Hello my dear readers!
The topic of today's conversation will be more interesting to women, although men will also be able to learn something for themselves. I am going to discuss a current and important question that all girls who have a family and children in their plans ask.
Everyone wants their future life partner to be a strong, reliable person who can be relied upon in everything. I will try to answer the main question - how to understand that a man will be a good husband?
The image of the future husband
Building a family is not an easy, responsible task. Not all couples who build relationships ultimately become husband and wife. And those who become them do not always live their whole lives together, sharing sorrows and joys.
Meanwhile, girls in love often try on the image of their future husband on their lovers. They even represent their common children! But will the hopes be justified? I would like to know in advance.
But not all men can become good spouses. Of course, a lot depends on the characters of specific men and women. Some complement each other perfectly, despite a number of contradictions. And others just can’t find a common language, no matter how hard they try. But there are some common traits that make it possible to discern a good family man in a man.
A man in his own family
Relationship with mother
First of all, pay attention to what a man is like in his own family. Look how he behaves with his household, first of all, with his mother.
The attitude towards the mother largely determines the attitude towards women in general. Respect, attention, willingness to help and share responsibilities are a good sign.
If there is no respect, but instead there is neglect (at a minimum) and rudeness - this is an alarm bell. Don't expect things to be different for you. This is behavior that has been developing over the years. The thought that you will be able to break the situation and make an angel in the flesh out of your future husband is just an illusion.
But this is only one side of the coin.
Sometimes the attachment to the mother is so strong that it interferes with subsequent marriage. The mother-in-law, accustomed to being the main one in her son’s life, will compete with her daughter-in-law for attention.
And most likely, he will try to control what is happening between the spouses. Not every wife will like to feel like a third wheel.
Pay attention to the relationships in their family as a whole. How parents communicate with each other. Their pattern of behavior will most likely transfer to your own family.
What children see when looking at their parents is deposited in their consciousness as a basic norm.
Brothers and sisters
Does the man have brothers and sisters? Relationships with them are also an indicator.
If he is the eldest, then he was probably entrusted with some of the responsibilities for caring for the younger ones. So he already had experience caring for children. From this experience one can judge what kind of attitude he will have towards his own children and what kind of father he can be.
Attitude towards women
The relationship with the mother is something basic. It's no secret that people treat loved ones with more gentleness and condescension than strangers. No less obvious in this case will be the attitude of a man towards women in general.
If you see respect and tact on his part towards the fair sex, this is a good sign for you. There is a chance that when you get married, you will get both.
You will build a life with a person who will care not only about material well-being, but also about your mental balance.
If he allows himself to be rude towards strangers (on the road, in line, etc.), do not expect that they will treat you better. While a man is in love and has no reason to be irritated, he seems sweet and kind. But when everyday life begins to seize up, its true face will be revealed.
What seemed like a small thing will truly offend and humiliate you.
It also happens that there is no rudeness as such. But there is condescension, indifference to problems. In this case, you will be perceived as free labor, whose main responsibility is to feed and wash. So what? You are a woman, you are supposed to. Are you worried about something? Nonsense, you created the problem yourself. Would you like this?
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The concept of a worthy person is different for everyone, since everything depends on one’s own ideal. But still, there are several signs that help you understand whether you have met a decent and decent man with whom you are not afraid to build a serious and healthy relationship.
1. Hard work
One of the signs of a worthy man is the absence of laziness and the desire to work, reach the top and constantly work. Such a man has reliability, which allows the woman next to him to feel confident in the future.
Hardworking men do not have time to engage in nonsense and fill their heads with unnecessary nonsense, suffering from boredom and inventing entertainment for themselves, which sometimes goes against his dignity. In a relationship with him, everything is much simpler, more stable and reliable.
2. Honesty
The ideal man for a relationship is an honest man. One who will not constantly dodge, look for excuses for his actions and actions, or hide something from his beloved.
Honesty greatly adorns a man, and in the eyes of a woman, such a partner will always be the most worthy and decent person, in whom one cannot doubt for a minute.
3. Mind
Here we are not talking about those who are constantly being clever, trying to insert their opinion into any conversation, even if it is not required. Smart men and bores, of course, can be classified as worthy men, but such behavior usually causes a negative reaction in a woman.
But if we talk about intelligence, then here we mean a truly smart and mature man who understands what he is talking about, knows where it is better to remain silent, and where to give valuable advice that is really required of him. Someone with whom you can be silent and talk about completely different topics. An intelligent man is a very worthy match for any woman, because he always has his own objective opinion and strong point of view on everything.
4. Mutual assistance
This is one of the most important signs of a truly worthy man. This one knows how to not only take, but also give. He appreciates any help and is ready to help at any moment.
Usually such a man is simply ideal in a relationship, because he does not treat his beloved as someone who owes him everything. He understands how labor-intensive a woman’s work is, he is always ready to help her in any matter, and is also grateful for any help. Such couples always have mutual understanding and support, which only strengthens the partners’ feelings every day.
5. Kindness
Many people know how important kindness is in a person, especially in our time. Especially if a man has such a quality. His kindness is expressed in everything, and his actions can reveal much that is hidden from view.
Appearance is not always an indicator of a person’s inner world. Men sometimes look very serious and even strict, which creates the impression of a rather tough character. But if you look closely, you can see his immeasurable kindness, which is expressed in his love for animals, children, and the entire world around him. With such a man it is not scary to create a strong and friendly family.
6. Generosity and selflessness
These qualities are expressed not only in monetary terms. This refers to things that are much deeper and have a higher price. Generosity in everything, the ability to share everything in life, and even more, is what makes a man a truly worthy person.
A man who is ready to share and give freely is the ideal match for a successful and long-term relationship. Unselfishness is not a quality of many, but of those who are best suited to the role of a decent and worthy life partner.
Women are mistaken when they claim that there are few worthy men in our world. There are a lot of them, they’re just harder to notice because of false ideas about love and the ideal partner. A worthy person is not one who has a lot of money and a high status, but one who under no circumstances will change his views, will not betray a woman and will never offend the weak. Choose a truly worthy one, because he is the one who is capable of moving mountains and getting a star from the sky for the woman he loves. Be loved
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30.06.2019 03:26
His feelings towards you
You have decided how your lover treats others.
Now analyze how he treats you personally.
Don’t justify shortcomings, look at what’s happening soberly.
A man can talk a lot about love, make many different promises. Both fantastic and completely everyday. Remember: words mean little. The main indicator of his attitude towards you is real deeds. How far do words differ from deeds? How often are promises forgotten? Are your requests being fulfilled? Does he understand you?
A person will always find time for what is truly interesting and important to him. The main thing is setting priorities.
If your person matters, the man will find time to fulfill his promises and take into account your requests. And then we can say that he is really interested in communication. And if he says he loves you, most likely he does.
This is also an indicator. This means that a man knows how to take responsibility. The family can rely on someone like that.
He doesn't leave you alone
A romantic relationship between two people is never a lifetime, but it can be a big part of it. Unfortunately, many of us often set the wrong priorities, always giving our significant other a secondary role. For some, the most important thing in life is work, for others, hanging out with old friends. There is undoubtedly a big difference between an active social life and a personal life. If you feel like you're tired of waiting for him at night, it's time to take a step back and find the reason that turned the relationship in a different direction.
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Future plans
Think about what you want from life? Now compare your plans with those of your potential groom. Ideally, for a happy married life, your plans should coincide. At least partially.
Let’s say you want to have three children, get a dog, and go to your parents’ house for barbecue every week.
But the man hasn’t even thought about children, and dreams of conquering Everest with you.
Don't rush to worry. In fact, life is a very fluid thing. And he makes his own adjustments to everything, including his worldview. Over time, everything can change.
Each case is a separate story. But it’s still worth considering: what you picture in your head may be far from reality. And there will be no one to blame for this.
Also pay attention to whether the man wants to develop, and whether communication with you influences this. How does he see his future?
Let's imagine that you are dating a pizza delivery guy. What will he be like in five years, you ask? Does he have dreams and the desire to achieve them?
Ambitious women will find it difficult to build their lives with men who go with the flow. If everything suits him, all your prodding will lead to nothing. So is this necessary? If you still see a desire to turn the situation around, if a man has a goal and confidently moves towards it, you can cook porridge with him.
At the same time, you shouldn’t put the material side in the foreground. Don't forget, everyone has hard times. In any case, if there is a desire to live together and solve problems together, not all is lost. It's another matter if there is no desire.
A reliable man: what qualities and signs distinguish him
View relationships pragmatically. First, make sure that the person is suitable for a long-term relationship, and only then make plans for a future together. Take your time. Meet, communicate, take a closer look, but don’t rush headlong into love. If you make a mistake, you will have to heal your soul for a long time in order to decide on a relationship again. A reliable man has 5 qualities that immature individuals do not have.
The ability to rely only on yourself in life
Complete autonomy and independence, the ability to take care of oneself is the most important sign of a mature personality, regardless of gender. If a man asks his mother or friends for money, takes out consumer loans, and then has difficulty paying them off, be sure that he will blame his problems on you as soon as a serious relationship begins.
It doesn't matter how much a person earns, but it should be enough for all his needs. If at the same time he takes care of someone else (helps his parents, brothers or sisters), this is an excellent sign.
Self-sufficiency and independence from other people and habits
Listen to what your fan is saying. If his speech often includes references to his mother, alcohol, drugs, computer games or social networks, pay more attention to this aspect of a man’s life. Perhaps he is simply addicted, he cannot imagine life without his mother’s advice, a glass or another toy. A mature person controls himself and does not allow anyone or anything to control his life.
