What should a wife be like?
1. Even if you are a housewife, you must have your own interests and hobbies. You don't have to live only as a husband. While he is watching football, there is no need to nag him or try to watch it with him. Mind your own business, show that you are also an individual and you have your own interests.
2. Don't stay at home all the time. You should have your own circle of friends. Leave home sometimes, let your husband get bored. At the same time, dress nicely and put on makeup.
3. No matter how meager your wardrobe may be, you should always have a beautiful dress that fits your figure for going out in public. Let's say your husband has a bonus and he invited you to celebrate this event in a restaurant, to which you answer him that you have nothing to wear and you just stay at home. It is for such occasions that you should always have something to wear.
4. Always engage in self-development. Read books, interesting articles on the Internet, no, not gossip about the stars, but educational articles. When your husband comes home, show off your knowledge and at dinner tell him some interesting fact that he doesn’t know about.
5. Be nice and friendly to others, try to smile and behave decently. His friends must like you and always be a hospitable hostess.
The same applies to your husband’s relatives; try not to conflict with them and not nag your husband about them.
The ideal wife, according to men, what she is like
She deeply respects her husband
Respect is of utmost importance to men. Therefore, they often ask others: “Do you respect me?” It is logical that a man expects respect for himself, first of all in his own home, from his wife. How can a woman practically show that she respects him?
- Respect can be expressed in the way the spouse speaks and behaves with her husband. A wife who truly respects her husband will always speak to him lovingly, gently, refraining from criticism or caustic remarks.
- She avoids showing an independent, proud spirit, showing everyone that “my husband is not my decree, I do what I want.” Respect is shown in the fact that a woman always thinks about her man's reputation.
- Before doing or saying anything, she will think about how best to do it so as not to harm her husband’s reputation. Respect means showing and letting others know that you recognize his primacy.
- When making a decision, the wife will consult with her husband, even if it is just a matter of changing her hairstyle or responding to an invitation to visit. By this she shows that, above all, she values his opinion.
We advise you to read 64 ways a woman can show that she respects her man.
Supports communication
Good communication and exchange of thoughts is one of the keys to a happy marriage. Therefore, the wife has no secrets from her husband. She trusts him and is honest with him.
Tip: Be a good listener when a man talks to you. You may have dozens of things you want to tell him, but let your husband talk first. Remember, everything has its time.
Avoid greeting your husband from work with complaints and problems - this is not the communication he is looking for after a hard day. If problems and complaints persist, talk about them when your spouse has had some rest.
An ideal wife understands her husband's capabilities
Men expect understanding from their wives, especially in difficult times, when they feel insecure and incapable of something. What would an understanding wife do? She will confidently assure her lover that he will succeed, being proud of any of his achievements and successes.
When faced with failures of the spouse, he simply says: “nothing, it didn’t work out now, it will work out next time.” She has no illusions about his abilities and capabilities, understanding that her husband is not a movie hero or superman, he needs time to achieve success.
Fights whining and doesn’t nag her husband
The spouse understands that whining is a forbidden weapon for women. Therefore, he does not consider it the only way to achieve his goal. She knows that whining does not solve problems, but creates them. The husband may give in, but an unpleasant feeling towards his wife may be born in his heart.
Tip: Just be charming, sweet, a little flirty, wanting to achieve or receive something from your husband, and you won't have to beg him.
Doesn't try to force the husband to hold on to his wife's skirt
The wife understands that her husband’s interests include not only her, but also relatives, friends, and work colleagues, who are also part of his life. In addition, he may have some kind of hobby or hobby. Therefore, the ideal wife does not demand all her husband’s time only for herself. Does not show dissatisfaction if the spouse decides to spend some time with friends, or goes fishing.
Such a woman understands: wanting to “tie her husband to her skirt” with dissatisfaction will only cause his irritation. Understanding that, having made a “rag” of him, he will then cease to respect him.
On this matter, look at the interesting tips from the ideal fisherman's wife.
Pleases her husband with intimacy
Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential components of a happy marriage. Therefore, a wife, firstly, will never blackmail her life partner with a refusal of sexual intimacy, or manipulate sex, especially if she wants to achieve something from a man.
Secondly, she will try to be interesting to him in bed during intimacy. She shows that intimacy with her man brings her joy and pleasure.
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Likes to pleasantly and unexpectedly surprise her spouse
You can surprise your husband not only with an extravagant hairstyle, appearance or gift. Men also love pleasant, simple, unexpected surprises. You've probably noticed how husbands forget seemingly obvious things, like their wedding anniversary.
What would an ideal spouse do in this case? Will he throw a tantrum, pout his lips offendedly, go into the room to watch another TV series, cursing his failed family life? She will try to pleasantly surprise her sweetheart by taking the organization of the holiday into her own hands.
For example, by organizing an evening for two. He may think about his professional holiday or the success of some business, arranging a surprise that does not have to be unusual or expensive. It could be just a bottle of wine, his favorite dishes, a beautifully set table, or the special tenderness and charm of a loving wife.
Believe me, after a hard day, such a surprise for him is the best outlet. Husbands may pretend that they are not surprised, but they will definitely take note of their beloved’s attention. From such little things the rules of an ideal wife are then built.
An ideal wife is always grateful to her husband for his work
A man, like any other person, loves praise. He likes it when people say they appreciate his work. I like it when people thank me for everything he has done for his family. He is pleased to hear the words “dear, how I love you!” Thank you, I really appreciate your concern."
Therefore, it is quite common for an ideal wife to always show in conversation with her lover or other people that she is grateful to her spouse, proud of him, and happy to be his wife. These are the few things a woman can do to show her husband her appreciation.
Honesty, fidelity, devotion - signs of an ideal wife
Such a wife will be, under any circumstances, honest, devoted, faithful to her life partner. She will not allow other men to flirt with her, considering this a humiliation not only to herself, but also to the dignity of her husband.
The wife, even in her thoughts, will not allow herself to indulge in fantasies about a relationship with another man, especially if her husband is not the ideal one she dreamed of having. Therefore, she does not have to deal with her husband's jealousy. By her behavior, she will never give reason to doubt her fidelity, showing that the key to her heart belongs only to her husband.
Takes care of your appearance
The wife tries to be a “pleasant” woman. A happy smile on your face, a pleasant tone, a neat, clean appearance, a beautiful hairstyle - this attracts a man. Therefore, she tries to look attractive every day. She doesn’t allow herself to think: “When I’m married, I don’t have to think about how I look anymore.”
She always wants a man to be pleased to see his wife as an attractive woman. Therefore, among all the worries, she finds time to take care of herself, working on her appearance and attractiveness.
She is a good housewife
A woman, without complaining about her responsibilities, always makes sure that her and her husband’s home is cozy and clean. She spends the family budget economically, does not “waste” money and, without reminders, makes sure that her husband and children always look good.
Ideal means not a grumpy woman
When disagreements or even quarrels arise, she avoids showing her temperament: screaming, swearing, breaking dishes. Moreover, he will not tell others about quarrels, even relatives. Instead, she will choose the right time, trying to calmly discuss this problem with her husband. If she disagrees with her husband on something, she will respectfully tell him about it.
Be sure to watch a 5-minute interview with psychologist Yulia Sviyash about what will help a woman become an ideal wife. In 5 minutes of watching the video, you can still gain useful thoughts for yourself.
Intimacy
In order not to be jealous of your husband and not to be afraid of his cheating, you need to behave correctly in the bedroom.
1. There is no need to punish your husband for misconduct, lack of intimacy, or, conversely, reward him for something with intimacy.
2. Don’t act too shy in bed, because you have nothing to be shy in bed with your loved one.
3. But, of course, there is no need to act unnatural and behave like a worker in the Dutch sex industry. When asked how many men were before him, answer with a smile that everything that came before him does not matter.
4. Be ready to try something new and somehow diversify your intimate life.
5. Do not discuss your intimate life with your friends, this is only your personal and others do not need to know about it.
List of responsibilities of husband and wife in the family
Now let’s figure out what specific responsibilities a husband and wife have in a modern family. This list is generalized, and it is wrong to strictly adhere to it, but in general, psychologists recommend acting in a similar way.
Men's responsibilities
A man is the head of the family, so let's start with what he needs to do in marriage.
- Make decisions and be responsible for them to your spouse.
- Provide for a woman, give her clothes and jewelry, buy sweets.
- Respect women and children, protect them, accept their shortcomings.
- Set an example for children, be responsible for moral and spiritual education.
- Give love to your spouse, listen to her opinion and advice. But make decisions yourself.
- Do work that is beyond a woman’s strength - moving furniture, carrying heavy bags, and so on.
- Show respect to your spouse's parents.
- If possible, relieve your wife of the need to work. In this case, she will be able to equip the house, create comfort in it, and restore order.
Women's responsibilities
A woman is a more fragile and sophisticated creature than a man. At the same time, her role in the family is no less important. Here is a list of things that are part of her responsibilities.
- Support a man in all his endeavors. Do not reproach for mistakes, do not reproach, do not discuss. If the husband stumbles, encourage him.
- Run a household: arrange the house to your liking, prepare and serve dishes, decorate the room.
- Look after yourself. A man will be pleased to see a girl well-groomed, and she will feel desired.
- Inspire your husband to do good deeds: with love, unexpected gifts or a kind word.
- Respect a man, obey him. It is important to trust and not contradict. Even if a man makes a mistake, he is responsible for it and will correct it himself.
- Raise children, give them love, support them in difficult life situations.
- Take care of relatives, respect your husband’s parents and help them.
- Observe etiquette regarding other men.
Family
Perhaps it is high time to introduce a special subject for girls, “How to choose a husband,” into the educational program. Psychologists advise, first of all, to pay attention to the family of your potential chosen one. Try to find out in more detail about what principles reign in his house. Most likely, after marriage, a man will try to transfer them to your family, because this is how he has been accustomed to living since childhood.
Pay attention to how family members communicate with each other, what is their attitude towards the woman. It is possible that your future husband will behave with you the way his father behaves with his mother. You should be wary of any manifestation of rudeness, neglect and violence.
But it is also worth tracking a man’s reaction to family traditions. Does he oppose them or willingly support them? By carefully analyzing the information received, you can get a rough idea of what your family life will be like.
Qualities of a good wife:
1. Pleasant communication. You cannot be rude to your husband and his relatives. You need to be kinder, more affectionate, more positive. You should talk while maintaining a calm and pleasant tone of voice.
2. Respect. A wife should not humiliate her husband, even in private. You should understand and accept your husband with all his shortcomings and advantages.
3. Mutual understanding. This quality should always be present in family life. Spouses should always have topics for conversation; they should be interested in the husband’s life, what’s going on at his work, etc.
4. Support. You should never leave your husband without support, especially during a difficult period for him. He needs the support of his wife, and not his friends and acquaintances. You cannot blame your husband for any failure.
5. Accept and listen to your husband’s opinion. You should not lecture your husband; he is quite an adult and can have his own opinion on solving any problems.
6. Express your needs. You cannot hide something from your husband or speak in hints. It is best to speak about your needs, and not wait for your husband to guess.
7. Freedom. Every person needs freedom and their own personal space. Likewise, the husband needs it; one must not invade his personal space or infringe on his freedom.
8. Romance. Men are secretive romantics. They also love unexpected surprises, gifts, and just a romantic dinner. This must always be remembered.
9. Love and appreciation. Men love praise and gratitude. You should talk about this to your husband more often.
10. Honesty. You should never lie to your husband. It is easy to lose trust, but it is very difficult to regain it. There will be no trust, there will be no family relationships. Therefore, it is better to tell the truth, whatever it may be.
11. Home comfort. Although men themselves do not keep the house in order, they love it to be clean. Therefore, the wife must be a good housewife.
12. Physiological proximity. This is one of the most important qualities that should be present in a woman. A husband should feel satisfaction in his intimate life from his wife.
If you combine all the qualities in one woman, then she will make a good wife, whom her husband will love and appreciate for the rest of his life.
Responsibilities of husband and wife in an Orthodox family
If we consider the responsibilities of husband and wife in the family from the point of view of Orthodoxy, the picture here is as follows. The Church teaches the main rule: to live in love and harmony. Spouses must be faithful, respect each other, honor their parents and raise their children together.
According to the Bible, married couples are people whom the Lord blessed for marriage. And nothing earthly can destroy the connection between them.
The main duty of spouses in Orthodoxy is to live according to the laws of God and work. For love is not a spontaneous feeling, but a gift for which both need to fight.
The husband is responsible for the family before God. The wife adorns herself with modesty, kindness and mercy. The ideal union is equal. Harmony, peace, harmony and love should reign in the house.
As for spouses who have lived together for a long time, their marriage is based on mutual obedience and humility. Only in this case will the husband and wife be happy.
