How to attract a girl's attention: 10 steps to complete love

So, you've finally found the girl of your dreams. Everything is fine, except for one little thing: she is not aware of the fact of your existence. And what’s worse, it seems to you that she is far beyond your capabilities - a kind of representative of the upper caste. She's popular, and you're a nerd, an unrecognized computer genius; She's a sporty babe, and you're a fat slob. Or, perhaps, your lady lives in her own house, while you eke out an existence in a small closet in your father’s house.

The question is, is there any hope for the future in such cases? The answer is yes. After all, it is quite possible that both you and she while away boring Friday evenings watching porn and playing computer games. And to achieve understanding and agreement, overcoming loneliness, you need just a little bit - to make a little effort for your goal.

So, let's talk about how you can interest the girl you like.

3. Smile3

Girls regard smiling as an evolutionary advantage. A smiling man for them is potential support and support. Since he himself, apparently, copes well with life’s storms and is generally capable of stopping even a hurricane or an airliner in its tracks. And also a smile allows you to cope with self-doubt - both your own and your lady's. You will be surprised, but girls are people too. They worry and get emotional quite a lot about how the stronger sex perceives them, whether what they say will seem stupid to someone, and so on.

Stop doing that

You write to your girl regularly, almost every day. What a romantic! But all your messages look something like this: “Hi, how are you? What are you doing?"

The girl patiently responds to your poetic masterpieces. This ends your dialogue. Do you really think that you are the only one who writes this platitude to her? Yes, the notorious Turks and Arabs writing messages to her in direct messages on Instagram are much more interesting interlocutors than you! And most of them know English at the level of Google translator.

Do you expect initiative from a girl, hoping that she herself will guess what a great conversationalist you are? Well, wait. In a couple of months you will be liking her photos with her new boyfriend.

PS And it won't be you.

Discuss things that interest her7

Catching a girl's attention is the best way to make her more open to communication and your personality in general. For example, if she is passionate about protecting the environment, you can safely bring up the topic of Greta Thunberg and all her achievements in the conversation. Moreover, mind you, this should be done only in the most positive light. God forbid you say something stupid about Greta while talking with an environmental activist - the result will be the opposite of what was expected.

If you demonstrate sincere interest in what is dear to a girl’s heart, rest assured, she will not leave you unattended.

First stage. Stand out from the crowd

At the beginning of the correspondence, you need to interest the girl so that in her eyes you look like a superman from the first words. You need to please her, surprise her, evoke positive emotions, drive, delight. What kind of conversations girls like is in another article.

Just write the first sentence:

“I was thinking about you” and don’t write anything further, otherwise you will ruin the matter. She may not like any further phrases or have a double meaning. Girls have a great imagination, she will come up with everything herself. What is the ideality of these words? Because you don't oblige the girl to answer. There is no pressure on her, but at the same time it’s nice that someone remembered her. And most importantly, this phrase is like a hook, raising a thousand questions. The lady will be interested, she will want to continue the conversation and will definitely answer something.
“I have big plans for this weekend. Would you like to join?" This is just a question, not a specific insistent proposal. The lady will understand that you have an interesting, cool life and it’s not a fact that you only invite her. If she doesn't agree to these grandiose plans now, someone else will take her place.
"Good morning! Have a great day!” Saying goodnight is not that cool. In the evenings everyone writes, it has become banal. But in the morning - this is the most favorable time for positive emotions. You will start her day, and involuntarily she will remember you.
You shouldn't be a boring, straight-A student who is afraid of offending her in some way. This will not evoke emotions. Thousands of men write the same phrases every day. If you wish good night, then add “May you dream about pink penguins.” If you write in the morning, then ask: “How did you sleep? Or was she robbing banks all night?” No templates, don't be afraid of originality. Even if they are stupid things, they will not go unnoticed.
Ask the right questions that cannot be answered in one phrase . “What happened today?”, “How did you like the movie?” Don’t ask: “How are you?”, rather find out: “How are you feeling?” Address her feelings and experiences, women love to talk about this.

Be a real gentleman8

Yes, feminists can brandish their right not to shave their armpits as much as they want and thereby turn into prehistoric women. But we’re not talking about them, are we? Most healthy girls with an adequate set of preferences still like it when they are treated like a gentleman - and just like a human being. Open a heavy door for her, because she is physically weaker. Put your hand on your waist while walking: it pleases her, as does you. Give your hand when she crosses the curb.

Don't ask, just do11

There are some guys who like to predict with questions. “Can I kiss you?” and similar statements look very stupid from the outside. Well, maybe you should ask your mother’s permission, because the future mother-in-law may be against it. Yes? There are guys who don’t care about opinions - she always wins, but only as long as the woman allows herself, the weak one, to be commanded.

I’ve probably long wanted to feel a man’s word, a shoulder nearby, support. This can be simply tiring, so any experiences need to be discussed. And when you come up with such questions, you don’t have to push them away by doing it your own way. Right now she lacks care, not a man’s “I said that, period.”

You also can’t take advice from a friend - he doesn’t know someone else’s woman, so he won’t be able to really say anything. If the relationship is built on trust, it will be easier to listen to the girl and understand her desires. No, this is not about sex now, just emotional conversations after bed - no one likes them, but you have to endure them.

And how much more will there be... about parents, teachers, exams and other nonsense at work. It is important to her, and as long as a man remains a listener, he will never become a real “fan” of his upbringing of a woman. Whenever a question comes up, you need to act, this is the only way to understand how to attract the attention of an ex or new girl. What to do next with this, and how to keep her close, is a completely different story.

Be presentable9

This concept includes a whole set of qualities - starting from appearance and ending with the general impression that you create. How does an unpresentable guy behave? A disheveled hairstyle, worthless clothes, a habit of calling five times at two in the morning - all this makes you look like a rural drunkard, and not a worthy gentleman. If you look good, you smell of pleasant perfume, and in communication you do not put pressure on your interlocutor - cards in hand, you have almost fulfilled the required minimum.

The transition from virtual to real communication

If correspondence with a beautiful girl lasts more than three months, it’s time to think about developing the relationship. A man’s task is to show a woman that he wants to build love in real life, and not in virtual space. For this:

Start corresponding with the lady on other planes. Take her phone number and periodically write pleasant SMS.
Offer to chat. Call at any time convenient for her and discuss all questions over the phone.
Use video calling for communication. Share real emotions using a webcam.

When the girl is happy to support all the ideas, it’s time to start talking about a real walk. Make a date in a cozy place and continue acquaintance face to face, not only seeing each other, but also feeling touches.

There is no need to rush to move from a virtual conversation to a real one. Get to know the girl better, then there will be no problems with communication when you meet.

Be as funny and amusing as possible11

Most women can't resist the charm of guys with a sense of humor. Therefore, start working on this quality now. This is especially useful if you have a so-called logical mind. By the way, sarcasm will serve you well here. No matter how attractive your queen is, most women still have an old, nasty, envious witch in their souls. Therefore, do not hesitate to mercilessly shower any women with streams of sarcasm. The fact is that girls perceive 99% of other female representatives as potential rivals. With the exception, of course, of closest friends, relatives and idols. So if you “take her side,” you will have no value in her eyes.

Second phase. Start making hints about sex

Write messages with sexual overtones. Women will look for double meaning in all phrases. “I thought about you and my mood immediately lifted,” “Just from the shower? So are you wet now?”, “Let’s have a hug.” These are all hints of sex. Women will not only understand this, but will also think about it. In this regard, women's fantasy knows no bounds.
Actively use humor . For example, in winter: “Let's go build a snowman. Do you have carrots? And I always have it with me.”
If you wrote and the girl didn’t answer, then you don’t need to pester her: “Huh? Where have you gone? Answer me, I’m worried, are you okay?” Just write: “Are you alive?” and a smiley face. She will definitely react to this message without irritation.
Don't bother me. Don't text her every ten minutes. She needs freedom and personal space, which you brazenly fill with your messages. I wrote it - don’t rush to write an answer. Sometimes disappear for a day. Women quickly get tired of hyper-interest and it will begin to dynamite you.
You end the correspondence. You are a man, you started it, you lead it, you control the progress and you finish it first. Let her not have the opportunity to read your message and remain silent. This way you lose your position.
Invite us to a personal meeting. You don’t need to think long about how to seduce a woman by correspondence, just go ahead and do it. I saw her interest and positive reaction - no need to be shy, drag her out on a date. No cool messages can replace personal, real communication. Women do not like texting; they are interested in men who act. While you write “How are you, did you get enough sleep?” she won't sleep with someone else.

Become a challenge for her12

If she is sure that you are in her hands, your chick’s interest may cool down significantly. Women love a challenge just as much as men. If it seems to her that you are already completely rolled into a ram’s horn and ready to be packed into her little handbag, you will be in trouble. She will be disappointed very quickly and will direct the vector of her attention to some stronger and more independent macho.

Plan to win a girl through correspondence

To make a girl fall in love with you on VK or another social network, you need to carefully develop an action plan. You should think through all the nuances, starting with acquaintance and ending with preparing for a meeting in real life.

Where to start a dialogue

Writing the first message on VK to a lady you like is always a little scary, because you want to make a good impression on her. To start a conversation with a stranger online, carefully look at her page:

analyze the information about hobbies and favorite books that the woman posted in her profile;
check out the profile photos;
review posts and saved demotivators;
study the groups she belongs to;
view music and videos in your account.

All this information will help you find a common topic for your first dialogue.

When coming up with your first message, forget about platitudes. “Hello, how are you?”, “Let’s get acquainted?”, “Good evening, beautiful” - such statements should not be made.

The first message should reveal the essence of the man and his purpose for entering into dialogue. In order for a girl to want to answer it, it must contain the following information:

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Who you are? A man must introduce himself - write his name, even though the page on the Internet is already personal.
For what purpose are you writing a message? A young man needs to immediately indicate his intentions: I want to chat, find a virtual friend, ask about the resort in the photo, discuss a book, get an opinion about a film.
Why did the choice fall on this girl out of the numerous women’s profiles? The guy should explain what attracted him: he discovered a common hobby, noticed interesting photos on the page.

A message with detailed information will interest the lady, especially if the man was attracted not by the beauty in the photo, but by the girl’s interests.

You can write a message to the lady with the following content: “Good afternoon, Anna! I saw a video on your profile from a concert of my favorite band. I'm going to buy a ticket to the performance. Share your impressions and whether it’s worth going. By the way, I’m sorry, I completely forgot - my name is Nikolai.”

Topics for conversation

In order for a girl to like correspondence on VKontakte or any other social network, a man needs to prepare in advance a list of topics that will be discussed in the conversation. This will help avoid awkward pauses, thanks to which the woman will have a pleasant impression of the communication skills of her interlocutor.

To get closer to a girl on the Internet, touch on the following topics of discussion during correspondence:

Occupation: where he studies, what profession he wants to get, where he works, why he was attracted to this activity.
Hobbies: what sport does the lady prefer, why King is her favorite author, how she likes to spend her weekends, what sites she visits.
Art is a broad topic of conversation that helps to find out the interlocutor’s point of view on situations depicted in films. Favorite musical compositions, painting, attitude towards theatrical performances - all this information may be useful in the future, when a man conquers a girl in a real meeting.
Travel: what places you managed to visit, what countries you want to visit. Ask the girl about pleasant impressions from the trip, ask about the culture and architecture of her hometown.
Food preferences are a big topic of conversation that will help you choose a restaurant for a date in the future.

Gradually, you will have more common topics with your interlocutor. To get closer to a girl online, try to find a common activity. For example, watch the same movie together and then discuss it, spend time on the same forum helping other users solve important strategic issues.

Phrases that will melt her heart

When pleasant conversations on the Internet have become a daily ritual, it’s time to move on to more “heavy artillery.” Women love with their ears. Online correspondence does not always allow you to implement this method of conquering your beloved, although many instant messengers and social networks (VK, WhatsApp or Viber) make it possible to send voice messages.

To melt a lady’s heart, use romantic phrases during a conversation that will not only caress her eyes, but also excite her soul.

It should be taken into account that the psychology of women plays an important role in the perception of pleasant words. If a lady is not ready to get closer, any hint of romance will be met with hostility. But don’t give up, perhaps such a girl needs more time to direct communication towards love. Gradually accustom her to affectionate words, then over time she will begin to need them.

Check out examples of phrases that are sure to melt the heart of a virtual friend:

This morning I thought of you as soon as I opened my eyes. I really wanted to wish you a good day!
It’s so strange... We’ve been communicating recently, but I already feel lonely when the coveted online sign doesn’t light up on your profile.
It's a pity that we are separated by kilometers. I would love to be next to you now to wish you good night in your ear.
I'm glad we started communicating. This is exactly the kind of girl I have been looking for all these years.
One day I saw a shooting star and made a wish - to meet the woman of my dreams. You know, it seems to me that it came true on the day when I wrote you a message for the first time.
Today I dreamed of us walking through the park and holding hands. It's a pity that it was just a dream.
I looked at your profile photos today and I wanted to take one of them and put it on the screensaver of my PC. Can? I love it when there is a beautiful picture on my desktop!

Compliments to girls are always pleasant. Write them from the heart, then the lady will not be able to resist such seduction.

What not to write about

One wrong word can ruin your relationship with a virtual friend. To avoid this, consider the main mistakes guys make:

There are situations when it is not possible to immediately respond to a message on Odnoklassniki or VK. Do not write to the girl immediately after answering: “Finally! Why did it take so long to answer? Such persistent and selfish behavior will scare away the lady.
If a woman writes that she is in a bad mood, it means that she wants a man to support her and ask about the reasons. Often guys, having heard something like this, send messages with the following content: “Okay, then we’ll chat!” Indifference to a woman's problems will not lead to her developing feelings.
You should not ask a girl intimate questions, especially if the conversation began a few minutes ago. The woman will decide that the guy is only interested in sex, so it’s not worth wasting her time on him.

Do not write about former passions if your friend did not ask about it. Don't mention them in a negative or intimate way.
If a girl is a vegetarian or is a representative of a movement that you do not support, you should not write your negative attitude towards this. She will consider such behavior as an attempt to insult her.

Always pay close attention to the conversation. If your friend's mood worsens, the conversation may be going in the wrong direction. The faster you eliminate the obstacles, the better for the future development of the relationship.

Use the “Investment Principle”15

It means that your contribution to communication is approximately equal to her contribution to communication or conversation. For example, if she tells a lot about herself, then you also post as much information as possible about yourself; she is silent - and you, too, remain silent, like a fish. Just don’t think that this principle will force her to open up under pressure. If you bombard her with your messages day and night, believe me, nothing good will come of it. She may want to make an equal contribution to the relationship along the lines mentioned above. But this will completely kill all the spontaneity of your relationship.

So the best option is to give her as much information as she gives about herself. Or a little less.

Always be a true friend - put aside gossip3

It all starts with a smile... just like the song they sang in schools in the 00s. If you manage to control yourself, the girl will begin to trust, but not everything. Because in a relationship, quarrels cannot be avoided, and the slightest hint of compromising evidence is a high price to pay for sociability and emancipation. A girl should feel that a friend is nearby, and not a quiet bastard, ready to betray her for a couple of photos.

You should also not pretend to be homosexual. And further:

If a girl says directly that she doesn’t see a life partner in a guy, this is a good reason not to lose anything and remain friends.
If she asks about intentions, it means she figured it out. You can act.

The first method of “checking” can be understood differently - if she is under 18 years old, such questions do not mean that she does not need a guy. On the contrary, she wants to see how seriously the boy takes her. Perhaps this is a hint of continuing communication as not a friend, but a real loving person.

Don't try to please her16

You've probably already noticed that as soon as you start talking to girls, many of them start complaining about you or just grumbling. No, this is not early female aging. It's just that the female sex sometimes reacts to the guys they like - well, you know, it's a kind of unconscious training before the start of marriage. The girl tests your strength: will you withstand her whining, hysterics and grumbling if you suddenly manage to get her into your network.

So, if she starts complaining to you about your own haircut, don’t be fooled! If you react and try to please her in any way, you will hammer the last nail into the coffin of your hope. Deliberately straighten your bangs and tell her in a confident tone: “This is my image, baby. Whether you like it or not, I look like this, so don’t judge me.”

In general, the important thing here is that you do not try to please her and remain consistent with your opinion.

Smile and good mood8

Scientists have proven that a smile can make a person ready to talk or listen. Almost 87% of strangers surveyed were willing to listen to advertisements when they were smiled at. With girls, as with people [smile], this will work too.

It will be easier for her to perceive information about herself - she likes the person, looks beautiful, compliments.
Guys should understand that if a girl is not ready to communicate, catching her by the hand and bothering her is unnecessary. It is enough to call her by name. It is the sweetest thing from the mouth of strangers when you hear your personal name given at birth.
You can’t constantly whine and complain - gloomy men, like children, are constantly dissatisfied with something, dividing something between their colleagues at work, fellow students or classmates.

I would really not like to see a man who is a slobber, unable to remain calm for a long time. If he is nice to the girl, but treats the waiter like a servant, it means that over time, under different circumstances, the woman risks falling under the hot hand. This is not advice to control yourself until a reason presents itself to crack it. Just stay calm, always.

Engage her emotions18

Let her feel like a real Queen - and then you can deprive her of this feeling for a while to consolidate the result. Moreover, the more compliments and strategies you use to instill this feeling in her, the better. Let us explain: the fact is that a woman seeks to attract a man with the help of her appearance. And they know well what we need. This is one of the reasons why porn has exploded in popularity. If things were the other way around, then millions of women would be online, looking at naked male bodies.

So, what is much more important for girls is not their appearance (although, as you understand, it plays a role), but how they feel with men. That is why your communication style should always make her feel emotionally involved.

Tips for attracting female attention

Let's start with the fact that girls are human beings, their reactions and needs are completely human. Top 5 tips to help attract the woman of your dreams:

Don't rush things. You don’t need to immediately tell a woman that she is ideal, and you are ready to marry her and give birth to 5 children a year. This can be off-putting or intimidating. Let her get to know you, think, reason.
Be confident. Most girls like brave young men, but not selfish ones. It will be nice if you just approach her, start a conversation about nothing, and show your interest.
Make friends with other representatives of the fairer sex. It is important to understand here that communication should not turn into flirting. If she notices that other girls want to be friends with you, this will pique her interest.
Give compliments. Only this must be sincere, women know how to recognize flattery, you shouldn’t even try. It may be awkward, with a bit of embarrassment, but the compliment should come from the heart.
Make friends with her friends. Yes, this is a difficult task, but it makes sense to try. She will communicate with these people often, it is better if they know you.

Oddly enough, attracting the attention of your ex-girlfriend will be the easiest thing. Remember what she loved during your relationship. For example: delicious food, compliments, walks in the park, cute gifts, and the like. Please the girl and she will pay attention to you.

From the advice received, we can conclude that there is no need to do anything complicated in the fight for a woman’s heart. Be an attentive, neat and confident guy and girls will line up to be your girlfriend.

Don't ignore your own animal nature19

Do you want to look at her sweet buns with an appraising look? Please. But if you are embarrassed, you will not be forgiven. If you try to hide your desires, you will expose yourself as a loser in the girl’s eyes. And in principle, why are you approaching her? To eventually enter into a physical relationship with her. So express your intentions with looks, movements, gestures - and even with words. We don’t care - the main thing is that you don’t get embarrassed and don’t follow social stereotypes. After all, only those who were brainwashed at a young age by social norms of behavior deny their animal nature. A confident man is aware of his nature; his priority is personal interests.

Never irritate - brand new appearance4

It is unlikely that a man or young man aged 18-20 years old is able to attract the attention of a girl who looks beautiful and elegant. Just imagine, she goes on a date in a dress, and next to her is a boy in shorts from an underground couturier, sneakers for 5,000 rubles, but unwashed and not cleaned.

Of course, it would be a shame to appear in public with such role models. If a girl is expensive, you just need to match her understanding of style. Classic, welcome to the jacket. If she dresses freestyle, then she undoubtedly needs to somehow change the tuxedo to a simple checkered shirt.

Don't forget about the price of the event. School grades and parties are all in the past. Nowadays young people not only go to clubs, but also visit libraries. If this trend is not alien, you should already take a closer look at shoes or moccasins, depending on the season.

Watch your physical condition20

If you're a fat man with vague forms, you won't see women like your ears. Forget not only about the lady who interested you, but also about everyone else. Including the last ugly Betty in your circle. You might find a beer belly really cute yourself (and maybe your mom, too). But women look at fatty charms a little differently. Kamon, stop lying on the couch - the gym is already missing you!

Recommendations from psychologists: how to make her think about you?7

Not just a glance in the direction of a man, but real affection is promised by psychologists who have developed a plan-strategy. Since we need to move from theory to practice, we should always seek advice from psychologists who know how to influence the human subconscious without gestures or words. It was proven a long time ago that simple things will help not only to win over your interlocutor, but also to turn him into a dependent individual.

We are talking about NLP - nonverbal or neurolinguistic programming of human consciousness. If you master a few lessons, you can move on to practical exercises - constructing a speech correctly, catching your partner in a specific thought, or guessing his desires. In relation to girls, this is, oh, how useful.

We have collected everything you need to know about how to care for a girl and not lose face in the dirt in our article.

Bonus: guess a fact from her life

This method works almost flawlessly. You look at her, she looks at you; at this moment it is necessary to make some hypothesis about her way of life. This way you can start a conversation almost out of the blue.

Well, for example. She has a scratch on her knee. Don't be stupid, ask: do you have a cat? Or, for example, you saw a shell keychain on her purse. Here you can also find out about the location of her last vacation. In general, only your imagination limits you. But remember that when using this method it is very important to guess, “hit the bull’s eye.” But even if you can’t do this, it doesn’t matter.

Self-esteem and pride - do not compare yourself with others5

When talking to girls, you should not be influenced by the public. For example, studying in the same stream on the same course, a guy pretends to be a friend, asking a girl for an outside opinion. “What do girls think of me?” and questions like this will confuse a girl. She, of course, will tell him, maybe not the whole truth, or, on the contrary, she will embellish it too much to put him in his place.

But further communication will be over - not because of his curiosity, but simply because of the impossibility of existing without someone else’s opinion. A kind of narcissist - everything is about himself, and about himself.

What girl likes to talk about the comparative traits of two guys? I want to be higher than the other (ex), it’s better not to raise this topic at all and not to insult him - he was her choice, which she made herself. And then the loser of the world appeared, giving out stupid advice on how to choose guys. Sir, are you referring to yourself? Go to hell, sir!

Social status.

Any girl wants to be with the best, so your social status will be one of the determining factors for her in choosing a partner.

Yes, at the first stage of dating, your status is far from playing the main role. But if you are planning something serious with this girl, you will have to strain yourself.

Here you still need to understand for yourself what this notorious social status is. Since this is not only a position you occupy at work, but also leadership in a certain circle of society.

Non-verbal communication.

For a girl, it is very important how you behave, how you behave in public. How beautifully and harmoniously you can present yourself. Many factors speak about this. For example, posture, voice, gait, facial expressions. All this needs to be pumped up.

Your posture will best reveal the alpha in you, because a lot of things really depend on it. You shouldn't slouch and constantly look at the floor. Straighten your shoulders, raise your head. Your gait should be very confident and your face should be relaxed.

If you pass by a girl, be sure to smile at her. This will make her feel more relaxed. Your gaze should always be directed at the girl. Under no circumstances should you lower your eyes, this is a sign of submission.

You must speak slowly and clearly enough, use the correct emphasis, and avoid filler words in your speech. All girls love with their ears.

Nonverbal communication is one of the ways of self-expression. If you learn how to use this tool correctly, you can win the girl's favor and make your conversation more effective.

How to interest a girl in live communication

The best places to meet in person are a bookstore, a concert, a museum or a fitness club if a man is looking for a life partner. The street, bars, and clubs are suitable places to search for sex.

Space, for example, a theater, provides a point of contact. If there is no space, you need to create it yourself. You can either choose direct acquaintance, or start a conversation in the context of current events.

Communication structure: question – answer – comment. The guy’s task is to comment on the answers and constantly start a new round of communication. He will talk more and talk quickly, since during an acquaintance there are only a few minutes to interest a woman. It is recommended to immediately address each other on a first-name basis to avoid distance. It doesn’t need to take a lot of time: a small conversation, a request to exchange contacts and goodbye.

Otherwise, to interest a girl in live communication, everything works the same as in correspondence, social networks and dating sites.

If a man is already familiar with the object of interest, you can use all the information about the girl and pleasantly surprise him with a gift, praise, a letter, or an invitation to an interesting event.

Ability to carry on a conversation.

I have already said that girls love to hear beautiful, competent, clear speech. Therefore, you must improve your eloquence to the maximum. You must talk about the right topics, while making sure that the girl is really interested in everything you tell her.

Don't ask too many questions, otherwise she will feel like she's being interrogated. Place more emphasis on simple communication with her.

Speak with the correct intonation. It's emotional enough that she'll be interested in listening to you. At the same time, use artistic techniques to make your speech richer (metaphors, epithets, hyperboles - all this should be in your conversation).

You may not be super handsome, but if you have that charisma that you can express if you learn how to conduct a conversation correctly, then you are guaranteed 90% of success.