How can you tell if a man has lost his temper? 5 main signs

September 24, 2018
Psychology of relationships
Kristina Degtyareva

Are there signs that allow us to distinguish a crisis in a relationship from its inevitable ending? How to stop deceiving yourself and admit that your partner has changed - and you are no longer interested in him? How to understand that a guy has fallen out of love? And what to do next: stop wasting your time on him or try to return everything to normal? We have combined all the experience of world psychologists and prepared material for you from which you will learn about the signs that indicate that love has passed, and learn to live on!

You have to rely on yourself

How to understand that you have fallen out of love? Look at your life. Is it easier for you to call a taxi for a certain time than to ask your chosen one to take you somewhere? In response to a request to stop by a store or dry cleaner, will you only hear curses or irritation in your voice? Do you prefer to resolve any everyday issues on your own, just to avoid another conflict?

Well, this is probably exactly what Anna Akhmatova once wrote about:

How many requests does your beloved always have!
A woman who has fallen out of love has no requests.

When does a man fulfill any girl’s whims and wishes? Of course, when he loves her. If all of the above reminds you of your relationship, you are most likely on the verge of breaking up.

Your lover's mood is always negative

Quite often, girls ask themselves the question: how can you tell if a guy has stopped loving you? The answer to this question is quite simple - your lover is increasingly in a bad mood. The fact is that representatives of the stronger half of humanity are designed this way: as soon as they stop feeling the euphoria of love, they become endlessly irritated. Most often, this happens unconsciously, that is, it will be quite difficult for a girl to distinguish depressive states from accumulated problems from the feeling of dissatisfaction that consumes her, changing your communication. Here are the signs that allow you to understand that a guy has fallen out of love: at a minimum, when you are near him, he will have a headache, he will be enraged by your ringing voice and questions, your comments will seem stupid and inappropriate to him, he will ask don’t smoke, don’t slurp, don’t whine, don’t breathe...

Look at your man. Has he stopped sparing your feelings? Have you stopped paying attention to what you say? When was the last time you heard compliments from him? Maybe the greatest joy in your life is the days when you don't make a scandal? Think, maybe it’s not that there’s something wrong with you? Psychologists say: only the absence of tender feelings makes a man overly irritable and embittered.

Unfounded criticism

It happens that a woman begins to irritate her man if he stops loving her. Your boyfriend can behave as restrained as possible, but at the same time begin to pay attention to minor shortcomings in the relationship, he can constantly criticize and provoke quarrels, although he has not done this before.

Unfounded criticism is not the best part of a relationship.

A man’s irritability and pickiness is the most noticeable sign that he has stopped loving a woman. But it is worth noting that if this happens irregularly and lasts a couple of days, then you should not once again worry about the lack of reciprocal feelings or a break in the relationship. Perhaps your boyfriend is having problems at work, in relationships with relatives or friends. In this case, it is better to try to talk and help cope with problems, if any.

As mentioned earlier, the guy will constantly criticize. And this will affect your appearance. If before your partner did not notice minor flaws in your skin, style, physique, now you may be bombarded with a ton of comments about this. A young man may hint or say directly that it would be a good idea for you to join a gym or take better care of yourself. Your habits and emotions will also irritate him. All this indicates a lack of respect for your partner, which is a bad sign in a relationship.

The lightness has disappeared from the relationship

How to understand that a guy has stopped loving a girl? There is a fairly simple sign - the lightness is disappearing from your relationship. Let's go in order. What is love? These are not necessarily African passions (rather, their presence speaks not of love, but of falling in love), usually true love involves a feeling of comfort, trust and certainly a commonality of interests. But what love doesn’t have is tension and complexity.

Quite often, inexperienced young ladies are bothered by the question: how to understand that a man has stopped loving you? Everything is quite simple: quarrels and conflicts occur more and more often, resentments, complexes and neurotic states appear. Before, you could laugh at jokes and situations, you were never bored together, but now there is not a trace left of the former harmony? Maybe silence no longer symbolizes understanding, but has become something painful? Have sincere conversations begun to resemble theatrical performances? Unfortunately, relationship experts say, a lack of ease and opportunity for open dialogue are sure signs that love is a thing of the past.

You no longer feel free when in the company of your partner

Love is constant support, mutual understanding, trust and readiness to help at any moment. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable in a relationship. An unhealthy relationship can be signaled by a loss of former ease in communicating alone and in public.

You should be wary if you have never been bored together before, but now the dialogue doesn’t work out at all and the silence has become oppressive.

This may indicate the disappearance of former ease and comfort from the relationship. It is necessary to discuss the problem openly if possible, because this is one of the signals that you can no longer save anything.

You spend less time together

If you are plagued by the question: “How can you tell if a guy has stopped loving you?”, try to evaluate how much time you spend together. Most often, a person who has ceased to have tender feelings for you begins to avoid you. He may stay late at work, spend more time with friends or parents, ignore you, or openly ask you not to bother him because he had a hard day. It would seem that there is nothing particularly terrible about this. However, hand on heart, we all understand perfectly well, somewhere deep down in our souls, that such behavior is the beginning of the end.

Remember: at the very beginning of courtship, your lover was like an impatient young man: he tried to be close to you, endlessly called and texted, and made surprises. You were never enough for him. Of course, it cannot be denied that passions subside over time, but there are no excuses for a guy’s behavior when he avoids you under any pretext, finds a lot of excuses, new interests and acquaintances. By the way, Another way to understand that a guy has fallen out of love, as experts say, is that you should start asking questions. If your chosen one calls them brainwashing, your relationship is close to ending.

Changes in a man's behavior

Another reason that makes women think about the authenticity of their emotions is changes in a man’s behavior. We can say that this is a very good sign when a girl gradually abandons her partner if she is in love with him. Many are unable to leave, even when they are shouted at, beaten, or manipulated. A person who behaves this way needs to be left and walked away from.

If the changes are not so critical, but still do not suit the girl, she is unable to accept them, she needs to decide what to do. The first option is to accept your beloved, come to terms with his personal deformation, and the second is not to torture yourself or him by ending this relationship.

Excessive jealousy

Jealousy can manifest itself on both sides: if a girl is worried about a guy’s behavior, then after some time she will get tired of this emotional swing, and she will doubt her own love for him. However, most often the opposite happens - a man drives his partner away with his mistrust and psychological pressure.

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If talking doesn’t help, a man starts scandals, hysterics, and can’t control himself, then the woman begins to understand that she doesn’t want such a relationship - it should be stopped. It is unlikely that it will be possible to change the young man if he does not wish to do so.

Unwillingness to compromise

Stubbornness can break even the strongest love feelings. If a partner neglects the desires of his other half, ignores her needs, then this is a one-sided relationship from which it is necessary to leave. Without reciprocity there will be no happiness, and it will not be possible to retrain a man to behave differently - this will lead to a scandal. First you need to calmly discuss the problem, and then think about a future together.

New feelings

Girls often cannot understand their feelings when a new person appears in their lives. You should give yourself time to understand. If a second young man has appeared in your life, it is impossible to give unambiguous advice, even in general terms. You should listen to yourself, try to record your own thoughts, analyze them. There is a possibility that by thinking about the other guy, the girl compensates for the lack of romance in this union, especially if the couple has been together for a long time.

Usually, a new love completely displaces the old one: your head is filled with something completely different, you don’t want to go home, you have no desire to interact with your other half. It is recommended to give yourself at least a month to figure it out, not to rush things and not to rush things.

Insults and assault

Love disappears if the partner humiliates the girl, hits, screams, mocks her. This is a case when you shouldn’t think about leaving - a woman should run away if she is terrorized, intimidated, and constantly belittled at home.

Reluctance to have children

In adult couples, the reason for separation may be the reluctance of one of the partners to have children. This applies to both sexes. If a couple doesn’t have the same plans for life, it’s better to break up. All the same, these people will not be happy together, since compromise in such situations is impossible.

It is recommended to talk, discuss the topic, and only then make a decision about separation. If a man wants to have children, but later, then perhaps it would be worth listening to him.

Gambling and bad habits

Gambling addictions and bad habits are so exhausting for some girls that over time they become disillusioned with their crush. Fighting a man’s hobbies tires, feelings, romance, and trust in each other die. In such a difficult situation, it is important to try to help the person, but if he rejects this help, then you should leave.

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Friends are more important than relationships

There are couples in which a man quarrels with his other half because he has constant friends. Often a girl doesn’t like her friends, and she tries to minimize contact with them.

It’s important to understand here that a guy can communicate with whoever he wants, these are his personal boundaries that you shouldn’t interfere with. If such friendship completely replaces relationships, then there is no point in them. Situations like this help you understand yourself and understand that there are no feelings anymore. Initially, it is worth talking about the problem and only then drawing conclusions from the conversation.

No more joint plans

Do you think the guy has fallen out of love? How to understand (from a distance or being close to him) for sure? Psychologists give a hint: in healthy relationships, people make joint plans for the future. They discuss the upcoming vacation, plan trips to relatives and much more. If your partner has stopped sharing his plans with you, taking an interest in your affairs, he has stopped feeling emotions for you!

Rudeness towards you

Sometimes people lose control of their emotions. A rude attitude is a clear sign of disrespect that is difficult to ignore. If your partner stopped paying attention to your feelings and began to constantly be rude and call you hurtful names, then this may be a sign of a lack of warm reciprocal feelings.

Don't tolerate rudeness

In a harmonious relationship, partners respect each other and are ready to accept a certain opinion of their loved one. But if a guy stops taking into account his partner’s opinion when resolving serious issues, it means that he stops taking her into account. Such unreasonable egoism also indicates that feelings are cooling. If a man stoops to humiliate a girl, especially in public, then there is definitely no mutual understanding within this couple.

The flow of criticism never stops

Only a young man who has fallen out of love can afford to treat his chosen one without respect. How to understand that a person has fallen out of love? He ridicules your interests or weaknesses, reproaches, devalues all your achievements. You shouldn’t indulge yourself with vain hopes and think that your lover is just tired and sometimes breaks down from overexertion. With a 99% probability, the guy simply stopped valuing you!

Discussing your partner in society

If you find out that your partner publicly shows interest in other women in society and even makes comparisons with them that are clearly not in your favor, then it is worth discussing this. You can safely say that the guy stopped loving you. A guy who makes such comparisons and discusses his girlfriend with friends in a negative way certainly doesn’t care whether his girlfriend will be pleased if she finds out about it.

If your partner allows himself to publicly criticize you, do not expect a long and harmonious relationship with him. This indicates a lack of respect and understanding of your person. A person who speaks negatively about his soulmate is not motivated by love.

A man discusses your shortcomings with friends

Yes, it is usually the prerogative of the fair sex to share with their girlfriends the experiences and problems that arise in relationships. But men rarely wash dirty linen in public. That is why it is a wake-up call when the person you love and are in a relationship with begins to humiliate and ridicule you in public. Psychologists do not recommend continuing such relationships, because your partner treats you without respect. But it will not be possible to build a reliable union without such an important component! Openly ridiculing or blaming you is an unconscious attempt to prove to yourself and others that it is only your fault that the man stopped loving you.

He no longer consoles you

It is quite difficult for representatives of the stronger sex to bear the sight of women's tears. The thing is that they contain certain volatile substances that can significantly reduce testosterone levels in the blood! But a loving man does not run out into another room - he courageously consoles his soul mate, even if the reason for upset is (in his opinion) trivial. But if a young man does not love you, there is a high probability that your tears will only irritate him!

Open display of indifference

Sometimes it is useful to assess your boyfriend's "employment level". If he is “bored” with you, he will not answer your calls and messages for a long time. The guy may forget to warn him that he will be late at work or be late for a meeting with his parents. If in such a situation you manage to get through to him, and he answers dryly and briefly or begins to behave as if nothing had happened, then you should have suspicions not only about the reciprocal feelings, but also about the connection on the side.

Dryness and indifference are noticeable to the naked eye

Your boyfriend may begin to literally ignore you. You will tell him something while sitting at dinner, but in response you will receive a disinterested look and a boring “uh-huh.” Frequent attempts to speak can even lead to an outburst of anger and insults directed at you.

How do you understand that you have stopped loving a person?

What should a guy do when he can’t figure out his feelings for his chosen one? What to do if it seems that love is gone? Psychologists say: you should watch your behavior. There are several moments that will allow you to understand that love for this woman has left your heart. Let's look at them in more detail:

You don't feel like flirting with her anymore. Flirting plays an important role in a relationship. It is this that allows you to revive your feelings and overcome the routine when you have been together for more than one year. If erotic photos and intriguing SMS messages from your beloved no longer fuel your interest in her, most likely there is nothing left of your love.
You are not trying to help her. Every sincerely loving man always puts the interests of his other half above the interests of distant relatives and friends. The opportunity to provide help is a great way to demonstrate your own strength and responsibility. As soon as fulfilling your girlfriend’s requests becomes an impossible task for you, you should think about whether it’s time for you to break up?
You have stopped being jealous. If you are absolutely indifferent to the attentions that other men show to your half, you do not want to fight for her and win her - this is a sure sign that you have cooled down.
You don't want to protect her. Psychologists note that most men have a need to protect their loved ones, including their beloved. If you don't care how your girlfriend or wife gets home late at night, if she gets lost in a strange city, you don't love her.

Often girls ask a similar question: “How can I tell if I’ve stopped loving a guy?” The answer is simple: a young lady who no longer has any feelings for her partner stops taking care of herself, does not strive to cook something special, your interests have become completely different. Even while watching a movie or TV series together, you no longer laugh or get upset in certain places.

What to do if a guy really falls out of love

When the fact of dislike has been determined, it is worth considering tactics of behavior.
There are 2 options - try to return or let your loved one go. If you decide to get your boyfriend back, you should put aside panic and emotions. You need to get distracted, have more fun, communicate with people, devote time to your hobbies. This will help you put your thoughts in order and not get depressed.

Analysis of mistakes made

To get love back, you need to understand your behavior. Love kills many factors, which boil down to two main ones:

“The love boat crashed into everyday life.” This common phrase never loses its relevance. Routine, money and economic problems are tiring. Everyday life cannot destroy a marriage, but it can dull and cool it down.
Treason. This is both a consequence and a cause of the fading of love in a couple. The mistress took a place in the man’s head, and perhaps in his heart.

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If the reason is absorption in everyday life, then there is a chance to stay together with the right approach. With betrayal everything is more complicated.

Tactics to re-win his heart

To give a relationship a second life, you need to tread carefully. Pity , blackmail and scandals will not achieve results:

You need to build a constructive dialogue with a man, listen to him without reproaches or displays of emotions.
After the conversation, show your indifference. It’s better to retire for a while, take care of your appearance - this will increase self-esteem and have an effect on a man if he still has feelings.
You need to behave kindly with a man, but keep your distance. Don't push, don't threaten.

These tips will help if you really have feelings. When a partner has completely fallen out of love, there is only one way out - to let him go.

If love was killed by betrayal

The desire to cheat in men becomes stronger with age. It is associated with a thirst for change, instincts. But it happens that a man really falls in love with another woman. Whether he will return or not is unknown. During this period, you should take care of your feelings, try to cope with the pain and try to act adequately.

If the betrayal is physiological, the man himself will not want a divorce. But adultery may become a habit for him. It is possible to save a marriage, but whether it is necessary is up to the woman to decide.

When a man fell in love with another, the chances are less. Waiting tactics will help here. If after a certain period the man has not made any attempts to return, then it is better to forget him.

A few more useful tips

After a partner admits to a lack of love, emotional recovery is first necessary. The situation is similar to the fact of betrayal, but is not always associated with it.

Even if a man doesn’t want to break up, it’s worth analyzing the situation yourself and drawing conclusions. Psychologists say that a healthy breakup is better than a sick relationship.

If it was decided to break the union, there is no need to create a new one for at least 1 year. Novels will not bring positive emotions and will repeat the same scenario.

What to do?

What actions should you take if you think your partner no longer loves you? First, we need to talk frankly. Otherwise, you may end up with an anecdotal situation where a woman is worried about the detachment of her beloved husband, and he is simply worried that his motorcycle has stopped starting. At the same time, it is important to understand that the conversation should be as calm as possible; under no circumstances should you throw a tantrum - this will not achieve anything. You should also refuse ultimatums - a person driven into a corner becomes completely unpredictable. And never tolerate humiliation and self-affirmation at your expense - this is no longer love!

The main reasons why love dies

There are several reasons that can kill a feeling. It's rare for couples to break up over just one thing, although it does happen. Even if the union has already collapsed, it is worth analyzing the situation. This will help you avoid making mistakes in the future.

Monotony and life

Monotony and everyday life come first, since many couples lead approximately the same lifestyle - work, housekeeping, financial problems, minor intra-family troubles. Sooner or later, this begins to become very tiring, partners are looking for new emotions outside of the relationship - someone starts an affair on the side, someone prefers to immerse themselves in work, hobbies, and friendly communication.

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Monotony cannot kill love if everything else is fine, it simply dulls feelings, creates an illusion and modifies a person’s mental state. It is not recommended to break up because of routine in everyday life - then a woman may regret it.

Lack of romance

If there is a feeling that all the romance has disappeared, then perhaps the girl has stopped loving the man. You need to pay attention to some nuances. When a feeling of uselessness or disinterest in a partner arises, you should look at how he behaves in everyday life.

Many young people simply do not think that their lovers have a need for romantic exploits on their part. Psychological comfort, mutual respect, and care shown in small things are important to them. If a guy declares his love, gives in, tries to please, but does not make any pleasant surprises, then you should not ruin the union.

It is recommended to talk with your partner and explain to him that passion in a relationship needs to be supported with something new, and to bring nice variety into your everyday life.