Harmony is a concept used in many industries and means coherence, coherence and compatibility, applicable in relation to dissimilar or opposing concepts or phenomena (weather and landscape, patterns of personal interaction, etc.), the whole structure of something integral, consisting of parts (applicable as to characterize a person, music, inanimate objects).
Initially, the word harmony arose in the philosophical sciences, and was used to display the patterns of natural processes, the development and extinction of elements of reality, reflected internal and external authenticity, integrity and consistency (for example, content, form, behavior, appearance, events of the situation). Further, harmony began to be used for aesthetic characteristics, becoming synonymous with the concept of beauty, including combination and diversity, while the coherence and balance of the various components of the whole in such a way that there was no feeling of tension, and energy was evenly distributed within the work.
Pessimists and optimists - what's the difference?
In life, you often have to decide what is more important: health or money, love or freedom. Some cannot refuse any of the opportunities, and as a result are not happy about having all the others, which makes them deeply unhappy. After all, you want to have everything at once!
And some people are completely deprived of the opportunity to choose. God (life circumstances, fate, other people) have already made a choice instead of them. The inaccessibility of pleasures and any blessings in life makes them dissatisfied with their lives and gives rise to envy of those who have it all.
And there are those who simply have nothing to choose from. They are deprived of all the joys of life, they wander through it sadly, they are haunted by failures and they look sadly, with envy, and sometimes with anger, at the “lucky ones” from the first two categories.
There is an expression: if God wants to punish a person, he deprives him of his mind. If we translate it into modern language, it might sound like this: if life wants to punish a person, it deprives him of optimism. The pessimist takes everything else from himself. And in this case there is no question of any harmony. The pessimist refuses it, from happiness, he revels in his misfortune.
At first, the pessimist gives up his desires. Not because there are no opportunities to implement them - he simply does not have faith in this possibility. He joins the ranks of people dissatisfied with life. Thus, he allows other people or life circumstances to control his life.
When a person buries his capabilities, he stops noticing them at all. He moves into the category of unfortunate people who eke out a miserable existence, are angry with the whole world and mourn their fate. There is no time for harmony with the world and people...
But in real life there is no such thing that a person cannot find a reason for joy. It's just that each of us looks at the world differently. Someone got into an accident and laments that he dented his car, while another in the same situation is glad that he is alive and did not harm anyone.
Someone ended up in the hospital and is sad that they lost a lot of time in vain, and even the scar from the operation will remain ugly, while another, in the same circumstances, thanks God and the doctors that he remained alive.
Someone’s wife left him, and he became the most unhappy person in the world and decided that life was over, and someone thanks God that He took the unfaithful man away from him in time.
That is, an optimist will always find something positive in any situation, although perhaps not immediately, but over time. Only real grief unsettles him, but even in such a situation he will recover faster.
A pessimist sees only the “dark” sides of life, and in order to bring him to a happy state, something very positive must happen. But everything in the world is relative, so an optimistic outlook on life is more suitable to real life and brings a person closer to harmony.
Although there are few absolute optimists and pessimists in life. We all often succumb to a bad mood and see the world in faded colors, and sometimes, on the contrary, everything seems bright and colorful to us, we rejoice, happiness and harmony come into life. You just need to learn how to get rid of negative thoughts in time.
What it is
In addition to understanding the harmonious combinations of sounds in a melody, colors in a picture and the course of natural processes, it becomes interesting what harmony is in human life. It is believed that harmony is present initially, since we exist in a world where everything is synchronized and needed for something, each creature performs its necessary function, just as each cell of the body and each organ initially have a natural harmonious development mechanism. Only a violation of such a state is possible when the natural course of processes is disrupted or an uneven redistribution of energy causes tension in one of the areas. The natural course of processes can be disrupted by diseases or injuries (relating to the state of the human body), as well as natural disasters and other emergencies (the harmonious social climate or conditions of interaction are disrupted).
Harmony is considered a desire for balance, and accordingly it can be disrupted when a person pays more attention to one area, forgetting about the development of others. Thus, a manager with a decent bank account who spends all his time at work and on business trips can be called successful in his professional activities, but cannot be called a harmonious personality, since he does not take proper care of his health, there are no close intimate relationships and family, the person has little time devote to your emotional experiences.
A harmonious personality arouses interest due to its versatility, because its knowledge and activities are not limited only to children or only to work, there is no bias in any direction, which makes it possible to maintain all aspects and aspects in an active state and develop them. If all the energy flows into one sphere, then upward growth occurs and there are no resources left for other manifestations, but with harmonious development, the energy is distributed horizontally, feeding all directions.
The ability to take care of your physical condition and peace of mind, material well-being and good relationships with people around you, the ability to develop as a specialist and the ability to build deep emotional relationships - this is what harmonious development teaches. When one area helps develop another, and not when, for the sake of advancement in one direction, you have to sacrifice others.
Why negative thoughts deprive us of peace and harmony
Thinking negatively and being unhappy (or rather, feeling unhappy) is harmful. This feeling prevents us from enjoying what we already have. It deprives us of self-confidence and takes away the will to win. We develop a “victim complex”.
A person who is confident in his bad luck misses chance after chance to improve his life. But he will definitely take the opportunity to further aggravate his misfortunes; he seems to attract them.
A “dead zone” forms around such a person, where no one wants to step. He is surrounded by a negative cloud, and it is no longer clear whether he himself attracts bad luck, or whether failures actually pursue the unfortunate person.
All his bad premonitions come true. Bad luck covers all areas of his life. Failures in the family lead to problems at work, money flies by, then health problems follow - a huge lump of failures in everything is formed.
Neuroses, chronic depression, digestive problems, cardiac disorders - this is what often accompanies an unhappy person.
But he wanted happiness in life, to live in harmony with the world and people. He wanted to be healthy, wealthy, loving and loved, but did not believe that this was possible and became sick, unhappy and lonely.
How to break this vicious circle? How to bring harmony into life? Is it possible?
Internal and external harmony
Harmony testifies to personal integrity, when external and internal manifestations correspond to each other, when all spheres are self-sufficient and developed. What harmony is in human life depends on the person himself - some will consider it the absence of problems, and others the presence of friends and family, but any descriptions will come down to spiritual satisfaction and peace. The very variety of answers is generated by the presence of distortions and shortcomings or a discrepancy between what a person creates in his external life and internal needs.
External harmony (relative to the concept of human existence) is reflected in the presence of complementary and nourishing social connections (family, friends, work team), work that brings a decent level of material and moral satisfaction and opportunities for development, the ability to afford to buy the things you want, to be in the places you want and spend time with the people you want. This includes not only the resource part, which allows you to do all this purely on a material level, but also a way to organize the surrounding space in such a way that there are no obstacles to implementation (for example, the work is great and lucrative, but communication with unpleasant personalities is difficult to avoid).
Internal harmony includes the emotional and mental sphere, spiritual experiences. It lies in a stable and positive emotional state, which is predominant or background, reflected by the correspondence of external reactions (i.e. a person cries when sad, and does not put on a smile).
Inner harmony is about peace of mind and confidence, when there is trust in loved ones, there is no need to pretend, and life flows in such a way that anxiety is only situational (from fallen furniture in the neighbors), and not from internal experiences, becoming a constant companion.
A harmonious personality knows how to balance the development of internal and external qualities, while disharmony is expressed in a lack of development of something. Examples could be people who devote themselves to science and are brilliant in their intellectual and eruditional successes, but at the same time they can be so asocial and completely forget about caring about appearance that they remain lonely. Situations and the opposite picture are not uncommon, when the main emphasis is on appearance, most of the time is spent taking care of the beauty of your body, but the soul and intellect are completely forgotten and then it turns out that you want to get to know such a person, but there is absolutely nothing to communicate about. Considering himself outstanding in something, a person may think that only with this characteristic alone can he build excellent relationships and a career, and buy health, but life turns out to be more complicated and following social norms is just as necessary as following moral ones, maintaining one’s mental development does not negate caring about appearance.
It’s great when a person’s inner ideas reflect his appearance and lifestyle, but this is not necessary for a harmonious life; it is necessary that each of the areas receive enough attention and energy nutrition for development.
How to bring harmony into life?
You can break the circle of bad luck and bring harmony into your life, you just need to turn on positive thinking . This term came to us from the West and means self-programming for success.
A person needs to gather his willpower and concentrate on the positive aspects of his life. For example, a problem has arisen. You need to carefully consider the option of a successful solution, consider the happy coincidence of circumstances from all sides, and imagine in pictures how it all happens.
Our brain is designed in such a way that it cannot simultaneously think about two opposing versions at once. A person determined to successfully solve a problem notices everything that can help him and strives to realize his dreams.
When a person is in a positive mood, waves of confidence and calm emanate from him. Such a person is harmonious, people are drawn to him, who know that everything will work out with him, everything will be fine.
Perhaps a person with positive thinking does not feel complete harmony and happiness (do not forget that everything in the world is relative), but he does not dwell on the bad, on the contrary, he changes this bad for the better.
Therefore, in order to have harmony in your soul and life, you need to strive to become an optimist.
Why does it disappear
Not every person can boast of absolute well-being, the presence of cloudless thoughts, complete faith in upcoming success. People can be depressed, grumpy, whiny, and short-tempered. While suffering, a person can withdraw into himself, conflict with his loved ones, thereby aggravating his situation. In most cases, harmony is destroyed at turning points in life, when a person is in an uncomfortable situation:
- adolescence, retirement, midlife crisis,
- sudden loss of material assets (for example, fire in the house, dismissal from work),
- interpersonal conflicts (unfair treatment from superiors, tarnished reputation, unhappy love),
- unbearable living conditions (antisocial partner, sick parents who need care, problem child, poverty),
- serious physical illnesses (less often mental), injuries,
- loss of a loved one,
- sexual dissatisfaction,
- feeling of loneliness,
- unrealization.
The environment is like a mirror of internal problems
The Universe is a single system, the parts of which constantly exchange energy with each other. The ongoing energy exchange is also accompanied by the exchange of information, thanks to which people at a subconscious level pick up signals about a person’s mood and the qualities of his character. This is the truest knowledge, because... It is the first impression, the feeling from meeting a person that is correct.
The fact is that the perception of the surrounding world is based on the “mirror” model. External energy impulses pass through internal filters of the subconscious and consciousness, thereby provoking one or another reaction. If the filters work crookedly, then you can’t expect a healthy reaction. The whole point of working with the “mirror” principle is to understand the cause of a negative reaction to external impulses.
Psychologists say that if a certain person is an active irritant, constantly putting the observed person into a nervous and aggressive state, this means that the observed person sees his own qualities in the object, which he wants to get rid of or simply does not accept them in himself. Such an imbalance can only be resolved by a conscious attitude towards yourself, your emotions, and reactions to the people around you.
First of all, you need to learn to control your condition. Considering the fact that the energy exchange system is unified, you should do the opposite and practice the next exercise.
The point of the exercise is a conscious, intentional feeling of love for the people around you, and these are not necessarily relatives or friends, just random passers-by are chosen as objects.
The training process is as follows:
- find a quiet place where you can watch people passing by;
- take a comfortable body position;
- relax and let go of all negative feelings, clear your head of thoughts as much as possible;
- watch people passing by;
- mentally approach and hug a person passing by, sincerely, from the heart.
At the same time, consciousness opens to universal love for all living things, nature and one’s own kind.
Such love is considered an emotion that heals a person from the inside. Taking into account the law of the “mirror”, the energy sent out in this way will return positive, filled with love and care of the world, beneficial.
Inner personal freedom
The problem of inner freedom is as old as the world. For many centuries, people have been striving to understand their essence, the world, to find freedom and harmony. Why do we often feel like prisoners of life, refuse opportunities, are afraid to decide to change, to go towards new discoveries? Freedom is a life choice; you can live by the rules of others or find your own path, act according to the dictates of your heart.
A free person is distinguished by courage, confidence, a clear position in life, and commands respect. Such people often become leaders, help others understand the world around them, find their calling and values.
Limiters of internal freedom - thoughts, prohibitions, negative attitudes, fear. We often drive ourselves into a “dungeon” on our own due to lack of faith, lack of positive thinking, the presence of complexes, and a negative attitude towards ourselves and the world.
Life is the same for everyone
But still we see a special world,
From the existing obstacles,
The strongest of all are the shackles of the soul. ©
Negative thinking and attitudes distort the picture of life, exaggerate the colors and present everything in gloomy tones. But there is always a way out: discover potential, “learn to fly,” strive upward.
The book “Jonathan Livingston Seagull” by Richard Bach will help you understand and feel inner freedom. The main character is Jonathan the seagull, he strives to learn to fly higher than other birds, but the flock does not support his aspirations, why strive upward, be like everyone else. But faith, burning desire and constant training work wonders. He became free, learned to fly, and later taught wisdom to those who wanted to find freedom.
The book carries a special spirit of freedom, everyone can fly, the main thing is to believe. A person’s inner freedom is the rejection of negative assessments of others, the ability to live by one’s own ideals and goals. It's better to make a mistake than to live a life that isn't yours. It is important to find self-expression: sing, dance, draw, reach your horizons.
The path to freedom is a road of untrodden paths, understanding of one’s own inner world, the ability to live, overcoming fears, complexes, and the opinions of others. A person’s internal freedom and non-freedom depends on the ability to go beyond the usual, think outside the box, creatively, understand the world around him, and feel flight. There lives a “free seagull” in everyone; we often don’t let it into the sky, preferring a bird in our hand.
How difficult it is sometimes to overcome all restrictions and boundaries, to follow the dictates of your heart, to get off the ground, to fly towards your dreams and goals. But anything is possible.
