Every girl in her life has had such situations when she was anxiously awaiting the next call from her loved one, even a short message, but he still didn’t come. Women are confused and do not understand what is happening. What to do if a man doesn’t call or write, and what this could mean.
Before you make a drastic decision to break up or get offended by a man because of his silence, think about why the young man disappeared from the network. Let's look at the 8 most common reasons for the lack of messages and calls from guys.
Busy
Active men cannot stand still; they strive to develop financially, intellectually, and be the center of attention of friends and family. This type of guy attracts women more often, but getting their full attention is very difficult. A girl should strive for her lover, run his marathon with him in the same rhythm.
Many ladies perceive being busy at work or at university as a childish excuse, but this is wrong. Men by nature are focused on social activity; they need time free from relationships to solve their problems.
In this case, the duration of the disappearance matters. If a man doesn’t call for 1-2 days, relax and wait for him to appear. If a guy doesn't think about you for a week, think about whether you really have love.
What to do
Resentment over temporary disappearance from the network, hysterics are inappropriate. You need to learn to wait, but also not to forget to unobtrusively remind yourself.
Use the following tips:
- Don’t torment yourself with thoughts: “Why doesn’t he call me or write to me?” Ask about the reasons for the silence later, when the man is free to communicate with you.
- Mind your own business: go to a meeting with friends, re-read books that have been waiting on the shelf for a long time, do some general cleaning of the house.
- After a couple of days, unobtrusively remind yourself. Write a greeting in SMS or messenger, ask how things are going, offer help in solving problems.
- If a man responded with a short message, promising to find time to communicate as soon as possible, write that you miss him and say goodbye affectionately. Complete the correspondence here.
On a note! Maintaining a relationship with a workaholic is difficult. Perhaps you will be provided with everything financially, but you will receive negligible affection, love, and attention. If this type of man does not suit you, it is better to immediately abandon the relationship and reclassify the guy as an ex.
Who's holding the steering wheel?
Do you feel that you are bored and already want to hear the voice of your loved one? Call yourself.
You are as much a partner in this relationship as your man. You are as responsible for the relationship as your partner and have the same power in it as your partner.
Get to work - you have your own life
Sitting with your phone in your arms, you give up your part of responsibility, delegating it to another person. You don't allow yourself to do what you want. The result is dissatisfaction with the relationship, irritation with the man, apathy and powerlessness.
This happens even if before meeting a man you were strong and confident. The tender care of another person for us takes us back to childhood, which is captivating and sweet. But this oasis is just a mirage. Get out of the hole of passivity and childish expectation that someone adult will come and save you from all your troubles. This adult is yourself.
Something happened
The guy stopped writing and calling for objective reasons: he got sick, suddenly went on a business trip where there was no connection with the outside world, he lost his phone number. Unfortunately, not every man is attentive enough to think about a girl’s feelings. Especially if you have only recently met.
What to do
- Don't act like a little girl: don't fantasize about horrors and tragedies. Your man will soon show up on his own; you shouldn’t write first in such a situation.
- Wait for the message. When a guy calls or writes, try not to argue or quarrel.
- Ask about the reason for the absence. If a man refuses to answer, do not insist. He has the right to keep a secret.
Calling a girl before a sudden trip or business trip is a good sign to check the relationship between lovers. If a guy finds a couple of minutes to talk, it means he really cares about you.
The reasons for his silence after the date: the psychology of relationships
If he stopped calling and writing, what could this mean and how should he behave? He may remain silent for several days or a week for several reasons. Sometimes it’s difficult to figure out why your man is silent.
If you didn’t wait for the call after your first date, if the one with whom you have been together for several years forgets about your existence, if the silence lasts two days, a week or much more - in order to understand how to behave, you need to consider each case separately. The reasons for this may be different, and the advice on how a woman should behave will also be different.
Let's look at the main reasons why a guy stopped calling, and what a woman should do about it:
- Silence after the first date. After a wonderful evening, you feel wings behind your back, you return home, full of happiness and plans for the future, but there is no call or message from a man either that day or the next. Most likely, a man will not call on purpose, since he needs a pause to understand and deal with his feelings. Psychologists believe that guys are often afraid of their own feelings. Men need time to decide on a relationship. This statement is only suitable if the silence lasts a couple of days. If it lasts for several weeks, it’s hardly worth waiting for the man to return to your life.
- Too many feelings. The result of the first date can be sad - the gentleman may be afraid of an excess of emotions on the part of the woman. It is difficult for men to express all their feelings at the first meeting, especially if they are just emerging. If throughout the entire romantic meeting a girl clearly expresses her love, dreams of what dress she will wear when she gets married, what she will name the children she shares with him, where to spend a joint vacation, the young man will prefer to stay away from such a decisive lady.
- Not everything is so fabulous. Women are great at simulating pleasure in bed, and men know how to look interested and enthusiastic. If your last date turned out to be wonderful, fun, and memorable, it’s not a fact that the man thinks the same about your meeting. Maybe he was just pretending that he was interested in your stories about figure skating or the recently watched romance series. Remember exactly how your date went. Was it only you who spoke or did your chosen one sincerely maintain the conversation? What if you're the only one who's interested?
Recent quarrel. If you and a man had a serious fight, it is not surprising that he does not call or send messages. Usually, after a quarrel, men present themselves as victims, expecting that the woman will be the first to make contact. Many guys have an extremely negative attitude towards attacks from their partner, especially if they consider the cause of the scandal to be insignificant. It’s easier for men to lie low and wait for the girl to calm down. Loud showdowns are something that men cannot stand. If you are a fan of throwing tantrums out of the blue, remember that one day your partner will disappear forever.- He doesn't like phone calls. Some men don't like calling or texting. They prefer to communicate in person. Only a special need forces them to pick up a gadget. If you are planning a relationship with such a man, accept that his love is not expressed in missed calls or received messages.
- Busy. Very often the phrase “was busy” is used as a standard excuse, but if you have fallen for a careerist, a responsible employee, do not be surprised that you have to wait a long time for news from him. His silence may be explained by unexpected difficulties, a lucrative contract, or important negotiations. In this case, remember that the chosen one threw himself into work, pushing other areas of life into the background.
- Financial difficulties. Some modern girls have great demands in material terms. They are not attracted to walks in the park or reading poetry under the moon. They prefer to meet at the cinema, cafe, bowling alley, etc. Of course, this is very expensive for the gentleman, since a real man considers it his duty to pay for entertainment. If you've only recently met, it's probably hard for a guy to admit to you that he's having money problems and can't afford to take you on a date to a place where you have to pay.
- An ordinary womanizer. Unfortunately, this happens quite often. If you are faced with a womanizer, you can give only one piece of advice - to be more careful when meeting the opposite sex. He achieved his goal, you succumbed to his charm. With this his mission is over, he calmly goes in search of his next fan. It is unlikely that you will see or hear him again - second dates with womanizers are impossible. Don't waste time waiting for a call after spending the night with him. Having fed you fairy tales about his successful and cool business, seducing you with walks on a yacht, riding in an expensive car (probably for rent), he forgot about you with a light heart, having received what he wanted. There is no point in him spending any more money on you.
- Married gentleman. Having a legal spouse or permanent girlfriend is another common reason why you can’t wait for a call/message. Being in a long-term serious relationship, a man loses his hunter's instinct, he needs recharge. Flirting with an attractive stranger at a corporate party is not a reason to continue communicating with her further.
- Lack of reciprocity. This option is suitable for a situation if you have just met. If after the first date a man does not call back, it means he realized that you are not suitable for him. Don’t take it too seriously, don’t consider yourself ugly, stupid, or uninteresting. Probably, the guy considered himself inappropriate for you, it seemed to him that your demands on men were somewhat too high, or that you simply had different interests and goals in life.
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Not interested
The man is not too fascinated by his new acquaintance. He does not want to fool her and continue communication out of politeness. An experienced woman will notice a lack of interest a couple of days after online communication or on the first date by the following signs:
- The guy answers questions in monosyllables, reluctantly.
- Doesn't invite you on a date, doesn't ask for your phone number.
- If the date has taken place, then the man does not agree on the next meeting, he is clearly bored.
- Does not ask questions, does not take the initiative to continue communication.
- Constantly talks about his ex. Probably, feelings for her have not cooled down yet.
A man's disinterest in a woman does not call into question her beauty and intelligence. You might not agree on interests, tastes, or temperaments. There is nothing to be upset or cry about here.
What to do
You just need to come to terms with the fact that a man is not fascinated by you. You shouldn't be actively interested in yourself; you shouldn't impose yourself. Start looking for another guy.
To cope with this unpleasant situation, use the advice of psychologists:
- Let go of false hopes. Don't think about how to please this person. Never expect a call or SMS from him, try to forget your new acquaintance.
- Start your day on a positive note. Tune in for the best, don’t let sad thoughts enter your soul.
- Remove his number from your phone, his account from your list of friends in instant messengers, VK.
- Make a tight schedule of classes for a couple of weeks: go to visit, go to the gym for training.
- Actively meet new guys, but don't make long-term plans for a relationship.
Tired of waiting, girls often use fortune telling to find the reason for male silence. Coffee, cards, witches, horoscopes. Whether you will receive a truthful answer to all questions is unknown. But magical rituals will definitely distract you from sad thoughts, at least for a short time.
Why doesn't he call? How to tell if a man likes you?
For some reason, these two questions: “Why doesn’t he call? and How can you tell if a man likes you?” quite often follow one another in your letters. In the first part of the article (read HERE
) I talked mainly about the first stage of a relationship, when the man and woman had not even really met.
Then the relationship somehow develops and the girls are also interested in whether men continue to like them or whether the relationship has reached a dead end?
I wanted to write a whole article about this, but I don’t even understand what to write. The answer to the question “Why doesn’t he call” and the Axiom of life is that: If a man (guy) doesn’t call, then he doesn’t like you enough or he got what he wanted (sex) and doesn’t need anything else.
Of course, this axiom implies that a man does not disturb your peace in other possible ways. That is, he doesn’t meet every day, doesn’t write emails, etc., and he’s not just allergic to telephone conversations.
A fairly common situation is when a man and a woman get acquainted, then the man picks up the phone and never calls back. Or even the first date goes by, and then he stops calling.
The only reason he doesn't call is because he doesn't like you enough. In this case, it doesn’t matter what words the man said to you. Maybe he said that he fell in love with you at first sight, that he couldn’t live without you, or something else like that. As I already wrote in the first part of the book “How to make a man fall in love with you for life? Or Never run after a man, let him run after you"
, you don’t need to pay special attention to a man’s words, you only need to pay attention to his actions.
“I love” are just words, and some men may say them to different women almost several times every week. (It may be the other way around, of course, saying “I love you” is a feat for your man, then it is clear that this is a different matter).
But calling you is an act, even a very small one, but an act. It is on the basis of actions that you need to evaluate a man .
If a man often calls himself, for example, when the date is over, and he called and found out how you got there, or calls despite being busy and tired, then this is one of the signs that he likes you.
If he doesn’t call himself (he calls very rarely), but only comes up with excuses that he lost his phone, the battery ran out, he was very busy, etc., then he doesn’t really like you. The maximum is that he needs you for periodic sex, without any obligations or feelings on his part. You need to understand this, accept it if possible and, of course, look for another man. It is most likely impossible to change the situation.
Still, I’ll mention a couple of exceptions.
The first is the delay in the man’s first call. Men take a little longer to develop the emotions of falling in love than women. Therefore, the first call from a man may be with a slightly larger gap than it should be, in the woman’s opinion. However, a little more does not mean that it is two weeks or a month. A little more - this is not the next day, but perhaps every other day or 2-4 days. Therefore, it’s too early to ask yourself the question “Why doesn’t he call” on the first day after a man took your phone.
Secondly , if you already have a relationship and last a couple of months, then the man may stop calling because he is offended by the woman. Men and women are very different and it happens that out of ignorance they offend each other. And such a situation can also happen. A man can hide the true cause of resentment like a partisan. I will not describe this situation in detail in this article. However, if you have already had some kind of relationship with a man that lasted a couple of months, then the answer to the question may not be that he does not like you. But on first dates, men are not offended.
So, let's summarize. If a man doesn’t call after meeting her or the first date, then he doesn’t like the woman enough. (Not necessarily, of course, not calling. We are talking about any form of manifestation that a man does not want to communicate with a woman. That is, he does not call, does not answer emails, does not call back, does not make dates, he is always not there for you, etc. .d.) I described the exceptions.
Should I call myself in this case? The conclusion is obvious - there is no need to do this . If a man systematically avoids communicating with you in one form or another, then there is a 98% chance that he doesn’t like you and a 2% chance that he likes you, but he still doesn’t want to communicate with you. (For example, he has difficulties at work and does not have permanent housing, he is going to become a monk and 53 other stupid reasons).
Then the next question is, how do you understand that a man likes a woman?
I'll start with a repetition. If a man calls you on his own initiative and often enough, then most likely he likes you .
If this is your regular man, or a man who is caring for you, then this is great. Most likely, the relationship is developing well. If there are temporarily no such men, then you can analyze all the men who periodically call you with or without reason, and not just those who are clearly courting you. It doesn’t matter if they say something romantic. Even think about colleagues who call you on business, perhaps a little more often than is really necessary for business.
Among these “callers” there may well be men who like you. That is, reformulate the question from “Why doesn’t he call” to the question “Why does he call.” For more information on how to understand that a guy or man likes you, see my video course “How to understand that he likes you .
The second sign when a man likes a woman is that the man is jealous.
For some reason, men’s jealousy in articles on psychology is often classified as a negative quality. But on the other hand, this is understandable. Psychology, whatever you say, is still more focused on people with very big problems or just problems and finding ways to make life easier for these people, or trying to remove them. Therefore, jealousy is often associated with people in whom it is overly developed and causes a lot of inconvenience both to the man himself and, naturally, to his woman.
If we are talking about normal men (without psychological and especially psychiatric abnormalities), and not local Othellos, then a degree of jealousy when a man likes a woman is quite natural and is an indicator that a man likes a woman. Therefore, the saying: “He’s jealous, that means he likes me” has justification if, as I already said, you cut off men with severe psychiatric and psychological problems.
Jealousy is often compared to a sense of ownership (this is not the same thing, but there are partial similarities), then in general a non-jealous man can be compared to a person who does not care about his property, from whom everything falls apart and everything is stolen.
A slightly jealous man can be compared to a person who shows interest in his property, takes care of it, and protects it from others.
A pathologically jealous person can be compared to a person who has money, but he walks around in 20-year-old cast-offs, constantly thinks that someone wants to steal his money and does not give it back even when it needs to be given back. (Hunger, obviously urgent medical care, etc.).
Therefore, both absolute lack of jealousy and pathological jealousy are deviations. Read about other deviations, including manipulators, psychopaths, etc., in the book “23 Mistakes with Men. Mistakes on first dates .
How can normal jealousy manifest itself?
The first is that the man is somehow trying to shift the conversation from your admiring discussion of another man (naturally, who is superior to him in some way) to his successes or other topics.
The second is an attempt to find some shortcomings in a man whom his woman admires.
Third , he tries to remove “male friends” from a woman’s life in some way. That is, do not invite people to visit, change the schedule or route, be rude, etc.
If his woman stops admiring another man, or the man who is caring for his woman disappears, male “friends” leave, then jealousy goes away. (In contrast to the pathological one, which never goes anywhere, regardless of time and circumstances).
In summary, a little jealousy of a man towards a woman is an indicator that the man likes the woman and that the relationship is developing in the right direction.
Third sign. Flexibility in relation to women .
As I wrote above, the main attention in relationships with men should be paid to the actions of the man. And, in fact, this entire article is an attempt to give you the key to deciphering these actions and understanding them correctly. One of the actions a man often takes for a woman is changing himself and his habits.
If a woman is important to a man, then the man is ready to change something in himself and his life, even if it is not very easy for him. If a woman is not very important for a man, then the man is not ready to change anything, but demands changes from the woman, or he is indifferent to everything.
Not everything is so obvious, of course. Much depends on the character of the man. After all, for some, even small changes are very painful, and some easily adapt to other circumstances.
In summary, a close relationship with a woman is always a necessity for changes in a man’s life. Are such changes happening? Do they happen voluntarily or under your strong pressure? If they happen voluntarily or just because of the usual explanation, then this is a good sign that your relationship with a man is developing normally.
What changes might there be?
— A man begins to communicate less often with his friends.
— A man changes his appearance to the one you like best.
— He’s getting stronger, mastering some skill that you obviously like.
- A man finds time for you, even when he is clearly busy or overloaded. (This does not mean, of course, that you need to deliberately provoke such situations. They will definitely happen without any effort on your part. Just watch).
- A man tolerates communication with your relatives and girlfriends whom he does not like, and behaves quite decently.
— The man began to engage in his hobbies and passions less often.
— The man began to cook for you, although this had not been noticed before.
— The man began to compliment you more often, which was not the case before. (And not the other way around, a lot of compliments when meeting, and then less).
— The man began to give flowers or something else that was clearly unusual for him before.
— The man is always happy to see you and smiles when you meet, although this might not have happened before.
Of course, this is not an exhaustive list of possible changes. And it is not necessary that all changes be present. However, if a man periodically adapts and changes for you, while spending his time, making efforts and spending some money (not necessarily), then this is a good indicator that your relationship is developing in the right direction.
As usual, a word of caution. Some changes are almost impossible for a certain person. These could be bad habits (smoking), or some mental characteristics (for example, the character type is melancholic). A man sometimes cannot change them, even if he wants to, and not just for your sake.
Fourth sign. The man moves the relationship .
Another sign that a relationship is developing in the right direction is that the man is moving the relationship forward. Of course, he may not move them exactly the way the woman wants (romance, marriage, etc.), but this is no longer so important.
What do I mean by this? If he calls, then this is not only empty talk, but also the fact that he is stipulating the next meeting. (The question of why he doesn’t call doesn’t exactly arise in your mind).
If you used to meet once a week, now he tries to have you meet twice a week.
If you haven’t stayed overnight with him (or he with you), he makes sure that you stay the night, then maybe for the weekend, and then maybe move.
His things appear in your apartment and do not disappear anywhere, or vice versa, he leaves your things in his apartment.
And as you already understand, these actions should not occur at all, but on the initiative of a man. This is what is meant by the expression “the man moves the relationship.” If a woman negotiates the next meeting, if she persuades a man to stay, etc., then this is not a sign.
Again, I'm not saying that a woman can't do this. If a man constantly calls himself, invites you on a date, persuades you to stay with him more often, then if a woman sometimes offers something similar, this is very good for the relationship. The man will not have the feeling that only he needs your relationship.
If a man pursues a relationship for a long time, then this, of course, is not only a sign that he likes the woman, but also that the woman herself is building it more or less correctly. After all, a man will not move anything for a long time if a woman consciously or subconsciously blocks the man’s first attempts to deepen the relationship.
In this article, I talked about how to understand that a man likes or dislikes a woman more, taking into account the fact that they already know each other minimally and communicate. For relationships that have not yet begun, as I already wrote, it is better to read the article here.
If there are signs, and not just one, but several, and are highly developed, then everything is fine. You are doing something right and keep it up. If there are no signs, or those that exist are weak and few, then think about your relationship. Maybe you need to change something in yourself, or maybe find another partner.
I also recommend reading the article “Which women repel men and which ones attract them”?
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Withstands pauses
The guy doesn’t call or write to create intrigue, “marinate” the girl or think about whether he needs a relationship with this lady. A man does not behave this way to make a girl angry. He is guided by other considerations: he wants to get bored himself and intensify passions.
What to do
Psychologists advise doing this with a manipulative guy:
- Answer calls and letters after a long break in communication with restraint.
- There is no need to ask where he went, no matter how much you might want to. Pretend as if you didn’t notice his absence from the network at all.
- In a couple of days, disappear the same way, teach your loved one a lesson. You should not ignore a guy’s messages for more than 1-2 days, otherwise he may seriously think that you have broken up.
No money
A young man may not write or call after a couple of real meetings if he is having financial difficulties. Not every guy can walk with a girl through the streets of the city without a penny in his pocket and keep her interested, so many prefer to disappear for a while without explaining the reason.
What to do
If you understand exactly what the reason is for being ignored, we advise you to do this:
- Call the guy first.
- Strike up a casual conversation. Tell him you want to refund him half of the dinner he paid for at the last meeting. The guy will most likely refuse, then take the initiative into your own hands.
- Ask a man out on a date, but agree that today you pay.
- In the evening, gently bring up the topic of money. Say that restaurants and gifts are not important to you. Hint that there is nothing more valuable than his loving glance, hugs, and pleasant words.
How to behave if he only answers your calls?
It happens that you can’t wait for initiative from a guy, but he always makes contact if a girl calls or writes herself. This behavior is explained by no fewer reasons than silence.
- Fear of rejection. Inexperienced and shy young people are usually afraid of rejection. The guy is just confused, doesn’t know what to talk about. Perhaps he has the desire to dial your number, but as soon as the phone is in his hands, the gentleman panics. His head is occupied with anxious thoughts: what to say, how to behave if the girl is busy, what if she doesn’t agree to talk, much less meet... If you suspect that your chosen one is one of these, take the initiative into your own hands. Show him that his fears are in vain, that you are no less interested in him than you are to him.
- Afraid of offending. If your gentleman is in no hurry to call himself for a month, but does not leave your calls and messages unanswered, think about whether he is interested in a relationship with you? Unambiguous answers, lack of counter questions, coldness, detachment - this behavior clearly shows that the guy wants to communicate, but cannot find the words to refuse.
- Manipulation. In cases where a woman refuses to have sex with a man for a long time, he may resort to manipulation by choosing the option of ignoring. An abrupt cessation of communication on his part is a way to demonstrate that he is offended. He needs your emotions so that you understand that you will lose him completely if you continue to refuse intimacy.
He's offended. Most likely, you offended the man in some way, or he thought that you were not interested in him. Most women don’t even realize that men are also vulnerable and touchy. They are easily offended by a careless word, an inappropriate laugh, or a comment. If this is your case, then out of pride the gentleman will not call first. There is only one way out - talk to him frankly to find out what he was offended by.- Waiting for the right moment. Few men like empty conversations on the phone. They usually call to share important news, arrange a meeting, etc. Of course, if your relationship began a long time ago, your chosen one will call to inquire about matters. But if the acquaintance took place recently, it is most likely that the man is silent, waiting for him to have more free time and does not want to disturb without reason.
- Illness, trouble. Men hide their weaknesses. He got sick, had troubles with his relatives, at work, etc. - It is unlikely that he will rush to tell you about it. A gentleman will appear on your horizon when all problems are resolved. Before that, he will be entirely occupied with resolving the difficulties that have arisen, without even thinking about calls or messages.
- Low interest. Sometimes representatives of the stronger sex keep girls around them who are not too interested in them as a backup option. Until true love appears in his life, in moments of special boredom he will communicate with you. The gentleman will not call you unless absolutely necessary, but he will respond to your first step so as not to miss out.
Three rules for an interesting conversation, as well as what you can talk about with a guy you don’t know well and like
Offended
This option is possible even after a first date or online communication. It’s easy to offend a man’s ego if we touch on the following topics:
- A man will not forgive anyone for ridiculing tears, vulnerability, or fears.
- Comparisons with other guys, exes (not in favor of the interlocutor).
- Discussion of his shortcomings in a bantering, harsh manner.
- Showing dissatisfaction after intimacy, ambiguous jokes.
- Stories about what your girlfriends think about him. Of course, all women discuss boyfriends and husbands with their friends, but it is not necessary to tell a man about this.
- Demonstration of intellectual, physical superiority on the part of a woman. This is a powerful blow to a man’s pride; he wants to be the first in everything.
Another one appeared
This is the most tragic answer to the question: “Why doesn’t the guy write or call?” While the young lady doesn’t let go of her phone and constantly checks social networks for new messages, the man is texting or meeting a new acquaintance.
What to do
If the chosen one has another woman, nothing needs to be done. Why do you need a man who quickly switches his attention from one female person to another. The appearance of another girl suggests that the guy did not love you with all his soul. Why hold him back and worry? Move on, look for real love, not fiction.
If a girl has a long-term relationship with a guy, then she will not be afraid to call first
She will tell him that she is very concerned about his absence, asking directly why he does not come and does not call her. If she can’t get through to him, she can send him an SMS message with all these questions. But the guy should not write any of his conjectures, as he may be offended. Sometimes girls write: “Have you found someone else? Male! Not every guy will call back and make excuses; he would rather harbor a grudge. But guys still like calm and balanced girls, not hysterics.
He is married
An unexpected meeting or online acquaintance with a married man is not uncommon. And girls are not always aware of the marital status of a new acquaintance.
Dizzying sex, kisses, passionate SMS drove the guy crazy, and he forgot, on purpose or by accident, to tell him that he was married. After a few dates or chatting online, he disappeared, and thank God.
Married men stop calling or writing for several reasons:
- Communication was interrupted by the legal spouse. Now the phone and accounts on WhatsApp and VK are under strict control. The man will definitely not get in touch for a long time.
- The guy realized that he was making a mistake. He is ashamed in front of his wife and children. He is not obliged to explain anything to his new acquaintance.
- A married man was drunk, he felt lonely, or he had a huge quarrel with his wife. The guy made a new acquaintance by chance; in the morning, when he was sober, he decided “not to misbehave” anymore.
What to do
Close communication with a married man is unacceptable for a decent girl. You need to tune in to the breakup and ignore messages that may arrive after a long time.
So, now you know what to do if a guy doesn’t write and why this happens. Remember that men are built differently. They can disappear for several days without good reason and not feel guilty for remaining silent. And women at this moment find no place to worry and worry. Therefore, the first thing you need to do is calm down and wait 2-3 days, and not call 10 times a day to get an explanation.
It's all about you
Surely, it’s hard to imagine, but the reason may be not only the guy, but also you. Perhaps you are simply not interesting to communicate with or you cannot support many topics of conversation. This does not mean that you are not smart enough or not educated; it also happens that people do not have the same interests and there is nothing to talk about. Don’t beat yourself up too much, it’s better to think about it: maybe you’re just not on the same page with this guy?
And in this article you will find out what you can ask a man by correspondence.
You text him too often
If a man has a very busy work schedule, and literally every 10 minutes he receives messages on his phone and distracts him, he begins to get irritated. A person simply does not have the time or opportunity to answer. In this case, it is important to moderate your ardor, slow down and just wait until the guy has time and he gets in touch with you on his own.
You scare him away with your pressure
This reason is somewhat similar to the one described above. Almost no man likes it when a woman shows excessive initiative. There is a category of girls that cannot wait until a guy begins to show himself somehow and they try in every way to fill a man’s life. Guys, in turn, value their freedom and simply avoid such women. Don’t think that the more you show your initiative, the more he starts to like you. The situation will turn out exactly the opposite.
What to do if a guy doesn't write
You shouldn’t start sorting things out and making complaints about the fact that the guy doesn’t write to you. You cannot clearly express your concern about this. Stay calm. Try to switch to other things and not focus on the problem. After all, in addition to talking on the phone, there is also real life - work, study, family.
Men do not tolerate hysterical people. You can make it clear that you are concerned about the guy’s disappearance, but you need to do it unobtrusively. At the same time, you shouldn’t sit near the phone day or night waiting for it to call. It's better to try to intrigue the guy. When you receive the long-awaited SMS, simply do not respond for a long time, and show coldness in the text of the message. Male opinion
