Respect for men. Why is this important and how to restore it?

Many girls find themselves in a situation where they do everything possible for the man they love to make him feel comfortable, but do not receive reciprocity. They cook, clean, show love and care, but do not receive mutual attention and respect. Why is this happening? Why doesn't a man respect a woman and show gratitude? Let's try to figure it out and understand why this happens, and what a girl should do if a guy doesn't appreciate her.

Respect is the foundation of any relationship. Without this, it is impossible to build successful relationships. Be it friendly, work or romantic. Both partners must love, appreciate and care for each other. If you want to build a long and happy life together.

The main reasons why a man does not respect a woman

You allow it to happen

Many ladies behave in such a way that their partner does not value or respect them. They initially positioned themselves incorrectly and did not set certain boundaries. They did not show their character, and as a result, the man understands that a lot can be done with this girl. Or you don’t pay attention to his behavior for a long time and say nothing. All this leads to the fact that a man does not respect a woman. In addition, this behavior will continue until you set certain boundaries and talk about everything openly.

Many girls do not understand what to do in this situation, because this is the first time this has happened in their lives. In this case, it is important not to delay and not bring the situation to a critical point when nothing can be done. Therefore, as soon as you notice the first signs of disrespect, you need to tell your partner about it. There is no need to remain silent. Say you don't like this behavior. But it needs to be done correctly. You need to explain to your man how you want him to treat you. Have an open conversation with him. Be brave and say that you don't like his attitude.

Women's disrespected qualities

You can criticize men for their shortcomings as much as you like, but they also have their own point of view about women. Either some kind of inner feeling, or experience suggests, but some categories of ladies are quickly rejected by them. Let's go over “marriage”: what is it that boys don’t value in girls?

Masculinity

These are not only female bodybuilders with pumped up muscles. Even behind the external ostentatious gloss there can be a tomboy who can answer an invitation to dance almost in a bass voice: “Hey, fuck off, you goat!”

Such aunts shock and disgust at one moment. Durekha thinks she looks cool, but there's no coolness in it. A would-be gentleman who encounters this type of girl has many questions:

Isn't she a lesbian? Too suspicious.
Who mentally traumatized her?
Did her parents know how girls should be raised?

Perhaps such a girl can be respected somewhere “in the area” among boys at the age of puberty. But, as usual, many girls overcome this barrier, becoming lovely and feminine. But some get stuck at this age, right up to the deepest maturity.

Just remember your old friend Natalya from YouTube:

Surprisingly, even such women suddenly remember their gender when they need it. You can hear her everywhere: “I’m a woman, I’m supposed to!” Many men have to put up with her rights when she begins to ferociously shake them. But respect for such ladies is zero!

Another useful article: Why a man hides his feelings for a woman and how to recognize falling in love

Bitchiness

The article on bitchiness and grumpiness has useful information on this topic. But for a complete explanation, something else needs to be added.

Agree, a woman’s scream doesn’t lift anyone’s spirits. But some bitchy ladies naively believe that this image of her is associated with images of a sexy vamp, a beauty with a cold heart and the ruler of the world at the same time.

Nothing of the kind, this image is associated with Baba Yaga with a face twisted with anger, which splashes with saliva. Only a spineless henpecked man, disrespected by everyone just as much as his chosen one, can fall in love with such a Megaera.

But more sensible and experienced men will stay away from such people. Life experience has taught them how not to turn into a doormat, and they even find the affectionate attempts of bitches to snuggle under his wing so that they can trample the guy into the dirt funny. The level of respect for such women is also zero.

Another interesting article: How to understand that a male colleague likes you

Commercialism

There are women who smack of pompous importance and ostentatious inaccessibility. No, they are not shrill bitches or masculine women. They are good-looking people with their upper lips curled up in disgust.

For them, hard workers and clerks are trash, the dregs of society, small fish. Well, what are they capable of? For a bouquet of chrysanthemums and two movie tickets?! It's funny, isn't it? But everything changes when they come - daddies with full wallets.

And then metamorphoses occur:

The once upturned sponge turns into a duck's beak pumped up with silicone.
Selling your body doesn’t seem like such a sin, even if there’s an old, flabby male in bed next to you.
The lady puts herself on an invisible pedestal from which she can spit on the heads of the “rogues” higher up.

But it is precisely such women who more often fall from this pedestal when daddies see their body, battered over the years. Accordingly, respect for them in the eyes of men decreases for corruption and ostentatious arrogance. And there is also zero respect for such a lady.

Another interesting article: Nice words for a guy at night - how to wish good night to your loved one

Betrayal

We're not just talking about cheating here. It is very rare, but it happens when you can justify betrayal if it twisted a woman’s brain for some time and did not in any way shake the marital status. In any case, you can try to do this, following the advice from the article What if you slept with your husband’s friend. The main thing is that everything is sewn and covered.

But betrayal is worse if:

undermine the trust of a loved one by revealing his secret to society after a minor quarrel;
run away cowardly when the man you love is in a difficult moral situation;
leaving a lover in trouble when he needs physical support in a serious illness.

There is no justification for such a betrayal; rumors about it spread at the speed of light. Such a woman deserves not only zero respect, but also universal censure.

Stupidity

Women are “famous” for their absurd logic - this is no longer a secret to anyone and, in general, is forgivable. Most often, it is not the women themselves who are to blame, but the strange play of their hormones. You can read about this in the article Who is smarter - men or women.

But there are also madams who stupidly do not want to develop. Their brain is not decorated with ornate convolutions, there is only one line - a straight line, aimed at the amusement of their female ego: tricks, tricks and other pleasures.

In the article The Facets of Female Stupidity you will read how many sharp edges this shortcoming has. Honestly speaking, communicating with a fool is more likely to cause bewilderment than disrespect. Although respect for such a narrow-minded girl is also at zero.

Untidy and artificial

Yes, dirty people have never been held in high esteem. And if her home is the same mess, both on her head and in her clothes, then respect for such a slob is double zero. How can you respect a person who stubbornly refuses to respect himself?

The same category can also include women who are monstrous about their appearance, but exactly the opposite, as slobs do. Yes, yes, all these lip-slappers and round-assed people.

All this looks repulsive. It’s like a homeless man or, conversely, a metrosexual with silicone-pumped lips, muscles and the same puffy penis. There is nothing truly courageous, and the show does not inspire admiration either.

Promiscuity and drunkenness

Well, this is beyond any categories. You know, there are such queens of drinking bars. And they don’t seem to be homeless women, but there’s not much feminine in them either:

they drink like men “at the bottom” of a cut glass;
hung on the neck of anyone who seemed handsome to her under the wine fumes;
starts brawls if the glass is empty, or the handsome guy doesn’t fall for it.

By the way, such people will not miss their goal if the case smells of profit: they can even sue in court under the guise of rape and pretend to be a victim. Well, you can hype up on the Internet and grab money in order to improve your life. There is certainly zero respect for such individuals.

It will also be interesting: Finding out the ringed one: how a married man in love behaves

What to do if you are not valued or respected

First of all, you need to determine whether there really was true love and strong feelings between you? And did this man value you before? Or was it just a fleeting romance, and you didn’t have any plans for a future together? If a man really loved and respected you before, then it’s worth working on such a relationship and trying to get everything back. You can even improve them so that your partner changes for the better.

But, if there was no respect and strong feelings between you initially, then it will be difficult to earn it. Besides, I don't recommend doing this. Because love and true feelings in a romantic relationship do not need to be earned. They should appear naturally. Stop wasting your precious time on this person and find someone better. This will save your nerves and return to normal life faster.

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Manipulation

Manipulation in relationships occurs, but is only acceptable as rare and unconscious behavior. If your man purposefully reads books on how to manipulate people and uses similar techniques in communicating with you, then this is a serious reason to think about it.

Especially if you feel psychological pressure from your partner, ignoring your attitude to the situation, his determination to insist on his opinion at all costs, even through manipulation. We advise you to read our material How to protect yourself from psychological manipulation, it will help you find the right strategy of behavior. Manipulation means there is no love in the relationship.

Respect for your husband begins with respect for your father.

Despite this, restoring the ability to respect men in general should begin with forgiveness and instilling respect for your father. For what? For the fact that your mother fell in love with him, for the fact that he gave birth to such a wonderful daughter: smart and searching. Stop playing God: judging and punishing is not your job. For everything you deserve what you deserve, so resentment and negativity are bad helpers on the path to happiness.

After this, you should learn to respect yourself and your husband. Why is it so important to learn respect? In psychology, there is Maslow's Pyramid of Needs. At its base are physiological needs (food, sleep, reproduction, etc.), next comes the need for security, then the need to belong to a social group, then the need for respect and at the very top – the need for self-actualization, namely love, creativity, spiritual growth, etc. Each subsequent stage is impossible without satisfying the previous one. Remember how difficult it is to listen to your boss and understand what he is talking about if you simply want to go to the toilet. Likewise, without developing respect for both yourself and those around you, it is impossible to fully move on and achieve success.

I hope that this article will motivate lovely ladies of any age to restore such a wonderful feeling from forgiveness of their father to respect for themselves and their spouse.

In fact, if you look, all men try to earn this very respect: some with work, some with humor, some with their appearance. But when they realize that everything is in vain, they immerse themselves in computer games or escape from the feeling of emptiness into alcohol and drugs. But it’s so simple to start: argue less and listen more to your loved one.