“Invisible” bullying: 6 steps to prevent a child from becoming a victim

Some people remember school with nostalgia, others with horror. The latter arises not because of poor conditions or a boring program, but because of school bullying.

Bullying is the aggressive persecution of one of the members of a team (especially a group of schoolchildren and students, but also colleagues) by the rest of the team or part of it. When bullying, the victim is unable to defend himself from attacks, thus bullying differs from a conflict, where the forces of the parties are approximately equal.

Don't confuse bullying with not having hundreds of friends. The child may be introverted, withdrawn, alone, or unpopular. But he shouldn't be a victim. The difference is in regular and conscious aggression towards a child.

Relatively recently, cyberbullying has also appeared - this is emotional pressure, only on the Internet, especially on social networks.

Why is school bullying dangerous?

In addition to the fact that bullying can take the form of physical violence, that is, lead to injury, it can also be psychological and emotional. Her traces are harder to spot, but she is no less dangerous.

Bullying destroys a person's self-esteem. The target of bullying develops complexes. The child begins to believe that he deserves to be treated poorly.

Bullying interferes with learning because the child has no time for classes: he would like to survive at school. Bullying causes anxiety disorders, phobias, and depression National Center for Injury Prevention and Control. Understanding School Violence. .

And not a single person who went through the rejection of the team will ever forget this. Subsequently, a negative attitude towards life in the classroom can spread to any community at all, and this means problems with communication in adulthood.

Types of school bullying

Aggressive behavior can be divided into direct (overt action such as beating, insults to the face) and indirect (spreading gossip). Depending on the content, the following types of bullying are distinguished:

Physical (grabbing things, pushing, beating). The most common type of bullying. Usually observed from 6th to 8th grades. Next comes the age of criminal responsibility, teenagers move on to more hidden forms of aggression.
Verbal (threats, nicknames, ridicule, coercion, humiliation). It has become more widespread among young people and students.
Socio-psychological (rumours, ignoring, manipulation, being ridiculed). Occurs in all ages, may go unnoticed, but causes the greatest emotional stress in the victim.
Virtual (organization of bullying via the Internet, social networks, telephone). Does not depend on age or social status. It consists of sending false information, hacking pages, stealing and distributing photographs, data, and other information.

Types of aggressive behavior often complement each other.

Who is at risk?

That's all, really. For bullying, they look for a reason, something in which the child differs from others (in any direction). These could be physical disabilities, health problems, poor academic performance, glasses, hair color or eye shape, lack of fashionable clothes or expensive gadgets, even a single-parent family. Often those who suffer are closed children who have few friends, children at home who do not know how to communicate in a group, and in general anyone whose behavior is not similar to the behavior of the offender.

It is useless to correct any features that have become a reason. Those who poison can, if they wish, get to the lamppost.

Why do they bully?

Because they can. If you ask grown-up offenders why they engaged in bullying, as a rule, they answer that they did not understand that they were doing something wrong. Someone is looking for excuses for their behavior, explaining that the victim received “for the cause.”

Researchers conclude that the source of bullying is not in the personality of the victim or the offender, but in the principle by which Peter Gray classes are formed. GraySchool Bullying: A Tragic Cost of Undemocratic Schools. .

Children in schools are collected based on one characteristic - year of birth. Such a group would never have formed naturally. Therefore, conflicts are inevitable: children are forced to communicate with those who are imposed on them, without the right to choose.

The situation at school is reminiscent of the situation in a prison: people are forcibly driven into one room, and they must be monitored by people who have no less strict control.

Bullying is both an opportunity to establish one’s power in such an unnatural group, and to unite offenders into a cohesive group. And in any group, responsibility for actions is blurred, that is, children receive psychological indulgence for any actions Ruland, E. How to stop bullying at school. .

There is only one mandatory condition, without which bullying is impossible: connivance on the part of teachers or tacit approval of such behavior.

Participants in bullying

Before understanding the question of how to stop child bullying (bullying in a school community), it is important to note which parties are usually involved in the process.

Victim

All examples of bullying have one thing in common: victims cannot fight back the offender or stand up for themselves. This is explained by psychological complexes, problems with self-esteem and lack of self-confidence. Children who are often bullied among teenagers are:

diligent students or those who are praised by teachers;
with a non-standard appearance;
with developmental or physical disabilities;
withdrawn or unsure of themselves.

So it's all the teachers' fault?

No. The fact is that teachers don't see bullying. Attackers know how to behave quietly, pretend to be good boys and mock the victim when no one notices. But the victim, as a rule, is no different from such cunning. And if he gives an answer, he catches the eye of the teachers.

Result: the teacher sees how the student violates the order, but does not see what became the reason for this.

The problem cannot be denied, though. Many adults believe that children will figure it out on their own, that it is better not to interfere, that the target of bullying is “himself to blame.” And sometimes the teacher does not have enough experience, qualifications (or conscience) to stop bullying.

How can you tell if a child is being attacked?

Children are often silent about their problems: they are afraid that adult intervention will aggravate the conflict, that adults will not understand and will not support. There are several signs that may indicate bullying.

Bruises and scratches that the child cannot explain.
A lie in response to the question of where the injuries came from: the child cannot come up with an explanation and says that he does not remember how the bruises appeared.
Often “lost” things, broken equipment, missing jewelry or clothing.
The child looks for an excuse not to go to school, pretends to be sick, and often suddenly gets a headache or stomach ache.
Changes in eating behavior. Particular attention should be paid to cases when a child does not eat at school.
Nightmares, insomnia.
Deteriorated academic performance, loss of interest in classes.
Quarrels with old friends or loneliness, low self-esteem, constant depression.
Running away from home, self-harm and other destructive behavior.

The impact of bullying on its participants with consequences

What can an aggressor get after being bullied? At first he asserts himself, feels his own “coolness,” omnipotence,” and impunity.” This can lead to the formation of destructive qualities that can destroy his personality. You can note registration with the Commission on Minors' Affairs, problems with law enforcement officials.

What happens to observers of bullying? They feel shame and guilt (see How to overcome feelings of guilt and shame) for showing weakness and failing to help the victim.

Of course, the most significant psychological trauma is experienced by the victim of bullying. Several years later, people still remember their painful experiences associated with bullying. If you do not work through this situation, you may encounter a repetition of the situation, but in the process of work.

Psychologists mention the following consequences for the psyche:

Manifestation of psychosomatic disorders in the victim: regular headaches, problems with appetite (bulimia or anorexia, see Eating Disorders), insomnia, exacerbation of chronic diseases.
Depressive disorders, various types of neuroses, increased anxiety; (see How to beat depression)
Attempts at suicide, the desire to take revenge on offenders using various methods.

What can a child do who has become a victim of bullying?

If you were bullied at school, bullied, or damaged items of clothing and belongings, you should definitely tell significant adults about it: parents, teachers, older friends. Don't be afraid to ask for help. This is the decision of an adult who is in trouble.
There is no need to feel afraid that “it will only get worse” if you tell someone about what is happening. You shouldn't be alone with your problem.
If bullying occurs specifically on the Internet, you need to save all video materials, voice messages, and correspondence in order to use them as evidence of bullying.
If you can still correct the subject of bullying, try to correct it. If it’s impossible, don’t feel guilty.

How to stop bullying?

In fact, none of the researchers can give a recipe for how to stop bullying. It should be taken into account that if bullying has started at school, it is impossible to eliminate the problem at the “victim-attacker” level, because this is ineffective. You need to work with the whole team, because in bullying there are always more than two participants Petranovskaya, L. Bullying in a children's group. .

The entire class and teachers are witnesses who are also affected by the unfolding drama. They also take part in the process, albeit as observers.

The only way to really stop bullying is to create a normal, healthy community at school.

This is helped by joint assignments, working in groups on projects, and extracurricular activities in which everyone participates.

The main thing that needs to be done is to call bullying bullying, violence, to indicate that the actions of the aggressors have been noticed and that this must be stopped. So everything that offenders consider cool will be shown in a different light. And this must be done either by the class teacher, or by the head teacher, or by the director.

Features of modern bullying

Modern bullying is complicated by the activity of teenagers on social networks. Children not only bully, but record it on video and distribute it on the Internet. It is possible that in some cases the idea to shoot a video (“hype”) is primary, and only then the victim is sought out and a script for a “cool” video is drawn up.

Children under 14 years of age are particularly cruel, as they are not afraid of criminal liability (video is direct evidence). Few of the aggressors admit their guilt; more often they say “he deserved it,” “he is to blame.”

Other features of bullying today include:

Indirect bullying is common in middle and high schools.
Boys are characterized by role reversal and are more often chameleons.
Girls are more likely to suffer from gossip, negative statements and gestures. Boys are subjected to physical violence, threats, coercion, and theft of things.
Girls are more likely to be provocative victims.
89% of students experience bullying. Of these, 8% are aggressors, 22% are victims, 43% are chameleons, 16% are observers.
Girls are more often involved in bullying than boys. But they often become observers.

How to respond to aggression?

Discuss all cases of bullying with your child so that he can respond to the actions of the offenders. As a rule, the scenarios are repeated: name-calling, petty sabotage, threats, physical violence.

In each case, the victim needs to act in a way that the aggressors do not expect.

Always respond to insults, but calmly, without slipping into retaliatory abuse. For example, say: “And I’m talking to you politely.” If a child sees that someone has ruined his things, he needs to inform the teacher about this, so that the offenders can hear: “Maria Alexandrovna, there is chewing gum on my chair, someone has ruined the school furniture.” If they try to beat you or drag you away, if you can’t escape, you need to shout loudly: “Help! Fire!". Unusual. But letting yourself be beaten is worse.

Since the methods of bullying are varied, the responses will be individual. Can't figure out what to do? Ask the psychologists who should be in every school.

The essence of the problem

Bullying is school violence, bullying and humiliation of a student by other students or teachers. This is a systematic manifestation of aggression and causing harm. Bullying is more common among teenagers.

The word itself comes from the English bully, which means “hooligan, brawler, brute, bully, rapist.” The term “bullying” was coined by Norwegian psychologist Dan Olweus in 1993. The author defined bullying as “intentional, systematically repeated aggressive behavior involving inequalities of social power or physical strength.” Since then, active study of the problem, methods of its prevention and overcoming has begun.

The purpose of bullying is to cause fear in the target of bullying and to subjugate him. This is achieved through intimidation, psychological and physical harassment.

Thus, bullying is characterized by:

Intentional and unprovoked attempts by one person or group of people to cause harm (mental, physical, psychological) to another person or people.
Psychological and physical weakness and instability of the victim, or the perception of the offender as stronger.

What can be done with offenders?

There are few options. If a child is beaten, you need to go to the emergency room, undergo a medical examination, report to the police and go to court for compensation for harm. Parents and the school will be held accountable for unlawful acts. The offenders themselves are responsible only after 16 years of age (for grievous harm to health - after 14) Criminal Code of the Russian Federation. Article 20. Age at which criminal liability begins. .

But if bullying is only emotional, it is unlikely that you will be able to prove something and attract law enforcement. You need to immediately go to the class teacher, and if the teacher denies the problem, to the head teacher, director, RONO, City Education Department. The task of the school is to organize that same psychological work within a class or several classes in order to stop violence.

Responsibility for bullying

The situation with bullying in schools is reaching a new level and requires a solution at the legislative level. Different countries are looking for their own ways to solve this problem.

Russia

Aggressive bullying at school is common. There are often proposals in society to introduce responsibility for such behavior. Age interferes with this. According to the legislation of the Russian Federation, criminal liability begins at the age of 16, and when committing serious crimes - at the age of 14. Psychological pressure does not fall into this category.

Previously there was an article “Insult”, now it is gone. The article “Slander” remains. If it is possible to prove the dissemination of false information, then the school administration or the parents (legal representatives) of the culprit will be punished.

If a child is hit on school grounds, the beating needs to be recorded at the emergency room. You should write an application to the internal affairs department for criminal prosecution or to a civil court to receive compensation. Adults will be subject to an administrative penalty, minors will be registered, and the school will be subject to an inspection.

If a child is threatened, the class teacher or principal must be notified and the reality of the threats must be assessed. A minor cannot be held accountable, but a certain atmosphere must be created at school and aversion to violence must be formed. Inaction on the part of the teaching staff is punishable.

Ukraine

In 2020, the Verkhovna Rada registered a bill to amend the laws of Ukraine regarding combating bullying. In particular, the concept of this phenomenon was given, and responsibility for aggressive behavior was determined.

It is proposed that parents of minors and minor aggressors aged 14 to 16 years be brought to administrative responsibility and fined. If teachers, managers or administration of an educational institution hide the fact of bullying, they will also be subject to monetary penalties.

In 2020, there were already the first cases when parents of bullies and teachers who hid the fact of school bullying were brought to justice for bullying at school in Ukraine. The culprits faced a fine.

Belarus

Since 2020, the republic has had a law that protects minors from information harmful to health and development. The Ministry of Foreign Affairs, together with the Ministry of Education, have developed an algorithm that allows teachers to report aggression against children by their parents or representatives. There are no special laws on bullying in the country. Liability is provided for under articles on causing bodily harm, insult, and hooliganism.

How to support a child?

If bullying already exists, then this is a reason to consult a psychologist, and the whole family needs to sort it out at once. If a child takes the position of a victim in the family, then the same will happen at school.
Show that you are always on the child’s side and are ready to help him and deal with difficulties until the very end, even if it is not easy. There should be no proposals to endure a difficult period.
Try to destroy fear. The child is afraid of both offenders and teachers, who can punish him for violating norms of behavior if he fights back or complains. Tell him that his self-respect is more important than the opinions of his classmates and teachers.
If your child lacks opportunities to assert himself at school, find such opportunities for him. Let him show himself in hobbies, sports, and extracurricular activities. We need to instill confidence in him. To do this, you need practical confirmation of your significance, that is, achievements.
Do everything that will help raise your child’s self-esteem. This is a separate topic. Search the entire Internet, re-read all the literature on this topic, talk to experts. Everything so that the child believes in himself and his strength.

What are the reasons and motives for bullying?

Why do children show aggression and cruelty towards their peers? The following reasons can be mentioned:

Pedagogical (the atmosphere in the school itself, in the classroom). The position of the teacher himself plays an important role here. You can mention cases of ridicule and humiliation from an adult. Classmates simply imitate the teacher.
Psychological (character traits of aggressors and victims);
Material (envy of more successful classmates);
Social (transmission of aggression in society through films, advertising, social networks, games that children enjoy);
Family (lack of love and attention on the part of parents, physical, emotional, economic, sexual aggression on the part of adults, total control over the child’s life, see How to competently prepare a child for school)

Motivation for such a phenomenon as bullying:

Feelings of envy;
Desire for revenge;
Self-affirmation in a peer group;
The desire to be the center of attention, to show oneself as cool, grown-up (see Why attention is important);
The desire to deal with an opponent by humiliating him.

What can't you say?

Sometimes parents take a position in which their help becomes harmful. Some phrases will only make things worse.

“It’s your own fault,” “you’re behaving this way,” “you’re provoking them,” “you’re being bullied for something . The child is not to blame for anything. And each of us can find differences from others, shortcomings. This does not mean that everyone can be bullied. Blaming the victim and looking for reasons for bullying means justifying the offenders. This way you will side with your child’s enemies.

There is an opinion that there is a special victim behavior, that is, a pattern of a victim who cannot help but be attacked. Even if so, this is not a reason to make a child a scapegoat. It’s just not possible, period.

"Do not pay attention" . Bullying is a gross invasion of personal space, and it is impossible not to react to this. At some point, the offenders may indeed fall behind. It is not a fact that by this time there will be at least something left of the child’s self-esteem and self-esteem.

"Give them back . Risky advice that jeopardizes the child’s health and escalates the conflict. If the victim tries to resist clumsily, the bullying only intensifies.

“What are you doing, he’s feeling bad!” .
They try to calm the attackers with these or similar words. Don't try to reach those who bully by explaining that the victim is feeling bad. This way you will only prove that the victim is weak and the offenders are strong, that is, you will confirm their position.

Possible reasons

The reasons for the persecution of some members of society by others can be debated for a long time. However, most often there are two motives: the leader’s desire to assert himself and personal hostility towards the one who is designated as a victim. In an absolutely “natural” way, a strict hierarchy is established in the team, in which belonging to the highest levels is proven by persecuting the weakest members. All this has its origins in the animal world: bullying can easily be observed in most so-called social animals, which include wolves, lions, hyenas, a number of species of rodents and, of course, primates. In the great apes one can observe very complex relationships in packs, strongly reminiscent of the relationships between people in social groups.

Often, bullying of fellow animals in social animals has a vital meaning - for example, the fight for the right to be the only queen in the pack. This is how it happens in naked mole rats - small African rodents that lead an underground lifestyle; The strongest female in a flock of mole rats scares the other females, and they produce fear hormones that block the ability to reproduce.

In human society, the physiological prerequisites for bullying have lost their significance, but often the “animal” function inherent in the subconscious is activated, and then the individual resorts to this cruel procedure in order to dominate.

Do I need to transfer my child to another school?

The popular position is that transferring a child to another class or school is an unsuccessful measure, because the same thing will happen in the new place. It is better to teach a child to behave in a new way so that he can strengthen his character and be able to fight back.

Not really. As we have already found out, bullying begins where the child does not have the right to choose a team. Anyone can become a potential victim. And bullying is impossible if the teaching staff knows how to stop bullying at the very beginning.

That is, moving to another team (for example, to a school where subjects close to the child are studied in depth) or to another teacher can correct the situation.

If you cannot solve the problem, if teachers at school turn a blind eye to bullying, if the child is afraid to go to school, then change it.

And then, in a new place and with new strength, go to a psychologist and teach your child moral fortitude.

Bullying from the outside does not always look obvious, aggressive and intimidating. It can be hidden, take different forms, when the child seems to have nothing to complain about. But the heart feels: something is wrong with him. How to understand what is happening? And how can I help? Boris Felitsyn, social teacher at the Gulfstream Charitable Foundation, tells the story.

Boris Felitsyn, social teacher of the Gulfstream Charitable Foundation, teacher-defectologist, specialist in social maladjustment

The child will not tell you about the problem himself. You will feel something is wrong when he stops wanting to go to school. This often manifests itself in the second grade, the second month of school. Many people perceive the first grade as a continuation of the preparatory group of kindergarten: they are still small. And in the second grade, partial assessments from the teacher often begin: when it is said out loud in front of the whole class that someone is more successful and someone is not.

Perhaps the first month of school everything went smoothly, the parents sighed calmly, and then the surprises begin.

The child refuses to go to school in the morning. Either he has a headache, then his stomach , or he complains of fatigue.
When a child experiences stress, even a so-called psychosomatic temperature may occur . Usually it is low and goes away on its own. You can check this temperature by measuring it in other places; for example, it will be different under the right and left armpits. This temperature is often a sign of a traumatic situation at school.

If the mother did not take the child to school, but the stomach or fever immediately went away, then there is a high probability that the child has some kind of discomfort at school, something is traumatic for him there.

What's happening at school?

Often the child stops talking about how things are going at school. Or answers in monosyllables. When asked if everything is fine, the answer is: “Yes. Can I not go to school tomorrow? But the kid cannot explain why he doesn’t want to go there.

The first sign that something unpleasant is happening in a child’s life is a reluctance to do homework, a deterioration in the quality of their performance. A state of tearfulness, drowsiness while doing homework. For example, before the child solved problems quickly, but now he has completely lost the desire to sit down to do them.

What should parents do?

Step 1. Find an eyewitness

The first thing to do is go to school and talk to the teacher. It is worth preparing for the conversation so that the communication is productive. Leave the accusatory tone at home. You go to talk about your experiences.

I advise you to structure your conversation with a young teacher as follows: focus on the fact that you are worried about the child. Ask if the teacher has noticed that he is offended, teased, or maybe he has some problems in his studies?

It is better for an established teacher with extensive experience to provide the facts . Build your conversation around clear examples. Say: “I noticed that... From your teaching experience, advise what can be done to...” Often, highly rated teachers choose a group of “favorites” from among the successful students and unknowingly pay less attention to the rest of the children in the class. Perhaps your child has found himself in exactly this situation and is silently suffering from it.

Toxic phrases you shouldn't say to children
“Pull yourself together”, “Aren’t you a man or something!”, “Don’t be a wuss, pull yourself together!”, “This is nonsense!”, “You never know what you want!”, “Don’t make it up!”, “It’s not enough!” Is there anything you don’t like!”, “I am the last letter of the alphabet”, “There are always problems with you!”

If you silence the problem, do not support the child, and devalue his experiences, then in a month nervous tics and nightmares may begin. Physical manifestations of nervous tension - tic, enuresis - are signs that the parents did not attach due importance to the child’s problems. If neurotic manifestations begin, it means that things have already gone far. Perhaps the parents did not provide the necessary support, or, on the contrary, increased the pressure. In such a situation, I advise the mother herself to contact a psychologist and talk about ways to catch up.

Step 2. Work on self-esteem

Sensitive children can become the object of ridicule or teasing from classmates or teachers . A child who is unsure of himself and his abilities and is not physically strong enough often worries unnecessarily about the statements of other people. Where another would not pay attention to the remark, this child will screw himself up, create a whole problem in his head, and give out a painful reaction. His reaction is fodder for ridicule. By making fun of him, they will raise their own self-esteem and assert themselves in the eyes of other classmates. We need to support the child, try to convey to him that everything is fine with him, that ridicule does not mean that he is somehow “different.”

Phrases to say to children
“You are the most beloved”, “I am on your side”, “Let’s do something together”, “I believe in you”, “You will succeed.”

Step 3. Create a situation of success

You need to create a situation for success for your child. Find a place, a social circle, a company in which he would be convinced that everything is okay with him. The peculiarity of the children's psyche is that children blame themselves for what is happening around them. They think that they are the bad ones and that is why they are treated poorly.

Find a circle where your child will feel comfortable and where he can make friends. If it is not possible to take him to a club, then just go to the playground together and help him make acquaintances: perhaps the child will form a great company in the yard. Find a section where he will be successful, or a business that he likes and will enjoy doing.

Then the child will understand that it is not his fault that he is treated poorly at school.

Step 4. Become the child’s rear

I always teach parents to look at their children as seedlings in a pot . And I explain that their task is to raise the child healthy and psychologically stable to the age when he can be “transplanted into open ground.” But he should know that he is under your careful supervision, and if something goes wrong, then you, as a caring gardener, will provide him with all the necessary support.

The feeling of a reliable rear, the awareness that mother will not scold for failure is very important for the formation of personality . Such a child is not afraid of offenders. If he finds himself in a situation of frustration, then the stress will pass more smoothly for him. He will survive and will continue to live, gaining the necessary life experience.

And if a little person does not feel parental care, if he knows that there is no support from his parents, then he will withdraw into himself. And in this case, he may just become an object of bullying, since he will subconsciously believe that he deserves to be treated poorly.

Step 5: Don't delegate

If you realize that a child has a traumatic situation at school, then you should not run to doctors or drag your child to psychologists and psychiatrists. In this case, it will do more harm than good.

Any trip to a specialist, or experiencing unpleasant incidents at school is retraumatization. The child will feel that something is wrong with him, will become stronger in this opinion, and will decide for himself that since he is being dragged around to doctors, he is definitely something different.

Here, the sincere participation and attention of mom and dad, and sincere interest on the part of an adult in problems at school will help more. Your child’s condition and self-esteem depend on you. Don't delegate this to psychologists - spend quality time together. Hugs before school, watching a movie together with commentary, a family evening of board games, a walk together and a heart-to-heart conversation, homemade creativity, even simple cooking.

If a child pulls your hand, then put away the phone , social networks, cooking dinner, and so on. Your child needs you much more now.

Step 6. Attract helpers

Often, the root cause of bullying is, without realizing it, the teacher himself. Perhaps he made a couple of awkward remarks about the child, which became a reason for ridicule.

You need to ask him to gently correct the situation. For example, if a son or daughter is teased for his glasses, then the teacher should declare publicly: “What cool frames you have, I would also dream of having one like that.” Or ask him to give the child psychological relief: ask him to distribute or collect notebooks, write something on the board, carry out an important assignment in order to increase his importance in his own eyes and the eyes of his classmates.

Adequate parental care and sincere interest in the affairs and life of the child often help solve many problems. If peaceful methods do not help and school life becomes unbearable, change the teacher, class, school.

Is my child doing well and is he not in danger of being bullied?

Let's hope not, and that your child will be neither a victim nor an aggressor. But just in case, remember:

Bullying is a common phenomenon that has always been around.
Bullying grows where it is grown: in a team where too different children are gathered without common goals and interests. Anyone can become a victim, since we are all different from others in some way.
Children do not always tell their parents about bullying, but it is difficult to solve the problem without adult intervention. Bullying needs to be eliminated in the entire class at once, working with teachers and psychologists.
The main thing is to save children's self-esteem so that this does not result in serious psychological problems in adulthood.
If school staff pretend nothing is happening, look for another school.

Share your experience: how were you able to stop bullying at school, what exactly helped? If you have ever been involved in bullying, what motivated you?

How to stop bullying in the family

Manifestations of bullying in the family are one of the most severe types of bullying. In fact, a small child perceives the world around him uncritically and considers the behavior of his parents and other household members to be the standard. Bullying in the family sounds wild and implausible to many, but it happens from time to time. And most often only outsiders can stop this phenomenon - teachers, guardianship officials, caring neighbors and acquaintances.

On the part of government bodies, an effective remedy can be the threat of deprivation of parental rights: unscrupulous parents are most often afraid of this prospect, because it is fraught with the loss of due material payments. The teacher can tell students about bullying, explain why it is bad and what to do if you are bullied in your family.