The former C-student has already become a boss, the poor fellow who was expelled from the first year is generally a cool businessman and does not leave Europe, and a pretty but stupid fellow student somehow got a job in an international corporation on a very international salary.
What's the matter? How do they do it?
If we very briefly try to express the essence of the problem, we get the following. When a person has learned to think, analyze, and reflect for many years in a row, then he will undoubtedly be good at it. However, in real life, pure mental activity, not supported by any actions, is of absolutely no use. That is why very often in the state, scientific and simply human hierarchy, energetic fools find themselves at the top, who, although not burdened with intellect, have ebullient energy and the ability to act. They may not be familiar with the theory of relativity, but they know for sure that even a small real action is sometimes more important than long thoughts about how to perform it.
Let's learn to act!
Talk to strangers
Sometimes a person falls into a trap and is unable to see the way out of the endless labyrinth of thoughts. In this case, it may be useful to hear an outside opinion. Looking from a different perspective can cast the “unsolvable” problem you're facing in a whole new light and provide a simple solution that you've been stubbornly overlooking.
Our whole life proves over and over again that the ability to act is no less important than the ability to think. Your actions bring concrete results, endless thinking often gives nothing but a headache. Maybe stop thinking too much and it’s time to start fulfilling your intentions? How do you think?
L - lazy brain
Repeating well-known actions is an alarming signal of growing laziness. We refuse what requires the development of new skills and increased attention, because we prefer what we love and are familiar with, verified to the point of automaticity. But the brain, like any muscle in the body, must be in good shape. This is the only way he can work to his full potential.
The brain seeks to simplify its life and create as many patterns as possible. On the one hand, it protects you from information noise. But on the other hand, life is a source of change, the speed of which you are not able to perceive without preparation. As a result, when in real life everything becomes “standard”, the novelty of sensations gradually disappears, the fear of the unknown grows and doubts about the decisions made accumulate. The ability to perform the same type of actions quickly is a good skill, but when you reach the “ceiling” in it, you stop developing, and your thinking loses flexibility. This means that you don’t spend effort on overcoming obstacles, which means you don’t know how to overcome new ones.
Remove all negativity from your life
When practicing a positive lifestyle, you must stay away from everything negative, including people, places and things! If something or someone seems negative, then you need to stay away from it. Energy doesn't lie. When you accept negative energy into your life, it creates more negative energy. While positive energy brings good results. Surround yourself with people and things that will lift your spirits and make you feel good!
If you have the ability to stay away from negative people, that's absolutely fine. Typically, these people do not have good intentions for you. Removing these people from your life is a positive action and shows that you respect yourself and your happiness.
Depression turns off your head
One of the reasons for the inability to concentrate may be depression, overt or hidden. This is a condition that occurs only in owners of the sound vector. Depression appears in a sound artist as a result of long-term non-realization of his sound desires, which include knowledge of himself and the meaning of life. Often these desires are unconscious - there just comes a moment when everything in life seems meaningless and empty.
Any person moves through life only according to the principle of pleasure - where it is good, interesting, that’s where he goes. If everything seems meaningless, then the motivation to do anything disappears. And this paralyzes the main ability of a sound person - to think.
Losing connection with the real world
Many sound engineers have difficulty concentrating in a noisy place; often, in order to work effectively, they need complete silence and solitude, so that there are no distractions.
The peculiarity of the sound artist is that he withdraws into himself in unfavorable conditions. This is especially true when the outside world has painful influences. Noises, screams, quarrels, offensive meanings are perceived especially acutely by a sound person and provoke him to withdraw.
The specificity of this condition is that the more a sound person withdraws into himself, the more he loses contact with the world around him and the less he is able to think productively. His thoughts often become incoherent, become obsessive, and cannot come to completion. Understanding the psyche of a sound artist, his tasks and understanding how other people work helps to get out of this state. This allows you to regain the ability to perceive information, the source of which is the outside world, and restore mental activity.
“I began to perceive information by ear, that is, the meaning of what they want to convey to me. Before the SVP training, I was very weak at this... I listened to the information, but at that time I had a bunch of incoherent thoughts that prevented me from concentrating and understanding what was said. In the process of completing the training, starting with Sound classes, it became easier for me to listen. I began to be able to concentrate, and there were much fewer unnecessary thoughts in my head. It became possible to trace the cause-and-effect relationship. It’s a very pleasant feeling when you listen and at the same time understand what they are talking about...”
Ivan M., Minsk, Belarus Read the full text of the result
“I became more attentive and more focused. Previously, it happened that I read a book, uttering sentences to myself, but the meanings flew away somewhere (along with chaotic thoughts, which at that moment were jumping from topic to topic), I had to re-read it several times. Or, when he needed to do some complex work with concentration, he could sit with his head buried in the screen without a single useful thought for half an hour (with a smart face, jumping with the mouse from window to window, turning pages and performing other useless actions). Now I can’t remember the last time it was...”
Ilshat G., engineer Read the full text of the result
Memory impairment and inconsistency as consequences of depression
The desires of the sound vector are the strongest, dominant. If they are not realized, then the desires of other human vectors are gradually suppressed. A state arises when you don’t want anything, even to the point of irritation from any external influences or apathy. This is how the stress of non-realization accumulates in other vectors, of which a modern city dweller can have on average from 3 to 5. For example, in the presence of the anal vector, general inhibition and memory impairment appear, so that two lines cannot be remembered.
In the skin vector, on the contrary, there is fussiness and the inability to sit still. A person is always trying to change his activity - he sits down, then stands up, or starts switching tabs on the computer. He rushes about and cannot concentrate. The thought is torn, and there is no way to finish it.
If you want to live differently, learn to think in a new way!
March 14, 2011 Igor Kovalenko Home page » Motivation
We all, regardless of geographical conditions, do the same thing and it’s great! But why do we sometimes get different results? In my opinion, Network Marketing offers each of us a unique business where you don’t need much, you only need desire.
Victims complain, winners act!
Indeed, we have equal conditions for getting into business, but success depends only on the ability to learn and teach others. Indeed, it’s great to teach others, but what? What you yourself read in smart books, what teaching manuals teach? What do textbooks teach? Where and in what textbooks do they teach life and how to be healthy? You can understand and realize that you can only teach what you have learned yourself only when you begin to change yourself, your consciousness.
How to change yourself for the better, how to set yourself up to achieve unprecedented heights that you were previously afraid to dream about? How to not let public opinion influence your own destiny? I recently asked myself these and other questions, like many who are involved in network marketing.
One day one of the satirists joked: “Can a family of three live on the salary of a civil servant? Maybe, but one at a time." When you realize that it's about you, it doesn't become funny. Where is the way out?
Take responsibility for your destiny into your own hands
Personally, I'm tired of looking at the world through the eyes of television journalists. In network marketing, I stopped being afraid of objections that this is impossible, because you and I know that in our business everything is possible! You just have to believe in yourself, even then no one believes in you.
No party or government in the world will make us better, more successful, more positive. We ourselves reach unprecedented heights if we set specific goals for ourselves. Our world is truly full of possibilities, and God provides food for every bird. But who said that God throws food into her nest? And any person who decides to change their life should remember this. Without action you will not achieve your goal.
You need to be persistent
Oh, how easy it is to say! But how much willpower you need to develop in yourself, through how many trials you need to go through in order to gain this very perseverance! The happy owners of this most valuable quality in life will never give up their goals, because only the persistent have a vision, only the persistent understand that every dream has its own opportunity, only the persistent are able to reap the harvest by planting the seeds of happiness, health and success.
Whatever you want, by any means, eradicate the negativity from yourself! Do you want people to come to you? Would you follow a person who has a lot of problems and who is counting the number of his failures? Of course not. This is how it is in your business - no one listens to you if your consciousness is not tuned to the wave of Success.
Learn to think outside the box
Never despair! By changing our consciousness, we can have more than we have now, because we can become better than we are.
In the bustle of our daily worries, we are so often accustomed to thinking in a standard way that we sometimes do not notice the true meaning of events. It's so convenient and comfortable for us. But how much we sometimes lose because of our stereotypical thinking! One day, a young artist received an order from a very rich lady just for a sign warning about a dog living in the house. What do you think he wrote on the tablet? Of course, “Beware the Evil Dog.” But the artist made a mistake and lost a huge fee. When the customer saw the work, she exclaimed: “Stupid! “I just wanted people to know there was a dog in the house and not to bother it.”
You need to follow successful people
Why is it so important to communicate with successful people? Not at all in order to compare yourself with them and see your shortcomings, but precisely in order to learn from them to overcome your fears and weaknesses, to move towards your goal. They, our mentors, are leaders because they did not give up on their dreams, because with their perseverance they proved to us the fairness and viability of their Training System. Imagine yourself in a big foreign city. You urgently need to get to the airport, but you don’t know how to get there. You rush to one of the passers-by, and he begins to explain the route in a confused manner. After half an hour of explanation, you have already forgotten where to turn after the fifth lane. You turn to another passerby with the same question and hear in response: “I don’t have time to explain, but I’m running there, if you want, let’s run together.” Who will you follow? I'm in favor of being second. After all, if he himself knows where he is going, then he will lead me there too.
Of course, these principles are not written in any set of laws for successful actions, and there is no such law; each of us chooses our own rules in life and everyone has something to add to achieve success. And this is great, because we can pass on to our students everything we have experienced and accumulated. By changing ourselves, we can help other people who come to us for a new quality of life. And even if not everyone understands us right away, I remember that the capable are hindered, the talented are envied, and the brilliant are harmed.
Once upon a time, the famous writer Mark Twain said wonderful words:
“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the things you did do. So set sail from the quiet pier. Feel the tailwind in your sail and move forward!
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How to start thinking positively and change your life for the better
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Success.com columnist Nathan Chai identifies the reasons that prevent us from perceiving reality positively and tells us what to do about it.
A few years ago, while I was lying in a hammock and not bothering anyone, a friend slipped me Rhonda Byrne's bestselling personal growth book, The Secret. What can I say? Along with the number of pages I read, my frustration grew. “How can you believe in this nonsense?” — I asked my friend. She reported that millions of people (and she was no exception) had read the book avidly and found its contents extremely valuable.
The main idea of “The Secret,” in a nutshell, is that like attracts like. That is, when you want something, the “law of attraction” works: cosmic forces conspire and fulfill your desire. But I'm a man of science, so I don't have time for all this energy! Well, except, perhaps, gravity...
In general, I started studying the issue.
Rhonda Byrne
The mystery of the "law of attraction"
Success psychology expert Brian Tracy, who has studied philosophy, religion, psychology and spiritual practices for 20 years, also firmly believes in the principle “like attracts like.” The Law of Attraction is the oldest tool known to man and an incredibly powerful tool if used correctly, he says.
“You attract people, ideas, circumstances, opportunities into your life that are in harmony with your thoughts,” Tracy writes.
I am not convinced by this statement, because it does not explain exactly how the law works.
David McRaney, in his book The Psychology of Stupidity, describes the birth of our individual ideas about the world around us. He notes that the perception of reality is influenced by cognitive distortions to which the human mind is susceptible. These are so-called thinking shortcuts, used to process information and draw conclusions faster. Our brain is ready to ignore primary sources and objective facts, much more willing to rely on established beliefs when interpreting certain events. Whether these beliefs are true or false, the brain doesn’t care.
Thanks to thinking labels, we practically do not see the world as it is - we simply do not perceive it in isolation from our own ego, emotions, and experiences. We pass information through the filters of our belief system and filter out everything that we don’t want to notice. Why is this happening?
Bias
People tend to snatch data from everywhere that only confirms what they already believe to be true. Surprisingly, we attach less importance to facts that do not coincide with our views. And sometimes we simply ignore them.
For example, if you firmly believe that you can attract something into your life with the power of thought, then you will definitely find ironclad evidence of this and much less anti-arguments. Do you think that someone or something appeared nearby not by chance, but to help you? This means you will subconsciously look for a reason to receive such help.
"Sharpshooter's Mistake"
There was such a story: a resident of Texas shot at the barn as needed, and then in the place where more bullet holes appeared, he drew a target - they say, envy the accuracy. After this, the concept of “sharpshooter's error” came into use. It means a situation where we perceive some random events as interconnected with each other, as if we put that very target on them, and we simply ignore others that do not fit into the supposedly existing pattern. This often leads to incorrect conclusions.
Here is an example from life. My mother's name is Rachel, and my father's name is Philip, my close friend's parents have the same names. We both grew up in a community of 800 residents. All this, of course, looks like a rare coincidence, but not until you know that my friend and I are the same age and our parents are the same age, give or take. At the time they were born, the names Rachel and Philip were very popular. In terms of socio-economic indicators, our families are similar, and it is not surprising that they settled in the same village.
The tendency to see relationships in random phenomena is called apophenia. You are discussing, say, “Star Wars” with someone, and then that same evening, flipping through TV channels, you suddenly come across an episode from this epic. Well, you have to! Incredible! Surely this providence or cosmic forces sends you grace in the form of your favorite movie, since you just remembered it. Congratulations, apophenia is happening.
Self-fulfilling predictions
Did you know that our attitude towards future events affects how they ultimately turn out? We assign emotions to expected situations in advance and reap the benefits of this. Let's say your sister invites you to a restaurant with vegan cuisine. “Ugh,” you think, “this will be terrible.” You go there and come back, of course, hungry and angry. But you set yourself up this way long before you went to this meeting.
Now remember another common situation. Surely it has happened more than once that you woke up in the morning and thought: “S-s-s, another stupid day is ahead!” How often was it successful later? How would things go if you opened your eyes and said to yourself, “Today is going to be a great day?” This is called a self-fulfilling forecast.
The principle of behavioral confirmation works in a similar way. Often we witness exactly the behavior of others that we a priori expect to see from them. Let's say you think someone is arrogant and aloof. Perhaps you will begin to behave with him in such a way that the person, simply for the purpose of self-defense, will be forced to demonstrate the mentioned qualities. You yourself provoke him to this.
Thus, by changing our initial attitude towards a situation, we are able to influence its outcome. You will begin to notice the pleasant things in people and see the positives in any events - and you will be surprised how much everything will change.
The illusion of frequency
We are not able to absorb all the information that comes at us, so the brain ignores most of it. This is how the phenomenon of selective attention manifests itself.
For example, while you are driving a car, what remains in your memory besides obvious sources of danger and individual fragments of your favorite podcast? Maybe still decide on the dish you will prepare for tonight's dinner? Everything else that is not related to your current thoughts easily escapes your attention. For further processing, only information that is a priority here and now remains in consciousness.
For example, when you are single, do you often meet couples? Yes at every step! What color were the cars driving towards you today? You will notice this only if you specifically set such a goal for yourself.
You may have heard of the Baader-Meinhof phenomenon - the frequency illusion. When a person encounters something previously unknown to him and after a short time again encounters the same information, he automatically begins to perceive it as frequently repeated. Although in reality this may not be the case. It’s just that now it has acquired meaning for a person and therefore more often comes to his attention.
In this context, remember two important concepts: significance and relevance. By constantly thinking about your main goals, returning to them in your mind again and again, you will be able to find more effective ways to achieve them.
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The results of my research suggested that it is the shortcuts of thinking that are the driving force behind that very “law of attraction.” These labels can interfere with getting the desired results in life, or, on the contrary, they can serve as excellent helpers. To turn them to your advantage, use the following tips.
Remember your most important goals as often as possible so that they always remain a priority in your mind.
Think about the future in a positive way. Assume that everything planned will come true.
Do not forget that it is up to you to perceive various events as random or as related to each other.
Keep in mind that we seek information that aligns with our beliefs. By changing the latter, you can take a new look at the world.
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How often should you exercise?
It is advisable that the search for new ideas and non-trivial connections become your habit. To begin with, it is enough to perform any of the above exercises daily for 10-15 minutes. Then it makes sense to incorporate your favorite methods into your regular work. When thinking about how to solve a particular problem, consider inventing your own method to make your work easier.
Another useful exercise for developing lateral thinking is humor. If you are not a natural joker, pay attention to how jokes are constructed in Russia and abroad. An example would be Stand Up or other shows that are close to your spirit. A good joke is always an accurate observation that reveals unexpected connections between phenomena and situations. Learn to see the funny in the sad and vice versa. Such exercises will help develop creative abilities in the professional and personal spheres.
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Working with ciphers
In order for your idea to take off at the right moment, you need to have several narratives and stories. Take a fragment of any cipher: it could be Japanese hieroglyphs or ancient Egyptian symbols. Looking at the image, think of what the signs might mean, and make up any story based on your own assumption. You will be surprised how bright and non-trivial stories your brain can come up with.
Transition to positive thinking
Positive psychology helps manage thoughts and develop the habit of focusing on positive emotions and events.
A person’s ability to control the focus of attention allows him to choose the range of emotions that he wants to experience.
A few basic tips on how to start living positively:
- A person absorbs the emotions of his environment, so you need to communicate more often with positive and happy people. You can learn from them not only their attitude, but also their life experience.
- If possible, avoid events and activities that cause negativity. If watching political shows on TV or your classmates' pages on social networks causes stress and hostility, then you shouldn't do it.
- Try to look at the situation from different sides. This will help create a feeling of disengagement. It is always easier to find a way out of a situation without emotional overtones.
- Find positive moments in any unpleasant situation. It’s a shame when neighbors are woken up by noise early in the morning on a weekend, but at least you can do more pleasant and interesting things.
- You need to be grateful more often. Fix your attention on those things that cause a feeling of happiness, delight and euphoria, and give thanks for them.
- Reward yourself for the right thoughts by going to the cinema, having a delicious dinner, buying clothes or equipment.
All these actions will help develop positive thinking , and exercises from psychology will consolidate and strengthen the result.
Exercises to tune positive thoughts
Simple psychological exercises will help you focus on tasks and goals, rather than problems; on the pros, not the cons; on opportunities, not failures. When performed regularly, these exercises can significantly improve your perception of life:
- Journal of achievements. At the end of each day, write down at least three things in a notebook or personal diary that caused a feeling of satisfaction and happiness. This could be dancing at home to your favorite music, going to a teen comedy with your children, or flowers given by your husband for no reason. Keeping this journal will teach you to believe in the best and help you notice the pleasant little things that happen during the day.
- Five pluses. The essence of the method is to find at least five positive aspects for each negative event. It is best to keep a separate notebook for these purposes. This exercise will allow you to learn and benefit from any situation, and will also help you restructure your thinking, making it more alive and flexible.
- Visualization will help you stay positive and achieve success. Visualization exercises are performed after waking up or before going to bed. At these moments the mind is calm. How to do the exercise? You need to lie down, relax your body and close your eyes. Then imagine yourself in a situation that causes joy, euphoria or any other positive emotion. It is necessary to imagine clothing, surroundings, people, smells, sounds, air temperature down to the smallest detail. Then turn your attention to the emotions you are experiencing and try to feel each of them as much as possible.
At the end of the visualization, ask questions to the subconscious: “Why am I overwhelmed with joy and happiness, am I successful and happy?” It is important to remember that the subconscious does not perceive the particle “not”. This exercise must be performed at least 5 times a week .
Advice from Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar
Positive psychology studies human potential and talks about how to learn to enjoy life and see the positive.
Tal Ben-Shahar is one of the most influential scientists in the field of positive psychology . In 2004, he graduated with a doctorate from Harvard University, where he taught courses in Leadership Psychology and Positive Psychology from 2004 to 2011.
The scientist is the founder of the research Institute of Well-Being and the author of such international bestsellers as “Be Happier,” “The Perfectionist Paradox” and “Which Will You Choose?”
In these books, he talks about how to learn to think positively and attract success . In addition to writing, the scientist lectures on leadership, happiness, mindfulness and self-esteem to executives of major Fortune 500 companies.
