He is always the victim
Manipulators want everyone around them to feel sorry for them. They sincerely believe that their lives are full of suffering, and they believe that others should sympathize with them and, if possible, try to make their lives easier.
As a rule, manipulators use a similar technique when they want to shift their responsibilities to someone else. As soon as you ask him for something, he will immediately begin to tell you about a million of his problems. And not only will you not ask the manipulator for anything, but you will also take on part of his responsibilities.
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Science of the Soul
For many people, if everything is fine, that’s great, but as soon as problems begin, someone is always to blame for something, and naturally, such responsibility for all “errors” always affects someone... And, most importantly, every person is actively looks for and “nominates” the culprit. And a lot depends on who exactly a person “designates” as guilty. Always, if a person is guilty, he perceives it completely differently than if he feels that others are guilty. And at the same time, blame placed on a person close to you is not at all the same as blaming a stranger. The decisions made most directly affect the perception of the problem, and the same conclusion that a person makes for himself, and, consequently, his actions. Therefore, a person always looks for and finds someone to blame. And here the problems begin: it is still necessary to correctly find this culprit. Most often, the search for the culprit occurs under the “guidance” not entirely of common sense, but according to convenient occasion, according to “convenience” in general. This is where some difficulties begin to arise. Although there is practically no benefit from this, temporary relief does come (there will always be someone to whom you can direct your aggression, anger and discontent). If such a culprit of all troubles exists, then it is necessary to get rid of him: at the same time, stop constantly blaming him, and approach the problem itself more consciously.
Parents are to blame...
Very often parents are to blame in life. This is all explained by childhood -. It largely determines the future. Attitudes towards oneself, life, hobbies, the ability to achieve goals... all this from that very childhood. There are quite a few people who, in adulthood, believe that they were taught in the wrong place, that they were treated in the wrong way, that in general life was going topsy-turvy... Claims can always be found and “written off.” A critical attitude towards your parents, the very dissatisfaction with what your elders offer - all this is considered necessary in order to become a truly independent person.
“We cannot change what was done to us as children. But we can do something about what was done to us as children." =Fritz Perls = (German psychotherapist)
Such a statement by a scientist should serve as a corresponding “lesson” for all those who blame their parents for their troubles and failures. After all, an adult is an adult, so that he can independently figure out his failures and problems, and not “pass” them on to his parents. You should never shift your responsibility onto your parents.
“He” is guilty...
Life partners are different: too hot-tempered, cannot control their anger, addicted to gambling or alcohol... and all these problems are transferred to the aspects of family life and then it is this person who is guilty of all “earthly” family problems (and not only ) troubles and failures. Psychotherapists who specialize in treating various addictions often encounter the phenomenon that the wife’s resistance in such cases is great. And all this is because the habit of considering only “him” in all failures is more persistent. After all, if you fail to place the blame on your partner, you will have to look for someone else or the true reason for everything that is happening. Or it may turn out that the reason is not “him” at all, but rather the companion. This is already difficult - after all, you will have to change yourself. There are many cases in life when a married couple lives together with their mother-in-law, and this is all - conflicts are “attributed” to her, but when the time comes to live separately, such a couple, as a rule, will break up in the first year of their “separate” life. And the reason here is quite simple: people are deprived of the usual scapegoat, and it turned out that the root of all troubles and problems was much deeper. And it’s much more difficult to get rid of such a habit. To do this, you always need to be honest, first of all, with yourself.
Fate is to blame...
You can often hear the following statement: “There’s nothing you can do – it’s fate...”. This is not an accusation of fate, but a simple conviction of oneself that one must live and put up with some everyday problems. Or it may happen that a person is actually offended by fate and “has had no luck since childhood...”, “my friend is lucky - but I - fate did not smile...” - these are apparently direct serious claims against fate. And such a person is really sure that all his failures are planned from above, that these are obstacles that cannot be overcome, and all that remains is to come to terms with it... Such people treat failures with calm, but are more concerned about success. A woman, if she is confident in her bad, difficult fate, should be happy that the new relationship is going well. But, at the same time, she is always waiting for the negative sides of her partner to appear or for it to be discovered that he is cheating on her. In other words, he is waiting for a trick from fate. And, as a rule, everything happens like this - this is explained by a psychological pattern, and then again experiences and again it’s to blame... fate.
This vicious circle needs to be broken, and to do this we need to understand where and when it all started. Where did a person “come from” all this confidence about a bad, difficult fate? It is also possible that there is some kind of history underlying this psychological state. But you should always remember: in such situations, fate must be changed, or rather, the attitude towards it must be changed. Just take it one time and start being friends with her, feel like you are with the most successful and happiest person. And for fate to be favorable, you need to thank it for everything good and only wait for good surprises. It's my fault...
If you take full responsibility, that’s good, whoever knows how. People who have an internal locus of control (beliefs about their lives) tend to be successful in all areas of life. If a person himself sees his role in all life situations, conflicts, failures, then this, of course, is a big burden. A person makes his own settings. First of all, he must always think carefully about everything, and thus either improve everything or ruin his life even more. And people who know how to take full responsibility for what is happening undoubtedly spend a lot of their strength and energy, and often it all turns out in vain. Sometimes a lot of effort, energy, and sometimes even health is spent on situations that are not worth a hatchling. But at the same time, such an internal habit can sometimes be very difficult to change. You still need to learn to look at any problem a little more broadly, and sometimes notice the positive aspects of life. After all, every situation is a combination of many factors. And in any conflict, at least two people are involved. And in fact, often things happen for no reason at all. It happens that in life this is how circumstances develop in a given situation.
Advice
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- in such situations, when one person still wants to find the culprit, it is necessary to share responsibility for actions with another.
The habit of blaming...
The feeling of one's own guilt always has a negative effect on a person. But, however, this does not mean that in such situations there is a need to blame others.
You should listen, for example, to such a constant feeling that parents are to blame for all a person’s problems - this is always associated with resentment, and this is one of the most dangerous emotions that can cause somatic illnesses and depression over time. The habit of constantly finding an enemy among one’s native environment is suppressed aggression. And this condition most often causes the digestive system (gastritis, colitis, intestinal and stomach ulcers). People who tend to say “it’s no one’s fault. It just happened that way,” are usually very alarming. After all, over time, they convince themselves that everything in the world happens chaotically and by itself. And it is impossible to give one answer to everything that is happening. You must always strive for flexibility in your views - approach each life situation individually.
Source: https://sterva24.com/psixologiya/
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It pushes you to make a decision
When a manipulator needs something from you, he will push you to make a decision at lightning speed. Because the less time you have, the less you will think about possible negative consequences. As a result, in order to get benefits, the manipulator will force you to say “Yes” within a minute. But in the end you will regret this decision. So don't give in to pressure and don't make decisions without thinking.
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What to do if you don’t look for someone to blame
Why didn't you do this yesterday? With these words we usually start discussing unpleasant situations with subordinates. At this moment, a person would get into a time machine, go back to yesterday, do everything right there - and back to us with the finished result. However, the time machine has not yet been invented, the past cannot be changed, which means that people begin to think that we are looking for someone to blame. To the question from the first paragraph, he begins to say that this is all because of colleagues from the neighboring department, because of the chaos with the processes, because of the vagueness of the task. “It’s not my fault,” he says, “it’s them.” A smart person will always have a lot of reasons why he didn’t do something. And at this moment it becomes doubly annoying: not only did you not do it yesterday, but you still can’t dig into it. The four principles of constructive communication, once proposed by Andy Grove, one of the founders of Intel, greatly help in solving problems with people.
Principle one: timeliness. It would seem that everyone understands that problems must be solved when they need to be solved. And when someone tells us: “I saw a month ago that everything here would fall apart,” I want to hit this observant person, because he violates the principle of timeliness. Therefore, instead of asking: “Why didn’t you do it yesterday?” - we say: “Okay, it’s not done and it’s not done, but now because of this we cannot move. How can we overcome this? And when the problem in the present is solved, we can move on: “How can we do this so that such problems do not arise again?” And here we can look into the past, trying to understand the reasons.
Principle two: targeting. Problems should be discussed with someone with whom they can be solved. Criticism of the management in the smoking room is not constructive if there is no management in the smoking room. Questions: “Why are you telling me this? What can we do about this? — good switches in design. Principle three: the presence of data and facts in the conversation. Imagine a conversation between different departments: “Some of our customers are unclear.” - “Come on, a normal guy.” - “Yes, I’m telling you, it’s difficult with him.” - “I don’t know, everything is fine with us.” There are not enough facts here. Ask the question: “Hazy client? How is this expressed? Getting to the facts is important for two reasons: they are hard to argue with, and they ensure that you have the same understanding of the situation.
Principle four: the intention to solve the problem, not to find someone to blame. There is no point in looking for those to blame - problems will not be solved. If a person says: “So it’s not me, it’s them,” you can always return him to the constructive: “Look, I’m not looking for the guilty, but I’m trying to resolve the situation.”
The author is the managing partner of the Stratoplan management school, Alexander Orlov.
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He's not interested in your problems
The manipulator does not care about other people's problems and feelings. It is useless to try to share your experiences with him. As soon as the manipulator understands that you want to speak out, he will immediately pretend that he is terribly busy or in a hurry. Well, or he will be able to masterfully turn the conversation in his direction. And so, instead of pouring out your soul to your partner, you are already listening to his problems and troubles.
SIGNS
There are the following typical signs of a loser: - he underestimates himself; for his mistakes he blames not himself, but circumstances and others;
- afraid of another failure;
- does not know how to value his time;
- does not know how and does not want to admit his shortcomings;
- cannot accurately determine the goal and understand what he wants to do; constantly demands self-respect;
- does not know how to communicate with people around him;
- believes that he understands everything perfectly and does not want to learn new things; criticizes others all the time;
- not attentive to other people and other people's problems;
- allows fear of failure to get the better of him.
A loser means falling and not getting up, it means breaking down, giving up, retreating, pretending to be weak, crushed by the evil circumstances of life. Often a loser is satisfied with his unhappy state, because he comes across compassionate people. Now someone can cry into their vest about their unhappy fate and low social status.
Emotional blackmail
When the manipulator realizes that all the rounds are lost and the situation is not in his favor, he resorts to blackmail. He may say some fatal phrase like: “If you leave, I will die!”
That is, he is trying to show that you will be responsible for everything that happens to your partner if this or that decision is made. But remember that this is just a demonstrative threat that most likely will not be carried out. In addition, everyone is responsible for their own life.
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The fact is that in Soviet times she worked at some factory and received a work-related leg injury. (I wouldn’t be surprised if the Soviet Union collapsed “thanks” to her curses.) From then on it all started: the doctors are all as if they were “stupid” - they can’t cure her, and they’re also dragging her along with a pill for old age ... There is hardly a plant left that she hasn’t rubbed into her leg or drunk its tincture - it’s not surprising that her stomach ulcer has worsened/developed, but!!! “It’s all the doctors’ fault!”
Misrepresentation of facts
To put himself in the most advantageous position, the manipulator will, without a twinge of conscience, distort and twist the facts of the past. For example, he will attribute words to you that you did not say. Or, on the contrary, it will refute the fact that you conveyed the necessary information to him. Some manipulators twist and distort facts so skillfully that you yourself begin to believe him. But you should always trust only your memory and insist that you are right.
Where does guilt come from?
The feeling of guilt is one of those artificially caused feelings in a person that works against him. We must admit that guilt has always been and is a means of manipulating a person. Where does this feeling come from, why do we feel guilty and what, according to common sense, we by definition cannot be guilty of. The answer, of course, comes from our subconscious, it is there that this feeling is carefully hammered into us from childhood, laying in us the foundations of morality and morality, which then haunt us all our lives. Of course, I understand that such qualities are needed for public interests, perhaps without them there would be no society, after all, only all these patterns allow some to exploit others. But just imagine what an advantage a person deprived of all these moral principles has over others, how beneficial it is to be indifferent to his neighbor, contrary to what religious teachings teach us? Of course, this gives a great advantage, it gives power that we actually don’t understand, and how can we understand how millions and billions can be controlled by a small handful of people.
From childhood, mental violence is committed against a person; a person can be said to be forcibly separated from his natural essence, giving him the role necessary for him to become a full member of society. The feeling of guilt arises precisely because of this discrepancy with these social standards, like a person should not be evil, he should be kind, and accordingly should feel guilty if he does not show kindness. What I am writing to you here is intended for every person, because as a person who understands the essence of things, who sees what and how is happening in our world, I consider it my duty to convey this to other people, so that they have a complete picture of everything that is happening, and an understanding of what who we really are. Thanks to this, I consider myself a strong person, because unlike those who keep people in subjection, I do not hide information, replacing it with another, propaganda, which shapes the personality in such a way that it meets the requirements of those in power. The feeling of guilt is just one of these requirements that is presented to each of us so that we constantly feel indebted.
And who exactly do we owe, and what can we even be guilty of, and most importantly, to whom? If we talk about people, then no one has ever pointed out to us that we owe something to someone, that we are to blame before another person for the fact that he is like this, and we are different, that we have, and he has No, according to some rules, should we even ask such questions? We owe it to God - this is what religion tells us, it’s a good reference to authority, you know, but who really knows what God needs, the Bible was written by people, but people cannot be trusted. In a word, everything is so banal that talking about it is the same as talking about the first-grade school curriculum, only not everyone has memorized this program and therefore are often victims of circumstances. As a person who mostly deals with specific facts, I nevertheless believe in God, but I don’t consider myself indebted to him, because I didn’t invent myself like this, and this world is not my work, I am responsible only for the result to myself yourself. And according to the instincts that are embedded in me, I am simply trying to do the main thing - to survive.
Everything else is my personal desire, I do what I want, I will regret it if I want, I will not, if I want I will take revenge, but I will forgive if I want, I don’t owe anyone anything, it all comes down to my choice. And at the same time, I feel guilty, as a product of the social society in which I was brought up, although of course I learned to keep my feelings under control. You understand, dear readers, what thought I am pushing you to, what your thinking should be in order to reflect your own interests, according not to anyone, but to your nature, to the way you were born. There are no rules and regulations other than those we set for ourselves, you will not be guilty of anyone if you do something that seems right to you. The only thing that can limit us in our actions, from a physical point of view, is the law that we invented for ourselves. If you don't have the ability to resist him. That society will punish you for not meeting general requirements.
But the law doesn’t say anything about the feeling of guilt; it sits only in our heads, forcing us to do things that we don’t need at all. You see a cripple, without an arm or a leg, and you feel sorry for him, you consider yourself guilty of something, but what, the fact that you have legs and arms? You tore off his arm or leg, what do you owe him, is it in the world you invented that he lost his limb? Moreover, even if it is your fault, if you personally tore off his hand and he became crippled and forced to eke out a miserable existence, even in this case, you do not owe him anything, because there is no measure of morality in this life according to which you can be killed. to blame something other than our own measure, which we determine for ourselves. If you like to feel guilty for everything, then of course in this case you can feel sorry for everyone, this is your choice, you cannot be condemned for this either. But remember, if this is your choice, then you are responsible for it. You and you alone bear full responsibility for the consequences of your choices.
And it can be quite large, because not always the good we do to someone is, firstly, appreciated by that someone, and secondly, it is generally good. Sometimes we only think that we are doing good, when in fact, our actions are negative. Also, you need to understand that many people react ambiguously to kindness addressed to them, often considering it a sign of weakness. Both of these things take place in our lives: someone takes advantage of our goodness, someone hates us for it, and to someone else, while seemingly doing good, we actually cause harm. So when making your choice regarding how to act in certain situations, keep these points in mind.
All our actions come from those laws of nature in which we live, and no matter how nature or God created us, everything that is in us, at their discretion, should be in us, and how we dispose of it is our choice , for which no one will judge us, except, again, ourselves. No matter what you do, only the law and other people can stop you, and you just have to make it count. But no feeling of guilt, pity and regret, no social concepts such as kindness and so on, no morality, correctness, etc., should control your desires and actions, limiting you, or encouraging you to do something that you don’t care about. This is my friends, our natural state, this is common sense and a sober outlook on life, but the choice, as always, is yours, because you are free in your choice, because you are human.
He doesn't want to solve problems
The manipulator does not want to solve common problems in the relationship. He wants to be in the comfort zone that he created for himself. As a result, you have to cope with all the difficulties alone. But it would be wrong to put the entire burden of responsibility on your shoulders. Always remind your manipulative partner that not only you should be interested in solving existing problems.
CAUSES
Lack of choice.
Oddly enough, most people do not directly make a choice about which path they will take in life. Everything is left to chance. How it goes. As a result, they are tossed through life like an autumn leaf in the wind. He goes to college because a friend advised him. I went to the section because they praised me. I got a job because it was close to home. The result is boring work, dreary life, sad family. I had a fight with my boss and changed jobs. I had a fight with my wife and changed my wife. I had a fight with my body and exchanged this light for that one. Why did you live? Unclear.
Waiting for a miracle.
Variation of the first error. Everything is the same, but at the same time there is hope for a miracle. Tomorrow everything will be completely different. Something will change in the life mechanism and a beautiful garden full of blooming roses will appear around. Just not today. But soon, very soon. Well, not very soon, but it will definitely happen. The idea that if you want a garden, you need to grow it, somehow doesn’t come to mind.
Hard work of a squirrel in a wheel.
In this case, a person is ready to work day and night, but he himself does not know what he wants. He works two jobs and takes overtime. He puts all his strength and health into the endless rat race. Hurry up, even sooner. There is no time to rest, no time to get sick. He fusses, fusses, burns all his energy, and who needs all this is unknown. I struggled until retirement, earned a lot of money, but no health, no loved one, no joy in life.
Searching for a successful loophole.
The dream is that you can pull off some successful scam and get everything at once: money, fame and half a horse in addition. As a result, a person constantly runs around in search of the next stunning idea, participates in all the “mega-promising” projects and expects that right now he will solve all his problems with one finger, which are becoming more and more every day.
Stubborn steadfastness.
The man chose that his path was punching holes in punch cards. And he achieved great skill in this. Few people can punch holes in punched cards so skillfully and quickly. But punch cards were outdated, and no one needed his talent. But no, he will prove it to everyone. He will work every other day as a night watchman, and in the remaining three days he will improve his ability to punch holes. All his walls are covered with punched cards with perfectly punched holes, and in his chest, especially valuable punched cards are set aside in strict order for inheritance. No one understands him and no one wants to understand, but he is offended by the whole world and believes that someday his skill will be useful.
I'm a small person.
In this case, a person assures himself that nothing depends on him personally, therefore, where he sits and what he does, this is all already determined and there is no way to change it. Therefore, all that remains is to sit quietly and humbly carry your cross to the grave.
Search for those to blame.
Oh, there's a lot to do here! Finding those to blame for the unfortunate trajectory of your life is not easy, but very simple. Parents did not inherit the genes of genius, and those that were accidentally passed on were mercilessly trampled on by the school conveyor belt.
Childhood was difficult, cakes were not given every day, but homework was given every day. In addition, the bad influence of the street completely confused the fragile soul and accustomed it to kin, wine and domino. To top it all off, all this happened in a country with an incorrect regime and inadequate rulers, who did not provide any assistance in education, but only put spokes in the wheels of a young, inquisitive mind.
And, perhaps, there was a chance to become one of the people, but it was stolen by the free masons - the Freemasons, who finally put an end to all the joys of life and all that remains is to drink and swear, drink and swear at those who again raised the price of vodka.
The list of those “blamed” for the troubles of one’s life often includes:
- parents. Because they were brought up wrong and their lives were distorted;
- sexual partner, former or current. The reasons for the accusation are different: restriction of freedom of action and movement to please a partner and to the detriment of oneself, causing mental and physical pain, etc.;
- society and social institutions.
There was no money
You can’t make a career with an expensive education and therefore, unlike a slacker with a rich dad, or your health in a low-paying job is undermined and doctors don’t treat you, but finish you off, etc.
Under the weight of guilt
Blaming others for your troubles gives relief and peace of mind, but... not for long. Soon after the “discharge” a feeling of powerlessness will appear, but why does it appear? Behind the desire to blame others there is always a deep psychological problem, suppressed feelings and emotions.
Vicious circle
It is more convenient and habitual for the psyche to look for someone to blame on the side, convincing itself that this is the only possible choice. A person can break out of a vicious circle, but does not want to, not understanding that he is in a “circle”.
Role Model
We are talking not only about relatives and friends, but also about the “stars” of show business. When your idol blames other people for his troubles and refuses to take responsibility, you inevitably adopt his behavior, considering it normal for him, and therefore for yourself. Naturally, this happens unconsciously.
Your own magnet
Feeling powerless and not in control of the situation, a person subconsciously reaches out to situations that strengthen his position of “eternal victim.” This phenomenon is called a “self-fulfilling prophecy”; many people who like to blame others for their troubles suffer from it. "I told you)! “- exclaims the “victim”. Of course, she said, she wanted and strived with all her soul to express the suppressed anger behind the desire to blame another person.
Who would solve my problems.
A very convenient position of removing full responsibility for everything that happens to oneself. “You know, I remember names and numbers so poorly that I don’t even remember how many husbands I had.” — I suffer from topographical cretinism, that I can never get to the toilet in my apartment the first time, there were so many embarrassments because of this. - Look for a job? What do you mean, I don’t know how to do anything, and then, what if I have to work all day? This is so strange. “You’re stressing me out, it would be better to get into my position, I’m a delicate person and I don’t like being burdened with all sorts of problems.” So what, these are my problems, well, you will solve them somehow.
All goats.
All failures in life are attributed to those people with whom a person comes into contact. That’s why you can’t make a career with a goat boss, goat subordinates don’t understand anything, you can’t cook porridge with goat friends, and it’s better not to have anything to do with goat women at all. Therefore, it is very difficult for such a spiritually advanced person to live. After all, how to live when you are enlightened, and there are goats all around?
Why do we judge ourselves?
I have often had to deal with people who felt a strong sense of guilt towards themselves, they condemned themselves, their lives, their actions, everything they touched and did. And to be honest, it looked terrible, people obsessed with the feeling of their own wrongness are extremely insecure, they are weak and vulnerable, it is very easy to make them dependent, and a person should not be like that. But what makes a person blame himself, why can we even experience a feeling of hatred towards ourselves, as if two different personalities are in conflict with each other - strong and weak? The whole point is in the cause of this very feeling of guilt, which comes from our upbringing and becomes part of our weak side, which naturally conflicts with the natural - strong side, the side that does not know pity, remorse and other manifestations of weakness, one might even say kindness. I say this because I have known people and studied their behavior who were not subjected to the public education system.
These are people who are unaware of the moral qualities that guide us when making decisions and evaluating our own actions. I don’t want to say that by nature we are given only anger, indifference to our neighbors, selfishness and the like, these are simply our defensive reactions, but our actions cannot be subject to any other assessment other than ours, so they make us obedient and submissive, imposing We have an artificial feeling of guilt, which can then have a very negative effect on our psyche. What beliefs sit in your head is how you actually evaluate yourself, this is a fact that I think no sane person can doubt. From this we can draw a completely logical conclusion, indicating that it is not the person who blames himself for not meeting generally accepted standards of behavior, but society, in the person of his weaker half, which this very society has managed to subjugate.
This may sound too selfish, but a person should not blame himself for doing something that he considered it necessary to do, and that one way or another was beneficial to him, we are not obliged to anyone to be responsible for others, even victims our own interests. That is why we are so actively re-educating overly ambitious people, equating them with social standards of acceptable behavior, not paying attention to the interests of the individual, which still live inside us, in the form of our strong part, given to us by nature. It turns out that our weak part, the one that society managed through education and indoctrination to conform to generally accepted norms of behavior, condemns us for this discrepancy, and the strong part hates us for this, because it contradicts our personal interests?
I cannot come to a different conclusion, although, of course, there are situations when people follow the lead of their weak side, as a result of which they very often do socially useful things, thereby trying to atone for a guilt that does not even exist as such. I repeat once again, we are not monsters by nature, but we are born to be responsible exclusively for ourselves and follow exclusively our interests. Only weak people, physically or mentally, can deny this, because they feel the need to tie themselves to some group that will correspond to their interests, since they themselves are not able to do this. It is weak people, with a depressed psyche, who most often experience feelings of guilt, and this is not surprising, because by admitting their own wrongs, they thereby demonstrate their openness to society, showing it that they are not going against it, they want to be with it.
You and I know that people, like animals, gather in packs only out of necessity, and although our society has an artificial need for self-organization, there are nevertheless a lot of individual citizens in it who are afraid of being outside society, and therefore outside his interests. This necessity forces them to pursue generally accepted rules and morals, to play by the rules, so to speak, so as not to be kicked out of the team, because without the team they are nothing. If the strong feelings in them are not completely killed and suppressed, then they somehow break out, and even if not in the manifestation of force, they manifest themselves in selfishness or parasitism, constantly conflicting with the imposed feeling of guilt.
I met people who, without a drop of regret, could kill any person, at least according to their words, including women, children, old people, they had no inhibitions that would cause them a feeling of doubt about the correctness of their actions, but these are the same people from a physiological point of view. But they were raised differently, they have no conflict with their inner beings, or rather, they do not have a weak side, but most of us have one and it makes us vulnerable to such predators. And the point is not that we should be prepared to kill any person, including those who are weaker than us and who do not pose any threat to us. No, we don’t need this, you and I are not savages. But we must be ready and able to confront those who are capable of this, who can harm us and our loved ones. We must be able to survive in an aggressive environment. And if we don’t know how to do this, no matter for what reasons, then something is wrong with us.
Man is born to survive at any cost, and he can only blame himself for his inability to do this, because this is inherent in him by nature itself. For everything else, he is blamed only by society in the person of others like him, who have their own interests, about which we should not care, we simply live as we consider it necessary to live, in order to survive and if we have this it turns out - it’s good, if you don’t accept this concept, it’s your choice, you can blame yourself as much as you like and for anything, but you’re not guilty of anything or anyone.
