How to distinguish a pick-up artist from an ordinary man who wants to meet you

The term “Pickup” came into modern speech from the English language. This concept arose in the USA in the 70s of the twentieth century and meant the quick seduction of a girl using a set of special techniques, techniques and patterns. One of the fundamental works on which the theory of modern pickup is based is the book by Ross Jeffries “How to Get the Woman of Your Dreams into Bed.” It describes theoretical points and practical instructions that allow you to seduce almost any woman in a few dates.

Today, pickup is represented by numerous trends and schools holding different views. However, there are a number of general theoretical aspects and techniques that form the ideological basis of this direction. The domestic pickup truck is also developing rapidly. After the release of the feature film “Pickup: Eating Without Rules” in 2009, thousands of guys and men signed up for seduction courses, and thematic forums and web resources received a powerful influx of new adherents who wanted to master the art of seducing women.

Common myths about pickup artists

After watching videos on YouTube and the Russian film “Pickup.
Picking up without rules,” as well as reading about such men online, women have the erroneous opinion of what a pickup truck is. This is also facilitated by the myths that have developed over the past few years, when this technique of quickly picking up girls has become increasingly popular.

Among them, the most common beliefs are those that answer the question, who is a pickup artist?

This is a student suffering from a lack of sex and money, so he is looking for a quick and easy victim, whose gullibility he takes advantage of without a twinge of conscience. In fact, this is only partially true.
A 40-year-old man who leads such a lifestyle can also be a pick-up artist. Sometimes the reason for the desire to spend as little money as possible is not financial problems, but the so-called “sports interest”.

Signs of a pick-up artist: well-read
The pick-up artist only needs sex.
After receiving it, the girl becomes no longer interesting to him and he leaves her. This is not entirely true. Usually the process of conquering the victim itself plays a huge role, when the pick-up artist hones his skills and applies new tricks, for example, giving an unusual bouquet, making bright compliments, using unique and unique ways of attracting attention.
This is a man preoccupied with sex, and the thirst for conquering a new woman every time is a mental problem.
Actually this is not true. Very often, pick-up is done by ordinary men who do not want to start a serious relationship yet. For them it's just a way to have a good time.
This is a loser with whom no one wants to start a relationship, which is why he is angry at the whole world, and especially at women.
Therefore, he is forced to win their attention in the most extraordinary ways in order to prove to himself and the world his superiority. It is not always so. Very often, pickup trucks are carried out by handsome men who are successful in sports, business or other areas of life, and who have a good education and upbringing.

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An overly well-groomed appearance distinguishes pickup artists from ordinary guys. Bright accessories in clothes, overly cloying aroma of perfume, trendy things. During communication, they try to establish tactile contact, as if by chance touching your hand, holding you under the elbow, accidentally hugging you to protect you, for example, from a cyclist passing by.

In a club it’s even simpler, a young man asks to play a romantic song for you personally, to which you will spin in a slow dance. We can assume that this is how true love begins, which all girls dream of. Beautiful courtship, affectionate words, sunsets, sunrises, walks, but it usually ends sadly.

After the first sex, the guy disappears, ignores calls and SMS, and also posts the history of your communication with all the intimate details in the chat. The goal has been achieved, he no longer needs you. One should be alarmed by the too rapid acceleration of events and vague answers to clearly posed questions. Be the first to “Dynamize” him, and then quit, post the photo on the forum to warn other girls.

The main signs of a pickup artist

If a “one-time” relationship is not suitable for you and you want more, then it is better to know who the pick-up artist is and figure him out right away in order to stop communicating and not regret what you did in the future.
Sometimes this is quite simple to do if you pay attention to some points.

The pickup artist meets girls mainly on the street

The following signs of such men will help you understand who a pick-up artist is and that it is he in front of you:

Most often, male pickup artists are very attentive to women
, they try to talk as little as possible about themselves and provoke their lady more into revelations and details.
In a normal conversation, both a man and a woman on a first date share information about life equally, trying to present themselves in the best light.
When communicating with a pick-up artist, you get the impression that this man literally reads your thoughts and desires, and then expresses them out loud.
This often captivates interlocutors and deprives them of their usual caution. In fact, the pickup artist only says what you want to hear, and not his own opinion.
A pickup artist always tries to psychologically influence a woman.
His posture during a conversation is open, his eyes carefully look at you, sometimes even with delight and admiration. He tries to be as close to you as possible, touching you while talking.
The beginning of a conversation with such a person is always unusual and intriguing.
An example would be the now almost classic phrase “Does your mother need a son-in-law?” or “What will you do this evening after dinner with me at the restaurant?” This manner of acquaintance should already alert you.
A pick-up artist is always well-groomed, handsome, and on parade.
Even if these are ordinary jeans, they emphasize his advantages and sit well on his hips.
Smell plays an important role. To smite you on the spot when you first approach, such men use good perfume.
No embarrassment or uncertainty.
The pickup artist sees his goal and is ready to achieve it by any means. To do this, he comes up with original scenarios or uses those that he learned on pickup forums, in communication with like-minded people or on the Internet.
The pick-up artist most often chooses the place for the second date if there was no sex on the first one.
If you decide to change him, then most likely he will refuse to do this, while an ordinary guy will not care where to meet the girl he likes.
Typically, such men avoid public institutions, for example, cafes, restaurants, cinemas and theaters, as they try to spend as little money as possible on seducing a girl.
Pick-up artists are touchy.
If he himself throws caustic jokes towards a girl in order to provoke her and arouse interest, then he may be seriously offended by the response or even leave you alone.

Remember: The correct word is “pickup artists”, not “peckers”, as many people pronounce.

Besides all this, the pickup artist will always be gentle and polite with you. Even your hair that hasn’t been washed for several days and your hastily put together ponytail will receive his compliment, and more than one.

It is worth noting that if a person has been involved in pickup trucks for a long time, then he already has a wealth of experience. In this case, even if you know who the pick-up artist is, you may not be able to spot him right away.

If you do make a mistake and meet with a professional, don’t regret it. The invaluable experience of such communication will allow you to never again be hooked by an experienced tempting fisherman.

Who is a pickup master

A pickup artist or pick-up artist is a guy or man who masters the art of seducing the opposite sex by practicing dating women and girls.

Its features

There is a stereotype that pick-up artists are notorious scoundrels who simply use girls and get sex from them. However, this is not always the case. The initial goal of such a man (most of them) is not sex at all. Often he simply wants to hone his communication skills and overcome certain complexes.

Are pickup artists and pickup artists the same thing?

It is important to note that there are still some differences between a pickup artist and a pickup artist. In the second case, we are talking about a man who managed to achieve great heights in the skills of seducing women, setting an example for other novice seducers. A master can easily make acquaintance with any representative of the opposite sex, and communication with her will not cause him any embarrassment or internal panic - he gets the desired result without particularly straining.

How to recognize a pick-up artist and not fall for his bait?

The pickup artist is just very annoying. Girls, be careful with him!

The Internet has firmly entered our lives, and now you can find all the information you need online. You can find a lot of advice on how to build relationships, but they can help or they can harm.

For example, the pickup truck was originally invented so that those who began to suffer from acne in adolescence would get rid of, if not from it, then at least from the shyness that acne brings with it. This way you could find new friends, make acquaintances and even build romantic relationships. But lately, pickup has become more of a method of bullying than a way to help build a serious relationship.

Now pickup artists have a new goal. And if earlier, pimply boys who turned into handsome men tried not only to seduce a girl, now the main thing to do is to make her fall in love with you, and then break up so that it hurts her. The more painful it is, the better. In addition, you need to attract a girl in such a way that there is a minimum of financial investments.

The philosophy of the pick-up artist is very simple - all that drives such men is cynicism. They seduce, tempt and simply abandon without explanation. At the same time, the woman experiences not entirely pleasant sensations, some may even experience mental breakdowns.

Remember Casanova or Don Juan. Modern men act the same way. And, unfortunately, women very often fall into the traps of such scoundrels.

But let's figure it out: are such men really good in bed? If we remember the life story of Don Juan, we can safely conclude that he was not a good lover. Sex, as giving pleasure to a woman, simply does not exist for such individuals.

Read the forums, and you will find many similar reviews: “I met a pick-up artist, fell madly in love, and he didn’t even have sex with me.” And this happens most often. I liked it, fell in love with myself and just quit.

Where can you encounter a pick-up artist?

You can meet him anywhere.
Most often, they “hang out” on different dating platforms. They are on social networks. Moreover, if there are a lot of them on the Internet, then, unfortunately, there are even more of them on the street. Danger can await a young woman everywhere. At first the girl will become interested in the man, then she will fall in love with him, and he will simply break her heart. And many women take a long time to recover from such a shock, and faith in male love simply disappears.

In order to protect yourself from such misfortune, first of all you need to know how pick-up artists operate, what underlies their “methodology”.

So, the behavior of a pickup artist is based, first of all, not on love for a woman, but on hatred of her. These are mainly those men who previously failed to build happy relationships.

The main task they face is to destroy the boundaries that the woman has set. After meeting, they try to quickly reduce the time of the “bouquet and candy period”.

The persistence of such behavior should alert you, since such individuals want to get you into bed as quickly as possible. All their actions are aimed at touching the girl - their voice changes, it becomes more seductive. They tell her that she is the best and shower her with compliments. And if they feel that a woman is captivated by this, they immediately see her as a victim who can easily be used.

How to protect yourself from a pick-up artist?

If you suspect something is wrong, first of all, you should avoid such a man.
If you don't do this, you can easily fall for the hook he has in store. With every attempt to get closer to a woman, that line breaks that should not be broken. If a lady does fall for this “bait,” she will soon be constantly sitting in front of the phone and selflessly waiting for a call from him, or, even worse, frantically writing SMS messages to him and hoping to receive an answer.

The pickup artist behaves as follows: he starts talking about sex, and all this is mixed with a bunch of compliments. He admires the woman. She, in turn, listens to him, and perceives only what she wants to hear.

At first glance, he may seem overly caring, and the woman will not even admit the idea that he just wants to take advantage of her right on the first date.

Such a man immediately begins to promise mountains of gold, without even caring how real his fairy tales look.

As soon as a woman believes his words and compliments, we can assume that this is the end, and she is on a hook, from which it will not be so easy to break free.

If you are not in the mood to suffer and want a serious and long-term relationship, then you should simply avoid such men. Of course, we are not talking about the fact that at the first compliment you need to run away from the man wherever you look. But, if you feel that he is too assertive, then it is better to immediately refuse to continue communication, so as not to be abandoned later.

Five stages of pickup

1- Find the desired goal

First, the pick-up artist determines the goal on which he will practice the skills acquired during training or self-study. He can choose girls of the same type, but to achieve the best effect it is better to “try his hand” in seducing different women.

2 - Draw her attention to you

Here you can use your imagination. Each man himself determines how to interest a girl - with non-standard behavior, an unexpected phrase, a gaze, and so on.

3 - Attract and get to know each other

After he has attracted the girl’s attention, the pick-up artist proceeds directly to making acquaintances and getting a phone number.

4 - Get close to the object of your adoration without giving yourself away

To win over a girl even more, you need to get closer to her. To do this, the guy tries to find out as much information about her as possible so that he can then use it for his own purposes. In some cases, a roof-raiser is arranged.

5 - Intimacy

This is usually the end goal for most pickup artists. But if a guy was initially interested in a serious relationship with a girl, and was looking for someone who would completely suit him, then after intimacy he starts a relationship. Otherwise, it all ends with sex.

How to communicate with a pickup artist?

If you have no desire to have any relationship with a pick-up artist, then there are several ways to make such a man retreat on his own and not pester you anymore.
Here are some of them:

We give the pick-up artist a “turn away”

Ignoring compliments, not expressing any emotions.
Just pretend that this man is not around, and after a while he will go looking for another victim. Only 3-4% of pick-up artists will make a few more attempts.
Give him some unexpected, but truthful and caustic comment
like “I would iron my shirt before meeting girls.” This maneuver will also push him away.
Talk less about yourself, ask him more questions.
Ask to go with you to a movie or cafe.
Pick-up artists don’t like to spend money, so usually after this offer they immediately disappear.
After the first meeting, do not answer his phone calls.
You can also constantly reschedule dates due to some urgent matters. This will also scare off the pick-up artist.
Stop all attempts to touch or move closer to you.
Pick-up artists love contact, touching during communication, and your actions and coldness will scare them away.

What does it mean to pick up a girl or woman?

Picking up means seducing, making acquaintances for a specific purpose. As a rule, this does not happen spontaneously, although it does happen. But still, the pickup artist usually goes “into the field” to add to his list of victories. Most often, the goal of such a guy is sex, but if he is just at the beginning of his journey in this science, then he may well limit himself to getting a phone number. “Picking up” the girl, the young man tries to put the received theory into practice and determine which schemes are the most effective for him.

Why are they doing that?

Pick-up artists pick up girls solely for personal gain: to show off in front of friends, to get sex. It all depends on the specific pickup artist.

But they have one thing in common: in fact, they all play this game only to prove to themselves that they are cool and can handle any beauty. Many people assert themselves this way.

By the way, pick-up artists often include guys who have suffered from girls: those who were once cruelly rejected, those whose feelings were laughed at.

Disillusioned with love, these guys invented a convenient formula for themselves: “it’s easier to live without love.” And at the same time, they take revenge on the entire female sex.

Pick-up artists even have their own principles. Here they are:

Taking girls' attention for granted.
Forget about such a thing as remorse.
Don’t take “no” for an answer, doing everything to get the girl to say “yes”.
Forget about the girl who gave up the dynamism. If so, then she’s just a fool and didn’t understand how cool he is.
Be original and resourceful, spare no effort and energy to achieve your goal.

The list of principles goes on. They sound different for all pickup artists, but the meaning is approximately the same.

The best mind blowers for a man or how to impress a girl

So, here are some examples of effective and unusual mind-blowing tricks:

Hire a special service that will help deliver the bouquet to the girl. The peculiarity is that the flowers will be delivered directly to her balcony, and not through a courier. After that, call the girl and tell her that a surprise awaits her on the balcony.
Have a romantic dinner on the roof of some house without warning the girl about it. If possible, place a table and chairs; if not, then lay out a blanket. Buy a bottle of wine, fruit, a set of sushi, or something that your companion will definitely like. ask a friend to look after this goodness while you take your companion to the meeting place. Seeing you with a girl (you can signal by phone), your friend just needs to light candles and quickly leave. While walking around the area with a girl, tell her that you want to show her an interesting place, then take her to the roof.
Unexpected meeting. Here, too, it’s worth using flowers or the girl’s favorite fruit (for example, mango). For example, you know that she must get off at one of the metro stations at a certain time after work. Before doing this, make sure that this will be the case by calling her, but without warning her that you will be waiting for her. When she gets off at the bus stop, approach her with a flower or fruit in a cute bag, saying: “I just really wanted to see you.” Preferably, she did not have any serious plans for the coming hours - then the evening can continue in your favor.
If you know that a girl is prone to extreme sports, then simply organize a parachute jump or paragliding flight, of course, without warning her first. After this, celebrate this event in a secluded place.
Make an inscription on the asphalt in front of her window. It seems corny, but girls love it! You don't have to confess your love. You can write “Olya! Smile!". Late in the evening, you can make an “inscription” on the asphalt using candles and ask them to look out the window. The message may be more romantic: “Nastya! Waiting for you!". At the same time, you should know that the girl has the opportunity to go out, and she is determined to meet. Then offer to continue the date in a more private place - you can invite her to dinner at your home, promising to treat her to a delicious dish.

Working pickup phrases and schemes for tackles

Each pick-up artist tries to find his own scheme according to which he tries to attract this or that girl. However, we will highlight two main ones.

Fast

Derived from the English word “fast”. As is probably clear from the definition, with this scheme the guy tries to get the girl into intimacy as quickly as possible. The ideal option for him is sex on the day you meet. If this option does not work, then the maximum that a follower of this scheme adheres to is sex after the first date. Fast operates most successfully in nightclubs.

Three date

A classic scheme, and its name speaks for itself. It is worth noting that many girls are quite loyal to such a scheme if they are really interested in a young man.

So, the first step is an unusual acquaintance, during which the guy becomes the owner of the treasured phone number. A few days later (5 on average) he calls the “potential victim” and, without much conversation, offers to meet.

The third date involves "roof-blowing". Having received vivid emotions, the girl becomes more open and more available for sex. After this, events for the pick-up artist can develop in different ways - serious relationships (this is the least common), periodic meetings for intimacy, complete disappearance from the life of the conquered girl.

What phrases can you use to impress a girl, start an acquaintance and put her in the right mood:

Are you a fashion model?
If we met in a restaurant, the waiter would bring you a bottle of wine from me.
It seems to me that you are stalking me.
You have incredible eyes, it’s like the whole cosmos is in them!