12 tips from a psychologist on how girls can develop their femininity

Hello, dear readers!

Have you ever wondered why some women (without making any special efforts, without having outstanding external data, or exceptional intelligence) win the attention of hundreds of men from the first meeting?

I am sure that each of you has met such a woman at least once in your life!

“What is their secret?”

- you ask. And the answer is simple - they have strong feminine energy. Simply put, they are feminine. But it's not that simple. It’s easy to talk, but to act—to find femininity in yourself, to become the true embodiment of this energy—is much more difficult. No external masks will help with this without internal work on yourself. To begin with, it is important to understand - what exactly is femininity, internal feminine energy, and how can it be found in oneself and developed?

What does femininity mean?

Many concepts are heard all the time, but deciphering them is difficult. This is a whole complex of properties described in one gentle word. It includes sensitivity, tenderness, fragility, sincerity and loyalty. It is interesting that these qualities have almost nothing to do with appearance and physique, but rather characterize spiritual aspects. Here there is a gradation at the level of instinct, where there can be no halftones, only yes or no.

The qualities that make a girl feminine can gradually develop, if they are not given by nature, the effect will be just as strong if you make an effort and take the right guidelines as a basis.

Style: Rethink your wardrobe

Clothing should highlight a woman's strengths and hide her flaws well. To develop her own style, a girl needs to listen to herself. It is recommended to select such things to feel confident in them. There is no need to focus on beautiful and expensive items. You should like the clothes. It is preferable to buy things made from natural fabrics.

Clothes, makeup, shoes should be in harmony with each other. Preference should be given to skirts, dresses, blouses and shoes with heels. You can include jeans and platform shoes in your wardrobe, but at the same time they should look elegant, decorate the girl, making her fragile and delicate.

Accessories are important. Bracelets will help to emphasize the beauty of the curves of the hands, make them more graceful, and chains and necklaces will help to focus attention on the collarbones. You should not wear a lot of jewelry at once. Moderation is important in everything.

A scarf, scarf or bright handbag will help to revive the image.

What is femininity?

It can be external and internal. To create an appropriate image, you will need to consider the main directions.

Figure. Standards of beauty have changed over the centuries, sometimes beyond recognition. From the Paleolithic Venus, who did not have a face, but had the widest beards, a massive chest and a complete absence of a waist, fashion reached boyish forms and a state of semi-exhaustion. The ideal male half considers an hourglass shape with pronounced breasts, a thin waist and seductive hips. But it is worth remembering that each person subconsciously has his own ideal, so there are definitely connoisseurs of curvy hips, graceful hands or a snub nose. But it is important that the figure is fit in any case, which will be helped by the feminine figure glorified by poets and impeccable posture.
Hair. Surprisingly, one of the mandatory elements for men is long, well-groomed curls. It is best if they are natural color or a shade close to it.
Makeup. The best option is when it is practically invisible and only favorably emphasizes the natural attractiveness. Deliberately drawn arrows, eyelashes touching the tip of the nose or lips with a blood-red hue of arterial blood are more like the ritual mask of an Indian on the warpath. Yes, it’s original, but I don’t want to get closer.
Fashion style. It serves as an excellent tool when it is necessary to become softer and more feminine in appearance, and a woman has a huge arsenal available to her: from lace and ruffles to skirts and seductive blouses. The softness and seductive lines are emphasized by floral patterns, delicate pastel shades, and a reasonable amount of decorative elements that create accents in the right places.
Behavior, gestures and facial expressions reveal hidden thoughts and desires, so you need to constantly monitor them. Evil grimaces, obvious disgust or arrogance can nullify all efforts to create a feminine image.
Emotionality, openness and the ability to empathize are considered the main spiritual signs of femininity.

Work on yourself

Updates

All men love with their eyes! In order to fully reveal femininity, it is necessary to make changes not only within yourself, but also externally. Therefore, I recommend that you improve your haircut, giving it a well-groomed, updated look.

Don't be afraid to experiment with hair style, color and shape. Also pay attention to cosmetics. You shouldn't wear combat makeup every day. Focus on natural colors and natural shine. Believe me, you are already beautiful!

External attributes

Do you have a little black dress in your closet? What about sundresses or tunics? The image of a woman is impossible without dresses, neat pumps and stilettos. This does not mean that trousers need to be thrown out of the closet, but when updating your wardrobe, remember: a woman draws strength from the Earth, which means a dress is a unique way to replenish energy reserves.

What kind of women are considered attractive?

Looking at the list of advantages compiled on the basis of male opinion, you can find that, regardless of social class and age, representatives of the stronger sex want to see neatness, cleanliness, and high intelligence in a girl. They value self-esteem, the ability to maintain a conversation, emotional sensitivity and a piquant twist that adds uniqueness and mystery.

Here it is worth adding smoothness of movements, grace and the ability to present yourself favorably, without belittling your merits and without crossing the fine line beyond which vulgarity begins.

How to learn to be an attractive and feminine girl for guys

In fact, no supernatural efforts are needed. It is based on self-care, enrichment and revelation of the inner world. First of all, this is done for oneself, and the close admiring attention of representatives of the stronger sex becomes a pleasant bonus.

I recommend that you always remember that a woman who seeks to purposefully catch prey becomes a predator, this is felt from a distance and there is no talk of femininity. The strength of beautiful ladies lies in their apparent weakness; this is the only way to awaken the eternal male instinct to protect and protect the beloved, to tirelessly admire her and commit romantic follies in her honor.

Psychologist Daria Milai

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To understand how to make yourself attractive, just listen to your desires. Tenderness and elegance are achieved by following basic rules.

Take care of yourself

The system for maintaining a flourishing appearance and an even, friendly attitude towards others is clear and simple to implement. It means:

restful deep sleep at least 8 hours a day;
dosed physical activity;
walks in the open air;
carrying out cosmetic procedures;
careful daily hygiene;
balanced diet;
compliance with the drinking regime of at least 2 liters of liquid, the main part of which is clean water.

Health support and a sufficient amount of vitamins will help you look great at any age, and it’s not about the presence or absence of wrinkles, but about the harmony of your visible appearance and soul, illuminated by self-love.

Dress more feminine

The mask, if worn constantly, grows to the face. Likewise, my interlocutors sometimes ask about how to learn to be feminine and soft, coming to me in masculine clothes and with chewing gum in their mouth. Naturally, such a unisex style does not benefit the formation of a female image.

I am sure that external changes entail internal transformations. It is unlikely that having put on a flirty skirt and changed from comfortable but completely shapeless sneakers to elegant pumps, they will also rest their elbows on their knees or sit imposingly on a chair. Beautiful, stylish clothes awaken the desire to straighten your back, poise, and raise your head proudly. Often even the timbre of the voice changes, becoming velvety and attractive.

There is no need to go to the point of absurdity and consider the options created by fashion designers for the catwalks, but a sense of style and proportion will allow you to use the achievements of everyday fashion to your advantage. The golden rule is to see a little less than you want. It doesn’t matter what it is, the length of the dress or a transparent insert in the neckline, the main thing is that there is room for imagination. Don’t forget about comfortable shoes with heels, which gives grandeur to your posture and lightness to your gait.

Create an atmosphere of femininity

This concept includes a thousand little things:

timbre of voice and manner of speaking;
decent vocabulary and clear diction;
the subtle aroma of a good perfume mixed with the smell of freshness and cleanliness;
proper organization of the surrounding space;
harmonious combination of hairstyle and clothing style;
light makeup;
a relaxed atmosphere that helps create emotional comfort in the communication process.

Next to a true woman it is always comfortable and easy.

Act like a woman

Slang words, a cigarette and cheeky behavior on the verge of a foul are not an option for a lady who wants to look feminine. First of all, you need to feel a sense of self-worth, without driving yourself into the framework of public opinion. An excellent example was Anna Akhmatova. She took up a cigarette when it was condemned by society and immediately put the mouthpiece aside when the fashion for women's cigarettes began. And then she simply did not pay attention to the opinions of her gossips, remaining among them a true lady until the last years of her life. Bad habits are not good for you, so you can do without them, replacing them with sweet weaknesses.

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Femininity is achieved by such qualities as softness, friendliness and smiling. An eternally grumbling bitch who makes bilious remarks towards others can hardly be called sophisticated and feminine. A true lady has iron self-control, is fluent in facial expressions and body language, but at the same time sweet and spontaneous.

You should not deprive the stronger sex of wide steps and chopping movements, this is their prerogative. For a girl, a light gait and soft caressing gestures are enough, emphasizing her fragility and vulnerability.

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Having understood what femininity is, you can safely begin transformation and create your own unique look as the desired girl.

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This process will consist of three stages: you will have to take care of yourself, adjust your style and reconsider your behavior.

Personal care

Radiant skin

To keep your skin looking attractive, don’t forget to take care of it. Wash your face twice a day and wipe your face with lotion or milk. Washing is important because it helps prevent the appearance of completely unaesthetic acne on the face.

If at the age of 14 or 15 their occurrence is due to a hormonal surge, then at a more mature age this is explained by a violation of the rules of personal hygiene. Dirt and makeup residues, mixed with the secretion of the skin's sebaceous glands, cause inflammation of the pores, which is how pimples appear.

In the morning and at night, apply a cream suitable for your skin type to your face.

Remember that one of the main culprits in aging facial skin is sunlight. Creams with sunscreen should become your constant companions.

Don't forget about the skin of your body. After taking a shower, be sure to use moisturizer or body milk. Your skin will be soft, tender and velvety

Flawless Makeup

For elegant makeup, you will definitely need a foundation that evens out and enhances the beauty of your natural complexion.

Daytime makeup done with pastel shades, mascara and pink blush will make you look flawless.

When applying makeup you need to be careful and know when to stop. Use a cosmetic sponge when applying foundation and set your makeup with light strokes of a powder puff.

Silk hair shine

The frequency of washing your hair depends on its type. The main requirement is that the hair should look shiny (not greasy), healthy and well-groomed:

Do not burn your hair with daily use of a hair dryer, styler or curling iron. Give your hair a chance to dry on its own.
Comb with a brush or combmade from natural materials.
When using hair gels and mousses, be careful not to create a dull, unkempt hairstyle. If your hair is not too thick and voluminous, use special sprays, applying them to the hair roots and lifting them with your hands.
Experiment with hairstyles , creating a new look every time. It is not necessary to visit a hairdresser in a salon for this. You can easily make braids, ponytails, curls or buns with your own hands.

Delicate arms and legs

A woman cannot be called well-groomed if she does not take care of the condition of her hands and feet. Pamper yourself with a manicure and pedicure. In the beauty salon, all procedures to turn you into a real lady will be performed by professionals.

But if this is not possible, then tidy up your nails by filing them with a file and removing the cuticle. Use hand cream and your skin will become moisturized and smooth.

Using a foot bath and a stiff brush, treat your heels and soften them with foot cream.

Pay no less attention to your nail polish. To start, choose soft, natural colors, such as light shades of pink, beige, lilac or blue.

Style

Style is something that should give charm to a woman and certainly decorate her. The concept of style includes the manner of dressing, applying makeup, the ability to behave and even the choice of perfume.

Clothing style includes dresses and skirts, blouses, but jeans and shoes without heels would be inappropriate.

It is difficult for women who do not use cosmetics and perfumes to achieve a feminine appearance. It is important to emphasize your natural beauty and present it in a favorable light.

Jewelry and accessories are of great importance in creating style. Earrings, beads, bracelets will decorate the curves of the neck and arms and add charm to any look. A beautifully knitted scarf or neckerchief, an original handbag or clutch can transform an everyday, boring look.

Spare no time and effort to become a stylish and graceful woman.

Behavior

Be charming and sweet.
Become a good conversationalist.
Get good manners.
Get rid of harshness, assertiveness and aggressiveness in your behavior.
Engage in self-development, expand your circle of contacts.

Feminine behavior does not accept narcissism and inflated self-esteem. Be tolerant even of those you consider to be failures, because every person deserves a chance.

Don't gossip and keep your promises. A well-mannered girl will never be mean and always control herself.

How to become charming and attractive to your loved one

A few secrets will help you feel one and only, gain confidence in your abilities, which gives you inner light and femininity.

You need to accept and love yourself, realizing that every woman is unique and this is her advantage. What to be is up to the lady herself to decide, without looking at fashion and public opinion.
Maintain your style, do not allow criticism to eat a hole in your calm composure and dignity.
It is important to appreciate and develop what nature has given, not to succumb to manipulation by others, to have your own opinion and firmly defend it, without going beyond the bounds of decency.
Take care of yourself and do it with pleasure.
Cultivate good manners.
Learn to behave at ease in any society.
Review your wardrobe and don’t be afraid to experiment to create a new look.
Pay attention to self-development and self-education.
Be an interesting conversationalist and attentive listener.
Develop communication skills.

The most important thing in attractiveness is naturalness. A wide smile with a cold, snake-like gaze will not attract people, instinctively scaring them away with such pretense. A sincere, charming lady, passionate about her work, ready to listen and be inspired by ideas, will inevitably become the center of attraction for representatives of the stronger half of humanity in any company. Having mastered the art of light flirting to perfection will help create a relaxed, slightly playful atmosphere where it is pleasant to be and where you want to stay longer.

A little understatement is much more valuable than excess information; you shouldn’t engage in self-promotion, but hiding in a corner is harmful to your image. It’s better to unobtrusively demonstrate your erudition in a conversation without overwhelming your interlocutors with encyclopedic information. Gone are the days when good looks and an empty head were valued. Even the most spectacular fool will certainly lose to an educated and interesting interlocutor of any age.

How to develop a gift?

Immersion in your essence

In order to become attractive and desirable to a man, you should first of all pay attention to your sense of self. Smart books advise you to deal with accumulated fears and complexes. You need to work on the source of the problem. Write detailed answers to the questions on a piece of paper:

what guides your actions (the desire to be strong and independent, manipulation, attempts to prove
your superiority to yourself or others?);
Have you ever suffered from criticism, coldness of parents and lack of concessions as a child?;
Do you feel vulnerable by showing weakness?;
Does expressing femininity make you feel uncomfortable?

Give up dominance to a man

It is not recommended to be assertive with the opposite sex. In this way, you push away the right energy and do not allow the couple to move forward. Competition and pressure risk turning relationships into a boxing ring.

When softness and tenderness in a girl replaces rationality and masculinity, the role of the leader in your partner fades away. And as a result, the question arises: how to love and pamper such an Iron Lady?! Strive to be flexible and tolerant, allowing your loved one to discover their strengths. Don’t “put on” his role for yourself, otherwise you will never know what a man needs to be happy?

Positivity and coquetry

A smile with “eyes” and a cheerful disposition are a woman’s secret weapon, which cannot be written off! It is very difficult not to notice a girl who walks through life with ease and cheerfulness. Positivity, optimism and easy flirting can drive any gentleman crazy. Allow yourself to be feminine, accept compliments and show your innate charisma!

Self love

After you love every inch of your body, you will understand the meaning of the word “Femininity”. You need to feel light within yourself! This cannot be achieved by chasing new brands or buying accessories.

Some ladies can be masculine in a pink dress, and this means the presence of 2 problems: low self-esteem and lack of self-acceptance. In order to minimize complexes and believe in your own beauty, you need to stop being afraid to change your habits and way of thinking.

Psychologist's advice

Questions about how to learn femininity and how to become very feminine concern many girls and women who are deprived of male attention. Some people want to radically change their style, but they are stopped by not knowing where to start and what should happen in the end. I always warn against the main mistake, saying that you don’t need to choose an idol for yourself and blindly focus on it. It is much more useful to take a closer look at many famous ladies who are standards or to create the desired image for yourself, bringing together the qualities that you want to possess. And then it’s a matter of technique, perseverance and self-love.

It's worth trying:

eradicate the habit of crying and complaining about fate;
enjoy every day and find only good things in it;
develop self-control and self-control;
show respect to others;
do not lead the matter to an argument or quarrel;
communicate with pleasure;
take care of your appearance;
control behavior in society;
do not overwhelm your interlocutor with your intellect, maintaining a casual conversation;
eliminate defeatist and sad thoughts;
be satisfied with yourself and your life.

A small amount of coquetry, sincere interest in communication without intrusiveness and a slight flair of charm will not go unnoticed. And then she has the right to decide for herself whether she is interested in continuing the conversation or whether she should unobtrusively end it.

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Why is it important to be feminine?

Vedic psychology says: a woman and a man should complement each other, working to strengthen mutual understanding in a couple. They cannot replace their roles by shifting the area of responsibility to opposite shoulders!

Even if a woman has made every effort to become strong-willed and strong, a man is still close to the image of a gentle, caring and vulnerable girl. The psychology and thinking of modern men is built on the principle of protecting and obtaining funds to satisfy their needs and the needs of their life partner.

Hypertrophied feminism and emancipation deprive them of proper self-realization! The chosen behavior model of a woman is reflected in a man. And either she helps him discover his courage, or kills all attempts to realize himself.

Understand that femininity is not a sign of weakness! This is a powerful force that encourages gentlemen to be confident, strong and omnipotent. This is exactly what nature intended them to be! The conclusion follows from this: having become accustomed to being a leader in society, a woman, one way or another, transfers the model of behavior to the family.

You will desire complete control and dominance, and then the desire to compete with your partner will outweigh common sense, depriving you of tenderness and love. How to achieve harmony in family life by awakening your femininity? I bring to your attention a list of effective recommendations!

What to do when interest wanes

They say that over time, communication becomes boring and turns from an enchanting holiday into a boring routine. A wise woman has the power to prevent this from happening, especially when it comes to family relationships. Never forget how to be feminine with a man. Half the success in a long-term relationship depends on this. Even after living together for several decades, a spouse should remain an unexplored book, where a new chapter invariably lies behind the well-known pages.

It is not necessary to use shock therapy methods; it is enough to constantly develop yourself and share impressions with your loved one, involve him in joint activities and be sure to be interested in the events that happened during the day.

A real lady is always a little mysterious and multifaceted. She easily changes, appearing before a man in different guises. They are all natural to her, forming parts of a single whole. Main appearances:

a sexy beauty who seduces and responds passionately to affection;
sweet and fluffy, emotional and empathetic, paying enough attention to her beloved, but not forgetting about her own desires;
a comrade-in-arms who is able to listen, find a joint solution or thoughtfully discuss emerging opportunities, and who knows how to provide moral support;
desirable, but inaccessible, arousing the admiration of others, making her husband feel like the keeper of a priceless treasure;
a person who does not get lost in the whirlpool of everyday affairs and worries, strives for self-development and has his own scale of spiritual values.

She will always be able to retain male interest and rekindle the spark of admiration, which smoothly develops into the even warmth of adoration.

Femininity is given to some from birth, while others will have to make an effort to acquire irresistibility and harmonize the inner and outer world. But the efforts are worth it, because the result is the most charming, attractive and unique woman who wins the hearts of men and lives in harmony with herself. If you don’t know where to start, but are striving for something new, sign up for a consultation with me and I will help:

understand how to become an attractive, charming and attractive woman for men;
create your own unique feminine image;
outline ways of self-improvement;
acquire the ability to control oneself in any situation.

Men have many emotional needs

I'm sure many men measure their love for a woman by passion and desire. Initially, they are looking for her attention, sympathy, company and, possibly, intimacy. But the danger is that, having satisfied his initial passion, a man may lose interest in a woman. It is at this stage that he begins to doubt his love and look for other partners who can awaken his desires.

It's even harder for women to understand that men's needs change over time. While looking for passion at first, a man may later become tired of this storm of emotions. Men who wanted stability in relationships and received it begin to complain of boredom. In addition, sometimes men, feeling love and a desire to become even closer, are afraid of the responsibility that long-term relationships imply.

So what should a wise woman do with a man’s ever-changing desires and a passion that fades away so quickly?