You need to fight for your love: how to win your ex-boyfriend?

• Find out who is right and who is wrong
• How to get your ex-boyfriend to like you again?
• What to do if there is a competitor?

Life is unpredictable, and sometimes it throws up “surprises” that you don’t expect at all. A seemingly eternal relationship with a guy turns into reality in one second, and love leaves, leaving no chance of return. Just yesterday it seemed that your loved one would be by your side all your life, but today he doesn’t want to look in your direction. And it doesn’t matter who is to blame: him, you or both. The feelings have exhausted themselves, and now all that remains is to sadly remember the past.

A girl is sad about breaking up with her boyfriend

However, time passes and you want the one whom you recently loved until your knees trembled to pay attention to you again and, if not return, then at least “beat your head against the wall” due to the fact that you are no longer his girlfriend.

How to do everything right. Explore your goal

Without knowing the needs and inclinations of a man, you will not be able to present yourself correctly and as profitably as possible.

You definitely need to know the following about it:

• Life position
• Habits
• Interests
• Past partners
• Future plans

Where can you get such personal information, you ask? The main sources are mutual friends and social networks. Compose a kind of questionnaire and try to study in detail all the information available to you. The most important thing is to decide which type of women is most attractive to a man: Woman Mother, Girlfriend, Lioness or Mistress.

• As you understand, a girl like Mother is emotional, sensitive, and often creative. She loves children very much and strives to start a family.
• A Girlfriend type girl is a classic intellectual with whom you can discuss any topic and even go fishing.
• The Lioness girl is a bright, attractive and proud personality that a man will strive to conquer and show to others as his trophy.
• Finally, the Hostess girl is the same young lady who cooks excellently, keeps the house clean and manages to pursue her career. She may not be too emotional, but she is reliable and predictable.

Having decided on the tastes and inclinations of a man, build a line of behavior and take care of your appearance. Men love with their eyes, and if all his former passions were brunettes with a good figure, then it would not hurt you to compete with them. Then you can easily make a man fall in love with you.

Preparation. How to look

To attract a guy's attention, you need to stand out from the crowd, be able to position yourself as a self-sufficient and interesting girl. And also look your best!

It will be easy to get your loved one if you follow the following rules:

Take care of yourself

You can't afford to be ugly. The female sex has a million procedures and tricks in its arsenal, thanks to which you can turn a village simpleton into a beauty from the cover of a magazine. But a lot depends on you!

• Take extra care of your hair, skin and hands.
• If you need to lose weight, don’t be shy, go straight to the gym and improve your diet.

Your makeup should not be flashy:

• It is enough to even out the tone, highlight the eyes, eyebrows and moisturize the lips. Leave false eyelashes and clearly defined cheekbones for an evening out or a photo shoot.
• Don't forget about hygiene, in particular removing hair wherever it shouldn't be.

Neatness is your main ally on the path to winning the man you love. Be natural, hiding imperfections if necessary.

Choose your style

Is your rich inner world hidden behind shapeless clothes in dull colors? I have news for you, it's time to change! Girls, just don’t run to the store to buy all the bright blouses, short skirts and dresses with sparkles. Leave this kind of outfits for frivolous girls. After all, your goal is to charm and win over a specific person, which means it’s best to focus on his or her own style or wishes.

If you don’t know what style of clothing he prefers to see on girls, opt for neutral outfits that can be accentuated with accessories:

• Plain jeans, a cashmere turtleneck or a delicately colored silk blouse, perhaps with a print, is the perfect look for every day.
• Pair it with comfortable yet elegant low to mid heels.
• Be sure to wear earrings, a bracelet or a feminine watch - don’t be shy to remind others that you are a girl and like to decorate yourself.

To create a sensual look, you don’t have to buy a tight dress with an open back and stilettos. The most important thing is your confidence in yourself and your attractiveness. Give yourself a gift by purchasing quality lingerie with lace or embroidery. Wear a beautiful set of stockings even under a regular dress, and you will immediately feel how your behavior and sense of self have changed.

Keep it intriguing

This advice is as old as time, but many girls don’t use it. As soon as a man realizes that he knows everything about you, good for you. You will become an open book for him, which he has already read. Don’t lay out all the facts; even after years of marriage, a man does not need to know the details of your personal life before meeting him.

• Try to communicate with a man using intriguing gestures and transparent hints. Sway your hips a little more than usual as you walk. Show off your wrists, neck, legs and adjust your hair so that he pays attention to it. Show your interest naturally and unobtrusively. The man will feel reciprocity and will look forward to each meeting.
• It is sometimes useful to show character to show independence and self-esteem. Don't hide your point of view simply because it doesn't coincide with a man's opinion. Express it politely and gently, offer to discuss it over a cup of coffee. Become a full-fledged companion for a man, and not just an object of sexual desire.

Mystery and unpredictability

In order for a man not to get bored next to you, intrigue him and maintain surprise and unexpectedness.

First of all, never show your cards to him - don’t tell him literally everything about yourself. If he learns about your shortcomings in great detail, he may come to the conclusion that you are too far from his ideal.

Don't be simple-minded and too open. Communicate your sympathy for him with hints and compliments. You can sometimes thank him for his attention and support. Even if you're in love, don't admit it. He will understand that “the Bastille has fallen” and will lose interest in you.

Don't let him manipulate you. If he is sure that you are ready to fulfill all his requests and desires, he will stop valuing you and your relationship. Don't violate the boundaries of your personal space. Continue to pursue your career, self-development, pay attention to communication with loved ones and friends.

Don't confuse love with emotional codependency. Don't take his problems as your own. Know how to sympathize and support, but nothing more. He should not be the master in the temple of your feelings and emotions.

Don't be easy to reach. Do not agree to sex without making sure of the sincerity of his feelings, even if this threatens to break the relationship. No one will respect or appreciate someone who does not know how to love himself.

Show your unpredictability by your ability to surprise him. For example, make your meeting unforgettable: organize a romantic dinner on the roof of the house, perform a song or read poetry for him, suggest a bike ride through the evening city, a visit to the water park, active recreation (skiing, skating, snowboarding). All this will cause a storm of emotions. In addition, you will have your first shared memories, which will become a great topic for conversation.

Men are polygamous by nature. Try to be artistic and “try on” different female images: today you are a trusting, touchy simpleton, tomorrow you are a seductive sex diva or a quick-tongued bitch. Support your plan not only with your behavior, but also with appropriate makeup and clothing. You will see, any man will be delighted with such a “theater”.

The recipe for winning a guy's heart can be found in the fairy tale of Cinderella. She won the prince’s favor with her mystery and difference from others, captivated him with her tenderness and charm, without telling anything about herself, and then suddenly disappeared, leaving only one clue - the glass slipper. This is what all girls who want to become a magnet for a guy should do: lure, charm, and disappear without explanation, giving a hint for the search. If the prince does not look, think, maybe he is not your destiny?

Top 7 ways to win a man

All you have to do is follow these instructions, and you will be able to please and make any man fall in love with you.

• Become the one. Show him that you can be the most devoted and loving. Be truly irreplaceable, the woman who knows his needs and can satisfy them. Some men need care and affection, others prefer friendly communication and general entertainment. Become what he needs you to be.
• Be different. Try to behave calmly and kindly, but periodically show your “claws” so that the man is in good shape. Don't be afraid to take the initiative into your own hands, surprise him, offer spontaneous trips to romantic places. Change your looks, haircuts, styling. Give your man the opportunity to enjoy your presence.
• Don't refuse help. A man needs to know that in a difficult situation he can rely on you and receive, at a minimum, moral support. However, there are comrades who perceive girls as a source of finances and other benefits, weed them out immediately and do not let them sit on your neck. A man is a man to solve all his problems on his own.
• Be independent. Don't call every 15 minutes, don't put yourself in a dependent position. This will not only not strengthen your relationship, but will also cause a cooling of feelings on the part of the man. Don’t dump absolutely all your problems on his head; you can probably solve some of them yourself.
• And most importantly, be developed to the extent that you can fully support yourself. Confidence in the future will give you self-esteem and show a man that he should make an effort to be close to you.

All the described methods are best used in combination, based on your situation. Don't be afraid to experiment and find new ways to solve problems. To become the most important person for a man, you will have to try hard. Winning hearts is a man's task, but sometimes a woman needs to be active in order to get what she wants.

Just remember: you will have to try only like a woman!

When they tell you that a MAN should hunt and conquer, they are telling you the TRUTH. It is the man who must take the initiative. And your role in the conquest is to show your hunter the “product” and convince him that in this forest there is no more valuable animal than you. And then all that remains is to drag the man along with you into the wilds of a happy life together.

So, what do you need to remember before you learn how to please a man?

1. Check everything that I recommend in my publication only with a free man! This is my request as a man.
2. The man you chose should have already fallen for you! That is, you already know him, you already communicate not only as friends, and you are sure that you attract him as a woman. If you want to attract the attention of men who don’t notice you yet, there is a separate article on my blog on the topic “How to attract a man into your life?”
3. If you go too far and begin to show purely masculine activity (you begin to woo a man using MALE methods: calling him first [although in some cases this is even good, but not about that now], inviting him to meetings, giving gifts, or God forbid paying for him in a cafe), you’ll ruin everything. And then don’t complain that I didn’t warn you.

Step-by-step relationship psychology for women: how to win a man’s heart in 90 days

I will briefly tell you one feature that the psychology of men has. Not all women know about it. And not even all of them are men.

The following articles will help you understand yourself even better:

• The man doesn't want to get married
• How to make yourself fall in love
• A woman through a man's eyes

And we are not talking about a pleasant pastime, but about truly vivid emotions, emotional peaks.

A woman can create such emotional peaks with surprises, actions in contrasts, a sudden release of her OWN positive emotions, etc. The main thing is to do this REGULARLY, but INFREQUENTLY, unobtrusively. Since a man, after such outbursts of emotions, needs to “digest” the information received and lower it into his subconscious. This takes from 7 to 14 days. And only after that the man is ready to accept a new portion of the positive that you will give him.

Therefore, all my recommendations, which I described below, can be followed in any order, but no more than once a week (and ideally once every two weeks). There are 12 of them, one per week (or a little less often). Later, you yourself will be able to come up with many similar emotional peaks that will work no worse than those recommended by me.

The main condition is to observe the time intervals between peaks, and try to give your MAXIMUM, so that the man receives a huge surge of positive emotions, which he will forever associate in his heart with you.

After all, it’s not difficult to give a man moments of joy once a week or two, from which he will become attached to you for the rest of his life, isn’t it?

How to win a man: examples of step-by-step actions from Yaroslav Samoilov

1. Actively listen to a man without interrupting when he talks about something that is currently bothering him. Listening actively means not interrupting, not being distracted, sometimes asking or briefly commenting on some points, but in no case trying to advise what should he do? You can hear about his affairs every day, but now I’m talking about a really important topic for a man. It could be a problem at work, or an unpleasant memory, or a story about his business. He can talk for hours! Your task is to pay attention to him all this time without being distracted. Yes, men also sometimes need to speak out, and the woman who is able to listen to him will hit the bull’s eye. Believe me, most likely, you will be almost the first woman in his life who, in the third hour of a man’s monologue, will not get tired of hearing about brake pads, kayaks or programming. He will remember this for the rest of his life, and will look forward to the moment when he can communicate with you just as wonderfully again. It will be a solid 1:0 in your favor!
2. Don’t throw a tantrum when a man is mentally ready for it. Exactly READY! That is, a man, having committed some serious offense (being late for a date or home, forgot about an important date for you, flirting with another woman in your presence), will expect standard female behavior from you: tears, screams, beating dishes, collecting things and going to parents. But it won’t wait! Because you will not do anything like that. You will calmly and quietly explain to him that this is unpleasant for you, or that it hurts you. But you do not intend to cry and be offended, since you completely accept him with all his shortcomings. Well, or something like that. He won’t expect such a reaction from you! Therefore, your behavior will be a pleasant surprise for a man, which he will definitely appreciate. And next time he will try not to do such bad things. And one more point for you.
3. Feed him deliciously! You can feed him dinner all the time, but at least once during these 3 months, take him and prepare something special for him. And satisfying. Herself. With love! Ideally, it’s sweet, since dessert will lift a man’s mood, make him kinder and more affectionate, and this will benefit both him and you. It could be a cake, or some eclairs, sweets or unusual pastries. Something he can't buy in a store. Loyal, reliable and gentle men love sweets, so you can't go wrong. Just let it be a surprise. Don't ask him what he likes, show your imagination. Your man will remember an unexpected delicious gift made with his own hands for a long time, and will give you another point as an excellent future wife and mistress of his house.
4. Show your admiration for him as a man and a specialist. Choose the moment when the man tells you about his successes, or shows you the result of his work. And SINCERELY admire him! It’s hot, with emotions, maybe with tears in your eyes :). For 5 - 10 minutes. During the day, several times every 20 - 30 minutes, remind him how amazed you were by his talents and successes. And let your man pretend that he is embarrassed, that it’s nothing, that everyone can do this... But at this moment you will touch his sensitive string, by playing on which you can “play out” to the wedding, and to children, and to a happy old age together.
5. Tell us what you like and what you don’t like in bed. If you already have an intimate relationship, or it’s just beginning, be sure to tell your man what you like in sex. You can’t even imagine how afraid men are to ask a woman what she likes. They are afraid to seem incompetent, inexperienced, not a man. But if you tell about it yourself - before sex, during it, or even after - he will be grateful to you for the rest of his life! Since he will not have to suffer from the thought that he is doing something wrong. He will know for sure: everything he does gives you pleasure. His self-esteem as a man will increase, and you will be the reason for this increase. You still have +1 point.

1. Approve his friends and family, evoke their reciprocal approval. If your man decides to introduce you to his friends or parents, try to please them IMMEDIATELY! Be sweet, kind, cheerful and attentive. Since meeting friends and parents is a kind of test. And in this case they check you. If neither your best friend, nor especially your mother likes you, the chances that he will choose you as his woman will greatly decrease. For your part, you must accept both his family and his friends as they already are. Don't criticize them under any circumstances. Be sure to praise him for something, even for some little thing, and make it clear that you will never come between your man and his family and friends (whom, by the way, he has known much longer than you). The man will definitely This will be appreciated, since each of us is worried that family life will separate us from friends at the request of the woman we love.
2. Show that you do not claim his freedom. It is advisable to practice this point when you already live with your man. But you can try to do it in other situations. Let your man know clearly that you are not going to tie him to you 24 hours a day. That you value and respect his personal space. That you are calm about fishing at 4 in the morning, and playing football with friends until 2 in the morning, and the desire to be alone and rest for a few hours, including from you. You can’t imagine how powerful of an effect free space has for a man ! If a man likes you, and at the same time you do not try to tie him to you, the man will return to you again and again. He will call, come, invite you on dates or to visit, and is unlikely to want to go anywhere forever. After all, he gets his portion of freedom near you, but he doesn’t dare dream of more.

When to stop

Have you successfully applied all the described techniques in practice, but still failed to captivate a man? There are only two options:

• either you didn't try hard enough,
• or you are not his type.

It's not just about appearance, but also behavior, character and much more. Perhaps you initially misjudged his preferences and focused on the wrong things. What to do if you can’t conquer your beloved man?

Reveal your personality from a completely different side, let the man see how multifaceted and original you are. Dramatic changes in appearance and behavior will also help to attract his attention again and give impetus to the beginning of a relationship. If this doesn’t help, then register on the Badoo dating site and start communicating with interesting men.

If you find a girl, or even more so a wife, stop! You can be the best of all the women he has met in his life. But respect yourself.

Further actions

As soon as contact is established, and the man’s desire to continue communication is noticeable to the naked eye, you can exhale and begin to restore the relationship.

First of all, remember the reason for the breakup. Who was the initiator? If you are, then for what reason? Out of stupidity? It is necessary to demonstrate awareness and recognition of mistakes.

If he initiated the breakup, then why? Have you had character flaws? Show that you got rid of them, be it greed, hysteria, groundless jealousy or another reason. The girl must show that during the breakup she eliminated the shortcomings. He himself must see the absence of negative qualities during the first walk.

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What not to do

We have sorted out all the subtleties and features of how to win a guy and achieve his love. Let's focus on the things that repel men and make them run away:

• Tiring shopping. Men begin to get bored and look at their watches within an hour of starting shopping. For shopping together, it’s better to choose a friend who can give you good advice.
• Questions about his thoughts. Leave the person alone if he is thoughtful and silent. This state does not at all indicate problems in the relationship; give him time to collect his thoughts. If you want to answer the question “What are you thinking about?” to hear the answer “Only about you, dear!”, then it’s time to take off your rose-colored glasses.
• Strangers. Try not to “wash dirty linen in public”; it is permissible to discuss problems only with the closest people. Gossip does not decorate anyone, and it will be unpleasant for your man to learn from third parties about problems that should have remained between you. Free your partner from the constant presence of your girlfriends and endless stories concerning other people's personal lives.
• Obsessiveness. Your desire to be near him all the time may not meet with approval. Every person needs personal space. If a man wants to spend the evening with friends watching football, don’t forbid it, find something you like and just take a break from each other.
• Tiring waiting. Don't make your man wait too long. It doesn’t matter what it is, a date or an answer to a question. Of course, you need to create intrigue and drama, but let it be appropriate. And remember, a three-hour wait in a cafe will drive anyone crazy, be tactful and punctual.

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Analysis of the reason for separation

If you want to reconnect with your boyfriend, it would be nice to know what caused your breakup in order to avoid mistakes in the future. To do this, you need to honestly answer the following questions for yourself:

• What situations led to mutual misunderstandings and quarrels? As a rule, people don’t just disagree; there is always some reason, as evidenced by frequently recurring conflicts on the same topic. What did you quarrel about most often?;
• What “contribution” did you make to the breakup? Yes, two people are always “to blame” for a breakup. Responsibility for the relationship in a couple is distributed approximately 50/50. And it’s not about both of them doing something bad, which is why their tandem is constantly shaky. Inaction also affects the outcome of events. For example. A man shows disrespect to his girlfriend, but she tolerates it. His fault is that he behaves ugly, hers is that she does not stop his actions. Both are responsible for this situation;
• What can you personally do to improve your relationship? And most importantly, are you ready to sacrifice your principles for the good of love. What actions should the partner take to change the situation?

Reentering a relationship with an old worldview is a losing idea. Your union will fall apart again as soon as the candy-bouquet period ends, since you both remain the same, which means you will ride on the old rails leading to the abyss. A couple has a chance for the future if only both partners agree to change, be flexible, and compromise for the sake of the other.