I am calm! How to stop being hysterical

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In this article, I will tell you, dear, what you should do if your man is hysterical. And vice versa…

A hysterical man = a low-ranking man. All. Dot.

If you, my dear, have a relationship with such a man, you are also the same low-ranking individual. Understand, each creature has a pair and they get what they are. Realize what I just said. It is a fact.

Ps I came to this rule in due time, on my own, from my own mistakes, from my own experience, etc. Yes, I was also a low-ranking male. You must (or should) understand that no one is born high-ranking.

High-ranking individuals = become.

But, very few people become. because it is extremely difficult. Believe me, I know what I'm talking about. I went through this myself and am still going through this to this day. This needs to be plowed. Every day. Upgrade and upgrade yourself. Works on himself. Break yourself. Work on yourself. The vast majority of people don’t want to do this, they don’t want to change, develop, progress, upgrade themselves and become better.

I recommend that you read this article and you will understand: “Why people don’t want to change.”

So, I’m telling this so that you understand that it’s your own fault that the person who is next to you is the one who is at the moment. And the point is not even that you yourself decided to be “that way” with him, but because you get exactly what you yourself are. Do you understand this? This is important for you to understand now.

Understand: for a relationship you need to take a finished product. We need to take a man! A worthy man, and not my mother’s sniffling, goofball, hysterical, etc. and so on. but, in order for you to have the opportunity to be with this worthy man, you yourself must become a worthy woman. Understand?

Next to a worthy woman = there will be a worthy man. And vice versa. It can't be any other way. It cannot be that a man has a high rank and a woman has a low rank. No no and one more time no.

Everyone deserves exactly what they are.

If you yourself are a worthy woman, a high-ranking woman, you will have an equally worthy, high-ranking man next to you. And vice versa. Dot. It can't be any other way. It is a fact!

Therefore, all this women's whining about how all the men are assholes, only womanizers, or I don't know, hysterical, or some other bad/crooked/slanty people, etc. and so on. = TP behavior, no offense. Behavior of low-ranking individuals. The problem is primarily with you. For, as I said earlier, each creature has a pair and they get what they themselves are and what they deserve. Understand this and upgrade.

1He is touchy and suspicious

It often seems to him that he is underestimated and therefore he constantly complains about the injustice of the world towards him. At first it’s even funny, because we really want to take care of the man we love, right? But over time, a person begins to demand attention constantly! Ignoring your feelings. For example, my friend spent the weekend with a fan. Do you know what the first thing he asked her when she returned home (they live in different countries)? Why didn't she ask if he had found the lost bicycle keys? This is all.

What should you do if a man is hysterical?

As I said earlier, a man is hysterical = low-ranking. This is extremely rude behavior. This is not masculine behavior. Here you need to see whether a man is hysterical in life in general, in everything, in work, in business, in solving problems, in business, in general in everything, or only with you in a relationship.

If option No. 1. in everything = this is a very, very neglected case. There is, in my opinion, only one way out for you - to run further. And upgrade (from low-rank to high-rank).

And this person (who has problems) urgently needs to work purposefully on himself. Concentrate and direct all your strength to yourself. Just to pump yourself up. Develop, work, work, every day, regularly (systematically). Plow like a horse. Pump up the man in you. Upgrade yourself to a high rank level. Otherwise, he shouldn’t expect anything good.

Friend, remember: no need to complain and whine. Never. Through life. Never!!! This is not MANLY behavior!

Complaining, whining, hysterics, etc. is WEAKNESS, a manifestation of a person who is insecure. Whiners who complain about anything, even the smallest things, who whine, throw tantrums in everything and do other crap, do not attract women, on the contrary, they repel them. Because this is not masculine behavior. If you were already born in the skin of a male, conform. Baba needs a man. Dot.

Therefore, if you are reading this, these lines, never allow such behavior (if any) again. Never, never and never again ever become hysterical for any reason. And pump yourself up!

It is very difficult (to pump yourself up), but it is necessary - extremely necessary. Because a man and a hysterical woman are fundamentally incompatible concepts, as such. Such behavior will not allow this man to achieve anything in life. He won't be happy. People won't take him seriously. They will always laugh at him, mock him, will not respect him, appreciate him, etc. and so on. in short, there must be hard, purposeful, full-scale work (upgrading) oneself to a high-ranking level!

I recommend you start with this article: “How much are you worth as a man.”

If option number 2. only with you in a relationship = this still means that the man is low-ranking and he needs to upgrade himself to a high-ranking one. It also means that you are low-ranking (it can’t be any other way, I already explained this above) and you also need to level up.

This is, firstly. And secondly, this also suggests that you, in your relationship, are fucked up. You either don’t understand each other, there is no mutual understanding, or you don’t meet his needs, or you don’t behave the way a woman should behave, in general, you have MISTAKES, PROBLEMS. Understand? But, this is provided that the man is really adequate. Understand? I don’t know what he is like...

If so, then you have problems, dear (but I’m speaking for you in general, because he has the same problems, so the problems in general are both of you). Those. in both man and woman. In general, I'll give you an example. If you don’t satisfy, for example, the basic male need (high-quality regular sex), then you must clearly understand that any man will go crazy here. He will climb the wall. His tower will be torn down. Of course there will be hysterics, scandals, quarrels, etc. and so on. nothing good will happen...

Therefore, what is the way out of this situation? Both you and your man need to develop, work on yourself, work and upgrade to a high-ranking level. This time. And of course, work on relationships. Meet each other’s needs efficiently, develop mutual understanding, etc. and so on. I recommend that you study at least this: “What a man needs from a woman,” “What a woman needs from a man.”

Hysteria and features of its manifestation in men

Before analyzing the problem of hysterical seizures in men, you need to determine their meaning, symptoms and causes. The manifestation of the disorder has controversial issues that require clarification.

Concept

Most people do not share the concept of hysteria and hysteria. But in the scientific understanding these are different phenomena.

Hysteria is a psychological breakdown that manifests itself in the emotional and behavioral spheres.

Hysteria is a psychological disorder of moderate to mild severity.

In modern psychology, hysteria is associated with hysterical personality disorder. Emotional breakdowns often act as an independent phenomenon, but are often a vivid expression, one of the manifestations of hysteria.

Symptoms

Signs of hysteria:

1. Theatrics, excessive exaggeration of emotional reactions to events.
2. Susceptibility to the influence of others and circumstances, suggestibility.
3. Changeability, transience and superficiality of emotions.
4. Excitement, desire to be the center of attention.
5. Expressed “frankness” in behavior and appearance. Appearance is used to attract attention.
6. Preoccupation with one's physical attractiveness.
7. Provocative behavior that is aimed at seduction.
8. Vague speech, ignoring details.
9. Exaggerating the importance and depth of relationships with specific people.

Signs of hysteria:

1. Aggressive behavior.
2. Crying, sobbing.
3. Scream.
4. Rapid, unintelligible speech.
5. Expressed facial expressions.
6. Rapid, erratic and unconscious movements of the hands.
7. Walking from side to side.
8. The desire to blame others, family members and close relatives for one’s condition and problems.

Causes

The causes of hysteria include psychological trauma that a person receives in childhood or adolescence. These are painful, distorted transformations of the perception of oneself, others and reality, which is fixed in the subconscious. These processes occur during puberty.

Hysteria is a single or repeated manifestation that occurs as a result of strong influences from external factors (work, family, personal relationships, health).

Hysteria is a process of changing a person’s mental state as a result of the action of a traumatic factor, which is expressed in the transformation of a person’s emotions, thinking and behavior.

Causes of hysteria:

1. A large number of suppressed desires that have gone into the subconscious.
2. The presence of internal conflicts that the person himself is not aware of.
3. Violation of family education. During puberty, a boy's sexuality is rejected in the family, the mother becomes distant, and the father is perceived as a competitor. Parents' behavior demands that the growing young man remain a child; changes in the body are ignored.

Causes of hysteria:

1. Nervous overstrain.
2. Physical fatigue and tiredness.
3. Stressful situations.
4. Internal conflicts.

Throwing tantrums at the guy. What to do with jealousy towards your friends?

Hello, Anastasia! Jealousy is an irrational feeling; experiencing it is very unpleasant, energy-consuming and destructive. Let's figure out the reason for your jealousy!

“I’ve already gotten used to the fact that sometimes he doesn’t even notice how he says something good about them, but it turns out as if it’s a reproach to me. One of them works for days, the second one took out a mortgage on her own, the third one needs a ride, of course she will give me money for gas, and I don’t care on the way. The fourth has a slender appearance and a nutty butt and they are all great guys, but it turns out I’m not. And I involuntarily begin to compare myself with them, it seems to me that the guy is no longer interested in me.” - this is your vision of the situation, your interpretation. Have you ever asked your boyfriend directly why he is saying all this? Perhaps nothing interesting is happening in his life and he can only share this information, or in this way he is trying to push you to action? Ask him about it, but not in the form of a scandal, but in a calm tone. Ask why he thinks you need this information.

As for jealousy specifically, determine for yourself what you fear most? The fact that your boyfriend will leave you, or the fact that he pays more attention to other people than to you? What kind of attitude would you like to have? Does your boyfriend know about this? Decide for yourself which relationship model is acceptable for you, talk to your partner about it, does he share your views on life and the future?

If there are girls in his life whose interests he puts above yours, are you ready to put up with this?

If you want a relationship with this particular person, you need to talk with him about a future together, talk calmly, don’t accuse him of anything, don’t make a scandal, but talk like adults. Ask him what he expects from this relationship, tell him what you expect, tell him about your feelings that you experience in such situations. Does he want you to experience these feelings?

One more thing - if you compare yourself with others, you will obviously lose. There will always be a girl more beautiful and more successful than you. Try comparing yourself to yourself. Find something that will bring you pleasure, realize yourself in your profession, and you will look at yourself with completely different eyes. Don’t look at others, don’t chase the ideal, it simply doesn’t exist. Take care of yourself, live your desires and needs, not other people's. Not only you, but also your boyfriend will look at you with completely different eyes, recognize you from the other side. Moreover, if you are less accessible, but more successful, this will increase your attractiveness. I wish you success in finding your business, if you have any questions, I will be happy to help you, please contact me!

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How to learn to live without hysterics?

A hysterical woman needs to understand that her behavior leads to the destruction of relationships with people around her and to the degradation of her as a person.

You can give a number of recommendations that can help reduce the number of hysterics or completely abandon them:

1. learn to restrain your emotions , be able to calmly defend your position, become better for yourself and others;
2. treat all people with respect;
3. avoid overexertion and stressful situations (you don’t need to carry everything on yourself at once, you can share part of the worries about home and family with your spouse and children, don’t rush to do everything at the same time, but build some kind of action plan in your head, and sometimes it’s even better if you paper);
4. do not accumulate grievances and complaints , but immediately clarify everything that causes negative emotions;
5. find a pleasant activity or play sports to be able to get rid of accumulated negative energy;
6. devote sufficient time to sleep, at least 8 hours a day;
7. normalize sex life;
8. pay close attention to your health (frequent hysterics can be a consequence of hormonal imbalances, and therefore you need to seek help from a gynecologist-endocrinologist);
9. do not be afraid to address the problem of excessive hysteria to a psychologist or psychotherapist.