Beautiful girls are always surrounded by a crowd of fans. How to stand out among the gray mass and become the only one in her life. Take into account 10 tips on how to woo a girl who doesn’t want a relationship with you, and everything will work out.
To get a girl, you don't need to be a wizard or a prince on a white horse. It is enough to understand what women want and what kind of men they like.
Modern girls make the following demands on guys:
- A man must be neat and clean. Remember that people are greeted by their clothes.
- The guy is responsible for his actions and words. If he promises, he always fulfills it, and does not talk idle talk.
- The ideal gentleman has a good sense of humor. Vulgar jokes and obscene anecdotes are not the best option for maintaining a conversation. Subtle humor is a sign of intelligence and proper upbringing.
- The man is honest and you can trust him. He is open to communication himself and wants to receive honest answers to questions from his beloved.
- You can rely on the guy, he is reliable. He can solve his own problems and is not afraid to take responsibility for the girl.
- A man knows how to listen and empathize. Doesn't interrupt the girl if she's worried about a difficult situation, and gives practical advice.
- He is generous, does not count how much money he spent on his beloved and does not make claims against her for requests for gifts and surprises.
- A brave man is not afraid to admit his mistakes and ask for forgiveness for his misdeeds. And he also knows how to forgive a girl.
- A guy must be able to devote sufficient time and attention to his beloved. In addition, do not forget about gifts, compliments, and important dates for their couple.
- Ready to accept rejection with dignity. Often women do not refuse men directly, but they also do not agree to develop the relationship further, so as not to cause aggression in the gentleman.
You can’t be perfect in everything, but women appreciate the desire to change for the sake of their beloved, to try to live up to her ideas about a real man. It won't take this guy long to win a girl. He will go towards his goal and achieve it, and the woman will follow him.
To quickly understand how to act, use our tips. The instructions “10 steps to win an unapproachable girl” can become your reference book.
What women really want
To understand how to get the attention of an ex-girlfriend or someone you just like, it is necessary, first of all, to understand some aspects of female psychology. To be intimate with the opposite sex, they need an emotional connection, affection, and trust. A man can easily make contact with a companion he likes, but a girl needs to make sure that the stranger’s sympathy is not fake, but real.
This is why some female representatives behave coldly and secretively on first dates. But, of course, you shouldn’t rule out the fact that she may simply not like her partner. In such cases, it will be more difficult to win the lady’s favor. But there is no need to give up.
During communication, a woman always considers her partner as a potential companion, husband, father of her children. Even if she is now busy with her career, study or self-realization, one way or another, to create a relationship she needs to be sure that her partner will fit the roles described above. So, what does a woman need from a man?
Reliability2
Probably, someone will think that material wealth or appearance will come first. But that's not true. No amount of beautiful appearance and impressive material wealth will make a lady happy if her partner is not reliable and faithful.
This behavior gives a woman confidence in the future, emotional strength, and protection. A man's wealth is not a guarantee of his adequate attitude towards his partner. Therefore, ladies with normal self-esteem and perception of the world choose a companion not only based on material wealth.
Male strength and reliability force a woman to be calm for herself and her children. And it is not necessary to have million-dollar bank accounts.
Appearance
In any society you meet a person by his clothes. There is an opinion that a man does not need to shower often, wear ironed clothes, comb his hair, etc. All this is wrong behavior. Girls with such guys are unpleasant to be around, even if they initially aroused interest.
What changes are recommended to be made to the appearance:
- Hygiene. You should always be neat, take a shower more often, keep your hair, nails, etc. clean.
- Cloth. The choice of clothing has a great influence on a girl's interest. If a guy has not yet found his own style, you can look at the current fashionable combinations of things. Over time, taste and style will begin to develop, which will allow you to choose clothes wisely and look attractive.
- Muscle work. Since childhood, girls have been taught that a man should be strong and able to protect her. The physical condition of the body is also important to start attracting girls. You can start building muscles at home or in the gym. Over time, training will become a habit, and the result will begin to motivate you to go further.
- Desires. Nowadays there are no prohibitions on changing one’s appearance, so others calmly react to guys with earrings, tattoos, dreadlocks, etc. All this allows one to add a certain individuality to one’s appearance. It is recommended to use accessories if desired.
Very quickly you will notice how girls' looks change when they meet a seemingly attractive guy.
Emotional attachment 3
A woman loves with her ears, so she needs regular confirmation of male love. She wants to see that they need her, they want to see her, hug her, kiss her. Sometimes it is quite difficult for men to maintain this connection.
After all, they do not need regular confirmation of their partner’s love. A man's love is more focused on action - he provides for the family, goes shopping, walks the dog every morning, and so on. For him, this is a manifestation of love, respect, help.
But this is not enough for the ladies. They need to know that these daily actions of their partner are not a boring, familiar ritual, but the same love. Therefore, from time to time a woman wants to receive those romantic bouquets and invitations to dates. Even if the relationship has long passed the candy-bouquet period.
Should I pursue girls? How and why you should do this again and again, read the article at the link.
Respect 4
Any adequate person with normal self-esteem wants to be respected. The same goes for girls. She wants her work, friends, and parents to be respected. And even if this job does not bring in much income, and the friend does not inspire trust at all.
Men quite often devalue women's activities or hobbies, considering them useless and meaningless. Especially if the partner’s work brings in much less income.
This principle of behavior makes a woman deeply unhappy, because her loved one does not support and does not share her interests and endeavors. Therefore, when entering into a relationship, you need to give your partner maximum respect and support for all her hobbies.
Pay attention
A very simple rule, but the guys somehow manage to screw it up. Pay attention to her, listen to her, act as if her words are important. Women like to think that men are interested in them as individuals. Sometimes that's how it goes. Either way, listen to her and don't just nod your head like a dummy.
Periodically insert your comments and express interest. Even beauties want to believe that they are curious: this is a matter of pride, and not only that. Believe it or not, they also want to have a good time before you fall into bed together and go your separate ways forever.
Material independence6
A man's financial situation is important to a woman. This way she can understand about her partner’s readiness to provide for the future family and help in difficult situations. It’s not normal if a lady chooses a man only based on his financial status. And if money is important to her in tandem with responsibility and reliability, there is nothing wrong with that.
After all, few adequate women would want to throw in their lot with an unemployed slob. In addition, the financial independence of a partner makes it clear to the lady that he tried, developed his skills, and abilities in order to come to what he has. This will make you think about the man’s literacy and reliability.
Don't apologize for your intentions
It happens that during a conversation with a girl you begin to feel embarrassed, and this greatly complicates the process. What is the purpose of the conversation? Charming a girl, that's what it's all about. Is there anything bad about this? Not at all. Don't be arrogant, don't act like a jerk, be nice to her, listen to her, make her laugh. Do it all. But remember that you ultimately have one goal. There is no need to worry or suffer because of this. Say you're sorry in the morning.
Loyalty7
Women are jealous creatures who see only rivals around them. You should not think that only representatives of the stronger sex are possessive and jealous. If necessary, ladies will sacrifice friendship with their friends if they see even the slightest suspicion of flirting or betrayal. Therefore, a woman wants complete fidelity from her loved one. Read more about how to maintain trust in a relationship in the article at the link.
And naturally, no feigned flirting with others to inflame her feelings. This is the act of an insecure person with whom an adequate woman would not want to be. If a problem has arisen in a relationship or the former passion has disappeared, you should mutually look for a way out, and not inflame passions by flirting with other girls.
How to get the girls you like8
When it has become approximately clear what a girl wants from a man, you can begin to take action. How to get a girl and her attention? Psychologists advise initially to stop persistently pursuing this thought.
The more pressure on a lady, the more she wants to run away. To achieve her favor, you need to act softly, easily, naturally. So that she doesn’t even have the idea that all this is a set-up. There should be a touch of spontaneity in communication.
If you are constantly preoccupied with the thought of conquest, this can lead to depression and disastrous results. After all, regularly thinking about his actions, a man begins to doubt the correctness of his actions, which brings with it a series of disappointments. What to do next? How to win the girl of your dreams?
Confidence10
To please a lady, you need to be confident on dates. Women do not like whiners and pathological jealous people, especially if they show their true colors from the first meeting. There is no need to complain about life, about the commercialism of former partners, or make complaints if your companion looked at the phone and answered the message. This will push you away from communication and will definitely not help win her heart.
You should also not make complaints if the girls did not respond with reciprocity or emotional intimacy after the first two meetings. This toxicity will only destroy the created image. You need to be confident and behave calmly. Show that other men pose no danger.
It is also a mistake to be excessively possessive from the first days of dating. You don’t need to call the woman you like every hour and bombard her with questions. Perhaps this tactic works with teenage girls who crave 24/7 texting with guys. A busy and working woman will definitely not like this pressure. And she, most likely, will immediately put an end to this satellite.
The best option is to call in the evening or on a weekend and offer to go out for dinner or lunch. Messages should be in a casual format. In correspondence, you can find out about some of the lady’s preferences in order to know where to invite her next time.
Be confident, not arrogant
Don Quixote once said: “If you want to be a knight, act like a knight.” The same principle works with women. If you want to seem like a confident, successful man among women, behave accordingly. Remember that arrogance does not mean confidence; on the contrary, it shows timidity.
Be yourself, but behave in such a way that the woman understands that you are worth it. It doesn't matter to you whether she's interested or not, you're doing a great job anyway. Women are crazy about confident guys until they become cocky idiots.
Sense of humor12
A sense of humor, self-irony and small notes of sarcasm are a great thing to impress a woman. There is no need to tell well-known stories and jokes; humor should come from within. If it doesn’t work out, then it’s better not to try. You may end up on the lady’s “black list” of admirers. Of course, before showing off your skills, you should make sure that the woman herself understands humor.
Call her somewhere
This is what I call the “glow check.” Just don’t do it too early, otherwise it won’t work and you’ll be sent away. But if things are going well, take her somewhere else (just not to your place). Here's what I mean : ask her if she wants to go to another bar, take her out for a bite to eat, go for a walk. Anything, really.
The point is this: if the girl you're charming doesn't mind changing locations, she'll soon agree to come to you (even if she's pretending it's completely different). If she doesn't agree, you can always stop and move on, which is also a good thing.
Focus13
During meetings, you need to show your companion maximum interest in her. Don't miss the slightest detail. If she talked about upcoming plans or an idea, it’s worth asking her in more detail, showing interest, and supporting her. Even if this topic is completely uninteresting. This will make it clear that the fan is interested in the girl not only as a sexual object.
Naturally, during a date you don’t need to look at passing girls or cars outside the window, much less check your phone regularly. It is important to show your companion that this evening no things can distract the man from her.
Be persistent
I know I said before not to waste time. Now I say you have to be persistent. Contradictory, isn't it? Not at all. If she is not interested, you should not try, but if she shows reciprocal signs of attention, be persistent, no matter where you are.
Sooner or later everything will fall into place, because she is also trying to understand your feelings. She doesn't want to spend the night with you and feel used, she wants to feel genuine interest. So give it to her. Spend time with her, be attentive. Your persistence will be rewarded.
Compliments 14
Girls love pleasant words, but not hackneyed banal phrases. It is worth giving a real and sincere compliment, for example, about an exquisite perfume or a beautiful dress. About what really makes her stand out this evening. But you don’t need to overwhelm them all evening, as the girl may doubt the veracity of her companion’s words. We will advise and teach you how to give the best compliments to a girl in the article at the link.
Communication15
On first dates, it is important to find common topics of conversation, so it is better to talk about what is interesting to the woman. You should not bring up conversations about former partners, ask your companion about the reasons for the breakup and the qualities of your ex-boyfriend. The date should take place in real time and not concern the past in any way.
There is also no need to brag about your financial situation. An adequate lady will regard this as an opportunity to bribe her. A mercantile woman will immediately see a man as a bag of money. Therefore, topics for conversation should be light, pleasant and unobtrusive. It’s better to ask about the girl’s hobbies and her plans for the future. You can support her and say that the plans coincided. Granted, this is not entirely true. In general, you need to make the evening as comfortable as possible.
Control yourself 16
No matter how attractive a girl is, you should not make unnecessary movements and incline her towards intimacy. For many ladies, the moment of courtship is important; they need to understand that their partner sacrifices something for the sake of meetings, and does not want to get everything ready at once.
In addition, according to psychologists, many men enjoy the process of conquest and courtship. After all, a girl who agreed to everything at once quickly ceases to be interesting and valuable, because no effort was invested in her. And the one that was obtained thanks to certain efforts leaves a mark on the soul.
These are the basic rules that an adequate man must use to get a girl. It is worth noting that you need to follow the advice during the relationship, and not just during the candy-bouquet period.
Of course, not all expectations are always met, and that’s normal. Perhaps the lady has different tastes in men or her heart is occupied elsewhere. In any case, do not despair and be offended by the female sex. Moreover, try to take revenge in some way on a woman who did not accept courtship.
This will let the admirer go even more in her eyes, and then she will definitely not want to have anything to do with him ever again.
And what methods girls resort to to achieve their goal, read further at the link in our article on how to attract the love of a man.
Do you have a good job? Talk about it. No? You're lying
Before you continue reading, let me remind you: this is an article on how to impress a woman, not how to find a future wife. Of course, if you lie to your date that you are a lawyer and graduated from Princeton, and then it turns out that you are a gardener with a high school education, your relationship will not last long. But if you don’t have far-reaching plans, and at the same time you earn good money, use it.
Artists, writers and actors appeal to aesthetes. Lawyers, investors and entrepreneurs are more interesting to business girls. If you are one of them or are doing something similar, congratulations, you can succeed. Otherwise, lie. If you don't like lying, that's great. You'll make a great boyfriend for someone, just not tonight.
