Pleasant things for a man without intimacy: ways to make him happy even at a distance

If you haven't given your loved one a surprise for a long time, it's time to do it to refresh your relationship.

Often in relationships we simply forget about all sorts of pleasant little things that may be pleasant to our loved one.

But we all love pleasant surprises that remind us that two halves still need each other.

If you have planned a surprise and you don't have any ideas yet what it should be, there are some tips and ideas that will help you.

As a surprise, you can arrange an unusual date for your beloved girl, or prepare a gift for her/him with your own hands, or maybe both.

What do men like?

The interests of men are varied, so a woman needs to try to find a trick that will help her to please her beloved one hundred percent. So, a guy can love:

• hunting;
• fishing;
• computer games;
• cheer at sports competitions;
• exercise;
• work;
• travel;
• engage in tourism;
• collect;
• cars;
• animals.

And many more different things.

You can show a young man affection if you come up with something to surprise your boyfriend with. It is not difficult to bring him joy if you know well what he loves. You need to remember everything that is usually interesting to him and choose the most appropriate one depending on the situation.

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Train your intimate muscles

You've probably heard of Kegel exercises. This is a set of exercises to increase the tone of women's intimate muscles. It is believed that daily performance of these exercises works real miracles: it increases sexual potential and enhances the power of orgasm, prevents the development of many diseases, and generally prolongs the youth of the female body

It is recommended to perform Kegel exercises as many times as you are old. This will not require time, because they can be performed in almost any conditions, while walking, sitting at your workplace - just don’t be lazy! A man will definitely appreciate the changes that will begin to happen to you after completing these exercises.

Dependence on the age of the chosen one

You need to surprise your loved one taking into account his age. If a young man can be asked to ride a horse, then perhaps a respectable man will no longer be able to do it. A gentleman older than middle age is unlikely to be tempted by night walks and other romantic activities associated with physical activity. Perhaps hot tea and cozy evenings by the fireplace will be the best surprise for such a partner, and an exercise bike will be the most exotic gift for him.

A young and energetic person, on the contrary, is shown risky adventures and other activities that lead to the waste of calories. You can safely give him a trip to a ski resort or diving equipment.

Think through the details

Men don't pay attention to details - that's a stereotype. Yes, they may not be able to notice all the little things, but they perfectly capture the overall atmosphere created thanks to correctly selected details.

Scented candles, black or red satin bed linen (luxurious and stylish), soft comfortable slippers, some nuts and favorite fruits on the bedside table, as well as a bottle of expensive wine, pleasant music... Agree, the imagination immediately draws a beautiful picture in which it is easy and comfortable to love each other…

Details can be changed: different degrees of lighting, different smells, high-heeled shoes and fishnet stockings, or a dressing gown with no underwear underneath. Of course, the sexual act itself is not very beautiful. It is shown beautifully only in the movies. In life it means tousled hair, sweaty backs, moans and screams. But beauty can be a prelude to love. A woman was created to bring beauty into this world and paint everyday days and nights with unforgettable colors.

Basic Rules

When choosing a way to surprise her boyfriend, a girl needs to take into account her capabilities and his desires.

If a young man loves heights and dreams of skydiving, fulfilling such a dream may be too expensive for a woman. In this case, you can organize dinner at a restaurant on the roof or organize a jump from a height (bungee jumping).

If a young man likes to play World of Tanks, then it is unwise to give him aftershave lotion. A couple of tanks will bring him much more joy.

Feed him the right food

Watch your diet, try to lead a healthy lifestyle, more healthy complex carbohydrates and proteins, which are found in lean fish and white meat, less fast food, sweets and alcohol.

The right menu for a man should contain as many seafood products as possible, especially oysters, mussels, shrimp and squid (of course, in Russia it is not easy to find them of appropriate quality, but perhaps you should treat yourself to trips to fish restaurants and, of course, “eat up in reserve "during a holiday at sea).

As snacks, offer him a variety of nuts as often as possible: walnuts, almonds, pistachios. They contain useful vitamins that directly affect potency.

And, of course, a man’s diet should include a lot of greens and vegetables: parsley, radishes, lettuce are the best helpers before a stormy night.

Basic methods and reasons

The reason for a surprise can be anything: the date of a meeting, a birthday, receiving an award. It is always pleasant to please a loved one, so even the absence of a real reason should not be taken into account.

In words

A faithful friend can give a pleasant surprise to her man in different ways. It is most convenient to use the following ideas for this purpose:

1. Place a beautifully signed postcard in a folder with business papers.
2. Record on a voice recorder and put your congratulations on his phone.
3. Install a screensaver with a poem on your desktop or home computer.

Kind words will give your boyfriend strength for the whole working day. There is no need to worry that the young man may not like it. If a guy loves a girl, he will rejoice at such a manifestation of feelings.

with a kiss

Most girls know two types of kisses, while there are many more. If the task arises of how to please your loved one, then you can try to demonstrate to him an amazing way of showing tenderness. At least one of the described kisses will undoubtedly delight him:

• butterfly kiss;
• royal;
• angelic;
• contour;
• colloquial;
• fruit.

In order to surprise your loved one and evoke tenderness in him, a “butterfly” is suitable. During a regular kiss, the girl brings her face closer to her partner and begins to blink quickly so that her eyelashes slide along his cheek. Light touches of eyelashes to the skin excite both partners.

The royal kiss demonstrates the trust that a girl has in her boyfriend. At the moment of touching your lips, you need to run your tongue along the outer and inner sides of the teeth.

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An angel's kiss is applied to the eyelid of a closed eye. It turns out very erotic and exciting.

With a contour kiss, the girl’s lips move along the contour of the lips without going into the middle.

Conversational kiss - touching your partner's closed mouth with your lips, you need to quietly whisper compliments so that the girl's breath mixes with the young man's breath.

The fruit kiss is not for everyone. To do this, you need to take a strawberry with your lips and start a French kiss. When the lips are closed, the berry should be handed over to the young man. Instead of fruit, you can take chocolate.

A variety of caresses during intimacy will please your loved one and make the time spent together more enjoyable.

For the anniversary

To congratulate her loved one on any date, a girl can give him both purchased and hand-made souvenirs or jewelry. To make the gift meaningful, you can associate it with places that are memorable for the couple.

Gift options:

• custom printed T-shirt;
• souvenir mug, plate or set of dishes;
• slippers with a soulful inscription;
• bath set;
• photo album with photographs of memorable events.

All these gifts can be ordered online or in small souvenir shops. For print subjects and drawings on dishes, photographs of the couple or places memorable to them are used.

If relationships are important to a girl and such gifts seem insignificant to her, you can put together a set by investing in an additional more expensive item.

On social networks

To understand how to surprise your loved one, you can use social networks. Many applications will help you come up with a surprise for your boyfriend, and if you want originality, you can edit his photo on one of the online services and send it to him.

A photo of a young man can be superimposed on an image of an area where the couple has never been, but wants to visit. It’s a good idea to add such a picture with the inscription “May your dreams come true.” You can also combine a photo of a guy and a gorgeous trophy (if he is a fisherman or hunter). A good idea is to connect the guy's portrait with the holiday crowd by writing, "They're glad to see you." A beautiful congratulation in poetry or prose will come in handy.

Organizing a flash mob will require a lot of effort, but having extensive online dating will help you surprise a man in your correspondence. A sad or romantic song performed by strangers will undoubtedly prove to a young man the girl’s tender feelings.

In bed

There are many ideas for a romantic surprise in bed. This place especially attracts girls because it is convenient to arrange surprises there - there are no prying eyes and no risk that someone will spoil the gift. To pleasantly surprise your beloved guy in bed, you can:

• order bed linen with a portrait and name of your loved one;
• sprinkle the bed with rose petals or scent with oils;
• serve breakfast in bed in the morning;
• give him a massage;
• wear a nurse's robe, a maid's dress or a black leather suit (your choice);
• put on beautiful lingerie and do a striptease;
• take the initiative and offer a new position;
• set up a home theater in bed and watch porn.

For most men, one such surprise will be enough, but if you combine them and add a warm bath with foam and candles, then this will become an unforgettable holiday for a guy.

On distance

Separation is always difficult for loving hearts, but if you organize a surprise for a guy from home, then life will become easier.

How can you surprise a guy from afar:

• order delivery of flowers, pizza, gifts, balloons, anything he might like, to his room;
• get in touch via Skype in erotic lingerie;
• regularly send SMS, voice messages, photos;
• send him a song related to shared romantic memories;
• during preparations, secretly place a gift in his things;
• fly or come to visit him.

As for calls and SMS, it is important not to overdo it. You shouldn't call your guy every five minutes; it would be better to limit yourself to two or three calls. It is better to get in touch at a strictly agreed time, because perhaps the young man is busy at a meeting or solving work issues. If a girl wants to cheer up her boyfriend, it is better to call on a schedule. In this case, the young man will not be annoyed by calls at the wrong time.

With this attitude, a meeting after a long separation will become even more delightful, and the girl will be able to surprise her boyfriend again.

On your birthday

A birthday surprise should be planned carefully and lovingly, because the girl had a whole year to think about the gift.

To congratulate you, you can organize a quest, during which the man receives gifts or one big gift at the end. Hints can be sent by mobile phone or hidden along the route.

A themed party would be a good option. The main thing is to find guests who want to make costumes and participate. Any theme for the event is suitable, for example, color party, winter, fairytale and many others.

You can start the morning with an original breakfast served in bed and a solemn promise not to scold the birthday person throughout the holiday. As a gift you can give:

• an expensive lighter or pen;
• cufflinks;
• tie clip;
• watch;
• subject for a favorite activity;
• something made with your own hands.

The most interesting gift for a man will be the fulfillment of his every whim. To do this, in the middle of the day you can send him an SMS, which will say that he has the right to one wish.

Little secrets of great pleasure

You can ask your loved one directly how to please him, what he wants and what he lacks, but this is unlikely to be effective. It's better to change your behavior in bed. If you usually take the initiative, then just relax and let him caress you. Pay attention to how and where he kisses you, and try to return these kisses to him (he kissed you on the neck - and you kiss him, he bites you in the ear - respond in kind) - you will understand a lot about what little tendernesses he lacks.

Men like confident women. They are especially turned on when they are in the mood for love games. Work on it. Get excited yourself and get him excited. For example, press yourself close to him so that you can feel him with every centimeter of your skin, rub your breasts against his testicles, cover his stomach with kisses. Put on an expensive set of silk lingerie, move beautifully to the music while taking it off. And then wrap his dignity in delicate silk and caress it lightly - you will see how he likes it.

Down with complexes! Do not be lazy! Turn off your head and get involved in the creative process!

Try to caress yourself, masturbate (don’t worry, usually men really like to watch this process). First, figure out for yourself what gives you the greatest pleasure, and then teach your loved one to caress you. You want to have an orgasm, so work on it yourself and teach him. This is better than thinking that he is unable to satisfy you.

How to make a guy feel good during sex? Give more than he expects. Think over erotic little things, because they are for TWO of you. Try toys from a sex shop. Perhaps something will not suit you, but something may seem very interesting. For example, a didlo will give the feeling of simultaneous penetration.

Don’t be shy about buying yourself some very revealing lingerie – special suits with holes in the crotch area, fishnet stockings and a lace belt. You can stay in the guise of a prostitute all night, because you don’t have to take off such clothes, which is very convenient. In general, men are very fond of love games with dressing up: a nurse, a school teacher, a prostitute, a mysterious foreigner - all these images excite them very much and give them a very special sexual mood.

Strive to become a skilled lover: hone your skills, develop your own style in love pleasures, create yourself a piggy bank of erotic techniques for any situation.

It is important to study techniques for increasing potency and tongue caress techniques and erotic massage. Be physically fit, understanding and compassionate, and intellectually interesting. And then your boyfriend will be happy and proud that he chose you as his life partner and is sincerely grateful to you for the pleasures of the night. And he certainly won’t be in debt...

Compliments

Pleasant words spoken by a woman to a man are one of the possible answers to the question of how you can please a guy. Our society does not pamper men too much; telling them nice things is not accepted, although it is useful. But how else can young people feel attractive and smart?

This is why guys should be praised often and enthusiastically:

1. "You're so sexy."
2. “You have such beautiful hands (eyes, hair, lips).”
3. “I can’t part with you, I’m sad.”
4. “Only you can understand (calm down, make) me happy.”
5. “When you are near, I am calm (joyful, feel good).”
6. “You are so strong (smart, wonderful, muscular).”

All these words are whispered into the young man’s ear. Men need compliments just like women; you should not offend your loved ones by avoiding talking about their merits.

Postcards for your beloved

Card with a heart in quilling style

You will need:

- paper strips (red)

- a toothpick or a special device for twisting strips into a spiral

- glue

- paperclip

- colored cardboard

- connecting rings

- fabric and other decorations for the card (if desired).

More detailed instructions for making crafts in the quilling style can be found in our article: Quilling for Beginners

1. Make a teardrop shape from a paper strip.

Here's how it's done:

Twist the strip into a spiral (circle) and secure the end of the strip with glue. Next, squeeze any part of the circle with your fingers to make a droplet.

2. Repeat step 1 to make another drop.

3. Glue both droplets together to make a heart.

4. Make a tight spiral (circle) from another paper strip and secure it with glue. After this, glue the circle at the top of the heart.

5. Use jump rings to attach your paper heart to a paper clip.

6. Make a card out of colored cardboard, glue a ribbon into the middle, and attach a paperclip with a heart to the ribbon.

All that remains is to write something nice to your beloved half.

Chain with heart

Using the same technique, make a heart and using jump rings, attach the heart to the chain.

3D card with hearts

Advice from psychologists

To understand how to surprise a guy, you need to remember that nothing human is alien to them. Usually men like girls who are kind, smart, with a sense of humor and an easy-going nature. What unusual thing can you come up with to impress a guy the first time and forever? In this case, psychologists advise:

1. Change your image.
2. Offer a risky trip (to the mountains, for example).
3. Let the guy go with friends for the weekend.
4. Rearrange the house.
5. Start learning a foreign language.
6. Learn to drive a car.

You can surprise your loved ones every day, but don’t forget the purpose for which this is done.

Now the girl knows what surprises are appropriate to prepare and give to her boyfriend. You can please a guy just like that, without waiting for a certain date. He will definitely appreciate such an act.

Own handwriting in love

Develop your own style in the love game! Maybe at the moment of orgasm you will touch a certain part of your lover’s body or whisper a certain phrase, or simply call him by name.

If you buy oils and lubricants, then let them have similar smells. Caressing the male organ with your hands, come up with your own unique “melody” of your fingers, masterfully playing with them on the excited penis. Do this only in your own manner, play with his head, gently rub his scrotum.

During oral sex, at the very beginning, look into his eyes, without looking away for about a minute, and then focus on the matter at hand. Be liberated! Caress his penis from bottom to top, grab it in the ring of your index finger and thumb at the base. Then rhythmically suck the head, rub the frenulum with your tongue, and only then perform a deep hickey. As you do the minion, remember to slightly retract your testicles at the pace of your breathing.

After sex, don’t rush anywhere, let both of you enjoy the bliss.

Lie with your loved one in an embrace, bring him out of the state of bliss slowly and calmly - do not try to chat, do not ask for increased attention to yourself. Many men need to be “in themselves” after making love; they become distant for a while - this is a standard reaction after the peak of pleasure. Rest assured, he liked it.

Original confession

If your man doesn't mind eating something sweet, give him an unusual chocolate bar. You just have to prepare it a little.

Unwrap the packaging and hold the chocolate on the radiator for a while. When the surface becomes soft, take a needle and scratch any text that you think is suitable on it. This could be a confession of your feelings or a compliment.

Such an unexpected surprise for your loved one will definitely lift his spirits and surprise him!

Other surprise options for your loved one

Remember the main rule: you should not surprise a man exclusively on holidays. Give him surprises and gifts regularly and then you can be calm - a guy will never leave a woman who is able to be so attentive, so caring and so different oh.

We will offer you other surprise options that may please your beloved man:

Photo printing

The male sex is no less sentimental at heart than the female sex. Therefore, you can prepare the following gift for your man: buy a white tea set and order a photo print on it - and for the images, choose photographs of the best moments of your family life.

Leisure

Modern men are constantly busy with activities and worries, but this does not mean that they do not miss children's entertainment and friends from school or college. You can surprise a man by inviting him to play paintball with you or by organizing a meeting for him with childhood friends - taking into account the development of information technologies, this is not at all difficult. .

Dinner for a real man

A romantic dinner is wonderful, but if you arrange romantic meals every weekend, candles, flowers and wine will not only get boring, but will also cause a fair amount of irritation.

Organize a romantic dinner for men: beer, shank, chips and french fries.

A man will definitely be surprised that you understand the needs of the male soul so well.

Entertainment

You can try to surprise your loved one this way: in the summer, everyone usually goes out for barbecues and to the river, and in the end, such a standard set of entertainment can get boring. Buy tickets to the indoor skating rink and spend the evening on the ice.

Rest from you

Surprise your boyfriend by the fact that without scandals and reproaches, you will allow him and his friends to go to a sports bar, go fishing or fishing, go to a football match. Men understand perfectly well that most women perceive such events with negativity, and begin to prepare in advance for long moral teachings, tears and reproaches.

Imagine his surprise when all he hears from you is wishes for a pleasant rest!

Love and care

If you know for sure that your chosen one has worked hard and is physically and mentally exhausted, do not drag him on a romantic ski trip (of course, this is great, but not this time), it is better to bathe him in your care.

Let him sleep, bring coffee to bed, download his favorite movie, cook dinner according to his mother’s recipe, in the evening - a warming bath and massage, and at night - kind words in his ear.

It will definitely be appreciated, but how exactly, try it and find out!

The cure for routine

If, on the contrary, the husband has a sedentary job and a routine has become firmly established in his life, a shake-up is needed: paragliding, an ATV race, a group outing for paintball.

The thrills experienced together will bring joy to both!

Family tree

This idea of ​​a surprise for your loved one is especially good for family men. From time immemorial, men have been concerned about procreation and are sensitive to their surname; now many connections have been lost, and the history and roots of many families have been forgotten or lost.

Work hard, search, collect information, then beautifully design and present the history of your betrothed’s family.

Such interest and serious attitude towards his surname and family will evoke a response of gratitude in the heart of his loved one.

Quest

Think over and organize a quest to find a gift: place notes throughout the house (you can also do it in nature), which will bring you closer to victory step by step. Only here it is important that the “treasure” is adequate to the intrigue, and the prize found is definitely pleasant for him (a long-awaited item, a ticket to the stadium, a loved one who wears only a drop of perfume, an ultrasound of his unborn son, whom he does not yet know about, etc.) P.).

And then the boyish joy of your loved one from participating in the adventure is guaranteed!

Letter of confession

Strong and courageous halves are often much more romantic than ladies think, they just don’t always show it. They will definitely be touched if they receive a tender handwritten (!) letter - unexpectedly, for no reason - with words of love, and most importantly, gratitude.

Luxurious swimming

In order for this surprise for a loved one to be a success, do not feed your man too much at dinner.

Decorate the bathroom with rose petals, light candles and place them in safe places to create an intimate atmosphere. Place two glasses and an open bottle of chilled champagne next to the bathtub.

After dinner, gently undress your loved one, blindfold him with a soft scarf or handkerchief, then lead him by the hand to the bathroom. Once you're inside, untie his eyes so he can admire your efforts.

Be positive

Men love energetic women with a good sense of humor, who know how to control their feelings and emotions and cope with life's difficulties. After all, it is from their beloved that they expect support and support in difficult situations. It is a strong woman who stands behind every successful man.

Sex is born primarily in the head. For some time, attraction can exist only on the physical level, but it quickly gets boring (3-5 times), then the mental level becomes involved. And here it is very important to match your man. To be beautiful not only in the evening, but also in the morning, after a stormy night. Be able to listen and understand. Give yourself and accept expensive gifts in return. To be the best and most beautiful for him, the one he is proud of when presenting to his friends, relatives or business partners.

This means that you need to constantly monitor and work on yourself at any age and with any social status. Don't relax for a minute. Competition for men in our world is high. If you don’t pamper and give him pleasure, there will quickly be someone else (braver, younger, more energetic) who will do it for you.

The show is not for the shy

This surprise option will surely please any man! Only its preparation requires certain dance skills. Yes, yes, you probably already guessed it: this is a striptease.

The idea, of course, is quite banal, but not everyone can reproduce it perfectly. There are several conditions, the fulfillment of which will provide you with every chance of success:

• 
  romantic light dinner before dancing;

• a little wine for relaxation and courage;
• beautiful linen;
• the main thing is a well-prepared dance.

Of course, if you are a professional dancer, then you will not need to come up with movements in advance. For the rest, it is recommended to attend a couple of strip-plastic classes in order to amaze your loved one with grace, and not to make them laugh.