Advice from psychologists will help you cope with anxiety at a new job and get used to it.

• Why are people afraid of new jobs?
• How to deal with the fear of a new job
• New people are different people
• Fear of the new leader
• And again - like the first time?..

For a number of reasons, is your old job no longer satisfying? A small salary, work volumes growing every week, loss of interest in performing duties and their effectiveness, discord in the team, conflict situations with the boss... - you understand: yes, something urgently needs to be changed. But... as soon as it comes to concrete implementation and the search for a new job, you are seized by a monstrous panic, stressful psychological rejection of drastic changes in life and physical trembling in the knees. What will my new job responsibilities be and will I be able to handle them? How friendly will the team be? How will your relationship with your manager develop? Will I survive the probationary period and will I not lose my self-esteem? So many questions and not a single answer until you open that very new door to a new office.

Often the fear of a new job and a new team is literally paralyzing: perhaps such fear, inexplicable by modern intelligence, comes from ancient Soviet times, when running from one workplace to another was simply not accepted. A true Soviet person went to work immediately after college or technical school and worked in one place and in one work team until retirement. “She devoted forty-five years to our enterprise!”, “He went through a difficult career from an apprentice to a foreman!” - sound familiar? Then they chose a profession, as they say, for centuries and, even if something did not suit them very much, they put up with it, without dreaming of a new job. Conservatism of thinking has gone away over time, and people no longer cling to their jobs, but fear... fear of the new and unknown remains.

According to psychologists, changing jobs every four to five years is not only recommended, but also necessary, since this allows you to move on, acquire new skills and abilities, develop flexibility of thinking and not “grow moss on the spot.” But many people are suppressed by a natural desire to change something - and all because of it: fear of a new job and a new team.

Why are people afraid of new jobs?

Of course, not everyone strives for novelty in their work: for some, such a workplace that has become familiar, with responsibilities memorized by heart and the same work performed to the point of automatism, will seem much more convenient and calmer to them every day. Everything here is familiar and why change it to something new? But another category, and it is these people who will be discussed in the article, are terrified of changing jobs after sitting in one place for several years - even if they expect better salaries and better conditions. Why? There are several reasons for this:

Low self-esteem. Such people, when thinking about changing jobs, will certainly ask themselves questions: what if in a new job they will have to do something that they have not encountered before? What if I'm not smart enough and look stupid? What if new opportunities turn into prolonged exhaustion of nerves and awareness of one’s own incompetence? Lack of communication skills. If a person is not sociable and finds it difficult to make new acquaintances, including business ones, the issue of adaptation to another work team is especially acute. This is not entirely the fault of the employee himself; much depends on the team he joins. In an established women's team, for example, a new woman may not be accepted at all - communication will remain alien and aggressive, no matter what you do. Another negative option may be that you take the place of a person who was loved and respected in the team, but due to circumstances he can no longer work: constant comparison with him may be far from being in your favor. Overthinking yourself. Sitting and endlessly thinking about new people, new tasks, a new office, realizing that you are not ready to leave a warm and so familiar place, can lead to quite serious stress. You should either calm down and let go of the thought of possible prospects, or take a breath and exhale and plunge headlong into your new work life, solving problems as they arise. Fear of bosses - this point partially follows from the first: low self-esteem does not allow one to immediately position oneself as a competent, punctual and responsible employee, and therefore a person begins to tremble even before entering the boss’s office. If the boss turns out to be correct and gives you time to adapt to your responsibilities and the new team - hurray, this difficult psychologically and emotionally stage will pass almost unnoticed for you. If the leader is strict, stern and unfriendly, then a negative scenario may develop.

The scale of the new work is scary. Moreover, the “scale” is in the literal sense: moving from a small cozy office to a huge glass office is psychologically difficult. A person gets used not only to the environment, but also to the volume of this environment.

The reasons for fear of a new job undoubtedly have a psychological basis, and therefore, only by understanding them can one overcome this depressing phobia

How to settle into a new job without unnecessary stress

In this article, I will not consider the case when you just got the first serious job in your life. Everything here is completely new. Everything is unusual. And countless pieces of advice can be given on professional and social adaptation.

Rule one. Let's open the chakras and calm down.

So, it’s your first day sitting in a new chair and you immediately want to impress the new management with your remarkable talents. It won't work. You are under stress. Whether you are so nervous that your hands are shaking or feel a little nervous - it already depends on your personality traits. When in such a limbo you try to prove that you are the best, it leads to unnecessary fuss. You will make twice as many mistakes.

By the way, if you made a mistake, don't be afraid to admit it. Try to suggest options for fixing it. Now let’s take a deep breath, remember that only angels are without flaws, and even those in heaven, and open the chakras to receive as much information as possible from the outside.

Rule two. Let's ask questions and warm our ears.

But information will flow at you in an endless stream. And keeping most of it in your head is task number one in the first days of work. You are lucky if you are greeted by a wise mentor at the door of your office. And he told you the following:

1. Job descriptions. Strictly speaking, what responsibilities are assigned to you and to what extent.
2. Inner order rules. Is it customary to have tea and cookies at the workplace, how many times a day can you go out for a smoke break, how much time is allotted for lunch.
3. It would be ideal if you were privy to some of the little details. Let's say the boss doesn't like it when people hum under their breath in the workplace. But, most likely, you will have to obtain such information yourself.

So let's warm our ears! That is, we learn about the rules of the dress code, if it exists. If loose clothing is allowed, try not to dress too provocatively in the first days. Later, you will be able to determine what is acceptable in a given team and what is best avoided. The appearance of a new employee can become one of the irritating factors for the “old guys”.

Rule four, five, six, etc.

No need for gossip. Washing seeds is an unworthy activity. And for a new employee it’s simply unacceptable.

Do not talk about personal topics on your mobile phone, much less on your office phone. As a last resort, you should leave the work area.

Don't be late. Remember, accuracy is the courtesy of kings!

Don't stay up late. Evening gatherings most likely mean that you cannot properly plan your work day or are trying to curry favor with your superiors. Neither one nor the other will count towards you.

Of course, it’s also not worth running headlong as soon as the arrows reach six in the evening. We maintain balance.

Remember, any organization is a complex mechanism. And you will be able to become a full-fledged cog only in a few months. I hope these rules will help you spend these months without unnecessary nerves!

How to deal with the fear of a new job

It happens that the thought of a new place of work is exhausting not only emotionally, but also physically: a person loses his appetite, at night he has nightmares with his beast boss, angry colleagues and dissatisfied clients (if he is supposed to work in the service sector), his head hurts, his blood pressure rises , palms sweat and it’s difficult to breathe. These are all manifestations of a panic attack, which is almost impossible to cope with with simple self-exhortations - you need to seek advice from a psychologist or, as many choose, abandon the thought of new prospects.

If the fear of a new job is not so strong, then try to “persuad” yourself: in the end, you can always just try - and, if you “don’t get used to” in a new place, move on in search of real interest and comfort.

Talk to yourself: if the advantages of a new job outweigh the disadvantages, and the desire to change your life is still strong, there is every chance of finding a new and interesting activity

Ambitious people are encouraged to try new things by the possibility of their own professional growth and the acquisition of useful skills: if the upcoming work promises to be successful in terms of a career, then in order to achieve the desired goal a person is capable of much - fear will recede on its own.

Create your social circle

Desembrele notes how important it is to build good relationships with colleagues in a new place: “The sooner you do this, the better you get to know the company from the inside. They will also make your job more enjoyable and open doors to new opportunities.” One of the easiest ways to build relationships is to learn the names of employees. Every time you meet a new person, ask their name and say their name in conversation. The expert also recommends starting a conversation with any employee you meet along the way: in the hallway, in the cafeteria, during a general meeting. Ask them about the company or ask them for advice about work issues.

New people are different people

The new workforce is not teenage children who are capable of “harassing” the newcomer. In your thoughts, start from the fact that adults will meet you - of course, they will not hug and kiss you, this is not America. And if you are met with indifference, well, that’s not bad: having figured out how to behave in a new team, over time you will become part of this close-knit team. Try to belittle your capabilities less, don’t cry over your own clumsiness and mistakes (we all have them), don’t act arrogantly, but don’t try to get close to your colleagues in the very first days. Stop, take a closer look, listen more than you talk, don’t be intrusive and don’t torment yourself with questions: “What are they saying behind my back?” and “How do they look at me?”

You should morally prepare yourself for the fact that even a wonderful person cannot always be accepted by an established team, and he will remain a stranger: well, this makes it possible to concentrate only on work issues and work relationships.

If you are afraid of new people, including at work, develop a sense of independence and self-confidence, get rid of increased sensitivity to the opinions of others

Lonely people of both sexes who panic in front of new colleagues will be helped by the thought: what if I meet Her or Him there? Think about it - this often happens: and then you won’t trudge to work like you’re going to hard labor, but will fly on wings.

Fear of the new team

It's almost always difficult to get along with new people. And it’s doubly difficult if these people are your new work team. What are they saying behind your back? What do they think of you? Do they notice every oversight and every mistake? Do they gossip and discuss your clumsiness and mistakes? It is very difficult to become part of an established, close-knit team. And the thought that you will have to be a stranger and a black sheep in a new “work family” for a long time can poison the joy of the most wonderful, prestigious and highly paid job.

Here two points usually come to the fore. Firstly, the fear of change, which is common to many people with the anal vector. They see new people, like everything new in general, as a threat, a source of danger, an unknown and therefore frightening factor from which you don’t know what to expect. Secondly, visual self-doubt and increased sensitivity to the opinions of others, which inflates fear of the new team.

A couple of years ago, the company I worked for was facing massive downsizing. My colleague Anton simply panicked at this prospect. What can I say if he was clearly afraid to look for a job, let alone change it. When he sent his resume, his hands were shaking, you could hear it from the way he nervously clicked his mouse. And when they called him about an interview, his face simply changed... “How will I work there? I don't know anyone there! And this is a completely different end of Moscow!” — he complained hysterically after another interview.

Another colleague, Nina, fell into depression after being told about the layoff and even sobbed at times in front of her computer monitor. “I’m so used to you all... How will I work with strangers?” - she said through tears. At the same time, her heart rate increased, her palms sweated, and headaches began. The fear of a new job completely ruined her last days in our friendly team...

Fear of the new leader

Fear of the boss is a separate category of “work” fears: there is always the risk of getting a new boss, even without changing jobs. This is not the worst case scenario: you remain in the same team, at your same workplace, and it is possible that the work performed will remain the same. But people differ from person to person, and managers also meet with different characters and visions of the organization’s work - from literate and correct people to tyrants and adherents of a totalitarian regime. Whether you are afraid or not of the new boss, there are only two options: either you learn to communicate with the boss, despite his views on work and subordinates, or you should think about looking for a new job.

Getting along with your boss is a whole science, the study of which will have to be approached responsibly and seriously (whether you like it or not). A manager is the person on whom your work life and the acceptance of its results directly depend. After all, the boss is also subject to many requirements, which, if necessary, you can clarify: the specifics of the assigned tasks, job responsibilities and the ability to fulfill them (including technical ones), criteria for evaluating the work done. Yes, not all bosses are good, and sometimes you may have to put the manager in his place - this is also a communication experience, and it will certainly come in handy in the future.

Behavior and relationship with the environment. Office etiquette

Many people dream of working from home. For some, this is a necessary measure, but for others, these are ideal conditions for productive work.

Relationships with the team are the most important component of adaptation in the company. It is difficult to imagine a successful and valuable employee who does not interact with the team at all.

The first and “most important truth” is that you will not be able to please everyone. First of all, your boss evaluates you and your work; accordingly, his high assessment and quality work should be a priority.

If you have been given a task, your manager wants to know the following:

• Have you already completed it?
• Are you working on it?
• If some circumstances interfere with its implementation, what should the boss or you do to eliminate them?

Strengthening social connections and a positive reputation in the team depends entirely on your behavior in the first days at a new job.

1. Be welcoming and friendly. Treat everyone with respect. Greet the security guard with a smile and be polite to the service staff. Create as many connections and contacts as possible both within and outside your office. You may find yourself in the most unexpected situations in the future, and sometimes the most unexpected people will help you or have the necessary information.
2. Always answer “Yes!” – don’t be afraid to accept suggestions, and support initiatives towards you. Agree to participate in projects, presentations, and trainings. Be flexible and don't be afraid of new experiences.
3. Be interested in others. Be happy and open to communication, but do not rush to voice your thoughts. For example, when you see a photo of twins on an employee’s desk, do not rush to note with emotion their incredible resemblance to their mother. Maybe these are her nephews, and in general, she is lonely.
4. Participate in group entertainment and other events, do not refuse invitations. Even if you don’t want to go with the team to a Saturday volleyball game or to the theater, force yourself, you must be part of the team. Consider this as an investment in strengthening your position in the team.
5. Always take the chance to do a good deed or help someone. Always remember that you will have to ask for help at some point.
6. Be energetic and positive. Avoid gossip and communication with negative people.

Conclusion

We hope that we have answered your main question: “What to do in the first days at a new job?” As you can see, there are many steps you need to go through to gain recognition and success in your new job. Successful adaptation to a new job is not an easy task and requires effort and self-improvement. But it’s worth it, because we spend a huge part of our lives at work! Fortunately, everything is in your hands, improve yourself and look confidently into the future.

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And again - like the first time?..

A lot depends on the temperament and character of the person being employed: some take to heart the sidelong glances and whispers of colleagues in the corners, others distance themselves so much that such “impenetrability” will border on indifference and unhealthy indifference. Sociable people are usually not tormented by questions about how comfortable they will seem in a new, unfamiliar place - counting on the power of their own charm and charisma, they will indeed be in the black. A cheerful and sociable character, a reluctance to gossip, and a correct attitude towards work do wonders: it is easy for such a person to adapt to a new business community, make friends, and create normal contact with his boss.

It will be more difficult for those who are obvious introverts, but such people usually do not strive to work in huge companies with hundreds of employees - they understand that they feel more comfortable, more confident and calmer in a small-sized office with a minimum of colleagues.

Separately, it is worth noting the case when the negative experience of starting a new job already took place in life - yes, then I had to endure the nagging of the boss, the lack of help and understanding of colleagues, and possible mistakes in work responsibilities. If a person has made conclusions for himself, then, despite the fear of another job, it will be easier for him even with sad past experiences. In such cases, it is important not to allow yourself to self-program yourself for another work failure: the scenario will not necessarily repeat itself, and therefore go “for the first time to first grade” with pleasant excitement and expectations of only positive and useful things.

And finally. The only really effective way to get around the fear of a new job and a new team is the need for “daily bread”: a person must support himself, and if he also has a family and children, then the need to earn money to support them, pay utility bills, education, clothes and shoes cast aside all kinds of fears. For the sake of the salary necessary for life, people are able to sacrifice even their own phobias, nurtured over the years: fear will give way to interest and vital necessity, stress will pass, and changes in work history will be for the better - until you try, you won’t know!

Showcase your skills

Management first of all pays attention to professional skills (hard skills), which allow the employee to perform his direct duties. According to Desembrele, a new employee should show all his talents: “If you have developed personal qualities (soft skills), for example, you know how to negotiate or defend your point of view, demonstrate them.” LinkedIn analysts believe that soft skills will be most in demand by employers in 2020.

Desembrele recommends analyzing your skills and developing the missing qualities in yourself with the help of training courses. As you become immersed in the life of the team, regularly evaluate what benefit you can bring to the company and what qualities will help you in this. As the expert notes, excitement in the first days or weeks of work in a new place is a reasonable emotion. To cope with it, an employee needs to understand his role in the company: to do this, he must understand his responsibilities, adapt to the team and establish good relationships with colleagues and management.

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Execute or pardon: the employee fails to cope with his duties

“Exceptionally business-like office environment! Happy and absolutely professional employees (the main capital of the company) are diligently working on their assigned tasks! Sales are steadily going up!” - the dream and goal of any employer. Alas, in real life this is often not the case: fixed capital becomes more expensive every day, and the return on it does not always justify the time and money invested. What to do if an employee cannot cope with his responsibilities?

Before we move on to answering this question and prescribing treatment, let’s try to establish a diagnosis and find out the causes. With all the variety of reasons why an employee fails to cope with his duties, they can all be reduced to three main ones:

1. Doesn't know how; 2. Doesn't want to; 3. He wants and knows how, but...

Each of these reasons has different manifestations. An employer can take adequate actions only after finding out the cause and taking into account the manifestations. Let's look at the reasons and find solutions to the issue:

If an employee fails to cope with his duties because he does not know how

“If you don’t know how, we’ll teach you!” says folk wisdom. And you need to start learning right away. One of the reasons for the “inability” of employees may be the lack of adaptation training for the employee when entering work. The training procedure for hiring and introducing him to the company includes three types of adaptation:

• organizational (familiarization with the structure of the company, with your workplace, conducting safety training, clarification of corporate rules);
• professional (familiarity with job descriptions, training in technologies and methods of performing work);
• socio-psychological (introducing the newcomer to colleagues, “Newcomer School”, securing a mentor).

High-quality adaptation allows an employee to quickly acquire the necessary work skills, get familiar with the specifics, undergo socialization and feel confident and comfortable in his workplace. This is the key to successful employee performance in the future. Therefore, it is important to develop adaptation programs for new employees in the company: general for all employees (organizational and socio-psychological adaptation) and individual for positions (professional adaptation).

The second reason for “inability” lies in the psychological characteristics of the employee’s personality. For example, an employee’s low intellectual lability does not allow him to quickly “grasp” information and master skills in the allotted time. Such employees require more training time. If an employee remembers poorly, i.e. Since he has a small amount of RAM, constant or periodic instruction at the workplace is required.

The massive “inability” of employees may be temporary in nature during the period of introducing any innovations into work. For example, the company has installed new software and employees have not yet had time to master it. In such cases, the project plan must include time for testing and training of employees. The least expensive and most productive option is to train a group of the most advanced employees, and then use them as mentors to train other employees. And to consolidate skills, we introduce prescribed standards for performing work and special checklists for recording new actions.

If an employee fails to cope with his duties because he does not want to

Behavioral manifestations of not wanting to work will be as follows: demonstrative ignoring, quiet sabotage, or creating the appearance of “violent activity.” Depending on the manifestations, there are different solutions.

So, if an employee does not hide his reluctance to work and openly ignores the orders of the manager and the requirements of job descriptions. As a rule, such behavior can be demonstrated by a specialist who has been working in the company for a long time, has reached a certain level and has reasonable (from his point of view) demands and complaints against the company and management. For example: the company’s only programmer who writes unique software and would like to work on a flexible schedule. Such employees know what they want, for the most part they can correctly assess the company’s capabilities and are ready to compromise. The correct solution in this case would be to openly clarify the reasons. Having found out the reasons, the manager must correlate the level of value of the employee and his claims. If this is an extremely valuable employee for the company, possessing specific knowledge, skills and abilities, and his requirements are within the company’s capabilities and do not affect the work of other employees, then it would be reasonable to create conditions for his further productive work and thereby “close the topic.” However, it would not be amiss to point out to the employee that his demonstrative behavior is inappropriate and may have a negative impact on other employees and warn that a repeated situation will entail termination of the employment contract. By the way, the employer, in this case, should take care of alternatives in advance so as not to become a puppet in the hands of a manipulator and, upon re-entry, ask the dissatisfied employee to write a letter of resignation.

The second manifestation of an employee who does not want to work is quiet sabotage. It is difficult to identify such an employee, since his actions are not of an obvious demonstrative nature; he is a “quiet subversive.” He prefers not to speak openly, but to “sow discontent and indignation” in the minds and hearts of his colleagues. You are unlikely to be able to call him to an open conversation. Most likely, he will stare at you with a “naive, uncomprehending” look, and to direct questions from you, the only answer will be “I have no idea what you’re talking about...” Clarifying the relationship with such an employee cannot be a method, because it will bring nothing. The only reasonable solution would be to part with such an employee as soon as possible.

Another type from the “I can, but I don’t want to” category are employees who, with complete inaction, create the appearance of “violent activity.” The reasons for such destructive behavior can be both the personal qualities of the employee himself and fatigue from work. For example, an employee who has been working in a company for a long time, knows his job very well and knows how to do it in a short time, most of the time he can create the appearance of working without a specific result useful for the company. You will have great respect for such an employee, observing his diligence and constant employment. You would prefer to give an urgent task to an efficient newcomer, so as not to distract such a valuable employee from the “serious work”. But if you analyze the performance of the “hard worker”, you will inevitably be disappointed. Here, a recommendation for employers could be this: pay for a specific result, and not for hours spent uselessly in the office. However, it is easy to give such advice, but sometimes it is simply impossible to implement it. As a solution: delegate new tasks to such an employee and, most importantly, control both the result and the deadlines. When assigning a task, discuss with the employee what specific result you want to achieve and by what time frame. A new task will awaken interest and help the employee get less tired. And control on your part will force the employee to mobilize and clearly organize his work.

If an employee both wants and knows how, but...

Sometimes it happens like this: a professional employee with high motivation (i.e., able and willing to work) comes to the company. And the company cannot provide the employee with normal working conditions. “Lack of normal working conditions” is a subjective concept, determined on the one hand by the level of expectations and claims of the employee; on the other hand, the company's capabilities. For some, only the lack of basic conditions is considered abnormal: warmth, food, hygiene, etc. For the majority, high workload, low wages and lack of support (computer, office equipment, software, transport, mail, etc.) are abnormal. Other employees consider the lack of professional and career growth such as the lack of normal working conditions. In general, the concept of “normal working conditions” may differ between the employee and the employer. Therefore, it is important to agree on everything “onshore”. When conducting a job interview, give the candidate complete and objective information about the company and fully understand his expectations. If the company's capabilities diverge from the employee's expectations, it is better to refuse the candidate.

Another common reason why an employee who is “knowledgeable, able and willing” to work suddenly loses his productivity; there may be constant distractions from work. For example, such as smoking breaks, tea drinking, the Internet and computer games, monitoring your household by phone, conversations with friends and colleagues. There is only one way out: to eliminate or at least minimize distractions from work. It is necessary to start at the stage of hiring an employee: stipulate that the time from 9.00 to 18.00 was purchased by the employer and during this period only from 13.00 to 14.00 hours the employee can go about his business. To regulate the time of tea drinking and smoking breaks, you can introduce two 15-minute technical breaks during the working day, for example at 11.00 and 16.00. The Internet can be turned off or limited. Computer games are prohibited by company rules. Dealing with personal matters during working hours (frequent requests for time off) can be minimized by introducing pre-agreed free days in the company for certain categories of employees (for example: managers, best employees of the month; birthday people).

Troubles at home or conflicts in the team can also distract an employee from work and absorb his thoughts. Here, adequate measures are selected depending on the situation.

And, in conclusion, 5 useful tips for employers :

1. Create normal working conditions and take care of a comfortable psychological climate.

2. Develop a competent adaptation training program for a new employee and devote enough time to this training, then use mentoring programs.

3. When introducing innovations, include employee training in the project plan and allocate time for this.

4. Clearly set tasks: what to do and by when? What result is considered good? And control the results and deadlines.

5. Regulate the time of work and rest during the working day (for example: 11.00-11.15 – break; 13.00-14.00 – lunch; 16.00-16.15 – break)

If points 1-5 have been completed by the company, and the employee still cannot cope with the job, part with the employee. The time to “remake” it would be better spent more productively on finding and training a more effective employee.

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My darling! What kind of work is this that brings you so much grief? You are not mediocrity. You are a smart man who just hasn’t found his way. It’s not at all immoral to do something you don’t know how to do. We are all learning. And we don’t know how to do something. You can do something. Maybe you're a good cook. Or something else. Think about it. And choose. Hold on! You clever. Good luck!

Ekaterina, age: 24 / 08/28/2009

Yes, the bad ones don’t fly... And the good ones too... And sometimes we all do something wrong, don’t finish something... Maybe you can show me a person who is praised every hour at work? Do you know someone like that? Judging by your age, your career is just beginning!!! Dear girl, you are too demanding of yourself! Don't take on something you're not confident in your competence... Start with something small. Be glad that you were able to do it, then make it more and more difficult... Learn to notice your successes, and not just failures (of which everyone has plenty in life)... Find out and figure it out, find the reason for your failures in the past, and try to work on eliminating it. Can't reconcile credits and debits? can't construct an airplane from scrap materials? is this a reason to commit suicide? Pay better attention to what you really know how to do, and develop these very skills in yourself!!! (the remark “I can’t do anything” is not accepted!!!) You are no worse than others... Almost every person has a set of certain qualities to live normally and work normally... It’s not mediocrity that’s bothering you (mediocrity is a nominal figure invented by a person, an offensive word that has no real meaning), it’s self-doubt that’s bothering you... And it’s great that you’re thinking about your mother!!! It’s crazy: you’re young, you have a loved one who loves you and for whom it’s worth fighting and your whole life ahead of you... Think about it!

Inna, age: 25 / 08/28/2009

and what are you doing. what kind of work is this? Listen, those 21 years are still a very young person, so where would you get the skills to work? you have to learn, you have to gain experience, no one knows how to do anything IMMEDIATELY, everyone learns, but they scold... well, they scold, so what? scolders also didn’t immediately become pros, that’s why they scold you, once you learn how to work, you’ll become a big boss (if you want) and you’ll teach others , hang in there, man

Red, age: 30 / 08/28/2009

You know, the Lord directs every person to his (that person’s) calling, to the work in which he is most capable of benefiting people. This is only a stage of your life, but you definitely need to go through it, and if you go, you will definitely find it, you will feel it with all your heart : “this is mine”! Ask God: “Lord, give me reason!” Just live, don’t give up.

Tusya, age: 30 / 08/28/2009

Regarding what to do - do a job that you like - you will be the best at it. There is a choice - don’t get a job you don’t like. Every person has a talent for something, get a job based on your talent. Regarding the fact that life is not nice - have you been abroad, traveled to other cities, gone to new places in your city? there are so many interesting things in the world. You can’t even imagine how amazingly made you are. Giving up the opportunity to live is unwise. You need 3 things in life - 1. understand what your talent is, 2. stop being afraid, 3. realize your talent))

Vlad, age: 22 / 07/11/2013

Complete nonsense. Don't even worry about it. I'm 10!!! I was fired from work 10 times on the initiative of the administration. and this despite the fact that I am not an alcoholic or a drug addict or a truant. There will be a place where it will work for you. Look around, there are plenty of people like you. At least taxi drivers or salespeople, who are they? Most often, people who did not succeed in their main profession. You just need to identify your strong qualities and try to realize them.

Ivan, age: 35 / 04/07/2015

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