How to help your child improve relationships with classmates

Humans are social animals, which is why we are so uncomfortable living alone. Like other gregarious individuals, people gather in packs, form families and social units, and the older generation likes to scare us with their lonely old age and lack of friends.

However, there are people who have a very difficult time making contact with the opposite sex, not because they are bad or inferior, they are simply different.

Reference! Not all of us are liked by the opposite sex equally, some are given charisma and beauty by nature, some may surprise you with some special skills, others need to make more efforts. However, every person has a chance at a relationship if you don't do anything stupid.

In this article we will look at what stupid things you can do, what are the most effective ways to please a girl who doesn’t like you, and we will describe the characteristics of a woman’s character.

How to please a girl?

Getting a girl to like you is a very loose concept:

for some it means the beginning of a relationship,
for some, increasing authority among women,
for some it is simply drawing attention to their person.

Reference! Indeed, girls love not only with their ears, but also with their eyes, so they pay attention to those who attract him to them. Even if there are 10 women and only two men in the team, the second may well remain unattended.

It wasn't always like this. Before the sexual revolution in the 1980s, the situation was radically different. It was not customary to look at other men and compete for them, and if someone had already taken a successful rich handsome man, all that was left was to look for another.

The revolution opened up unprecedented social opportunities for humanity, people began to behave more freely and uninhibitedly, some moral and social principles were revised, the old ones went into the trash, and they were replaced by new, more progressive and free ones.

The video shows the best ways to please a girl without words:

At school

Now let's come down to earth: we are studying at school, and our task is to please a classmate or a girl from a parallel class.

To do this, you need to at least declare yourself, since your social circle is often limited to girlfriends and popular guys from school.

Attention! The biggest mistake is asking to “put in a good word” (asking a friend to tell a girl about you). On a subconscious level, such an act will reveal you as a dependent and complex person.

Even if a girl starts communicating with you, she, without realizing it, will consider you an adult child.

You need to attract attention to yourself in any other way:

show some unusual skill,
character trait
leadership skills,
mind,
make people talk about you without your request.

But you can ask your friend to hide the fact of your request. Then the girl you like will not consider you a child.

This is also a very bad idea, as women are extremely poor at keeping their mouth shut, especially when it comes to gossip and relationships with men.

Another common mistake is to set yourself apart by leaving out someone else.

This strategy is losing at the initial stage, since you can make a lot of enemies, and girls will not pay attention to a person who is nothing of himself anyway. They will see the image of a complex teenager who wants to prove something to someone. She can and will communicate with him, but no more.

Don’t run after her and talk about your desires and feelings directly:

Girls are not deprived of attention, unlike guys, they always have someone to choose from and you definitely won’t surprise her with such behavior.
But what can surprise a girl is indifference and lack of obvious signs of attention.
Make her run after you, and when she is hooked, you can do whatever you want.

You should not copy the behavior or image of a school authority. Even if you manage to copy it 100%, it will still be a copy, and girls love originals.

But you can try to copy the image of someone with whom she did not communicate personally. For example, the hero of her favorite TV series. Visual and mannered similarity will definitely attract attention, and then it will be easier.

Watch a video that tells you how to get a girl to like you at school:

VKontakte by correspondence

An exceptionally failed strategy, since girls already at school age do not pay attention to VKontakte messages from an unfamiliar guy.

Reference! The number of interlocutors who write to them every day can exceed 20 people. You can verify this by simply asking your friend how much he writes to her or by creating a women’s page on VKontakte.

Thus, the chance of attracting a girl’s interest is reduced to almost 0%. If you manage to interest a girl in the first message, a dialogue may begin, however, the chances of this are extremely small.

If we are talking about a classmate or a person with whom you communicated at school, and who does not mind starting a dialogue, you need to do everything as hidden as possible:

A girl should not understand that they are getting acquainted with her or trying to get closer to her.
Start a conversation on a distant topic and do not translate it into relationships and dating in general.
If you interest a girl, she herself will invite you to take a walk or meet.

It is important to have the “right” profile:

The page should be clean and neat, without garbage and unnecessary information.
Subscriptions, reposts, groups, audio, photos - all this is important.
Look at what pages the girl is subscribed to, what music she listens to, what videos she is interested in. Having analyzed this, it will be much easier to interest her.

Important! Don't write first! Hang around her page, in the comments of general groups, you can like posts on her profile, but it’s better not to comment on them. Create the impression of “unobtrusive” attention.

What to write to a girl to make her like you is explained in the video:

What to do if you like a guy at school - how to attract his attention?

If you like a guy at school, the first thing you need to remember is that it’s always better to be yourself so that your classmate will like you. You are probably a very interesting person, so give the guy the opportunity to appreciate you. Be confident in yourself when communicating with classmates and wanting to please one of them - such people always attract the attention of others. The external is no less important than the internal, so carefully monitor your appearance - beautiful, neat clothes, perhaps an interesting hairstyle and no cosmetic excesses on the face. You shouldn’t experiment with revealing clothes either, because your task is for him to see you as a girl, and not as a sexual object. Besides, the decision to attract a guy is so risky because he will form the wrong opinion about you. If you have the opportunity to communicate with the subject of your admiration, use it to your advantage. Be sincerely interested in his hobbies and problems. Let him feel that this is important to you, and he, feeling his importance, will definitely make you stand out from the crowd of other girls. Smile more often when talking. So, the goal has been achieved - has the guy paid attention to you? Now is the time to find out how to make acquaintance with him and even make a guy fall in love with you at school.

If she is young

Girls in their teens (12, 13, 14, 15 years old) are extremely dreamy and live for today. For them, appearance and the visual component are more important than the inner world and future prospects for relationships.

She needs bright emotions here and now, preferably every day. And all the time you need to surprise with something, make you fall in love again and again.

Attention! At this age, girls often change guys like gloves simply because they want new sensations. It is recommended not to talk about adult topics, not to count on a long-term relationship and not to burden the girl with everyday worries.

You can have fun in an Internet cafe, go to VidFest or a concert of a popular performer, or invite a lady to the cinema.

There are many ways, the main thing is to show imagination and be different from everyone else. As mentioned above, women love special people, so the more strange your behavior is, the better.

Psychological illiteracy

Our time differs in many ways from previous times. Including from the point of view of people's behavior. You observe life yourself and can give many examples. There are many reasons for the general decline of morals. The wit La Rochefoucauld spoke about one of them back in the 17th century (by the way, I highly recommend reading his “Maxims”: during my student youth, some young people shone precisely thanks to his aphorisms, maybe it will be useful for you): “Young people often think that they natural, when in fact they are simply ill-mannered and rude.”

Elementary ignorance is added to the modern general savagery of life. In general (especially at the everyday level), former Soviet people do not know what is known and used by residents of other countries. I bow to the endurance and patience of our teachers. But how little knowledge that is truly necessary for life is provided by our national schools! It still works primarily in the direction set by the bygone system, for which the sciences that created the foundation for the high development of industrial countries, in particular psychology, were unacceptable. The works of Sigmund Freud, a man who largely defined the face of the 20th century, were banned from publication in the Soviet Union.

Why? Because, it turns out, a person has not only a consciousness that was influenced by the ideological machine of Marxism-Leninism, but also some unknown subconscious, which was impossible to reach, and it remained free from the influence of ideology. This could not be allowed to happen! Much in the developments did not suit the “rulers of thought” of Soviet citizens. They did not need psychology at all with its subtleties of human moods and experiences.

How to hug properly?

The best way is to wait until she hugs you first. This will give the green light to respond and allow you to hug her without fear of being misunderstood.

You can also hug under the pretext “let’s warm you up” or . ” If she whines that she has a lot of homework for tomorrow, you can hug her under the pretext of “let me be sorry.” Such signs of attention look unobtrusive and cute.

Reference! You can also offer to take a photo together or record a story for Instagram, and there you can not only hug, but also spank (saying that this is “only for photos”).

How to unobtrusively hug a girl is described in the video:

What does it mean to be an educated person?

At one time, one of the most delicate writers of all times, Anton Pavlovich Chekhov, in his letter to his elder brother Nikolai Pavlovich, expressed his views on this matter. The letter contains these words:

“Well-mannered people, in my opinion; must satisfy the following conditions: they respect the human personality, and therefore are always condescending, gentle, polite, compliant... They are sincere and fear lies like fire. They don't lie even about trifles. A lie is offensive to the listener and vulgarizes the speaker in his eyes. They don’t show off, they behave on the street the same way as at home, they don’t throw dust in the eyes of the smaller brethren... They are not talkative and don’t barge in with revelations when they are not asked... Out of respect for other people’s ears, they are mostly silent... If they have something in themselves talent, then they respect it. They cultivate aesthetics in themselves..."

That is, the writer points to inner tact and intelligence, to a special state of mind.

However, we cannot equate the concepts of “politeness” and “decency”. A decent person is one who will never do anything mean. At the same time, he may not know which side to stay on when walking with a woman down the street: right or left. And a person who sprinkles his speech with polite words and illuminates you with radiant smiles can “pleasantly” expose you to attack or secretly play a dirty trick. Among my acquaintances there was one “most intelligent”, “most decent”, “most delicate” person, whom everyone perceived only with a breathy “ah!” Indeed, he behaved very politely with colleagues and acquaintances. However, he acted with close women, surprisingly even in our time, in the highest degree dishonestly. And it turned out that the deceived and offended women were taller than him. They did not reveal his meanness.

So, the mask of hypocrisy is disgusting? Not always. For a deceived soul - yes. But for those who do not come into close contact with such a person, it is still more pleasant to deal with a courteous person than with a rude person. True, there is a danger that they too may be “planted oink-oink.” To do this, you need to study a person deeper before trusting him.

What to talk about?

This is the most common question. Why is that? Why doesn’t the question arise “what to talk about with a friend?” It's simple - when a person wants to please another, he subconsciously filters out some topics, gets worried, and is afraid of making a mistake. Do not do it this way.

You need to see a girl as an interlocutor to whom you can speak out and pour out your soul, nothing more. If she understands that this is an interesting and extraordinary young man, she will begin to tell her stories.

Remember, the number of people who write to her every day is simply off the charts, so it’s extremely difficult to surprise her.

If you don't know what to talk about with a girl, here are some popular topics:

Policy . This will make you seem more mature. You don’t need to figure it out, you just need to say smart words and relay opinions from the Internet. You can find out when the next rally will be and invite a girl to it.
Flat Earth and Conspiracy Theories . To arouse interest, it is not necessary to be a supporter or opponent of a theory; it is enough to present arguments from both sides, thereby extending the discussion.
Music . You can discuss popular artists, talk about genres and influences in music (if you know), suggest attending a Face or Pharaoh concert. These two performers are extremely popular among young people, so the chance of getting rejected is extremely low.
Fashion and culture . Like any women, young girls also love things and outfits. Moreover, the more fashionable and trendy a guy is dressed, the better.
Relationships with parents . Teenagers often have disagreements with the older generation. However, there is simply no one to talk to. Keep the conversation going or start it yourself. But at the end, be sure to add “One day we will also become adults and understand everything.”

This will allow you to end the conversation on a neutral note and smooth out unpleasant moments. Girls hear very superficially, they can be convinced of anything (even that you are older and understand more in this life).

Attention! To make the conversation easy and relaxed, and for the girl to feel that she is communicating with a peer and can talk about any topic, you can gesture and use youth slang (flex, cringe, party, crap).

What to talk to a girl about in the video:

Social media

What can you write to a boy? Nowadays it is important to meet and communicate through social networks long before young people decide to meet in person.

Let's consider topics that are appropriate when talking over the Internet.

First, you should meet the guy you're interested in. To do this, find out in which city and region he lives. Ask how his day was. Ask about food preferences, hobbies, activities, work or school.
Don't be shy to ask about personal things (feelings, thoughts and experiences).
Do not forget that you should not trust your secrets to a pen pal, since it is too early to do this.
You can ask for advice about a particular situation.
When you think that you have learned the maximum information about each other, you can share news, opinions about the world of cinema, music and other questions.
Try not to force topics on your guy that he avoids. Perhaps he doesn’t understand this or it’s unpleasant for him to talk about it.

Horoscope Tips

Scorpio . A very jealous sign. Don't mention other girls to her.
Libra . They always prove that they are right, it is better not to argue.
Capricorn . A passive sign that requires a leader.
Aries . It is difficult to express thoughts if he feels there is a stronger person nearby, so you should not apply moral pressure.
Fish . Extremely vindictive and vindictive - it is better not to offend.
Taurus . Loving, but waiting for the first step.
Aquarius . Requires attention and recognition as special. Compliments, compliments and more compliments.
Sagittarius . Can manipulate and control, need to be careful.
Raku . She becomes attached to a person because of the slightest sign of attention; it will be easy to get such a girl.
Virgo . Unapproachable and strict. Do not rush the relationship and do not put any moral pressure.
Gemini . They are characterized by quick and sudden mood swings and can become offended at any moment. Be prepared for this.
Leo . They lead relationships and love power. However, those who obey beyond the norm are weeded out.

How to communicate with different types of people?

However, psychological illiteracy is costly for both the individual and society as a whole. All people are different. And we need to find a common language with them. You must be able to communicate. Of course, your inner qualities play a huge role in how you build your relationships with others. A friendly, likable person is more likely to find the key to people's hearts. But two more important communication skills are important: human skills and communication techniques.

Psychologists teach:

When communicating with sensitive and painfully vulnerable people, you must avoid everything that is unpleasant for them, but in moderation - otherwise they will become tyrants.
Communication with distrustful and suspicious people requires patience and caution.
People prone to grumpiness need a firm and decisive word.
For capricious people, a calm tone and ignoring their whims work best.
Irony puts the boastful and self-confident in their place. But it is unacceptable in communicating with shy people and those who lack a sense of humor.

How to impress your parents?

The main rule is that we are not at school and not at an exam. If a girl introduces you to her parents, then everything is serious.

There is no need to show them that you are a diligent, modest boy who goes to bed at 22:00 and does not swear. Show that you are an adult, independent, responsible, and not a pushover.

Attention! Tell us about your plans for life, hobbies, goals. Be clear about what you have planned and when it will become a reality. The father, the head of the family, will appreciate this like a man, and the mother will see a strong leading leader and understand that her daughter is in good hands.

Topics for communication with a guy you know

What can you talk about with a boy? You can find many topics for conversation. Let's look at the most popular and non-binding ones:

New movies or music. Find common favorite tracks or go to the cinema together for the premiere. After this, you will have a lot of information received to discuss.
Guys like it when a girl shares something secret with him. But remember that this must be some minor secret. There is no need to reveal all your secrets to your friend.
You can look through magazines or groups on social networks, discuss photographs or pictures, as well as your attitude to a particular topic.
Ask the guy about his personal life. Then share your nuances.
Tell about your family. Ask the young man about his family and friends.
Discuss sports success or hobbies.
If you have common memories, then discuss them. This greatly unites people who have known each other for a long time or have not communicated for a long time.

How to behave when meeting someone?

Advice! Self-confidence is more than half the battle. A girl should not feel constrained or embarrassed, even if there is an abundance of it.

The guy should approach with a confident step, speak moderately loudly, and not mumble. A straight posture with straightened shoulders will add brightness and self-confidence to the image. No girl will miss such a character.

You should behave as sincerely as possible, there should be no falsehood. You also need to refrain from presenting yourself for too long - girls don’t like narcissists either.