
Don't answer all her questions—directly—as is.
For example, if she asks what you do, who you work for, etc. and so on.
And you immediately: I do this and that, I work here there there, I get paid so much, blah blah blah.
She: clear/understandable. It's boring. It's corny. It is not interesting. It's predictable.
Don’t immediately answer “everything is as it is.” Do you understand what I said in the previous paragraph?
Try to tease the girl, joke, joke, before giving her information.
For example, if she asks: what do you do? say some nonsense.
I would answer that I herd cows, sell shawarma, sell watermelons, hunt ladybugs, or whatever else comes to mind. Here the girl’s sense of humor is immediately tested.
Because this is not a standard answer. This brings a smile/laughter, well, at least.
And it's not a lie. This is an element (flirting) of the game (seduction). Understand?
And even the answer “what do you think?” better than dealing all your cards at once. Understand?
This is just an example with work. In general, it concerns everything. Flirting is not straightforwardness.
Any question can be turned into a game.
Use ambiguity, it’s like different roads, paths, junctions, traffic in all directions.
Intrigue is another key to success in seduction (in the game).
Naturally, then if you want, you can tell him the truth, but you don’t have to right away, from start to finish.
If you say everything directly and openly, then no flirting will work, because flirting is when it is fun, not boring, not banal, witty and playful (for flirting is elements of the game). Along with flirting, I also use the following in seduction (No. 8 and No. 9).
No. 8. Touch (required)
I don't know how you can be with a girl and not touch her.
Everything, again, depends on whether the man is pumped up, if so, he will touch, touch, touch from the very beginning, as early as possible, he will start doing this - take my word for it...
If not, he is afraid there, shy, nervous, doesn’t know how, etc. and so on.
My hands automatically reach out, touching something, touching it, looking at it, feeling it, I really can’t just sit and communicate calmly. I need to touch. Look at something there, feel it)), touch it, etc.
Then I'll touch my hair. Then I’ll look at her chain. It's a bracelet. Then I’ll touch the legs. Then I’ll touch the hands. I’ll sit closer, then I’ll hug her around the waist. When I already feel it, both on the ass, on the tits, well, in short, such places already clearly demonstrate my desire. Briefly speaking. Constantly touching, touching, touching.
Sometimes I even flirt, poke her with my finger, tickle her, etc. and so on.
I don't have to force myself. I like it - if the girl (of course) I like, is pretty. With this I show everyone (again, not directly, but with hints) that I want her, I like her, I’m interested, etc. and so on.
By the way, girls do the same)) (if you don’t do this, dear, with someone you like, someone you want, I strongly recommend starting) because. this really works very well, really, especially for those who value tactile contact with a girl/man (sensitive people).
Additional Tips
The consequences of flirting can only be pleasant; this is the most powerful tool showing that the girl is not indifferent to the guy.
But you don't need to overdo it. It's not worth flirting all evening - the value of flirting will be lost. The girl will think that the guy always communicates with everyone like this, that this is his style of communication. Because of this, the sense of specialness and uniqueness will be lost. The relationship will not be able to develop further.
It is useful to be able to flirt and just communicate at the same time. Girls like it. Everyone will appreciate this skill. The guy must remember that the girl is a living person on whom they hone their skills. It is recommended to use a balance of flirting and simple communication.
After you break up, the girl should feel that she learned a lot about you during the meeting. With each new meeting, the guy should tell him a little about himself - work and hobbies are always interesting to the fair sex. It will also be useful to ask about similar aspects of the girl’s life. Sharing such information will allow the guy to become much closer to her.
· Sep 27, 2018
