It’s difficult for anyone, even the most confident man start a conversation with a beautiful girl. There's always the risk of looking like a pestering idiot and getting a rude response. It all depends on the woman’s mood and on how well you know how to start a conversation with a girl so that she wants to continue this conversation.
Imagine that you are quietly going about your business, or sitting in a cafe, or waiting for your bus at the bus stop, and here she is, a beautiful stranger. Now there is not a minute to lose. In such situations, efficiency is the key to success.
The longer you think about how to start a conversation with a girl on the street and not screw it up, the lower your self-esteem and self-confidence will fall. An unnecessary panic will appear, which blocks smart thoughts and instead of a cheerful, relaxed conversation, you will get a strangled, idiotic moo.
We live in the times of online dating , so talking with a stranger in person is considered something outdated. Men have forgotten how to make a first impression on a lady, how to charm and conquer. Although in this situation this is to your advantage, fewer competitors mean more chances for success.
Fortunately, there are some tricks for beginning pick-up artists who don’t know how to start a conversation with a girl face to face.
In fact, having a conversation with strangers is very interesting and exciting. If you adhere to certain rules in communication and behavior.
Originalityi
Do you know what the problem is with many guys? The fact is that they are all stereotyped, they carry on tedious and dull correspondence, afraid of offending the girl in some way or seeming like a fool. But you are not like that, it should always be interesting to be with you. Let the girl look forward to your question or answer, because it is always original.
Forget about the standard “How are you, how did you sleep?”, “What are you planning to do this weekend.” Imagine and let your questions look like this:
- “May you dream today of penguins riding on elephants with flags in their hands!”;
- “Well, have you already robbed the collectors, or are you just sitting bored at home?”;
- “Let's go conquer space?”
But act strictly according to the situation, do not insert funny questions and answers where they are inappropriate. Be different from everyone else, these are the guys who get the coolest girls. For more information on how to start a dialogue with a girl on the Internet, read our article at the link.
Questions must be correct2
There are several rules for how to conduct correspondence when meeting a girl online, and one of them is asking the right question, after which a dialogue will begin. You cannot ask a question in such a way that it can be answered with one word “Yes” or “No”, “Okay” and so on. You need to ask the girl so that she starts writing, describing her mood. Examples of correct questions:
- “What did you like most about our date?” Only after her answer, describe your impressions.
- “I remember you talked about one film. What did you like about it?
- “Why were you so busy today that you didn’t get in touch for a long time?”
Never ask her about her affairs. Instead of “How are you?” ask “How are you in the mood?”, because you are the one creating it for her now. If a girl is having a bad time, then try to distract her and cheer her up.
How to properly build a dialogue on social networks?
- First of all, put your page and profile on the social network in complete order - add photos (your own), write in more detail about your hobbies. Girls will not want to meet a guy whose page does not have personal photographs.
- Carefully study the profile of a pretty stranger. A more detailed analysis of the page will allow you to find common points - hobbies, favorite books and films, vacation spot or preferred sport. This will help spark a more productive conversation.
- Ditch the corny dating phrases. Originality is the key to success and the key to normal communication. The girl will probably want to get to know a guy who doesn’t write the standard “How are you”? However, you should not get carried away with overly complex sentences, otherwise there is a risk that you simply will not be understood.
- If the young lady takes the bait, start communicating with neutral topics - literature, cinema, work or study. Be sure to include humor, it will smooth out some of the awkwardness of the situation. Diversify the conversation with funny stories from life.
- Do not post all the information about yourself en masse, leave some understatement. Also, you shouldn’t pull the “blanket” of the conversation onto yourself by not being interested in the girl at all. Ask her opinion on various points, but avoid questions related to her personal life.
Good to know! Where to start meeting a pretty girl on VK or other social networks? Certainly not from a lie. Don’t post other people’s photos of brutal handsome men, don’t attribute unusual character traits to yourself, and don’t pretend to be the son of a millionaire. Such deception will negate the possibility of further meeting in the real world.
Ambiguity3
Do you want to make sure that after communication the girl does not stop thinking about you? Then write ambiguously. How? Just remember how you communicate with friends, because you say exactly what you want to convey. You need to talk to girls in such a way that she starts to think:
- “Today I thought about you, and immediately everything became clearer in my affairs, my mood improved!”;
- “Are you just coming out of the shower? Yes, you’re all wet.”;
- “Today I told the guys that I’m talking with a very nice girl. I’m wondering if it’s time to introduce them” - in this case, let her start to be jealous, wondering if you told about her.
This is what your messages to a girl you like should look like. After letters like this, she will only think about you!
Humor4
You can’t be serious all the time; the female sex gets tired of it quickly. How to correspond with a girl from social networks? You need to be able to make her laugh, cheer yourself and her up. Statistically, a girl will fall in love with the guy who can make her smile.
Even if you are not naturally endowed with a keen sense of humor, the Internet will always come to the rescue. You should have jokes and anecdotes in your arsenal on any topic that you develop. And it should look like this: “Oh, by the way, about the giraffe. Two giraffes met, one said to the other...”
What do you need to be like to make her fall in love?
Any girl will like a sincere man who is disposed towards her. This does not mean that you should behave like a shirtless guy : this way you can inadvertently cross the line of personal distance.
There is no need to chat her up or show off your brave prowess: but know how to praise her, give a modest (not captivating) compliment, and show your gallantry and good manners.
The latter is especially important. A girl will always appreciate someone who is naturally polite and does not show off .
Know how to offer your hand in time, throw on your coat, and open your umbrella.
These are not trifles - but signals that any girl will hear and decipher.
If you are nearby, helping, showing care, this is a reason for her to think: maybe you are the one who will always be her support and protection ?
Don't lie, little things too. This is forever disappointing. Don’t try to pretend to be someone else: women read honesty and self-confidence instantly. Don't speak where you can remain silent. Be an attentive listener - any woman will appreciate this.
What qualities do you need to have to please a girl:
Involvement in general activities5
When you don’t know how to correspond with a girl so that she agrees to a date, use creativity. For example, in the winter season you can write like this: “I have a huge carrot in the refrigerator, let’s go build a snowman!” Refused, citing business?
Try again tomorrow: “I have a carrot lying there, let’s go sculpt, otherwise I’ll make pilaf, and it will be your fault that there won’t be another snowman in the world!” Did you refuse again? Invite us to pilaf the next day! She will appreciate the humor and will definitely come on a date next time.
Using the method at the stage of telephone conversations
The essence is the same. We attract - we push away. We speak softly and admiringly:
“Lena, you have such a charming voice! Just…. I listen and it excites me so much!”
Then you talk as usual, and after 5-7 minutes you’re back at it:
“Let's not call each other so late. I have to go to work in the morning, I would like to get enough sleep and go to bed early. It’s no longer convenient for me to talk at this time.”
Another option: you thank the girl for something, say how pleased you are, emphasize how she said everything on time and on topic, and hit the nail on the head. And with the second phrase, after a while, you output something like:
“I didn’t expect to hear this from you,” “Strange reasoning.”
In this case, the woman becomes confused, realizing that she seems to be the most desirable interlocutor in the world, but at the same time you are a man of your own rules, principles and views. You need to take a closer look at this and understand where she missed the mark.
Don't bother too much6
Know your worth! Don't harass the girl with your messages, take breaks. Believe me, she will simply “freeze” you if she gets notifications about your letter every few minutes. There is no need to ask if she ate, what grade she received per liter, or how her health is. Write only to the point!
And one more thing: don’t even think about answering her message every time as soon as it arrives. Create a certain intrigue, you can read the letter, she will see it and will wait for a reaction. Don’t give up, don’t show your excessive interest. It’s not for nothing that one famous poet said: “The less we love a woman, the more she likes us!” But don’t ignore them completely, just write: “Sorry, I kept you waiting, I just had important things to do!”
Is it possible to make the girl you like fall in love with you?
Popular wisdom says - you can’t be nice by force .
But why go to extremes if you can simply try to turn the gaze of the girl you like on yourself.
It happens that she didn’t notice you, didn’t see you, and you didn’t have the opportunity to show your real self.
After all, external sympathy and attractiveness are not the key to a strong, long-term relationship; the stage of passionate love is not eternal, and in the end, the “filling” of a person turns out to be important.
The first thing you need to give up is behavior based on illusions. Dust in the eyes is not your method, it doesn't work for long.
Try to understand what it is about you that is an unconditional advantage, a reason to note you, to single you out from the crowd, to take a closer look.
For example, you are very erudite and well-read, but you are embarrassed by this because you think that girls “fall for” something else. But even a girl can be embarrassed to seem special , to stand out among her friends because she doesn’t like alpha males, but smart, well-read guys, albeit modest ones.
For example, the first Ukrainian woman to conquer Everest, Irina Galai, is an enviable bride, a striking beauty and a girl whom many men would dream of asking on a date.
When asked what kind of men this bright blonde likes, the girl answered: “Very smart - with glasses, in suits, intellectuals . And this is for a strong and fearless beauty!
So you never know exactly what really touches your beloved. Perhaps it is what is in you.
The second thing that you will also have to give up is excessive activity .
Not everyone likes persistence: sometimes it looks more like obsession, which is hardly a human virtue.
Don’t set yourself the goal of making a woman fall in love at any cost. Think that you just want to give her the opportunity to see you. Be there when it's appropriate, open up, show your good traits, don't try to pretend to be something.
Say goodbye first7
You are a guy, which means you control everything. Whether you started the correspondence, or she wrote first, always say goodbye yourself, without giving the girl the opportunity to do so in advance. Make sure that the lady does not have the opportunity to leave your letter unanswered. And then, referring to “important matters,” write: “Wow, I’ve been sitting too long, it’s time for me to run! That’s all for now, we’ll talk later!” Let her remain intrigued and sit waiting for a message from you!
Knowing how to start a conversation with a girl on the Internet, you can interest any girl you like in yourself. But don’t wait too long to communicate online or via SMS, invite you on a date!
For more information on how to start communicating with a girl on the Internet, read our article below.
