Hello! My name is Igor Lapin, I am a professional pickup trainer. This time I would like to talk in detail about how to seduce an adult woman. You have probably heard the expression more than once: “all ages are submissive to love.” This is indeed true, and history confirms that the difference in the number of years is not at all an obstacle to relationships. Falling in love happens both among young men in relation to women over 30-40 years old, and older ladies sometimes prefer younger men.
Of course, there are specifics to how to seduce a mature woman, so let’s take a closer look.
About 20% of men are attracted to older women
Russians have long been calm about couples in which the woman is much younger than her partner. However, it is much less common to see examples of a man being married to a much more mature representative of the fair sex. And although, as experts note, in Russia it is not customary to advertise such relationships, about 20% of men are attracted to partners who are 15–20 years older than them. About the psychology of such couples and the attitude towards them in society - in the material NEWS.ru.
The relationship of a guy 18-22 years old with an adult woman is often perceived very positively by those around him. They increase the young man’s rating among friends and acquaintances. However, starting from the age of 25–27, everything changes. Dating a much older woman becomes unprestigious, and the man’s social rating in this case falls. Some acquaintances may even begin to perceive him as a mama's boy and distance themselves from communicating with him. Clinical psychologist and sexologist Valentin Denisov-Melnikov stated this in a conversation with NEWS.ru.
A persistent attraction to adult women is found in men who grew up in an incomplete family, were under the overprotective conditions of their mother and built a fairly close relationship with her. This is due to the fact that during adolescence the greatest release of testosterone occurs and the imprinting of sexual patterns occurs. If at this age a boy is constantly with his mother, then unconsciously some of his sexual fantasies are transferred to images of much older women.
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However, most often, men who were heavily cared for by their mother, on the contrary, will try to separate from her, in particular psychologically. And for this reason, they are unlikely to look for a woman of more mature age. This opinion was expressed in a conversation with NEWS.ru by family psychologist and expert on relations between men and women Alisa Metelina.
Men who had a bad relationship with their mother can also look for a mature partner. This behavior is also possible if the woman left the family or died, the expert notes. In this case, a representative of the stronger sex will seek guardianship from a partner, who will become for him the personification of a loving and understanding mother. However, to start such a relationship, it is necessary that the fair sex is also interested in playing daughter-mother.
Such relationships are most often unhealthy and not doomed to success. Even if we assume that the “cockroaches” of a man and a woman are the same, at some point the relationship will most likely still fail. Because an unhealthy structure will not be able to survive for long. There are exceptions, of course. You can take for example the pair Maxim Galkin - Alla Pugacheva. Here, in my opinion, a man values life’s achievements in a woman, and they are more significant to him than physical attraction. Of course, there are other strong marriages. But often relationships in them are built not as between representatives of the opposite sex, but according to the “mother and child” model.
Alisa Metelina
psychologist, expert on relationships between men and women
Adult women are attracted to young men by their immaturity, spontaneity, spontaneity, and childlike energy. In older people, personal energy reserves are running low. However, a woman who has a lot of them will never be interested in a very young partner.
Representatives of the fair sex with high testosterone levels and a strong libido are also usually attracted to them, Metelina notes. Often among such women there are careerists who have difficulty building relationships.
Couples in which the man is much younger than the partner may suddenly break up if he turns to a psychotherapist and works through his childhood trauma, the specialist notes. In addition, over time, a person’s psychological need for an adult woman may be closed - he is actually cured and subsequently leaves the relationship.
A woman can also initiate a breakup. This usually happens if she gives birth to or adopts a child, realizing her feminine instincts, the psychologist notes.
At the same time, the specialist notes that in recent years there have been many more couples in which the man is much younger than his partner. Moreover, they are stronger than those in which the stronger sex is older. The thing is that in such unions sexual activity is more harmonious: after 35 years, a woman’s sexual dawn begins, and after 40, men’s libido begins to decline.
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To attract attention
To attract the attention of a woman who is older than you, you must interest her. You won’t be able to do this by flaunting, for example, your expensive car. A woman will not pay special attention to little things; she needs communication. Be an interesting conversationalist, try to have a conversation on all sorts of topics. If you know what interests a woman, talk about it. Try talking about literature, music, art, politics, etc. If the woman is much older than you, don't talk about your friends and your common interests. You may still be learning. Talking about this can make a woman remember her age and the fact that she is older than you.
Etiquette rules for girls
The sooner a girl learns good manners, the better.
The parents' job is to take care of this.
The main rules for young ladies are as follows:
- Greetings. You can greet in different ways, but the greeting should only be “heard” by the person to whom it is addressed. Avoid long hugs and loud greetings. The boys say hello first. If, while walking with a boy, you meet a girlfriend with her boyfriend, first say hello to the girl, then the guys say hello to each other, and then you can say “hello” to the boys. You should also avoid long pauses during a meeting.
- Street etiquette. If you want to eat ice cream on the street, for example, you need to step aside or sit on a bench. Eating on the go and taking food on public transport is bad manners. You need to open the umbrella so that it does not hit others.
- Cloth. Clothing should be clean and tidy, and appropriate to the place, situation and time of year. In public places and on the street you cannot comb your hair, brush your feet, straighten your clothes, and so on.
- Guests. If you are invited to visit, you must not be late. Also, don’t look at everything closely. If you need to leave before everyone has left, it is better to do it quietly.
- Gestures. A girl should not swing her arms too much when walking or gesticulate excessively when talking. Also, you shouldn’t constantly correct or fiddle with something.
Our manners and etiquette shape people's impressions of us. Good upbringing, self-respect and dignity are important for any girl.
You can always learn etiquette. It is important to remember at least the basic rules and adhere to them regularly.
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Able to press on weaknesses
Doesn't a woman want tenderness and softness in adulthood? The children are no longer around, so you can truly enjoy your partner. Smart women know how to manage time correctly.
For example, everyone in a relationship needs free time. Men go fishing or football, and women visit beauty salons.
Women feel what a man needs at a certain moment, and immediately give it to him. If he is tired after work, he needs to be given some free time to rest. If you're bored, it's time to spend time together and come up with some interesting activities.
So different7
Age, religious views, life position can differ dramatically from the opinion of the young partner. Harsh statements are more likely to cause a negative reaction, and the emphasis on your inattention will forever sink into the soul of the fair sex. You need to learn to seek compromises and find solutions beneficial to both parties. Don't try to wrap your crush in a loving embrace and lock him in a golden cage.
Such a position will be regarded as an encroachment on personal freedom and such actions will most likely lead to discord in relationships. Coordination of plans is often the determining factor at the beginning of a relationship. It will be extremely difficult for a partner to come to terms with the lack of passion during joint outings and evening promenades.
Answer her
You shouldn’t throw around compliments to a woman; at the same time, appreciate her and respond to her actions. If she laughs at something, laugh with her. If she touches you while talking, do the same. If you think she's sexy, let her know that. At the same time, try not to focus on her age, otherwise she may think that you are only interested in her because she is older than you. If she herself talks about her age, answer that you would never have guessed.
The important rule is self-confidence5
If torture of love has entered your life in the form of a charming representative of the fair sex, you should know your worth and not rush headlong into the pool. There is no need to shower the lady of your heart with compliments, this will be regarded as sycophancy and begging.
The best choice would be the strategy of a self-sufficient, adult and responsible partner. A woman who has experienced the pangs of first love and relationships is unlikely to want volcanic passions. And a calm but established man will have a chance for a long-term relationship.
You still have to be the head
In order to find any opportunities and ways to please a girl who is older than you, a man needs to show his potential lover that he is ready to be the main one in the relationship. To do this, it is important to erase age differences, that is, to be an adult, even if a different number is indicated in the passport.
A man’s maturity is determined by his ability to control emotions and feelings, a reasonable reaction to any circumstances, competent speech and understanding of his future. Psychologists show by example what it means for a man to be an adult, namely:
- the ability to control emotions, emotional impulses, feelings that no situation can make a guy angry;
- the ability to accept defeats and life’s troubles with dignity, without complaining about fate or failure;
- refusal to gossip and discuss acquaintances, former partners, in order to show your respect for yourself and other people;
- the ability to always be polite and gallant, since decent behavior is a sign of a morally mature person.
We must remember that age is not a barrier in a relationship, but rather a plus. A man can conquer a girl with his energy, carefreeness and ease, romance, positive attitude and inspiration. If he manages to infect his potential soul mate with enthusiasm and energy, this will make the girl emotionally dependent on this guy.
Love with or without rules (Something's Gotta Give) 2003
Genre: comedy, melodrama, drama
Rating: KinoPoisk – 7.2, IMDb – 6.7
In order to take part in the project, Jack Nicholson refused to participate in the film “Bad Santa”.
Unexpected interweaving of events, the unique Jack Nicholson and the charming Keanu Reeves - this is what awaits the audience of the film. Already middle-aged womanizer Harry Langer is in love with young Marin. At home, her mother and Harry have a heart attack. Charming Erica saves her daughter's careless lover, and the young doctor who comes to the rescue, as well as the main character, fall in love with this mature and spectacular woman.
Flirting in public
Young girls often pretend to be unapproachable and touchy. They want men to conquer and conquer them. A mature woman is an individual, she will not pay attention to other people or hide her desires.
Therefore, in public she can easily demonstrate her liberation. You can touch the shoe with your hand, put your hand on the man’s thigh. A man always likes this kind of behavior, because he feels next to him a “living” woman who has emotions and activity.
