Sometimes it happens that a man likes a woman, but he does not show any initiative, but, on the contrary, tries to carefully hide his feelings.
This behavior is not always explained by excessive shyness. Why a representative of a particular zodiac sign does not show initiative, read below.
Twins
The Gemini man does not take the first step for one of three reasons.
First, he may be interested in a girl, but do it from afar.
Second, hooking a Gemini man is not that difficult. It is much more difficult to keep his interest. Therefore, often the representative of this zodiac sign simply does not have time to take the initiative.
Third, especially impressionable Geminis often prefer to fantasize a love story rather than experience it in real life.
Move up on your pedestal
If a man idolizes a woman, he puts her on a high pedestal. During communication, try to make it clear as soon as possible that your throne is for two people and the man can try to sit next to you for a while (if, of course, he behaves well). Let the man think that you are cut from the same patterns, that you are comfortable being in his company. Laugh at jokes, even if they aren't funny. Having managed to make a woman laugh, the man swallows the bait deeply and becomes twice as confident .
Cancer
The Cancer man usually does not take the first step because of the doubts that overcome him.
“What if she’s already taken? Or will he, Cancer, seem intrusive to her? Or will she agree to a date purely out of politeness?” - such thoughts are characteristic of a Cancer in love.
However, there is good news: one way or another, Cancer will gather courage and take the first step.
And if not, then he will be glad if the girl herself shows interest in him. In this case, he will probably reciprocate.
Attitude to stress
There are many stressful situations in our lives, so guys try not to expose themselves to it. As a result, they offer to meet or start a relationship only when they are one hundred percent sure of a positive response from the girl. And if there are doubts about this, they prefer to wait until the woman herself takes the initiative.
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Scales
The Libra man does not take the first step because he is sure that here and now is a completely unfavorable period for relationships.
And anything can hinder a relationship: different social statuses between him and the girl he likes, lack of common interests, and so on.
But the point here is different: Libra just needs to understand themselves and their feelings. And to help him with this, it is enough for the chosen one to disappear from his sight for a while.
Then the Libra man will instantly forget about his doubts and do everything to get his beloved back.
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And if a man doesn’t approach you personally, doesn’t personally pursue you, doesn’t personally seek a meeting with you, then everything is very simple: “You’re not his type!” Having launched an attack on this man, you automatically enter the role of the aggressor. Automatically start the hunt. And if a man has problems with self-confidence and his self-esteem is not high, he will simply get used to you.
AND ALL!!!!
This is not his conscious choice. This is not love! Not a desire that comes from within. It is a habit.
And you are not a Beloved Woman, but a Consolation Prize. Because he has not matured and could not decide to be in love with the woman he really likes.
But when a man loves you!!! ABOUT!!! Then everything is different. HE plans dates, meetings, life together, travel. He cares about you. He wants you madly. He calls and figures out how to please you and give you pleasure.
And there is no need to say that now men are very modest and are not capable of initiative. I've seen the shyest men just start talking about nothing with a woman they like. I think you understand this yourself.
Look how easy and simple it is for you to communicate with a man you don’t like, but he likes you. You automatically don't have stupid conversations with him, don't stalk him on Facebook or VKontakte, don't write him letters or SMS. You easily and simply refuse to communicate with him in order to meet with a friend. And don’t put it at the center of the Universe at all.
But what happens to the person you really like, who is really dear to you? You become a resourceful hunter. You, elegantly or crudely, depending on your personal level, begin to figure out how to be closer to him. You are content to meet when it is convenient for Him. You are playing Love. B Acceptance. In Understanding the inner world of a man and his problems.
Reasons for male passivity
There are representatives of the fair sex who do not wonder how the chosen “object” will perceive their activity. They just act. However, most women are still focused on gender stereotypes, one of which says that initiative in relationships is the prerogative of men.
He is a protector, a provider, a conqueror. He chooses, achieves and reserves the right to decide how long the relationship will be. However, either women are in a hurry to live, or men do not want to change their usual way of life, but decisive action on the part of the latter sometimes takes a long time. And there can be many reasons for this.
The most common reasons for men's lack of initiative in relationships:
- Shyness
. Indecisiveness and self-doubt are one of the highest barriers a man faces on his way to the woman he likes. These feelings literally paralyze him, especially near the object of passion. - Circumstances
. On the part of a man, his personal attitudes (difference in age, social status, financial situation), national and racial characteristics and restrictions can also act as an obstacle to the path to joint happiness on the part of a man. In many companies, firms and organizations, office romances are not encouraged, which can also inhibit male activity. - Fear of failure
. Previous failures in relationships can significantly moderate the ardor of even the most active representative of the stronger sex. Disappointment in women can change a man’s behavior in two ways: either block his desire to start a new relationship, or change the vector towards unstable relationships. - Loss of interest
. The reason that a man does not show interest in you may be that he has lost this interest. This may be the result of stagnation in a relationship, loss of feelings, or meeting another woman. The worst option is a sharp cooling of the relationship after the man got his way. Especially if the initiator of the relationship was a woman. - Gender stereotype
. Adherents of masculinity in relationships categorically do not accept the activity of women. Therefore, one of the possible reactions to a woman’s attempts to build a relationship with him on her own may be to ignore him. Or a complete loss of interest, even if he was there before the woman’s first steps - after all, she stole his chance to do everything himself. - Not contact
. If the man you like is quite active, successful and self-confident, but does not show interest in you, most likely you have not touched the chord in him that would make him act. - Infantility
. Passivity in relationships with the opposite sex is the natural behavior of men who, from childhood, live and make all decisions under the strict control of female family members. They can't do it any other way. - An abundance of offers
. The modern man is truly spoiled by the number of beautiful, free women who passionately want to get married. The statistics, once voiced in a famous song, are no longer relevant: today, for every 9 unmarried men, there are no longer 10, but 45-55 unmarried women. Ready to do almost anything to arrange their personal life. This relaxes the “grooms” - the “brides” will do everything themselves.
In addition, male lack of initiative can be explained by a simple reluctance to start a serious relationship and get married. There is a category of men for whom loneliness is a comfortable state of life, which they do not allow to be intruded upon. Or they allow it, but on their own terms.
Meet first?
If you read my articles and watch videos, you probably know my opinion.
Better yet, standing on the other side of the street, with a smile, wave your hand to the man you like. And watch his reaction.
This is one of the training practices as part of my author's online course The Way of a Woman. Try it and write about the results in the comments. I'm very interested to know what you can do.
Remember, men are very quick to recognize nonverbal cues. And only your radiant smile can already say that you are happy, open to new acquaintances and interested in him.
Likes, smiles and compliments
It doesn’t really matter where you meet online or in a restaurant. A man is also afraid of rejection.
There is no desire to meet a girl whose face says: “Immediately NO!” And your inner state is always reflected in the background, even in the photo.
Pick-up artists and professional “courters” like to win over such girls in order to check a box on the list.
I don’t see any problems in a girl meeting a man first. The main thing is not to go too far. A woman should convey tenderness, softness, femininity and openness to communication. The man will do the rest himself.
Prejudice
The relationship between a couple is formed during acquaintance. And this is where most women fall into the trap.
The old social attitude works: the first step is humiliating. You need to wait until the man matures. In the same way, stereotypes whisper in his ear that he MUST take the first step himself.
While you are in standby mode, for every worthy man there will be 10 proactive girls who will be able to attract his attention. And one of them will definitely take a vacant place in his life.
Is it possible to wait until old age?
Chat casually about everything under the sun
Remember: you need to make an impression during an interview, but on a date you need to open up your vulnerability zones to each other. Nothing brings people closer together than a mutual demonstration of trust. If you see that a man is very nervous when communicating with you, tell him about something that makes you worry. The sooner you give up the pointless game of who likes who more, the better. Breaking the ice, creating an atmosphere of emotional comfort and just casually chatting about everything in the world - this is your goal.
Taboo for women's initiative
There are cases when taking the first steps towards a man is not just inconvenient, but inappropriate or even undignified.
Cases when it is better to refuse initiative in a relationship with a man:
- The object is already occupied
. If your chosen one already has a serious relationship or family (especially with children), do not try to build your happiness on someone else’s misfortune. It has been proven for centuries: nothing good comes of it. It is an absolute taboo if his wife or girlfriend is in an interesting position. - The object is a brute
. The man you have chosen does not consider it necessary to treat you with basic respect, observe the rules of politeness and friendliness. That is, he can allow himself to ridicule you, be rude, make fun of you, make rude remarks and use obscene language. - The object is not your cup of tea
. That is, there is a gap of social or material origin between you. There is no point in arguing with the rule established by the ancient Romans that love loves equals. Even if you are very impressed by the story of Cinderella, remember that in it the initiative came from the Prince. If the man you love has a higher status, it is better to make an effort to get as close to him as possible: learn, develop, achieve success yourself. - The subject is not according to age
. A misalliance can also happen in the case of relationships that are unequal in age, when the age difference is more than 20 years in the direction of the older man and more than 10 years in the direction of the younger man. Such age gaps create a certain vacuum in interests, hobbies, life principles and perception of life in general. Therefore, activity here may cause an inappropriate reaction in your object of attention. - The object is the target
. There is no need to spoil your karma and try to win a man for selfish or some personal purposes. Revenge, position, connections and wealth, of course, make a man beautiful, but you should not put them in first place. Focus solely on your feelings for him - real, honest. Otherwise, you may get a not entirely pleasant response, both from the object of passion itself and from the all-seeing Universe. - The object is a ghost
. Of course, conditionally. The term “ghost” refers to a man who regularly disappears from your life without warning or explanation. If he does not consider it necessary to inform you about his “movements,” you should not make efforts to return him to his native nest. If he doesn't consider him that way. Look for a new life partner who will be next to you in constant orbit.
Important!
Don't forget that you are a woman. Sensual, worthy of respect and good treatment. Therefore, turn on your intuition and reason at the same time, they will definitely suggest the right choice. Watch a video about women's initiative: Women's initiative in relationships is largely the result of our fast-paced times, when a modern woman decides to take this area of life into her own hands. And there are many examples where such pressure brings beneficial results in the form of strong relationships. Likewise, there are many failed examples. Therefore, each girl must choose her own position in a relationship with a specific man.
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