Stirlitz or Hamlet: how to find an ideal partner using socionics

There are different relationships between different socionic types. Since there are 16 sociotypes, then, accordingly, there should be 16 types of relationships between them. However, in fact, there are 14 types of relationships, just in two of them there are two different roles, of which a person can perform only one.

  • Business relationship
  • Dual Relationships, or Complete Complement
  • Mirror relationships
  • Conflict relationships
  • Mirage relationships
  • Activation Relationships
  • Quasi-identity relations
  • A relationship of complete opposites
  • Half-complement relations
  • Audit relationships (auditor and auditee)
  • Social order relationships (customer and receiver)
  • Superego relationships
  • Family relationships
  • Identical relations

Business relationship

Relationships of this kind are calm, even, the partners understand each other well in their creative function, they are frank, but they do not know how to help each other or support each other morally. Business relationships develop into a rivalry of behavioral styles, requiring constant probing of a competitor who is not inferior to you. In a mobilized state, relationships improve, partners quickly unite against a common enemy or common difficulty. A calm state worsens them, and grievances over trifles begin to arise. A couple can eagerly look for weaknesses in each other's positions. Business relationships are based on logic. They make people calculating, weighing and evaluating everything from a pragmatic point of view. One logical plan is replaced by another, everyone insists on their own version. In a welded business couple, feelings are entirely subordinated to the logic of achieving success. Business relationships strengthen the power sensory of partners, make them more competitive, and develop the ability to realistically assess the balance of power. A business couple should not take on long-term tasks. These relationships encourage partners to achieve short-term goals that promise tangible returns. Business relationships are also built on a balance of power. But, unlike the superego, here the partners do not restore, but on the contrary, they strive to upset the balance in their favor. These relationships are tiring with a constant struggle for authority, leadership, and significance. In disputes, they are not looking for the truth, but are looking for weaknesses in the position of the other side. In business relationships, partners act using seemingly similar methods, but achieve completely different goals. Therefore, competition is growing, pushing both back. After rethinking their actions, the partners again come together for a new leap forward and an even more dangerous failure. Everyone believes that the goal set by others is incorrect. At the later stages of development of business relationships, any desire to be similar to each other disappears.

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Relations of business equality with elements of rivalry and competition with different goals of partners. From the point of view of model A, the program function of one partner falls on the role function of the other (hence the competition and struggle for leadership in relationships), the observational function falls on the suggestive one, and the creative, painful, activation and demonstrative functions coincide (common interests and cooperation usually lie in the creative zone partner functions).

Description of personality types and their characteristics

There are 16 personality types (male and female). Their names are the same for men and women; small differences for people of different sexes must be studied after determining the type.

The typology is based on the fact that each of the psychotypes has its own meaning in each of four parameters:

  • logic (subordinate the whole world to logic) / ethics (understands the relationships between people),
  • sensory (focus on real phenomena) / intuition (focus on thoughts),
  • rationality (rational people plan everything)/ irrationality (irrational people don’t plan anything),
  • extraversion (directed towards the outside world) / introversion (directed inward).

In addition to the use of the word type, in various literature one can find such terms as type of information metabolism (IMT), sociotype, psychotype.

A brief description of each of the 16 types looks something like this:

  1. Dostoevsky , an introvert who tends to take everything very personally. Such people, as a rule, are aloof from others and communicate only with good acquaintances and friends. You may get the feeling that they are not living, but watching the lives of others. They are very polite and well-mannered, they are never rude and always think about the convenience of others, trying not to interfere with them. But their main feature is their high ability to empathize. Dostoevsky knows how to empathize and literally feels what is going on in the souls of other people. Dostoevsky always sees what kind of relationships his acquaintances actually have and knows how people from his circle really treat him. He has a very rich world of feelings and experiences, but does not show this to anyone. He is always very neat and neatly dressed, and is critical of his own appearance.
  2. Jack London , a very hardworking person, his energy literally boils and splashes out. It seems that he is not able to just stand still or even walk slowly, he always needs to run somewhere.
    He loves to show everyone how fearless he is, he is the first to rush into all sorts of adventures.

    He is inattentive to his own appearance, often looks disheveled and unkempt, loves life very much, constantly chats and jokes, strives to cheer everyone up, since he himself is an incorrigible optimist and is always in high spirits.

  3. Stirlitz knows how to make decisions quickly and accurately, and always acts intelligently and logically.
    He likes to take the initiative and be in the center of everyone's attention, is able to work for a very long time, and practically does not get tired. He is always very confident in himself, never shy or timid; rather, on the contrary, he shows aggression towards others. Always ready, foaming at the mouth, to prove that he is right and defend his own ideas and beliefs. As a rule, he dresses beautifully and elegantly, and hates cunning and cheating. Considers honesty and adherence to rules to be one of his strongest traits and demands the same from others.
  4. Hamlet always very serious, paints the world around him in very dark colors, and overly dramatizes. His thoughts are constantly occupied with global problems. Does not like to be in the center of attention and to manage other people, prone to constant doubts and hesitations. He puts feelings above reason; many would call Hamlet an incorrigible romantic. He takes any work very seriously, carefully thinks through and plans everything, is able to maintain strength until the very end, never burns out and always finishes what he starts.
    He does not tolerate evil and evil people, but his concepts of good and evil are very original and based on his own preferences.

    He sympathizes with other people and tries to help them, sometimes too intrusively. From the outside he may seem arrogant and does not like to work in front of other people.

  5. Hugo has very bright and strong emotions, is able to light up in childhood and then carry his dream throughout his life.
    Has a kind and compassionate character. Ready to take on any job, completes it very quickly and always finishes it. He doesn't like to talk too much, he is a man of action. As a rule, he achieves excellent results in his activities, but is not very confident in himself, and therefore needs praise from others. Hugo is a trusting and non-envious person; he is very happy when he manages to cheer up another person. Able to listen carefully to other people. He does not allow himself to be offended, but nevertheless is not aggressive. Pays too much attention to others, this distracts him from his own activities. Likes to choose new clothes, takes care of his appearance, hates disorder in everything, including appearance. He has few close friends, because not everyone can withstand his emotional pressure.
  6. Robespierre has a very developed ability to analyze and is always very logical.
    Loves to get to the bottom of things. He places high demands on himself and values ​​justice very much. He does not like to choose his own clothes, he completely relies on his partner in this matter, and often does not think at all about what he is wearing. Doesn't like being bossed around. Very withdrawn and silent. He is secretive, does not like guests, reacts very sharply to criticism addressed to him, and takes very serious care of his health.
  7. Gorky is always very calm and reasonable, adheres to his own system and routine in everything, and never panics.
    He doesn’t like dreamers, just as he doesn’t like to fantasize. Able to listen carefully to other people, thoroughly studies any problem. Likes to be alone and think. In general, thinking is his favorite pastime. Closed, secretive, very patient and unpretentious, unobtrusive in communication. Doesn't like to waste time choosing clothes or doing any household activities in general. Does not trust other people and treats them with caution. Despite this, he is an excellent organizer, makes only the same demands on his employees as he does on himself, does not look down on them and is always ready to listen. Thanks to these qualities, Gorky becomes an excellent boss, which is why this type is also called a guardian in socionics.
  8. Dreiser is very polite and tactful, easily ingratiating himself with other people. Doesn't show his emotions, doesn't tolerate betrayal. In the company of friends he is sociable and talkative, but among strangers he is almost always silent. He is extremely intolerant of any manifestations of untidiness and will never appear in public in bad clothes. Doesn't like to wait, is always very punctual.
  9. Don Quixote lives in the future, not the present.
    Constantly needs new emotions. He's a good boss and generally has a good understanding of people. He loves compliments and positive emotions from others. He is almost impossible to scare; he likes to take the initiative in emergency situations.
  10. Zhukov is a very purposeful person, ready to achieve his goal no matter what. He cares what others think of him. He always reserves the last word and has a stern and decisive character. Doesn't adapt to other people, always tells them what to do. He behaves decisively in any situation, does not like to talk about his feelings.
  11. Huxley loves to improvise, loves everything new, and expresses his thoughts very emotionally. Extremely sensitive when his ideas are criticized, ready to help others. Huxley is a man of mood and it changes very often.
  12. Napoleon is very proud of being loved and respected, does not hide his feelings, is arrogant and optimistic. Knows how to dress well and demands the same from others. He is not afraid of criticism, he is always very businesslike and proactive.
  13. Balzac has a very vivid imagination and almost never shows his emotions. He loves to analyze everything and is a very kind person by nature.
  14. Gabin is a very reserved and cold person, his movements are always precise and restrained.
    Always finishes what he starts, very persistent. Calm under any circumstances, will not work if he does not consider the matter worth attention.
  15. Yesenin , a dreamy romantic, likes to think rather than act. He doesn’t hide his feelings, falls in love easily, and always looks very elegant. Elegance is visible not only in his clothes, but also in all his movements. Loves to stir people up and evoke bright emotions in them.
  16. Dumas is always very friendly and optimistic. He hides his real experiences and never asks for help from others. Always cares about other people, does not know how to argue or refuse, and does not like to express himself brightly.

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Dual Relationships, or Complete Complement

The best and most necessary relationship for a person is family, friendship, and cooperation. Partners complement each other: where one is weak, the other is strong. Relationship of support, mutual complement. The dual perceives the dual as a reliable partner in any matter - whether we are talking about work or family life. It can be considered completely established that the most durable married couples are formed precisely by duals.

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A special type of relationship between two partners – carriers of complementary personality types. Dual relationships are one of the main concepts of socionics and are characterized by mutual benefit and support, and are considered optimal for friendship, intimacy and marriage (although sociotype is not the only factor determining the success of interaction). Dual relationships are considered the “most important” relationships, since they are a manifestation of psychological compatibility, and are also the most suitable for creating a family, which is the practical significance of the phenomenon. Dual relationships are considered the best for many situations of interaction and communication: work, education, leisure and business partnerships.

Good ones.

Dual relationships (A) are the best in business contacts, as well as in family and any other relationships. The thoughts and actions of one of the duals are, as it were, a continuation of the thoughts and actions of the other, they mutually complement each other. These relationships are also called complement relationships, and such a pair is called a dyad. What one does poorly, the other does, takes the initiative, understands how he can help his partner, and without much difficulty. More importantly, the second in a dual couple perceives the help of the dual naturally, without tension and conflicts.

Activation relationships (A) - psychological types increase each other’s activity, quickly understand each other, the thought of one continues and develops the other, and vice versa. It's best when activators are busy with one thing. However, prolonged communication can tire them, and from time to time activators need to take a break from each other.

Identical relationships (T) - relationships with people of the same type. Looking at a partner like you, it’s as if you see yourself from the outside and can correct your behavior (“we are of the same blood - you and me”). Partners perceive the world in the same way, look at it with the same eyes, and act according to the same patterns. This kind of relationship is best demonstrated in the teacher-student relationship. True, over time, such partners may get bored of each other.

Mirror relationships (3) - partners correct each other all the time, point out mistakes to each other. Everyone sees, as it were, half the world, and from different sides. In a partner, everyone sees largely opposite traits - as if they see themselves in a mirror - the image is similar, but somehow unrecognizable. Such relationships are tiring, although the partners do many things well because they share responsibilities.

Mirror relationships

It's difficult for two. Both constantly strive to teach and change each other. The appearance of the 3rd member of the quadra, who is the dual of one of them and the activator of the second, makes this collective very pleasant. It’s better to communicate not one on one, but with other members of your quadra, then everything will be fine. In these relationships, the partners are quite similar - they are both ethical or logical, sensory or intuitive, but one is an extrovert and the other is an introvert. They also differ on the “rationality – irrationality” scale. With such interaction, there is an active exchange of information on strong functions. What one speaks or thinks about, the other implements without further ado. They have a lot to learn from each other, although sometimes this leads to the temptation to lecture their partner. Conflicts are unlikely here.

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Mirror relationships are interesting for communication and joint activities; partners have common values ​​and often interests; Constructive criticism is possible. The strengths and weaknesses are largely the same. From the point of view of model A, the program function intersects with the creative function of the “mirror”, the role function with the pain function, the suggestive function with the activation function, and the observation function with the demonstrative function.

Conflict relationships

Conflicts constantly get into each other’s pet peeves – good for self-knowledge. If you marry a dual, you will be happy; if you marry a conflicter, you will become a philosopher. The main thing is psychological distance, emphasized politeness and no attempts to pour out your soul! Of course, there can be no talk of any harmony in close (for example, family) relationships here. But in the case when these people communicate over a long distance, for example, they are members of the same club, they can very fruitfully use the advice of each other and even maintain long-term “distance” friendship if they treat each other with respect. But, of course, when communicating at close range, conflict is inevitable.

© 1986 Vaisband I. D. “Working material on socionics.”

Relationships of sluggish, latent conflict; Such relationships are characterized by constant and often fruitless attempts to achieve mutual understanding and growing internal tension. From the point of view of model A, the program function of one partner falls into the pain function of the other partner, and the creative function falls into the role function (the conflictor does not intentionally, but constantly points out the weak points of the partner), the observation function falls into the activation function, and the demonstration function falls into the suggestive function. The relationship is extremely unfavorable for living together and family relationships, however, it can be useful in work provided that it is parallel rather than joint work.

Mirage relationships

There is a lack of frankness; This relationship is boring. There are few conflicts, but there is a great lack of emotions and joy. They try to understand each other, but do not know how to guess the desires of the other. Good for relaxation; joint activities are not going well. In this case, it is easier for partners to maintain good relations in matters that are not too serious or somewhere on vacation together. One develops an attitude towards a partner as a lightweight, not too serious, although nice, sweet person with whom it is good to be in the same company, but not very tempting to enter into business contact with him. However, in family life, for those for whom the factor of psychological comfort dominates, these relationships can be quite favorable.

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The relationship is quite comfortable and pleasant, but does not satisfy the needs of the partners in everything, and contributes to relaxation and rest. From the point of view of model A, the program function of one partner falls on the observational function of the other (hence possible disagreements), the creative function - on the activation function (which gives warmth to the relationship), the role function - on the suggestive function (which generates dissatisfaction), the demonstrative function covers up the painful partner. The relationship is quite favorable for family life, but ineffective for joint activities.

Activation Relationships

Activation is also a very good relationship. Partners mutually activate each other. Occasionally you need to rest. Unlike dual relationships, there is no jealousy here: there can be many activators. These relationships are favorable, although not to the same extent as dual ones. There is some tension due to the lack of full compensation. Tiredness of each other can occur due to different rhythms of life, since one partner is rational, and the other is irrational.

© 1986 Vaisband I. D. “Working material on socionics.”

Activation relationships are light and pleasant, established quickly and easily. Any area of ​​activity turns out to be in the zone of the strong functions of one of the partners, however, they have different rhythms of life (rational and irrational), moreover, both are extroverts or introverts, and with prolonged communication they tend to get tired of each other. From the point of view of model A, the program function of the activator supplies information to the activation function, the creative function to the suggestive function, the observation function controls the activity of the painful function, and the demonstrative function controls the activity of the role function, while blows from restrictive to painful ones can be quite painful. Relationships are good for relaxation and good times.

The concept of psychological compatibility

Psychological compatibility is the ability of two, three or more people to interact with each other, without paying attention to the character traits or personality traits of each of them.

Compatibility in psychology is based on the combination of characteristics and temperaments of individual group members. They help to stay in the same territory for a long period of time, and also to experience only positive emotions from communicating with each other.

In psychology there is also the opposite concept - psychological incompatibility. This is the inability to find a common language with others in critical situations.

Meaning

Psychological compatibility of people plays an important role. In many ways, the atmosphere in the team depends on it. And these are not all the advantages:

  1. Helps achieve better results at low cost.
  2. Increases labor productivity.
  3. Improves the ability to interact with each other.
  4. Increases self-esteem and self-confidence of each team member.
  5. Helps to gain a feeling of security.

Incompatibility, on the contrary, reduces productivity. It leads to the development of conflicts, the appearance of negative emotions, and bad mood. Antipathy arises between people.

Illustrative examples of psychological compatibility

Imagine a situation involving two people. They both have a strong character, want to be leaders, and tend to dominate. It will not be possible to establish interaction. Someone alone must obey, be able to compromise.

Even two harsh, hot-tempered people will not be able to work effectively. Each of them needs a different, calmer, balanced partner.

Quasi-identity relations

There are no quarrels, but many arguments that are never fruitful. It is impossible to prove anything to each other. They talk about the same things, are interested in the same things, but from completely different points of view.

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Relations of peaceful coexistence with coincidence of strengths and weaknesses and divergence of values ​​and interests. From the point of view of model A, the program function of one “quasi-person” corresponds to the demonstrative function of another, creative - observational, role - activation, pain - suggestive.

A relationship of complete opposites

They communicate well in private, marveling at the uniqueness of their interlocutor’s approach. The third upsets their balance. They think about the same thing, but from different positions. Partners look at the same problems from opposite sides. One, for some functions, is oriented towards an external object, for others - towards his own subjective opinion and feeling. For others, everything happens exactly the opposite. Communication, in the end, turns out to be very superficial, conversations seem to be in different languages. It is very difficult to do anything together because attention is absent even in small things. There is no way to coordinate your actions. At the beginning of their acquaintance, such partners attract each other mainly due to their incomprehensibility, even mystery. Therefore, unfortunately, there are quite a lot of married couples where the husband and wife are in a relationship of complete opposites. It is not surprising that there is no harmony in such a family; the relationship is so tense that the spouses are constantly teetering on the brink of divorce or ending up that way.

© 1986 Vaisband I. D. “Working material on socionics.”

Relationships of complete opposites (repayment) - partners have similar strengths and weaknesses, however, in communication and joint activities, mutual repayment occurs, one partner seems to hinder the activities of the other. From the point of view of model A, the program function of one partner falls into the observational function, and the creative function falls into the demonstrative function (which together gives the extinction effect), the role function falls into the suggestive function, and the pain function falls into the activation function.

Psychological compatibility in a team

A lot depends on psychological compatibility in a group:

  • final performance results;
  • how satisfied the group members are with the work done;
  • how much effort and resources were expended;
  • emotional investment.

It turns out that socio-psychological compatibility in a team is the ability of several people to work towards a common goal, to be a cohesive team. The more unifying factors, the more efficient the production.

The psychological compatibility of team members depends on communication characteristics. There are 4 types of people:

  1. Leaders. They easily cope with assigned tasks. Ready to manage others.
  2. Individualists. They like to work alone.
  3. Conformists. Always subordinate to leaders. Easily adapt to team conditions.
  4. Collectivists. They work exclusively in a group.

When assembling a group, you need to consider other factors:

  • physiology – gender, age, health;
  • psychophysiology – temperament;
  • psychology – character traits, motives;
  • socio-psychological nuances - priorities, life values, goals, expectations.

Generally speaking, psychological compatibility in a team is determined by the characteristics of the work. People with similar traits are suitable for long-term cooperation. To complete creative tasks, you need a group of participants whose character traits will complement each other. To achieve one big common goal, it is worth selecting dissimilar employees, perhaps even with contrasting qualities.

Half-complement relations

Half complement - good relationship. However, a sudden loss of mutual understanding out of the blue is possible. But they make up quickly and easily. When people get to know each other, make plans, agree on business, everything goes great, no worse than with duals. But when they begin to implement their plans, it turns out that both have the same area where both are not strong - therefore, they cannot effectively help each other. Since there is no full compensation, there may be some disappointment when getting close enough.

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Incomplete complement relations. There is mutual interest in communication, but serious problems are possible when trying to get closer. From the point of view of model A, the program function of one partner falls on the suggestive function of the other (which causes mutual interest), the creative function of one partner intersects with the demonstrative function of the other partner, the role function intersects with the observational function, and the pain function intersects with the activation function (which causes some dissatisfaction with the partner) .

Intertype relationships

Several relationship options are possible ; let’s look at the characteristics of each.

  • Dual relationships are the most harmonious and comfortable, duals are complete complementarity and understanding, they do not need to adapt to each other, conflicts are very rare, and responsibilities are evenly and harmoniously distributed. It is this kind of partner that is most suitable for comfortable life. But the difficulty of finding your dual is that outwardly he seems to be the most simple and ordinary person, unremarkable and therefore uninteresting. But parting with a dual is perceived very painfully by everyone. It is important to understand that this type of relationship is the norm; having found duality and harmony, everyone wants to go beyond normal boundaries and get thrills.
  • Semi-dual . Otherwise called incomplete complement relations. The partners are interested in being together, they have a lot of topics to talk about and there is sincere interest, but there is no real harmony. One of them periodically commits unfair acts towards the other, which, however, are forgiven. Comfort is present and then disappears.
  • Activations . At first it’s easy and comfortable with a partner, each of them stimulates the activity of the other. But over time, both get tired of this and often move away. Then the need for activation arises again, so the partners either get closer or move away.
  • Mirages . They help partners relax, it’s easy and comfortable for them to relax together, but business relationships will not work out, because the partners do not understand and do not accept the motives of each other’s actions. The partner's needs are perceived as something important and not worthy of attention. But when a couple does things together, the relationship becomes warm and friendly.
  • The complete opposite . Partners experience psychological comfort only when communicating together; when a third person appears, everyone tries to “pull the blanket over themselves” and fears for the loss of their authority.
  • Mirrored . Partners seem to reflect each other: one speaks, and the second brings words to life. But, since everyone understands in their own way, the principle of a crooked mirror is triggered, hence misunderstanding arises that can develop into conflict.
  • Conflict. The strengths of one partner are the weaknesses of the other. At first this seems attractive, because in your partner the traits that are very weak in you predominate, but over time the dissonance becomes greater, since the partners do not compensate for each other’s weaknesses with their strengths. There is no mutual assistance between them.
  • Identical. Partners understand each other perfectly, but since their strengths and weaknesses coincide, they are not able to help each other. These are people of the same type in socionics.
  • Related . At first glance, they are harmonious and comfortable, but the partners are indifferent to each other’s problems and will not make efforts to help each other.
  • Superego . The partner is idealized and has unlimited respect. But outwardly this interest is not manifested; the relationship is formal and distant.
  • Business. The partners are equal to each other, the relationship is friendly, they are ready to help each other using their own strengths, but they also expect the same.
  • Quasi-identities . The partners do not understand each other at all, but at the same time they have learned to adapt in an amazing way. But if nothing connects them, such a connection can be easily and painlessly destroyed.
  • Revisions. One acts as an auditor, seeks to control the actions of his partner, tries to change and re-educate the person being audited.
  • Social order. The relationship is unequal: one of the partners, the receiver, uses the second, the transmitter, copying his behavior, repeating his thoughts. Being nearby, the receiver pleases the transmitter in every possible way, and he, in turn, provides support and expresses concern.

The socionic table will help you understand your relationships with people around you, identify the ones that are most comfortable and useful for you, and understand who you should stay away from if possible. It will also help in creating a family, because now it has become fashionable to select a partner according to the socionic type.

Audit relationships

One of the most dangerous types of relationships. People systematically hit each other where it hurts the most. Both suffer from social control - the person being audited (controlled) constantly suffers from the controller, but he himself cannot “get” him. But it’s not very good for the controller either - the person under control annoys him. The person under control feels extremely uncomfortable, the controller seems to him to be petty and meticulous, and precisely in those issues on which he would not like to focus the attention of others.

© 1986 Vaisband I. D. “Working material on socionics.”

An asymmetrical relationship in which the auditor constantly, although unintentionally, points out to the sub-auditor his weak point, sometimes trying to re-educate him. From the point of view of model A, the program function of the auditor falls on the pain function of the supervisor (the cause of discomfort for the supervisor), creative - on program, role - on creative, pain - on role, suggestive - on demonstrative, activation - on suggestive, observation - on activation, demonstrative - to observational. Relationships are unfavorable for living together and family relationships (in some ways even more dangerous than conflict ones, which are mutually dangerous and force partners to maintain distance), however, a normal mode of existence is possible if partners do not consciously touch each other’s points of least resistance (pain functions).

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Sexual characteristics of introverts\extroverts. L. Akimova

Descriptions of Socionic Types by functions and aspects of Model A.

Content description of psychotypes

They complement each other. If you study them together, everything becomes clearer and more visual.

Sixteen psychological types are divided into fours, the so-called quadras. Those in the same quadra understand each other perfectly. Each quadra has its own characteristics of behavior, its own worldview, attitude to work, sense of humor, and finally - everything that can be called the “spirit of the quadra.”

It is interesting that when types from different quadra meet, they are unfamiliar with the characteristics of their partner’s sexual behavior.

Members of the quadra are the most sexually compatible partners. Let's take a closer look at sexual behavior in each quadra.

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The first quadra includes:

"Don Quixote", "Hugo", "Dumas" and "Robespierre".

ILEENTPDon QuixoteInventorSeeker
LIIINTPRobespierreScientistAnalyst
ESEESFJHugoSellerEnthusiast
SEIISFJDumasArtistMediator

The sexual program of the Alpha quadra is characterized by gentle touches. In the dyad “Don Quixote” - “Dumas” the partners “love each other with their skin”, as if dissolving in each other’s arms.

Sensory Dumas and Hugo types love to have their skin gently stroked. But “Hugo,” in comparison with “Dumas,” is more emotional and frantic in his manifestations of love, because he has to “sway” his dual, “Descartes” (Robespierre). However, "Dumas", as an irrational sensory type, shows more creativity and flexibility.

Intuitive-logical types - “Don Quixote” and “Descartes” (Robespierre), especially women, show less activity at first.

The relationship between “Don Quixote” and “Descartes” is characterized by a poverty of feelings and emotions, since these are logical and intuitive types. And the mirror relationship between “Hugo” and “Dumas” is manifested in vivid emotions and sensations. But very often mutual subconscious dissatisfaction with each other accumulates. In general, mirror relationships in marriage gradually make partners neurotic. Hugo especially suffers from its rationality; this is less reflected in the irrational Dumas.

Second quadra:

"Hamlet", "Gorky", "Zhukov" and "Yesenin".

SLEESTPZhukovPromotorCoordinator
PWDISTPBitterTrusteeInspector
EIEENFJHamletPedagogueMentor
IEIINFJYeseninQuestorLyricist

In the second quadra, the nature of sexual caresses is completely different. Here they do not like light stroking, but strive for an intense effect on the skin, which manifests itself in strong hugs when partners squeeze and squeeze each other. Sensory types “Macedonsky” (Zhukov) and “Gorky” are very jealous: the mere thought of betrayal can poison their lives. Shakespeare's Othello ("Gorky") kills Desdemona. It is characteristic that at first he strangled her - Shakespeare (Hamlet) showed this not by chance. We can give examples from life: a husband (“Gorky”) and wife (“Hamlet”) live in a hostel. Since the wife is a sociable extrovert, her husband is very often jealous of her neighbors. Moreover, each time the scene is played out almost according to Shakespeare: “Who were you with?” - asks “Gorky” and takes “Hamlet” by the neck with his hands. She screams and he lets go of her in fear.

As for “Makedonsky” (Zhukov), in moments of intimacy he can give clear, confident commands to “Yesenin” - it is not without reason that the second pseudonym of this type is “Marshal”. The mirror relationship between “Makedonsky” and “Gorky” is quite complex: in order to adapt to the partner, “Makedonsky” needs to constantly control himself and restrain himself. This tires him very much, but if he doesn’t do this, he will neuroticize “Gorky” with his sensory abilities, which are absent in “Hamlet.” From Hamlet, Gorky expects intense dramatic feelings and support for his sensory initiatives. At the same time, partners can take the most incredible poses.

It is interesting that when types from different quadra meet, they are unfamiliar with the behavior of their partner. Thus, the “Dreiser” woman was very surprised when the “Yesenin” man squeezed her tightly in his arms; she had to “retrain” him.

Third quadra:

"Napoleon", "Balzac", "Dreiser" and "Jack London".

SEEESFPNapoleonEntertainerPolitician
ESIISFPDreiserConservatorThe keeper
LIEENTJJ. LondonFieldmarshalPre-prin.
ORINTJBalzacArchitectExpert

The sexual program of the Gamma quadra is very dynamic and often characterizes the acrobatic behavior of partners. In the “Caesar” - “Balzac” dyad, the initiative is usually always in the hands of “Caesar” (Napoleon), who sensory controls the partner. “Balzac” obeys, even if you just resolutely take him by the hand. He says: “If you take me and lead me, then I will immediately go and will not resist, I will succumb to the control of my partner.”

As for the “Dreiser” - “Jack London” dyad, it is characterized by frequent changes of partners’ positions and high intensity of feelings, as well as a large number of sexual intercourse (for example, over several days) followed by a long rest. At the same time, if “Caesar” “cools down” very quickly after sexual intercourse, then “Dreiser” may require one or two hours of caresses and stroking of the partner. The mirror relationship between “Caesar” and “Dreiser” is similar to the relationship between “Macedonsky” and “Gorky”: “Dreiser” is also quite jealous.

In this regard, it is interesting to compare the intimate relationships of “Dumas” and “Caesar”. The relationship between them is complete opposites. This can lead to the fact that partners (especially the introvert) quickly grow cold towards each other, and a truly complete sensory and emotional repayment occurs.

But between “Don Quixote” and “Balzac”, “Yesenin” and “Huxley” such suppression occurs less frequently; their sensory functions are in the subconscious.

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Fourth quadra:

“Stirlitz”, “Dostoevsky”, “Gaben” and “Huxley”.

IEEENFPHuxleyJournalistAdviser
EIIINFPDostoevskyAuthorHumanist
FELESTJStirlitzAdministratorManager
SLIISTJGabenArtisanMaster

Playful behavior, laughter, pinching a partner, etc. includes the sexual program of the Delta quadra.

“Stirlitz” shows more energy, but less creativity to “swing up” the shy “Dostoyevsky”, and is less restrained compared to “Gaben”. “Gabin” himself, saving energy, shows more creativity with his dual “Huxley”; they both look at it as high art. “Huxley” women are characterized by wriggling, flirtatious and “cat-like” movements. Stimuli from the outside have a very strong influence - films, literature, music.

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Huxley's weakness is pity: the partner can achieve success by talking about his suffering. In this situation, “Huxley” becomes tender, feels an urgent need to bring relief to at least someone;

By the way, another pseudonym for “Huxley” is “Don Juan”: he successfully courts a woman, but at the last moment he can avoid intimacy. Only his dual “Gaben” or activator “Stirlitz” can take the initiative into their own hands.

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Social order relations

The receiver perceives any grumbling from the customer as a signal to action. However, for this action he must move away from him. In a family - and this is difficult in a family - relationships are tense. It seems to the customer that without him the receiver is completely lost, and the receiver considers it impossible to leave such an outstanding, strong person. The customer activates the customer, but in order to realize this impulse, he must move away from him for some time. The most romantic love stories: partners come together, separate, can’t live without each other, can’t live with each other (“Winter Cherry”). Not the best marriages. One of the partners is called the “customer” - this is the one who, from his “creative” channel, activates the weak function of the “customer” channel. There is no good feedback here, since both strong functions of the sub-order do not affect the customer. This mechanism also determines the nature of the relationship: everything that the customer says and does seems to the customer to be not very important and significant, and the customer, on the contrary, is perceived by the customer as a very significant figure. This order is impossible not to fulfill: it is perceived by the weak channel function, which itself is not able to critically understand the information. Therefore, it is carried out unconditionally. The customer is not inclined to take into account the sub-customer, seeing the sub-customer as a weaker partner, so he seeks to patronize the sub-customer, manage him, or even teach him. Naturally, the contractor strives, on occasion, to distance himself from the customer. In a family, these relationships are satisfactory only on the condition that the customer is engaged in some active activity outside the family, then he can transfer the energy received from the customer further along the ring. If there is no such activity, there is a high probability of conflict, even to the point of rupture.

© 1986 Vaisband I. D. “Working material on socionics.”

Asymmetrical relationships in which the customer usually has more influence on the customer than the customer on the customer. In such relationships, the customer may somewhat underestimate the partner, and the customer may try to either please the partner or resist his influence. From the point of view of model A, the customer’s program function falls on the demonstrative function of the subordinate, the creative function falls on the suggestive function, the role function falls on the activation function, the pain function falls on the observation function, the suggestive function falls on the pain function, the activation function falls on the program function, the observation function falls on the creative function, and the demonstrative function falls on the role function.

Superego relationships

You are constantly haunted by the thought that your partner is doing everything on purpose to spite you. Fine as long as you both care about each other. If a quarrel does occur, this concern disappears and the conflict becomes unexpectedly “loud.” The interests of the partners are completely different, communication is difficult, they cannot rely on each other, and conflicts often arise.

© 1986 Vaisband I. D. “Working material on socionics.”

Relationships of mutual respect and sympathy, which, however, when moving to a close psychological distance, can lead to conflicts and misunderstandings. From the point of view of model A, the program function of one partner falls on the role function of the other (which is why the effect of admiration arises), and the creative function falls on the pain function (which irritates and can lead to conflicts), the observation function falls on the suggestive function, and the demonstration function falls on the activation function. The relationship is not suitable for living together and family relationships.

Neutral.

Semi-complementary relationships (Sd) - complementation among partners is carried out according to only one leading characteristic. Business relationships here are strong as long as there is theoretical discussion and until the relationship develops into intimacy, which results in disappointment. Partners can surprise each other with unexpected actions. Relationships can either deteriorate sharply or improve again.

A relationship of complete opposites (RP) is a relationship between partners who evaluate everything from different positions. They work well together, as long as it’s just the two of them, but if a third one appears, then everyone tries to win him over to their side. The partner may seem either very banal, or, conversely, a bright creative personality.

Quasi-identical relations (Qt) are characterized by unfruitful disputes. The partner seems to be something elusively similar, going through life as if on a parallel path. General topics for conversation are easy to find. General affairs are done successfully if functions are differentiated.

Family relationships (Ro) - partners are similar to each other and seem to understand each other, have common interests. However, in the case it turns out that everyone understands in their own way how this task should be done, and the partner seems to care only about himself. The relationship is correct, observing external rules of decency, but it does not differ in warmth.

Business relationships (De) - partners act in similar ways, understand each other well, but have different goals. Communication is lively and varied, it is difficult to offend your partner. However, it is possible that one may involuntarily put pressure on the other, which may cause protest. Therefore, psychological intimacy does not work out here due to non-acceptance of each other’s goals.

Mirage relationships (Mi) - the partner always seems interesting, but seems to be escaping understanding. They say about such partners that they have a good time relaxing together. In business, it is difficult for them to work with each other, since they are concerned about different aspects of the same problem.

Superego relationships (Se) - Develop well as long as partners take care of each other. Everyone sees in the other those qualities that they themselves would like to have. But the awareness of such superiority sometimes creates situations due to which misunderstanding and rejection of each other arise. Such partners need psychological distance, otherwise they always have to adapt to each other.

Family relationships

Lack of frankness. Partners seem selfish to each other, although in reality this is not always the case. Your partner is similar to you. Both partners perceive the world very similarly in some areas. Where business activity is concerned, these relationships can be quite fruitful if the partners have the same interests. But if their common interests diverge, the relationship can be harsh, unpleasant, and annoying.

© 1986 Vaisband I. D. “Working material on socionics.”

Complex relationships with similar life attitudes and opposing programs for their implementation. From the point of view of model A, the program, role, suggestive and activation functions of the partners coincide, the creative function of one partner falls into the pain function (which is annoying and can lead to conflicts), and the demonstrative function falls into the activation function. Relationships are unfavorable for family life.

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