Being modest - good or bad

Quotes

• Be modest - this is the kind of pride that least irritates others. (Jules Renard)
• In the pursuit of praise, the best bait is modesty. (Philip Chesterfield)
• Be humble and you will be forgiven for existing. (Stas Yankovsky)
• In everything one must observe moderation, even in modesty (Anatole France)
• If modesty is a characteristic feature of research, it is more a sign of fear of truth than of fear of lies. (Karl Marx)
• Women praise male modesty, but do not like modest men. (Thomas Fuller)
• False modesty is the most subtle trick of vanity. (Jean de La Bruyère)
• Mr Attlee is a very modest man. And he has every reason for this. (Winston Churchill)
• Don't be so modest - you are not that great yet. (Golda Meir)
• Lack of modesty is a lack of intelligence. (Alexander Pope)
• Out of pure modesty, I am not afraid of anyone. A very precise thought. (Erik Satie)
• Humble is not the one who is indifferent to praise, but the one who is attentive to blame. (Jean Paul Richter)
• A modest person is more intolerable to me than a braggart. A braggart recognizes everyone's dignity, but an overly modest person, apparently, despises the one in front of whom he is being modest. (Georg Lichtenberg)
• Modesty is a way of hearing from others all the good things we think about ourselves. (Peter Lawrence)
• Modesty decorates pride, like water extinguishes a flame. It is like a ring that is put through the nose of a bear. (Theodor Hippel)
• Modesty is not only an ornament, but also a guardian of virtue. (Joseph Addison)
• Modest people, being only witnesses of an indecent act, experience sensations similar to those of shame. (Gottfried Leibniz)
• A modest person even assimilates the vices of others, a proud person possesses only his own. (Francis Bacon)
• I have the humility to admit that immodesty is one of my shortcomings. (Hector Berlioz)
• Modesty is often mistaken for weakness and indecisiveness, but when experience proves to people that they are mistaken, modesty will add new charm, strength and respect to character. (Lev Nikolaevich Tolstoy)
• The smarter someone is, the more modest he is. (Cicero)
• I have a reputation for being modest. My modesty is nothing more than a hidden, but great, very great pride. (Peter Ilyich Tchaikovsky)
• It's hard to be humble when you're the best.
• Modesty is your greatest asset and your greatest weakness. (Valery Malchevsky)

1. Erik Satie, Yuri Khanon Retrospective Memories. - “Notebooks, notebooks.” - St. Petersburg: Center for Secondary Music & Publishing House Liki of Russia, 2010. - P. 472. - 682 p. — ISBN 978-5-87417-338-8

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What is Modesty?

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Modesty is a personality quality characterized by the absence of desire for honor.

Modesty is a positive personality quality that manifests itself in relation to oneself, and not in relation to other people. Almost always, modesty is directly proportional to talent. Modesty, unlike immodesty, knows how to listen and perceive new things. Modesty is sincerely interested in others, respects the norms of morality and ethics accepted in society. Modesty gives freedom from vanity and provides the opportunity to learn from others, adopting their virtues. A modest person is characterized by another positive quality - he is not intrusive in communication .
If a Modest person sees that someone communicating with him is not happy, he will try to avoid contact. Modesty does not bother other people with your behavior. Modesty should not be confused with downtroddenness and softness.

Modesty is, first of all, a developed sense of self-esteem

Another concept parallel to Modesty is Downtroddenness. Congestion arises from the fear of losing something serious. Downtroddenness is an extreme manifestation of Modesty. Modesty cannot be used for selfish purposes. Modesty has its own purpose and therefore can always politely refuse. Modesty adds nothing of its own to the learned truth. Modesty knows how to explain, because modesty does not get nervous when a person does not understand, but continues to patiently present its confident point of view in a friendly manner.

Often in society, the concept is fixed that modesty is weakness and indecisiveness, but experience and facts prove to people that this is a mistake. Modesty is Strength and Respect for character.

Anyone who deeply explores his inner self finds mistakes in himself and inevitably becomes Modest. He is no longer proud of his knowledge and does not consider himself superior to others.

Scale of values ​​and extreme manifestations: Downtroddenness > Modesty > Impudence > Vanity

A strong man, modest and devoid of Pride, he does not need honors and glory. The ability to humbly listen and hear another person is extremely important for relationships in family life. If spouses know how to listen to each other’s opinions, then the family is a single whole, which means it is based on mutual respect. The egoist does not listen to anyone, and no one wants to listen to him. To achieve a state of emotional Happiness, Goodness, the character trait Modesty is extremely important!

Modesty according to Esoteric views

A modest person is, first of all, a peaceful person. However, a peaceful person can be far from modest and, as you know, there are devils in still waters. Modesty is very different from meekness. Humility means victory over anger, a person perceives all incoming information humbly, whether he is scolded or praised - he will react equally humbly.

Humility is the highest quality of a Holy person; it automatically presupposes the presence of modesty. Modesty doesn't have to be humble.

Manifestations of Modesty

If modesty is scolded or insulted, the manifestation may be Anger. Modesty is indifferent to glorification, honors, gifts, but when its human dignity is insulted, Modesty can manifest itself in the form of an outburst of Anger. Humility is generally the absence of anger, and modesty is the absence of desire for honor. Modesty is a necessary step towards humility.

Properties of immodesty

If a person cannot evade honors, this in no way speaks of his immodesty. Manifestations of immodesty are when a person focuses attention on himself, behaves in a mannered manner, speaks loudly, with pathos and commanding notes in his voice, is flashily dressed, and shows Envy.

Immodesty, as a manifestation of pride, constantly comes into conflict with others, and this leads to suffering and pain.

When a person does not speak sincerely, with pathos, people consciously or unconsciously resist his immodesty. The negative energy background in communication with an immodest person can usually be clearly distinguished. When communicating in society or society, the risk of conflict increases, and this means pain and suffering. The ego of immodesty collides with the massive ego of others.

Unlike immodesty, modesty is always in a state of peace, that is, its mind is calm. Peace is the calmness of the mind, that is, the mind of a peaceful person is not agitated by his ego, he is constantly at peace.

An immodest person, without showing honor to him, experiences envy. Immodesty without honor grimaces and comes from envy. Modesty behaves calmly, unpretentiously, and always performs his duty well, with or without honors. Immodesty, if lured by honors, will fulfill her duties; it will not even occur to her to disinterestedly fulfill her duty.

Lack of modesty is a burning desire for honor

Immodesty is not stable; without rewards, privileges and honors, it is unworkable. In other words, it is difficult to have a relationship with an immodest person. He does not work consistently, conflicts with people, and is not respected. Working in a team with the manifestation of immodesty by one or more employees will corrode envy.

The test of modesty is the praise of the Flatterer.

A flatterer will always find a corner of immodesty in the soul. Immodesty is manifested by a laudatory statement addressed to a person. Expecting honors and an indiscreet person, she blurs with praise, unable to hide her reaction. Indulging your Pride is what awaits immodesty.

Modesty, indifferent to praise. Modesty is the opposite of arrogance.

These two qualities form a scale of opposites such as Modesty - Impudence When modesty becomes the manifested side of a personality, we consider such a person to be modest. According to the esoteric laws of personality development, Modesty is the quality of a Holy person.

Real, not ostentatious Modesty attracts Modesty. As an example of life - if a modest girl wants to get married, then like attracts like. An arrogant girl will attract the attention of men who are interested in her body, and not her inner world. Modesty manifests itself within a person - it is internal purity and the ability to preserve and protect this purity.

Modesty is the most powerful weapon of a Woman in the fight for a Man

Modesty is one of the qualities of a Strong personality. The strong personality of a modest person is not burdened by Pride. A strong person sees Events and the society of the outside world without bias and Egoism.

Modesty does not tend to find faults in other people. This is the fundamental property of this quality.

Envy is a sign of lack of modesty

Modesty lives in harmony with one's desires and capabilities; it is not pretentious and restrained. She is disgusted by excesses, luxury and destructive lust. Therefore, modesty will reach a material goal faster than immodesty. The external goal is achieved through the implementation of the internal goal.

An internal goal means to cultivate the best possible personality traits, and then external goals are realized automatically.

As an example: The husband’s goal is for his wife and children to respect him.

Forcing yourself to be respected through external manifestations - giving gifts, showdowns and scandals - will not achieve the Goal.

But if he sets an Internal goal - to transform and become a responsible person and strives for this goal, the result will not be long in coming. Women respect responsibility in a man. Having felt changes in the behavior of the father and husband, his loved ones will change their attitude towards him for the better.

Immodesty is unable to listen

Active listening involves Humility. This personality quality is opposite to Pride, so immodesty cannot claim it. Pride grows and activates the Egoism of a person’s Personality.

Gradually, a person’s Ego destroys Consciousness, and he begins to feel omniscient, the most intelligent and irreplaceable. The disease is progressing. This means that modesty is lost, the ability to further develop, improve, and progress is lost. When a person and Personality was modest, he could listen to other people and learn from them. That's when he was happy. Based on the baggage of past merits, a person tries to confirm his importance.

Selfishness, immodesty and greed

The character trait Greed manifests itself as a negative manifestation of immodesty. A person who has lost modesty suffers failures in life. When a person’s consciousness is infected with Egoism, he is unable to convey his thoughts and knowledge to other people. When a person is in Pride, he cannot convey anything to people, they simply do not understand him.

Humility of Greatness

Most of the Torah portion Haazinu is occupied by the song of Moshe. It is also called the “Song of Aazin”. At the end of it it is said: “And Moses came and spoke all the words of the song to the people, he and Hoshea the son of Nun.”

Rashi explains that on that day both of them, Moshe and Joshua, spoke to the people and were invested with authority. Then Rashi asks the question: “Why is he called here (by his old name) Hoshea (and not Yehoshua)? This was done to tell us that he did not become proud, and although he was awarded greatness, he remained humble, as he was.”

This clarification by Rashi is intended not only to explain to us why in this verse Yehoshua is spoken of as Hoshea, although Moshe himself gave his beloved disciple a new name. Asking a rhetorical question: “Why is it called Oshea here?” Rashi emphasizes that the new name of the disciple Moshe by that time was “everyone’s ears.”

At the same time, the following emphasis is also placed: we read about the moment of the rise of Yehoshua, when he is endowed with the power of the spiritual leader of his people. And despite this, his former name is mentioned here, which, as Rashi writes in the commentary to the book of Bemidbar (13:6), does not at all correspond to such a high new status. The reason for this was Joshua’s inherent modesty, which he maintained even in such a situation.

It is human nature to change when he reaches the heights of power and responsibility. Is it surprising that, having become the head of an entire people, a person experiences a kind of exaltation? It is not necessarily that he is overwhelmed by selfishness, but he has the feeling that the role of a leader requires him to maintain a certain distance in relation to others.

And the Torah tells us: despite his ascension to the heights of power, Joshua remained “as humble as he was.” Before his rise, he was a “companion of Moshe,” but even after the rod of power passed into his hands, Joshua remained alien to any complacency.

There is an important moral lesson in this. Thanks to our qualities, we can rise, achieve wealth, etc. But neither wealth nor elevation are in themselves a measure of our merits and qualities. For what we have achieved is not at all an unconditional evidence of our merits. If we think otherwise, we slide into complacency. Whereas the behavior of Joshua teaches us something completely different: it is when our merits are recognized and rewarded that we should “be humble as before.”

Especially when climbing to the top leads to becoming the head of an entire people. If a person at the pinnacle of power is infected with complacency, then this personality trait will not only weaken the degree of his influence on others, but it may turn out that all his actions and efforts will have the opposite effect. This is important for secular leaders to recognize, but the tendency toward complacency is even more dangerous for a spiritual leader. Because in this case, those who look up to him are filled with contempt for his complacency. And then they will turn away not only from such a person, unworthy to be a spiritual leader, but also from the Torah itself. If a person who finds himself at the pinnacle of power is filled with humility, like Joshua, who saw himself as a servant of the people, and not a master, then this can have a positive impact on everyone who comes into contact with such a spiritual leader. And this is the guarantee that his influence will grow.

And this lesson is appropriate in those days when we read Parsha Haazinu, almost immediately after the New Year holiday of Rosh Hashanah. On Rosh Hashanah, Jews crown God as king, proclaiming Him king of the entire universe. Let us note that the very fact that this essential act for the entire universe is performed by Jews indicates how significant their role is in the destinies of our world. After all, it is we who are destined to crown God as the King of kings! And therein lies a kind of danger: Jews can become proud of the role that was given to them by Gd.

And the fact that Joshua, having become so exalted, remained “as humble as he was,” should remind us of many things. Yes, it is given to us to crown the kingdom of God, but the consequence of this should be our greatest modesty. For it is said in Tanya (Part IV, Message II) that the closer a person is to Gd, the more he realizes the distance separating him from Gd.

This modesty is the vessel for receiving His blessing. This is precisely the guarantee of our well-being - both spiritual and material - in the coming year.

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Modesty or shyness?

“Fools are never shy, although shyness takes on all forms of stupidity.” Jean-Jacques Rousseau

A person acquires many of the qualities inherent in it in infancy and even before birth. Recent research suggests that in the womb, a child hears not only the conversations of future parents, but even picks up the thoughts of the person closest to him. If he feels desired, he will subsequently grow to be self-confident. If the mother does not love the baby during pregnancy, then he may become insecure, with a feeling of guilt, and shy.

Modesty and shyness are not the same thing.

Shyness is precisely a manifestation of self-doubt, a subconscious fear of not being liked. It prevents first the child, and then, if he is not helped, the adult from setting and achieving goals. You can read about how to overcome self-doubt.

Modesty is precisely a manifestation of the good manners of a self-confident person. He is well aware of his merits, but does not boast of them or flaunt them. That is why we say that modesty adorns both a woman or girl and a man.

How to develop humility while influencing others

There are many things you can do to become a more humble person without losing your personality or becoming shy.

The easiest way to do this is to list the actions, habits, behaviors, and beliefs that create the modesty cocktail. Mix these ingredients together and you will get all the benefits we talked about earlier.

Remember that a humble person:

• Often redirects praise to other people, as Oscar winners do.
• Openly admits his mistakes and failures.
• Boosts other people's confidence without bringing yourself down.
• He does not flaunt his achievements and talents, but does not hide them.
• Recognizes that skills and abilities do not appear out of the blue, but are the result of long and focused work.
• When talking, he tries to dig deeper and find out what is good about the interlocutor. He acknowledges his merits directly, but does not flatter him.
• Believes there is always more to learn. He does not stop for a second in his self-development.
• Admits his mistakes and corrects them.

So here are simple strategies to help you become a more humble person.

1

Thank other people

Gratitude can make you less self-centered and helps you focus on the people around you. It kills pride and high self-esteem.

Expressing gratitude makes a person humble. It could be something small, like a simple “Thank you!” the person who held the door. Or significant, when you, as a leader, distinguish the contribution of each team member to success.

2

Treat everyone the same

This is one of the hardest ways to become humble. And yet, it is the most effective.

We humans are often susceptible to various cognitive distortions. For example, the “Eva Braun Effect” suggests that we tend to sympathize with other people simply because we know them.

Humble people are kind, considerate, courteous, and respectful to everyone they meet. Treat every person with the respect and dignity they deserve. Don't judge people by their status or position.

3

Ask for feedback

Self-confident, ignorant people do not need feedback, because they already know everything and they do not need to learn anything more.

Ask a few close friends to be really honest about three things they value about you and three areas where you could use some growth.

4

Challenge preconceptions

Psychology Ph.D. Joshua Hook believes that to become humble and moderate, you need to start with the following exercise: identify an area in which you have little understanding.

One of his students, for example, had a lot of prejudices about older people and believed that they were much stupider and more primitive than young people. He visited a nursing home and completely changed his mind.

Hug says, “During this exercise you must listen and learn. Don’t prove your point of view and don’t make sudden conclusions.”

If you have negative preconceptions about, say, a particular religion, attend a service or talk to someone who practices it. Humility and modesty is the desire to keep the mind open to everything new.

5

Start with a question

Start a meeting with a person with a question, not a search for a solution. Why is this necessary?

If you ask a question, you are demonstrating that you don't know something. Thus, enter into a state of active learning. You are not trying to immediately say something, to start a topic that you know well. Instead, you show the other person that you are ready to accept new information.

6

Listen to people

Another tip that is very difficult to implement. And again we are talking about the ego. Why do people prefer to talk rather than listen? Because he raises self-esteem, asserts himself by uttering some words.

A modest person does not need all this. He knows that he is strong inside, so he listens with great pleasure. He understands that you can learn more with your ears, asks questions and does not interrupt.

If you're used to talking all the time, try challenging yourself to listen to people for a month. This amazing experience will open up another world. You will find that you can feel comfortable by occasionally saying a word or two and focusing entirely on what the other person is saying.

All this requires great awareness. As soon as you remember this advice, especially when you find yourself in the spotlight, give up that space to someone else and start asking him open advice. You will see that it can be real fun.

7

Accept failure

An immodest person will react very violently to failures, blaming others, because he does not want to lower his self-esteem (as he believes).

A humble person understands that there is nothing humiliating in accepting failure and defeat. After all, the main thing is how you react and what actions you take.

Humility and modesty will allow you to face difficult challenges without fear of failure. But if the worst happens, this is just another reason to roll up your sleeves and continue to work on yourself.

8

Constantly learn

Humility has another good side: humble people know they are imperfect and never stop learning. It’s not that they strive for incredible success, it’s just that this process gives them pleasure.

You can learn in absolutely any situation:

• If something good happens, this is a reason to learn to rejoice from the heart.
• If something bad happens, it means there is a chance to test the strength of your psyche or your ability to make decisions under pressure.
• If nothing has happened and there is unbearable boredom around, then learn to entertain yourself through reflection, observation, and meditation.

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Is modesty an adornment or a burden?

“When you have something to be proud of, you can allow yourself to be modest. When there is nothing, it is preferable to be modest” Eduard Aleksandrovich Sevrus (Vorokhov)

The uniqueness of each person does not need to be proven, this is obvious. It follows from this that character traits, outlook on life, and the entire set of habits and qualities of any of us are not found in any way in the other. Yes, we are similar in many ways, and yet we are as different as snowflakes or the pattern of a fingerprint. What is good for one is “death” for another.

Based on this position, it is difficult to give a definite answer - which one is better to be, modest or not very. Still, let's figure it out.

Probably each of you will remember an incident from your life (and more than one) when the impudence of another humiliated your dignity, or caused offense, or even caused an outburst of indignation in response. In a word, it evoked negative emotions in you. You could experience the same thing when looking at the cheeky behavior of teenagers and others.

Now remember the modesty of the girl who lowers her eyes in embarrassment when she meets your gaze. Or a man making way for you, offering his hand. This is from a different “opera”, you might say. No, modesty, good manners, respect are synonyms.

“Humility implies strength” Robert Walser

You can be modest, but persistently pursue your goal. And these are the people who achieve their goal. And at the pinnacle of success they do not betray their principles. Fame and wealth “spoil” only those who had no trace of these qualities.

In Ozhegov's dictionary

HUMBLE, -aya, -oe; -men, -me, -many, -me and -me. 1. Restrained in revealing one’s merits and merits, not boastful. The scientist is modest. 2. Discreet, moderate, simple and decent. Modest behavior. Modest appearance. To dress modestly (adv.). Modest apartment. 3. transfer Small, limited, barely sufficient. C. earnings. Very s. result. || noun modesty, -i, f. * Without false modesty (ironically) - without being modest, without downplaying one’s positive qualities. I will say without false modesty that I am very popular.

What is meant by modesty?

Modesty is a collective concept that includes several interpretations, depending on the situation. Directories define it as the ability to restrain oneself and one’s needs within certain limits, always remaining calm. Modesty means moderation in all areas of human activity.

In a collective interpretation, modesty includes:

• moderation;
• lack of craving for excess;
• complete renunciation of the desire to show oneself, to control someone, to flaunt one’s skills and abilities;
• full compliance with the framework of decency that is prescribed by certain moral principles;
• calmness, decency in communication with other people;
• humility, obedience;
• shyness.

Timidity is often referred to as shyness, but this is not entirely true. The first is the result of upbringing, the imposition of strong attitudes and clear rules, and the second manifests itself unintentionally, as an innate feature of the personality structure.

Modesty is an acquired habit, or rather a set of reflexes that determine the behavioral line in a given situation. This trait is a component of an adaptive behavior model that allows one to integrate into any society without attracting unnecessary attention.

In many sets of etiquette rules, exposing yourself in any way is considered bad form. But today this quality is unlikely to be too useful if used to its fullest. A modest person may not boast about his virtues not only because he is noble or does not consider his achievements to be something unique, but because he waits for others to present him correctly.

Shyness is not always beneficial

Modesty is neither a character trait nor a part of temperament. This is a deliberate underestimation of one’s abilities, hiding them from everyone’s attention, obedience to please certain people. The goals of such a behavioral response can be very different.

In Dahl's dictionary

moderate in all demands, humble; meek and undemanding of himself; not putting his personality first, not dreaming about himself; decent, quiet to handle; opposite sex self-confident, presumptuous, proud, selfish; proud, arrogant, arrogant, insolent, etc. A modest person does not appreciate his own merits. A modest request, moderate, within the limits of custom, and sensible. A modest life, quiet, unpretentious, homely, not luxurious. The modest appearance is deceiving. A modest smile, meek. She has some kind of immodest gait, with a flourish. It would be more modest not to demand, but to ask. Trezov is modest, but a brawler when drunk. This is a modest dog and will not bite anyone. She came in modestly, modestly, and sat down. They live modestly, but eat modestly, fattyly, luxuriously. Modesty, property, quality according to adj. Modesty suits everyone. Modesty is the mother of all vices. comic vm. idleness. A modest person, a modest person. To be modest, to be consciously, deliberately modest, and often for show. He is modest in front of people, but remembers himself. She was modest, modest, and didn’t tell us anything. Being modest, she did not begin to sing until they begged her to do so. Modesty, action. according to verb. Modesty is good, but modesty is not good.

How does a timid personality manifest itself?

A modest person and his “positivity” is a stereotype imposed for centuries by those who were in high ranks, the church and other authorities. It is worth paying attention to the purpose for which timidity was promoted and continues to be done. The superiors need to keep the masses of people in fear and obedience. This is a psychological move that, over many years, sets boundaries in the subconscious that are then difficult to cross.

If we take an example from the times of serfdom, the servants had to be well-trained and obedient, but the owners were by no means modest people. Not a single poet, writer, musician, singer, artist, politician could achieve a position in society and recognition of his talent, being a timid person.

A modest person is essentially a hypocrite. He is not able to say what he thinks, because he is accustomed to say only the necessary things, pronounce memorized phrases, and be more interested in the person of the interlocutor than in himself. Many modest people even follow the rules, knowing full well that they will be accepted in a certain society and presented in the right light.

Shyness leads to personality degradation. The individual is not able to develop normally spiritually, sexually, or learn. A modest individual will not be able to occupy a leading position, because according to all rules of decency he should not be subject to such sinful thoughts. There is also no need for a modest person to get an education - one cannot show off one’s talents.

In terms of communication with the opposite sex, a modest person also adheres to certain attitudes. If at first this excites the mind of the other half, then over time nothing changes, the spouse remains a cold statue. But everyone has their own needs for love and affection.

No progress is expected in the work either. While the humble guy helps his neighbor, the more adroit employee is already moving up the career ladder. By denying himself simple everyday trifles, following imposed attitudes, without developing, a timid person dooms his children to this. He is building a zombie society that does not try to stand out, but blindly follows the ruler into the pit, meekly submitting to his will, because it is right.

Shy people have a harder time moving up the career ladder

Where to look for the origins of modesty

Modesty, downtroddenness, shyness, fear originate from childhood. Children are like a blank sheet of paper. They don’t know how to show their emotions correctly and don’t know how to manage them. Behavioral reactions to stimuli from the outside world are shaped by parents. By forcing a child to conform to the canons of society, we often forget that he is an individual. Just remember how in hospitals mothers are told that there must be 10 teeth per year, the child must know a certain number of words and no less, etc. And most importantly, the word “should” is everywhere.

Remember that the baby does not owe anything to anyone. It is those around you who must set an example of correct behavior. Each child is a bright, positive individual who does not think in stereotypes. By being excessively rude, indulging whims, and violently forcing people to do things that don’t work out, we kill the personality in children, fitting them into a general framework from which falsely modest individuals can never escape.

A humble person is comfortable with others. There are no problems with him, he doesn’t ask unnecessary questions, he is delicate and courteous, he always presents his help on a silver platter. But timid people are unhappy; they do not have the opportunity to move, improve and grow spiritually. Without being in harmony with oneself, a person gradually collapses as a person.

Modesty can lead to a negative emotional state

In the dictionary D.N. Ushakova

HUMBLE, modest, modest; modest, modest, modest, modest and (rarely) modest. 1. One who does not strive to show his qualities, merits, merits, devoid of arrogance and arrogance. Humble person. To speak modestly (adv.) about one's merits. | Possessing moderation in everything, sufficient modesty, not too cheeky, quite decent, decent. “The ladies like me because I’m modest.” Pushkin. “Why are you and the young lady modest, but the maid a rake?” Griboyedov. 2. Simple, without pretensions to luxury, wealth or special grace. A modest life. Modest toilet. To dress modestly (adv.).

How to eliminate modesty

The character quality of modesty must be eradicated. You cannot live to please other people. It is a natural state for a person to be adequately selfish and do everything for himself and to improve his future. When communicating with people, an adequate person understands perfectly well that by providing, for example, his financial assistance, he will then receive something in return (not to be confused with selfless help in emergency situations). This may apply to tangible and intangible assets. A modest person refuses any manifestation of himself. He only gives, but receives nothing in return.

1. The first thing a modest person needs to do is think about his desires and aspirations. Learn to express your point of view and refuse people. Always helping everyone, you often end up losing, justifying it with your modesty.
2. Do what interests you. Your well-being will never become stable if you do not begin to realize yourself. A person strives with all his nature for a meaningful life, so he searches for himself, but a modest person has no need for this - he will be useful anywhere, he doesn’t care. Sign up for an acting class for beginners or a poetry club.
3. Express yourself with creative ideas. Share your achievements on social networks. Exchange experiences with other users. Gradually reach a new level, trying to promote works to exhibitions of emerging artists. This will give you confidence.

Translation of modesty

We offer you a translation of the word modesty into English, German and French. Implemented using the Yandex.Dictionary service

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• modesty
  - bashfulness, humility false modesty - false modesty

• Bescheidenheit
  - moderation false modesty - falsche Bescheidenheit

• modestie
  - modesty, naivety, restraint, chastity false modesty - fausse modestie

What is modesty (adjectives)?

Selection of adjectives for words based on the Russian language.

false maiden excessive natural innate feminine excessive feigned commendable maiden greater amazing similar ostentatious pretentious any noble own external personal extraordinary incarnated ordinary astounding true natural no damned excess quiet simple extreme captivating greatest old-fashioned inappropriate traditional feigned chaste characteristic false extraordinary unexpected male famous deepest seeming emphasized imaginary exorbitant rare bashful elegant provincial exceptional notorious worthy unnecessary charming soft obvious maximum innate authorial

What can modesty do? What can you do with modesty (verbs)?

Selection of verbs for words based on the Russian language.

answer omit force say declare object hinder smile pronounce force produce win demand ask down hinder prevent turn away acknowledge prescribe look agree refuse to please seem to notice take to speak try to whisper allow to give in look hold consider worth say babble inquire hold notify take become know try add tell call stay disappear think explain explain away run away admit respond whisper admit appear like suggest continue

Associations to the word modesty

attitude clothing everyday life side secret action face behavior sign person waste word given woman comparison hypocrisy combination assessment shower number slander childhood milk entrance nose fun bathing deception man thought voice victim salvation manner honor expression victory hope appeal end arsenal luxury couples frugality tongue-tied temple life gaiety interior girl bard creature Stalin castle feeling virtue desire statement principle patriotism our time dancer dance

Synonyms of modesty

meekness gentleness submissiveness humility patience compliance

Scope of use of the word modesty

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