How to avoid stress when doing any task, but easily complete all tasks?

Why do we worry about trifles?

The main natural causes of human anxiety may be a risk to health or life. Nowadays, such dangerous situations are quite rare. Therefore, a person finds many other reasons for concern. This could be uncertainty about the outcome of the transaction, fear of failure, fear of looking funny and ridiculous.

Such situations also manifest themselves physically: hands tremble, heartbeat quickens, palms sweat, it’s hard to concentrate. And no matter what task a person actually faces, purely because of the increased level of excitement, he risks failing everything. Everything would be fine, but there were no real reasons for failure. The reason was self-inflation and stress as a result of this. But you can fight this.

Let's consider a few facts, the understanding of which will help you separate the important from the unimportant and not worry about the little things.

External assessment

There are people around you who evaluate you. Some are silent, others consider it their duty to point out all your shortcomings. It's not always out of spite. Some people really want to help and fix what they think is wrong with you and your actions.

Another question is that you have your own view on this. Even a woman teacher, raising a child in her own way, can hear enough of this from relatives and neighbors that she will lose all confidence in her qualifications. The secret is self-confidence and the ability to insist on your own, to defend your point of view. People respect the confidence and strength of others. Even if they don’t understand, they will retreat before your conviction.

There are those who just don't like you. And no matter what you do, in any area of ​​life, they will be unhappy and full of criticism.

What to do? Nothing!

It is their right: to love or not to love you. And you are not a carrot to be tasty for everyone. You just need to accept this fact and not pay attention to it.

There is also a category of people who tease you on the Internet: evil trolls. These may be more difficult. You don’t meet ordinary people every day, and you can simply ignore gossip about you: you don’t hear them, but it’s still not true. And trolls can pester you with messages and even spread nasty things about you online.

In reality, it just seems more difficult; all you have to do is block unwanted online acquaintances and you won’t hear from them. And people who know you well will not believe in idle speculation.

And the real truth about this fact is that, by and large, people don’t care about you. A person is mainly interested only in himself, and often does not show attention even to his loved ones. What to say about others. Therefore, behave in a way that suits you: create, go towards your goal, reach your own heights. And don't think about other people's opinions. There will always be people who will be delighted with your actions.

You can't please everyone

Most people don't care about you, they have their own problems. Why do you need to like them? Why should their opinion matter? Assuming that it exists at all.

You are who you are: you are compatible with some people, not with others. You have your own path, radically different from theirs. That's normal, that's life. First of all, you definitely won't change it. Secondly, it doesn't change anything in your life. Well, one more hater, one less. Your goal is to be happy.

Thoughts about bad happiness only interfere.

So just forget about those who don’t love you, that’s their right. And your life belongs to you and the influence of various negative types should not prevent you from achieving success on your path.

Only a small circle is important

Most people are neither cold nor hot from your existence.
And you don’t need to pay attention to their possible opinion. You can forget about them. But it is important to understand that there is another category: loved ones, friends, relatives. There are people who care about you, only they love you. And this is important. Only you should do good to them, take their opinion into account, pay attention, try to make them pleasant with your behavior. If you love them, of course.

Often, over time, people begin to take close relationships for granted: pay less attention to the person’s needs and preferences, and do not notice their dissatisfied glances. But at the same time, they actively try to earn the love of a new boss or neighbor. You can't do that. These are the most important people in your life and they are the ones who care about you being happy and succeeding in life.

With them you can be yourself and not worry about being judged or offended. Appreciate such people and do not ignore their opinions.

People who don't care change the world

Excessive worry takes away a lot of strength and energy.
The more reasons for such stress you find for yourself, the less strength you have left for what is important - goals, life path. You won't reach your goal if you don't know where it is and what the goal is. And also you will not get to the north if you intentionally or unintentionally go south. If you are distracted by the opinions of others, adapt to their views and change your plans to please public opinion, then you will not master your path.

Mistakes along the way are normal. Yes, you can be blamed and criticized for them. Not scary. Firstly, everyone has the right to make mistakes. And secondly, these are your mistakes and they also give results: they teach you, train you. And every mistake is another brick in building your happiness. You will overcome everything, step by step.

Therefore, forget about others, forget about the little things and direct all the saved energy in the right direction: go forward - towards your dream.

How to give up on everything in 5 steps

Those who do not know how to cut off all the unimportant moments from their field of vision complicate their lives and mark time. We offer several steps that will help you forget about all the unnecessary details.

Let go of expectations

Don't think about what will come of your actions. You spent time and energy, you tried for the result. But now that's it: the train has left. Nothing can be changed. You can do something different, new and important.

So relax, let go of your worries and expectations, enjoy the moment. Switch to the positive: “What a great guy I am! I was able to do it: quickly, on time!” Praise yourself. It will be more beneficial.

Live for today

For every moment of life, a person is allocated a certain amount of energy. It needs to be put to good use for this moment. But this energy flows away like water if you spend a moment thinking about the past or worrying about the future.

Forget about the past: it is no longer there. You are a different person now. You have a different goal and mission.

Don't worry about the future. It may not come in the form in which you see it if you do not invest in today, in the present moment. If you are always thinking about the past and future, then you are not now. Thus, you do not actually live, but float in time.

If you have a day off, don't think about work. Work is on Monday, and now it’s family time.

Build your life now, enjoy every minute, fill it with joy, smiles, new achievements. This brings the moment of success closer.

Overcome Fear

There is a wise saying: “Our doubts are our traitors.
They make us lose what we might have won if we weren't afraid to try." There is so much truth and wisdom in these words. Just think about it, penetrate the depth.

The cause of most worries and anxieties is simply fear and self-doubt. A person is afraid of making mistakes, afraid of losing friends, being left alone, without money. And the man continues to mark time:

• Doesn’t change boring work: what’s next, and if he doesn’t find a better one;
• Doesn’t ask for a salary increase: what if they fire you altogether;
• I don’t start my own business: what if I lose everything;
• Doesn’t try to get close to someone he likes: he’ll suddenly say “No.”

Often our fears are prejudices from childhood, stereotypes imposed by society. It is enough to discard them. how easy and simple life becomes.

Sometimes fears reveal our lack of confidence in ourselves, our lack of confidence in our worth as a person, as a specialist. What to do? You need to rationally look at your capabilities and understand that you are worth something. It's hard to believe. Therefore, you need to actively act: prove not to others, but first of all to yourself, that you can. It is useful to learn something new, expand your horizons, travel, meet new people, engage in some kind of creativity, sports.

There is a rule: “Don’t think about the problem, think about the solution.”

Paying attention to the problem and concentrating only on the negative makes you worry, this causes fear of losing. Think about the result you want and act in that direction. Always think about success, about what you want to achieve. And do what you need to do: it’s better to do it and make a mistake than not to try and miss out on happiness.

The right decision: follow the call of your soul, without thinking about any “ifs.” “The heart will never tell you to do something bad,” these are very correct words.

Find and accept your values

Understand your values:

• what really matters to you;
• what do you live for?
• who is important to you.

This will help to discard all unnecessary worries and separate the wheat from the chaff. When you know what you need and what you are striving for, then you will have something to do.

And if your head is busy with really important things and thoughts, then there is simply no time to be distracted by all sorts of mental “garbage”. A concentrated person works more efficiently and gets results faster.

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Through relaxation to problem solving

There is such a feature of the brain: to cling to something and constantly scroll it in a circle. This is a bad habit. You can tell yourself every minute: forget it, don’t worry. But you still worry and return to the old song: if only, but if only.

First of all, you need to relax. Meditation, a warm bath, a fun movie, sports, yoga will help with this. When the body relaxes, then mental blocks gradually dissolve.

When you relax well, thoughts will practically disappear at first. And when they start to return, try to catch an unnecessary thought and sharply “cut off” it, switch to other issues that are more important at the moment.

This practice will improve your mood since you will not be constantly worried. And it will improve your life, since you will spend the energy of the moment on action, and not on worry. And any useful action brings you closer to happiness.

Some useful tips

Laugh!

There are different situations.
But many things cannot be changed, and neither suffering nor shame will help. Find yourself in a ridiculous situation: laugh with others. This will lift your spirits and others will understand that you are a strong person and don’t worry about trifles. Why waste energy on negativity. Some people can suffer and worry for years because of some kind of failure, sometimes completely nonsense: they argue for their actions, look for reasons, justifications and guilt for themselves or others. Although it’s high time for them to forget about it and move on.

And you, forget about the little things and just enjoy life. Smile and laugh more.

Be honest

Think about what a meaningless experience will give you? If you can change something, then do it. If you can’t, then worrying won’t change anything. Well, unless it spoils the nervous system.

There is no need to load your mind, soul and body with all sorts of unnecessary “junk”: doubts, uncertainty, searching for the guilty, the extreme. All you have to do is be honest with yourself: decide what you want from life and the situation, objectively evaluate your capabilities and resources.

Being honest with yourself is a quality of the strong. Be strong: focus on what is important and discard the unnecessary.

Sometimes it's hard. The opinions of others put pressure on the psyche and prevent them from making the right choice. You can try to meditate: alone with yourself, discard everything unnecessary, relax and look inside yourself for what brings you joy and pleasure.

Replace obsessive thoughts with positive ones

Go for your dream. Defend your opinions and your purpose. And put aside the feeling of guilt towards others. Yes, you may feel like you haven’t met other people’s expectations, but it’s your life and you get to choose how to live it.

Have you already missed many opportunities? It's okay: you understood the lesson and gained experience. There is no point in suffering anymore. Move forward with faith and hope!

Forgive yourself for your mistakes and forgive others for their actions.

All this has already passed and does not matter. It's important to be here and now. It is important to decide based on your current situation and your dreams. Use the energy you have to act now, don't waste it on the past.

Every event has two sides: negative and positive. Instead of seeing only the negatives in everything, you need to reverse your views. Examples:

Don't be afraid to say, "I don't know"

Sometimes it’s so embarrassing to admit that we are not successful or smart enough, so we want to show that we know more than in fact. And instead of saying “I don’t know” and immediately starting to study the issue, we pretend that “everything is already clear”... And it’s even worse to say that we don’t know what the future will be like. But you don't have to know everything. And you don’t have to be afraid of this ignorance either. The area of ​​ignorance is the most exciting, because it is the space for exploration. Look there boldly and live the way you want.

Results

Let's summarize. What you need to score everything:

1. Recognizing the problem of increased anxiety over small things is 70% of success on the path to a solution. Understand that worries complicate your life and allow yourself the happiness of living in peace. Focus on what's important.
2. Don't pay attention to other people's opinions. People are only interested in themselves, they don’t care about you. Therefore, consider the opinions of only people close to you.
3. Be simpler. Don’t complicate your life with unnecessary things and worry about them. Decide on your core values ​​and focus only on them.
4. Fill your life with light, fun and joy. Smile at life and it will reflect your smile and fill you with joy.
5. To be honest. Be honest with yourself and with others, it will simplify your life and fill it with new meaning.

Remember that you are the architect of your own happiness. Focus on this matter: go towards your dream, despite prejudices and stereotypes.

Automate familiar actions

Try to accustom yourself to automaticity in performing current tasks and responsibilities. Then you won't have to remember them and will complete them when needed. For example, get into the habit of paying your household bills online. Or enter all the birthdays into your smartphone so that it reminds you of them at least a week before the event. Plan a week in advance for dinners with friends, clothes, necessary housework, etc. The more clearly everything is planned, the less stress you will have to feel.