One of the most interesting periods of your life is school. No matter how difficult, uninteresting, or boring it was at school, this time is always remembered with quiet sadness in the future. For any girl, school is an opportunity to find friends, girlfriends, and meet your first crush here. Often such sympathy develops into a feeling for both the girl and the guy.
And it doesn’t matter how old you are: at 11 years old, at 12 years old, and at an older age - falling in love comes without asking your age.
Of course, every girl, even the most ugly one, wants to please the person she likes. But she doesn’t know how to make a classmate or a boy from another class fall in love with her. How to get a boy to like you at school? Let's try to understand the difficult situation and find solutions.
How to please a boy - tips
To please a boy, you need to start with your appearance, but in this matter you should not try to become the same as most girls at school - it is important to be able to stand out. In order to emphasize your individuality, it is better to choose things of your own style, rather than radically change it. Putting on high heels, if before that you spent all your time in sneakers, it’s pointless - there will be a lot of attention, but all of it will be devoted to an inept gait and will take the form of ridicule. Staying in your image, you need to become a little brighter - blue jeans when everyone is wearing dark ones; hair tied in a ponytail if everyone wears it down.
Grooming and style play a lot in a person’s perception and boys, even at a very early age, notice girls who have beautifully styled hair, neat clothes and the ability to combine accessories. A stylish haircut, a couple of items from the latest collection and comfortable clothes will be the key to an attractive appearance. Trying to buy up all the fashion boutiques is not relevant, and when choosing an image you need to focus on your age category, because what looks great on twenty-year-old girls is simply funny on an 11-year-old girl.
The next point will be the choice of behavior, since a bright appearance alone is not enough. It is necessary to attract attention by actions, for which you do not need to do something extreme or shocking; you should also avoid attracting attention with scandals and antisocial behavior. It is best to show your kindness and cheerful character, and not only in relation to the boy you like, but to everyone around you.
You can try to show your best sides, but you shouldn’t completely change yourself and be a completely different person next to the guy. Even if you succeed, if you are disappointed, you will be very sorry for the colossal efforts spent on creating an illusory image. And you need to be prepared for disappointment, because after a boy likes you, you will begin to communicate closer and he may be far from the ideal that your fantasy has drawn.
What to do if a boy likes you but he doesn’t like you
First, admit the idea that this boy might actually like you, but you just don’t know it yourself. Many young men are very shy in expressing their feelings, even if outwardly they seem to be the “life of the party.” So, if the young guy you like doesn’t look interested, it’s possible that he simply doesn’t know how to show his sympathy, or is afraid of being rejected. In this case, you need to win him over by showing that you are interested in him - ask about his hobbies, give compliments, advice, joke.
However, even if you are convinced that this guy is not really fascinated by you yet, then still let him know that he is interested in you. Subconsciously, he will begin to think about you and imagine you as a possible lover. If you manage to establish friendly contact with him, then it is possible that in the end he will still want more.
To please a boy, focus all your attention not only on him, but also on other things - otherwise you will be an unremarkable person for him. Sign up for several clubs in order to be comprehensively developed and interesting not only to him, but also to other people. When he sees that you have a lot of hobbies, he will never think that you are boring, and he will most likely want to know more about you. If this does not happen, then you are unlikely to worry much - having signed up for several sections (especially those that other boys attend), pretty soon you will realize that your life is already full and exciting.
How to get a boy to like you at school
The school itself imposes many restrictions on communication and its forms of manifestation, which makes it quite difficult to show sympathy. But at the same time, the presence of mandatory requirements for behavior and joint tasks helps you even figure out how to please a boy who doesn’t like you. In the school process itself, there are many joint activities where you can help someone you like. By participating in productions and showing your talents, you can change the perception of a guy. The main thing to remember is not to wait for attention and engage in more dialogue with him, as well as express yourself, the only trick is to do this exclusively on a business topic. You shouldn’t talk openly about your own feelings, if you know that the boy doesn’t like you, it’s better to cooperate with him and show restraint. Such a calm approach contributes to the emergence of sincere interest; the guy will at least want to know how, after interacting for so long, you do not even feel friendly feelings towards him.
It’s great if the school hosts additional clubs or sections where the guy you like goes to – you can sign up there and you’ll have more common topics and time spent together. Approach carefully when choosing these activities - the boxing section may not be the best option, but aircraft modeling is quite suitable - and it will be easier to cope and it will not raise suspicions about what the girl is doing there. It is optimal for these activities to satisfy your interests, or you can choose others (gymnastics, drawing). Typically, all classes follow the same schedule, which means you will have common time between breaks and on the way home.
Using lessons to start a relationship is not only not recommended, but also useless; recess and time after classes are best for personal communication. If you try to attract attention during class, you can seriously damage your relationship with the teacher, which will affect the entire process of being at school.
You can meet more often during breaks, arrange casual meetings, choose a place in the cafeteria next to your boyfriend. Such meetings should not look intrusive and cause paranoia in him; if your class is now in another part of the school, and you are the only one hanging around the guy, then you will have to come up with an ironclad alibi why you need to be here (for example, the need to wait for the teacher - only then really wait for him and ask him something).
If classes end at the same time, then you can chat on the way home or even ask him for help - carry books, protect him from the yard dogs, tell him that you are afraid of hooligans in the yard. You can offer to do homework together, but it’s better not to start with this. At the beginning, discuss the assignments a couple of times during recess, perhaps he can explain something to you or you can let him copy it.
It is not advisable to attract attention with your appearance at school, but you should not completely forget about it. Even the most boring shape can be made more original by using jewelry or braiding your hair. Everything that is not prohibited by the school charter can be safely used to emphasize your individuality. Even if the rule is for white shirts, you can choose not a classic one, but one with hand embroidery and beads instead of buttons - the main thing is to show your imagination.
Flirt
Flirting is a real art. But don’t worry, you can quickly learn this art, you just need to overcome your shyness a little. For example, do you like a guy at school, but when you cross paths, do you run away in horror or avert your eyes from him, pretending not to notice? This is a priori wrong position.
One fine day, during recess, give him a wink or a nod. Smile, look into the eyes for 5 seconds and look away. It's very simple, don't be shy. Boys are just waiting for such signals, because they are more vulnerable than they seem.
If a guy at school is quite shy, but you notice that he looks at you often and with interest, approach him first. Ask a couple of questions, ones that don’t oblige you to anything. If the conversation starts, great. If you feel that you both look stupid, tell him about it honestly. “The conversation is not going well. We’ll try again after a while, maybe next time it will work.” Leave without looking back. He will be shocked, but this method works.
If you see a snowball fight in the school yard, don’t hesitate to join in! Throw a snowball at him, don’t be afraid, then with an innocent look you will say that it was an accident.
If you are in awe of the mere sight of a handsome guy, imagine that in front of you is a neighbor or best friend with whom you can easily communicate. Play out possible topics of conversation in your mind, practice in front of a mirror - this way you will relieve tension and look natural.
How to please a boy at 10 years old
Perhaps the first thoughts on how to please a boy come at the age of 10. This is the easiest in terms of establishing ordinary friendly communication and the most difficult in forming inter-gender interaction, which is explained by the different speed of mental processes. While girls are already beginning to feel sympathy for boys, go out with them and communicate more, boys do not yet feel such a need. Girls have a different style of communication, they want to spend time with friends less and less, and in those moments when they communicate with girls, they want to discuss the possibility of relationships with guys, find out who likes whom, and share information on improving their image. At this time, boys still behave as before - they spend time with the guys, consider girls boring and do not particularly notice the difference in gender.
Winning the sympathy of a boy is a difficult task, since all his hobbies are outside the sphere of girls. Some people often start communicating with older guys, because they are already interested in girls and they can quickly find a common language with them, but not all of those who are older will agree to communicate with a younger girl. But the situation is not hopeless. Interest at this age needs to be attracted by getting involved in general activities. If you know how to ride a bicycle or roller skate, you can organize a competition; if you know an interesting abandoned house, then you can arrange a tour there.
How to get a boy to like you at 10 years old? You need to show enthusiasm and character, if you look at the boy in fascination and nod to his every word, then he will not be interested. It is best to defeat him in some matter. To overtake, to pass a test better, to climb higher on a tree - this will attract his attention, if only because the boy cannot allow a girl to defeat him. Competitions will help build friendships and strong relationships, especially if after a series of victories you lose to him, and in another area he asks for advice or to teach you. For example, you can overtake him on roller skates, and at the same time ask him to teach him how to skateboard, you can pass literature better and ask him to explain mathematics. You can’t constantly beat him, otherwise the guy’s self-esteem will decrease, and he will find a social circle where he will look better.
There is no need to tell a 10-year-old guy about your feelings, especially in a romantic manner from melodramatic films - it may not be clear to him, which pushes many to make rather cruel jokes. Try to spend more time where he spends it and actively participate in everything that happens. If a crowd of boys is playing in the snow, then it’s better to join in, and play for the enemy team - that way he’ll definitely remember you. The worst thing you can do is walk by with an arrogant and boring face, showing with all your appearance how frivolous snowballs are for a girl. He will simply understand that he shouldn’t invite someone like him with him, but he will always want to see a cheerful and mischievous girl who can have fun just like him. And even if he doesn’t yet realize what exactly is happening and doesn’t know what this feeling is called, but you are already becoming special to him.
What kind of girls do boys like and why?
It's hard to argue with the fact that boys pay attention to attractive girls. To interest a guy, you don’t have to be like the model on the cover of a magazine, but you shouldn’t forget about the general nuances. Make sure you always look neat and appropriate. In high school, wear things that will highlight your winning sides, but do not allow there to be at least some hint of vulgarity. Be sure to take care of your skin (choose care according to your age, visit a dermatologist if necessary), and hair (make masks, rinse your hair in a herbal decoction). It would be nice to choose your own special style in clothes and accessories. Perhaps there is no need to explain why guys like well-groomed girls, because the female sex also initially pays attention to the appearance of the chosen one, and this is quite natural.
In addition, guys love open and cheerful girls, because it’s always interesting to be with them. However, young people are often attracted to mystery girls. Whoever the opposite sex definitely doesn’t like are arrogant people and upstarts - you never know what to expect from such persons, and these expectations often do not promise anything good. In general, be positive, simple, pay attention to your appearance, find yourself an interesting hobby, and then, undoubtedly, you will be successful with young men!
How to please a boy at 11 years old
By the fifth grade, boys gradually show interest in the opposite sex and begin to notice obvious differences. They are still trying to hide it, they still spend a lot of time playing with guys, but they are already noticing girls. At the age of 11, in order to capture the attention and arouse the sympathy of a guy, you need to do the same as before - be together more often and get involved in common activities. The only difference is that it will take less effort now. Boys at this age already regard help with homework not only as an opportunity to improve their grades, but also as a pleasant way to communicate. Many people ask for help not from excellent students, but from pretty girls - studying becomes an excuse. In the same way, one math genius can simply point out the section of the textbook where the necessary topic is explained, and another girl will himself explain all the changes, some kind of pattern.
In joint games and activities, it is worth starting to be careful - if earlier the attention was perfectly attracted by the fact that a girl could defeat him, but now it is starting to hit hard on self-esteem. Guys become interested in their own prestige in a male environment and among girls. If a girl surpasses him, then he becomes embarrassed in front of other guys who may start teasing and making fun of him, and in addition, the image of a hero in the girl’s eyes is lost. If you play a competitive game together, then try to keep an equal score; you shouldn’t lose on purpose - this will lose all interest, but winning every time becomes irrelevant. Shift the focus from activity to communication.
When starting to feel sympathy for a girl, many try to hide it so carefully that they achieve the opposite feeling. Therefore, before looking for answers on how to please a boy who doesn’t like you, it’s worth observing him carefully, perhaps you are his ideal, you just don’t have enough determination and skill to admit it yet. It is important to become part of his circle of friends, to establish yourself as an excellent friend - this will not only help you be together more often, but will also give you a kind of permission to communicate. Guys in this age range are very dependent on the opinions of their friends, and if they one day look askance and disapprove of some girl, then communicating with her will directly affect his reputation. The more you are a friend to all guys, the better your relationship with your chosen one will be.
And only after you have become part of his group of friends and have excellent relationships with everyone there, can you begin to distinguish him from everyone else. This can be done by asking his opinion, telling a story, looking at him, you can invite him several times to spend time together without everyone else. The attention of a girl who everyone likes is very flattering for guys at this age.
You can get an 11-year-old boy to like you at school if you reduce school communication to a minimum and, if possible, make the most of the opportunities for joint creativity. That is, if a presentation is required from the class, then you need to prepare it together; if you are assigned to prepare a presentation, then ask him to help after class. During the lessons themselves, do your homework and don’t get distracted, even if a cute guy provokes you. It's important to set boundaries, and the lack of communication at school will motivate him to communicate with you after school.
Communicate
Liking begins with communication. If a girl wants to please a guy who is not from her class, she should start communication by establishing contact. Playful glances during breaks, shy smiles, timid nods. Ask mutual friends at school to introduce you. If you are shy, switch to communicating on social networks. Study the guy's page before you make any moves. Add to a couple of his groups, like a few songs and recordings. Comment creatively on your favorite photo. Share that you have a collectible Bi-2 album if the guy is interested in this group, etc.
If you like a classmate, then communication here can be accompanied by physical contact. You can sit at his desk during recess to ask for advice (help with setting up the phone, choosing a cool movie). At the same time, touch your shoulders or arms. If you are already on good terms, you can hug your classmate, playfully pat him on the shoulder, playfully push him, or pinch him. During class, you can wink at him once. But everything should be natural!
Next, try to transfer communication outside of school. Walk home together (even if it’s only 5 minutes on the way, walk it together), ask him to carry the briefcase. Offer to go for a walk after class, coming up with some reason for this. Ask for advice, tell him that a guy is courting you and you don’t understand how to behave so as not to hurt him with a refusal. This way you will show that you are in demand among boys, and he will look at you with interest.
If the conversation is not going well, so as not to look ridiculous, ask the guy more questions. Then your tension will decrease and the dialogue will improve.
How to please a boy at 12 years old
At this age, social contacts expand, many begin to try themselves in other types of activities, in communicating with other people. Everything that was previously unknown becomes interesting; there is a great desire to stand out. That is why it is important for a 12-year-old girl not so much to join the team, as was previously the case, but to learn to stand out from the rest. Boys will notice precisely those who cease to obey the norms of society, standard systems of upbringing and education, and show their individuality.
If you had unusual hobbies that fell by the wayside to support common interests, now is the time to start showing them off. Compliance with a guy's tastes and interests becomes less important, now they are already able to perceive you not only as a comrade, but also as a girl, so doing gymnastics, making jewelry or painting can give him the opportunity to admire your talents and your differences.
His hobbies can be shared if there is sincere interest; in all other cases, it is enough to respect his choice and support. If this is a sport, then you can go to competitions with him, watch performances and provide moral support. You can also perfectly and quietly support him not only morally - grab a bottle of water or bandages, spare carbines or a map of the area, find out the schedule in advance and other little things will show your location. If this is a scientific activity, then you can show others how proud you are and admire his achievements. Guys at this age interact with the world and express themselves through activities, because the more you encourage and delve into his hobbies, the more needed he will feel. Even if you are infinitely far from what is happening, you can say: “how do you understand all this? I don’t understand anything at all.” This is how indirect interest manifests itself, and the guy begins to tell you more about his business, in addition, he will try to make it as interesting as possible. There is no need to play along with him, and if you don’t understand, just say so, the guy will try even harder.
There is still no point in rushing things, the guys have just come to terms with the fact that they can like girls, and the first couples are starting to form. If you rush during this period, the guy may never approach you, but start hanging out with a less persistent girl. Remain the person he can always call, with whom he has a lot in common and interesting things.
How to attract interest by correspondence
If you like a guy you don't know well, you need to know how to make him pay attention to you. There are no age or gender differences in social networks; girls also have the right to write to guys first.
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To interest a guy by correspondence, you need to start an entertaining conversation with him. You shouldn’t write a banal “Hello, how are you?” Experiment with phrases; from the first message he should be interested and want to continue the conversation.
If after the first day of communication the young man’s activity has not increased, it means that you are not the object of his interest. In such a situation, you need to wait a little and not bombard him with messages. If the desire to see a guy is higher than your sense of dignity, you can invite him to meet in person.
How to please a boy at 13 years old
At the age of 13, boys are already ready to take the initiative on their own, and the desire to communicate with girls comes to the fore. At this stage, the girl should begin to act more carefully, because if she continues to race with the guys in a common company, she risks remaining in their perception as the same friend. Here it is important to start emphasizing your femininity.
Dresses and skirts should be more common in your wardrobe, your hairstyle should at least periodically be not only comfortable, but also beautiful, elegant shoes and beautiful nails - all these tricks help a guy notice your fragility and generally see a girl.
How to please a boy at 13 years old? It is important to let him know about your sympathy, and now for this it is enough to smile at his appearance, laugh at jokes and listen. Guys like those they can make happy, so the more regularly you show him that you are glad to meet you, the more often he will strive for this meeting, and the more he will try to please you.
Self-esteem in teenagers is unstable, so it is important to praise and support him, so you will become something permanent and resourceful for him. At the same time, it is important to remember your condition and do everything possible to overcome your own complexes and keep your self-esteem at an adequate level. Trainings or courses, communication with friends, self-improvement classes can help, and sometimes you can even ask a guy to express his opinion about you and cheer you up.
In your image and appearance, you need to focus on a recognizable individuality. You can choose a perfume for yourself so that the guy will make associations about you even with the smell, you can hum a melody, and then when he hears this song, he will remember you again. It's great to create your own personal traditions - with hot chocolate after school or a good morning wish and a funny picture. The more associative points you build, the better. It is better to postpone extreme experiments with appearance. Of course, with every video of an alternative group, he will have associative memories of your acid green hair, black lips and miniskirt, but there are only a few guys in life who like this.
The sphere of interpersonal communication is becoming relevant, so it is important to know what a guy is interested in and where he spends his time. It’s great if you can share his hobbies and support a topic of interest. Your hobbies may not be the same, but you can look for places where you can combine them. For example, if you like to make jewelry and he likes to take photographs, then you can ask him to make a portfolio of your work. If you love to travel and he loves bicycles, then a bike tour together is a great idea.
He should notice
To catch a guy's attention at school, a girl must attract him with something. You need to not only remain yourself, but also take into account age limits!
Everything should be organic! For example, if a 10-year-old girl tries to impress with makeup, this will more likely cause bewilderment and ridicule from a guy than interest. It is better to attract attention with behavior at this age. Be cheerful, exciting, active, friendly: when entering the class, smile, say hello, look the guy in the eyes when talking, tell interesting stories. Encourage the boy, help him, praise him. Guys like this more than short skirts and lipstick.
But at the age of 13 you can already surprise guys with your appearance. This could be a new hairstyle, an interesting combination of wardrobe, light and natural makeup that emphasizes beauty. Just remember – it should suit you!
If the school has introduced a dress code, you can simply play with the styles of shirts/blouses/skirts, complementing the look with an interesting braid, high ponytail or fashionable curls. If free style is allowed, there is somewhere to roam. But only wear clothes that you feel comfortable in. If you love jeans with sneakers, and suddenly you put on high heels with a tight dress - yes, a guy will definitely notice you! But most likely he will notice your funny, awkward gait. And if you fall at school, you will blush for a long time. Continue to carry your style, just add bright colors and interesting accessories.
Makeup should be discreet, just lip gloss and a little mascara on the eyelashes. To please a guy, never use blue eye shadow, dark blush or brown lipstick!
How to please a boy at 14 years old
At the age of 14, girls feel that they need to be the best in everything, then the guy will pay attention, but competitive moments have long given way to originality, naturalness and uniqueness. The most powerful and most difficult thing you can do is be yourself. That is, laugh at what is funny to you, and not at what all the girls laugh at or exclusively at the guy’s jokes. If you are not funny or the humor seems offensive, it is important to be able to say that many guys, spoiled by attention, cross the boundaries of what is permitted and they simply need a person who will put them in their place and make them try to be better. It is also important to go where you like and when you want. Sacrificing your own sleep to stay longer at a party where everyone is gathered, provided that tomorrow's training does not play into your favor. Guys like those who go their own way, are guided by their own values and do not give in to manipulation by society.
This is a rather difficult path that requires stability and confidence, since it is always easier to behave like everyone else without thinking too much. The danger is that the guy will not distinguish you from others, and you will not live your life.
Your main interest should be your own life - don’t impose yourself on the guy, let him be the first to take the initiative, which is important to encourage and show what pleases you. But you shouldn’t run after him yourself; they quickly lose interest in such girls. It is quite acceptable to be active after his first few steps, but there should always be more of his actions. Don’t tell everything about yourself, let there be a little mystery and room for his imagination; if he knows your schedule, the motives for meeting and refusing, every minute, then interest gradually subsides and he doesn’t want to explore.
Being yourself and being different are completely compatible things - after all, you have different activities and moods. Despite the fact that everyone likes to be praised and welcomed, guys are not interested when a girl is constantly sweet and unctuous. You can be openly angry, sad, happy, fall into apathy, agitation and depression - the greater the spectrum you allow yourself to show, the more intrigue and interest you will arouse in a guy.
What really attracts guys
When we understand a person, he feels sympathy for us (this happens on a subconscious level). He is drawn to us, but he himself does not know why.
This is a special warmth, trust, reciprocity, sincerity, a desire to open up.
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Author Ekaterina Gusarova
Editor Karina Kashapova
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The article was written using materials from Yuri Burlan’s online training “System-vector psychology”
Useful tips
Psychologists give useful advice to girls who want to please guys at any age, to be the object of their desires and dreams. Recommendations to pay attention to:
- Natural behavior.
- Spectacular appearance.
- Beautiful speech.
- Lack of rudeness and impudence.
- Femininity, attractiveness, tenderness.
The right approach to winning a boy will help a girl win his sympathy and attention. If a girl feels attractive, those around her will perceive her in the same way, including the object of her desire.
