Monosyllabic answers
“Good”, “great”, “cool”, “yes”, “no” are the answers that people often receive during correspondence. A person can answer in monosyllables due to a banal lack of time. It is possible that he is currently busy with some important matter.
Does your guy constantly respond with monosyllabic answers to your messages? This indicates his lack of interest in you. If he had feelings for you, he would find time to communicate.
"Why do you need me?". Answer options
In total, there are 3 possible answers to this question:
- Monologue with a description of all properties and the outcome. This option takes the longest, but the effect obtained from it will be amazing. Use the plan you made earlier. It will help highlight all the best qualities of a person. For example: “I need you because you are cheerful, kind, will never betray and will definitely help. Your love for life inspires me to love it as well, and eternal optimism does not allow me to be even a little sad... I need you like no one else.”
- Monologue with a description of some properties and a summary. It is shorter, but just as effective. Highlight the most pleasant and necessary properties in a person in your opinion, composing the following answer based on them: “Why do you need me?” — how to answer such a seemingly simple question? I believe that I need time spent together. You are very dear to me! I hope you need me the same way.”
- Monologue with a conclusion from the analysis. A very simple way to answer, which should first of all have an impact on you - when drawing up a plan highlighting the best qualities of a person, the thought might come to mind that there is nothing special to say about a friend... An answer of this type is perfect: “I need you simply because , what is. I won’t even bother about why I love you! You are my friend, and I happily continue to be yours.”
If a friend asked such a question, then you can always answer like this: “I just need you. I love you and am friends simply for your existence, and not for some traits of appearance and character! You are who you are and I’m glad I get to share my days with you.” Be sure to give your loved one a hug and continue to grow your friendship.
Morning and night messages
You receive messages from a guy late at night or early in the morning. At the beginning of a relationship, this may seem romantic. You think it's because he's constantly thinking about you.
However, if he never texts you during the day, this could be considered a red flag. There is a possibility that he is keeping your communication a secret. This hardly indicates the seriousness of his intentions.
He doesn't answer for a long time
A guy who is truly interested in a relationship with a girl will not disappear from sight for long. If you have to wait several days or even weeks for a response to your messages, then your relationship is unlikely to have a future.
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It is possible that the guy remembers you only when he has no more interesting things to do. He is completely satisfied with the easy connection.
To prevent a man from evaporating, do not ask these questions
The best way to get to know a man is to ask him questions and look at the answers. But this rule does not always work as expected.
Some questions can not only confuse a potential suitor, but also frighten and even offend his “subtle nature.”
What questions asked of men by women should be kept to themselves? Let's find out.
What do you like in me?
This question will confuse any guy. Men love with their eyes, and therefore immediately think about your most seductive parts of the body.
If you want to hear compliments about your rich inner world, your care and neatness, asking directly what he likes is not the best wording of the question.
Will you give me your salary when we get married?
A question with a double bottom. First of all, have you already decided that you are going to get married? If yes, then don’t rush things; if not, then such hints can scare you away.
Secondly, such questions are asked to a man either in the most innocent way, or with light hints: “Will we have a common budget in the family?”, “How are you going to manage your finances after the wedding?” etc.
If I have an accident and become disabled, will you stay with me?
The terrible question is, why even imagine that something like this could happen? But let’s assume that the question was spoken out loud. What answer are you expecting to hear? In fact, the man has no choice but to say “yes.”
What would you do if I cheated on you?
The same as with the previous question - it’s better not to imagine betrayal at all and not to let it into your life in any way.
Would you like to go back in time so that we could be together since childhood?
This is definitely not the best question for a man. In his life before you, there was a lot of interesting experience that you wouldn’t want to lose. Love is a wonderful phenomenon, but only when it does not interfere with other areas of life.
Will you look for someone else if I die?
There is nothing wrong if a widower does not spend his whole life in despondency and finds a person who will bring joy to his everyday life. But such questions will not lead to anything good for either the guy or the girl.
The woman herself will be offended by the thoughts of how her beloved man will have fun with another. And the man will be subjected to bad thoughts about the death of a loved one and, roughly speaking, betrayal on the other. It is unlikely that such questions to a loved one will be at least a little useful to anyone.
If your ex wants you back, will you leave me?
Some men have painfully experienced a breakup with their ex-partner, some still have resentment, anger, and maybe even a little bit of old feelings.
Even if a man answers “no,” the excitement of such a question can raise many questions and suspicions, which is unlikely to help make the relationship more harmonious and open.
If a party with friends and a romantic evening with me happen on the same day, who will you choose?
Men hate having to choose between a woman and their friends. This is one of the features of male friendship that you can be proud of.
If your lover truly values and loves his buddies, he may hesitate to answer. Naturally, because of the hesitation, you will feel neglect on his part. The question is, why did you even start all this?
What crazy thing would you do to prove that you love me?
As the most logical creature, a man will try to answer truthfully so that you do not catch him in a lie. But as much as men are logical, they are also vain - he will definitely want to impress you with tales about the Moon and a star from the sky.
Just what will happen next? Will you say “yes, wow” and that’s it? Or ask him to prove it? If you want to stroke your pride, don’t force a man to be a victim in your performance.
How much do you love me?
What questions can you ask a man? Those that he can answer. But how to measure love? If your chosen one is inventive, he will begin to compare his love with various large and impressive objects. But even the inventive ones sooner or later run out of imagination.
Do not overuse such questions, otherwise you risk hearing something that is not at all what you wanted.
Am I better than your ex?
This question is usually asked by insecure girls who can’t stop comparing themselves to their man’s ex-love. And this is clear not only to psychologists, but also to everyone around.
If you have advantages over your ex-girlfriend, then there are also disadvantages that it is better for a man not to think about or remember. Don't look back and don't delve into stories about your ex-partners. Talk about yourself and your future.
Who would you choose - me or your mom?
It's one thing when you give a man a choice between the woman he loves and his friends, but asking him to prioritize between you and his family? This is a sure step towards separation, especially if such questions come up in a conversation with his relatives.
No one likes or admires women who ruin men's relationships with their mothers.
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Texts only
These days, many relationships begin with texting. However, a guy who is really interested in you will soon move from texting to calling. He will want to hear your voice and will try to establish a deeper connection with you.
A guy has been texting you for a long time, but doesn’t call or ask you out on a date? Don't count on this ever happening.
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He texts when he wants to meet
Does a guy need correspondence just to invite you on a date? Doesn't he just text you, doesn't respond to your texts, or does he limit himself to monosyllabic answers?
You might think that this person prefers real communication. However, rare couples who do not live together manage to see each other every day. If a guy doesn’t write or call during breaks between meetings, this means that he doesn’t get joy from talking to you and doesn’t miss you.
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I received another question from you: Why does a man avoid the questions I ask him?
Well, let's figure it out.
1. The issue of trust. If your man ALWAYS doesn’t communicate very much with you, and you don’t often manage to get him into a frank conversation, then this is most likely a matter of trust . Apparently, some reliable bridge has not been established between you, through which you can resolve joint issues.
You need to work on the level of trust in your relationship! Become more open, start to trust your partner more, and over time he will also start to trust you more. In general, in this situation you need to start with yourself.
2. Freedom of a man. If you show excessive persistence or importunity with your questions, your man may simply begin to close himself off and seem to run away from you into his cave.
This can be regarded as an encroachment on his freedom. That is, instead of minding his own business or discussing things that are interesting to HIM, he is forced to defend himself and make excuses to you.
In general, in this situation, the man regards your questions as harassment or an encroachment on his freedom and independence .
3. He has something to hide. This is a sadder and more neglected option. It seems to you that you have a normal, high-quality, warm relationship, but for some reason your man simply does not answer your questions. And you expect things to get better soon.
Most likely, the man does not share your point of view on your relationship. Either he doesn't love you, or he has something to hide from you.
In this case, you need to take the most decisive measures to bring the situation to light. You don’t want to live for many years in deception, do you?
4. This is not a healthy situation anyway. You should remember that if your questions remain unanswered, this in any case means that something is wrong in your relationship. In principle, it doesn’t matter which scenario you have out of the three listed, or whether you have some other, fourth scenario.
It is important to remember that communication is the basis of any normal relationship. And if healthy communication has disappeared (or never appeared) - this is an alarm!
You need to sit down and talk. You can calmly and friendly explain to him how you feel about the lack of trust in your relationship, and then give him the floor and listen carefully.
In some cases, a man does not even suspect that he has such a problem, and he will gladly meet you halfway, just to please you.
But if a man in this case does not enter into a dialogue, I recommend that you think hard - what the fuck are you in for such a relationship? Why do you need someone next to you who is not interested in making you feel good and calm?
Your task here is to have the desire to get to the bottom of things, and not bury your head in the sand, thinking that “everything is fine with you, I just don’t understand something.” If you want to make your life better with your man, go straight to that life and ask direct questions.
Don't beat around the bush. Don't put off resolving these issues until later. Life is already too short to just wait and hope!
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