Relationships between a man and a woman are always built on trust. But what should a girl do when her boyfriend hides their relationship from friends and family? Secret relationships always look suspicious and cause a lot of misunderstanding. And no matter how much a woman wants to justify a man’s behavior, from the outside it looks frivolous and stupid. Why does a man hide a girl and what drives his desire not to tell his love story to anyone?
He doesn't take relationships seriously
It's best to start right away with the bad news. And no matter how sad it is, most likely the man simply does not take the relationship with the girl seriously or even believes that there is no relationship. If you've been together for more than a month, and he still hasn't introduced you to friends or just pets, this is a sure sign that it's time to break off the relationship. It’s even worse when a girl trusts him completely, opens her soul and brings him into the company of mutual friends, and in return receives only gratitude. With such a person you will simply waste your time.
Recently ended relationship4
If a man has just recently ended a relationship, then being a gentleman, he simply does not want to hurt his ex-lover. This is customary among “exes” if the partners do not have the goal of annoying each other. In this case, it is quite logical to hide a new relationship, and you should not be offended by a man without clarifying the situation. Just give it a little time for the relationship to strengthen and you can make sure that you made the right choice. The “time of exes” will pass, and he will definitely stop hiding your relationship.
When Should We Hide Our Emotions?
There are certain situations in which hiding our feelings can be beneficial. If you have had a difficult day at work, and you still have an important conversation ahead of you that you need to approach in a good mood, then you need to prepare yourself to show only positive emotions. Regulating your feelings changes other people's perceptions of you. The ability to manage your mood is a truly important aspect of an adult’s life. If you have an important interview, then be sure to get rid of any feelings of anger, resentment or sadness. With your children, you should also show only positive emotions and set an example for them on how to react correctly to certain situations.
He values your relationship very much6
Let's move from bad news to good news. Maybe a man is hiding a girl simply because he is afraid of losing her? This is usually done by men with low self-esteem, who are more afraid than anything in the world that their best friend will be able to take you away with him. Maybe you have come across such a jealous person? Think carefully, do you need a relationship where you will be jealous of every pillar? What about general photos? What about walks with friends? No, it’s better to be alone at home, in a robe and in the dark. What if someone steals such a treasure as you from under their nose?
What makes a man fall in love?
A man falls in love with you because he knows that he himself can be surrounded by your love.
He falls in love with you because he feels safe expressing his deepest, personal feelings for you. He feels this way because he knows that you can return his feelings. He feels that reciprocity is possible on your part, and therefore, at the most unconscious level, he begins to seek your company, your touch, your love. He may not even know why he feels this way.
All he knows is that there is something special about you that he doesn't feel with any other woman in his life. He's in love.
He wants to take you in his arms and hold you always.
This is the “secret of psychology” of men’s love.
I say this is a secret because it is poorly understood by both women and men themselves. Rarely will you or he know anything for sure, but there will be an inexplicable attraction, a desire for something more and lasting than a fleeting flirtation.
Many of us are mistaken about why a man falls in love.
We think that a man needs sex, or he wants a fabulously gorgeous woman with a perfect body. We believe that a man likes us because we are pleasant to him, kind and pliable. Especially pliable. That's why we do everything for him. We cook wonderful meals and give deep, thoughtful advice about whatever is bothering him. We light candles when he arrives. We wear the sexiest clothes and buy lacy lingerie.
And yet he tells us that he is not sure of his feelings. Or he withdraws and becomes moody. Or he stops calling or looking for us as often as he did before. Either he does something very hurtful, or he deceives us, or he tells us that he doesn't understand what you mean by being together.
This is because deep down you have not created love in his heart. You didn't connect on the deepest, most intimate level of his feelings.
We become the only one for him without even thinking about what we want or whether he truly meets our need for security, love and a serious relationship.
You're screwing yourself up8
Men are complex creatures. And sometimes their understanding of relationships is not similar to women’s. For you, relationships mean constant meetings, shared photos on social networks, round-the-clock SMS, emoticons and continuous mi-mi-mi. For a man, a couple of minutes of conversation on the phone, meetings three times a week are enough, but he has never even heard of shared photos on Instagram. And this does not mean at all that the man is hiding you from the public, he simply does not want to share you with her. Maybe this is where the happiness of two people lies?
Whatever type of behavior is inherent in your man, at the beginning of the relationship, keep him at a distance and do not show all your cards at once. Respect the personal space of your chosen one and be prepared for the fact that in the near future he will stop hiding your relationship and you will see his social circle.
The main reasons why men hide their feelings and emotions
The main reason that a man hides his own feelings and emotions is the reluctance to demonstrate his own weakness. Yes, yes, representatives of the male half of society consider the manifestation of feelings a symbol of weakness, which is inherent only in women. Men hide all their experiences inside themselves, and outwardly mask their experiences with excessive harshness, rudeness and impudence. This behavior jeopardizes relationships with the women they truly love.
There are several more reasons why men hide their feelings and experiences:
1. Reluctance to lose personal freedom. Of course, subconsciously men want to be close to their beloved, but the fear of becoming a puppet in her hands makes them tough and cynical.
2. Realizing that he is not indifferent to the woman next to him, a man can deliberately show coldness and move away from his beloved in order to maintain interest in himself. He may even completely stop maintaining a relationship with a woman he finds attractive. With this behavior, he only fuels the desire in his beloved to constantly think about him, all the time to return to attempts to restore lost communication with him. Many men believe that by showing frankness in feelings and emotions, they make themselves very vulnerable, and this quality, as representatives of the stronger sex, does not suit them at all.
Interesting! Men actually experience a huge range of different emotions and feelings, but most of them they don't show.
3. The public does not accept weakness from male representatives. Since childhood, little boys are constantly taught that they should be men, strong and independent, and should not cry or complain about life. a real man is self-confident, strong, persistent, has a high degree of rationality, and independence. It is society that imposes certain stereotypes of behavior on a man, demanding that he forget about sentimentality, sensitivity and gentleness of character. All these qualities are inherent in the female half of humanity, and men should not have them.
Important! Many young guys and mature men attribute their own falling in love to a manifestation of weakness, so they try in every possible way to hide and disguise it.
4. Women often complain that their admirer does not openly show feelings of love towards them. It is not clear whether the young man is really in love, or whether the current relationship for him is a meaningless flirtation. Shyness plays a cruel joke on males, destroying the image of a strong, courageous and decisive conqueror in women’s eyes. Often young people hide their love not only from the girl they like, but also from relatives, friends and close people. They simply do not want to look like a weakling in the eyes of their relatives, not wanting to be considered henpecked. At the same time, men do not take any steps towards their beloved, do not call her, do not write love messages. Women get nervous because of this, constantly check their personal email and SMS on their phones, and make stupid guesses. It is extremely difficult for them to understand what logic the representatives of the stronger sex are guided by, why they put on a mask of indifference, why they don’t even try to tell them about their love?
Couple in love in nature
Perhaps they just don't know how to love? No, this is something else. Despite the fact that the young man almost never describes to friends and family his preparations for a romantic evening with his beloved, he looks outwardly very serious and callous, a storm of passions boils in his soul, and his ardent heart is bursting with love. And he hides all this behind feigned indifference and principle
“The less we love a woman, the more she likes us...”
5. On a subconscious level, a man is afraid of getting closer to the woman he loves, because he thinks that he will become dependent on her in all plans. Naturally, no representative of the stronger sex will directly say such information. His cherished dream may be to spend every free minute of his time with his beloved, but during the next call the man will say that the meeting will not take place because he is very busy. Most likely, such behavior will indicate that the man simply does not want to rush things, and there is a fear inside him that his beloved will begin to manipulate him. Yes, yes, men often keep their distance in relationships with representatives of the fair sex due to the fact that they do not want to become a puppet in their hands. Moreover, this fear also extends to sexual relationships.
6. Men understand no worse than women that the less information is known about their personality, the more interesting it will be to communicate with them. And therefore, the strong half of the world of humanity often puts on themselves a certain aura of mystery in order to stir up interest in their personality.
Interesting! Most men behave deliberately coldly with their other half, because they believe that it is not words, but actions that make a person beautiful.
7. Women should not be offended by their chosen one if he shows coldness in the relationship. He cannot constantly tell you about his love; it is much easier for him to demonstrate his feelings in actions and actions. It is in them that the true attitude of a representative of the stronger sex towards you is noticeable. This behavior is completely justified, because a man does not want to seem vulnerable and weak; it is more important for him to demonstrate to you that he can be a support. Real men prove their care and love through actions, not empty words. Take a closer look at your spouse's behavior. If he immediately rushes to your home with medicines immediately after learning about your illness; if he remembers the most important dates for you and constantly gives gifts on them; if he cares about your health and makes sure that on a cold autumn (winter) day you put on a warm hat and scarf, you can rest assured that this man really loves you. It is caring and taking an active part in solving a woman’s problems that is the main confirmation of the sincerity of feelings (and indeed, their presence) on the part of the stronger sex.
8. Men, by their nature, are as emotional as the fairer sex (and in some individual cases, the level of male emotionality even exceeds that of women). The male sex is also afraid of being rejected, of hearing a refusal from his beloved. All this causes them great pain, a lot of anxiety and worry. In addition, representatives of the stronger half of humanity need much more time to establish an emotional connection with their beloved. and if there is a break in a relationship, then men sometimes experience it much more acutely and for longer. But even when hiding his own feelings, a man does not forget that along with such a personality quality as courage, he is also characterized by kindness, a desire to take care of loved ones,
9. It is often difficult for a man to open up even to the person closest to him. Unlike women, who are accustomed to vigorously expressing their own emotions and feelings, the male half of society, on the contrary, behaves with restraint and dryness. This greatly offends their other half, the girl begins to consider her lover an insensitive blockhead, and often this situation ends in a complete break in the relationship. Ladies simply do not realize that a guy needs much more time to decide to have a frank conversation. In order to confess his love, a young man must be completely confident in his chosen one. And on the way to building trust, a woman must definitely help her beloved, sharing with him all her sorrows and joys. Gradually he will learn to do the same. It is worth remembering that if a man really considers himself to be a member of the stronger sex (without being a gigolo and a mama’s boy), then he will always strive to demonstrate his own power, strength and masculinity.
A man's hidden feelings - there are many of them, and that's a fact.
